In March of this year I was hospitalized for pneumonia, and they discovered an extremely rare, inoperable brain tumor in my head. I’ve loved this song since it was released, but now that I know that I only have a few years left it means a lot more to me. I’m only 39 years old. The worst part about a terminal illness is worrying about those you love suffering when you’re gone. I’m not worried about myself. I’m worried about the people I love being okay.
I can't help but feel that this song was written specifically to you. Same name even..weird! I hope you were able to have some good times here before moving on up to the next place. Wherever that may be!
I am battling Cancer again. This time it is stage 4 (terminal). I am 46 and this song makes me cry every time I hear it. I hate the idea of not seeing my 9 year old grow up. I feel so privileged to be his Dad. He is the sweetest and smartest boy. My wife is the best anyone could wish for. She has been by my side for multiple surgeries and held my hand through 17 rounds of chemo and radiation. I hope this suffering isn't for nothing.
My best friend in the whole world introduced me to Death Cab. This was always one of her favorite songs. Fast forward many many years later, I was the one in the ICU watching her die and holding her hand. It was a gift to be able to be with her.
Jason is one of my favorite drummers. I realized that at a strange moment when I saw Jason on a Rush documentary. At once, I realized that Jason was so much more than a drummer for a pop/rock band. He sounds like a drum machine, but no one could program what he plays. He's incredible.
@@SycamoreFarmMI you gotta check out the drumming he did for the band NEO, on an album called 'space country'. Kinda hard to find but it's out there. Also, Jason did a lot (maybe all?) Of the drums for Tegan & Sara's 'the con'. Some amazing work he did there. I think he also did drums for later releases of theirs too.
I’m a Dr. in palliative care and this song actually make my patients happy knowing they aren’t alone when death comes knocking. I’m not family but there for them to hold their hand when they are scared
Thank you for your service and caring, Dr. Smith. The song takes me back twenty years ago today when my father died in hospital. I find the video bears no resemblance to the song, but the song is still very meaningful in its vivid depiction of the experience of watching someone die. Stay safe and well, sir.
Thank you for what you do, sir. I was a paramedic for years. I was guided into the profession because I lived next door to my grandparents. I received a call in the middle of the night that my grandfather was unresponsive. I ran over and performed CPR for an hour waiting for the ambulance. I can still feel the bones of his ribs cracking beneath my futile attempts. I can still taste his vomit in my mouth from my failed attempts at rescue breathing filled his abdomen and bloated him in a morbid way. After receiving a proper education, I can look back and realize that he had suffered a pulmonary embolism and no amount of CPR was going to save him. The telltale "nipple line lividity" is still seared into my memory. The medics were kind enough to continue the CPR even though I now know there was nothing they could do. I only lasted 8 years as a Paramedic. The constant scenes of death were more than my emotions could take and I became dangerously suicidal and depressed. I am glad there are people like you that have the strength to do the work I was not able to do.
i lost my grandpa to covid recently. walking in that hospital was the most dreadful thing i’ve ever endured… and going up only to be able to see him through a glass wall, unconscious, broke my heart. i wanted to hug him and tell him i loved him so badly. over the speaker i told him how much i loved him as his blood pressure dropped. i pray that he heard me.
Souviee, Your Grandpa HEARD you! As now, Your Grandpa is on the other side of the veil. 💓 speak to him ! When you think of him and speak of him he hears you and sees all! Maybe he'll visit you in your dreams( dream visitations) our loved ones come to us in our dreams, As I have experienced this many times! My father passed away in 2001, he came to me in my dream. The dream: I was washing dishes, in his apt. I knew he had died. ( Lucid dream) I was cleaning up his apt and I turned around and saw him. I said in shock " How are you here" he said" I didn't die! I will always will be with you!" I woke up to an incredible feeling of love. A gift from my Dad! Years later it still is etched In my heart and my mind. Look for signs from your Grandma. Birds , coins, words, songs, dreams. I hope this brings you peace and comfort. Sending you hugs, from USA, Illinois.
@@lisabarker558 thank you so much!! he actually did visit me in a dream very recently. we didn’t talk about him dying, but i do remember being confused while he asked me if i wanted a cup of coffee. it was a great dream :)
Never forget the government did that to you and took away the last moment you had with your family. Never forget that because they will do it again.. please god , dont get jabbed either. tho i realize its far to late as 86+% of Canadians are jabbed up now.. :/ thinning the heard was never so obvious yet 86% refused to see it.
This song always hits different for those of us that have literally “been there”. It’s like being in a club we want no part of- but wouldn’t miss for the world
I wish I wasn't a member of this club. Watching my Mom get sicker and sicker, thinner and thinner as the cancer ravaged her body and took her away from us. God I can't believe its been a year.
I still dream that my mom is still around and it's been over a decade. Wishing for everyone to have strength to push on and find things took look forward to in life.
"That I'd already taken too much today". How this verse moves me. I followed the illnesses of my father and mother. It's impossible to listen to this song without getting emotional.
The day I died I slammed my usual and still felt like shit. I called my girl over and she came over. She felt bad because she had tried to sell me an ACTUAL stone pelet from off the ground and she claimed she felt bad. I got a bag of really clean looking stuff. I hit my vein seeing the little spike of blood flow back. I pushed full on. I immediately knew this was bad and everything went black.
I put my 9 year old dog down yesterday. He was the only dog i have ever owed. He was suffering from anemia brought on by cancer. After holding on for 2 days I took him to the vet one last time. She told me he had gotten worse. I held him in my arms as they put him to sleep. He was the best dog.
I'm sorry to read this, and I hope you're been coping. Death Cab really helped me process when I had to put my dog down as well. Specifically Bixby Canyon Bridge and I Will Follow You Into the Dark. This was four years, and I can tell you that it does get better. We don't deserve dogs.
I’ve read this comment before I’ve listened to the song because there’s an add playing. This will be the first time I’ve ever listened to this song but I feel like I’ll probably cry
For those that can't read French: 1:07 - 1:17 -> Il m'aime = He loves me 1:25 - 1:32 -> un peu? = a little? 2:02 - 2:15 -> beaucoup! = very much! 2:24 - 2:29 -> passionément = with passion 5:23 - 5:26 -> a la folie = madly 5:48 - 5:57 -> Il m'aime pas de tout = He loves me not at all 6:56 - 7:06 -> -> Il m'aime = He loves me Nice (but intense) video 👏
I remember the moment that I really listened to this song. It was a few months after my dad died. He was the first person who was really close to me who died. Love is watching someone die. I was present for that exact moment when my dad took no more breaths. Watching someone die. That was love.
Sorry for your loss. I was unable to be there for the loss of a parent, and it still hurts over a decade later. Thankfully the other parent was there at least. Scarily to me, with this song, I get another aspect from the refrain: who is there to watch someone die when they commit suicide? That is the ultimate culmination of loneliness and being unloved, when there isn't even someone to be there to watch you die.
My dad just died last night. Been listening to this song a lot today. Always loved it since I was a kid. Now I'm 33, mourning the loss of my wonderful father, and it means so much more. Tell your family and friends how much you love them. You never know when it'll be the last time. I wish I could have told him goodbye.
I lost my soul mate. His drinking was suicidal and finally took his life last spring. The agony of it all. This song hits home in so many ways. The cold.waiting room. Ventilators, he can hear you you know. Still hurts so much. This song is cathartic now.
Instant tears. I know many of us feel this way about this song- a specific time it healed us or helped us through a tough time. Still so grateful for this album
Always been one of my favorite songs. In April of this year I lost my Fiancé of 3 years to Sickle Cell. Watching this today I am trembling. I have never been able to relate so deeply to a song before. I know every feeling of this.
With my iPod on random, this track played during the car ride to the airport after holding my father's hand while he took his last breath... driving solo down the highway, I can still feel it 14 years later.
" I knew that you were truth I would rather lose than never laid beside it all". That hits home to me. Make all experiences count, there is value in everything we encounter.
That's how it felt for me when I held my ex-fiancee close to me Holding her was like having all the answers I sought for in life. All the comfort I've longed for, all the joy and happiness And, most of all....the feeling of finally coming home Without her, life is like a vacuum. Just a tedious series of actions carried out for no reason at all I miss her so much 😢 And, the worst part is knowing that all the good in my life had now long gone and I'll never get it back regardless of how much I hope
For those who don’t want to translate the French writing: 1:14 He loves me 1:26 A little? 2:13 Lots! 2:25 Passionately 5:24 To insanity 5:57 Not at all
my mother got a cancer diagnosis late last year and we are now reaching her last moments, i still can't believe she'll be gone by the end of the month. never has a song captured what it feels like to lose someone like this one. watching her deteriorate with my own eyes has been one of the most traumatic events of my life, but also it feels like the only thing i can do to soothe not only her but myself, watching her go reminds me of all the times she was there for me even when i was at my lowest. i hope she can finally rest and be at peace
One the most beautiful & poignant songs ever made. So true. If you're about to lose a loved one, someone precious that you'll think you'll die without them? You will. A piece of my heart died yesterday 💔 bye mum, see you on the other side,
Took me a bit to realize the connection between the song and the video, but after the second watch, it felt like replaying the last moments of guilt toward someone before they died. I listened to this album a lot in the mid aughts, and this song held special meaning for me having experienced the death of so many relatives. This video reminds me of the first couple years after my dad committed suicide, with flashbacks of the last moments I had with him, seeing all the inflection points where things could have turned out differently, or thinking about missed milestones. His birthday was yesterday and he died 13 years ago a few days before.
And it came to me then that every plan Is a tiny prayer to father time As I stared at my shoes in the ICU That reeked of piss and 409 And I rationed my breaths as I said to myself That I'd already taken too much today As each descending peak on the LCD Took you a little farther away from me Away from me Amongst the vending machines and year-old magazines In a place where we only say goodbye It stung like a violent wind that our memories depend On a faulty camera in our minds And I knew that you were truth I would rather lose Than to have never lain beside at all And I looked around at all the eyes on the ground As the TV entertained itself Cause there's no comfort in the waiting room Just nervous paces bracing for bad news And then the nurse comes round and everyone lifts their head But I'm thinking of what Sarah said That love is watching someone die So who's gonna watch you die? So who's gonna watch you die? So who's gonna watch you die?
@@ndg43 I don't think so. The song, for me, is about how our ideas of love get derailed by romanticism and consumerism and in fact caring for someone enough to put yourself in discomfort for them is enough. That's love. That's what we all need: so eine to be there for us when were vulnerable. And the video, again maybe just for me, is about how love is an action, a verb, and if you've once declared your love to someone but you don't act it, you don't do the verb of loving them, you're putting them through the pain of you withdrawing your love. For me it's a reminder to be loving to your loved ones. Every day. And then they will love you back, and when you die they will be there, watching over you and showing you that you are loved.
i know this song since i was a teenager, but last year i remebered it while my grandma was hospitalized for months until she died. "love is watching someone die"...it was so hard sometimes i couldn't be there beside her cause i did nothing but cry all the time. the last time i saw her, i told her i love her and she held my hand strong cause she couldnt speak anymore. its been a year now. this song still makes me think of her, but it also comforts me. may we all find peace in our humanity, our art.
My father died of cancer last year... I remember every chemio and radio session, I was there to cheer him up and help him on all his exams... Love is watching someone die, I can't erase that line from my head, since I was with him during his last night on Earth, I kissed him goodbye and went to rest while my mom replace my watch... He died a few hours later... And I miss him so much 😞
My father in law died a few months ago. This played over and over in my head as my mother in law, my wife and our 2 kids, sister in law, husband and their 4 kids, other sister in law, husband and their 4 kids, bother in law, wife and their 3 kids all prayed and say gospel songs as he died. Having half that many people with me when i die would be amazing.
In January 2013, we told my parents we were expecting our first child. We had only found out that morning but I couldn't not tell my mom. 2 days later, she was admitted to the hospital and put in the ICU. I spent the next 2 weeks either working or at the hospital. The last meaningful conversation I got to have with her was telling her she was going to be a grandmother for the third time (my first). This song will never not bring me back to those days. My daughter turns 10 in September and not a day goes by that I wish my mom could have seen her grow up. Love you mom....
This song played on repeat in my mind as I held my young cousins hand in moffitt’s icu for 10 days. Hardest thing I’ve ever done wasn’t holding her hand while everyone else waited outside. It was watching her slowly slip away when they disconnected her. Waiting for and watching her take her last breath felt like taking knife to the heart. Longest 45 minutes of my life.
Vik's Death - while Helen goes to RoofTop on The Affair brought me here. So Sad. I took my Mom a full week to die ---have never held someone's hand for hours and hours for an entire week. I realized no matter what happens in Life -one of the greatest things you can do is be there with someone at the end... just be there, hold them, talk to them, fix their hair, make sure they are comfortable. They know you are there.
So sorry y’all… I had to watch my best friend of 30 years die of Covid through a window in the ICU. He died December 30th 2021. Worst 10 days ever. This song hits the ❤
When I was younger the idea of Love is Watching Someone Die made me think about growing old with someone and watching them progress with life and age. After losing my Mom last year and watching her take her last breath with my siblings around me I know exactly what Love is Watching Someone Die means. There is no other place I would have wanted to be than beside my Mom while she left this existence.
my best friends dad died a few years back and he held his hand thru his last hours at home (cancer). I realized he had to have loved his dad so much in that moment to watch him lose his life as his was just beginning at 18 years old. He was traumatized
TRIGGER WARNING for graphic self harm! From about 3:53 to 5:29. Please be kind to yourself and skip this section if you think you might be triggered by this ❤️
Thank you! I was about to post the same comment. I was surprised by this (to say the least) and wished there was a trigger warning for the premiere stream. This was one of the few I haven't seen yet. Emotional cinematography is one thing... triggering graphic images of self-harm is another.
Pffffft, trigger warning? The real world is hard, deal with it. Yeesh, such snowflakes. I was in my late 20s when this song came out and NO ONE needed a trigger warning for this or anything else. What has become of our society?
This song reminds me of the time I was battling with severe depression rooted from self-hatred. Depression is part of me and now I kinda know how to control and got quicker to get out of the pit that no one ever know how deep it is. Thank you for awesome song!
As a native American I wish more people understood death and that its not really the end . This life is a school and hopefully you all pass your lessons. We get to see each other again :) there's no word for goodbye in our language only "see you later"
That's how I see it. I think we are here to learn how to love. When I see someone who is spiteful and angry, I need to remember that instead of scolding them like a child. They haven't learned it yet.
My Grandpa Sam never said Goodbye. He always said when you say goodbye, it implies you won't see each other again. I never got to see him before he passed, and looking back it almost seems like he planned it that way. I never got to say goodbye, because there's no such thing.
I listened to this song too many times at different hospitals, while my mom was there. It made me feel like someone knew exactly how I felt way too often there. My ma has been gone since 2017, she’s not suffering anymore. This song now doesn’t console me, but reminds me of the loss. It’s both comforting and painful, like a rose with its thorns. It just depends on where you hold it.
I sort of see what the director was getting at. The whole video is meant to make you feel uncomfortable. Sat on the edge of the bed, dropping Paint on the bed, lit cigarette being ran through hair between his fingers, self harm. It portrays what the song is about- waiting nervously in a hospital waiting room, of the metaphor thereof. however there’s something soothing about the video. Idk maybe that’s just me being a depressed fuck.
My fur baby was hit by a car this weekend and she passed away in my lap while I was trying to get her to the hospital, I kept screaming for her to please hang on until we got there and she couldn’t make it. This song is really helping me to get through this heartache.
In 2022, I was dying from a failing gallbladder and I was also in an abusive relationship. I listened to this song a lot during that time and this song also got me through hard times
My mom passed back in april. These lyrics hit so different now. I listened to death cab for cutie when I was 14 but I just liked the music , never paid attention to the lyrics until just recently, I'm 29 now.
Remember that words and actions are more powerful than any weapons. They can cause chaos, fear, panic, and they can kill. So as you travel the pathway called life that Once a word is spoken, it can never be unspoken. Once you've done something, that action can never be undone. So think before you speak, think of the consequences before you act. And as you walk down the pathway of life strive to make the world a better place to live Sometimes one person can change the world with a few kind words, or an act of kindness done for no reason. Life is dark and frightening for some people, and sometimes all that's necessary to light their way is a few kind words, or an act of compassion.
My Dad was amazing. Had ME at 56! Thats UNRULY! Thats taking a gamble. BUT he didn't find, in his life of hard work during and after the 2nd world war, someone to settle with. So along I came, in the 1980s. I remember praying, though I never believed in God etc, that I want my OLD Dad to live to a good age so I dont get abandoned. I promised years off my life, my best behaviour etc. And he lived to 96, so those prayers were answered. Hearing this song, broke me entirely. Dealt with my Dad passing. Got kids of my own. But what a piece of music. If you know, you know. Kudos to Deathcab.
Back in 2000 I lost my grandfather who was like a father to me. I was in college and married. After he died, part of me died. I fought to keep my marriage together. But, even my marriage failed in the end. I was blessed with an amazing daughter. But, she and my son-in-law live 1500 miles away. I haven’t seen them in three years. I live with family and struggle with feeling suicidal at times. Yet, my daughter keeps me going.
Truer words, a more heartfelt song, never spoken and a picture painted. This is also my story. I was with my mom in hospital for many days leading up to her death and when she actually died. It's many years ago, but as it is with love and grief, it can be like yesterday in an instant. I've lost others but nothing compares to losing one's mother. I bawl right now thinking of her great love and heart, and thank her so much for all that she gave me and our entire family. Every day and to this day, I live with the presence of her great heart, and aim to live a life she'd be proud of, be and do good, and do and see things she'd love. In that way she lives on and without going into detail, I know for certain she still watches over me. God bless, everyone.
my mom’s sister is in the ICU, she is like a mother to me. she has stomach cancer and developed pneumonia. this is the hardest thing i’ve ever had to go through and this comment really meant a lot. somehow the love feels stronger than ever before, but it also hurts immensely. what you said is exactly what my family has been telling me to keep her spirit alive. i can feel her in everything. she is love.
I lost my mom awhile ago. She fell into"the nothing" I rubbed her hand & made sure she heard me whisper I was there....she moaned & cried out...so l slept in a chair beside her.. rubbing her tiny hands... looking up to me to help... after 5 days she went....my mama was gone like my older brother now. She left me long ago....I asked God to keep them together & I'll try to live with out them😞 good bye
My last brain surgery in 2016 was two parts. I had several other brain surgeries over the last 23 1/2 years. I hope you are ok. Also, three kids, starting the day before the first surgery, when surprise brain tumor started hemorrhaging, had emergency c-section. Started having seizures when pregnant with third in '05. Hope all goes well for you guys.
@Beater Bike Channel MFGA I hope you are doing well. I had a seizure that wouldn't stop after first brain surgery in the ICU in '98, the nurse came quickly and gave me a shot then no more, took meds for 6 months. Then when I was pregnant with third child I started having big scary (grand mal) seizures and taking meds again. Still taking meds, now two kinds at higher doses and no seizures for about 3 years. Many seizures over the years, but only 2 intractable, the first, and one that went on for HOURS. It was so horrible. Even after I got to the hospital in an ambulance, the guy just drove regular said I wasn't having a seizure!!! How many seizures has he had? So then I laid there in the er having a seizure for more hours, finally someone came and looked at me like in a corner behind a sheet and finally gave me a couple shots to end the seizing. I could not beleive it took from 6am till almost noon to get my seizure stopped. I found out later I could have died from that. Unbeiievable. The guy was telling me I wasn't having one, meanwhile, I am. IDIOT. I hope you have your epilepsy controlled, or at least better, and I hope you are ok.
Best...Music...Video...Ever! I discovered the band when they released "Plans" and were playing in my city, Malmö (Sweden), but it was sold out. I hope to see them in the near future around these parts.
I was waiting for this video for years, I loved it from the first moment I saw it in 2012 then it was removed from RUclips, and I am happy that they have uploaded it again and now on their official channel because I love this song and the video, I just love the allbum Plans.
I lost my dad a month ago, this song hits so different now but helps me feel things. It was a complicated relationship but I allow myself to grieve how I need to when this comes on.
My most beloved Aunt is dying from Bulbar onset ALS. I can’t get this song out of my head! I was just speaking to her tonight and she wishes she would have died abruptly instead of knowing and feeling and living through what’s coming. The carrying on is more for those who will be left behind. 😢
Although I´ve been a fan of this band for a long time, I never paid attention to the lyrics of this song. The one afternoon last year I listened to it very closely and appreciated the genius of Ben. Next morning I received a call from my mother saying that my grandfather passed away. He died alone in isolation. Ever since, everytime I hear this song I think of my grandpa and how much I miss him and that nobody watched him die. He lied there in his bed alone.
Hey friend. My mom recently passed. She died on Black Friday of 2021. I'm still processing it, to be honest. She was diagnosed with aggressive stomach cancer in late September 2021. She was able to muster up the strength for the last weekend in October to see my oldest son's wedding, and watch my two youngest sons celebrate Halloween. She was as animated as she'd always been but couldn't climb the stairs for the guest bed, so she slept on the couch. She took a lot more naps than usual. She went back to her apartment for the next month. I called her a lot in her last days. She sounded so winded but said things like, "oh I didn't do much today, just made some food and watched some tv" By the end of November, she asked my little sister (a traveling nurse) if she could stay at her house for a couple weeks, to meet up with the medical specialists. My sister called the morning of Black Friday. "You might wanna head out here, mom looks pretty bad, it might just be another couple weeks," as she drove to her latest contract gig. She called an hour later, sobbing. My brother in law went in to check on her and she had passed away, alone. My sister was a wreck. She was sobbing into the phone, kicking herself for not being there for her. She said, "I told her I didn't need to take this assignment, I told her I could sit with her but she told me to go!" I'm sitting there trying to wrap my head around the fact that my mom was dead while simultaneously terrified that my sister was going to crash her car rushing home. I struggled to find the right words but every time I opened my mouth, nothing came out but weird sighs. And that's when I heard calm and clarity from my sister. "That bitch!", she said. "She KNEW she was going to die, and she sent me out of the house so I couldn't see it!" I laughed, I sobbed, the sound I made could only be described as a blubber. Of course mom did that. Of course mom did precisely that. In the coming weeks, as we began cleaning up and clearing out moms apartment, we saw everything organized perfectly. When we walked into her room, her birth certificate, life insurance paperwork and will were neatly laid out in the middle of her bed. My old photos stacked perfectly in one part of the closet. My sister's in another. Blankets she'd made were separated from blankets she'd bought. She'd been lying to me. When she said, "oh I didn't do much today," she'd been organizing her life, so it was easier for us to clean it up and put it away. I don't know you, and I don't know your grandpa. But if he was anything like my mom, maybe he knew he had no control over his mortality, he had no control over his pain and his fatigue, but the one thing he did have control over was when and where he passed. Maybe he chose to wait until he was alone, so no one could be burdened with watching him take his last breath, and living with that memory. You're a good kid, to keep him in your heart like this. I'm sure he died loving you very much, and I'm sure that was enough for him. Be well.
@@eplamoureux Your story is touching and the way you wrote even more. I´m literally with tears in my eyes. Thanks for sharing this and I´m sorry for your loss
My dad was always there for us when we get hospitalized. Brought us to the best hospital always. He was the one taking care us even when he got old and already suffered stroke. Last July 2021 my mom had a heart attack, had a quintuple bypass surgery and my Dad visited her to the ICU everyday even when he's already on a wheelchair. Come May 2021, my Dad had covid, none of us were able to visit him, even videocall wasn't allowed. 4 days later, he died. Alone. We weren't able to say good bye or I love you at least. Next time we saw him, he was already in ashes. This song really hits me very hard. I remember my Dad suffering alone. We weren't there when he needed us the most. He was always there for us, and knowing that he died alone makes me die inside. Because love is watching someone die.
This makes me angry, I absolutely hate that that happened to you. I work in healthcare, you are not alone in your testimony. I'm holding my tears back now praying God will forgive us for keeping family away from their loved ones in their last moments.... I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
It's been most of a year since I spent a month caring for my elderly mother as she was on her deathbed. This song made me cry even before that, and now it's even worse, but for different reasons. "I am" was the answer to the question "who's going to watch...?"
This song hits differently for a nurse who has seen too much, the good and bad, the success and the suffering. My heart aches and rejoices listening to this song. Who’s gonna watch you die?!? Hopefully someone who loves you, honestly I hope there is just someone there…
I don’t have a terminal illness-to those who do I’m sorry, and I hope you’re happy during the time you have left-, but this song still moves me. I have suffered through depression since the age of 7, but didn’t hear this song until I was 11 or 12. When I first heard that line: “Love is watching someone die” I immediately connected to the song, because it practically ripped my heart out of my chest when he spoke the next line: “So who’s gonna watch you die?” I’m writing songs in the hopes of one day having a band, and I want to include a reference to this song for the people who have heard it, and like me, fell in love with it. My favorite Death Cab song is Lightness, but this is a very close second. If I wanted to sit down and cry to a song, I’d choose this one.
I've been that patient in the ICU. I was born with a chronic disease that has landed me in the hospital for months at a time for as long as I can remember.
My best friend's soul dog is currently on what amounts to doggy hospice. She's fifteen and change but how could there ever be enough time? I hate this but I wouldn't be anywhere else in the world. I wasn't allowed to have pets so I've never been through anything like this. This song has been popping into my head the last few days as she rapidly declines. She's lying near me, her breathing a little strained but steady. I wish I could take all of her pain and all of his grief. I wish I could make everything stop around us while we go through this. It seems so stupid that you still have to work and eat and brush your teeth and go to the bathroom and get the mail while someone you love is dying. Over fifteen years of companionship and we just have to go through the motions. I've been so lucky to have moved in with them these past two and a half years. Knowing her and watching her and seeing how they love each other has been a gift I will be grateful for until my own last breath. Being able to be here for him so he's not alone is something I wouldn't trade for any amount of personal comfort. Jack is a dog but she's also so much more than that. I never knew a dog could be so smart and funny and sassy. She bullies me relentlessly and I'm going to miss her so much.
I see so many comments like this. It's a damn shame that RUclips took down a beautiful, tragic, lovely and gut wrenching video like this. I can't get over the power that this song has.
@@rosebud4467 yeah man, totally agree... It's my favorite song of them... And for years it had just one video with good quality in audio/video and it was a little bit hard to find... I don't understand why the band or RUclips deleted it on these past times... Anyway, now we have it back on the official channel of DCFC. ♥
@@markwojama haha I'm a girl, man. 😉 But seriously, censorship is getting way out of hand. I genuinely believe we need more raw videos like this for people to gain empathy. It seems like all the mainstream music today is meaningless garbage. I miss the time when musicians actually cared about lyrics.
@@rosebud4467 oh, I'm sorry, girl! haha ;p And yes, and even the mainstream continues to post video/songs that are completely heavy/wrong/nonsense and they haven't their works censored... Indeed it's clear that there are many of this things happening to many who doesn't deserve it, and not happening with a bunch of those who "deserves it", deserves in certain ways I mean, I think it have to be free, but with goodsense about facts and life depending by each one having this goodsense/sensibility, in case of that videoclip of Death Cab for Cutie, it's too far away about deserving be censored. The mainstream create a lots of heavier stuffs, much more... And for sure, we miss it, girl! :/
It's so weird to realize that one of your favorite songs from way back had someone in the video that is now one of your favorite actors and you had /no/ idea who he was.
@@rachelporter-chastain6067 James Ransone. Eddie from It Chapter 2, Ziggy from The Wire, Deputy So-and-so from Sinister (He's in a lot of horror movies. Like, a lot a lot.)
back in 2009, 2nd year college we are at a classmate's house doing thesis, I played this and asked my friend to let her sister play this in her piano. We were so simple back then. Alcohol, cigarretes and marijuana.
In March of this year I was hospitalized for pneumonia, and they discovered an extremely rare, inoperable brain tumor in my head. I’ve loved this song since it was released, but now that I know that I only have a few years left it means a lot more to me. I’m only 39 years old. The worst part about a terminal illness is worrying about those you love suffering when you’re gone. I’m not worried about myself. I’m worried about the people I love being okay.
Well fuck, lad. We love you.
@@josephwood4362 Seems to be a dudette, but awesome work on Pretend-Caring, that also gets tons of thumbs up ;)
You are an inspiration for writing these words...I pray for a full recovery 🙏. Somehow someway always keep that in mind..,❤️😎
Oh fuck sweetie! I'm so sorry. ❤
Nothing I can say is enough.
I can't help but feel that this song was written specifically to you. Same name even..weird! I hope you were able to have some good times here before moving on up to the next place. Wherever that may be!
I am battling Cancer again. This time it is stage 4 (terminal). I am 46 and this song makes me cry every time I hear it. I hate the idea of not seeing my 9 year old grow up. I feel so privileged to be his Dad. He is the sweetest and smartest boy. My wife is the best anyone could wish for. She has been by my side for multiple surgeries and held my hand through 17 rounds of chemo and radiation. I hope this suffering isn't for nothing.
I don't know how to ask this diplomatically, so I'll be blunt. Are you still alive?
Man, I love you. Hope you're still here.
I’m thinking of you
🙏🙏🙏
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
My best friend in the whole world introduced me to Death Cab. This was always one of her favorite songs. Fast forward many many years later, I was the one in the ICU watching her die and holding her hand. It was a gift to be able to be with her.
The drummer of deathcab is very underrated. He adds a unique take on every song
Jason is one of my favorite drummers. I realized that at a strange moment when I saw Jason on a Rush documentary. At once, I realized that Jason was so much more than a drummer for a pop/rock band. He sounds like a drum machine, but no one could program what he plays. He's incredible.
@@SycamoreFarmMI Which doc?
He does some polyrhythmic stuff on the hi hat in this song, very cool and tasteful.
@@SycamoreFarmMI you gotta check out the drumming he did for the band NEO, on an album called 'space country'. Kinda hard to find but it's out there. Also, Jason did a lot (maybe all?) Of the drums for Tegan & Sara's 'the con'. Some amazing work he did there. I think he also did drums for later releases of theirs too.
Did you know that the drum beat in this song is a heartbeat?
I’m a Dr. in palliative care and this song actually make my patients happy knowing they aren’t alone when death comes knocking. I’m not family but there for them to hold their hand when they are scared
Thank you for your service and caring, Dr. Smith. The song takes me back twenty years ago today when my father died in hospital. I find the video bears no resemblance to the song, but the song is still very meaningful in its vivid depiction of the experience of watching someone die. Stay safe and well, sir.
This would break my heart in a good way. I can't feel many things anymore but the thought of someone showing me this makes me feel loved.
That's beautiful
Thank you for what you do, sir. I was a paramedic for years. I was guided into the profession because I lived next door to my grandparents. I received a call in the middle of the night that my grandfather was unresponsive. I ran over and performed CPR for an hour waiting for the ambulance. I can still feel the bones of his ribs cracking beneath my futile attempts. I can still taste his vomit in my mouth from my failed attempts at rescue breathing filled his abdomen and bloated him in a morbid way.
After receiving a proper education, I can look back and realize that he had suffered a pulmonary embolism and no amount of CPR was going to save him. The telltale "nipple line lividity" is still seared into my memory. The medics were kind enough to continue the CPR even though I now know there was nothing they could do.
I only lasted 8 years as a Paramedic. The constant scenes of death were more than my emotions could take and I became dangerously suicidal and depressed. I am glad there are people like you that have the strength to do the work I was not able to do.
Thank you.
i lost my grandpa to covid recently. walking in that hospital was the most dreadful thing i’ve ever endured… and going up only to be able to see him through a glass wall, unconscious, broke my heart. i wanted to hug him and tell him i loved him so badly. over the speaker i told him how much i loved him as his blood pressure dropped. i pray that he heard me.
Souviee, Your Grandpa HEARD you! As now, Your Grandpa is on the other side of the veil. 💓 speak to him ! When you think of him and speak of him he hears you and sees all! Maybe he'll visit you in your dreams( dream visitations) our loved ones come to us in our dreams, As I have experienced this many times! My father passed away in 2001, he came to me in my dream. The dream: I was washing dishes, in his apt. I knew he had died. ( Lucid dream) I was cleaning up his apt and I turned around and saw him. I said in shock " How are you here" he said" I didn't die! I will always will be with you!" I woke up to an incredible feeling of love. A gift from my Dad! Years later it still is etched In my heart and my mind. Look for signs from your Grandma. Birds , coins, words, songs, dreams. I hope this brings you peace and comfort. Sending you hugs, from USA, Illinois.
@@lisabarker558 thank you so much!! he actually did visit me in a dream very recently. we didn’t talk about him dying, but i do remember being confused while he asked me if i wanted a cup of coffee. it was a great dream :)
@@midsouviee Awww! How Wonderful! That feeling stays with you! 🥰
hope RIP grandpa
Never forget the government did that to you and took away the last moment you had with your family. Never forget that because they will do it again.. please god , dont get jabbed either. tho i realize its far to late as 86+% of Canadians are jabbed up now.. :/ thinning the heard was never so obvious yet 86% refused to see it.
This song always hits different for those of us that have literally “been there”. It’s like being in a club we want no part of- but wouldn’t miss for the world
Wholeheartedly agree. And your name is Sara. 🖤
Yeah this song made me think of my grandma who passed away in the ICU in 2019
well said. like perfectly said.
I wish I wasn't a member of this club. Watching my Mom get sicker and sicker, thinner and thinner as the cancer ravaged her body and took her away from us. God I can't believe its been a year.
I still dream that my mom is still around and it's been over a decade. Wishing for everyone to have strength to push on and find things took look forward to in life.
"That I'd already taken too much today". How this verse moves me. I followed the illnesses of my father and mother. It's impossible to listen to this song without getting emotional.
Indeed. This is so haunting
The day I died I slammed my usual and still felt like shit. I called my girl over and she came over. She felt bad because she had tried to sell me an ACTUAL stone pelet from off the ground and she claimed she felt bad. I got a bag of really clean looking stuff. I hit my vein seeing the little spike of blood flow back. I pushed full on. I immediately knew this was bad and everything went black.
I put my 9 year old dog down yesterday. He was the only dog i have ever owed. He was suffering from anemia brought on by cancer. After holding on for 2 days I took him to the vet one last time. She told me he had gotten worse. I held him in my arms as they put him to sleep. He was the best dog.
I'm so very sorry about your dog..✌❣
I'm sorry to read this, and I hope you're been coping. Death Cab really helped me process when I had to put my dog down as well. Specifically Bixby Canyon Bridge and I Will Follow You Into the Dark. This was four years, and I can tell you that it does get better. We don't deserve dogs.
So sorry you had to put your dog down. They become part of us like family ❤
And suddenly I'm 17 again. This on repeat while I'm going through my first heartbreak. Bittersweet nostalgia.
I’ve read this comment before I’ve listened to the song because there’s an add playing. This will be the first time I’ve ever listened to this song but I feel like I’ll probably cry
I hear you there. This album was definitely the sound track to my high school experience.
Lol
I feel nostalgia for this but having lost my Fiancé in april this hits extremely hard and painful. This is music at it's best
Heartbreak is nothing. Nothing. Compared to death. Trust me. You move on from a heartbreak. You never move on from losing someone you truly loved.
For those that can't read French:
1:07 - 1:17 -> Il m'aime = He loves me
1:25 - 1:32 -> un peu? = a little?
2:02 - 2:15 -> beaucoup! = very much!
2:24 - 2:29 -> passionément = with passion
5:23 - 5:26 -> a la folie = madly
5:48 - 5:57 -> Il m'aime pas de tout = He loves me not at all
6:56 - 7:06 -> -> Il m'aime = He loves me
Nice (but intense) video 👏
Thanks👍👍
You are my hero.
Thanks for this
Thanks a lot
Why write it in French in the first place?
as an ICU nurse , this hit differently. lyrical genuis
Thx u for your service and sacrifice
Absolutely. Ben Gibbard has never had the strongest voice in the world, but omg can that man write some lyrics.
Spot on. I never walked through work at the hospital without thinking about it when I got to the ICU
@@bradmerilic6848 It looks like Nick Harmer is also credited with (co-)writing the lyrics.
I couldn’t agree more. The things we carry, it’s hard to put into words.
I remember the moment that I really listened to this song. It was a few months after my dad died. He was the first person who was really close to me who died. Love is watching someone die. I was present for that exact moment when my dad took no more breaths. Watching someone die. That was love.
I feel you. I watched my moms last breath. Heartbreaking. This song has all the feels. 🖤♥️🙌♥️
This happened to me this past June, when I lost my mother. This song hits way hard now.
Sorry for your loss. I was unable to be there for the loss of a parent, and it still hurts over a decade later. Thankfully the other parent was there at least. Scarily to me, with this song, I get another aspect from the refrain: who is there to watch someone die when they commit suicide? That is the ultimate culmination of loneliness and being unloved, when there isn't even someone to be there to watch you die.
My dad just died last night. Been listening to this song a lot today. Always loved it since I was a kid. Now I'm 33, mourning the loss of my wonderful father, and it means so much more. Tell your family and friends how much you love them. You never know when it'll be the last time. I wish I could have told him goodbye.
❤
I lost my soul mate. His drinking was suicidal and finally took his life last spring. The agony of it all. This song hits home in so many ways. The cold.waiting room. Ventilators, he can hear you you know. Still hurts so much. This song is cathartic now.
Sorry for you joining the dead dad club. I’ve been in it since 2020, I’m also 33. Sending hugs.
@@haskikel09the lamest club ever
Instant tears. I know many of us feel this way about this song- a specific time it healed us or helped us through a tough time. Still so grateful for this album
I agree 💯, this album is one of the best
This song makes me wanna cry every time. The way Ben narrates in the lyrics is absolutely magical.
Always been one of my favorite songs. In April of this year I lost my Fiancé of 3 years to Sickle Cell. Watching this today I am trembling. I have never been able to relate so deeply to a song before. I know every feeling of this.
i am so sorry for your loss
Hang in there man! 🙏
God bless you.
My condolences. And I hope u are healing.
Keep your head up
We all must gather again at the clearing at the end of the path
With my iPod on random, this track played during the car ride to the airport after holding my father's hand while he took his last breath... driving solo down the highway, I can still feel it 14 years later.
This song has become a shared experience, I think. There's comfort that we are not alone in our grief.
" I knew that you were truth I would rather lose than never laid beside it all". That hits home to me. Make all experiences count, there is value in everything we encounter.
That's how it felt for me when I held my ex-fiancee close to me
Holding her was like having all the answers I sought for in life. All the comfort I've longed for, all the joy and happiness
And, most of all....the feeling of finally coming home
Without her, life is like a vacuum. Just a tedious series of actions carried out for no reason at all
I miss her so much 😢
And, the worst part is knowing that all the good in my life had now long gone and I'll never get it back regardless of how much I hope
@@SamuelBlack84My heart goes out to you. I hope that eventually you can experience some comfort and peace in knowing her.
For those who don’t want to translate the French writing:
1:14 He loves me
1:26 A little?
2:13 Lots!
2:25 Passionately
5:24 To insanity
5:57 Not at all
Help this get near the top, so those who don’t know French can see it.
This is one of the best song that ever made in this universe.
Fo reel bruh... I feel ya
That's why aliens visit Earth, they come to listen and feel.
R.I.P. to everyone who past away these past few years! You are forever loved and will be missed forever! I’ll be seeing you! 🙏
my mother got a cancer diagnosis late last year and we are now reaching her last moments, i still can't believe she'll be gone by the end of the month. never has a song captured what it feels like to lose someone like this one. watching her deteriorate with my own eyes has been one of the most traumatic events of my life, but also it feels like the only thing i can do to soothe not only her but myself, watching her go reminds me of all the times she was there for me even when i was at my lowest. i hope she can finally rest and be at peace
One the most beautiful & poignant songs ever made. So true. If you're about to lose a loved one, someone precious that you'll think you'll die without them? You will. A piece of my heart died yesterday 💔 bye mum, see you on the other side,
My condolences
Took me a bit to realize the connection between the song and the video, but after the second watch, it felt like replaying the last moments of guilt toward someone before they died. I listened to this album a lot in the mid aughts, and this song held special meaning for me having experienced the death of so many relatives. This video reminds me of the first couple years after my dad committed suicide, with flashbacks of the last moments I had with him, seeing all the inflection points where things could have turned out differently, or thinking about missed milestones. His birthday was yesterday and he died 13 years ago a few days before.
I'm sorry. I've experienced something similar. It's hard, but this song helped.
And it came to me then that every plan
Is a tiny prayer to father time
As I stared at my shoes in the ICU
That reeked of piss and 409
And I rationed my breaths as I said to myself
That I'd already taken too much today
As each descending peak on the LCD
Took you a little farther away from me
Away from me
Amongst the vending machines and year-old magazines
In a place where we only say goodbye
It stung like a violent wind that our memories depend
On a faulty camera in our minds
And I knew that you were truth I would rather lose
Than to have never lain beside at all
And I looked around at all the eyes on the ground
As the TV entertained itself
Cause there's no comfort in the waiting room
Just nervous paces bracing for bad news
And then the nurse comes round and everyone lifts their head
But I'm thinking of what Sarah said
That love is watching someone die
So who's gonna watch you die?
So who's gonna watch you die?
So who's gonna watch you die?
What an incredibly depressing song/video.
@@ndg43 I don't think so. The song, for me, is about how our ideas of love get derailed by romanticism and consumerism and in fact caring for someone enough to put yourself in discomfort for them is enough. That's love. That's what we all need: so eine to be there for us when were vulnerable. And the video, again maybe just for me, is about how love is an action, a verb, and if you've once declared your love to someone but you don't act it, you don't do the verb of loving them, you're putting them through the pain of you withdrawing your love. For me it's a reminder to be loving to your loved ones. Every day. And then they will love you back, and when you die they will be there, watching over you and showing you that you are loved.
A bit intense for a regular thursday afternoon, but still love it!
I mean have you really listened to the lyrics?
Watching on Thursday afternoon to!
@@erickakahl2150 me too-
i know this song since i was a teenager, but last year i remebered it while my grandma was hospitalized for months until she died. "love is watching someone die"...it was so hard sometimes i couldn't be there beside her cause i did nothing but cry all the time. the last time i saw her, i told her i love her and she held my hand strong cause she couldnt speak anymore. its been a year now. this song still makes me think of her, but it also comforts me. may we all find peace in our humanity, our art.
My father died of cancer last year... I remember every chemio and radio session, I was there to cheer him up and help him on all his exams... Love is watching someone die, I can't erase that line from my head, since I was with him during his last night on Earth, I kissed him goodbye and went to rest while my mom replace my watch... He died a few hours later... And I miss him so much 😞
My father in law died a few months ago. This played over and over in my head as my mother in law, my wife and our 2 kids, sister in law, husband and their 4 kids, other sister in law, husband and their 4 kids, bother in law, wife and their 3 kids all prayed and say gospel songs as he died. Having half that many people with me when i die would be amazing.
In January 2013, we told my parents we were expecting our first child. We had only found out that morning but I couldn't not tell my mom. 2 days later, she was admitted to the hospital and put in the ICU. I spent the next 2 weeks either working or at the hospital. The last meaningful conversation I got to have with her was telling her she was going to be a grandmother for the third time (my first). This song will never not bring me back to those days. My daughter turns 10 in September and not a day goes by that I wish my mom could have seen her grow up. Love you mom....
This song played on repeat in my mind as I held my young cousins hand in moffitt’s icu for 10 days. Hardest thing I’ve ever done wasn’t holding her hand while everyone else waited outside. It was watching her slowly slip away when they disconnected her. Waiting for and watching her take her last breath felt like taking knife to the heart. Longest 45 minutes of my life.
Upon its release, this song made other emo songs look petty and weak. This was actually about someone you love literally in their last moments, dying.
Vik's Death - while Helen goes to RoofTop on The Affair brought me here. So Sad. I took my Mom a full week to die ---have never held someone's hand for hours and hours for an entire week. I realized no matter what happens in Life -one of the greatest things you can do is be there with someone at the end... just be there, hold them, talk to them, fix their hair, make sure they are comfortable. They know you are there.
I needed this song in 2008 when my Dad died. I've been waiting a long time for this song to find me.
I played this over and over while my best friend was in icu for 10 days. He didn't make it. This song is perfect still!
My best friend is in the ICU now. I'm with you.
It's been three weeks now
@@earlderl6503 hate to hear that. Keep your head up!
My condolences
So sorry y’all… I had to watch my best friend of 30 years die of Covid through a window in the ICU. He died December 30th 2021. Worst 10 days ever. This song hits the ❤
I needed exactly this to help me through what have been an exhausting ordeal of a year.
yea same this year
Believe me, I am right there with you.
You aren't alone.
@@rosebud4467
Love u
💔😪 yes life can be so unbelievably sad & painful. This song is helping me do the same. Love is the answer. Be kind to yourself too, you deserve it.
When I was younger the idea of Love is Watching Someone Die made me think about growing old with someone and watching them progress with life and age.
After losing my Mom last year and watching her take her last breath with my siblings around me I know exactly what Love is Watching Someone Die means. There is no other place I would have wanted to be than beside my Mom while she left this existence.
I lost my mother 1 year ago yesterday. And my Fiancé In april. Love is truly watching someone die. This sinks deep into me now.
I watched my mom take her last breath on September 1st. I get it now too. But I also have to live with that image every single day.
my best friends dad died a few years back and he held his hand thru his last hours at home (cancer). I realized he had to have loved his dad so much in that moment to watch him lose his life as his was just beginning at 18 years old. He was traumatized
We are existence. That cannot change ❤
TRIGGER WARNING for graphic self harm! From about 3:53 to 5:29.
Please be kind to yourself and skip this section if you think you might be triggered by this ❤️
Thank you! I was about to post the same comment. I was surprised by this (to say the least) and wished there was a trigger warning for the premiere stream. This was one of the few I haven't seen yet. Emotional cinematography is one thing... triggering graphic images of self-harm is another.
Thank you, warned me just in time
Pffffft, trigger warning?
The real world is hard, deal with it.
Yeesh, such snowflakes.
I was in my late 20s when this song came out and NO ONE needed a trigger warning for this or anything else. What has become of our society?
Lol
@@moonboogien8908 if empathy for others bothers you please leave.
It's sickening what life does to each every one of us...hell can come crushing down at any moment...
I lost my mother to MS and got to hold her hand as she passed on. This song will forever come to me when thinking of that moment
This song reminds me of the time I was battling with severe depression rooted from self-hatred. Depression is part of me and now I kinda know how to control and got quicker to get out of the pit that no one ever know how deep it is. Thank you for awesome song!
As a native American I wish more people understood death and that its not really the end . This life is a school and hopefully you all pass your lessons. We get to see each other again :) there's no word for goodbye in our language only "see you later"
i love this!
That's how I see it. I think we are here to learn how to love. When I see someone who is spiteful and angry, I need to remember that instead of scolding them like a child. They haven't learned it yet.
What a beautiful sentiment brother. I agree with you. What was never born can never die.
I'll meet you at the hunting ground.💖
My Grandpa Sam never said Goodbye. He always said when you say goodbye, it implies you won't see each other again. I never got to see him before he passed, and looking back it almost seems like he planned it that way. I never got to say goodbye, because there's no such thing.
Sitting with my father in Palative care. this song has been so special through this journey. Thank you.
I listened to this song too many times at different hospitals, while my mom was there. It made me feel like someone knew exactly how I felt way too often there. My ma has been gone since 2017, she’s not suffering anymore. This song now doesn’t console me, but reminds me of the loss. It’s both comforting and painful, like a rose with its thorns. It just depends on where you hold it.
One of their finest works from one of their finest works.
Saddest song ever? YES.
Shared this with some old people kicking the bucket and they cried happy tears🥹
I was not ready for all the feels from this 😭😭😭
I sort of see what the director was getting at. The whole video is meant to make you feel uncomfortable. Sat on the edge of the bed, dropping Paint on the bed, lit cigarette being ran through hair between his fingers, self harm. It portrays what the song is about- waiting nervously in a hospital waiting room, of the metaphor thereof. however there’s something soothing about the video. Idk maybe that’s just me being a depressed fuck.
its more that the video i trying to describe how it feels. but we know how it really feels.
Plans was the first DCFC album my dad bought me for Christmas of 2003. I’ll always remember this album. It’s nostalgia gold.
My fur baby was hit by a car this weekend and she passed away in my lap while I was trying to get her to the hospital, I kept screaming for her to please hang on until we got there and she couldn’t make it. This song is really helping me to get through this heartache.
In 2022, I was dying from a failing gallbladder and I was also in an abusive relationship. I listened to this song a lot during that time and this song also got me through hard times
it took me two times to figure out the girl is already dead. great video
Masterpiece. Always and forever. ❤️
My mom passed back in april. These lyrics hit so different now. I listened to death cab for cutie when I was 14 but I just liked the music , never paid attention to the lyrics until just recently, I'm 29 now.
Been watching this one a lot lately after losing my dad recently, I'm sorry for your loss ❤
Remember that words and actions are more powerful than any weapons. They can cause chaos, fear, panic, and they can kill. So as you travel the pathway called life that
Once a word is spoken, it can never be unspoken.
Once you've done something, that action can never be undone.
So think before you speak, think of the consequences before you act.
And as you walk down the pathway of life strive to make the world a better place to live
Sometimes one person can change the world with a few kind words, or an act of kindness done for no reason.
Life is dark and frightening for some people, and sometimes all that's necessary to light their way is a few kind words, or an act of compassion.
This is so beautiful. Thank you.
I needed to hear this tonight.
Thank you
My Dad was amazing. Had ME at 56! Thats UNRULY! Thats taking a gamble. BUT he didn't find, in his life of hard work during and after the 2nd world war, someone to settle with. So along I came, in the 1980s.
I remember praying, though I never believed in God etc, that I want my OLD Dad to live to a good age so I dont get abandoned. I promised years off my life, my best behaviour etc. And he lived to 96, so those prayers were answered.
Hearing this song, broke me entirely. Dealt with my Dad passing. Got kids of my own. But what a piece of music. If you know, you know.
Kudos to Deathcab.
Back in 2000 I lost my grandfather who was like a father to me. I was in college and married. After he died, part of me died. I fought to keep my marriage together. But, even my marriage failed in the end. I was blessed with an amazing daughter. But, she and my son-in-law live 1500 miles away. I haven’t seen them in three years. I live with family and struggle with feeling suicidal at times. Yet, my daughter keeps me going.
Truer words, a more heartfelt song, never spoken and a picture painted. This is also my story. I was with my mom in hospital for many days leading up to her death and when she actually died. It's many years ago, but as it is with love and grief, it can be like yesterday in an instant. I've lost others but nothing compares to losing one's mother. I bawl right now thinking of her great love and heart, and thank her so much for all that she gave me and our entire family. Every day and to this day, I live with the presence of her great heart, and aim to live a life she'd be proud of, be and do good, and do and see things she'd love. In that way she lives on and without going into detail, I know for certain she still watches over me.
God bless, everyone.
my mom’s sister is in the ICU, she is like a mother to me. she has stomach cancer and developed pneumonia. this is the hardest thing i’ve ever had to go through and this comment really meant a lot. somehow the love feels stronger than ever before, but it also hurts immensely. what you said is exactly what my family has been telling me to keep her spirit alive. i can feel her in everything. she is love.
I lost my mom awhile ago. She fell into"the nothing" I rubbed her hand & made sure she heard me whisper I was there....she moaned & cried out...so l slept in a chair beside her.. rubbing her tiny hands... looking up to me to help... after 5 days she went....my mama was gone like my older brother now.
She left me long ago....I asked God to keep them together & I'll try to live with out them😞 good bye
Hello Susan, how are you doing
Only time ive ever cried at a concert was when i saw this live. Never thought that would happen
This song dropped the year I had my two part brain surgery. I’m sitting here bawling thankful he loves me and we made it.
My last brain surgery in 2016 was two parts. I had several other brain surgeries over the last 23 1/2 years. I hope you are ok. Also, three kids, starting the day before the first surgery, when surprise brain tumor started hemorrhaging, had emergency c-section. Started having seizures when pregnant with third in '05. Hope all goes well for you guys.
@Beater Bike Channel MFGA I hope you are doing well. I had a seizure that wouldn't stop after first brain surgery in the ICU in '98, the nurse came quickly and gave me a shot then no more, took meds for 6 months. Then when I was pregnant with third child I started having big scary (grand mal) seizures and taking meds again. Still taking meds, now two kinds at higher doses and no seizures for about 3 years. Many seizures over the years, but only 2 intractable, the first, and one that went on for HOURS. It was so horrible. Even after I got to the hospital in an ambulance, the guy just drove regular said I wasn't having a seizure!!! How many seizures has he had? So then I laid there in the er having a seizure for more hours, finally someone came and looked at me like in a corner behind a sheet and finally gave me a couple shots to end the seizing. I could not beleive it took from 6am till almost noon to get my seizure stopped. I found out later I could have died from that. Unbeiievable. The guy was telling me I wasn't having one, meanwhile, I am. IDIOT. I hope you have your epilepsy controlled, or at least better, and I hope you are ok.
Best...Music...Video...Ever! I discovered the band when they released "Plans" and were playing in my city, Malmö (Sweden), but it was sold out. I hope to see them in the near future around these parts.
I was waiting for this video for years, I loved it from the first moment I saw it in 2012 then it was removed from RUclips, and I am happy that they have uploaded it again and now on their official channel because I love this song and the video, I just love the allbum Plans.
Censorship is awful. This video is beautiful, tragic and sadly, all too real.
I lost my dad a month ago, this song hits so different now but helps me feel things. It was a complicated relationship but I allow myself to grieve how I need to when this comes on.
My most beloved Aunt is dying from Bulbar onset ALS. I can’t get this song out of my head! I was just speaking to her tonight and she wishes she would have died abruptly instead of knowing and feeling and living through what’s coming. The carrying on is more for those who will be left behind. 😢
Although I´ve been a fan of this band for a long time, I never paid attention to the lyrics of this song. The one afternoon last year I listened to it very closely and appreciated the genius of Ben. Next morning I received a call from my mother saying that my grandfather passed away. He died alone in isolation. Ever since, everytime I hear this song I think of my grandpa and how much I miss him and that nobody watched him die. He lied there in his bed alone.
I couldn't imagine. So sorry man.
@@patrickkullman3808 Thanks man
Hey friend.
My mom recently passed. She died on Black Friday of 2021. I'm still processing it, to be honest.
She was diagnosed with aggressive stomach cancer in late September 2021. She was able to muster up the strength for the last weekend in October to see my oldest son's wedding, and watch my two youngest sons celebrate Halloween. She was as animated as she'd always been but couldn't climb the stairs for the guest bed, so she slept on the couch. She took a lot more naps than usual.
She went back to her apartment for the next month. I called her a lot in her last days. She sounded so winded but said things like, "oh I didn't do much today, just made some food and watched some tv"
By the end of November, she asked my little sister (a traveling nurse) if she could stay at her house for a couple weeks, to meet up with the medical specialists.
My sister called the morning of Black Friday. "You might wanna head out here, mom looks pretty bad, it might just be another couple weeks," as she drove to her latest contract gig.
She called an hour later, sobbing. My brother in law went in to check on her and she had passed away, alone.
My sister was a wreck. She was sobbing into the phone, kicking herself for not being there for her. She said, "I told her I didn't need to take this assignment, I told her I could sit with her but she told me to go!"
I'm sitting there trying to wrap my head around the fact that my mom was dead while simultaneously terrified that my sister was going to crash her car rushing home. I struggled to find the right words but every time I opened my mouth, nothing came out but weird sighs.
And that's when I heard calm and clarity from my sister.
"That bitch!", she said. "She KNEW she was going to die, and she sent me out of the house so I couldn't see it!"
I laughed, I sobbed, the sound I made could only be described as a blubber. Of course mom did that. Of course mom did precisely that.
In the coming weeks, as we began cleaning up and clearing out moms apartment, we saw everything organized perfectly. When we walked into her room, her birth certificate, life insurance paperwork and will were neatly laid out in the middle of her bed.
My old photos stacked perfectly in one part of the closet. My sister's in another. Blankets she'd made were separated from blankets she'd bought.
She'd been lying to me. When she said, "oh I didn't do much today," she'd been organizing her life, so it was easier for us to clean it up and put it away.
I don't know you, and I don't know your grandpa. But if he was anything like my mom, maybe he knew he had no control over his mortality, he had no control over his pain and his fatigue, but the one thing he did have control over was when and where he passed.
Maybe he chose to wait until he was alone, so no one could be burdened with watching him take his last breath, and living with that memory.
You're a good kid, to keep him in your heart like this. I'm sure he died loving you very much, and I'm sure that was enough for him.
Be well.
@@eplamoureux Your story is touching and the way you wrote even more. I´m literally with tears in my eyes. Thanks for sharing this and I´m sorry for your loss
My dad was always there for us when we get hospitalized. Brought us to the best hospital always. He was the one taking care us even when he got old and already suffered stroke. Last July 2021 my mom had a heart attack, had a quintuple bypass surgery and my Dad visited her to the ICU everyday even when he's already on a wheelchair. Come May 2021, my Dad had covid, none of us were able to visit him, even videocall wasn't allowed. 4 days later, he died. Alone. We weren't able to say good bye or I love you at least. Next time we saw him, he was already in ashes.
This song really hits me very hard. I remember my Dad suffering alone. We weren't there when he needed us the most. He was always there for us, and knowing that he died alone makes me die inside. Because love is watching someone die.
This makes me angry, I absolutely hate that that happened to you. I work in healthcare, you are not alone in your testimony. I'm holding my tears back now praying God will forgive us for keeping family away from their loved ones in their last moments.... I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
It's been most of a year since I spent a month caring for my elderly mother as she was on her deathbed. This song made me cry even before that, and now it's even worse, but for different reasons. "I am" was the answer to the question "who's going to watch...?"
Thank you so much for uploading this, I couldn't find it for the longest time
I remembered I watched this in I swear 2009. What is it doing back at 2 months hahha. Thank you DCFC for bringing it back. It's one of my favs guys
This has always been one of my favorite videos.
This song hits differently for a nurse who has seen too much, the good and bad, the success and the suffering. My heart aches and rejoices listening to this song. Who’s gonna watch you die?!? Hopefully someone who loves you, honestly I hope there is just someone there…
I don’t have a terminal illness-to those who do I’m sorry, and I hope you’re happy during the time you have left-, but this song still moves me. I have suffered through depression since the age of 7, but didn’t hear this song until I was 11 or 12. When I first heard that line: “Love is watching someone die” I immediately connected to the song, because it practically ripped my heart out of my chest when he spoke the next line: “So who’s gonna watch you die?” I’m writing songs in the hopes of one day having a band, and I want to include a reference to this song for the people who have heard it, and like me, fell in love with it. My favorite Death Cab song is Lightness, but this is a very close second. If I wanted to sit down and cry to a song, I’d choose this one.
I have been listening to this song since I was 14, 27 now and still such a chilling and beautiful song.
Since 13 & 30 now. Youre not alone :)
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This song always makes me feel like someone is ripping my heart out of my chest but in a good way. I really can't explain.
So happy to see these so many song s I've loved for year nice to see another person's view on their meaning
36 this month. My time to pass on is getting a little closer. All I can say is this beautiful song is a gift.
My friend is dying of multiple organ failure right now. I'm watching him die, because I love him. This song hit me in the gut.
my friend in a coma about to pass next couple days
360p revives more than any big budgets we have.
I've been that patient in the ICU. I was born with a chronic disease that has landed me in the hospital for months at a time for as long as I can remember.
My best friend's soul dog is currently on what amounts to doggy hospice. She's fifteen and change but how could there ever be enough time? I hate this but I wouldn't be anywhere else in the world. I wasn't allowed to have pets so I've never been through anything like this. This song has been popping into my head the last few days as she rapidly declines. She's lying near me, her breathing a little strained but steady. I wish I could take all of her pain and all of his grief. I wish I could make everything stop around us while we go through this. It seems so stupid that you still have to work and eat and brush your teeth and go to the bathroom and get the mail while someone you love is dying. Over fifteen years of companionship and we just have to go through the motions. I've been so lucky to have moved in with them these past two and a half years. Knowing her and watching her and seeing how they love each other has been a gift I will be grateful for until my own last breath. Being able to be here for him so he's not alone is something I wouldn't trade for any amount of personal comfort. Jack is a dog but she's also so much more than that. I never knew a dog could be so smart and funny and sassy. She bullies me relentlessly and I'm going to miss her so much.
Finally you posted it man, for years it disappeared in RUclips... I love it! ♥
I see so many comments like this.
It's a damn shame that RUclips took down a beautiful, tragic, lovely and gut wrenching video like this.
I can't get over the power that this song has.
@@rosebud4467 yeah man, totally agree... It's my favorite song of them... And for years it had just one video with good quality in audio/video and it was a little bit hard to find... I don't understand why the band or RUclips deleted it on these past times... Anyway, now we have it back on the official channel of DCFC. ♥
@@markwojama haha I'm a girl, man. 😉
But seriously, censorship is getting way out of hand. I genuinely believe we need more raw videos like this for people to gain empathy. It seems like all the mainstream music today is meaningless garbage. I miss the time when musicians actually cared about lyrics.
@@rosebud4467 oh, I'm sorry, girl! haha ;p
And yes, and even the mainstream continues to post video/songs that are completely heavy/wrong/nonsense and they haven't their works censored... Indeed it's clear that there are many of this things happening to many who doesn't deserve it, and not happening with a bunch of those who "deserves it", deserves in certain ways I mean, I think it have to be free, but with goodsense about facts and life depending by each one having this goodsense/sensibility, in case of that videoclip of Death Cab for Cutie, it's too far away about deserving be censored. The mainstream create a lots of heavier stuffs, much more... And for sure, we miss it, girl! :/
I lost my husband to cancer when I was 21. I'm 30 now. I'm on the verge of losing my best friend to cancer too. Oh, God. Please stop taking them.
RIP my best friend Steven. I love you, brother, and it destroys me to know I have to live the rest of my life without you.
Tomorrow is my best friend Sarah’s birthday. I’m so heartbroken. I can’t breathe without her.
one of my favorite DCFC songs
Hello Shyla
Thank you so much for uploading this
Almost 2 decades later and this video still tears me to pieces
Love everything about this song and video but probably needs a CW
It's so weird to realize that one of your favorite songs from way back had someone in the video that is now one of your favorite actors and you had /no/ idea who he was.
Who is he?
@@rachelporter-chastain6067 James Ransone. Eddie from It Chapter 2, Ziggy from The Wire, Deputy So-and-so from Sinister (He's in a lot of horror movies. Like, a lot a lot.)
My best friend is 39 and currently dying from colon cancer. This rips my heart out 💔 I wish she could stay
I’m so sorry. Lost mine at 35 to the same.
Didn't want to cry today. Cool cool
좋은 노래, it's been in my play list for over 10years.
back in 2009, 2nd year college we are at a classmate's house doing thesis, I played this and asked my friend to let her sister play this in her piano.
We were so simple back then. Alcohol, cigarretes and marijuana.
“Love is watching someone die” I didn’t quite get that when I was 14
My friend showed me this but not friends anymore but I'll never forget her.
As vezes no silêncio da noite eu lembro de músicas que destroem meu coração 💔