I love how Matthew was very polite to this woman but still put her in her place. Raise your hand if you know she isn’t going to follow his advice and he will eventually break off the friendship cuz his wife demands it. Women need to stop going after men who are taken. Men and women will take forever to learn. How do I know? I’m guilty and just now figuring it out for myself.
She's not going after him, he's her best friend. Believe me, I'm a intensely romantic person whose best friend is a guy, he's like a brother to me and my (very intense) love for him has NOTHING to do with what I feel for the guys I like. My friend is family, and that kind of bond is just as important as it is clearly non romantic. I'm 100% certain that this is the kind of relationship this woman has with her friend. And that bond is always necessary, even when you're madly in love with someone (and even more so in those moments, just like a sibling would be). Her friendship won't just dissolve the moment she "finds someone who isn't taken"
I find it suspect how she does not have time to find love but has time for him? She seems to be making excuses to not move on. I think she secretly loves him. She also mentioned she had these problems with his past girlfriends as well...
Huh...I find it strange that she's apparently his bestie but she's has only met the fiancee a handful of times? That's definitely why she feels uncomfortable, I agree show her you're not a threat.
Anyone find it suspect that this woman has time for her male best friend, but does not have time to find a romantic relationship? I agree 100% that men and woman can be friends without a Sexual tone however there still needs to be a level of compatibility between the two, thus there would be enough reason for his fiance to feel uncomfortable about it. I agree with Matt that the key to a successful friendship with someone who is attached would be to be a friend to both. I too am that crazy dog lady who enjoys diy projects and i relate better to men, women tend to be intimidated, caddy, bring drama, gossip, and guys are much easier to have a comfortable friendship, talk about sports, competitive... but I find it super odd that she has time for him and not for other males.
There's always this rude comment somewhere lol. I honestly cannot tell you how many times the women and men who bring down their own gender and say that's why they tend to only be friends with the opposite have actually been the ones with the problem.........
I'm not bringing down my own gender. Im sticking up for the chick in the video that has a male best friend. I sympathize with her. I'm saying that for me, it's easier to be friends with males. It's just my personal experience. My interests are more in line with the guys, I don't want to watch sex in the city and greys anatomy and drink wine with the girls. I'd rather be in the garage with the guys.. Perhaps your response is exactly the type of caddy stuff I was talking about. Sorry to offend you, I'm not looking for any arguements. But thank you for your thoughts.
Ofc by calling women gossips, catty, dramatic. Implying that men like DIY projects more and are less intimidated?? Lol yea you certainly think highly of women. And I am not being catty, I actually like your comment until I read all the negative bullshit you had to include. I also sympathize but women like you give us a bad look.....-___-
pinkqueenscookie grow up. Live in the real world...again I'm just saying in my experience. I've had more women fuck me over in life than my straight foward male friends. None the less, it has nothing to do with my point here that it's odd she doesn't have time to find romance but she has time for her male best friend.
M. Szarzanowicz Haha telling me to grow up as you whine about how women have fucked you over and now you are jaded .Idk why I bothered. Mkay...... I'll leave you be. Peace.
Wife to be ? Lol nobody is a wife to be. Either you're a wife or you are not. If you're not your relationship does not trump that of a best friendship that goes decades back.
Lol Frankie. I completely agree. It's suspect as hell. 😅 I think clearly the best friends should have gotten together instead of being so oblivious about themselves and dragging their hearts and everyone else's hearts through the mud
She acting like she owns this man, hes not in a relationship with you girl, go find a man that's single. She likes seeking attention from him, controlling him.
Some intresting points i think if i were in the fiance's position doing those things would definetly put me at ease. I would be suspicious about her lack of time. I would wonder if shes trying to keep herself busy so she doesnt have to think her best friend is marrying another woman.
Matthew is way too charming to even be real. I need to continue to improve my confidence so that if a guy this articulate and warm and sweet approaches me I don't totally blow it. 👏😍
My boyfriend's best friend is a girl. And she is constantly calling him, having long conversations, they do things together (like going to the beach, having a coffee somewhere,..). Basically, the only difference between her and me is that he has sex with me. He says im a paranoic, and there is no reason for me to be jealous. Can PLEASE someone tell me how the hell I can make him understand he is being more loyal to her?? Because she has "survived" to many of his relationships, she always "wins".
They are find. They are not doing wrong. Maybe he see you or hear you that you are doing the same things with your family & friends. Only toxic is you are complaining to his friend. My complaining destroyed my marriage. You need to shut your about his friend. I am just helping you out because I care for you.
I'm curious to know how you stand on this "men and women can't be friends" debate. I think it's very difficult for two people who really enjoy each other to go for long without one or both being attracted to the other in a way that is more than friendship.
I'm sure not every person who is the gender that you go for are your type. It's not possible to be attracted to every woman or every man in the world, and I don't think having a respectful platonic relationship with them is ever going to change that. Sometimes if you've been close to someone for years they become an irreplaceable part of you, but there's no romantic attraction. Loving people doesn't simply boil down to romantic or no love at all, people are different and relationships and friendship become even more different to suit the individuals within them. You get something different out of a close friendship than you do a romantic relationship. Also I hate to say it but by your logic you're implying that people who are bisexual cannot ever be 'just friends' with anyone.
BohemianScandalous Hi, thanks for the reply! I was not under the impression that every heterosexual man or woman was going to be attracted to everyone of the opposite sex. You replaced my "difficult" with "not possible to be attracted to every woman or every man in the world," ;) The more I look in to it, the more info I find that points toward it being difficult for men and women both to remain purely platonic. Not that they act on it, necessarily, but that feelings of attraction or even love outside of the realm of platonic friendship are there. According to research I've done, usually at least one is attracted to their friend. Not always, but generally which is why I was curious as to what his thoughts were. Thanks again for the reply.
Great advice! I ended up on this video by accident, but loved watching it! I’ve actually been in similar situations before. In the past, the boyfriend made a new female friend and they got close very quickly where they would talk a lot. The main issue was that she wasn’t respectful towards me, and wasn’t interested in talking to me or getting to know me at all! Unfortunately the guy couldn’t understand why this was a problem and he couldn’t understand that if someone didn’t have an ill motive, they wouldn’t do this. Other situation was that the best friend of the guy was already there, they were old friends. But the whole dynamic between them felt quite strange. They acted like a couple and did everything together, except they didn’t have sex. They even did the childish talk that some couples do, that weirded me out a lot. To me it felt like he was already in a relationship, he just didn’t know it yet. The other people I’ve observed, the friends of the opposite sex who are super close to each other, they do seem like a couple and act like a couple. There is definitely a line that gets crossed, even if there is nothing physical. Usually if we’re all together and the guy and the friend behave in a way that makes me feel like I’m not the girlfriend and someone else is, then they’ve crossed a line. It’s usually when they’re actually being disrespectful but then they don’t understand why something can be disrespectful. Now I think I would avoid a guy with a female best friend. But I think I would appreciate it if he has some female friends, because then it means he’s capable of relating to women and communicating well. A female best friend, I can’t be bothered to go through those things again when there are so many other good options out there lol
You & your mom act like a couple when you go out alone. You & dad too. Sister too if you have one. Brother too if you have one. Your girl bestfriend too if you have one. Your female friend too. It is not crossed the line. It is not disrespecting when they hang out because they are friends. Some people get jealous of their partner same sex bestfriend. Some same sex bestfriend will betrayed thier bestfriend by having sex. Same with family too.
Wish more women thought like this! I’m kind of in a situation like this one. Boyfriend has a female best friend, first time meeting her was brutal! she hardly talked to me, couldn’t make eye contact and pretended like she didn’t know anything about me or how we met, even tho he tells her everything. I tried to be her friend and even bought her a drink, but she was really cold.
I'm on the opposite side and I am on the Aspergers spectrum so it's difficult for me to pick up social cues and flirting or jealousy or anything apart from intentionally directed hate, I only pick up on in retrospect if something about the interaction felt fishy to me. And even then sometimes I have to cross check my findings with other socially adept friends. So one of my guy best friends got married to this girl (an orthodox protestant who made him convert/get baptized) although both me (being a former Catholic) and his mom (a Hindu) were apprehensive about their compatibility. He is not by any means my only male best friend. And even I could tell she hated me!! Turns out I was oblivious to the fact that he was slightly attracted to me (he never mentioned it to me and since he is 7 years younger I didn't even remotely consider the attraction part) but seems she knew about this. So when I asked him about why she's being so aggressive he came clean. So I felt like I had no choice but to walk away from a friendship I'd cherished for nearly 10 years. Now I simply feel like I lost a relationship that I held dear for reasons beyond my control. Feels like sh*te. Would've been understandable if I was the only casualty but she made him stop seeing his family even. He was too ashamed to even face his mom a few months after his marriage.
I discussed with him how much it hurts me and that emotional affair is worse than physical for me. He stopped any communication with that woman now. Thanks God!
He is her best friend since a year and a half. He had several girlfriends she had issues with. He is now engaged.. Am I missing sometimes? Do people get married... after 2 seconds?
It is sometimes impossible to be friendly with a guy friend's girlfriend or wife. Some women get very territorial and jealous, to the point where they eventually do drive you off. I've had to let a few friendships go when the new GF starts to "hoard" the guy, and on other occasions, actually tells your guy friend that she is jealous and doesn't want the guy to be friends with me anymore, even after knowing him for 30 years. My solution is to recede into the background. I do believe that the GF should be the first woman in a man's life. Not everything works out perfectly...
Hi Matt, I was listening to NPR this afternoon and with Valentine's Day tomorrow the topic was obviously relationships. A woman was being interviewed about signing up for a program called invisible boyfriend. Apparently you pick out you dream guys looks and there are people who work for the program that text you, send you mail, and will even talk to you. They are not really with you, but they play the role. I think it would be interesting to hear your thoughts on this and why it is a bad (or good) idea to do. The woman in the interview went as far as telling the invisible bf that she could no longer "see" him because he is not real. What psychological damage or strength could this do to someone? I can see some possible pros to this, but mostly cons and I would like to know your thoughts. Possible new video????? Thanks for reading, Kelli Jo
So what if you've tried to befriend the other half, you've reasuured them your in no way interested in their partner that way, and offered to meet up and be friends but they dont take you up on it?, where does that leave the friendship knowing that their partner allows it but isn't completely comfortable with it?
The more the person gets to know you, the easier it will get. If they see you are not a threat and a genuine trustworthy person and if you show respect for their relationship. I have two best guy friends. They both married lovely women I've grown very fond of.It took time to get to know their wives. It was important so it's something I continued to work at.
Bullllsh*^t!!! I Don’t trust the “I don’t have time” stuff, she said. She cannot and should not have that “close” of a friendship with this guy. It’s bound to cause problems with his girlfriend eventually because.....his girlfriend should be his best friend, or why have her? I would want to know that I am the one he shares his thoughts and dreams with. And I’m with my best friend and my boyfriend all rolled up into one....
sometimes I have to live together with a couple and I feel like his girlfriend is constantly causing me problems - she's jealous about something, complains to me a lot more about her life than I do and she makes up drama all the time with me and finds what to argue about and uses her boyfriend to tell me what to do wtf. I have experienced it 2 times. I was a single female at this time and not only she can't put herself in my shoes (that I have to make it alone right now and take care of myself) but she also uses her power because she has some gullible and foolish man to defend her and who believes her bullshit which is really nasty of her... I don't know if it's just me.
Wonderful advice, I love watching these videos. They're so insightful, I feel you truly listen to the caller's problems. Even if they sound kind of silly. ^.^
it makes me so happy that before i ever saw this video, and long before I even knew you existed, I was doing *exactly* what you advise to do in this video :)
Yes, yes, yes! Bravo, Matthew Hussey! :D Some of my closest female friendships came to be just like this... I was friends with the man first and embraced the woman that came into his life.
Hi Matthew. What if I am the girlfriend and his best friend is my best friend? She did what you said, mentioned how he loves me and hangs out with me (given she was my best friend before). However, she is acting territorial sometimes and even dates him out when I wasn't around. How do I deal with this? He gets angry when I raise this concern. Now I'm not even contacting her anymore. I don't want to see her.
My boyfriend hid his female best friend until well after we moved in together. Now it's new news to me and I don't feel like I can trust him any more. I also found out that after we broke up last year he went right back to her. We are together again for the last 8 months but now I'm hurt and just want him to leave He said I was being petty when I found out about her and even though she decided to back off I'm still extremely hurt that he never told me about her being his beastie... I had to find out the hard way years later. Of course he just wants to move on and forget it, but I don't know how.
Did she even hav a talk with this woman about that shes not remotely interested in him? I had to do this because I was seen as a threat cuz im "pretty". Its been fine ever since. If she confronts and reassures the fiancee everything would be cool.she also has to watch her actions around him. Common sense stuff.
Matthew would be great for you to speak about online dating and your opinion on it. I have a lot of friends who are on it, would be great if you have any tips on how to use it to be effective :)
My best friend is also my ex boyfriend. I have been very respectful of his new girlfriend to the point where my presence on his facebook is non existent (after her protesting) and I now only see him once a month at most for coffee, however she recently gave him an ultimatum to choose her or me. Luckily he decided to stick to his guns and tell her that's not the kind of guy he is.. to be made to make a choice like that. I'm going to make the effort to meet her and get to know her, so she can see she has nothing to worry about. Also because it will help make my friend happy as her feelings of insecurity have been stressing him out.
My best friend is Male and his girlfriend is extremely jealous of our relationship. My husband is extremely jealous for the same reasons. The new year is bringing change love ,heartbreak but most of all a new beginning.
so maybe you and your bestie should grow up and actually start to respect relationships you are in instead of playing simple? Your husband's feelings and his girlfriend's feelings probably are not there for no reason and it seem that you and your man bestie have no respect and consideration for your partners. They better off without you, that's for sure.
noonie80 probably because you haven’t given her enough security. Sounds like you are not even willing to try and talk to the person you love, if you have to use the word « babysit ». I feel sorry for your significant other. If you are truly friends with someone, you wouldn’t have to prove that. Clearly you are doing something wrong.
I love how Matthew was very polite to this woman but still put her in her place. Raise your hand if you know she isn’t going to follow his advice and he will eventually break off the friendship cuz his wife demands it. Women need to stop going after men who are taken. Men and women will take forever to learn. How do I know? I’m guilty and just now figuring it out for myself.
She's not going after him, he's her best friend. Believe me, I'm a intensely romantic person whose best friend is a guy, he's like a brother to me and my (very intense) love for him has NOTHING to do with what I feel for the guys I like. My friend is family, and that kind of bond is just as important as it is clearly non romantic. I'm 100% certain that this is the kind of relationship this woman has with her friend. And that bond is always necessary, even when you're madly in love with someone (and even more so in those moments, just like a sibling would be). Her friendship won't just dissolve the moment she "finds someone who isn't taken"
I find it suspect how she does not have time to find love but has time for him? She seems to be making excuses to not move on. I think she secretly loves him. She also mentioned she had these problems with his past girlfriends as well...
i don't know, maybe i'm just jumping to conclusions, but am i the only one to suspect that she's secretly in love with that best friend ?
You're not the only one...
That's liar! If she have no time why she get get involve with others peoples bf! Excuses!!! Go and have your own life and leave the couples alone
Huh...I find it strange that she's apparently his bestie but she's has only met the fiancee a handful of times? That's definitely why she feels uncomfortable, I agree show her you're not a threat.
Anyone find it suspect that this woman has time for her male best friend, but does not have time to find a romantic relationship? I agree 100% that men and woman can be friends without a Sexual tone however there still needs to be a level of compatibility between the two, thus there would be enough reason for his fiance to feel uncomfortable about it. I agree with Matt that the key to a successful friendship with someone who is attached would be to be a friend to both. I too am that crazy dog lady who enjoys diy projects and i relate better to men, women tend to be intimidated, caddy, bring drama, gossip, and guys are much easier to have a comfortable friendship, talk about sports, competitive... but I find it super odd that she has time for him and not for other males.
There's always this rude comment somewhere lol. I honestly cannot tell you how many times the women and men who bring down their own gender and say that's why they tend to only be friends with the opposite have actually been the ones with the problem.........
I'm not bringing down my own gender. Im sticking up for the chick in the video that has a male best friend. I sympathize with her. I'm saying that for me, it's easier to be friends with males. It's just my personal experience. My interests are more in line with the guys, I don't want to watch sex in the city and greys anatomy and drink wine with the girls. I'd rather be in the garage with the guys.. Perhaps your response is exactly the type of caddy stuff I was talking about. Sorry to offend you, I'm not looking for any arguements. But thank you for your thoughts.
Ofc by calling women gossips, catty, dramatic. Implying that men like DIY projects more and are less intimidated??
Lol yea you certainly think highly of women.
And I am not being catty, I actually like your comment until I read all the negative bullshit you had to include. I also sympathize but women like you give us a bad look.....-___-
pinkqueenscookie grow up. Live in the real world...again I'm just saying in my experience. I've had more women fuck me over in life than my straight foward male friends. None the less, it has nothing to do with my point here that it's odd she doesn't have time to find romance but she has time for her male best friend.
M. Szarzanowicz Haha telling me to grow up as you whine about how women have fucked you over and now you are jaded .Idk why I bothered. Mkay...... I'll leave you be. Peace.
Why is it still awkward for her to be friends with his girlfriend? She’s his wife to be, give her that respect.
Wife to be ? Lol nobody is a wife to be. Either you're a wife or you are not. If you're not your relationship does not trump that of a best friendship that goes decades back.
so shes tooooo busy with her work for any social activities but has time to worry this much about this guy to the point where his gf is concerned???
Fran k bitch is sooooo phony
Lol Frankie. I completely agree. It's suspect as hell. 😅 I think clearly the best friends should have gotten together instead of being so oblivious about themselves and dragging their hearts and everyone else's hearts through the mud
She acting like she owns this man, hes not in a relationship with you girl, go find a man that's single. She likes seeking attention from him, controlling him.
Some intresting points i think if i were in the fiance's position doing those things would definetly put me at ease. I would be suspicious about her lack of time. I would wonder if shes trying to keep herself busy so she doesnt have to think her best friend is marrying another woman.
If the boyfriend has a girl as a friend while he's in a relationship with someone else that extra woman should have respect in his new relationship
Omg I love Matt hahaha when he was like then you should live alone haha
Matthew is way too charming to even be real. I need to continue to improve my confidence so that if a guy this articulate and warm and sweet approaches me I don't totally blow it. 👏😍
Maddy Harvey my thoughts exactly
My boyfriend's best friend is a girl. And she is constantly calling him, having long conversations, they do things together (like going to the beach, having a coffee somewhere,..). Basically, the only difference between her and me is that he has sex with me. He says im a paranoic, and there is no reason for me to be jealous. Can PLEASE someone tell me how the hell I can make him understand he is being more loyal to her?? Because she has "survived" to many of his relationships, she always "wins".
Red flag. Find another guy. Men are like busses, there’s always another coming.
Red flag
They are find. They are not doing wrong. Maybe he see you or hear you that you are doing the same things with your family & friends. Only toxic is you are complaining to his friend. My complaining destroyed my marriage. You need to shut your about his friend. I am just helping you out because I care for you.
I'm curious to know how you stand on this "men and women can't be friends" debate. I think it's very difficult for two people who really enjoy each other to go for long without one or both being attracted to the other in a way that is more than friendship.
I'm sure not every person who is the gender that you go for are your type. It's not possible to be attracted to every woman or every man in the world, and I don't think having a respectful platonic relationship with them is ever going to change that. Sometimes if you've been close to someone for years they become an irreplaceable part of you, but there's no romantic attraction. Loving people doesn't simply boil down to romantic or no love at all, people are different and relationships and friendship become even more different to suit the individuals within them. You get something different out of a close friendship than you do a romantic relationship.
Also I hate to say it but by your logic you're implying that people who are bisexual cannot ever be 'just friends' with anyone.
hey willow, matthew already did a video on this topic you should check it out :)
BohemianScandalous Hi, thanks for the reply! I was not under the impression that every heterosexual man or woman was going to be attracted to everyone of the opposite sex. You replaced my "difficult" with "not possible to be attracted to every woman or every man in the world," ;) The more I look in to it, the more info I find that points toward it being difficult for men and women both to remain purely platonic. Not that they act on it, necessarily, but that feelings of attraction or even love outside of the realm of platonic friendship are there. According to research I've done, usually at least one is attracted to their friend. Not always, but generally which is why I was curious as to what his thoughts were. Thanks again for the reply.
ThaMarshmallowcity sweet!
I think, woman can be a man´s friend but man can´t be a woman´s friend
she is so busy , but has time to call in to a talk show about her friend and worry herself about her friend come on she likes her guy friend ...
I would never pursue a relationship with a guy who had a female "bestie" in the first place. Its always dangerous territory.
Great advice! I ended up on this video by accident, but loved watching it! I’ve actually been in similar situations before. In the past, the boyfriend made a new female friend and they got close very quickly where they would talk a lot. The main issue was that she wasn’t respectful towards me, and wasn’t interested in talking to me or getting to know me at all! Unfortunately the guy couldn’t understand why this was a problem and he couldn’t understand that if someone didn’t have an ill motive, they wouldn’t do this.
Other situation was that the best friend of the guy was already there, they were old friends. But the whole dynamic between them felt quite strange. They acted like a couple and did everything together, except they didn’t have sex. They even did the childish talk that some couples do, that weirded me out a lot. To me it felt like he was already in a relationship, he just didn’t know it yet.
The other people I’ve observed, the friends of the opposite sex who are super close to each other, they do seem like a couple and act like a couple. There is definitely a line that gets crossed, even if there is nothing physical.
Usually if we’re all together and the guy and the friend behave in a way that makes me feel like I’m not the girlfriend and someone else is, then they’ve crossed a line. It’s usually when they’re actually being disrespectful but then they don’t understand why something can be disrespectful.
Now I think I would avoid a guy with a female best friend. But I think I would appreciate it if he has some female friends, because then it means he’s capable of relating to women and communicating well. A female best friend, I can’t be bothered to go through those things again when there are so many other good options out there lol
You & your mom act like a couple when you go out alone. You & dad too. Sister too if you have one. Brother too if you have one. Your girl bestfriend too if you have one. Your female friend too. It is not crossed the line. It is not disrespecting when they hang out because they are friends. Some people get jealous of their partner same sex bestfriend. Some same sex bestfriend will betrayed thier bestfriend by having sex. Same with family too.
Wish more women thought like this! I’m kind of in a situation like this one. Boyfriend has a female best friend, first time meeting her was brutal! she hardly talked to me, couldn’t make eye contact and pretended like she didn’t know anything about me or how we met, even tho he tells her everything. I tried to be her friend and even bought her a drink, but she was really cold.
This happened to me. I said goodbye and she walked right out without responding. I’m assuming she has a thing for him and was mad I got in the way
I'm on the opposite side and I am on the Aspergers spectrum so it's difficult for me to pick up social cues and flirting or jealousy or anything apart from intentionally directed hate, I only pick up on in retrospect if something about the interaction felt fishy to me. And even then sometimes I have to cross check my findings with other socially adept friends.
So one of my guy best friends got married to this girl (an orthodox protestant who made him convert/get baptized) although both me (being a former Catholic) and his mom (a Hindu) were apprehensive about their compatibility. He is not by any means my only male best friend. And even I could tell she hated me!! Turns out I was oblivious to the fact that he was slightly attracted to me (he never mentioned it to me and since he is 7 years younger I didn't even remotely consider the attraction part) but seems she knew about this. So when I asked him about why she's being so aggressive he came clean. So I felt like I had no choice but to walk away from a friendship I'd cherished for nearly 10 years. Now I simply feel like I lost a relationship that I held dear for reasons beyond my control. Feels like sh*te. Would've been understandable if I was the only casualty but she made him stop seeing his family even. He was too ashamed to even face his mom a few months after his marriage.
It's been a few years but I just saw your comment now. I'm in the same situation, may I know how is it going with you now? Thanks.
I’m in the middle such female ‘ friend’ interfering with our relationship and considering break up. Leave couple alone!
Lak Mak i just keft him becauso of a bitch like this
I discussed with him how much it hurts me and that emotional affair is worse than physical for me. He stopped any communication with that woman now. Thanks God!
He is her best friend since a year and a half.
He had several girlfriends she had issues with.
He is now engaged..
Am I missing sometimes?
Do people get married... after 2 seconds?
how she busy but has the to hang out and be best friend with somebody fiancé
Matthew Hussey seems like a very warm person (:
It is sometimes impossible to be friendly with a guy friend's girlfriend or wife. Some women get very territorial and jealous, to the point where they eventually do drive you off. I've had to let a few friendships go when the new GF starts to "hoard" the guy, and on other occasions, actually tells your guy friend that she is jealous and doesn't want the guy to be friends with me anymore, even after knowing him for 30 years.
My solution is to recede into the background. I do believe that the GF should be the first woman in a man's life. Not everything works out perfectly...
great advice, I loved the first half of the video - until she started whining about how her life's too busy for romance. that was just annoying.
Hi Matt,
I was listening to NPR this afternoon and with Valentine's Day tomorrow the topic was obviously relationships. A woman was being interviewed about signing up for a program called invisible boyfriend. Apparently you pick out you dream guys looks and there are people who work for the program that text you, send you mail, and will even talk to you. They are not really with you, but they play the role. I think it would be interesting to hear your thoughts on this and why it is a bad (or good) idea to do. The woman in the interview went as far as telling the invisible bf that she could no longer "see" him because he is not real. What psychological damage or strength could this do to someone? I can see some possible pros to this, but mostly cons and I would like to know your thoughts. Possible new video?????
Thanks for reading,
Kelli Jo
So what if you've tried to befriend the other half, you've reasuured them your in no way interested in their partner that way, and offered to meet up and be friends but they dont take you up on it?, where does that leave the friendship knowing that their partner allows it but isn't completely comfortable with it?
The more the person gets to know you, the easier it will get. If they see you are not a threat and a genuine trustworthy person and if you show respect for their relationship. I have two best guy friends. They both married lovely women I've grown very fond of.It took time to get to know their wives. It was important so it's something I continued to work at.
Your videos always make me smile and bring me a sense of peace and clarity. Thank you so much Matt!
This chick is trouble. If I was the girlfriend, I would get rid of my boyfriend just for being friends with a chick like this.
Bullllsh*^t!!! I Don’t trust the “I don’t have time” stuff, she said. She cannot and should not have that “close” of a friendship with this guy. It’s bound to cause problems with his girlfriend eventually because.....his girlfriend should be his best friend, or why have her? I would want to know that I am the one he shares his thoughts and dreams with. And I’m with my best friend and my boyfriend all rolled up into one....
She can have a guy best friend. Only problem is the girlfriend because the jealous.
She's "too busy" but still has time to maintain a relationship with and steal time from another woman's man
sometimes I have to live together with a couple and I feel like his girlfriend is constantly causing me problems - she's jealous about something, complains to me a lot more about her life than I do and she makes up drama all the time with me and finds what to argue about and uses her boyfriend to tell me what to do wtf. I have experienced it 2 times. I was a single female at this time and not only she can't put herself in my shoes (that I have to make it alone right now and take care of myself) but she also uses her power because she has some gullible and foolish man to defend her and who believes her bullshit which is really nasty of her... I don't know if it's just me.
Aubrey needs to find a guy to help her remodel!!! That can lead to a great relationship. He will feel needed & helpful from the start!
Wonderful advice, I love watching these videos. They're so insightful, I feel you truly listen to the caller's problems. Even if they sound kind of silly. ^.^
it makes me so happy that before i ever saw this video, and long before I even knew you existed, I was doing *exactly* what you advise to do in this video :)
Yes, yes, yes! Bravo, Matthew Hussey! :D Some of my closest female friendships came to be just like this... I was friends with the man first and embraced the woman that came into his life.
Hi Matthew. What if I am the girlfriend and his best friend is my best friend? She did what you said, mentioned how he loves me and hangs out with me (given she was my best friend before). However, she is acting territorial sometimes and even dates him out when I wasn't around. How do I deal with this?
He gets angry when I raise this concern. Now I'm not even contacting her anymore. I don't want to see her.
This is really great advice Matt.
My boyfriend hid his female best friend until well after we moved in together. Now it's new news to me and I don't feel like I can trust him any more. I also found out that after we broke up last year he went right back to her. We are together again for the last 8 months but now I'm hurt and just want him to leave
He said I was being petty when I found out about her and even though she decided to back off I'm still extremely hurt that he never told me about her being his beastie... I had to find out the hard way years later. Of course he just wants to move on and forget it, but I don't know how.
how are you doing lately?
Did she even hav a talk with this woman about that shes not remotely interested in him? I had to do this because I was seen as a threat cuz im "pretty". Its been fine ever since. If she confronts and reassures the fiancee everything would be cool.she also has to watch her actions around him. Common sense stuff.
Leave your best friend then😑why to worsen someone else's relationship
WOOOOOOOOOO one of the first commenters/viewers YAY
can you do more videos on unique paring please!
Matthew would be great for you to speak about online dating and your opinion on it. I have a lot of friends who are on it, would be great if you have any tips on how to use it to be effective :)
Yes! This was so cute!
She should find the time to find someone else
I'm so guilty of this. I fill my life with so much I have no time left for anyone else. Lol and then use excuses as to why I'm alone
alice's journey oh my god same
Same🙌
My Favourite ! ❤
Leave them alone!
I think she was awesome, when There was a little pushback she was eventually got it
matt i need your advice! I'm really desperate..but how can I contact you? would you follow me on twitter, so i can dm you?..yeah i'm really desperate
How about if si the boyfriend how si not respect the girlfriend putting the woman friend frist?
Anyone else think she sounds like JLaw esp in the beginning??
Best fucking advice, i totally agree!
My best friend is also my ex boyfriend. I have been very respectful of his new girlfriend to the point where my presence on his facebook is non existent (after her protesting) and I now only see him once a month at most for coffee, however she recently gave him an ultimatum to choose her or me. Luckily he decided to stick to his guns and tell her that's not the kind of guy he is.. to be made to make a choice like that. I'm going to make the effort to meet her and get to know her, so she can see she has nothing to worry about. Also because it will help make my friend happy as her feelings of insecurity have been stressing him out.
You can’t find any other friends? No reason to stay friends with an ex.
My best friend is Male and his girlfriend is extremely jealous of our relationship. My husband is extremely jealous for the same reasons. The new year is bringing change love ,heartbreak but most of all a new beginning.
so maybe you and your bestie should grow up and actually start to respect relationships you are in instead of playing simple? Your husband's feelings and his girlfriend's feelings probably are not there for no reason and it seem that you and your man bestie have no respect and consideration for your partners. They better off without you, that's for sure.
she sounds like big heavy woman predending to be non threatening.. finally som1 that sounds difffernt vs high pitched whiny callers
Crazy dog Lady :D :D wonderful :D
Ye
Yes... They always get jealous
It's just frustrating why I need to babysit the girlfriend/wife just to continue to prove that we are just friends...
noonie80 probably because you haven’t given her enough security. Sounds like you are not even willing to try and talk to the person you love, if you have to use the word « babysit ». I feel sorry for your significant other.
If you are truly friends with someone, you wouldn’t have to prove that. Clearly you are doing something wrong.