My Mom Abandoned me but now I'm a MILLIONAIRE and she wants MY MONEY - Reddit Finance Podcast
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The second story made me shed some tears, the fact that the wife was literally offering to take a nap on the couch so they could continue playing video games makes me sad. And I'm really glad that the OP didn't let her sleep on the couch just for E. And by the way, the OP isn't the jerk, E was, because if E could've just understood the wife's situation better then none of this would've happened.
I feel the OP needs to re-evaluate his friendship with E. E might try to split them up in the future.
Hell, it's her bedroom as well, where else are you suppose to be comfy - maybe change and/or shower - and rest properly
It was sort of wholesome that OP is on his wife's side and was rational
He needs to change friends and take his wife on a nice vacation ASAP
The problem however is that we have a snippet and as our host has pointed out no-one blows up like this if this was the first time.
Hell OP knew that E and his wife don't get along and hasn't wondered why? Nah OP is the one at fault in my mind, either because he was friends with E or because he is so blasé about his relationships that he just lets things be.
Also come on, they could've taken the tv out to the living room, who has a TV in their bedroom anyway, it doesn't help.
Story #2...Sounds like you need better friends. Kick that chump to the curb and anyone else that isn't on you and your wife's side. Family first!
Completely agree, unless your family is like the mom from story 1
i agree with the first part and disagree with the second part, people really need to know when to call the shots not blindly take sides. family first part, if they are objectfully right then that's fine. like if we were are friend's E's house and the wife wants to tell him what for, then no the wife would be wrong, she'd be a karen at that point but still. because family are still people and that doesn't make them more right for being family, that's what 95% of the jerk family members in these stories use to justify their actions.
@@VioletStarling88 Well, if your family aren't jerks, like the wife in this story, why wouldn't it be family first? It should be obvious from the story that it's not the wife being the jerk, it's the so-called friend.
Yes he does but that whole almost fell over bs is over exaggerating
And they are talking shit talking about “bros before hoes” like really first of all my wife isn’t a hoe and second that was single mf that came up that
1) NTA. In that situation where you're basically abandoned as a kid and the "parent" only comes out of the woodwork when you have 7 figures minimum in the bank, it's 1000% positive it's because the "parent" only see you as an ATM. If I ever was in that situation, I'd only respond to the first call "That's odd. I don't have a mother, only a dad", hang up and block any and all communications with her.
2) NTA. I'm single, never had a relationship (not interested in getting into one either), but even I know that when you're married the wife takes top priority (until kids come along). OP need to cut E out of his life if this is how he treats friends.
3) NTA. I have a dietary restriction (celiac disease) which forces me to have a wheat-free diet. My family have learned and adapted to my diet fairly quickly (although I only learned to cooked for myself when I was kicked out). I think OP should reconsider her marriage to the husband since he seems to suffer from the infamous "Fragile Masculinity Syndrome" which causes the afflicted to feel an urge to control everything, being the Alpha Being in the household and anything/anyone he views as weak or undesirable are to be mocked and discouraged. This may be a cultural thing but from my perspective: let him sleep in the doghouse where he belongs. Also, be prepared to be the only grandparent to be allowed to see the daughters children when the time comes
@Wildcard This may blow your mind, but... have you heard of the concept of GETTING A JOB?
@@TheMetalWeirdo this may blow your mind, but have you considered that the mother was unable to get a job?
@@TheMetalWeirdo I love how people complain about "fragile masculinity" when they aren't even working and still complaining lol. Also, no, the daughter IS financially straining the family in this case lol, because despite the mother giving her the money, the father has to work to earn it, so she's in no way "self sufficient". If the mother is going to reconsider her entire marriage over a little thing like this, that man doesn't deserve a loose trigger like this mother and daughter lol.
i mean if he is paying for the food and its a decision the daughter made not a health decision. i understand if you don't like meat, but don't expect someone else to pay for your food when its not for health reasons.
Story 1: if OP has 9 figures I could see a reason to return. 7 figures you don’t have enough disposable income, seen people get rekt supporting people with a mere 7 figures. Even some 8 figure people get damaged by finances.
Story 1: No, not the jerk. Mom is clearly gold-digging here and OP needs to not fall for any of her nonsense. It doesn't matter if the stepsiblings are innocent, they're still not OP's problem or obligation.
Just cause it's not his obligation doesn't mean he shouldn't help them tho.
@@kayleighbrown459 Yeah no their is no obligation and if you think so then you gata listen to the story again
IF your family didnt support you at your worst, than you dont support them at your best. They dont deserve it
@@michaelhildenbrand4475 I...just said he didn't have any obligation...
True
In stories like some of these, I always hear the argument 'Family is family' but if you're Family is hurting you or using you, forcing you into situations you don't want to be in, it should be perfectly acceptable to cut them out of your life, sometimes, the family you chose, can be better, and more supportive than the family you were born with
Family is family but family that abandons you isn't family
The term, family is family, can be pretty toxic depending who it is involving. I agree with you wholeheartedly, in my opinion, it's about the meaning of those involved, you can sometimes tell the difference between 'family members' with ill-meaning or well-meaning people.
To Story three: the ops daughter has the right to eat and cook vegan food as much as she likes!
I've read an article some years ago about a German Family who only eats convenient/fast food and one of the kids desired fresh fruits, vegetables, grains such as rice, noodles and so on. The other Family members, however, despised her and did not allow her to eat healthy food - at all!
I don't know what happened to her, but this story is pretty similar to the article I've read. The difference is, the mother encourages her daughter to cook and eat whatever the daughter likes! Kudos to the mother for accepting and supporting her daughters eating habits.
yep way to create children that think they can cry there way thought life it sounds like its the dudes house if you dont like it move out its his house if he dosnt want vegan food in his house thats his right
The father in story three is one of those men that believes that he is god because he is the bread winner and can dictate what is allowed in HIS HOUSE
Nah, the Man did have a point ,but took it to far. It sounds like the mother is favouriting the child because its like one parent is like everyone be equal and teaching children that you know might not like something ,but eat it or make yourself a sandwich. Then one parent goes not for you I will supply the money to give you to make pizzas at home while everyone esle eats the same thing. Then they going to wonder why another child wants equipment and resources and kitchen space to make chinese food.
story 2: not a jerk, full stop. the whole "bros before hoes" thing stops at marriage. once you are married you have more of an obligation to your wife/husband than you do your friends and your friends should respect that
Agreed she work her butt off she deserve the bed he need to ditch his loser friends who say bro before girls, ugh no woman want a man child op friends he hang going be to single forever I hope there find a Bagel to be with that be there friend.
@@hoohoo431 Jesus did your video Game knowlege stop in 2016
yeah but theres more there then meets the eye
Now it’s hoe’s before bro’s
Amazing Stories!! The mom in the 1st story is a mooch and you should ignore her!
Indeed she does sound like a mooch
Moo
Mooooooooooo *chew grass*
First story: I think the OP should go to therapy to help him get over this "re-earn my mom's love."
Clearly this disgusting POS pathetic excuse of a mother really did a number on him and his sister. So sad 😞
The story with the dad being sick hits me. My dad and I didn’t have a horrible relationship but it wasn’t rainbows and cake. He passed last year and I was not there for him when he was sick (cancer that he told me via text) or went to his memorial via Zoom. I was told he died via text. I felt like a jerk for awhile but remembered that when I was sick and needed him he wasn’t there and I ended up dropping everything when he had a heart attack around the same time. I had some mental health issues and he told me I couldn’t live with him bc my little sisters still lived there and him and my stepmom were trying to get them to move out. That was the last straw for me. I’ve gone through my whole life feeling like he always picked them over me or not even consider me and that statement put the nail in the coffin. There’s more to the story of course but that would be a looooonnnggg post lol.
I'm really sorry that happened to you. There is nothing for you to feel bad about he made his choices and so did you based on his actions.
Maybe you should send your story lol maybe he'll talk about it on the channel if you are comfortable enough to do so that is
1st story: I wouldn't even bother trying to reunite with her as it's OBVIOUS that she's only interested in the OP's money. Though her kids are innocent, what makes the situation worse is that she's guilt tripping the OP with them and that should be taken as a red flag if you ask me. Seems like the OP knows exactly what fiction and reality is so i don't know why she's making an easy decision look hard. But, she's not the jerk in this.
2nd story: You're a married man. Your home comes before anything else. Heck, I'm not even married nor do i even have any kids yet at 28y/o and even i know this. Not the jerk.
3rd story: Not the jerk. That husband is a child.
4th story: I mean, I think the OP is just being spiteful here but at the end of the day, Like the mother said. Regardless of him being there or not, that is indeed her father and she should care. (Key word, SHOULD) However, as the case may be this looks like the typical abandonment story especially since it seems like the father cut ties to go and be with another family and decides to get in touch with them ONLY when he's in need? (At least to me as im still thinking while typing this). I can't blame her for the way she feels. Not the jerk.
I'm totally waiting for someone to say "That's their mom! They shouldn't ignore their own mom that's terrible!"
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@Wildcard First off throwing insults at someone you don't know over the internet? Lol classic. 2ndly, I didn't get to that part before I had to clock out from work and didn't get a chance to edit my comment when i finished the rest of the video at home. So, yeah. Now that I've read that part, i agree. The father is a piece of sh**.
Your reasoning behind OP 4 being spiteful against her sperm donor can be used to claim OP 1 is being spiteful against his egg donor. So I ask you, why þe double standard?
Story#2 I would have kicked E out the moment he said "why?" Yeah i consider my wife's well-being more important then playing with the bros.
Wouldn't blame you
That last story is almost a carbon copy of my life with my father, and if my older step brother would ever try to do that (which he wouldn't, because he was the first child to be abandoned by my father before I was born), but if he did, I would say the same: "absolutely not".
I've been "talking" to my father since we kicked him out, mostly for his birthday, father's day and holidays, and only because I consider it a milestone in my healing of what he did in my childhood and teenhood, but that's it. It won't go further than meeting with him one day to talk some stuff I have left in my mind.
i like the suggestion of setting up college funds for the half-siblings. i also like the idea of sending her an anniversary card every year on her new anniversary, containing a nice, new, crisp two dollar bill. she only wants your money for herself.
The guilt he feels was purposely planted there by his mom. #2 E needs to go and never come back. That goes for his other friends too.
Story 1: After I heard that the person was now rich and the mom wanted him more, I immediately knew it was for his/her money
Third story: the father is such a narcissist, my god! Poor girl! Glad the mother is on her side. She will always remember how her mom protected and deffended her.
Fourth story: Uuuurgh the shitty talk "he is still your father". NO. He is GENITOR, not father. A father takes responsability for his children, and this dude didn't. So OP has every right to deny giving this man anything.
story 3, the father is crazy, whats even crazier and will eventually get worse, being a Vegan. If the story didnt involve veganisim, absolutely on the mom/daughter's side.
@@SNeo-tk9hu why envolving veganism changes something? I legit didn't get it ^^;
@@SNeo-tk9hu I think Liz could Also have Alpha Gal Syndrome that cant Let her eat meat, So Thats why she rather to make food by herself.
How narcissistic for wanting your children to be grateful for what you provide them, and being mad at your wife, who doesn’t work for going out of the way to undermine you it is so incredibly disrespectful when someone works hard makes money buys ingredients and then cooks a meal for you for you to be like no I don’t want that that’s yucky yeah he absolutely overreacted but he’s in the right
@@Boatanga she’s vegetarian… she’ll eat it if she’s actually able to, father is the jerk for trying to stop her from being vegetarian
Story 1. Think of it this way. If you hadn’t made this money, would your mother have bothered to get back in contact with you? Unlikely? Yeah. Well that’s the same consideration you should be giving money to these kids it sounds like you don’t even know. You might share a poor excuse for a mother, but that isn’t worth anything in terms of $$. Also, once you start giving them gifts or money, your mother will never take her hands out of your pockets.
Drawing while watching this is the best
OP’s mom from story one, she doesn’t want to make peace and form a relationship with her daughter, she wants to make peace and form a relationship with OP’s money. Parents that abandon their children deserve NOTHING from them. Not the jerk.
Story 1: the idea of giving the siblings money in a way the mother can't touch it is a great idea. That way, she still gets to sleep in the bed she made, but the kids don't pay. Now that would make the OP be guilt free in my opinion.
Story 2: it seems like the friend did have a problem, but if the married friends understood the OP's situation, then E was a case of "everything is changed since you married" which is pretty inmature. Also, why don't they have the tv on the living room?
Story 3: the vegan girl buys her food, she cooks her meal, and doesn't make other family eat the same things. That dilema here is just the classic of making excuses for when one turns different and then they make excuses to cut of the new behaviour even if it's not harmful at all.
Story 4: couldn't it be that the half sibling wanted to not pay the bills themselves and contacted the OP for it?
with the money given to her thats the part that every one seems to miss off story 3 where did mum get money from was it from mums work or did it come from bf and same for the equitment from mums work or from bfs wallet if either of these were his wallet then yeah you dont have any rights
You're never the jerk in the videos. You are always right!!
I’m reminded of something someone posted on a video on another RUclips channel. It roughly went like this: If you didn’t want me at my worst, then you don’t deserve me at my best.
Basically, OP’s mom is only interested in the money and only bothered to reach out to the sister to cover her bases. I recommend some therapy for that feeling OP has about earning her love back because a parent’s love should never be conditional. If it is, then the parent does not care for the child beyond what they can do for them and likely never will.
See, this is why I have never bought it when someone says that becoming a parent has made them a better person.
Becoming a mother didn't make the OP's mom a drop less selfish or into a remotely better person.
Seriously, of the people you know who became parents how many them really changed that much in terms of personality?
They are still as they always were. Good or bad.
It's worked on some people. I've seen some people change for the better after having children. Doesn't mean it happens to all though.
depends on the person a narcissist will always be selfish, and people seldomly change unless something big happens to scare them or enlighten them. a narcissist will almost never change unless they can spin it in a way that makes them look good. that being said most other people that aren't dysfunctional generally will change when a child is introduce, there is a bond that is made that increases the importance of the child, specially a birth mother she carried a child for roughly 9 months there is an attachment, it would be more disturbing if that wasn't the case, which means a mental issue that has gone undetected or ignored. that being said if they don't have a dysfuntion they can be roudy and untrust worthy as young adults early 20s, and have a change in their late 20's -30s cause shit happened and they have their shit together. but i agree that becoming a parent doesn't make that a better person, hell becoming a parent legally either biologically or through some sort of guardianship doesn't make you a parent i'm my book, the actions of the person make them a parent.
As someone who has nephews from 3 of my brothers I can easily say, not one of them changed, they're not bad parents by any means, but their actual characters did not change a bit.
STORY #1
NTA.
OP shouldn't reconnect with egg-donor. There's a bunch of reasons why:
1. OP doesn't any of egg-donor's new kids. They're not OP's siblings, they're strangers. OP doesn't owe strangers anything.
2. Egg-donor is obviously only interested in OP's money, not in OP as a person. She won't love OP if OP gives her or her kids money, so OP will just be left feeling like an ATM and a fool.
3. She hurt OP's father, and probably cheated on him. Giving egg-donor money would be a betrayal of him.
4. She hurt OP's brother. Giving egg-donor money would be a betrayal of him.
STORY #2
NTA. OP is a good husband and stood up for his wife.
Frankly, OP should break off his friendship with E, try to explain to the mutual friends who sided with E why E's actions crossed a line, and then break off the friendship with any of them who side with
STORY #3
NTA. I've noticed that parents who obsess over "respect" and "gratitude" are usually narcissists who just want to exert control over their kids to feel powerful.
OP needs to choose - her child or her husband. Make it clear to husband that his actions and attitude are unacceptable, and that if he doesn't knock it off, he's going to lose his family. Insist he also attend family therapy.
STORY #4
NTA. The sperm-donor chose not to be OP's father. OP doesn't owe him a damn thing, not even if his life depends on it. If OP ever feels guilty, she could instead spend the money on gifts for her younger brother or donate it to a charity that helps disadvantaged children or abused women.
I agree with OP; I hope sperm-donor goes to Hell when he dies. It's what he deserves.
Mom screwed up, pushed you away, and now want you to pay for HER kids, DON'T LET HER IN
That last story is very relatable to me. I feel the same as the OP about mine. Difference is circumstances. Mine wanted to be around, but his reason were nefarious. My mom protected us.
you know it's gonna be a good story when he plays this game.
Yeah, But the gameplay is TRASH lmao
@@asherantony642 lol
what game is it
Story 2 honestly I don't think anyone's a jerk. You did what you had to. Your wife needed what she needed. And E needs to know his time is valued by his friends or to make plans with other friends. Now E handled it bad he should have just left understanding the situation then refrained from making plans with OP if their plans are interrupted regularly.
You don't think E is a jerk even after throwing a tantrum because he couldn't press colorful buttons.
@@SH-qs7ee they could've also just went to their house as well lmfao
The part that really blows my mind is the unmarried “friends”all getting behind E. I’m a single guy too but I think OP’s priorities are perfectly straight and his exhausted wife getting some much needed rest is so high above playing more video games with his friend which they’ve been playing for a while and can continue playing later that you could fit the Statue of Liberty between them!
That whole “bros before hoes” that’s referring to a girl that a guy just met and/or is planning a one night stand with, a OP is in a committed relationship, that’s a completely different dynamic and I would find it distasteful to call any woman a hoe but I might be able to shrug it off if I didn’t know her, but if someone implied the woman I loved and intended to spend the rest of my life with was a hoe…. Oh the hell that would break loose!
The medical bill story I love how the op handled it 👏
Stories from this channel are all satisfying "dodged a bullet with style".
I love it.
For the second story, i believe that your wife’s needs are much more important than A VIDEO GAME
A fucking nigga video game
Woah, don’t make it sound like the video game is at fault. E is just an asshole
Story one: The op should've told the mom that since she thinks shes a big enough girl to leave her old family and end it on a bitter note, than shes a big enough girl to take financial responsibility of her new family. And If her new boy toy can't help out with the financial stability then ig it sucks to suck 😂.
I can kinda relate to story 1. I'm not rich nor at the age where I can be, but I've always had bad luck when it comes to parents.
My mom and dad separated when I was 15 and my dad got full custody of me even though I had the choice to go with one of them. I stayed with my dad because he has some health conditions, I also was in my last year of middle school so I had to take my exams to graduate and go to college (my country is different from most countries when it comes with education).
I stayed with my dad for 2 more years and watched him go downhill where he basically was no better than my mom. He went on multiple dates that always ended up in the spicey stuff. He practically forced me to be nice to each new girlfriend he had. Now I'm not the person to stand between two people loving each other, but he had this one girlfriend that was terrible. She would act all nice and tried to mom me in those 2 years and talk about me behind my back and say things about me that wouldn't be true or that didn't have the proper context that only I could explain. My dad fell hard for her as he even cheated on the one girlfriend of his that I actually liked and whose daughter I considered my younger sister. My dad called me one day to ask the question if I would be staying in his house or look for my own and since I truly didn't want to go through such thing again, I said I would move out. He fully supported my decision and offered to help with rent, groceries, etc... but 2 days later he changed drastically and yelled at me through the phone. A week later I was kicked out, at this time I was 18, had no job, no student loan, no phone because he took mine since he paid for it and all the other stuff that he paid for besides my clothes. I luckily knew where to go for help and lived on my own for a year.
My mom also had her flaws. Since the divorce I would have a stoplight relationship with her which always ended up with her being toxic towards my dad and I, making up lies and even dropping the massive bomb of my dad not being my biological dad. This kind of relationship stayed the same for like 3 years until my mom met her now ex-boyfriend because she went back to another person she used to date. That relationship is going smooth right now and I consider him as family. He's been a really good influence on my mom and made sure she paid off her debt and would be more honest to the people she cares about.
The relationship between my mom and I is going smooth as well and I have contact with a few other family members from my mom's side and I live with my grandpa (mom's side). The relationship with my dad is non-existing, but I keep tabs on him through his Facebook account and I'm thinking of contacting him to try to talk any misunderstandings out, but on the other hand I am afraid of him because he also is the cause of 2 severe traumas I have, which I did get therapy for, but didn't help.
1st story:NTA, tbh he was stuck on the fence between going to his mom or not as the kids or half siblings had nothing to do with it so if I were him I would go just to see the kids but not get involved with the mom or talk anything to do with money unless it's a financial crisis and has proof but also it would be nice to see a family reunion and sort things out.
I love these fire videos
Story 2: Big difference between married friends and non-married. If there is ever a dispute between husband and wife, you try your best not to let your friends into it. However, if you do it's always better to speak to a married person. Unmarried people will say the dumbest stuff.
Hence why they're unmarried
Make no mistake. Whatever rekindling happens with the mother it will always be motivated by money. Save yourself the follow up pain from figuring that out too late or after an expensive ordeal. 💯
First story. I totally understand you. I don't know if anyone here has read the Wings of fire book series, but one of the characters was in a really manipulative mother-daughter (basically) relationship. The character that was being manipulated felt like she needed to earn the manipulatior's love back.
For the second story: Or they could have moved the tv and PlayStation stuff into the living/lounge room depending on the size of the tv.
Story 1: flip mom the bird and tell here to stay out of your life the way she has for years already. You don’t need none of that. Your mom don’t love you.
You are THE BEST youtuber and i love your vids my favorite youtuber yet😊
I’m a minute and a half into the first story and I must say I’m just hearing that the OP got national contracts at age 24 makes me feel very warm inside and I just got really happy knowing that he worked really hard for some thing and he achieved what many others might not have thought possible and he might not have ever thought he could do it either if he didn’t have such supportive grandparents and I think that is amazing I just wanted to speak my mind a little.
story 2: E wants the op's wife to sleep on the couch in her house just to play a vide o game.
1st story : i feel her, i still didn't talk to my father but i help my half siblings (2 kids) through paying half of their tuition fees and giving them some allowance but not everytime and the catch is my siblings need to go to my friend's house to get their money not directly from me and my friend also is the one paying the school hahahaha
2nd story : maybe the friend E wants to replace the OP's wife hahahaha
3rd story : if someone throw my kids things and i'm the one who buys, then he/she will pick all his/her clothes at the garden hahahaha
4th story : nah...i'll pass...they can do it hahahahaha
For 3rd story : in this case it's the OP and the daughter that will be sleeping in the garden, it's his house so it's his rules
story 2: Even though E saw that his wife was tried and was literally about to fall, he was willing play games and could not see his friend's wife was tried and wanted some peace and quiet. But his wife's response made shed some tears as she was willing to do something for her husband and friend's enjoyment (playing video games). I agree with the op.
Im like a drug addict addicted to your vids also btw your voice is really soothing
"why is he jealous of her eating vegan food"
If that is jealousy then I'm JFK. And sure not a Jerk but those responses. "buy all vegan food" that's one way to make the husband angry and only eat out and possible destroy the relationship ig.
vegans are bad influence to people they eat only vegetables what are they trying to live for
but if your vegan for health reason it's fine
Agreed, that response is the equivalent of pouring ACID in the wound, it won't help anything but give the husband enough ammo to accuse OP of being vegan herself hence allowing this.
Also note that OP admits to buying everything but in the same vein says that the husband is the sole provider ergo the money used to buy the tools and to give to the daughter was actually HIS money and OP is undermining him. She is creating the problem
and it also depends on whos paying for the vegan food if its him he has a right to be angry
@@lostsoul2508 exactly id state the girl wants to eat vegan get a job and pay for it ur self
@@brendonrookes1151she buys her own food for a reason. The girl has every right to eat what she wants. The dad is a deadbeat.
Story 1: This person is going to attempt to 'buy' his mother's love just to get disappointed. People(eve some mother) are not worth the efforts when money is the driving force.
Still don’t know if its man or woman.
@Wildcard There was no mention of either pronouns, based on statistics at would be a 'she' 89% of the time or a 'he' 9.9% of time considering he/she/something else has a boyfriend.
I really love your videos I think im obsessed
After listening to these stories i realised how good my parents are
story 3: She's still much more respectful than People that stare at their phones the whole time eating together with anyone actually.
15th comment :/ but hey I made it to the premier that's something right?
Fourth story: NTA. If for the last 20 years or so the parent never provided for the children that needed him emotionally and financially, he's not entitled to get emotional and financial support from the same kids he abandoned. Speaking from a similar perspective here, OP owes nothing to that man, she's free to do whatever she wants
You’re voice impressions are crazy 😂
Video game story: as I said in another video with this story, it's ESH apart from the wife. E sucks for obvious reasons, and OP sucks because he placed the only TV in their bedroom. Now normally that'd be fine, but then OP decides to invite people over to play on said TV. Now it doesn't take more than two brain cells to figure out that if one of you came home knackered, you'd want to sleep on your bed, and any guest your partner has over will have to leave the room, like it's pretty obvious that this situation is inevitable. So OP either has to a) buy a new TV for their living room; b) move the TV from the bedroom to the living room; or c) not have people over just to kick them out, politely or not.
Liz story: You know, cooking your own food is literally gonna teach you something. And you're being grateful that you know how to cook. The husband is being the spoiled brat here. He only wants his daughter to eat what he eats even after she identifies as vegan. Going vegan is a good thing! Let her be.
do that after the daughter makes her own money, and her own place. If the problem is cooking then cook the non-vegan food for family because it's the money to make food for ALL family and it's from the father's wallet, and the kitchen is in HIS house so it's his rule. the daughter can try to discuss not argue with his father, just ask him like a girl ask his dad for permission. If she can bring good reason why he should permit then better and maybe the father will go vegan. But since the problem is the daughter is use the mother's back it's one way to disrespect the father, like why she ask only the mother and not include the father? Does the father is not important to her or what
@@0rang91l4 How do you know it's his money? On the flip side the father could also you know be a parent and adult ask his child what's going on, and try to understand it first. Instead of immediately going to man-child meltdown mode.
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Story #1: the OP is absolutely not the jerk for rejecting their mother's attempts at contacting them and they should not feel guilty about it. It's not them who should be earning their mother's love back, it's actually the mom is one who should be earning OP's, their dad's and sister's loves back. Not the other way around! OP's mom left OP's dad in time when he needed her support. So like OP said their mom did make her bed so she may as well sleep in it
I actually for a long time did feel abandoned and it affected me so negatively that I would cry when I tried to talk about it. Eventually I did reunite with that person who had leave and didn't come back but, she did try to fix our relationship like I was and now things are better. We are getting closer and I am happy for it
Older video but story 4 hit my hard enough that I thought I'd share. My father has never been a big point in my (32m) life, I have a number of siblings from him, all with different mothers, one of them (also 32m) is a couple months older than I am. I have spent less than 6 years of my life with the man and a few years back, he showed up out of the blue to see me as though it was a common thing he did, I shut the door in his face, a year or so after that I got a call from a hospital telling me he'd been hospitalized from a heart attack and I was the only one who picked up, I ripped into the doctor. When you feel abandoned, there is a deep seated rage there that is hard to articulate, part of you just want them back but the fact they left in the first place burns in your brain. I think why I can appreciate op's pov in story 4 is that the last time I'd seen my father was my 13th bday when he showed up with a gf and her kids, and then nothing for 14 years
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Let 'daddy's' stepson and other kids help out, his other kids are not the jerk for refusing to help out. If dad had kept in contact, paid child support etc then I'd say help him. I totally understand the mom not wanting to pursue child support, I have been in a similar situation.
This made me cry because I know the feeling, we all want to be loved by our mothers...I am sorry 😞
Abandon me as a child, you get nothing.
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You don't have any obligation to give her money. This is a classic entitled mother story, and just like you said, "she made her bed, so she can lie in it."
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If my dad abandoned me, wanting nothing to do with me, not even offering support for me since the age of ten, then no, wouldn't help him at all with anything, not even medical bills. Wouldn't even call him my dad; I'd just call him "some douchebag my mum knew back in the day".
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She doesn't deserve a penny. If she wasn't part of your struggles, she can't be a part of your success.
You are not a jerk! almost same story my mom didnt care about me at all barly had contact with her from i was 6 year old till i 18. me and my grandma always was cooking together and had fun and made diffrent dish everyday to try something new! and i got that good at making food it was my reason to close all negativity from my life and i started a resturant and landed alot of contract to both civil contract and goverment to make them lunch and dinner for work and delivery them to their work! and i open 2 more resturant and have work so good that i earn milions to and have 3 awesome resturant that get make food to both goverment and civil ppl and even drop in. when i turned 18 my mom wanted reconnect and sure ill give her a change and when i was 27 she started ask for money but never gave her a shit but still she want to reconnect and now when im 33 we hanging out and have a good relationship and told her that i dont give anyone money or anything! i have been grown up by my dad and my grandma so if i spoiled them sometimes its my gratitude i am for them to raised me. i dont pick anyone as a favorite person its just my gratitude i am for them
story 2: WHAT HE BINS THE TOOLS SO LIZ CANT LEARN HOW TO MAKE MORE OF HER OWN MEALS i dont know anyone that will do something like that
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In the first story, the OP said she wants to "earn" her mother's love back, but here's the thing... speaking from experience, a parents love is supposed to be always and absolute. If she wasn't there for over a decade, then she didn't actually love you. It happened to me and I never looked back. And with my children, there is nothing more important. No matter what happens in my life, I want them to be a part of it and I want to be a part of theirs. Love doesn't cost, it should be given freely, that's why it's the greatest gift.
Listen, your mom's feelings towards you will not change, I know because I am going through a similar situation...I am not reach, but I work hard for my things. Even when I helped her or attempted to, she always makes me feel unwanted. So don't bother be happy with the people that truly love you.💞🙏
Op in Story 1 is clearly not the jerk. And by the sounds of it, it seems that they are in need of counseling/therapy. Because the logical part of OP seems to understand their mom's intentions, but at the same time, mom is taking advantage of the emotional scarring that was left behind, that is manipulation, and the mom is fully aware of it.
2nd story: ITS THEIR HOUSE NOT THE FRIENDS SO WHY DOES HE FEEL SO ENTITLED
In the third story it sounds like he wants the daughter to give up on her dreams
by not eating expecting her mum to buy her vegan food oh do explain how thats a thing?
@@brendonrookes1151 because she can’t get a job… she needs to wait to get some, she shops on her own
The first story- **(TW) mention of SA*** I totally get where op is coming from, my egg donor has been trying to reach out to me and my sisters (there's 4 of us, 1 older and 2 younger) who she abandoned for the past 10 years, and when she did have us she and the guy she was with were addicts. And not only tha but my elder sister was r**** by this man when she was around 13. And she also thought it was a good idea to talk bad about my mom, the woman who raised me and my sisters. And we outright refused to talk to her. So I don't think op should have to feel any guilt for not having their mom in their life. Especially if it's for her own benefit.
No, no, no! You are not responsible for her or her kids. Stay clear of her and them they are just out for you money not you.
(To the OP)
I'm sorry your father did that to you and how he left you, you mom, and sibling. My father faced a similar situation at a younger age
story 1- no not a jerk. The OP in this situation had started a business and his mum just saw that he was rich and tried to take advantage of the OP and tried to guilt trip the OP into giving money to the family because they "needed it" and that the half-siblings were innocent. Innocent or not the mother was a complete idiot and the OP deserves more respect especially from his mother.
Yup. The fact that she had the audacity to say how OP's sister is "living better" than the half-siblings who OP has never met nor supported him in this risky business venture and now mom expects him to share with them(meaning she wants to live a life of luxury,not just them). OP shouldn't give any of them a dime, doesn't matter that they're "innocent".
About the last story, as my mom is a single parent and my dad decided to just go away I can feel into that situation and I can imagine that happening to myself. I wouldn't pay a cent, I would tell the person who calls me everything important because, in my personal case, my grand father (the father of my father) is still in contact with me, if he needed I would be there but not with my dad.
The first story is really inspiring but also really sad since many of us have has his or her experience but never got the people who believed in us or the chance at a new life.
You should NEVER bother yourself with people who abandon you, especially if/when you're at your lowest. Tell them to F off !
14:06 my aunt was some what like this when my grandpa was sick because of a few details I didn’t get to hear. And when he died she didn’t visit his grave a few times
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"In *my* kitchen..." Yeah, nope. He would have lost his damn balls in *MY* kitchen...
The amount of times I doubt myself for making bad decisions in my life, I hear these many stories and I am horrified by the callous nature of people. All of these people are spot on, and 100% in the right, but right for having the hutspah to question themselves.
you can’t just get rid of the feeling of a bin, it sticks with you for all your life
For Story 3: Yeah, I’d go with Malicious Compliance. I say the OP is not a Jerk. For Story 4: Not a Jerk, The Dad Abandoned the Family and beat the OP’s mom but treated the OP well before he left but when he needs help he sends the OP’s step-brother to ask her for money.
Op : useless again, mom : kicks op out again
7:24 No, OP is 100% in the right for kicking E out. It's rude to make someone sleep on the sofa in their own house, simply because someone wants to keep playing video games.
George Washington had a crazy mom. She was independently wealthy but would wear rags and tell people her son won't help his poor mother. At George's wedding, Martha didn't want her to go.
Story 2 is a difference between People who worked a lot and those who didnt, even if she was just his friend/sister/gf/whatever ,its just rude to stay if someones that exausted