Life With A Newborn // Emotional Rollercoaster

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  • Опубликовано: 25 ноя 2024

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  • @carolcovarrubias2070
    @carolcovarrubias2070 Год назад +147

    Louis, I SO wish more dads were as caring and involved as you are. You're a great role model for fatherhood. Raya is amazing too. Looking forward to watching beautiful little Neo grow and thrive with his loving parents. ❤

    • @yelesomeus4534
      @yelesomeus4534 Год назад +10

      Most Dads will be at work outside of the home…..most would like to be I am sure but don’t have the choice.

    • @tamarajade7137
      @tamarajade7137 Год назад +1

      They are but a lot of mums don’t let dads be dads.

    • @Thelastlazy
      @Thelastlazy Год назад

      @@yelesomeus4534that’s what I was thinking. How come people think everything they watch is true? The last thing I want is a dad home All day. He’s already so much older. If he doesn’t do something she won’t have anything and he will be to ok’d to get a career. I don’t want support on breastfeeding and diapers. Get ur sorry old ass to WORK!

  • @lillieemery
    @lillieemery Год назад +13

    I started crying when daddy validated his sons feelings and explained what was happening at nappy change time. Tears of joy. I love intentional parenting.

  • @HelloMoto_
    @HelloMoto_ Год назад +13

    wow I’ve never seen a dad more involved than this, at least in the early newborn stages.. so lovely! Neo is such a cutie!!

  • @eamonandbec
    @eamonandbec Год назад +135

    Loved this look into your new life with sweet baby Neo!! You two are absolute role models as parents. Cannot wait to hug you all in person so soon ❤🥰

    • @kelliepineda9822
      @kelliepineda9822 Год назад

      you n Eamon are going to be aw3some parents as well oso is ok after his play date with porcupin?? basement room looks awesome

    • @RayaandLouis
      @RayaandLouis  Год назад +3

      Ahh thank you! Can’t wait to see you so soon 🥹❤️❤️

    • @Thelastlazy
      @Thelastlazy Год назад

      @@RayaandLouisDoes he have dwarfism? His legs are abnormally unproportioned to his body. He needs to also get wrapped up some. You aren’t taking care of that. Very new green parents. You will get better later.

    • @Thelastlazy
      @Thelastlazy Год назад

      @@RayaandLouisALSO JUST BECAUSE HE CAN STAND UP HE SHOULD NOT! That’s a big no no! You both should at least know that one! Never do that to a new born. Especially with him having such miniature incomplete legs. He will need braces or a wheelchair later.

    • @Thelastlazy
      @Thelastlazy Год назад

      And the mom will start to recover at some point. Yes she’s gonna be huge for a while. I’m sure it’s shocking to see yourself in the mirror. But not everyone bounces back the way some do.

  • @jessicamoore1289
    @jessicamoore1289 Год назад +52

    “It’s a lot… being alive” 🤣🤣 relatable

  • @Prince_of_void
    @Prince_of_void Год назад +54

    9 months+ of living inside Mum and now Louis carrying him outside - best ever! I didn't have a partner ( I did have my Mum) but having the DAD participate 100 percent is so lovely!!!! Thank you both for sharing!!

  • @illuminedelusion
    @illuminedelusion Год назад +71

    Wow, Neo is such a gorgeous little boy!! And he's so wonderfully alert for only being one month old!! He's taking everything in!! Lovelove to you 3!!!

  • @cqbarnieify
    @cqbarnieify Год назад +16

    It’s very helpful for new mothers to hear honest experiences from other new mothers. I didn’t have that when I had my children. As a result, I thought I was the only mother in the world feeling anxiety, exhaustion and problems with feeding. Thank you for talking so openly about everything-the difficulties as well as the joy. And your precious son is absolutely gorgeous!

  • @lalaleelaw
    @lalaleelaw Год назад +23

    Raya... my firstborn, a son, is 37 years old. I STILL remember how painful breastfeeding was for me, to this day. I was only able to stand it for a little over two weeks before I switched to bottles. I dreaded every single feed and I felt it was hindering the bonding experience. Once I switched to bottles, it was glorious!!! I am so very proud of you for holding on and looking for help in that area. They didn't have those kinds of things back then for me. I hope it gets easier and easier for you, my dear. And if it doesn't, I hope you never feel guilt for switching. My son grew up VERY healthy and is a fit young man of almost 40. Love watching you guys go thru this experience!!! You will absolutely love watching your son see things for the first time, for as long as that lasts. 🙂

    • @powderandpaint14
      @powderandpaint14 Год назад +2

      People seem to be so resistant to formula for some reason, particularly with their first baby, but it helps so much and it's totally safe! Kids grow up just as healthy on formula, or with combination feeding as with solely breast milk.

  • @courtneybarrow6605
    @courtneybarrow6605 Год назад +17

    Huge truth on the breastfeeding thing. It's actually super normal and typical. I've had 2 kids and it was sooo painful at first with each of them and literally no one warned me at all with my first. Luckily it got tons better over time. So hang in there Raya! ❤

  • @christinahaythorne3633
    @christinahaythorne3633 Год назад +20

    He is just precious. Breastfeeding is tough at first but that pain will go away. What a wonderful set of parents you are!

  • @lauracarvajal9339
    @lauracarvajal9339 Год назад +53

    Raya pump milk! When your out you can feed him in the go, and you can also give your husband a bottle to feed so he can have that bonding. Also shields helped me a lot, doing one feed with a shield was life saver! Overall it does get better and you do get to enjoy that closeness later on it’s amazing hold in there!

    • @christinabellamoore
      @christinabellamoore Год назад +4

      yes, amazing advice, pumping and nipple shields helped me so much too xx

    • @cocobear285
      @cocobear285 Год назад +2

      Even just simply using a Haaka to collect from the other book while they are breast feeding. I couldn't afford a pump, but I was able to get a good enough stash simply from a the haaka.

    • @havan1
      @havan1 Год назад

      Pumping milk without the need for it can cause hyperlactation. So be careful with this practice..

  • @reneetree
    @reneetree Год назад +63

    Nursing tip: Use your own milk to moisturize after each feeding and allow to air dry. Huge help!

    • @ailswithbarrueto213
      @ailswithbarrueto213 Год назад

      Yes this helps a lot and just air dry that milk rubbed on the nipple before popping the bra back

  • @HeyItsMaori
    @HeyItsMaori Год назад +3

    I love seeing Louis’ big heart. It is eye opening for women who want a companion as kind as him.
    It’s beautiful to watch y’all grow together.

    • @mommy2cody6
      @mommy2cody6 Год назад

      I once read something that said, when you are choosing a partner, you are also choosing a parent for your future children. This is the best example of choosing the right partner. Beautiful ❤

  • @joycady8325
    @joycady8325 Год назад +8

    I love the fact that you both are so present in Neo’s care.❤️He is so beautiful and extremely alert for a newborn! He is so calm and the fact that he sleeps 3 hours and doesn’t cry much is huge! Everything will fall into place, you sure know what you’re doing. Wow, 5 hours sleep …awesome!!!

  • @craftylittlethingsuk1995
    @craftylittlethingsuk1995 Год назад +7

    Love the honesty of this video. Have to admit I cried a little bit reflecting on how strong I must have been to do this all alone. As parents we do what we have to and work it out in time. Hoping Neo grows to be as amazing a man as my son is xx it's all worth it however we do it x

  • @meagangassler6722
    @meagangassler6722 Год назад +48

    I had the same breast feeding experience with my first, toe curling pain! I made so much milk that he had trouble latching to my full breast. I learned to only feed on one side at a time to give each side a break. It made a huge difference. Best of luck!

    • @EinNiemalsland
      @EinNiemalsland Год назад +2

      At one point I used some natural wool fat on the nipples to get them rest and heal. It worked very well.

    • @Withinthecauldron_
      @Withinthecauldron_ Год назад +1

      I just feed on one side each time. It helps. I nursed 4 babies.

  • @mandepilot
    @mandepilot Год назад +3

    There's literally nothing more attractive than a man who is "in awe" of his wife and treats her and their baby with such sweetness. Seriously.

  • @danetteschutz243
    @danetteschutz243 Год назад +17

    I do hope that breastfeeding has gotten better for you. The way you described your experience brought back so many memories. I remember the "toe-curling" pain at first also. Hang in there. It just takes time for your body (nipples) to adjust and get used to it. This is wonderful information to share. Congratulations to you both!!

  • @yarelisserrano5806
    @yarelisserrano5806 Год назад +3

    I’m 5 months pp today, and it’s still hard. The emotions and being home all the time hit me hard. My LO is smiling, laughing, trying to roll, trying to get up when he’s laying on our lap. He’s doing so many things that it distracts me from how I really feel ❤ They do grow up quick.

  • @karengarner9839
    @karengarner9839 Год назад +4

    My baby just turned 17 this week, the worries never go away they just change as your baby grows. Soak up every second of the baby years.

  • @Sandyde321
    @Sandyde321 Год назад +3

    My Grandson is 12 weeks old..it's so cool watching him grow and develop..as a grandmother my heart just bursts with love for him. Congratulations to you both! You are both doing a fantastic job with your georgous baby boy Neo. 💕

  • @JC-59
    @JC-59 Год назад +3

    Rays, I cried with you when you explained your breast feeding pains. You’re not alone and you’re being a champion for Neo means you’re doing the right thing. It’s hard sometimes to remember that when you’re in it. My son is about to turn 2yo and I wish I documented my experience now. Thank you for sharing ❤❤❤

  • @jennifergoodwin4376
    @jennifergoodwin4376 Год назад +7

    I remember having a lot of the same feelings you describe. You two are doing an amazing job as parents. He is precious and the memories that you are capturing will be something that you will treasure forever. My first born had an excellent latch, but my second baby was tongue tied and did not have a good latch. So, I've experienced no pain and a lot of pain. The most helpful breastfeeding advice that I got was to take my baby off and try again for a better position on the latch and to express a little bit of milk onto finger tips after each feed and rub it on areas that are dry, sore, or cracked. Breastmilk has amazing healing properties and helped way more than lanolin if that is something you're experiencing.

  • @mariagalchenko6742
    @mariagalchenko6742 Год назад +2

    Raya, I felt your talk about breastfeeding so much!! It is so hard, but I promise it will get easier and the pain will go away! I struggled with pain during breastfeeding for about 5-6 weeks. But now, I’m almost 7 months in and it is the most beautiful thing in the world!!! You guys are doing amazing! Neo is so beautiful!! Blessings to you all!!!! 🥰

  • @andreahughes1
    @andreahughes1 Год назад +17

    OMG he is so super alert walking with momma and looking at the flowers and turning his head to look at her face is pretty amazing being so young! Well done guys!

  • @mandystanhope
    @mandystanhope Год назад +3

    It’s so beautiful to see you two as parents. You’re doing amazing Raya. It’s such an emotional time for the first few months. I remember those tears, especially with my first and third baby. Your hormones will calm down in a while.
    Neo is gorgeous and so alert ❤

  • @ptkr2272
    @ptkr2272 Год назад +11

    Neo is beautiful and you two are such wonderful, calming parents!

  • @E-Beth
    @E-Beth Год назад +1

    I love how real, genuine, and honest this glimpse into month one is. So many people sugar coat being a new parent and that just isn’t helpful. I’d expect nothing less from the two of you after watching you for so many years. You are beautiful parents, so happy for you!

  • @rbonns1936
    @rbonns1936 Год назад +33

    My goodness I’m only 4 minutes in and Louis looks so serene! So beautiful to see.

    • @Cindy-bi4tc
      @Cindy-bi4tc Год назад +2

      You two are such great parents, to see "daddy" with him is so precious. What a beautiful baby.

  • @pennyfelger9134
    @pennyfelger9134 Год назад +4

    What a lucky little guy to have such caring and wonderful parents!!! I’m so impressed to see how Louis is very involved in his care. If only every child received this much love; our world Wynette such a better place! God Bless your new life journey ❤️🙏🏻💕

  • @mssoliloquy3001
    @mssoliloquy3001 Год назад +1

    It ‘becomes’ pain free, is more accurate. With my three, once I got beyond six weeks, everything fell into place. So, you’re doing great and you’ll get there very soon. Neo is absolutely gorgeous. Congratulations.

  • @sunshining_inthe_hebrides4030
    @sunshining_inthe_hebrides4030 Год назад +2

    I know laundry seems a lot ..but daily washing of his nappies , makes life so easy …and with the beautiful sunshine it helps keep them snowy white..such a lovely time when they’re wee

  • @Bugnpiper
    @Bugnpiper Год назад +8

    Breast feeding is definitely not an automatic thing. I went thru the same thing with my first baby, with cracked and bleeding nipples (10/10 pain wise), and actually gave up after 3 weeks! :( With my 2nd baby I really prepped the last couple months of pregnancy, toughening up my nipples, reading a book called The Womanly Art of Breast Feeding, and was much more prepared! I breast fed until my daughter was 1 year old and self weaned. It does get better!! You are doing an amazing job!! And I promise after awhile it is second nature and so so convenient having milk at the ready wherever you are! Hang in there!!

    • @laura11h
      @laura11h Год назад +2

      Was going to recommend this book! Such a game changer ♥️

  • @WhatsThePoints1
    @WhatsThePoints1 Год назад +1

    I continue to be in awe of how much vulnerability you all have shared in these episodes. It's such a gift to us all. Sorry to hear about all the pain with breast feeding. This should really be more spoken about. Thank you for giving voice to it Raya, hope you continue to feel better. As a person who has never met their father, seeing baby Neo wrapped with papa Louis is very soothing for me. Y'all are amazing! Keep up the great family work~love!

  • @annhamilton2060
    @annhamilton2060 Год назад +5

    As a mum of four adults, breastfeeding does hurt for awhile due to the nipples being sore. It passes after they get tougher. You are doing great. ❤

  • @lindahubbs8146
    @lindahubbs8146 Год назад +1

    Neo. Is so precious, just an absolute beautiful, perfect boy. Watching you both I feel the joy. You’re great loving, caring parents. I love you sharing such happy times.

  • @jdigney472
    @jdigney472 Год назад +4

    He’s a gorgeous boy. I have 1 year old twin boys and going through the newborn and infant stage is very tiring and breastfeeding/pumping can be hard. You both are so positive and navigating it well by being in the present moment. Sending you all the love ❤

  • @jessicaweinstock6912
    @jessicaweinstock6912 Год назад +3

    What amazing, loving + adoring parents. You can feel the love you all have for each other. Makes my heart so happy.

  • @melissavanderkooy1837
    @melissavanderkooy1837 Год назад +3

    My sister had warned me that even having an "easy" time breastfeeding, the first month is really tough! It was the best advice since it set the expectation very realistically. And I had a wonderful midwife who set up a "cafe" at home to get me more comfortable feeding outside the home. It was so worth it for me to get through that first month and have the easiest child meal-planning for the rest of the year! 😜

  • @MaliHayes.
    @MaliHayes. Год назад +5

    This is so wonderful. I was so excited to watch this when I saw your uploaded!
    I’ve commented this before - not that I’m a mum yet but I relate so much. Haven’t been around new borns a lot but SO excited to become a mum one day. I’m also self employed and again, not pregnant or trying but already think about how it’ll be not working and depending on my partner (he already said he’s happy to take that responsibility when it comes to it which is sweet).
    Honestly I’m just so happy and grateful that you’re sharing these moments with us - not only is it wonderful to see you both becoming parents and sharing the newness of it all, it’s just so relatable and is like a (hopefully) look into the future.
    also loooove that you guys got to connect a bit spiritually - the view looked epic and what a cool event!
    thank you so much for sharing all this🤍Neo is precious x

  • @amyslowikgrossman835
    @amyslowikgrossman835 Год назад +12

    Wow, when Neo smiles he looks just like Louis. :D Raya, I'm so sorry that nursing is so painful for you because once you get used to it and get things worked out it's amazing. (Hugs)

  • @rsnj4501
    @rsnj4501 Год назад +1

    Motherhood is hard especially in the beginning. Give yourself grace. You guys make beautiful babies ♥️

  • @gerrina9731
    @gerrina9731 Год назад +1

    This vlog brought me back 22 years and enjoyed to think back of all those memories... Sometimes It still is a shock to see and wrapp my head around the fact that my little one is all grown up and a woman that stands so tall in live... Enjoy the ride and realise you are on a yourney together and no one has the only right answer how to help your child to get to be a strong person. The best is to pass the positive life-vibe on.... So sending some positive energy your way...

  • @bethb7965
    @bethb7965 Год назад +4

    I had just been thinking about you right before I discovered a new upload! My heart is so full watching the two of you with Neo. He is so precious and you two are absolutely wonderful parents ❣️ The love between you is so apparent ❤ I'm in my 60's and was never blessed to be a parent; wanted kids all my life.. I will come along on your journey. Sending so much ❤️

  • @roxierenee04
    @roxierenee04 Год назад +2

    Mama of 2 here! I have a 3 year old & 15 month old.. I’ve breastfed my 15 month old for 15 whole months and recently stopped & I understand how hard it is🥺 what helped me increase my freezer supply was feeding on one side then using a HAAKA for the other sides let down. It’s hard mama but you got this♥️

  • @emareshanahan1652
    @emareshanahan1652 Год назад +1

    Thanks for being real, my 1st born turned 30 yrs last week and I still identify with all that you have shared. XX

  • @andreadonjuan5895
    @andreadonjuan5895 Год назад +3

    Omg Louis passing on his hairdryer comfort is the cutest😍

  • @sheilakaiser2726
    @sheilakaiser2726 Год назад +2

    It’s such a hard adjustment going from being a couple to a family of 3.A friend told me that everything changed by the time the baby was 6 weeks old and it was magic.Good luck with your new family,you’re doing great!

  • @stacybroussard3097
    @stacybroussard3097 Год назад +1

    Neo is So Beautiful and so alert. I can not believe that he is lifting his little head already.. You both are doing such an Amazing job taking care of Neo. It's so good to see Louis being so involved with his son and helping you out Raya, it makes my heart so happy...Raya, you are doing amazing!! You are such an amazing mom. Breastfeeding can be very painful, I remember... I am So Proud of you ❤ Louis, what a wonderful father and husband you are! I love seeing you with neo skin to skin and taking care of him. Wishing you All the Love and Blessings in the world ❤

  • @KateBlank-x7g
    @KateBlank-x7g Год назад +2

    You both are such loving and conscious parents...Neo is in good hands.

  • @absdabom
    @absdabom Год назад

    Breastfeeding is hard, and you're so right that no one talks about it. I used nipple shields with my baby because it was so painful. This helped, and we worked our way off the nipple shields within 2 months. My baby is now 11 months old and nurses so well. I promise that it does get better! You're doing such an amazing job, and while I believe fed is best, you're providing Baby Neo with the best nutrition and immune booster through breastmilk. You're doing great!! Enjoy every single phase. Parenthood is amazing, and you are both thriving (even though it may not always feel like it!)

  • @meganfarley420
    @meganfarley420 Год назад +5

    I hope breastfeeding gets better for you. I had the same experience. I would cry and cry because I didn’t want to do it and then cry more because I felt like a terrible mom for not wanting to feed my daughter. So you’re not alone! It got better for me, I hope you guys will find what works for you. He is absolutely beautiful, I’m so excited to watch him grow and watch you guys grow as parents and as a couple and as humans. You’re doing great!! ❤

    • @ek7390
      @ek7390 Год назад +2

      Wouldn't sweat the breastfeeding. I couldn't breastfeed with my first child. Combination of him being pre-mature, mastitis and my milk didn't come in.
      Last night my preemie baby graduated from high school/secondary school and was the tallest person in the class of 179 and 99% of the parents. And, he is an endurance athlete. So just ease off. Get some sleep share the load and they will grow how they grow.

  • @elizabethkirkland5159
    @elizabethkirkland5159 Год назад +1

    Oh my gosh I have never related so much to what you shared about breastfeeding as well as your first 2 weeks postpartum. I believe it was around the 2 month mark that I suddenly realized mid feed that it wasn’t hurting for the first time. I grew up around babies and thought because of that that everything would be pretty “easy” and man oh man I don’t think anything anyone could have said to me prior to giving birth would have really prepared me for postpartum. It’s incredibly difficult mixed with the sweetest moments and that in itself is a mind fuck lol.
    Thank you for sharing bits of your story! Although your specific journey can feel isolating please know that you are not alone! ❤

  • @leannaxoxoxo
    @leannaxoxoxo Год назад +4

    I really feel for you Raya. Breastfeeding was always painful for me, no matter what I tried. I’d have a good few days, maybe even a week of it not hurting and I’d think I finally cracked it, then it would hurt again!
    I used nipple guards which really helped with the pain and I also didn’t find pumping painful at all. You can usually hire electric pumps from UK hospitals if it’s something you wanted to give a try.

  • @czechchick101
    @czechchick101 Год назад +5

    Oh my goodness Raya, I feel like our experiences were so similar, it’s wild how lonely and yet crowded early motherhood feels

  • @I_am_Lauren
    @I_am_Lauren Год назад +4

    You guys have got this! Neo is gonna be so loved and these videos are going to be precious memories! We all love and support you!

  • @Pixief13
    @Pixief13 Год назад +3

    I struggled so much when feeding directly on the boob, I ended up pumping which helped alot - meant dad could help, it relieved my body and we could build up a supply! I love seeing you three (and Cali) the perfect family.
    My little girl is 7 months old and the last few months I have been really struggling with my mental health. And I read that it takes a women’s mind and body at least 2 years to go back to ‘normal’. So I am just going with the flow right now. Appreciating her being so small, needing me and know it’s not forever ❤

  • @kitacroptic3708
    @kitacroptic3708 Год назад +2

    This was so nice to watch, especially as someone who's had their first baby a week before you two! RUclips recommends '24hours with a newborn' vids all of the time, but they're so unrealistic and full of too many promotions (e.g. dropping the name of 6 products in the first 4 minutes).
    Keep being yourselves and keeping it real! And you're doing an amazing job as Neo's parents ❤

  • @stateofzan
    @stateofzan Год назад +2

    Cried multiple times throughout this video! So in love with the 3 of you. You’re a total champ, Louis! 🎉

  • @maryc4152
    @maryc4152 Год назад +1

    Omg I can see both of y’all in his sweet face!! I have been so excited to see you two experiencing the beginning stages of parenthood - it’s obvious that y’all are phenomenal parents - spending every moment loving/nurturing Neo❤ I am SO SO SO thrilled for you both! 🩵🩵🩵🩵

  • @jencaseysmith1
    @jencaseysmith1 Год назад +1

    He is so sweet and you guys are doing awesome! I remember so well being a new mom and all the self doubt and worry and sleepless nights and filled with so much love. Such a rollercoaster. Being a parent is never easy but the challenges change and all you can do is your best and love them and you are definitely doing that. ❤

  • @michelleweidema5032
    @michelleweidema5032 Год назад +3

    You guys are doing great! The pain of breastfeeding will subside. Just persevere and use a pump to relieve the pressure. I donated milk to the local hospital because it’s like gold to them! I also had my babies using soothers. Those are a godsend!!

  • @sarahthompson5066
    @sarahthompson5066 Год назад +6

    The best thing anyone said to me was “The days are long but the years are short. Enjoy your time with him!!”

    • @christinabellamoore
      @christinabellamoore Год назад +1

      I love this quote, so true, thank you for sharing, I will remember this Xx

  • @carolemurray4532
    @carolemurray4532 Год назад +1

    Neo is so cute. That smile is heart melting. You two are doing an amazing job even though it can seem overwhelming you appear to be coping nicely.

  • @sonjadlong7554
    @sonjadlong7554 Год назад +28

    And nobody let Cali have a few moments of sharing her first month thoughts 🤔😂❤️
    Neo is definitely a cutie
    BLESSED

  • @lesliemcdaniel5845
    @lesliemcdaniel5845 Год назад +4

    Hang in there. Your nipples will toughen up a bit pretty soon. Please stop doubting yourself. You are wonderful and caring. Neo will do fantastic I'm sure!! Tons of love to you all.❤❤❤

  • @heidimarie1198
    @heidimarie1198 Год назад +1

    Enjoy the little moments - - highs and lows - cherish them. Life screams past. Only last week my eldest was leaving junior school, my youngest was starting nursery. Now my eldest is taking driving lessons and the youngest thriving in junior school. Oh and record the most random things - - makes great viewing for later years !!

  • @anitalatina
    @anitalatina Год назад +2

    This is such a beautiful journey! I'm not sure where I stand on being a mom one day, but watching you is very inspiring, there's so much love and you portray it with such genuineness! All the blessings in your lives :*

  • @wrinklesandsprinkles
    @wrinklesandsprinkles Год назад +1

    I’m so happy for you guys! Did you ever think humans can love this much? Neo is lucky to have you both for parents. He will always have you two that consider his wellbeing before anyone!

  • @wywk
    @wywk Год назад +1

    First of all, Neo is absolutely adorable and so alert! He's already amazing. Look up sleep training for babies, it will change yours and Neo's life especially as he gets older. Sending your beautiful family lots of love and light! ♥

    • @powderandpaint14
      @powderandpaint14 Год назад

      Sleep training should not even be attempted until after 6 months.

    • @JJ-kd9ih
      @JJ-kd9ih Год назад

      Sleep training is in parents best interest, not babies best interest

  • @livingauthenticallyonmyownterm

    Neo has such an incredible little face!!! His eyes are so unique in their shape and he’s so inquisitive. He’s a smart little boy and will grow intellectually quickly by how he’s wanting to look around and see everything. You’re both such amazing parents! It’s so incredible to watch each of you in alone time with Neo and your together time as a family. PeCe and big love ❤❤❤

  • @EntyseAndBriJoRae
    @EntyseAndBriJoRae Год назад

    This may be one of my favorite videos EVER from you guys!! Sooo incredibly proud of you guys, happy for you and deeply grateful for you both continuing to find ways to open up your hearts and pieces of your life journey with us all! THANK YOU! The levels of vulnerability this takes, I’m sure can weigh on your minds from time to time… but you’re doing soooo beautifully. You are TEACHING just through your openness. So again- THANK you. 🙏🏾 God bless your every day! My hubby and I will continue to pray God’s love, grace and eternal peace, patience and joy over you both and your precious baby Neo! ❤❤❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 He is in our hearts just as you both are! And I’m sure many others in this beautiful little community you’ve created feel the same. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 God bless you journey guys! ❤😍

  • @Amy-uk4km
    @Amy-uk4km Год назад +2

    What a beautiful family! Please know you are not alone with breast feeding issues. My first born son looked at me and was like umm. what do I do? I looked at him and thought what do I do? I almost quit, it was an emotional rough first few weeks. I felt very guilty that it wasn’t perfect. But I sought out help from a group called la leche … moms who help moms with breastfeeding. We figured it out and I was able to nurse him for 11 months. But don’t be afraid to switch plans or get help. Baby needs a healthy happy mama more than anything. There is no one right path.

  • @bevtrue6937
    @bevtrue6937 Год назад +1

    He is such a precious baby. You guys are doing such a great job with him. So beautiful you three are!!

  • @ajacrawford6869
    @ajacrawford6869 Год назад +1

    He's so alert! You guys are doing great. It's such a big change for your lives, but you're just going with the flow and I think that parenthood suits you both. Congratulations again and thank you for the update! ❤️

  • @kellys9222
    @kellys9222 Год назад

    Wow, Neo is so cute and so alert in how he just stares at you and the things you show him out on a walk. He looks like he’s taking it all in. You two are amazing parents.

  • @kbert1983
    @kbert1983 Год назад

    To Raya, you're doing enough, you're doing amazing. Your sweet little boy is so loved and special. I have 2 boys and each moment as they grow is beautiful in their own right. Keep depending on each other and you'll get through the tough first few months.

  • @lacylobdell7455
    @lacylobdell7455 Год назад

    I remember THAT pain - like a vice grip😫🥺😳. And I’m so grateful that I didn’t give up - but I sure wanted to! It got better. Don’t be afraid to pump and bottle feed every now and again, just to give yourself a break - and for Lois to help in the feedings. It won’t ruin Neo! It goes by SO FAST (from a mom of now 20+ year old boys). Continue to take snippets of time for yourself. He’ll soon fall into a routine and days and nights will be easier. I WISH I had all these videos of life w my babies to look on now. You’re doing a great job, both of you 💙

  • @laliday
    @laliday Год назад +1

    Somehow the pain works itself out around the 4-6 week mark or at least that's what I've experienced with my two babies. Using lots of lanolin ointment helps too. Really soon it should get so easy. You'll be amazed how easily he can latch with no effort. Later there will be smiles and a lot of eye contact while he feeds. Even later he'll start working with his hands, give you a massage. Sleep is easier too when all you need to do is nurse to sleep. It's awesome to connect like that. It has downsides too, but it really does help with sleep, comforting, hydrating during illness. It makes the difficult job a little easier.

  • @Teacherm23543
    @Teacherm23543 Год назад +3

    My daughter is turning 2 years old soon and I remember her first few months so clearly. I felt the same way. This tiny helpless human depending 100% on us and now she's screaming "no mama" (wants to do it herself) 😂❤

    • @gingerlygirl8415
      @gingerlygirl8415 Год назад +2

      My son is 32 years old and this is so reminiscent, I wouldn’t be thinking of the beautiful memories if it weren’t for Raya and Louis this video is about to make my heart explode. I do have a heavy heart that he was the only child I had, I so so soooo wish I would of had as many kids as I could. Now that I’m older I have realized family is everything!

  • @Carlyayi
    @Carlyayi Год назад +2

    You are both so wonderful parents. Really emotional and beautiful seeing you all as a family.

  • @MariamPareArt
    @MariamPareArt Год назад +3

    It's so great to see you both doing this together! Good work Raya and Louis!

  • @SolarVibeEnergy
    @SolarVibeEnergy Год назад +1

    Simply 🤗💖💞💖💞💖🤗 mamma & dadda's bliss brings it all x3 back

  • @yvonnebirch6026
    @yvonnebirch6026 Год назад +1

    Neo is blessed to have such good caring parents ! What an awesome dad !! Take it easy guys. Just enjoy your beautiful son ! 💕🌷

  • @NanaLou_xx
    @NanaLou_xx Год назад +3

    Ohhh I’ve been looking forward to an update. Being new parents is hard and you must be shattered - doing a great job with Babba xx 😘

  • @ItsLatishaLove
    @ItsLatishaLove Год назад

    You guys are doing amazing! Literally relate to everything you said when talking about the first 10 days as a mom. I was soooo emotional, I personally felt insecure about my abilities to care for my daughter as a new mom. I would cry when she would cry. I had PPA as well. For a while. But now my baby girl is about to be 8 months in a week and she has grown so much & being a mom has been the best thing. I love it. I don’t want my life before her. So grateful. You are doing incredible breast feeding. I didn’t produce enough but pumping is exhausting. But she had been formula fed and doing great! Best wishes on your new journey as parents!

  • @alexandrastamper8718
    @alexandrastamper8718 Год назад +1

    What a lucky boy to have such loving, thoughtful parents ❤ so beautiful!

  • @marthesveen9986
    @marthesveen9986 Год назад +6

    This is just beautiful! ❤So happy for the two of you, you're already such wonderful parents. Having a little girl in september and you're making me even more excited just by this glimpse into your lives.

    • @RayaandLouis
      @RayaandLouis  Год назад +3

      Aw thank you and congratulations! ❤️

  • @judettelmoe8339
    @judettelmoe8339 Год назад

    When my daughter was born I had struggles with breastfeeding and luckily I hooked up with the local Le Leche League organization and received a ton of support and helpful tips. They were a great support organization. I learned about this organization from the prenatal classes I attended. Going to meetings was also helpful as hearing other mothers stories helped me with my own struggles as I am sure my story sharing helped someone else in the room as well. I am sure this is an international organization so they should be available in your local area. Peace and love to all of you. Also I had engorgement problems which didn't allow my daughter to latch with ease and the Le Leche League ladies were very helpful with that as well.

  • @junehall2177
    @junehall2177 Год назад +1

    You have a bonnie wee boy, don't worry, express & share the joy with Louis, Neo is a big boy, needing lots of feeding, demanding on you. Louis is there, let him help. You are fortunate.

  • @cherishruggles527
    @cherishruggles527 Год назад

    Went through the exact thing with my first kid. Baby grows and your body strengthens. The journey definitely needs to be talked about more. It will get better! Take care of yourself! Just take one day at a time and find joy everyday where you can! You’re not a bad mom! You’re doing enough! You’re the perfect mom for that baby! The smiles kept me going to! Glad you’re seeing breastfeeding consultants! Second baby was slightly painful with breast feeding maybe the first few days or week but it wasn’t as bad and I knew it would get better and it was awesome after that!

  • @sierradickinson760
    @sierradickinson760 Год назад +4

    Im so happy for you both ❤️ I also want to say to Raya, as a mom of 3, dont base your worth as a mother on breastfeeding. If you have to give him formula, its not a failure. I know that feeling of so badly wanting to breastfeed but it not going as I hoped. Also, if you experience post partum depression and/or anxiety, its more common than you think. Its best to talk to someone right away so you can feel better. I wish these were things someone had said to me. Youre amazing mama!

    • @powderandpaint14
      @powderandpaint14 Год назад +1

      Yes, so many parents need to supplement ith formula or switch to formula and it's totally ok! Babies thrive both ways.

    • @tamarajade7137
      @tamarajade7137 Год назад +2

      Yes a fed baby is a happy baby and a happy baby is a happy parent. Fed is best and formula needs to be normalised.

  • @ildiko1vt
    @ildiko1vt Год назад +1

    What a wonderful family to bring a new life into! So nice to see such gentleness from a father to a son. Beautiful peek into your lives. All the best from a first time watcher of your channel.

  • @fredsodyssey6319
    @fredsodyssey6319 Год назад +1

    Louis, most women, if not all, struggle with breast feeding, especially with our first babies...and we do or should really talk about it with our nurses, doctors, lactation specialists and other moms who are friends and family members or new mother support groups. Most women are happy to share their tips and experiences, if asked. There is a learning curb for new moms and for their babies. It's not easy, is often painful and a struggle. Stress and lack of sleep contributes to the struggle. The point is to stick with it, if you can, until your skin toughens up and you get into a good routine. Sometimes, women can't breast feed for a variety of reasons, and that's okay too. Yes, breast is beast, but the most important thing is that the baby will get fed and will bond and will thrive one way or another. It's important to encourage and support new moms. It's the toughest job you'll ever love! This time with your baby passes so quickly. Savor every precious minute! Best wishes to all of you.

  • @testingtesting1249
    @testingtesting1249 Год назад

    Breastfeeding is absolutely a learning process. I experienced 10/10 pain for a couple of weeks when my baby would not latch on and I would bite on my own finger to not scream.
    I went to 3 different lactation consultants and eventually learned how to help my baby latch on.
    Also my baby had silent reflux and a tongue tie both which made breastfeeding even more complicated. I was dismissed by most doctors and I found that very frustrating. My daughter’s tongue tie was eventually diagnosed at age 11 and I was so upset that all these years we experienced so many issues with her feeding if only the midwives and GPs took me seriously.
    My biggest tip to all new mum’s is: please follow your gut and instincts and don’t let any medical professional tell you - that you are panicking just because you are a first time mum.
    Good luck… it does fly by.

  • @lizstoutenour1856
    @lizstoutenour1856 Год назад +1

    Love it!! Little Neo is so alert and loves you two sooo much!! ❤🎉

  • @sandysutube63
    @sandysutube63 Год назад +1

    Neo is beyond precious!💙👶🏻🍼. Congratulations again and enjoy your little cutie. Praying you get pain free breast feeding Raya soon. You guys are great parents that’s why Neo is so calm. Enjoy!♥️

  • @elishathompson3400
    @elishathompson3400 Год назад +2

    Wow I've never felt so seen... my baby is the same age as neo (second baby), and the feelings you had those first few weeks and emotions are exactly how I felt

  • @maddyonroblox2327
    @maddyonroblox2327 Год назад +1

    Such a lovely video to see how amazing lite Neo is doing. The love just radiates through the screen. What a lucky little man to have such wonderful warm and loving parents. He is just perfect ❤