She cheated on him with one guy for three years. He cheated on her with multiple coworkers for who knows how long. They’re both wrong and have disrespected the relationship. Yet so many people are only coming after her... why 🤷🏾♀️
I used to date a girl like this. Told me I was too nice, complained every time I did anything romantic. Threatened to break up with me once a week. Would tell me other guys she could get. I left her. Best decision I’ve ever made.
They don't need to be together. It sounds like they're settling with each other because they have history together, and they're comfortable being uncomfortable with each other.They want to be close but remain distant
right I say they both forgive each other and move on .They always act more shocked when it's the woman but he cheated plenty she just had a steady. Forgive or move on.
@Ice she almost always judges the women more harshly. And often she excessively praises men for incredible feats like holding a job. It's way more apparent in the older episodes.
I think...and this is just a theory of mine....it had to do with the length of time. He had his affairs with multiple women, and it was short lived. She had time to get through it and learn to trust him again. Her one affair lasted two years, which would indicate there was some feelings there, although she claims she didn't have feelings like that for her side n***a. She pulled that affair off and had him completely fooled; had him thinking she had forgiven him over his cheating, trusting him and being faithful to him. I think this is why the Judge was harping on her more. She's expecting him to quickly forgive her infidelity, even though she's had years to forgive his. This is just a theory, not solid, concrete evidence.
candystayinatural alexander Right!!! I thought I was the only one who caught that they’ve been together for 8 years and he has been unemployed at least 3 times. No she just want a steady man and he wants a steady woman. They need an open relationship! LOL since they both like to cheat.
She's only with him because he's a great provider for the kids. She's not Into him. I bet if a hood dude came around and wanted to take care of her kids with her, she would drop him.
So she's basically saying that she likes being taken advantage of right sums off in this lady's head I mean he's wrong to but come on man you both did your dirt forgive each other and move on or let her go so she can be with a guy that she wants to be with she'll probably end up dead I hate to say that but it's the honest truth
Hes not though, lol... he cheated on her first with multiple women. Did everyone miss the first part, where he made it sound like it was ok because he spent all his time at work..
My husband watched this with me and was astounded, he kept saying “ but he cheated on her too where’s her indignation ?” many times with co workers , who knows for how long..yet he’s stuck on her cheating ( albeit long term) with a guy.. he’s a hypocrite.. yeah don’t cheaters hate being cheated on?
Thats what I just said...Saud... it's 2yrs or 1 day he would have still been just as hurt...now he see how she feel or felt when he did it...he started it and she finished it ...it aint fun when the shoe is on the other foot...
You ain’t gone throw my kids in my face bro cus it makes me feel Like it ain’t genuine and you cheated and repeatedly it don’t feel good when you get cheated on smh silly that slick mouth I can’t take I don’t care what you do that’s deal breaker straight disrespect
he cheated on her too!!! why is everyone attacking her and making her out to be the bad guy? she only did it with one person and he did it with multiple partners for however long.
Because you can't "just have sex" with someone and have no feelings. He tell it like it is and she still lying... Thats why she's getting the backlash.
@@wezzman1 he never said he caught feelings with these women he just as much tried to down play those interactions which clearly shows he has a problem with self control lol whether she caught feelings or not if she acted on them she’d be with him and not the guy standing next to her…it’s never fun when the rabbit got the gun so y’all find any excuse for why the other party is more wrong y’all lose all logical sense when the woman outplays the man
She doesn’t love herself one bit! I was like her, but when I learned self love, I found my Prince Charming. 10 yrs later, he’s corny, showers me with love, planted me a whole garden...sooooo much love 💗
In the older episodes the judge always grills the women harsher compared to the male. The Male has to be an awful sack of shit for the judge to really get on him. She got better towards the end of her career on the show though.
Yea he cheated which is most definitely wrong but she was with a whole other man for 2-3 years and was offended he went through her phone and caught her, best believe if he didn’t look in her phone she would’ve kept seeing dude.
GohanTheKING _ something really wrong with y’all. The time frame of an Infidelity doesn’t matter. He’s dirty asf too, she shouldn’t be the only one getting grilled when he’s probably been cheating the same amount of times but he was doing multiple women which is worse to me because he can bring home diseases just like her.
The judge cares about women wasting their time more than men. She rather the woman leave this guy and start a marriage with the guy she cheated with for 3 years. It's reasonable to go harder at her because she's clearly wasting her time.
I’m only 7 minutes in and I’m over her. She is complaining about having a man who was raised right with respect? Hold on imma be back after it’s done lol
How does he have respect cheating on her with multiple people ? He doesn’t even respect his own body 🤦🏽♀️ maybe she meant not name calling or doing what he says he will do but a cheater is a corrupt broken individual with little to no regard or respect for themselves and the person who loves them lol this is why it’s not good to make half assed opinions with half the details
"WhAt aBout tHe mAn/ wHat abOut thE Guy tho/ mEn dO iT tOo" lol Yea they are both wrong, but 2 years ain't a quick nut, that's a whole relationship. That means she lies every time he ask her, "Where you going, who's that calling?" I'd just leave. I don't see my self ever fully trusting her. And if I get caught cheating, I might leave too. You not about to hold THAT over my head for life. lol
Khessa Michelle she cheated for 2yrs straight with the same person, he did it a few times with different people but he’d stopped years before she started cheating
They don't need to be married either cause they both have cheated. That's the worst thing you can do to your mate mentally in a relationship. I was w/mine for over 5 years & he continually cheated through our whole relationship. We've been broke up about 2 years & I still hurt from all the lying & cheating & I still haven't been w/no-one else yet. It wouldn't be fair too another man. I can't stress enough, If you want to have sex w/multiple people that's fine but DO NOT be in a relationship & hurt the person whom truly is in love w/you! Go be single! Why hurt someone else & mess up their lives & waste their time? I just don't get it! May God Bless Us All!
True...but 2 YEARS tho...? lol How many lies do you have to tell A DAY to keep that up? That's whole 'nother relationship and she even blamed that on him too... "...He's a great provider" She kept saying that... That's NOT the same as love. She views him as a beta male provider, but sleeps with the alphas. He should leave.
@@jesterarts734 she said it was just a sex thing just like him. it wasn't a relationship Don't try to imply that it was a relationship simply because it lasted a long time. We all know FWB's last longer than relationships these days
It's not fair in a literal sense but it is from realistic perspective. She has 3 kids and this man pays to look after her and them. She brings nothing to the table except her obese self. He was in the wrong for cheating also. At the end of the day she needs to hold herself to a higher moral standard. Home girl is very dusty.
I love the judge! However this episode was off... THEY BOTH CHEATED... He just cheats with MULTIPLE WOMEN AT WORK, she cheated with ONE MAN FOR 2 years... Honestly none are right but why is her cheat more harsh than his!? Some times men cant take what they dish out...
Here it is. "He treats me like the queen that I am." She has an inflated sense of her value, and feels that she is entitled to have him around to support the kids, and should put up with the crumbs she gives him.
Diamond Ahsi right..We get blamed for everything. I’m so over it. Dude said he was a cheater at the beginning of this episode. Both cheated. Both are equally wrong in this relationship.
Wait. Am I the ONLY one who feels that the advice was 1-sided? I don’t understand how he cheated with multiple women, but even after she apologizes, he stands there without apologizing sincerely (in my humble opinion), still needing an explanation. HOW is it okay for the man to cheat and create an environment of insecurity and SHE, THE WOMAN, bear the brunt of the burden of making things right??? (scratches head). IDGAD how short the affair was, it STILL HURTS! This is badddd. And BOTH of them need to work through the TRUE REASONS BEHIND THEIR INFIDELITY. Moreover, WHY, with 3 children, are we ignoring his unemployment? I wholeheartedly believe that unemployment is a BIIIIG REASON for the unraveling of fidelity of this relationship, HOWEVER, I feel that they STILL LOVE each other, they still showed up in court AND they should (hopefully they did) work things out 🤷🏽♀️...
I’m so confused. Is he or is he not a provider?? They’re not going to make it. The Judge called it. They don’t like each other. They’re just familiar and don’t want to admit defeat.
She sees opportunity and she’s selfish because she doesn’t want anyone else to have him. Ma’am let this man go. Jesus is telling me to let you know.. This AIN’T ya maaann.. Let him go because I’m pretty sure there’s another woman out there for him.
I don’t like how sometimes judge T kinda drills on women to stick something out when they’ve been done wrong for the sack of the man. he cheated every time at work and she cheats with one person . When a women cheats it’s the end of the world.
Nether one of them should get married both of them are sleeping around a ring won't make someone faithfully period your a faithfully person or your not an these two like to sleep around
I'm a little confused why he is so upset about her affair when he had an affair. Maybe hers was a little longer but it was still an affair. So, what's the problem? It was okay for him to cheat but not okay for her? Confused!
Man what is this crazy lady sitting up here talking about she would never jeopardize her relationship. Duh... News flash you already have done that one sweetie lol...
Definitely not true! I've done it before. I would call them only for one thing. No dates, no talking on the phone, no going out. NOTHING! I can see u in public and walk right pass you. He would come in the house, we handle the biz and ✌✌🤷♀️
I think its about 2 different things: significance of the affair and expectations. She had a 2 year relationship with someone else and expects him to provide for her children. He had sex with a few other women and literally expects NOTHING from her except that she doesn't cheat now that they are getting married and he's willing to provide.
Judge Lynn Toler, GOD is on your side and so are we, you have retired by now im sure, which is exactly the right time seeing that this pandemic came around, your attitude on cases are blunt yet so calming to see, you're intelligent and beautiful, please be safe and we love you.😍
It kinda made me sad when she said he makes an effort to romance her and set the mood but she doesn’t want that. It’s not just about you, he’s trying to set the mood for himself too but too many ppl think men should just be ready to go at the drop of the hat. Its easy for her side thing to do that for her bc he has no other kinds of commitments to her. She needs to work with him more and communicate her needs.
Fellas!! This is proof right here that if she EVER liked or dated “hood dudes/dope boys” then that’s what she will ALWAYS like and want. No matter her age!! If her baby daddy or ex bf is a street dude, and you’re not, don’t waste your time on her!!
He's been stepping out on her, she's been stepping out on him. There is no problem here. You are NOT married ...legally. It WILL become a problem once you two say your "I do's." She truly may stop seeing other guys...but it's going to be unlikely that he will be faithful once married. Soooo, stay single to keep more of your money when/if you split up so you won't have to pay a divorce attorney. To be quite honest, marriage makes most guys feel like they are in jail; therefore, it's becoming as outdated as 8 track tape players. You CAN be happy together without marriage!!!
Sincerely wish them well and SUCCESSFULLY marry. They do love one another. When men cheat they too need to know the scars that stay as well as the women. Prayers to all for all a👊🏾🎯🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💞
I think she’s misunderstood. She acknowledges that she should strive for better in her relationships but she cultivated a habit of being attracted to bad men. She knows he’s a good man and wants to be with him but she misses the excitement and spontaneity of her old lifestyle
"I like to be manhandled during sex" Ray Ray slapped her, choked her, and went in the backdoor. All while this dude was doing homework with HER kids. Smh
"I know how to turn my feelings on and off." Hmmmm...It sounded more like when she was when the other guy, she turned her feelings off for her partner and she lives the moment and viceversa. She compartmentalised. Nah, I don't like that kind of people. Plus, the best she can say about him is "he's a good provider"? On the other hand, the guy can't bring himself to say anything about her personality that attracts him. It sounds more that he's used to her.
They need to break up. They actually broke up, the FIRST one of them sleep with their *friend" first. the first time u touch someone else,we soooo good. We good. I'm gone! I can put up with some stuff, that's NOT 1 of em
Many women reject romance from men they don’t have those loving feelings for. It’s aggravating to them because they don’t share the same sentiment. When you’re in love it’s usually accepted 🤷🏾♀️. Of course there are variables. For me there’s nothing a habitual cheater can do to make me feel loved…. it’s best to part ways.
She cheated on him with one guy for three years. He cheated on her with multiple coworkers for who knows how long. They’re both wrong and have disrespected the relationship. Yet so many people are only coming after her... why 🤷🏾♀️
That’s what I was trying to figure out. I’m like did we forget how we opened the show with him banging anything in sight.
Well the way he was talking, it kinda sounded like she cheated multiple times too but he was hurt by the length. Suggesting she had feelings for dude.
true
He the one who butt hurt. She's being casual about it and that's why ppl mad.
exactly
I think a lot of people confuse "love" with "convenience". And this is a perfect example of that.
Faactss
Yup
Yep
I used to date a girl like this. Told me I was too nice, complained every time I did anything romantic. Threatened to break up with me once a week. Would tell me other guys she could get. I left her. Best decision I’ve ever made.
I know that's right
leave them to it.
Good for you
Don't nobody deserve that. She probably thought she was doing something with that behavior.
Bernedette Kuteyi She turned full crazy. Called me 5 times a day begging me to come back
They don't need to be together. It sounds like they're settling with each other because they have history together, and they're comfortable being uncomfortable with each other.They want to be close but remain distant
Yep I second this
Well said
Makes no sense
Perfect summation!
right I say they both forgive each other and move on .They always act more shocked when it's the woman but he cheated plenty she just had a steady. Forgive or move on.
I don't understand how it goes from them both admitting they've cheated to her being the only one who was wrong.
@Ice she almost always judges the women more harshly. And often she excessively praises men for incredible feats like holding a job. It's way more apparent in the older episodes.
Do you think judge Toler's husband cheated on her before?
I think...and this is just a theory of mine....it had to do with the length of time. He had his affairs with multiple women, and it was short lived. She had time to get through it and learn to trust him again. Her one affair lasted two years, which would indicate there was some feelings there, although she claims she didn't have feelings like that for her side n***a. She pulled that affair off and had him completely fooled; had him thinking she had forgiven him over his cheating, trusting him and being faithful to him.
I think this is why the Judge was harping on her more. She's expecting him to quickly forgive her infidelity, even though she's had years to forgive his.
This is just a theory, not solid, concrete evidence.
I think she is a sexist. She has a son.
@Tiarra Evidently his was pretty quick, since he jumped from woman to woman.
I think she only wants him because he helps support her and her kids. She said he a great provided several times.
Those kids 18 & 20. She about do be alone.
Plus at one point she said he wasn't a good provider. Which one is it?
That's all she wants
candystayinatural alexander Right!!! I thought I was the only one who caught that they’ve been together for 8 years and he has been unemployed at least 3 times. No she just want a steady man and he wants a steady woman. They need an open relationship! LOL since they both like to cheat.
@@opulence_prime right...😂😂
She's only with him because he's a great provider for the kids. She's not Into him. I bet if a hood dude came around and wanted to take care of her kids with her, she would drop him.
Facts
So she's basically saying that she likes being taken advantage of right sums off in this lady's head I mean he's wrong to but come on man you both did your dirt forgive each other and move on or let her go so she can be with a guy that she wants to be with she'll probably end up dead I hate to say that but it's the honest truth
ASAP
Does she work.....???
@@veronicajohnson8950 you're asking the question I wanna know.
The women that want the good guy don’t get them and the women that get them don’t want them...smh
Crazy huh
He’s not a good guy so....
I got one for 30 years, when I realized what I had been doing in my college years and early 20's wasn't working...
Hes not though, lol... he cheated on her first with multiple women. Did everyone miss the first part, where he made it sound like it was ok because he spent all his time at work..
If u gotta tell ppl ur a good guy ur not a good guy just saying
They should not get married, just stay together as friends.
@3165dwayne I might say using each other.
I see an ex married couple commenting 😂
THEY are both cheaters; sometimes, it takes STARTING over, with someone else, to create a better you...
I would have zero interest in a girl who was into “corner boys”.
Grovel 💯
Facts
They All like corner boys. Corner boys are more exciting
Right, and she masculine as hell. There is nothing wrong with receiving flowers. She really rubbed me the wrong way.
Grovel... A HUGE HUGE ZERO!!!! DAMN!!!!
My husband watched this with me and was astounded, he kept saying “ but he cheated on her too where’s her indignation ?” many times with co workers , who knows for how long..yet he’s stuck on her cheating ( albeit long term) with a guy.. he’s a hypocrite.. yeah don’t cheaters hate being cheated on?
It's a pattern especially in these older episodes that she's harsher on the women. It can get pretty distracting.
Thats what I just said...Saud... it's 2yrs or 1 day he would have still been just as hurt...now he see how she feel or felt when he did it...he started it and she finished it ...it aint fun when the shoe is on the other foot...
You ain’t gone throw my kids in my face bro cus it makes me feel Like it ain’t genuine and you cheated and repeatedly it don’t feel good when you get cheated on smh silly that slick mouth I can’t take I don’t care what you do that’s deal breaker straight disrespect
True
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How he a good provider when he can't keep a job. And a man will hold you accountable for cheating but don't want you to do the same.
that part....
Sir, she’s just not that into you...
LMBO! I can hear how you wrote this statement and it has me cracking up!
he cheated on her too!!! why is everyone attacking her and making her out to be the bad guy? she only did it with one person and he did it with multiple partners for however long.
Because you can't "just have sex" with someone and have no feelings. He tell it like it is and she still lying... Thats why she's getting the backlash.
@@wezzman1 he never said he caught feelings with these women he just as much tried to down play those interactions which clearly shows he has a problem with self control lol whether she caught feelings or not if she acted on them she’d be with him and not the guy standing next to her…it’s never fun when the rabbit got the gun so y’all find any excuse for why the other party is more wrong y’all lose all logical sense when the woman outplays the man
@@wezzman1 then wouldn’t that apply to him too??
@@yung1717he wasn’t with any other woman for an extended period of time the way it was talked about here
Cheating is a hard thing to forget
You never forget but hopefully forgive. For most its impossible to forgive.
She doesn’t love herself one bit! I was like her, but when I learned self love, I found my Prince Charming. 10 yrs later, he’s corny, showers me with love, planted me a whole garden...sooooo much love 💗
Everyone has a way they want to be loved so don’t judge. You don’t know her personally.
I just said this in a comment below....... So happy for you ......Self love is everything ❤
How doesn’t she love herself?
How’d you get she doesn’t love herself?
Didn't he cheat on her too? im confused .. why was mostly everything said by the judge directed towards her infidelity?
In the older episodes the judge always grills the women harsher compared to the male. The Male has to be an awful sack of shit for the judge to really get on him. She got better towards the end of her career on the show though.
It was because the woman held a 2 yr relationship with her side piece. That is a lot more serious than a work fling. Both are wrong by the way.
Yes that's why she said she cheated on him ...tic for tac
Yea he cheated which is most definitely wrong but she was with a whole other man for 2-3 years and was offended he went through her phone and caught her, best believe if he didn’t look in her phone she would’ve kept seeing dude.
GohanTheKING _ something really wrong with y’all. The time frame of an Infidelity doesn’t matter. He’s dirty asf too, she shouldn’t be the only one getting grilled when he’s probably been cheating the same amount of times but he was doing multiple women which is worse to me because he can bring home diseases just like her.
What about the affairs he's had? I'm sure that hurt her too.
The judge cares about women wasting their time more than men. She rather the woman leave this guy and start a marriage with the guy she cheated with for 3 years. It's reasonable to go harder at her because she's clearly wasting her time.
I’m only 7 minutes in and I’m over her. She is complaining about having a man who was raised right with respect? Hold on imma be back after it’s done lol
How does he have respect cheating on her with multiple people ? He doesn’t even respect his own body 🤦🏽♀️ maybe she meant not name calling or doing what he says he will do but a cheater is a corrupt broken individual with little to no regard or respect for themselves and the person who loves them lol this is why it’s not good to make half assed opinions with half the details
I'm confused. Didnt he cheat on her first a few times.
No, he thought he was the only one, but she also. He confessed and told the truth and she still lying.
"WhAt aBout tHe mAn/ wHat abOut thE Guy tho/ mEn dO iT tOo" lol
Yea they are both wrong, but 2 years ain't a quick nut, that's a whole relationship.
That means she lies every time he ask her, "Where you going, who's that calling?"
I'd just leave. I don't see my self ever fully trusting her. And if I get caught cheating, I
might leave too. You not about to hold THAT over my head for life. lol
yes seems like that doesn't matter she cheated wooooooooooooooooooooooo plz.
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Khessa Michelle she cheated for 2yrs straight with the same person, he did it a few times with different people but he’d stopped years before she started cheating
'first" since when is that important. just don't do it, no matter what
These guys she talkin about manhandling her ain’t into love or romance. Man this a str8 up hood chick.
They deserve each other. I give them credit for their ability to communicate honestly.
They don't need to be married either cause they both have cheated. That's the worst thing you can do to your mate mentally in a relationship. I was w/mine for over 5 years & he continually cheated through our whole relationship. We've been broke up about 2 years & I still hurt from all the lying & cheating & I still haven't been w/no-one else yet. It wouldn't be fair too another man. I can't stress enough, If you want to have sex w/multiple people that's fine but DO NOT be in a relationship & hurt the person whom truly is in love w/you! Go be single! Why hurt someone else & mess up their lives & waste their time? I just don't get it! May God Bless Us All!
Factss it dont make no sense
I wouldn't say cheating is the worst thing you could do in a relationship but it is one of them.
SHE BELONGS TO THE STREETS!!
Both of them do!!
Just like him🤷🏾♀️
Estiee Udo facts
A d he doesn't? He cheated on her with multiple women... Why is everyone overlooking that. They are both Worth shit.
@James R that’s not true a woman can have some experience and not be hoe
She is so simple minded. When she gets older she is going to wish she had that kind of attention he wants to offer her.
I agree. She has grown children… it would be nice if she was past this stage already 🤦🏾♀️
Factz
Meanwhile he’s a cheater lol 🤣 his character is compromised idc how many flowers you buy or how gentle you want to make yourself seem you’re corrupt
But he’s a cheater… wtf do y’all be talking about
Throw the WHOLE RELATIONSHIP AWAY!! You can take her out the "hood" but you can't take the "hood" out of her!!!
He's a cheater too... He said he cheated with multiple women. I agree, throw the whole relationship away, because they are both worth shit.
@@Monika-bc3dq yeah, but she cheated for 2 full years!,- that's a whole other relationship!
@@wesman9292 cheating is cheating.
Well said !!!!!
They both cheated he just found out her cheating was lengthy.
The title of this episode should be called “For The Streets” 😂
Lmfao 😂 I agree 🤣
Yesssassws lol
"...I would never jeopardize our relationship..." is that right?🤦🏾♀️
She’s got that tough girl attitude and exterior going on, when she breaks down crying she resembles Michael Clark Duncan on the Green Mile.
Jennifer Ballou You wrong for that! 😂😂😂😂😂😂❤️
Knock! Knock! Whose there? It's Judge Lynn Toler! 😍
The best
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No for long, unfortunately
"...He's a great provider" NEVER FORGET THAT.
That's NOT the same as love. She views him as a beta provider,
but sleeps with the alphas.
Relatable
Exactly. Women love beta-male providers while seeking alpha male validation
He was pretty alpha with other women that he cheated on her with. They are both worth dirt.
But remember she also said he wasn't a good provider so that really confused me 🤣🤣🤣
They both cheated but she getting dragged more....
Notice that too?
I'm saying, how is that fair?! At least it was 1 person, he had sex with multiple women. Both were wrong!!
True...but 2 YEARS tho...? lol
How many lies do you have to tell A DAY to keep that up?
That's whole 'nother relationship and she even blamed that on him too...
"...He's a great provider"
She kept saying that...
That's NOT the same as love. She views him as a beta male provider,
but sleeps with the alphas. He should leave.
@@jesterarts734 she said it was just a sex thing just like him. it wasn't a relationship Don't try to imply that it was a relationship simply because it lasted a long time.
We all know FWB's last longer than relationships these days
It's not fair in a literal sense but it is from realistic perspective. She has 3 kids and this man pays to look after her and them. She brings nothing to the table except her obese self. He was in the wrong for cheating also. At the end of the day she needs to hold herself to a higher moral standard. Home girl is very dusty.
They for the streets
Does it matter... You so beautiful
I love the judge! However this episode was off... THEY BOTH CHEATED... He just cheats with MULTIPLE WOMEN AT WORK, she cheated with ONE MAN FOR 2 years... Honestly none are right but why is her cheat more harsh than his!? Some times men cant take what they dish out...
2 years is not just (cheating)!,- you might as well marry him!
Here it is. "He treats me like the queen that I am." She has an inflated sense of her value, and feels that she is entitled to have him around to support the kids, and should put up with the crumbs she gives him.
Wait they both did dirty? Wtf??? They both in the wrong🤦🏾♀️😔
I see y’all only coming at the women , but ain’t say NOTHING about wtf the man done did.
Diamond Ahsi right..We get blamed for everything. I’m so over it. Dude said he was a cheater at the beginning of this episode. Both cheated. Both are equally wrong in this relationship.
2 months worth cheating no kids vs 2-3 years cheating with no job and kids ;who you choosing
The difference is she isn’t offering anything else but kids and a headache
Jahryl Jacobs She does have a job! He was the one that had been unemployed on 3 different occasions during their 8 year relationship.
Two year relationship, good provider for my kids that’s enough said right there.
I guess Judge Lynn Toler still have faith in them. 🤷🤷🤷
Hell naw, they both on two separate fazes, only time gonna cause resentment .
She is only with him because he is a great provider and babysitter for her kids.
Wait. Am I the ONLY one who feels that the advice was 1-sided? I don’t understand how he cheated with multiple women, but even after she apologizes, he stands there without apologizing sincerely (in my humble opinion), still needing an explanation. HOW is it okay for the man to cheat and create an environment of insecurity and SHE, THE WOMAN, bear the brunt of the burden of making things right??? (scratches head). IDGAD how short the affair was, it STILL HURTS! This is badddd. And BOTH of them need to work through the TRUE REASONS BEHIND THEIR INFIDELITY. Moreover, WHY, with 3 children, are we ignoring his unemployment? I wholeheartedly believe that unemployment is a BIIIIG REASON for the unraveling of fidelity of this relationship, HOWEVER, I feel that they STILL LOVE each other, they still showed up in court AND they should (hopefully they did) work things out 🤷🏽♀️...
So he needs an explanation as to why she cheated but you can cheat with multiple woman and she should be OK with that
I’m so confused. Is he or is he not a provider??
They’re not going to make it. The Judge called it. They don’t like each other. They’re just familiar and don’t want to admit defeat.
She don’t want that man. A blind man can see that. He’ll bring around until she can find a replacement.
This is why people do not want to marry. People make marriage a joke
Been with my wife 40 years... that's no joke...!
Facts
@@MegaAvaughn Yeah. People want the wedding but not the marriage. Marriage is hard
True dat
She sees opportunity and she’s selfish because she doesn’t want anyone else to have him.
Ma’am let this man go. Jesus is telling me to let you know.. This AIN’T ya maaann..
Let him go because I’m pretty sure there’s another woman out there for him.
Jesus told you that?????
Ask him what he wants me to do
He cheated also tho. So don’t jus go for the female. Count his flaws to tha fuck
Did you miss the part that he cheated as well?????
Bruce Wayne He wants you to find someone else because she’s not it.
He treated you like a queen yet you cheated on him and now crying crocodile tears
I think she knows she SHOULD want him and she loves him like her best friend.....but she doesn't really desire him as he is.
He was cheating too so I don’t think that’s treating her like a queen 😬. They was both wrong
He cheated on her moron
He cheated on her multiple times and only hands her $50 a month towards bills.
He cheated too
Why is she the only bad guy here?
Men always get n there feeling wen women do the same as them smh
Get ova it bro!
Well darn. The kids are grown. I know how to turn my feelings on and off...is not a statement that inspires confidence.
She said 'I would never jeopardize their relationship'. Cheating vs Cheating. It's sooo over
I don’t like how sometimes judge T kinda drills on women to stick something out when they’ve been done wrong for the sack of the man. he cheated every time at work and she cheats with one person . When a women cheats it’s the end of the world.
in the bible is says death to do us part you woman are just to inpendent now and days to where you guys dont vaule dying with somebody together
Nether one of them should get married both of them are sleeping around a ring won't make someone faithfully period your a faithfully person or your not an these two like to sleep around
Guy's LORD HAVE MERCY these Divorce court stories have me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 and that's on period 😂😂
I'm a little confused why he is so upset about her affair when he had an affair. Maybe hers was a little longer but it was still an affair. So, what's the problem? It was okay for him to cheat but not okay for her? Confused!
Man what is this crazy lady sitting up here talking about she would never jeopardize her relationship. Duh... News flash you already have done that one sweetie lol...
HEELLLLOOOOO
He cheated. Why is she beating herself up
Why is the judge beating her up??? A cheat for a cheat
But the way she cheated was serious.
A cheat for a cheat equal to break up and a lot of emotions issues to deal with it later on.
Because women should be more respectful..
a cheat for 2 years!?,- that's a whole relationship!,- that's (deeper) than just cheating!- might as well be married to the other dude as well!
This lady said she loves her husband , and would never do anything to jeopardize their relationship. She already did .
&. 3 years with someone is more then sex, that’s become attach to someone
Definitely not true! I've done it before. I would call them only for one thing. No dates, no talking on the phone, no going out. NOTHING! I can see u in public and walk right pass you. He would come in the house, we handle the biz and ✌✌🤷♀️
mz mei I hear you
@@mzmei1997 Eww😷
@@mzmei1997 I’ll never relate to this
Dudes can cheat but can’t take it. But a whole two years of a cheat is a hardly just a sex thing.
Break.up. Men can never forgive nor forget cheating.
If she forgave him for his multiple infidelities, he can forgive her for this one long infidelity. He just needs time like she had to deal with it.
He cheated as well so why I am not hearing anything about that from the Judge?
I think its about 2 different things: significance of the affair and expectations. She had a 2 year relationship with someone else and expects him to provide for her children. He had sex with a few other women and literally expects NOTHING from her except that she doesn't cheat now that they are getting married and he's willing to provide.
You don't deserve this man!!!!!!!
A man who cheats whenever he feels like it? A man who can't keep a job and lives off of the woman he's too good for?
Yet he chose her sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
Tas Bar no one deserves a cheating man
A man can cheat.......but don't let his woman cheat.....never understood if he cheated but can't forgive her if she cheated......that's the case here.
The guy needs to 🏃🏿♀️... let me teach you some track and field skills and you could probably jog.
😅😅😂😃🤦🏿♀️🤦🏿♀️😂😄😄😅😅
I’m lost with her! She just needs financial support. I hope that Josh moved on and found someone who will pour into his cup as well!
They should be besties and nothing more.
Her kids are grown, let him go and the kids can have their own relationship with him.
She will still cheats after you married her.. 🤞🤞
thats what ive been thinking
I think he will too. They shouldn’t get married.
So will he
The part when he stuttered got me 🤣🤣
YESSSSSSS 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
Judge Lynn Toler, GOD is on your side and so are we, you have retired by now im sure, which is exactly the right time seeing that this pandemic came around, your attitude on cases are blunt yet so calming to see, you're intelligent and beautiful, please be safe and we love you.😍
I cant be with anyone that would cheat on me. Thats an intimate thing u should share with you're true love ❤
Bad Boys only last in the Short Run. Aint no growing Old and Building with them...
It kinda made me sad when she said he makes an effort to romance her and set the mood but she doesn’t want that. It’s not just about you, he’s trying to set the mood for himself too but too many ppl think men should just be ready to go at the drop of the hat. Its easy for her side thing to do that for her bc he has no other kinds of commitments to her. She needs to work with him more and communicate her needs.
they probably should cut ties because trust is gone
Fellas!! This is proof right here that if she EVER liked or dated “hood dudes/dope boys” then that’s what she will ALWAYS like and want. No matter her age!! If her baby daddy or ex bf is a street dude, and you’re not, don’t waste your time on her!!
Thats not true. Many women grow up and mature just like men who chase pretty faces and easy giveups
1:54 He's trash
6:15 She belongs to the streets
He's been stepping out on her, she's been stepping out on him. There is no problem here. You are NOT married ...legally. It WILL become a problem once you two say your "I do's." She truly may stop seeing other guys...but it's going to be unlikely that he will be faithful once married. Soooo, stay single to keep more of your money when/if you split up so you won't have to pay a divorce attorney.
To be quite honest, marriage makes most guys feel like they are in jail; therefore, it's becoming as outdated as 8 track tape players. You CAN be happy together without marriage!!!
That's not slick talk! That's real talk! 💯
In the real world men tend to think it’s okay to bring infidelity into a relationship until their partner does it they’re a forever wreck! Why?
She wants her for her kids. He is a great father for my kids. Bottom and top line for her
Sincerely wish them well and SUCCESSFULLY marry. They do love one another. When men cheat they too need to know the scars that stay as well as the women. Prayers to all for all a👊🏾🎯🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💞
I think she’s misunderstood. She acknowledges that she should strive for better in her relationships but she cultivated a habit of being attracted to bad men. She knows he’s a good man and wants to be with him but she misses the excitement and spontaneity of her old lifestyle
"I like to be manhandled during sex" Ray Ray slapped her, choked her, and went in the backdoor. All while this dude was doing homework with HER kids. Smh
Its like they totally forgot that he cheated tooo with multiple females
Love this episode..... “I hear you” 👂🏼👂🏼👂🏼👂🏼👂🏼👂🏼
@6:48...brother was so frustrated he couldn't even talk...l died watchin' his reaction😆😅😄.
"I know how to turn my feelings on and off." Hmmmm...It sounded more like when she was when the other guy, she turned her feelings off for her partner and she lives the moment and viceversa. She compartmentalised. Nah, I don't like that kind of people. Plus, the best she can say about him is "he's a good provider"? On the other hand, the guy can't bring himself to say anything about her personality that attracts him. It sounds more that he's used to her.
Terms of the Day: Red Bones. Slick Mouth. Hitting Below the Belt. Being Manhandled.
Hes just use to her and she needs him to help with the kids. This relationship is a no
They need to break up. They actually broke up, the FIRST one of them sleep with their *friend" first. the first time u touch someone else,we soooo good. We good. I'm gone! I can put up with some stuff, that's NOT 1 of em
I GUA-RAN-DAM-TEE, that her GROWN ASS kids knew about the side dude the mother had for 3 years.
Im sure.
But he needs to get his life together too. He found someone willing to do that hurtful shit right back to him. They deserve each other I guess
Laughter often hides pain
She's chasing "Bad Boys" at her old age? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
These two are perfect for each other
Someone buy this brother the book 50 shades of Grey.....that is what she wants!! Lol
Dude.... let that broad go... she's a user
Girl got herself a moving ATM ... hopefully one day I'll be a great judge this wise 😊😊🤭🤭
Many women reject romance from men they don’t have those loving feelings for. It’s aggravating to them because they don’t share the same sentiment. When you’re in love it’s usually accepted 🤷🏾♀️. Of course there are variables. For me there’s nothing a habitual cheater can do to make me feel loved…. it’s best to part ways.
They just have some layers. She has to help him get over what she did and help her damn self
She want to save her "BUT" just for money 💰 and children sake😒 no love all gone 🙄