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Dating in today’s world is rough, and these stories are proof! 😳 In today’s video, we’re diving into some of the most cringe-worthy, jaw-dropping, and downright chaotic dating drama the internet has to offer. From nightmare first dates to relationship disasters that spiraled out of control, these stories will make you so glad you’re not dealing with this mess. 😂
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I've been married for over 20 years, but I still remember going on a first date with a guy who asked ahead of time if it would be okay to pay for ourselves because he just didn't have a lot of money. I could tell he was a little embarrassed, but I appreciated the honesty and we planned an inexpensive date since I was also in the same boat. We ended up going mini golfing and had a picnic lunch which was a lot of fun. How is it that these guys can't just communicate up front about things?
Because the Internet has taught them that all women expect every man to be a millionaire and they all shame men who aren't.
And that's how it should be done if that's the situation. Good on you for not judging solely based on that. 🤩 now this has put me in the mood for a picnic date!! lol
I told a guy who was a friend, who asked me out on a date to this fancy restaurant... I have CPTSD and asked if we could just do fish n chips on the beach or something along those lines. He didn't want to do that, he wanted the restaurant... the date never happened. Weird. He thought that fish n chips on the beach wasn't good enough to take me on a first date. He was a lovely friend and we stayed friends but he wanted to impress so much and I'm just a fussy simple woman lol
Oh that sounds like a dream first date for me 😂😂😂 as someone who would prefer fun non-stereotypical "dinner/movie" dates yeah that's up my alley! Now the kicker is getting to the actual first date(which is lowkey embarrassing since I'm "old enough to be married right now lol
@@xoselhketawwww both sounds cute, your version of a date(which is up my alley lol) and his wanting to thoroughly impress you ❤❤
That first story as soon as you get the question “will you serve your man” you ask “do you make an enough money to have a housewife that serves you?” And leave when he melts down about it, this mans is for the dump.
Yeah, they tend to make U-turn into "You're a gold digger!" territory immediately.
They don't want girlfriends/wives. They want moms with benefit.
I’ll serve anyone who’s keeping a roof over my head and a little money in my pocket. Like many femme folx, I’m a natural caretaker, so it’s definitely part of my skill set. Problem is, men forget that they have to be the providers in order to live that lifestyle with equity. Literally no one wants to serve and provide.
That's a beautiful answer!
I wouldn’t have said a word, got up and left his ass sitting there! BYYYYYYYEEEEEE
No, hear me out
Ask him if he wants to be served with a side of baked beans or mashed potatoes and gravy.
He wanna play stupid games, he can get some crazy responses.
Sometimes i feel sad I'm single, then I watch these videos and I don't feel like even trying to date anymore.
Same! 😅
I feel the same
Ikrrr 😆
Hang in there hun! Your person is out there!🍀💜
Saamee, I just turn into a ball of rejection. No dating for me 🙅♀
i’m married now, but when i was in college, i went on a second date with this guy. we had been talking a lot and really liked each other, but we both were broke. he asked me if i wanted to go to the lake and look at the stars, and i ofc said yes. when we got to the lake, he put down a blanket for us to sit on and had a lunchables, grapes, and a little board. he BUILT A LITTLE MINI CHARCUTERIE BOARD FOR US! he had also downloaded this free app that showed where different constellations were in the sky so we could find them easier. that date costed very little money, but i will remember it forever. you don’t have to have money to put in effort!!
That shows how thoughtful you can be even with the little you have.
That was a lovely date!
That sounds so very lovely! Effort is worth much more than a 5 course meal at a fancy restaurant.
I had a similar date with my neighbour's cousin.
He didn't make a mini charcuterie board, that is adorable!!! But he was a respectful and caring young man. We were twelve and he was babysitting my neighbor, his cousin.
His aunty introduced us and said we could stay at the house with our neighbour who we we're friends with while she went out.
She was gone for about an hour, my younger brother and sister were there too.
He was so sweet with them.
We sat on the grass in the front yard and talked while the younger kids played inside the house.
I think I had actually met him a few days before because he was there for a few days and this happened the day before he left.
We just sat on the grass and talked, he was so sweet and respectful and very cute. Blonde with blue eyes, he looked at me when I talked, asked me questions and didn't judge me.
I had a huge crush on him but he was going home soon and we were just talking and he asked if he could put his arm around me and I said yes.
A while later I had to go home soon and we clearly really liked each other.
And then he asked me if he could kiss me. I was calm but excited and said yes, it was my first kiss and it was the softest and sweetest kiss.
He looked at me like I was the only person he wanted to be with.
I will never forget his kindness and I have held my relationships to the same standard ever since.
I have been lucky to have really wonderful boyfriends, only my first serious boyfriend got a bit weird at the end.
Unfortunately my marriage ended badly, we had a few rough patches but it had been okay.
When it got bad it always got better but then he did the unthinkable.
He gave me an ultimatum and I
took my son and never looked back.
I don't even date, I hope for love but I respect myself too much to give my precious time to anyone who doesn't respect me.
So sweet ❤
I am in my 40s.... just went on a first date this weekend.....I had a great time. He was a gentleman. He would not let me pay for a thing. He was very sweet and attentive. It was so refreshing and unexpected and wonderful. After a hard ten years with a monster this was exactly what I needed to start to heal and have faith in humanity again. Don't give up people!..... there are good ones out there still!
There are. I didn't get married until I was 43. Had some crazy dating experiences before that! He is older and traditional is some ways, like how a date should go, but more progressive in others. Wished it hadn't taken 25 years to find him however!
Are you guys gonna see each other again?
@kristymcelroy9356 Yes! I spent 13 years with a monster and I found a man that won't let me open my doors, is so caring and sweet. We've been seeing each other for around 6 months and I'm disappointed it took so long for me to realize, this... This is how a real good man treats the person he wants.
Thank you for this 😇... I won't say my exact age, but it's over 36 and reading this and the other comment...as a single woman, it's giving me hope to not give up finding a decent new love to be my first (and hopefully only) husband.
just wait....
First story is one that I lived. Keeping it brief; a first date. Met for coffee, and things were going so well we ordered lunch. Once outside and wanting to keep the chemistry going, I suggested a desert place nearby. He tee'd off on me like a new golf ball in a tile bathroom. Accused me of leading him on just for a free meal etc, etc, etc. I tucked a $20 into his shirt pocket and suggested he use it toward therapy.
Excellent 😁 👍
Nice
Gonna do this next time 😂
Perfect response!
You’re my hero!
10:46 I had a date who invited me out for my birthday. He told me “let me take you out- you choose wherever you want to go!” I chose a middle-road place. Like $35-45 per person range. When we ordered, he asked what the best drink was. I told him and he ordered one. I told the waiter, “I’ll have the same.” He looks at me and says, “oh, you are going to order a drink too?” WTF #1. Then when we ordered entrees, he orders his choice. I ordered my choice then he says, “Oh, you’re ordering food too? I thought we would share.” WTF #2. He didn’t mention sharing nor asked me what I wanted, just chose what he wanted and expected me to eat it?! Seriously. DONT INVITE SOMEONE FOR A BIRTHDAY DINNER IF YOU CANT EVEN AFFORD A BIRTHDAY DINNER!
My flabbers are fully gasted. It was your BIRTHDAY. When he offered to take you wherever you wanted to go but then balked at you ordering food and a drink, i guess he meant he was only covering the ride 😭
And that's soooo weird because a lot of places now have 'no sharing' rules unless it's like.. your kid.
Wow!!! And I'll be damned that as a grown ass woman I'm sharing a meal. Hell, I don't remember "sharing" meals when I was a teenager but definitely not as an adult!!
That's a whole lot of nope with a side of freaking psycho! What's that guys deal?!
@@dluvscupcakes he didn’t even do that because we met at the restaurant. 😂
The food shaming one..... this is exactly why, as a single woman I pay for my OWN meal on a first date. I don't expect anything and I don't owe them anything!
Exactly.
Yes, this makes everything clear and takes away his ability to imply you owe him anything.
Or attempt to let him pay so you can see his true colors AND THEN pay for your own.
Yepp! I'm paying my own bc I'm not about to have someone think I owe them my whole dignity for a $15 entree and sweet tea. If he insists, then sure he can pay. But I make sure to at least take away the stigma that I'm a woman whose just out for a free meal.
Thankfully I'm married and not dating anymore, but mannnn, I don't miss the stupid games people play with each other just to hurt their own feelings in the end. The 'alpha bros' online teaching men to act this way are the reason for the loneliness epidemic, not women for knowing that's a load of mental illness we don't have time fo and refusing to date the ick.
it was food shaming, not the money... men are still shaming women for being BIG eaters.
This is why back when I did date, I always paid my own way. It is so much safer that way. Too many men think paying for dinner means paid for intimacy.
I never paid for a first date or the majority of dates and I've never been pressured and never have done anything on a first date (no judgements to anyone who does) thankfully. I don't know if it was my standards or how I carried myself that I was not the type to be pressured
@@tabithalarue It's not all men either, but for the sake of safety and sanity, I just wouldn't recommend women let men pay. Not even the first date, although a committed boyfriend is another matter.
It's even worse, (though I get you softened the language). Men expect to use and violate your body like a sex toy, true intimacy isn't even on their radar. 🙃
I agree on that front -- pay our own way, so they don't feel entitled.
Please to all the woman out there. Not all men are like this. I’m a 25 year old guy And hearing this makes me go insane. I would never even think for a split second to treat a WOMAN like this. It blows my mind. Keep y’all’s head up girls. I’m telling you there is real men out there with a heart as big as the galaxy.
Hon, no worries, every woman knows there are good ones or we would stop dating. It's just, we all have dealt with some weird cookies. I KNOW guys experience that as well. Also, I think it has gotten worse due to those podcasts telling men to be men and how women should be DEMURE. 🙄
Honestly, dating is how people learn what they want and what they won't put up with. Sadly, it also means we all bring that baggage to the next relationship.
Here's hoping you find a woman whom you adore & who equally adores you. A good relationship is work because men and women are so different but it is also the most rewarding thing.
I met my husband when I was done with dating. I honestly wasn't that attracted to him, but I thought he was a nice guy, someone I could absolutely see being friends with. I had a 3 date rule (because sometimes 1st impressions aren't accurate. ) That 2nd date changed everything. I was so comfortable with him. It felt like we'd known each other forever. (He said he thought I was a 10/10😂, gorgeous, successful and out of his league. He almost didn't aak me on a 2nd date because he didn't think I would be serious about someone like him.)
We married 6 months later. It hasn't been all sunshine and rainbows. There were a lot of times during our first year together that I thought I had made a mistake. We've dealt with a LOT. But those dark times and, most importantly - how we handled them, only made us stronger as a couple. Been almost 10 years now. We both say how lucky we are.
There are definitely good guys out in the dating pool
It’s hard to believe. I have dated men and the ones that act like the perfect gentleman keep it together till you fall for them then the emotional abuse and head games kick in and you feel your in too deep to leave and you start wondering what you did wrong why your not good enough. I waisted my entire youth on two 10 year relationships with men who the entire time were messing with my head all whall cheating and one got married and had kids (all the dreams he promised me whall secretly running my clock out) with another woman behind my back. Everyone told me I was too innocent I was being blind something was wrong with him no one who would love you would leave you crying on the floor every day depressed and make you feel like you are nothing. So now I’m alone I’m too old to be considered dating material I am too old to have kids these guys ran out my prime years then told me “well your too old now good luck finding someone you are better off staying and being my F buddy” when I found out the truth. So I decided alone is better. Both guys moved on with women 30 and 40 years younger then them (I was 15 years younger I should have known guess that’s what you get for being a stupid sheltered virgin with abuse trauma) they saw and actually admitted to me they saw easy target and victim written on my head so they knew they could manipulate me. I now am too scared to trust anyone because clearly I make good judgments.
Truth is, there is only a few good people out there. Majority are not good. Majority will end up in toxic, dysfunctional marriages and end up divorced or miserable their entire lives. You have to remember that if you're a good person, you're in the minority and finding another like yourself is difficult.
I’m 41 and when I was dating in college, I never let anyone pay because I always felt like there was some obligation involved. I met this guy on campus and went on a coffee date with him one afternoon because I didn’t want to commit to dinner and paid for my own tea. We stayed at the coffee shop talking for 8 hours until it closed, had another date the next day and the next day and then I basically moved in with him. We’ve been inseparable and in love ever since. Celebrating 21 years together on Feb 9! I hope everyone is as lucky as we are. ❤
I love this! Best wishes, to you, for many more happy years with your hubby!
It's worth it to find that best friend kind of love❤
Absolutely! I wouldn't even WANT someone who tried to show off and live outside their means! ❤
Early congratulations 💕. I’m pushing 61, and I never let a guy pay my way in a new relationship. My reasoning was that a meal DOES NOT equate a trade for sex. I felt I was worth more than 20 bucks…
I wish everyone could be as lucky as both of you.
In college I drove everywhere, took cash, and left so many dates in the middle because they were soo horrible.
My ex would throw a tantrum if things weren’t 50/50, if he did something for me he would expect me to say thank you profusely, he always kept a list of expensive things he bought me while would often forget about me buying him things consistently. Omg it was exhausting - dump these people.
Its a pretty unrealistic way to have a relationship tbh
The thing is it’s very rare it’s 50/50 like did he do half of all the domestic work, cooking, childcare etc? Glad you’re rid of him.
My ex wasn't quite as bad as that but it did end up becoming a tit-for-tat situation where well you get to do this so I get to do that. Or you got to buy this so I get to buy that. It just started to bother me that it started to become kind of transactional. I don't want to have to keep score in a relationship. Just one of many reasons that he's now an ex.
@munchkinmunchkin Did you marry a pitiable, too? My friends called my ex 'Poor eddie' ☹️ bc he was always trying to illicit sympathy for something.
He was THE PREFECT BOYFRIEND, but as soon as we were married, I met the real him; real quick 🫣
I dated a guy like this too, they also keep tabs on " activities" in the bedroom. Who "owes" what, how long it's been, how many in a week. I could go on but you can imagine. Leave immediately!
I'm 60 yrs old. The way I was taught about going on dates was this: First, always make sure you carry enough cash to cover anything you may be ordering that night. Dinner, drinks, tickets, whatever. Even if you're certain the guy is treating for everything. Just to make sure. Second: Never order the most expensive stuff on the menu, and don't go overboard on the extras like appetizers, drinks and desserts. Basically, this way you're covered no matter what. If he treats, cool. If you want to offer to pick up part of the tab, or drinks or whatever, you're covered. And, by ordering discretely and maybe offering to pay for some things, you show you're civilized and that you too have an interest in making the night a pleasant experience.
and enough for your cab fare home.
I have a tendency if I am going somewhere and I know someone else is paying that I try to pick something on the menu that is middle-of-the-road price-wise. When we go out with my fiancé's parents, they always insist on paying and I know they don't care what I order but I try to stay away from the really expensive stuff. I did joke one time when we all went out to dinner for my birthday and his mom said to pick a bottle of wine off the menu and we could share. I joked about this $500 bottle they had on there. She was like yeah not that one but she knew I was joking. I told her that I absolutely did not have the palate to tell the difference between a $500 bottle and a $35 bottle so that would be a waste of money anyway.
Same and I'm in my 30's, never expect for anyone to cover for me and I like it that way... all my friends are the same, but maybe is a cultural thing
Yes, I'm a middle aged lady and I was raised the same. If your date offers to pay, accept gracefully. But always be able to walk out with your head held high and not owing anything to anyone.
And always, when invited, look to what the other person is ordering and stay in that price range or lower. Ordering something very expensive on a first date *is* taking advantage of the other person.
This. 100%
No, no, no. This is what happened in the first one: he said, "Let's go get our drinks." She said, "Can you just get me some water." He wanted them to get drinks together, but she asked him to get her drink for her. He was mad because SHE asked HIM to serve HER. He had a problem with a woman asking him to serve her. She dodged a bullet and he's going to find it hard to find a woman who will tolerate him having a cow because she asked him to do something as mundane as get her drink for her.
That’s what I thought too. He pictures both of them walking up and filling their own cups. Something so small set him off too
😅 years ago, my husband and I went to my MIL's house for Thanksgiving, I brought So much there, then as everything was 'ready', she said to me, "are you going to fix Billy a plate?"...(the words could not have fallen out of my mouth faster!) "He can Fix his Own Plate!"
🤣🤣🤣
If asking for water is requesting the princess treatment we are in trouble!!!
Serious TROUBLE!!!!😂
Riiiighttt??? That dude should take a trip to Japan. When you eat with someone in Japan it’s custom to pour each others water. Like, it would be disrespectful and rude to let whoever you’re eating with pour their own tea or water. I know this ain’t Japan, but bringing each other water is not a favor. It’s like the most basic human decency. I wouldn’t let a stranger even poke my drinking glass though because some psychos would take that as an opportunity to drug you. This world is a disaster rn 😭😂 Come Lord Jesus Come.
BIG TIME. 🥴😩😮💨🫣
😂😂😂😂
Women literally put the bar on the floor, and men get out their shovels...
Why are men so weird about paying for the date? Our first date with my gf I drove 30 min to pick her up, drove another 30 to go watch all the firework shows of the area on the top of a mountain, chilled in the car and when I got hungry we went to mcDonalds and I paid for my food and hers. Drove her back to her place and waited until she got inside then drove 30 min home absolutely buzzing about our date…I was the one that asked her out, and even if I hadn’t so what? I got hungry I wasn’t gonna be an as*hat and leave her to pay or just eat in front of her wtf? Istg these men are trying to be tough but act like babies, learn some decorum.
Honestly this is it. I told my dad about how things have changed and it has him absolutely baffled. I very much was raised in a matriarchy but my parents have been married 31 years and been together for longer.
They lasted this long because my dad put in a load of effort since the moment he met my mum. I do think this is a cultural difference tho. My family is Brtitish-Carribbean and we are generally raised with a courting mindset.
My husband started watching fresh and fit and Kevin Samuels and that kind of thing. We've been separated a year now.
☝️😅 👌whew!!
Well done…🙌 💃🏻
❤
That's unfortunate, but you def dodged a bullet babes❤
@@dianacarbonate these streams are poisoning men's minds.
@@lilalaune4202Yep. They are destroying marriages & the future for men.
It’s almost Valentine’s and I feel like finding a Valentine date. But watching this right now demolishes every thought in every concept of dating! I love being single 😂
This guy needs to grow up. I'm married over 20 years. Just yesterday we went out to lunch, my hubby ordered our food, got our drinks, and when I said I wish I got a biscuit he got right up and got me a biscuit. We had a great lunch. That night I made us dinner. Relationships are not about keeping score. It's about being considerate and loving to each other. ❤
Thank you for the continuing refresher that being single is not the worst fate ever 😂
❤
Single AF over here and happy! I’ll live my happy little life with my cat and pull out the popcorn to watch other peoples’ drama 😂
Being single is the best fate ever.
Being single is my goal
Small blessings have vast reaching rewards.
As a woman who gets annoyed with women expecting literal princess and queen treatment all the time, that first story was wild.. lol. like getting someone water, when I was already getting myself a drink, is something I would do for almost anyone, never mind an actual date. That guy did her a huge favor showing who he was early. lol
I’m kind of the same way except just for myself. I don’t care if other women want that treatment, there are plenty of guys who want to give that treatment ( and vice versa but that’s not as socially acceptable so isn’t talked about as often but plenty of women want someone to take care of that won’t take advantage of it)
My rules were whoever asked for the date or brought it up paid. Or if he brought it up and I chose the location I paid unless he felt really weird about it. I feel weird about people paying for me too and it’s socially acceptable for me, so I don’t want to make some guy uncomfortable since he also has that social aspect to worry about. Splitting is a really good way to go about it in most circumstances depending if you knew them ahead of time or not. Most dates I went on, I already knew and was friends with the person so there was a level of comfort there from the beginning and payment wasn’t as weird as we had already paid for each others crap at some point in the past.
But I make sure I never cross that line to taking advantage of anyone. Man or woman becuase it feels icky. Obviously I’m usually the one being taken advantage of though lol. It’s like people pick up on the fact that you care about that sort of thing and use it to make you feel like you are taking advantage of them when you aren’t or that you have to make some random thing in the past right.
I had a ex who was suppose to be staying at mine for a week. The second day as I was cooking dinner for us, I asked him to pass me my drink that he was standing next to. He threw such a hissy fit. I was like, nope, take urself right out the door now. Goodbye.
The bar is on the fucking floor for men. That's why when they do basic shit everyone claps for them . The "princess treatment" is usually still the bare minimum. Can't stand women like you.
I always split the check until I'm comfortable with the person. I don't want anything held over my head or for someone to feel taken advantage of. That is not what I want my relationships to be built on.
I’m with you on that 💯 And I kinda think, that guy in the check splitting story, just thought she might have been a girl like that; a girl that prefers to split. He even said “Are you sure you don’t wanna split?? , I ate most of the food” he sounded flabbergasted by that statement haha So he was fully aware. He might have just not really seen the check on the table, because some people don’t. She was very eager to leave so she definitely noticed the check… I would have just said “Hey, so what are we doing with the bill, you guna pay or should we pay Separate” mabey a little uncomfortable to say but that called communication. Anyways, lol that’s not a reason to be DONE👏🏽with dating. 😅It gets worse hahah
Agreed. That was how it was with my wife 40 years ago. I have no idea why modern young women think men should buy her dinner.
I wonder what happened to just getting coffee and taking a walk.
@@MommaARA Personally I don’t do coffee dates and that just my standard. I have found that in my personal experience the ones who want to have “coffee dates” want to be very casual aka friends with benefits.
It just seems like some men find it an easy attempt at looking like they are “trying”. This is just my experience dating in the UK and Australia tho.
I also do think the idea of “going to get coffee” is more of a new phenomenon in both countries.
That's why a first date should be coffee or some other "get a drink" situation. That way if you don't click, you can bail faster than you could with a meal
@12:00 video - I'm confused. The girl says that she didn't order anything unusual, that her date laid down $100 for her bill and left. Then she complained that he didn't ask how much the bill was or offer to pay, or get her a ride. Is that not what the $100 is for? She ordered an appetizer and a meal. And $100 didn't cover it? None of this adds up.
Weird that the details were overlooked.
Right….previous video tells exactly what she orders!!!
are u in kew gardens...used to live Curzon & 118th🤭
I think the guy who drops $100 and leaves, lost interest immediately she said she was going to see her friend after the date. He thought he'd get lucky by taking her out, then realised it was going to be a definite NO as she had plans. I 100% believe that was why he dipped out.
❤❤❤ oooh ok..now that makes sense
I concur
I was thinking the same thing. He was looking for a reason to leave but not be an ahole in his mind.
That and probably the cost of he meal. For some girls dates are just a meal ticket. So he probably felt like that aswell
I missed that! It wasn't because he didn't want to pay else he wouldn't have dropped the $100.
I thought he was making all those comments because he thought she was eating too much, as if she doesn't have the kind of figure she could eat a whole cow dipped in barbecue and topped with cheese and not put on an inch!
Story #1: he set her up. He set up the whole scenario as a test to see if she would tolerate the emotional whiplash. Charlotte saying it was in his heart to be generous… no. If she had “passed” the serving drinks test, i bet you he still would have been expecting something at the end of the date.
💯 I’m so sick of all the “tests” people do on each other now. The amount of stupid simple tests to apparently “show the true colors of you should date this person or not” are RIDICULOUS. It’s all for views too. But men eat them UP. I dated a guy for a couple months and he kept telling me I’m the first blonde he ever dated… he only dated brunettes. Initially I just thought “oh, that’s kinda cool!” But after he said it like 2 more times I started to find it strange. Like, why does he keep saying that. Long story short, months after we broke up I saw a video on YT… men say that to women to test how much control they have over her. What they want you to do is go dye your hair to “become his type.” I had no idea but I thought of him immediately! He also brought up how he appreciated women dressing… thank God we split
He thought he could buy s*x thru a date.
He thought he could purchase s33x thru a date.
@@mountaintimewiththelord53the mindsets some men have i get the most predatory vibe
@@mountaintimewiththelord53 Now I’m wondering about the guy who told me he usually dated fat redheads. Of which I am neither…
I just wanna say that I would not be offended if a man took me out for dinner and told me he could only afford x amount. Everyone's got struggles. If he's willing to pay for dinner, and he's a good guy, I'm gonna stay in that budget. But it's gotta be a proper conversation... not... food shaming ffs.
Exactly! Just communicate if you have a tight budget. A real woman will appreciate the honesty and stick within the budget or even offer to pay for herself.
Exactly!
I agree.
Went on a first date at my favorite restaurant and ordered my usual (16oz ribeye) and he blanched. Quickly explained and was happy to pay my own way.
Yes, I had a date like that. I had already met the guy in a group setting. He asked me out, but told me in advance that his money was tight. He asked if I minded going to a specific chain restaurant because he had a coupon for buy 1 entree and get the 2nd half off. He was a nice enough guy and I didn't mind. I also have a good job and wouldn't have minded paying. I asked if he wanted to see a movie after also and I'd either buy dinner or the movie tickets or we could split it however was easiest for his budget. He bought dinner and I bought the movie tickets and drinks at the movies. I had no problem with that because everyone has money struggles. Strangely, the chemistry we had when in the group setting was not the same when we were without the group. He was quiet and we had a hard time keeping a conversation going well and we didn't go out again. I found out a week later from a mutual friend that he felt so bad that he couldn't afford a proper date and was embarrassed that I paid for more than half, so he just shut down because he didn't want to date someone that deserved someone more financially stable and he shouldn't have asked me out since he couldn't afford to date. I would have preferred to have a nice, comfortable evening out with good conversation, but I was turned off by his lack of conversation. I didn't mind paying the few dollars, which it all amounted to, if we could have enjoyed ourselves. At least I got to see a movie I wanted to go to though.
Hey girly pop I agree with you, but I also feel that it’s like a stigma that has been pushed onto men by society that like if you can’t afford this or if you can’t afford that then you’re a bum and you’re not good. You’re not like so a lot of men feel like they gotta be this type of way so that they don’t get embarrassed, but I’m like again as you said if you can’t afford it, you could’ve just told her
When I went on the very very very first date with my partner now for 13 years. The very first day we laid eyes on each other in person. He chose the restaurant and mind you it was fancy. He ordered for me because I did not mind him picking the food we are about to devour and I was shocked because it was a LOT! we ate we talked we laughed had an amazing first date. Cheque came and he didnt even batted an eye on me and just IMMEDIATELY paid for everything. Got up, offered ro take me home. Took me home. Gave him a wave goodbye and a kiss on the cheek and 13 years later 2 kids 2 houses and a thriving business together. Ladies never settle. Let him treat you like a queen you deserve! ❤
I NEED a part 2 to the start at the movies end at HIS bus stop story…that’s absolutely inane. Not only did he put you in a DANGEROUS situation by leaving you to walk 30 mins back to your car after him suggesting going on a walk and then insisting y’all keep walking bc he’s “enjoying your company”(I am assuming by that time it was after dark based on how movie dates are generally in the evening at least in my experience) but he also was the one that suggested you getting the tickets and then him getting the food because he was late… he even asked you what you wanted…just to not get it and not share what he did get…that flabbergasts me!!! If he wasn’t going to get you food why ask?! If it had been a situation where it ended up costing more than he thought and he couldn’t afford to get it he should have said “I’m so sorry, I know I offered to buy you food but it cost was more than I expected and I couldn’t afford it. Would you like to share mine?” That way you knew what was going on and you could then make the decision To share with him or to go get your own food before the movie started if you did not want to share. also him not being upfront with you about you guys walking to the bus stop is also, blowing my mind. I 1000% understand wanting to do something that is free like going for a walk after a date especially a first date to a movie so that way you can get to know each other because you can’t talk during a movie. This is also why I don’t think movies for a first date is a good decision at all. Going to the movies is one of my favorite dates, but definitely not something that I think is a good thing to do as a first date. Had he said something along the lines of would you like to do something else like go on a walk to get to know each other better but I need to be back to whatever location by whatever time so I can catch my bus home. I think it truly is the deception of the entire situation that is such a red flag to me not to mention the gigantic red flag of having you walk 30 minutes by yourself after dark after being deceptive about where you were going…
Ps I am sorry if there are any grammatical errors or if something doesn’t make sense, I have to use talk to text because of my disability and I don’t always catch the mistakes
'Are you the kind of woman who.... "
Gets up and leaves? Yes I am
Men who treat dates like transactions for sex are trash
A lot of men these days think women are like vending machines. Insert meals and sex falls out
I'm 30 and haven't dated since HS for various reasons, but my current one is that I'm just not in a financial or psychological state where I should be bringing anyone else into my situation. I think a lot of this shit would be solved by people taking themselves off the market until they get themselves right mentally.
Because you’re an adult. That seems to be pretty rare these days. Lots of people are not self aware in the least. Adults work on themselves, know and accept themselves, improve what they can, look for blind spots, and don’t inflict pain on others intentionally. You’ll be a great partner if you decide to one day.
This part!!!
I am thankful for you. ❤
not gonna happen when majority of people in market are looking for sexual partners more than life long partners
@@lanabanana5626 that's fine, as long as they're honest about what they're looking for
I salute the brave people trying to find love in today's dating world. My socially anxious a** could never do it though
@chipsfreak5070, you never know what your future holds!!! My daughter, currently 40yo, got married 2 years ago and she would tell me her disastrous dating experiences, even one with a women that was a little too much…she thought she would NEVER be with someone!! And yet a year later an old flame came back into town and they were both dating different people, even had double dates. And yet one morning he came to her house, as he was moving about 150mi away, to tell her he couldn’t live without her and he would give her time to decide!!!! They are now closing in on their third wedding anniversary!!! (He had always been the one for her in the 8+ years after he moved out of state.)
For the situation with the Lady who went out to dinner, I'm pretty sure the guy is one of those "my girl only eats salads and small meals". One drink does not cost $100, money was not the problem. It was that she indulged and felt no shame
6:30 It's not the podcasts. These men are fully functional adults who should be capable of critical thinking. Don't allow them to dodge responsibility for their awful thinking & behavior.
Not only are they capable of critical thinking, they actively refuse to do it which in itself is a red banner of a flag 🤔
Just idiots
Yeah I was gonna say that too. But folks always jump on me for stating the obvious.
THIS. Thank you! This is the same bs as "that's a boy, not a man". 🙄 Like, no, they're the average adult man, and calling him a boy/"not a real man" is making excuses for their CHOICES. I'm so sick of that rhetoric, we gotta hold them accountable.
About 10 years ago I went on a first date with a guy and he invited me to a sushi dinner. I’ll say that again…HE invited ME to get sushi. He proceeded to order, not eat anything, say he actually hated sushi and he just got up and left. Just left! No Goodbye or anything it was bizarre. I’m so happy I’m out of the dating world 😂 to all still in it, there’s wonderful people out there, don’t give up ❤
That’s wiiiillld 😲
That's hilarious. I can just imagine the confusion 😂
@@jewels2799it was an interesting experience 😂 I’ll never forget it that’s for sure haha
Wow, that is a very bizarre date!! Did he at least pay for what he ordered? If not, that made it ten times worse!
I had a 'friend' who wanted lunch. I don't drink first of all. She said, let's split Fajitas, first friend red flag. Then she had 4 cocktails. And 4 separate ears of corn. Her half was a lot more. But, she expected 50/50. Bad friend, got rid of her.
My daughter and her husband met in college, both broke students. They talked about it from the start and always got separate checks. Whoever asked the other to an event, ie movie, museum , etc, paid for the event, they still each paid for their own meal. Now that they're married, they split all common bills 50/50. Each pays their own credit card debt. They alternate paying for meals out. They have a small emergency fund (wedding money) that they borrow from and pay back.
A mature relationship has honest conversations.
I’m not marrying anyone I have to split bills 50/50. That’s a roommate, not a spouse. She better not have kids or she is going to be working while caring for children with minimal help. This is why marriages don’t work anymore. A marriage means you are doing everything together, not splitting bills with a roomie
@@Emjay_blackdogranchchill. You can do that if you get married lol
@@Emjay_blackdogranch I know couples that do split 50/50 then evolve as they start a family. If it continues AFTER having kids, that's a major issue if household labor isn't split equally too.
It's pretty easy to see if that's going to happen before having kids tho. Paying for 50% of everything AND doing most of the housework? That isn't going to change for the better.
@@Emjay_blackdogranch it’s not for everyone. Personal I agree with you, I’m the one that will possibly die during child birth. Not the man. And even if I choose not to keep it
@@Emjay_blackdogranchI mean my PARENTS do that and they are doing perfectly fine, so like Idk what to tell you.
As a married woman I have to thank all the "bad date" social media content for sparking a mutual renewed appreciation between my husband and I. Watching the sad sorted struggles of the dating community has also inspired a resurgence in our 'honeymoon phase' affections. I mean no disrespect by saying this. What I am saying is that I am grateful for my partner, who I met at a time in my life when I had given up on the opposite sex and dating in general all together. Our meeting was a happy accident. Your happy accident can happen at any time. Keep your heads up ladies. Don't give up on love. Somehow love will find you.
Same
lol same. I met my husband in college and didn’t have to troll through dating apps. One second I’m enjoying my ho phase and 3 months later I met my forever man. Thank GOD! I was a lucky bitch.
I am 50 and single, single, single, and loving it! I have not been on a first date in years. But the good thing about being this age, the first dates are MUCH MUCH nicer. Men dress to impress and I have even started dating a little younger, guys in their 40's! LOL!
The first story was brave being prepared to leave a strange man alone with her drink even for 3 seconds.
I think he got upset when she asked for WATER bc that lessened the likelihood that he was "gonna get some" at the end of the night. That's why *he was keeping score; so he could score later.*
'You owe me bc I bought you a taco & water' doesn't really fit into his dastardly plan, but if she was drunk...
That's the plan. If douche canoes couldn't count on a girl's tipsy sense of obligation they'd never get to score on the first date, and since they're never getting a second date they'd never get any at all!
That's what i thought too
Same
That's what I was thinking
These guys really think they deserve sex in exchange for bad company, a $30 comedy show, and a taco.
When I was younger and we kids wanted my mom to continuously do things for us, she said this one line that I'll never forget and I still use on others: *You have two hands and a heartbeat, do it yourself.*
Excellent!!! I am spreading that far and wide!!!
My dad would ask if our arms were painted on 😅
@SpaceMermaid86 lmao!
My mom always said ”you’ve got two feet and a heartbeat” or “I’m not your maid go get it yourself”
Man my thoughts went dark when he got mad when she asked for water. I thought he was mad because he couldn't hide the taste of drugs in the water. I am kinda glad that wasn't the normal thought pattern of the woman or Charlotte.
My brain went there too!
SAME, I was like dude is going to roofie your drink and was mad that you wanted water so he couldn't hide it
lol
He was going to drag her limp body out of the comedy show once they kicked in. Great plan.
Not necessarily even drugs, it could even just be the alcohol - I've heard a lot of stories of guys getting mad when a woman asks for something non-alcoholic or a food item that'd be cheaper than the drink, and the guy gets mad because his entire intention was to get her to drink and lower her inhibitions.
That doesn't make sense since she WANTED him to get her water! Now, if he got mad cause she wanted to go with him, that would be sus...
Gah, i totally feel the whole "thinking I'm gonna be single forever" thing. It had been 10 over 10 years since my last relationship, and it'd been years since I'd had so much as a second date. I had basically given up on dating over the course of last year. Then, I was in a play at church. Also in this play was a guy who I had thought was cute for years, but we'd never spoken before. Still, I figured he was in a relationship already or just not interested, so I stomped down any butterflies.
About a week after the play was over, he asked me out for coffee. To my surprise, after coffee he asked to see me again. Imagine my surprise when we went out a third time and he expressed interest in going out AGAIN.
We've been exclusive for a month now, and I am still shocked when I think about it. It feels like it happened out of the blue, but I'm very much enjoying it.
As a woman, on a first date, I would prefer my drinks, even water, either come from a server or get it myself. Too many people get roofied when they lose track of their own drink.
These Guys aren´t going on First Dates. They are running TESTS and think itś the correct approach to a relationship.
This comment!!!!👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
My first thought about the first date is that he overreacted to her asking him to bring her a water. A better way would have been for him to respond in a kind voice with something like "why don't we stretch our legs and go together?" The fact that he was offended instead was silly. She was right to walk out on that one. I'm so glad that I am 70 years old and don't have to play the dating games.
I am so excited for you and Mike, Charlotte. A long, healthy and happy life to you both. 💕
Or he could have just been nice and gotten her the water. He was going anyway.
1:48 getting some water is something that FRIENDS even do for each other
Like DUDE it isn’t that deep
That guy sounds annoying
This why I ALWAYS go Dutch on a first date. I often go Dutch on the first several dates. No expectations at all. Just your company. I also drive my own car to make sure I do not get left anywhere!! Men, please know, we are not all out for money.
I went on a date with this guy once who said "It rubbed him the wrong way" that I didn't want him to pay for me (him insisting on paying for me rubs ME the wrong way), got offended when I tried to explain my demisexuality to him and that I couldn't know this fast if I was attracted to him, acted like I was entitled for suggesting maybe we could go to the beach sometime (he assumed I expected him to drive us), and then when he spontaneously asks me to go on a walk at 2 am while I'm already high, and mind you I didn't know this man very well as we'd only met once, he decides that's the last straw and he's done with me.
Ughhhhhh, the demisexuality thing, yes. Why can't they wrap their minds around an emotional connection first?? That it takes TIME, and TRUST. I'm so glad you didn't accept that 2am offer; those are serious predator vibes 😬
If he couldn't even try to understand you being demisexual, than he wasn't worth your time. He doesn't even have to know exactly what it is, but it takes a 10 minute Google search and having a sliver of empathy to be open to dating someone who is. I learned the same if I told a guy I am Bisexual, and his first instinct was to make a threesome joke or something similar. Not worth another second of my time.
If a man asks if you are the type of woman to serve a man, tell him that one serves a king. Then ask him what his qualifications to lead your kingdom are. Take out a notepad or your phone and take notes. Because I guarantee you, none of these mofo’s these days are qualified to manage a doggie daycare, much less your life. I say this as an old woman who has seen ‘em come and go. Tell them you are looking for a partner to share your life with, not a king to rule over it. 💕
That's a great comeback!
Wise words
DAMN 🤣 That’s truly an excellent comeback. As a Black woman, I wish a 🤬 would ask if I served a man. Bro better consult the 13th amendment 📜
Not the way I hollered when I read "...doggy daycare..."😂😂
You are a MVP, French Fry!👍🏾
@@dluvscupcakes😅😅😅😅😅Facts😅
My rule is always first date is Dutch. Get coffee, get drinks, but don’t commit to a whole dinner without knowing if it’s going anywhere. If you hit it off, you can always expand the first date to include more but if you do dinner you’re now stuck
This is how you end up in low effort relationships. You can always leave a date whenever you want. You're never stuck.
Just do the screening BEFORE you agree to the date. Talk on the phone/video chat. This way, you already know you have a vibe BEFORE you leave the house.
@@TheArtPaigeyep, it's so unfortunate. Women do the opposite of what they need to do in order to get what they want. If you want a man who is a generous provider, who's going to treat you well, and value you, then you need to make space for him to do that.
You showing up and saying that you're going to pay for your date is going to run off any man who actually value you and it's going to attract Men Who to use you for your money. You are inadvertently communicating your insecurity and trauma. Make space for a man to provide for you. Always have your own bag but make space.
Real men understand that accessing a woman's energy is valuable. They are happy to put their best foot toward.
I had the worst dates because I didn't screen people before the date. I generally take a few days and a few video calls to decide if I want to meet. We exchange pleasantries. I also get him to affirmative state what he is looking for. I only agreed if they said they wanted a relationship. They could be lying, time will tell. I damn sure didn't swipe in the morning and then head on a date that night.
@@ineedhoez Some people aren't in person like they are over the phone/video calls though. They can be extremely nice and you get good vibes, then you meet them in person and it's hell in a handbasket.
This is why when I went on dates I would NEVER assume he’s paying and I made it super clear I was covering my own costs unless he insisted otherwise. Ugh that man who just left after she ordered needs to use his big boy words.
It’s always a red flag to me when a man wants to conveniently meet at a location close to their home because it tells me they’re not thoughtful about me and second they use that as a ploy to get you to come over afterwards. Don’t fall for it.
One of the best dates I ever had was simply walking around with a guy. We met on Tinder, linked up, and went walking through the neighborhood and along the beach. We sat on some rocks and got rained on and made out. The whole thing cost $0 and I happily went back to his place after. Money really is no substitute for personality.
Just an FYI, Ive been married 40+ years, and he still opens the door for me, pulls out my chair, etc. Ive been blessed ❤
So adorable ❤
Almost 14 years here, but my husband is the same. I'm very blessed.
Married 35 years and my husband also always considers me. So glad I am not dating today.
18 yrs married here, and same. He goes & gets the food, drinks, and any other typical thing. He does everything for me without even asking. Even after 18 years.
Tomorrow is 38 years for me and my husband. I have been blessed!❤ Make no mistake, it’s been life, but he’s always been by my side. He’s an exceptional handy man, he can fix anything and does which also means I don’t get anything new. 😅
The food shaming story ... he was dirty that she was meeting her friend after, and so any post dinner "romance" was off the table and everything went downhill from there.
I serve my man sometimes, I set out his clothes, fix his lunch, but it's because he does the same for me. I had Sunday off and didn't lift a finger or butt cheek off the couch. 3 homemade meals and fresh juice all day. That's how you get a woman to serve you! Do for her and she will do for you.
I actually heard something that resonated with me, whatever you give a woman she returns 10x
That's not really 'serving', that's give and take which is healthy.
I love how you said “your man” not someone you’re dating or just met.
Coffee dates make the best first dates. Before dark.. in public.. perfect.
NOPE
@TheArtPaige I mean, that's your opinion, but I met hubs for coffee 16 years ago...
@@TheArtPaige
YUP. The only people who have a problem with that.. are people looking to get something out of you. You seem to be that kind of person lol.
The not sharing popcorn then having her walk you to you bus stop is crazy😂 then you asked for another date??BOLD asf 😂
14:36 its not about the money. Its the fact that she was eating the amount she wanted to eat. He was probably expecting her to order a salad or something small
lmaoo yes the stereo types
Maybe, thats a good point 😂
He expected her to want a salad, so the £100 covered both meals
@@AlissaSss23 except he didn't eat anything. And I don't know of anyone other than a douchbag that would go to a restaurant that's $100 a person on a first date. It was never about the money. It was about control. He saw that she did not give a shit, figured out real quick that nagging her about the amount of food she got wasn't bothering her at all, and dipped because he couldn't find an insecurity that he could latch onto and neg her about that would have her crawling for his attention and affection. He's a shit person who only wanted a submissive woman that he could control.
I thought the same - I thought he was “food shaming” her and was saying she was eating too much food, should be ordering salad, a smaller amount of food etc. I didn’t think about the cost. Also, how much money was the total bill because I figured $100 sounded like a large percentage of the bill (ignoring the needing an uber home part). If it was about the money, why didn’t he just skip out on the whole bill and be a complete jerk about the bill AND the uber home?
8:45 lets have a back bone ladies like the first girl. Leave when they show blatant disrespect
My best friend tried so hard to get me on dating to meet a guy. She told me thats the only way to find people and got so frustrated with me when I refused. I told her my man will come to me because I refused to try dating. Manifested it too, met my husband at my acupuncture clinic. So happy to have him and to never go through the horrors of dating
Awesome story but one question?
And I'm not being rude...
Didn't you still "date" your husband before he became your husband?
@@SonjaElizabethTealI think they mean actively searching for a relationship type of dating, meeting their person more ‘naturally’
I’ve been with my bf for 8 months (9 on feb.12th) and I’m going to AZ for a week to see him; he said jokingly that I’m gonna have to leave on Tuesday bcuz he’s gonna be broke buying me anything I want(he offered to do so) but I said I’m not going to let him spend too much on me no matter how much he wants to. He communicated that he doesn’t have much which IS OKAY. Guys, some women want money but others just want to spend time with a potential bf! Communicate your spending plans before!
1:29 he was DEF planning on putting something in her drink…. It probably makes water cloudy
3:00 Date Over!
Yaassss. Dude straight up asked her to be his mommy! Gross!
Immediately. Stand up and gtfo. No words, no argument. Just get up and go.
My first date with my husband was at his place with his roomate and the rm's gf. We sat on the couch and watched Doctor Who and slowly moved our arms closer till we were holding hands 🤣🤣 ive been looking for that awkward sweetness ALL MY LIIIIIIIIIFE!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
Show off! No but seriously this is so cute
This is ADORABLE!!
The first story alone makes celibacy sound AH MAY ZING!!
celibacy is peace, honestly. the other day I thought "why I was having all this drama last year at the same tim.... oh... I was dating. right." I prefer peace, thank you.
Serving is something that happens in a restaurant. Relationships are give and take. Until that man learns this little fact, he will be perpectually single.
20:27 if you don’t like the person pay for ONLY YOUR PORTION.
The same men who want women to be submissive stay-at-home wives are the same ones who complain when I woman expects chivalry on the first date. Like pick one! You want us to be submissive? Then expects us to be helpless. You want us to pay for you? Then expect us to be strong, independent women who have expectations for how we’re treated.
I always got the idea from those types that they are looking for something very very specific (and not always a relationship) and get pissy when the person falls short.
Am I single? Yes. Will I be dating anytime soon after this? Absolutely not.
AB.SO.LUTELY....NOOOT!! 👏
It's why I have been single for a decade. In not interested in games and taking care of a grown child. The dating scene has changed, without a doubt. People feel they have so many options, it's truly sad. Nah I'll enjoy being single and doing my own thing when I feel like😂😅
@@CaremmnI've dated two man children in the past decade..friends first..but they seem sooooo exhausting..
In a loving relationship, BOTH partners spoil each other and do nice things for the other. It isn't the 1950s.
this is why my rules are: i don't do just drinks, i will not choose a location close them, always take your own car, and NEVER arrive first so you don't get bamboozled like the movie theater girl was.
20:17 *THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I DATE!* If I don't like a guy, I 100% will not let him pay for a date. If I do not want to go out with him again, I will always pay for myself.
Not only do I consider it fair, but I don't want to add to the bitter narrative of, "She just used me for dinner", (not that it's only guys who say this, I had a woman say this to me last October about a single drink she bought for me) even if he's the one who invited me out. I won't agree to go unless I have enough to cover my portion, just in case I really don't want to see him again.
If I do want to see him again, I am okay with letting a guy pay for a first date if he offers.
I don't care what anyone says. I'm a single lady with two cats and i love it😂❤
Two dogs, two cats here. Better than any man I've ever met😂
Giiiiirl saaaaaaaaaaaameeeee and I'm so happy 😂😂😂😂😂
My cat and succulent plants.
@@AuroraPaintBrush4444Succulent Plants ❤
I’ve been single for 15 years,and so much happier with just me and my dog! ❤️🐶
I always pay for my own meal on the first date. It can be expensive for men/women to keep paying. And never to my home until I'm comfortable. Also, tell the date why I paying for my own meal.
(the truth is I don't want them to feel I owe them anything)
My approach is, unless I do not intend on going out with them again, where I will insist on splitting the bill, taking turns feels the most natural for me.
Not a penny pinching but fair arrangement that feels communial. Unless there is a massiv unevenness in what is orsered or other agreed upon arrangement.
Once I let a guy pay for me, cause I already payed for a train to be able to see him and he kinda owed me for sonething, in any other case I would have only allowed it under the agreement of I pay next time.
But to be fair, most often I go out with friends.
Your approach makes a lot of sense to me
Honestly, it’s just scary if you don’t know the guy. Some guys really believe you should sleep with them after they buy you a meal.
When I was dating, I would let the guys pay but I would only have us go to places that I could afford just in case they didn't want to pay. I didn't want to be at some fancy place I couldn't afford and be stuck with a bill.
@@MalcolmReynoldsQuotes LOL, What you SHOULD do is, make SURE that YOU pay for the meal on the first date, and then demand that they "change your oil," or "mow the lawn," or "fix the kitchen sink," because after all, YOU bought them a meal!!! "See? How does THAT feel?"
I wonder what these guys would do if they were invited over to someone’s house for a dinner and then at the end of the dinner .. they are presented with a grocery reciept and they must pay half .
Uuuuh! Excellent comparison! 👌🏻
Great analogy
Not only that, that they were accused of only be there for the food!
8:19 the way my jaw dropped 😂😂🤣 I’m still picking it up
7:40 I would have excused myself to get popcorn and left the theater with my popcorn.
5:23 The irony of Fresh and Fit is that they constantly give out "relationship" "dating" advice but the only women they date are from Sugar Daddy sites 😂
The irony is people that universally criticize podcasts usually never actually listen to them
@@louisenglish8069I'd like to see an "alpha male" podcast made by a happily married man XP new flash, you can't all be the alpha.
yes! that always confused me, like do they really think they’re in any position to give advice when their relationships are all based on a transaction?
@@louisenglish8069that’s because they don’t really say anything that substantial. It’s evident from listening even couple minutes
@alysamoon9234 Oh, so they're the only ones. Uh, this entire video is describing transactional "relationships." Christ, all mighty.
Girl, for those of us that have followed you for "a bit" were SHOCKED when you came out with Mike lol we saw your commentary on your dates/men and videos of others you related to. When you told us, we knew he had to be "special" lol now to see you and he planning a wedding, should give others hope😁❤
This is such a sweet message. I'm glad she found someone too.
6:49 I feel like the first guy was hoping she was gonna drink alcohol. I think she dodged a bullet.
Had the same thought.
I’m sure. He wanted her defences down.
Because you can taste roofies can’t you? So water would be like a bad vessel for it like idk
@@charleycarr9320 You can taste it in most drinks since it's makes the drink super salty, but if you aren't prepared for it, it's easy to miss. I'd bet actually money that her getting water saved her
@ it’s important to know that most of the time when someone spikes a drink it’s just more alcohol. And they don’t even think of it as spiking. They’ll just say ‘make that one a double’ and think they are very charming and clever, rather than predatory.
6:03 I serve my husband but it is because HE SERVES ME TOO! We serve each other… that is what marriage is about, sacrifice out of love for each other and it makes us both happy.
People gotta be wary of the "Let's Split it" Scam. Which is pretty much, lets say you and a friend go out to eat. The bill comes to 100$, you are going to split the bill 50/50 but you only ate 30$ worth and your friend ate the other 70$, your friend just scammed you out of 20$ pretty much.
That guy wants a submissive catering woman but he is such a "good provider" that he buys her one frickin' taco and feels overwhelmed???! 😂 Isn't it funny that it's usually the men who cannot deliver much that have the most unthinkable expectations?!
I’m am so happy that I found my soulmate so soon after my first failed marriage. We met on TikTok. We are now married with a beautiful baby.
CONGRATULATIONS ×2 😂♥️♥️
Jealous of you lol
But honestly congratulations!
You go girl!!❤❤
Congrats!! My husband and I met in an online D & D group. We'll be married 26 yrs this Halloween. 😁
Nooooo whomever asks pays unless it’s established we are paying for our own. I get wanting to date on a budget, but have a conversation about it!! Let me be prepared to be able to do that. Like we can go on a picnic if you want, we don’t gotta be crazy about it.
That’s the rule I think is best! That way you can invite within your own budget.
I was saying above....that I thought...it's always been if I ask you out...then it's assumed I'm paying. If I said to you. Hey Erik, I'm enjoying talking with you and getting to know you better, can I take you to dinner? That means can I treat you to dinner....right? Vice versa
I'd be pretty impressed if a dude brought a simple picnic! Could eat almost anywhere on a budget! But if you invite me and pick the place, dinners on you!
i hate this way of thinking “whoever asks pays” because it’s almost always the guy who is asking, can we think of a different reason than that please?
@ that’s just dating 101. That was and has been the rule. If you can think of something better than, having a grown up conversation and saying; “I’ll pay my half”, then by all means, bestie! I’m all for new innovations.
4:12 obviously we don’t know for sure but I’d bet this incredible woman had spent at least an hour getting ready. Hair, makeup, choosing an outfit. Possibly some bodily hair removal, hopefully not an everything shower 😅
Meanwhile - he’s used his 3 in 1 shower goop, put on his usual pair of jeans & a tshirt that doesn’t smell too bad..
If we’re keeping track… he’s still in debt.
Also - placing bets he told his friends that she left because she knew she wasn’t ‘good enough to serve him’ 🤢
The woman on 16:00 made the situation worst. Why go dinner date if not hungry? Also open your mouth and say what you pay. Very simple.
*“Joey doesn’t share food!”*
😂😂😂😂
This had me cackling 🤣
If you want to date a lady you gotta be a gentleman and the other way around.
Also hi and lots of love from Switzerland ❤
That man who left $100 and left did that because he realized he wasn't gonna have sex with her. He was hoping to get a hook up from a date, and not just have a date.
And I don't know what restaurant they are going to but $100 should cover the drink, appetizer, and meal for 1 person. I can't imagine what restaurant costs $100 per person unless it is a michelin star restaurant.
Exactly what I was thinking about the 100$. Everyone acting like he was cheap. He was weird, yes, but he probably still covered her food, so...enjoy a solo dinner, that might even be better than a bad date
Yeah I want to see the final bill for the total cost.
If he only had a drink - assuming alcohol - that more than covers his drink. I ought to cover her meal or at least most of it. Maybe that was the budget he had. And he figured her dinner, app, and drink went over the line. Anyway, he opted out. Oh, well. Probably he was just as uninterested as she was.
I've seen this woman on other venues, only part of the story was on here. She ordered 6 meals and expected him to pay for it. I would have been not so nice too. Talk about being taken advantage of, I'd say that he dodged a bullet by leaving and way too nice for leaving $100
@@beckylandpoll 6 meals??? How...was she going to eat them all, while he sat there watching her gobbling it down? My partner said he went on a date with this woman, don't know if it was first or second date, it was for brunch (because he loves brunch); she had fried egg on toast, and put the WHOLE piece of toast and egg into her mouth. His horrified expression describing it...lmao. "Opened her mouth up like an anaconda, and put the whole lot in, in one mouthful..." Last date. He skedaddled over the horizon...
6:16 - Women have for decades declared they are strong, empowered and independent. Men have listened and adapted; if women don't like it then watch are there are more and more of them asking "where are all the good men?". Also, women chose the bear so... enjoy! They don't get to pick the best of traditionalism whilst also trying to pick the best of modernity as this is not some kind of "values buffet"; modern men are simply not going to accept it.
She should have given him the Claire Huxtable treatment. "If you don't drop this macho attitude, you're not gonna have anybody bringing you anything ANYTIME ANYWHERE EVAHHHH!"
In Brasil 🇧🇷 where I’m from we call em cheapskates “Pão Duro” which is our word for spatula: they’re so cheap they scrape every single morsel off the container. Nothing left. 🙈 7:55
Que vergonha alheia desse tipo de pessoas😅
@ você tem que admitir que a nossa língua tem umas palavras perfeitas pra descrever muitas situações 😂
Love this! 😂
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@@phaedrapage4217 obrigada ☺️
I was so tired of dating and almost cancelled my first date with my now husband because of my fatigue. So happy I decided to go on that date ❤
I'm so grateful these videos are around to TEACH THE YOUTH all these faux pas. I didn't have a Charlotte telling me to value myself and shouting at my dates to "HAVE SOME DECORUM", but I wish I had. DOING THE LORD'S WORK.
I had a guy on a first date get upset that I wouldn't get out if car an pump gas into his car 😂 I thought he was kidding at first, it was the most crazy thing ever on first Date, he actually got mad.
Ive been married for 38 years(married at 21) and if something happened to my guy I would NEVER date. Single til I die. All these stories I see on here have solidified it for me.