Not a con artist but I used to do some work in victim support and con artists DO depend on you being too embarrassed to tell anyone you got scammed, which is why it's so important to talk loudly about it and NEVER shame anyone who has confided in you
I was going to say the same. They do know it's embarrassing to admit you fell for it, especially if they got your money. They count on or hope you won't tell people or search for other victims because you're embarrassed.
While I do feel bad for people taken advantage of, and especially feeling bad if it is your parent but I think people need to see a breaking point and lessons learned. At some point you need to not feel bad and even shame these people after spending months to years debunking, finding evidence, PI's. All that time and money to help them shoved in your face, then no I am not sorry your about to be homeless, no you cannot move in.
In a way yes. Grown up people have to look after themselves and take responsilility for their own mistake. Yet the "not shaming them" is a key to not empower further con-artists imo
yes absolutely!! people dont want to admit it happened to them, so these people don't get exposed. smart people call for scams too. they use all kinds of emotional tactics
It’s actually pretty common - even worse is when the victims double down and insist that they weren’t actually swindled, but that “it’s a long term investment” or “he’s really a great guy” because shame is a powerful motivator. It’s especially common amongst conspiracy theorist groups, and how they can get radicalized into basically being cults
i always recall that story where the guy kept negging his girlfriend, and when she dumped him and demanded to know why..he said his dad told him that insulting a woman "keeps her insecure enough to never leave" 😮
"Wow, you _actually_ look good today!" "Oh, your face is so pretty for a fat girl." "It's a good thing you're so pretty." "Oh, you can do [x]. I don't think it will be too hard, even for you." "I would not have the confidence to wear THAT!" "Oh, your cute little knitting hobby is so nice." "You're so good at [insert feminine activity]. Maybe one day you'll learn a real skill!" "The WNBA? They're good, but I'd rather watch a real sport." "Wow, you did [x] so well! Who helped you with it?" "Are you really going to eat all of that? Are you sure?" "You'd look better if you started shaving your face." So many examples.
I was crying one time because i felt ugly that day so my ex comforted me by saying i was a lot closer to being 10 out of 10 than he was 😂 i didnt feel better
Me and my husband met online. On our first in person date he literally gave me his driver's license, his home address, and his work address so I could feel comfortable. Even waited a minute while I texted everything to my mom. Sometimes I'm not a fan of his mother- but she taught him right. How men like this exist baffles me. I'm so lucky to have a gentleman like my husband and wish that on every woman!❤
I met a dude online who did the same, showing me his info (license, credit card app, bank statements, having me around his mother and children, only to find out he was a crazy, broke, user. Glad it was over quick!
This is why scientists have proven that gossiping is a good thing! There are places all over the world where crime is so low because everyone gossips. It’s a great way to warn people and stay safe - especially for women.
To be honest, gossip has saved me from MANY and I mean MANY potential heartbreaks. “He’s married” “He lives with his baby’s mother” “He was on a date with his girlfriend just yesterday” No thanks BUH BYE 😂. And for the nit picky ones, every single gossip was accurate either confirmed through recent posts on social media after some stalking 😂 or google search his phone number OR just confront them with the truth and when they get way too defensive…you know it’s TRUE😂
That's why the patriarchy has worked SO HARD to brand gossiping as negative. Even in times where women have seemingly no power at all over their own lives there remains this one thing. Talking to each other, supporting each other. Gossiping saves lives
Another sign that CD is a real kindred spirit. I've walked around public armed since 2016. The pandemic-induced mass hysteria only made me more paranoid and distrustful of strangers.
I did a background check on our oldest daughter’s partner! They started getting serious and I just looked at my hubby and said ‘I’ll be in my office.’! He knew exactly what I was doing. I’ve the credentials and security clearance to find out when someone passes gas let alone anything else. The partner came out clean on all but past relationships: a bit immature, controlling, very spoiled and was still living in his mum and dad’s house at 30, despite having a well paying job. We never said anything to our daughter, as she isn’t in any immediate danger and telling her has the potential to push her more into the relationship. I did have a nice wee chat with the lad though. I thought it went well, especially after he vomitted! 😂😂 They are still together, 2 years later but not living together. Youngest already knows I’m doing the same with her and she’s glad!
@@Sorchia56I will say with housing costs, do you blame a lad for saving funds? If he’s paying rent/utilities or helping out around the house, I don’t see an automatic red flag.
I take the “trust but verify” tack. I will trust someone up to a point at first but I will start collecting red flag behaviors and if it hits a certain threshold, I will investigate further before committing to anything. Anything someone says, I assume could be a lie, because people lie. Doesn’t mean it makes someone a bad person and it might not be a big lie but trust nothing of what you hear and only half of what you see is a good rule of thumb.
I swear I don't get it I'm 64 I've been single for about 15 years first single doesn't need to mean lonely second nopeity nope no way I would ever fall for these love bombing swindlers
This happens so often. The Catfished channel on RUclips tries to stop it. Some of these people think they are talking to rich people stuck overseas or actual celebrities. They go bankrupt sending them all of their money. I’m amazed they can be so blind to the scam. They are usually old or just incredibly lonely. Some are just plain dumb.
I like how the lady with the bachelor party dude pointed out every single crossroad on the way of her *tour de taking every single wrong decision*, even emphasising how the other option was clearly the one she should have been taking. 😂 "I didn't feel it, he was annoying, we wanted to leave early because of him, something was off - So next day I met up with him.."
Yes zero sympathy for her if she whores herself out for drinks and the expensive cover charge place, doesn’t like him and keeps using him. SHE is a con artist too. 😂
Yeah she enjoyed knowing he was chasing her and enjoyed getting to tell his mrs how much he wanted her she was for sure giving some green lights along the way the first thing the guys said told you everything you needed to know come on you just wanted drinks attention and drama girl bye
@@frosty818 I agree that she enabled this behavior, but I'm glad his spouse was informed that he'd probably be a serial cheater. That he was lying, and if you're lying to other people AND your partner.... you dont deserve a partner. So while that OP definitely picked selfish ulterior motives, it's good he got exposed.
Yeah, she's definitely not conveying the "I'm not that kind of girl" vibe and using men. His behavior in using and lying to 2 women? WAY worse. Hot girl groups drink for free. That's on the men reinforcing their behavior, IMO. As a woman, I just don't want to hear you complaining about why we get paid less when you're out here expecting men to fund your life. STILL makes that guy the piece of crap in this situation.
RE: Fraudster overseas: Contact the local constabulary ASAP! If your local laws won't support intervention, try the ones near your MIL. If that were my Mom, I'd be contacting them immediately
Also if you're in the US many local authorities have offices concerning elder abuse in it's various forms obviously they can't intervene in a foreign country but they can give advice and tips
Tell your country's Embassy in Kenya that your mother needs a wellness check because she's been scammed out of $200K and you are worried about her safety. What will happen to her there when she runs out of money because the guy isn't running out of sob stories and get-rich-quick phony ' business deals.' Maybe a mental and physical health check and viewing the police record of this crook would open her eyes. Or not. You know, if she gets outta Kenya, she'll land on your doorstep, homeless and penniless.
It sounded like she posted bail for him because he "didn't do it"...... whatever it was that he was in jail for. Meemaw is getting wrung dry and she won't see the facts. @joansamuels3241
That's adorable 😂 heads up that by 4 they might not think it's funny, my daughter said she doesn't like me as a roommate either because I make her eat vegetables
Me and my daughter were just talking about her 10 month old "roommate" the other day. She's got her days and nights mixed up and eats everything she can get in her mouth, but she makes us smile. Aren't babies wonderful little creatures! 😊
Girl, even when you point out where you had to cut, I *STILL* can't see anything wrong with your fabulous hair. If anything, Mike helped complete your look lol 😊
I can’t tell you how many seniors I work with that STILL are falling for scams. I constantly have to tell them, “no, that’s not real. Your bank doesn’t need your SSN, they already have it.”
To be fair, if it never worked no one would do it. The challenge is that anyone who would fall for it has got a lot of issues. You are filtering out the women you could actually build a relationship.
She said 'did the kiss seem like it wanted to go further?' I don't think a person that is likely to leave a relationship would ask how far the cheating went. They texted. That's all the proof you need. Why you need to know if it was more than a kiss😅
@@DotpeachblossomsI would also just need to know how far it went for my own piece of mind. Don’t want to be wondering what *might* have happened Plus, when the guy tries to deny it, you will have evidence because you have as much detail as you can possibly have
Last story: I agree with Charlotte wholeheartedly. Grab your purse ladies! We all need to book a flight to Kenya and stage an intervention! And plan the ultimate revenge against the swindler!
The scammer issue is so bad... my grandmother (rest her soul) fell for MANY scammers/scams. No one could get through to her. She wouldn't listen to us. State and local police and FBI visited her to show her that they were scammers. She stayed in her delu-lu state of mind. No family mattered to her... we were all evil to her. The last 6 years of her life, she wouldn't spend time with us or cared to reach out to us. Oof... I'm sorry for anyone dealing with this.
i'm sorry but your grandma might have had legit dementia. Sometimes it's not the memory issues that come first - but the BEHAVIORAL issues! they turn aggressive and think the whole world and their family is against them.
@NorthernShinigami When we were still her guardians, we had her evaluated. There was nothing to indicate that she had dementia or Alzheimer's. She was stubborn because she knew that we were right. She didn't want us to be. Her husband, my grandfather, passed away 7 years ago. He had advanced Alzheimer's. I remember his behaviors, then the memory loss. It was a difficult time for everyone.
Pay attention to key words in sentences for example “We are single THIS weekend” implying when the weekend is over or any other day they are not single
My first bf would regularly joke about me being ugly and since I didn't have any other relationship experience or high self-esteem at the time, it got to me and one day I called him out and told him it's very hurtful. He immediately got defensive and said he didn't mean to hurt me this much, just bring me down a notch because I'm actually pretty or else it would be really mean to call someone ugly ugly, he was just "putting me in my place". Honestly, a load of bs either way, didn't even last 2 months cause he couldn't properly communicate or talk to another person and head to use "techniques and strategies" to get me to like him and stay which I was already doing. It's a shame cause he was actually a pretty funny and creative guy and I hope he'll find his way.
There was a guy I dated once a few years ago who was hanging around the house one day when my Mom, Dad, and brother were also there. I don’t even remember how this came up because we were talking about something completely unrelated but he randomly says “This is what I thought you looked like when we first met”…and proceeds to pull up a picture on his phone of the wicked witch from the Wizard of Oz. I am stunned into silence and he is smiling and laughing showing the picture to my Mom and my brother who are also in shock. Dude is not reading the room at all thinking he’s being so hilarious when in reality my family is like “Is this guy for real” 💀 I went in the bathroom and tried not to cry while he also goes to find my Dad to show him the picture too. I found out later the reason he said that is because I have kind of a sharp nose which is what he was comparing me to I guess. When we first started dating he used to say stuff like “you’re hot” and “you’re too attractive for me” and stuff like that. Like if you genuinely don’t think I look like a model that’s fine but don’t say fake compliments and then drop something like that thinking it’s gonna be funny… especially when he thought it was gonna get a laugh out my family at my expense. Glad to not be in that relationship anymore lmao 😂👋
"bring you down a notch"?? "Put you in your place"??? Who does this guy think he is??? If he was that intimidated, he shouldn't have dated you. What a bitch!
“Assume everyone is a murderer or married”……THIS. 100% This. The first guy I dated after my husband passed away ended up being married WITH KIDS and I found out 6 months into the relationship when I got a super fun phone call from his wife…..who is now a good friend of mine😂😂
Alot of con artists will count on their victims being too embarrassed to tell others, especially ones who have fallen victim to love fraud. You'd be suprised how many people wont want to admit that they fell for a scammer.
The lady in the second story is very good at dodging accountability. She's like. "They felt fishy and weird, but free drinks and exclusive clubs so YOLO. Also, I will make out with fishy weird dude due to free stuff, but how dare he assume I am the type of girl who would sleep with him."
Yeah, I’ve known a few girls like that. Even the way she dresses is similar. Pretty casually cruel when it came to the guys fighting for their attention. The guys were usually jerks, too, though.
Love the shift from old videos where you say I know you are lonely... Im lonely tooo.... To 'I know you might be lonely, I have been there' especially after the mike saved your hair story😅
Charlotte is getting more and more cynical day by day . her sacrifice for educating us about the pitfalls of modern life will forever be immortalized in RUclips history . 🙂
"Forgot to mention that those roommates came from your bodily fluids." GIRL you can't just drop that on me as I'm literally drinking tea, my poor shirt 😂
At 11:30 😂😂😂 she stated that we talk and were going to key key Kah Kah. But..maybe not Kahkah on vacation caught me off guard. How true is that on vacation and you can't 💩. 100%facts
The MIL in Kenya, try canceling her credit cards and a hold on her bank suspecting fraud, if this was my relative I may have to break some laws by pretending to be her and cancel all her access to funds anything to get her home.
@@christiannadingman2802 yes that is the point, then her family could arrange to get her home and purchase a plain ticket for her, then wire her just enough funds to get home. But only if she comes home. If this guy is so great he will take care of her and there will be no problem. It helps in two way by showing her who he really is and getting her home.
As a Kenyan I'm so bamboozled and gobsmacked. What? He is lying to her and making her so afraid of nothing. Nairobi is big but easy to get around, she can use an Uber. Kisumu has addresses so people can navigate the city. I feel so bad for her and worried.
One of my best friends fell for 1 of those overseas scams last year, he got taken for about $300k. He racked-up so much debt. He passed away a cpl weeks after telling his partner about it. To this day, I honestly can't say if he passed from natural causes or if he was too embarrassed to fully face what 'he'd done'. I know his partner was supportive and expressed how much he loved him but... I honestly don't know! My kitty died 1 Friday, My friend passed the following Friday and my Gramma passed the week after my friend. Last summer was ROUGH! *YOUR VIDS WERE A DELIGHTFUL DISTRACTION CHARLOTTE! THANK YOU* ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Oh damn that sounds so rough know that we are a community of strangers bound together by the Potato Queen we really care sincerely sending hugs and good thoughts
@@ellemmenn2930 thank you very much! I'm about ½ way through the 'year of firsts' I still have the really tough days but they're fewer and further these days. Again, thank you for your kindness! 💕
@@janetcallanan7020 thank you sis! I went to call my gramma last week 🥺 was like a kick to the gut when I realized what I'd done. I have learned to be kinder, through Charlotte, her vids and thru comments from people like y'all! I used to assume everyone was out to attack first-understand later but that's really not the case! "Those people" are just a lot louder sometimes but it doesn't mean there's more of them. Thank you for being a reminder of the good that's 'out there'!
The MIL story reminds me of a romance scam involving a Canadian grandma. She flew to Ethiopia, and waited for weeks in a hotel room but the boyfriend didn’t show. He said he was busy working in Hong Kong and told her to join him. 2 men showed up with suitcases full of “gifts” that the boyfriend bought her. Most of the gifts were dresses that had a ridiculous amount of buttons sewed on. The grandma got stopped by Hong Kong police for drug trafficking. She stayed in a HK prison for years. An elderly priest in HK who was was familiar with the romance/smuggling scheme worked to free her. Look up “Canadian grandma smuggles cocaine buttons”. Scary.
I looked it up and they dropped the case against her after 9 months. Thank God! Still feel really bad for her but at least she wasn’t in there for years
The hair part, for some reason i thought that it would be an add for hair products😂 Charlotte your hair is gorgeous, we need petty merch for hair too. 😂❤
That last story appeared to be 2 yrs old, but I like the sentiment, "We ride at dawn!" 💪🏻🏇 Send the cavalry! I love the idea of horde of women hopping on planes, trains, cars, boats, or even via Skype for those of us who physically or financially can't travel, to get together to rescue other women in need! We need more of that. Let's build a supportive community here. ❤ If nothing else, I've got y'alls backs emotionally. 😅
I saw a story of someone's grandmother who fell for one of these scams and was not only trafficked, but they stole every cent from her credit cards and completely drained her bank accounts.
"I own multiple businesses, but give me money" Me: well, you can be owning several failing businesses, so technically he could be telling the truth on that front
Charlotte, you dont even know how much these videos mean to me! I have had to watch one of your videos to be able to fall asleep for 1 year now! Thank you for being you💗💗
"WE RIDE AT DAWN!" I had an instant vision of Charlotte leading us into battle like a red haired warrior. Queen of the petty potatoes, I will ride with you! Lol
Actually for a lot of women it's hard to talk about being romance conned, they feel ashamed about it. Good for this woman for never mistakenly taking on the dude's shame. Got a lot people help and prevented future issues.
As soon as the guy said he didn't want to live with his roommates, I knew he was married with kids 🤣 Gosh this world... poor babies and wife. 😔 Also, your reaction to the blonde with the rockin bod was basically everyone's initial reaction I think. You spoke for us all 😂
If a guy is calling you his "vacation girlfriend" and you don't like that and think he's "an annoying little gnat" then WHY do you keep talking and hanging out with him? What is wrong w some people??? Personally I enjoy being brutally honest w people and it's really done me wonders my 32 years on Earth, I may have even taken some people down a peg or two who severely needed it, lol. That chick was straight up leading the guy on going along w being called his "vacation girlfriend" and meeting him everywhere.
Yeahh, I normally try not to be judgey in these situations (especially when the dudes are such big assholes) but it seems pretty clear that she was going along with it for free booze. Not cool to use guys like that.
I commented something similar but when she said “she’s not that kind of girl” about not sleeping with him, I couldn’t. 🤦♀️ I’d rather a friend hook up with someone on a trip and call it good rather than bring him around/follow him around all weekend while claiming to not be into him? Glad she messaged the fiance tho and that guy sucks.
OMG, that last one was worrying. First, file a report with the Nairobi police, request they see if this man is married. He most likely is. His 24/7 job isn't at a hotel kitchen, but at a call centre. These centres are often gang affiliated (at least in different African states, but might be diff. in Kenya). Talk to the MiL's bank, transferring funds overseas is usually tracked. Get that documented then get an attorney to help file for power of attorney. With her behaviour it's likely that she's unable to say no to this man, these scammers are adept at getting money from the elderly, though this is a rare instance of them taking it to the extreme. A good thing is that once he burns through her money (and gets divorced) he will probably marry her to get a visa. Once he reaches the US and realises he can't get money from the family, he's going to go looking for other targets. These types of scams are documented, with elderly men and women. It's really sad.
You mean different African Countries. Not African States. Kenya is an independent country. The African continent has 54 countries as defined by the UN.
Many times, these irrational things seniors do are signs of dementia and/or mental health problems ( depression). If you contact authorities in this country or Kenya, tell them you have concerns that she has dementia. Any evidence you have of compromised cognition prior to the start of their " relationship " would be helpful.
@dawnchesbro4189 a state refers to a political unit with sovereignty over a given territory. (Thanks, Wikipedia). So the word "state" can refer to a country as well as a sovereign part of an overall country. You are referring to the second while the original commentary is about the first. So they are correct in their usage and there was no need to try to say they were mistaken.
Exactly right! If the MIL is stateside for a while, maybe Nev and Cami can talk to her. Chances may be slim to none, but watching their show, Carfished' is a good way to learn steps u can take to finally expose the scammer(s).
I'm Kenyan and a similar conman story has happened to a Kenyan lady before. Except for her the dude was a "successful" Kenyan guy living in the States and needed money for this and that and left the lady in so much debt. And he suspiciously had a 'sister' he was very close with too. Hope MIL stays safe and gets away from him, some conmen stories end very very badly.
@@nyamburathuku Haki, the fam should seriously make arrangements to come get her. Meemaw doesn't deserve the character development that Kisumu man has in store for her. Mapenzi jamani.
The “Kiki kaka” killed me so many times 😂😂😂😂😂I watch your new upload almost always when I getting ready to go out, this video played few times now already, because my settings is in autoplay, tho I know watched I just let play to have some background noises (I ENJOY IT )😂❤❤
Dont know how i started watching your videos but you are becoming one of my favorites. I always chuckle and think to mynself ohhh time to laugh at some juicy gossip stories lmao
I've heard that and "it's not cheating if we don't physically do anything!" the amount of mental gymnastics a lot of people try to pull to justify cheating is scary
That second girl definitely entertained this man's behavior which is just as bad. Even if it was for some free drinks. No ma'am. You are a contributor. If he said from the beginning "We're all single this weekend" then that should tell you they are in fact not single 😂😂
She had to know and the worst part is she was willing to go along with it for something as trivial as free alcohol for the weekend. She’s not innocent in this.
I am envious of this girl's makeup skills and her color contouring in the second video. I wished I have the same skills as her, I am not great at makeup and color contouring. I do mainly eyeshadow and mascara everyday.
I'm in Kenya! Let's get some investigation done. Anyway, thank you for your videos, I get to watch them before I turn in and you always make me smile. Thank you!
I’m also from Nairobi and we all know it’s not easy find a 40yr old man in Kenya who doesn’t have a family or two Maybe even he’s one of the mubabas out here😂😂
As someone who grew up near old town Scottsdale where all of the bachelor trip story happened, it’s very weird knowing the exact layout of the story and exactly where these places are 😂
For the scammer.. people feel ashamed because of their victimisation … it took a lot of courage for that young lady to share. And I’m glad it went viral so that the other victims were encouraged to do the same
omggg exactly at 6:00 I got an add about a resort, like, literally jjust when the tiktok girl said ''we are a ll single for this trip'' I am literally dying laughing rn
I think negging is more specifically an insult disguised as a compliment. "You're so pretty when your hair is clean," or "Your smile is so nice even if it is a bit crooked," for example. The intent is to attract you to a deeply undesirable person by lowering your self esteem 🙃
The first one though "you're so pretty when your hair is clean" most people are not that attractive when their hair and the rest of them is narly nasty and dirty and smelly This is just someone trying to give you hints that you need to have better hygiene. So up your hygiene game and thank them for that.
@@Otherrandomguy42 um, no. Context is important. The context here is when a guy is trying to come onto a woman and says some stupid shit like that. It was a hypothetical, by the way, in fact when I was trying to come up with examples I just kinda stole that one from a scene in the Big Bang Theory. But weird that you jumped right to making it personal, I think you have some issues.
The first man is so similar to my first ex, I was a little worried it’s the same guy. The last story made me so angry. That is 100% a husband and wife (pretending to be his sister) scamming this old woman from the U.S. out of as much money as possible. He “works” 7pm to 7am, so he can go spend his nights with his wife and his kids that conveniently live with his “sister.” It’s all so transparent and ridiculous, how on earth could no one convince her of this? It also seems really unlikely that nothing could be done legally if she is 77. She could so easily be developing cognitive issues as she ages, and there are agencies that look out for the well-being of elderly people being harmed or stolen from.
You hit every single point I thought as well. A doctors visit could save this woman from herself. It’s unfortunate her kids didn’t force one when she came back.
I love the ad break after the "All of us are single this weekend", the ad was about "Les petits culottés" and can mean in slang "how dare they" 🤣 perfect timing
For the future and anyone else who gets a brush stuck in your hair. Use a rat tail comb put the tail part under the bristles and lift the hair. You won't have to cut your hair.
Im in nairobi kenya. She should give us his name we look for him or the poor meemaw. That man 100% has a wife( the sister) and kids. This won’t end well for the lady.😢
@@rebeccadawson6864Yes to the Aqua Net!!! Mine was the white can with pink lines lol. I just sprayed it then curled it. Sprayed the curl and blow dryed it. Then teased the heck out of it. Then I sprayed it and blow dried it 3-5 more times and walla I had a huge brown helmet that wasn’t going anywhere 😂😂😂 I can’t forget I also had a spiral perm with “sun kissed” highlights running through it 😉
Christmas Eve 2022, I was in the bathroom and had lit a candle on the vanity before getting a bath. My hair was in a ponytail and pinned on top of my head. I leaned over and the end of my ponytail caught the flame. I screamed for my mom (who was close by thankfully), and I had to unlock the door for her to come in. She was able to put out the flame in the sink, but I lost some of my hair. Not enough to be too noticeable, and it turned out afterward, that she had bought me some LED battery-operated candles for Christmas. lol
Oh god the siren sound effect turned on just as I drove up to the hospital, I thought an ambulance was next to me, nearly had a heart attack 😂😬🤣 (was listening to you talk, you're my road "podcast"😂)
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Not a con artist but I used to do some work in victim support and con artists DO depend on you being too embarrassed to tell anyone you got scammed, which is why it's so important to talk loudly about it and NEVER shame anyone who has confided in you
I was going to say the same. They do know it's embarrassing to admit you fell for it, especially if they got your money. They count on or hope you won't tell people or search for other victims because you're embarrassed.
While I do feel bad for people taken advantage of, and especially feeling bad if it is your parent but I think people need to see a breaking point and lessons learned. At some point you need to not feel bad and even shame these people after spending months to years debunking, finding evidence, PI's. All that time and money to help them shoved in your face, then no I am not sorry your about to be homeless, no you cannot move in.
In a way yes. Grown up people have to look after themselves and take responsilility for their own mistake. Yet the "not shaming them" is a key to not empower further con-artists imo
yes absolutely!! people dont want to admit it happened to them, so these people don't get exposed. smart people call for scams too. they use all kinds of emotional tactics
It’s actually pretty common - even worse is when the victims double down and insist that they weren’t actually swindled, but that “it’s a long term investment” or “he’s really a great guy” because shame is a powerful motivator.
It’s especially common amongst conspiracy theorist groups, and how they can get radicalized into basically being cults
"God I hate my roommate. I don't want to live with them anymore!"
"You mean your family?!"
"Yeah, they suck!" 🤣
I mean, there’s days I hate my roommates, er, spouse and teenaged child.
Omg the hair…. Help!!! Love you babes ❤️
I bet half of them don’t help on shores, leave their stuff everywhere and even shit their pants on the reg!
I know someone who re-narrated their past to make their ex of 15 years their roommate. I wonder how deeply that works inside the brain lol /s
Technically they are, just housemates instead of roommates.
Prime example of negging is ; you're so smart, for a girl
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Basically a backhanded compliment
i always recall that story where the guy kept negging his girlfriend, and when she dumped him and demanded to know why..he said his dad told him that insulting a woman "keeps her insecure enough to never leave" 😮
"Oh you actually look pretty nice this time." Is another good one. Or "yeah I guess that'll do"
"Wow, you _actually_ look good today!"
"Oh, your face is so pretty for a fat girl."
"It's a good thing you're so pretty."
"Oh, you can do [x]. I don't think it will be too hard, even for you."
"I would not have the confidence to wear THAT!"
"Oh, your cute little knitting hobby is so nice."
"You're so good at [insert feminine activity]. Maybe one day you'll learn a real skill!"
"The WNBA? They're good, but I'd rather watch a real sport."
"Wow, you did [x] so well! Who helped you with it?"
"Are you really going to eat all of that? Are you sure?"
"You'd look better if you started shaving your face."
So many examples.
Example I heard in a TV show once: "wow, your eyes are so blue! Almost . . . too blue, don't you think?"
I was crying one time because i felt ugly that day so my ex comforted me by saying i was a lot closer to being 10 out of 10 than he was 😂 i didnt feel better
Me and my husband met online. On our first in person date he literally gave me his driver's license, his home address, and his work address so I could feel comfortable. Even waited a minute while I texted everything to my mom. Sometimes I'm not a fan of his mother- but she taught him right. How men like this exist baffles me. I'm so lucky to have a gentleman like my husband and wish that on every woman!❤
I met a dude online who did the same, showing me his info (license, credit card app, bank statements, having me around his mother and children, only to find out he was a crazy, broke, user. Glad it was over quick!
@@anonymousdonor this is so weird, why would you trauma dump on someone's happy experience like that?
This is why scientists have proven that gossiping is a good thing! There are places all over the world where crime is so low because everyone gossips. It’s a great way to warn people and stay safe - especially for women.
Also we all love gossip. We do
We pretend like we don't. But here we are. Watching this video for that high quality TEA.
To be honest, gossip has saved me from MANY and I mean MANY potential heartbreaks.
“He’s married”
“He lives with his baby’s mother”
“He was on a date with his girlfriend just yesterday”
No thanks BUH BYE 😂.
And for the nit picky ones, every single gossip was accurate either confirmed through recent posts on social media after some stalking 😂 or google search his phone number OR just confront them with the truth and when they get way too defensive…you know it’s TRUE😂
I’m moving there ☕️
That's why the patriarchy has worked SO HARD to brand gossiping as negative. Even in times where women have seemingly no power at all over their own lives there remains this one thing. Talking to each other, supporting each other. Gossiping saves lives
Charlotte: “Assume everybody is a murderer.” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Another sign that CD is a real kindred spirit. I've walked around public armed since 2016. The pandemic-induced mass hysteria only made me more paranoid and distrustful of strangers.
I did a background check on our oldest daughter’s partner! They started getting serious and I just looked at my hubby and said ‘I’ll be in my office.’! He knew exactly what I was doing. I’ve the credentials and security clearance to find out when someone passes gas let alone anything else. The partner came out clean on all but past relationships: a bit immature, controlling, very spoiled and was still living in his mum and dad’s house at 30, despite having a well paying job. We never said anything to our daughter, as she isn’t in any immediate danger and telling her has the potential to push her more into the relationship. I did have a nice wee chat with the lad though. I thought it went well, especially after he vomitted! 😂😂 They are still together, 2 years later but not living together. Youngest already knows I’m doing the same with her and she’s glad!
@@Sorchia56I will say with housing costs, do you blame a lad for saving funds? If he’s paying rent/utilities or helping out around the house, I don’t see an automatic red flag.
I take the “trust but verify” tack. I will trust someone up to a point at first but I will start collecting red flag behaviors and if it hits a certain threshold, I will investigate further before committing to anything. Anything someone says, I assume could be a lie, because people lie. Doesn’t mean it makes someone a bad person and it might not be a big lie but trust nothing of what you hear and only half of what you see is a good rule of thumb.
OR MARRIED😂😂
Love how Charlotte is immediately like "WE GOTTA SAVE MEEMAW!" in the last story.
I really think that's who she really is just a beautiful soul
Meeemawwww 😂😂😂
We get a bunch of the backwoods rednecks coming out with their makeshift shotguns and rock bullets
I swear I don't get it I'm 64 I've been single for about 15 years first single doesn't need to mean lonely second nopeity nope no way I would ever fall for these love bombing swindlers
This happens so often. The Catfished channel on RUclips tries to stop it. Some of these people think they are talking to rich people stuck overseas or actual celebrities. They go bankrupt sending them all of their money. I’m amazed they can be so blind to the scam. They are usually old or just incredibly lonely. Some are just plain dumb.
Having 1 person in the family "agree" to keep contact is *so smart*
I like how the lady with the bachelor party dude pointed out every single crossroad on the way of her *tour de taking every single wrong decision*, even emphasising how the other option was clearly the one she should have been taking. 😂 "I didn't feel it, he was annoying, we wanted to leave early because of him, something was off - So next day I met up with him.."
Gotta get those free drinks!
Yes zero sympathy for her if she whores herself out for drinks and the expensive cover charge place, doesn’t like him and keeps using him. SHE is a con artist too. 😂
Yeah she enjoyed knowing he was chasing her and enjoyed getting to tell his mrs how much he wanted her she was for sure giving some green lights along the way the first thing the guys said told you everything you needed to know come on you just wanted drinks attention and drama girl bye
@@frosty818 I agree that she enabled this behavior, but I'm glad his spouse was informed that he'd probably be a serial cheater. That he was lying, and if you're lying to other people AND your partner.... you dont deserve a partner. So while that OP definitely picked selfish ulterior motives, it's good he got exposed.
Yeah, she's definitely not conveying the "I'm not that kind of girl" vibe and using men. His behavior in using and lying to 2 women? WAY worse. Hot girl groups drink for free. That's on the men reinforcing their behavior, IMO. As a woman, I just don't want to hear you complaining about why we get paid less when you're out here expecting men to fund your life. STILL makes that guy the piece of crap in this situation.
That little video of the man slapping the woman in the plane...😂😂😂😂 WHAT WAS THAT😂😂😂😂😂
its from the movie: airplane
Crazy it made me laugh so hard, I rewind it😂😂
RE: Fraudster overseas: Contact the local constabulary ASAP! If your local laws won't support intervention, try the ones near your MIL. If that were my Mom, I'd be contacting them immediately
Also if you're in the US many local authorities have offices concerning elder abuse in it's various forms obviously they can't intervene in a foreign country but they can give advice and tips
Why, oh, why didn't anyone accompany her?
Tell your country's Embassy in Kenya that your mother needs a wellness check because she's been scammed out of $200K and you are worried about her safety. What will happen to her there when she runs out of money because the guy isn't running out of sob stories and get-rich-quick phony ' business deals.'
Maybe a mental and physical health check and viewing the police record of this crook would open her eyes.
Or not.
You know, if she gets outta Kenya, she'll land on your doorstep, homeless and penniless.
@@sinceslicedbread7422 sounds like it was a decision she made without telling anyone.
It sounded like she posted bail for him because he "didn't do it"...... whatever it was that he was in jail for. Meemaw is getting wrung dry and she won't see the facts. @joansamuels3241
Roommates with his kids 😂
Me, looking at my 4 month old baby; I don't think I like you as a roommate, you have no job
She thought that was funny 😂
That's adorable 😂 heads up that by 4 they might not think it's funny, my daughter said she doesn't like me as a roommate either because I make her eat vegetables
Me with 4 year old nephew who I live with. You wake up at 3 get a job sir 😂
hahaha, she has a job, her only job is to grow up healthy and strong lol..
That's so cute.
Me and my daughter were just talking about her 10 month old "roommate" the other day. She's got her days and nights mixed up and eats everything she can get in her mouth, but she makes us smile. Aren't babies wonderful little creatures! 😊
Girl, even when you point out where you had to cut, I *STILL* can't see anything wrong with your fabulous hair. If anything, Mike helped complete your look lol 😊
I'm dyslexic, I can't see a difference
Mike is a good one! I can’t see where he cut. Also you seem so happy with him and I love it!
Mike could never do anything that would make you look bad! 😍
Her hair are beautiful like a Disney princess i swear
Corporate wants you to find the difference between hair on this side and the other side, but it's the same hair
I can’t tell you how many seniors I work with that STILL are falling for scams.
I constantly have to tell them, “no, that’s not real. Your bank doesn’t need your SSN, they already have it.”
This lady is doing the work we all should be doing. Tell their spouse. They deserve to know.
'We ride a dawn!!!' Charlotte you're a international treasure. You're right MeeMaw needs rescuing!
I will never understand why some men are convinced that negging is effective. It just makes you look shady and rude; it makes you seem undateable 💅
It's what incels are taught by extreme misogynists online will keep women pliable. It's actually quite terrifying when you look into it. 😥
bc women fall for it with ease. they take what these men say as gospel and never question if it's right.
To be fair, if it never worked no one would do it. The challenge is that anyone who would fall for it has got a lot of issues. You are filtering out the women you could actually build a relationship.
@@jamieevans1387 Commenting this under a thread of what I assuming is a woman saying the opposite thing.
100%
To be fair this young lady has probably saved that fiancee from a terrible terrible marriage.
She said 'did the kiss seem like it wanted to go further?' I don't think a person that is likely to leave a relationship would ask how far the cheating went. They texted. That's all the proof you need. Why you need to know if it was more than a kiss😅
@@DotpeachblossomsI would also just need to know how far it went for my own piece of mind. Don’t want to be wondering what *might* have happened
Plus, when the guy tries to deny it, you will have evidence because you have as much detail as you can possibly have
I’ll say it til I die- I have never ever met a man who is both charming and charismatic who wasn’t a narcissist.
Amen!
Fred Rogers?
So true! That's because neither of those traits are genuine, when attached to a narcissist 😏
in my experience if I met someone with charm and a buttery voice it means they've trained for it and might be trying to sell me something
Spent 16yrs with a charismatic narcissist, left him only to fall in love with a more charming one. Toxic pattern of a codependent,
Last story:
I agree with Charlotte wholeheartedly. Grab your purse ladies! We all need to book a flight to Kenya and stage an intervention! And plan the ultimate revenge against the swindler!
The scammer issue is so bad... my grandmother (rest her soul) fell for MANY scammers/scams. No one could get through to her. She wouldn't listen to us. State and local police and FBI visited her to show her that they were scammers. She stayed in her delu-lu state of mind. No family mattered to her... we were all evil to her. The last 6 years of her life, she wouldn't spend time with us or cared to reach out to us. Oof... I'm sorry for anyone dealing with this.
Oh that’s so sad. I’m really sorry.
I am so sorry this happened to you and your family.
i'm sorry but your grandma might have had legit dementia. Sometimes it's not the memory issues that come first - but the BEHAVIORAL issues! they turn aggressive and think the whole world and their family is against them.
@@NorthernShinigami, yup
@NorthernShinigami When we were still her guardians, we had her evaluated. There was nothing to indicate that she had dementia or Alzheimer's.
She was stubborn because she knew that we were right. She didn't want us to be.
Her husband, my grandfather, passed away 7 years ago. He had advanced Alzheimer's. I remember his behaviors, then the memory loss. It was a difficult time for everyone.
Pay attention to key words in sentences for example “We are single THIS weekend” implying when the weekend is over or any other day they are not single
My first bf would regularly joke about me being ugly and since I didn't have any other relationship experience or high self-esteem at the time, it got to me and one day I called him out and told him it's very hurtful. He immediately got defensive and said he didn't mean to hurt me this much, just bring me down a notch because I'm actually pretty or else it would be really mean to call someone ugly ugly, he was just "putting me in my place". Honestly, a load of bs either way, didn't even last 2 months cause he couldn't properly communicate or talk to another person and head to use "techniques and strategies" to get me to like him and stay which I was already doing. It's a shame cause he was actually a pretty funny and creative guy and I hope he'll find his way.
Glad you got rid of that toxicity and found freedom yourself
There was a guy I dated once a few years ago who was hanging around the house one day when my Mom, Dad, and brother were also there. I don’t even remember how this came up because we were talking about something completely unrelated but he randomly says “This is what I thought you looked like when we first met”…and proceeds to pull up a picture on his phone of the wicked witch from the Wizard of Oz. I am stunned into silence and he is smiling and laughing showing the picture to my Mom and my brother who are also in shock. Dude is not reading the room at all thinking he’s being so hilarious when in reality my family is like “Is this guy for real” 💀 I went in the bathroom and tried not to cry while he also goes to find my Dad to show him the picture too.
I found out later the reason he said that is because I have kind of a sharp nose which is what he was comparing me to I guess. When we first started dating he used to say stuff like “you’re hot” and “you’re too attractive for me” and stuff like that. Like if you genuinely don’t think I look like a model that’s fine but don’t say fake compliments and then drop something like that thinking it’s gonna be funny… especially when he thought it was gonna get a laugh out my family at my expense. Glad to not be in that relationship anymore lmao 😂👋
it's scary what a lot of men find "funny"
"bring you down a notch"?? "Put you in your place"???
Who does this guy think he is??? If he was that intimidated, he shouldn't have dated you. What a bitch!
@@lindseyosborn154 did anyone in you family ask him what in the actual fuck is wrong with him?
I’m really loving the sisterhood I see on this channel! Every woman lets the girl/wife know. I’m here for it! Amazing ❤👏👏👏
“Assume everyone is a murderer or married”……THIS. 100% This. The first guy I dated after my husband passed away ended up being married WITH KIDS and I found out 6 months into the relationship when I got a super fun phone call from his wife…..who is now a good friend of mine😂😂
I love when stories like this end like yours does,I hope that sorry ass of a boy,not man, is getting his just deserts!
I hope she divorced him and made him poor because he definitely deserve to live in the streets.
That last story is the wildest I've heard so far. Meemaw, Meemaw, Meemaw. She needs to ask. I feel bad for her. Yes, WE FLY TO KENYA AT DAWN!
LET'S SAVE MEEMAW!!
I'll meet you at the airport!! Don't worry we can still save Meemaw!!
When you get here hit me up!!! As a Kenyan I'm quite ashamed of this...we should avenge Meemaw!!!
AVENGERS... ASSEMBLE!!!👊
P
@@SuperAtoti
@@LyzzeM She's given him almost 20 million Kenyan shillings. I'm so worried about her
Alot of con artists will count on their victims being too embarrassed to tell others, especially ones who have fallen victim to love fraud. You'd be suprised how many people wont want to admit that they fell for a scammer.
The blue “Pull-over” as we say in french just PERFECT 😍 love the colour and your hair and your skin a symphony for the eyes Charlotte ❤
Sweaters you pull over your head instead of buttoning up are called "pull overs" in English, too.
Oh thank you!
She looks gorgeous
Hope you're ok from the hair incident
The lady in the second story is very good at dodging accountability. She's like. "They felt fishy and weird, but free drinks and exclusive clubs so YOLO. Also, I will make out with fishy weird dude due to free stuff, but how dare he assume I am the type of girl who would sleep with him."
Yeah, I’ve known a few girls like that. Even the way she dresses is similar. Pretty casually cruel when it came to the guys fighting for their attention. The guys were usually jerks, too, though.
Eh, it’s not illegal to hang out with sketch guys for a fun time and free drinks.
@@sugarpearl9781 No. But it does make it seem silly to act as if he was bothering you and you were being so morally righteous
I actually really liked her
Yeah same, like she was using him 100% and liked the attention
Love the shift from old videos where you say I know you are lonely... Im lonely tooo.... To 'I know you might be lonely, I have been there' especially after the mike saved your hair story😅
Charlotte is getting more and more cynical day by day . her sacrifice for educating us about the pitfalls of modern life will forever be immortalized in RUclips history . 🙂
She's an earth sign. We all get that way with age, if we weren't already.
@@pablodelsegundo9502you’ve got that right
Good Morning Petty Potatoes! ❤
Some of these are unhinged. 😂
Good morning Ms. Nichole!
Good morning ❤
I hope everyone is doing great😊
Good morning my dear! ❤
Good morning!! God bless you in the name of Jesus Christ, who is the name above all names & the only way to Heaven😊❤
Good evening 💁
Now I'm spending this whole video trying to see where you messed up your hair 😂😂😂❤ love you Charlotte! Forever relatable
I'm jealous of her hair color tbh. It's so gorgeous.
"Forgot to mention that those roommates came from your bodily fluids." GIRL you can't just drop that on me as I'm literally drinking tea, my poor shirt 😂
At 11:30 😂😂😂 she stated that we talk and were going to key key Kah Kah. But..maybe not Kahkah on vacation caught me off guard. How true is that on vacation and you can't 💩. 100%facts
I was thinking the second dude was the GROOM! Like, it was his bachelor party! But, good freaking lord, that woman is STUNNING
@caljones - I was thinking the same. I mean my gate doesn't swing that way, but daaaamn! 😆
I really thought he was the groom too lol and yesss I agree, might have to give her a follow 👀
For real, a wild story and girl was SO PRETTY
Definitely was thinking the whole time that she was with the groom 😂
Yet she didn't ask who the bachelor was and mooched off him all weekend with her tits hanging out. IdK wHy hE wAnTeD tO sLeEp WiTh mE
charlotte's reaction to the..... dress reveals lmao it's okay charlotte, i was just as... surprised 😆
hahaha it was her boobies that shocked me
The MIL in Kenya, try canceling her credit cards and a hold on her bank suspecting fraud, if this was my relative I may have to break some laws by pretending to be her and cancel all her access to funds anything to get her home.
ABSOLUTELY!
Wouldn’t this just strand her in Kenya with no money to come home? If her bank catches wind of a romance scam they might close her accounts.
@@christiannadingman2802 yes that is the point, then her family could arrange to get her home and purchase a plain ticket for her, then wire her just enough funds to get home. But only if she comes home. If this guy is so great he will take care of her and there will be no problem. It helps in two way by showing her who he really is and getting her home.
I love when she says absolutely not, and that blue sweater looks gorgeous on her
As a Kenyan I'm so bamboozled and gobsmacked. What? He is lying to her and making her so afraid of nothing.
Nairobi is big but easy to get around, she can use an Uber. Kisumu has addresses so people can navigate the city. I feel so bad for her and worried.
One of my best friends fell for 1 of those overseas scams last year, he got taken for about $300k. He racked-up so much debt. He passed away a cpl weeks after telling his partner about it.
To this day, I honestly can't say if he passed from natural causes or if he was too embarrassed to fully face what 'he'd done'.
I know his partner was supportive and expressed how much he loved him but... I honestly don't know!
My kitty died 1 Friday, My friend passed the following Friday and my Gramma passed the week after my friend. Last summer was ROUGH!
*YOUR VIDS WERE A DELIGHTFUL DISTRACTION CHARLOTTE! THANK YOU*
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
From a stranger, I’m so sorry you got hit with three really difficult occurrences and you lost 3 of your support system… I hope time will help heal
Oh damn that sounds so rough know that we are a community of strangers bound together by the Potato Queen we really care sincerely sending hugs and good thoughts
Omg. Big healing, peaceful hugs from Texas! 🫂
@@ellemmenn2930 thank you very much! I'm about ½ way through the 'year of firsts'
I still have the really tough days but they're fewer and further these days.
Again, thank you for your kindness! 💕
@@janetcallanan7020 thank you sis! I went to call my gramma last week 🥺 was like a kick to the gut when I realized what I'd done.
I have learned to be kinder, through Charlotte, her vids and thru comments from people like y'all!
I used to assume everyone was out to attack first-understand later but that's really not the case! "Those people" are just a lot louder sometimes but it doesn't mean there's more of them.
Thank you for being a reminder of the good that's 'out there'!
'OH' for blue dress girl was universal, I think.
As a middle aged lady, i confirm YES. Gorgeous genes!
I did also Hahaa 😂
It was so universal haha 🤣 I’m dying
Yes I'm a 54 year old straight woman and even I went "oh!!" I see why he was so interested she's gorgeous!!
The MIL story reminds me of a romance scam involving a Canadian grandma. She flew to Ethiopia, and waited for weeks in a hotel room but the boyfriend didn’t show. He said he was busy working in Hong Kong and told her to join him. 2 men showed up with suitcases full of “gifts” that the boyfriend bought her. Most of the gifts were dresses that had a ridiculous amount of buttons sewed on. The grandma got stopped by Hong Kong police for drug trafficking. She stayed in a HK prison for years. An elderly priest in HK who was was familiar with the romance/smuggling scheme worked to free her.
Look up “Canadian grandma smuggles cocaine buttons”. Scary.
Oh this so sad! Where was her family? Did no one tell her it was going to be a scam😮😭
Yeah this story was wild. There are two RUclips videos on it
Omg poor grandma 😭
I looked it up and they dropped the case against her after 9 months. Thank God! Still feel really bad for her but at least she wasn’t in there for years
i wonder if she could admit she was scammed by that guy (and his accomplices) or if she somehow thinks it wasn't her "lover" who did that to her...
Treat everyone like they are a murderer or married. All be damned... that's the best advice on how to navigate humans I've ever heard. Ahahahahahah
Love your videos Charlotte! You are so pointed, sassy, and everything I need to unwind or come down from a long day.
The hair part, for some reason i thought that it would be an add for hair products😂
Charlotte your hair is gorgeous, we need petty merch for hair too. 😂❤
Same!! I couldn’t tell anything had happened with it
Some “Petty” hair barrettes to go with our tracksuits would be fire 💅✨
Oh good, so I wasn't the only one lol.
Yeah, Charlotte is definitely a "ride or die" friend!
Her friends should consider themselves very fortunate!!❤
ILL TELL THEM YOU SAID THAT 😂
I completely agree, Charlotte seems an amazing person and friend❤
@@CharlotteDobre ❤
This is why you NEED to meet their friends and family earlier on - they often spill the beans on anything your new love interest may have lied about
That last story appeared to be 2 yrs old, but I like the sentiment, "We ride at dawn!" 💪🏻🏇 Send the cavalry! I love the idea of horde of women hopping on planes, trains, cars, boats, or even via Skype for those of us who physically or financially can't travel, to get together to rescue other women in need! We need more of that. Let's build a supportive community here. ❤ If nothing else, I've got y'alls backs emotionally. 😅
I saw a story of someone's grandmother who fell for one of these scams and was not only trafficked, but they stole every cent from her credit cards and completely drained her bank accounts.
"Yeah, I own multiple homes around the world. I hate my roommates, btw." Sojnds legit lol.
"I own multiple businesses, but give me money"
Me: well, you can be owning several failing businesses, so technically he could be telling the truth on that front
My friend went on so many sketchy first dates through Tinder that I’m thankful all the time that she’s okay 😂
I would have done everything in my power to have that mom declared incompetent.
ikr,she is beyond a lost cause!!
😂😂😂😂 The group of guys "single for this weekend" I call them the blue light special when I encounter them. My friends love it.
Just here to say if you haven’t listened to “who tf did I marry” you need to! It’s crazy. It’s long. But worth it.
22:48 😂😂😂😂 We Ride At Dawn!!!!!! fellow potatoes gotta save grandma
Charlotte, you dont even know how much these videos mean to me! I have had to watch one of your videos to be able to fall asleep for 1 year now! Thank you for being you💗💗
You are so welcome!
@@CharlotteDobre 💗🫶
Very sound advice
@@CharlotteDobre Sounded like negging to me.
"WE RIDE AT DAWN!" I had an instant vision of Charlotte leading us into battle like a red haired warrior.
Queen of the petty potatoes, I will ride with you! Lol
Im playing a potato warrior game. Im going to find a charlotte and make her so beefy ❤😂
This is my dream
YESS
Omg! I found you by accident. I just love you! I love your personality and sense of humor. Your channel is so much fun!!! 😊😊😊
Actually for a lot of women it's hard to talk about being romance conned, they feel ashamed about it. Good for this woman for never mistakenly taking on the dude's shame. Got a lot people help and prevented future issues.
As soon as the guy said he didn't want to live with his roommates, I knew he was married with kids 🤣 Gosh this world... poor babies and wife. 😔
Also, your reaction to the blonde with the rockin bod was basically everyone's initial reaction I think. You spoke for us all 😂
As a 32 year old, I cannot fathom thinking that a potential life partner is only just now being born, for me to marry them in 30 years 🤮
I couldn't fathom it either, and my partner is 25 years younger than me. We've been together for 12 years now.
I was a 30 year old who couldn't fathom it but I'm living it now. We're 67/37 and incredibly happy.
This is the earliest I have ever made it. One minute after post haha. Love you Charlotte!
Me too at 6 minutes
Personal achievement unlocked 🥳
I got here early, right as my battery died!
If a guy is calling you his "vacation girlfriend" and you don't like that and think he's "an annoying little gnat" then WHY do you keep talking and hanging out with him? What is wrong w some people??? Personally I enjoy being brutally honest w people and it's really done me wonders my 32 years on Earth, I may have even taken some people down a peg or two who severely needed it, lol. That chick was straight up leading the guy on going along w being called his "vacation girlfriend" and meeting him everywhere.
Exactly!!
I rarely talk ish about other women but what a narcissistic B
Yeahh, I normally try not to be judgey in these situations (especially when the dudes are such big assholes) but it seems pretty clear that she was going along with it for free booze. Not cool to use guys like that.
Because she’s whoring herself out for drinks and an expensive cover charge place. She’s the con artist then complains when the player gets played.
I commented something similar but when she said “she’s not that kind of girl” about not sleeping with him, I couldn’t. 🤦♀️ I’d rather a friend hook up with someone on a trip and call it good rather than bring him around/follow him around all weekend while claiming to not be into him? Glad she messaged the fiance tho and that guy sucks.
Man, do I love tea? Love your channel because girll the tea is steaming! ☕️
OMG, that last one was worrying. First, file a report with the Nairobi police, request they see if this man is married. He most likely is. His 24/7 job isn't at a hotel kitchen, but at a call centre. These centres are often gang affiliated (at least in different African states, but might be diff. in Kenya).
Talk to the MiL's bank, transferring funds overseas is usually tracked. Get that documented then get an attorney to help file for power of attorney. With her behaviour it's likely that she's unable to say no to this man, these scammers are adept at getting money from the elderly, though this is a rare instance of them taking it to the extreme. A good thing is that once he burns through her money (and gets divorced) he will probably marry her to get a visa. Once he reaches the US and realises he can't get money from the family, he's going to go looking for other targets.
These types of scams are documented, with elderly men and women. It's really sad.
You mean different African Countries. Not African States. Kenya is an independent country. The African continent has 54 countries as defined by the UN.
Many times, these irrational things seniors do are signs of dementia and/or mental health problems ( depression). If you contact authorities in this country or Kenya, tell them you have concerns that she has dementia. Any evidence you have of compromised cognition prior to the start of their " relationship " would be helpful.
@dawnchesbro4189 a state refers to a political unit with sovereignty over a given territory. (Thanks, Wikipedia). So the word "state" can refer to a country as well as a sovereign part of an overall country. You are referring to the second while the original commentary is about the first. So they are correct in their usage and there was no need to try to say they were mistaken.
Exactly right! If the MIL is stateside for a while, maybe Nev and Cami can talk to her. Chances may be slim to none, but watching their show, Carfished' is a good way to learn steps u can take to finally expose the scammer(s).
@@dawnchesbro4189 State can have different meanings, including as a synonym for country. Sorry if I offended, English is a fun language.
I'm Kenyan and a similar conman story has happened to a Kenyan lady before. Except for her the dude was a "successful" Kenyan guy living in the States and needed money for this and that and left the lady in so much debt. And he suspiciously had a 'sister' he was very close with too. Hope MIL stays safe and gets away from him, some conmen stories end very very badly.
😂 uyo mil atarambwa aone dust
@@jien6425 aki namhurumia tu, afunguke macho arudi kwao😅
@@nyamburathuku Haki, the fam should seriously make arrangements to come get her. Meemaw doesn't deserve the character development that Kisumu man has in store for her. Mapenzi jamani.
Weeeh 😂😂😂 si nimetafuta wakenya huku
@@joymutai4051hahahaha tuko hapa!
I learn to be petty from your videos and take my petty revenge on people who are toxic in my life now they all are gone 😂❤️
STAY PETTY GUYSSS
Love that for you! It's different kind of cleansing 😂
I have a friend who is a people pleaser times 10. I wish she spoke English, she needs a teacher like Charlotte.
The “Kiki kaka” killed me so many times 😂😂😂😂😂I watch your new upload almost always when I getting ready to go out, this video played few times now already, because my settings is in autoplay, tho I know watched I just let play to have some background noises (I ENJOY IT )😂❤❤
Dont know how i started watching your videos but you are becoming one of my favorites. I always chuckle and think to mynself ohhh time to laugh at some juicy gossip stories lmao
The last one is just sad😢”we are booking tickets to go to Kenya and save her from herself😅”
They fr do he probably has a family in the village some where 😭😂💔
Possibly has more than one plus she might not be his only victim
@@issssaa3not probably... He most DEFINITELY has a family or even two in the village.
I love the line "it's not cheating if it's in a different zip code." Heard that one when I was in the military
I've heard that and "it's not cheating if we don't physically do anything!" the amount of mental gymnastics a lot of people try to pull to justify cheating is scary
The second lady was so pretty! Omg i wish i had the self confidence to wear that dress, new goal for myself.
That second girl definitely entertained this man's behavior which is just as bad. Even if it was for some free drinks. No ma'am. You are a contributor. If he said from the beginning "We're all single this weekend" then that should tell you they are in fact not single 😂😂
She had to know and the worst part is she was willing to go along with it for something as trivial as free alcohol for the weekend. She’s not innocent in this.
Right? How big must the red flag be for her to see it???
@@annettemattheyse2460 She saw it, but wanted to get free drinks.
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@@coloraturaElise Gives the rest of us a bad rep🙄
I am envious of this girl's makeup skills and her color contouring in the second video. I wished I have the same skills as her, I am not great at makeup and color contouring. I do mainly eyeshadow and mascara everyday.
I'm in Kenya! Let's get some investigation done. Anyway, thank you for your videos, I get to watch them before I turn in and you always make me smile. Thank you!
Yes!! 🙌 And update too.
Am kenyan too. We need to help her. The red flags are all there. Hes probably married there.
I’m also from Nairobi and we all know it’s not easy find a 40yr old man in Kenya who doesn’t have a family or two
Maybe even he’s one of the mubabas out here😂😂
Yes, let's get some locals and some expats involved. This nonsense needs to stop. Fellow African here....
@@BeingindyRight? Even down here in South Africa they play this game. That poor woman😢
My life’s motto “assume everyone is a murderer” 😂😅
As someone who grew up near old town Scottsdale where all of the bachelor trip story happened, it’s very weird knowing the exact layout of the story and exactly where these places are 😂
For the scammer.. people feel ashamed because of their victimisation … it took a lot of courage for that young lady to share. And I’m glad it went viral so that the other victims were encouraged to do the same
omggg exactly at 6:00 I got an add about a resort, like, literally jjust when the tiktok girl said ''we are a ll single for this trip'' I am literally dying laughing rn
I think negging is more specifically an insult disguised as a compliment. "You're so pretty when your hair is clean," or "Your smile is so nice even if it is a bit crooked," for example. The intent is to attract you to a deeply undesirable person by lowering your self esteem 🙃
The first one though "you're so pretty when your hair is clean" most people are not that attractive when their hair and the rest of them is narly nasty and dirty and smelly This is just someone trying to give you hints that you need to have better hygiene. So up your hygiene game and thank them for that.
@@Otherrandomguy42 um, no. Context is important. The context here is when a guy is trying to come onto a woman and says some stupid shit like that.
It was a hypothetical, by the way, in fact when I was trying to come up with examples I just kinda stole that one from a scene in the Big Bang Theory. But weird that you jumped right to making it personal, I think you have some issues.
The first man is so similar to my first ex, I was a little worried it’s the same guy.
The last story made me so angry. That is 100% a husband and wife (pretending to be his sister) scamming this old woman from the U.S. out of as much money as possible. He “works” 7pm to 7am, so he can go spend his nights with his wife and his kids that conveniently live with his “sister.” It’s all so transparent and ridiculous, how on earth could no one convince her of this? It also seems really unlikely that nothing could be done legally if she is 77. She could so easily be developing cognitive issues as she ages, and there are agencies that look out for the well-being of elderly people being harmed or stolen from.
You hit every single point I thought as well. A doctors visit could save this woman from herself. It’s unfortunate her kids didn’t force one when she came back.
I love the ad break after the "All of us are single this weekend", the ad was about "Les petits culottés" and can mean in slang "how dare they" 🤣 perfect timing
When you made the about not cacaing on vacation I felt that in my soul 😂😂 the reality within that joke made it hit deeper than i was expecting 😂
charlotte I've been binge watching your video's the last weeks and I just wanted to let you know that I LOVE allllll of them! thank you
For the future and anyone else who gets a brush stuck in your hair. Use a rat tail comb put the tail part under the bristles and lift the hair. You won't have to cut your hair.
And use conditioner, lots and lots of conditioner!
Never, ever, ever use the pink foam rollers.
@@readerunite Maybe bcuz I'm mixed race and have odd textured hair, but the pink foam rollers worked like a charm. :)
Im in nairobi kenya. She should give us his name we look for him or the poor meemaw. That man 100% has a wife( the sister) and kids. This won’t end well for the lady.😢
Always assume everyone is a murderer or married UNTIL u see that they’re not 😂
or possibly a murderer AND married!?
Ahhh that’s me!! You used my video❤ loved it!
The first girl calling herself naive, but immediately spotting those red flags
Charlotte: "They're gonna know."
Con artist: "How would they know?"
"Assume everyone's a murderer."
-Charlotte Dobre, 2024
Words to live by.
The Kenia man isn't working from 7pm to 7am.
He's spending the night with his girlfriend/wife!
That’s what I was thinking too.
Yes! With 'sister'
Really love this makeup palette on you! Accentuates your colours and features!
So grateful for Charlotte for letting me know I’m not the insane one
Mama, my husband just spent twenty minutes getting my hair out of a roller brush. Don’t know how these 80s queens did it. You’re not alone! 😆
Hot rollers, teasing comb next with super goop, then curling iron with aqua net. No brushes just crispy fried hair. I can't believe l still have hair.
@@rebeccadawson6864Yes to the Aqua Net!!! Mine was the white can with pink lines lol. I just sprayed it then curled it. Sprayed the curl and blow dryed it. Then teased the heck out of it. Then I sprayed it and blow dried it 3-5 more times and walla I had a huge brown helmet that wasn’t going anywhere 😂😂😂 I can’t forget I also had a spiral perm with “sun kissed” highlights running through it 😉
Christmas Eve 2022, I was in the bathroom and had lit a candle on the vanity before getting a bath. My hair was in a ponytail and pinned on top of my head. I leaned over and the end of my ponytail caught the flame. I screamed for my mom (who was close by thankfully), and I had to unlock the door for her to come in. She was able to put out the flame in the sink, but I lost some of my hair. Not enough to be too noticeable, and it turned out afterward, that she had bought me some LED battery-operated candles for Christmas. lol
You’re my favorite online personality by far 💜💜💜 you’ve inspired me to live as the Petty Queen I am.
"We ride at DAWN!!! ".
😂😂😂😂
The "Airplane" clip was much appreciated and very appropriate. Thank you editors! 😅
Oh god the siren sound effect turned on just as I drove up to the hospital, I thought an ambulance was next to me, nearly had a heart attack 😂😬🤣 (was listening to you talk, you're my road "podcast"😂)