How to stay calm when you know you'll be stressed | Daniel Levitin | TED
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You're not at your best when you're stressed. In fact, your brain has evolved over millennia to release cortisol in stressful situations, inhibiting rational, logical thinking but potentially helping you survive, say, being attacked by a lion. Neuroscientist Daniel Levitin thinks there's a way to avoid making critical mistakes in stressful situations, when your thinking becomes clouded - the pre-mortem. "We all are going to fail now and then," he says. "The idea is to think ahead to what those failures might be."
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Came to learn about how to cope with stress; went away stressed about the state of modern medical science.
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I still can't believe I've spent an hour of my time watching this video and reading through 3 year old comments. Wow, I really need to get out more.
Exactly wtf
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It's a great technique, I have been doing it all my life. it's called Paranoia
Right? Just had a similar thought. When I practice this "pre-mortem" technique, its called pessimism.
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exactly! when he got on, i was like, "oh! that's my anxiety!"
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It’s kind of comforting to know that even a neuroscience brain expert can get stressed.
He is human too. 🙂
Especially them
Honestly I think being a neuroscientist would be even more stressful because you're always wondering what's going on in your brain chemistry. Do you know any car mechanics? One little weird noise that they hear from their car they will spend all evening and even into the night trying to figure out what's causing it. I've seen him stay outside at 2:00 in the morning with basically no light tinkering with something that wasn't even really a problem. One thing though with him is he hasn't learned a lesson of if it ain't broke don't fix it.
i love existential nihilism
Its human nature, doesn’t matter who it is we humans will always experience stress, some mild some extreme
"If you fail to plan ahead, you plan to fail"
-Under stress you think poorly. While calm think about things that might go wrong and plan to mitigate them.
-Keep objects in the same spot so your brain wont be stressed looking for them.
-Drugs can statistically have a higher chance of hurting than helping. Under stress you will only see the benefits and block out the risks.
What I understood is:
*"Think before you act"* . Go through all the possible outcomes and scenarios of the problem.
*"Prevention is better than cure"* . Going through and picking the best scenarios will result in a better outcome of the unknown future.
Yes that's what he was trying to make people understand
the last one being key for a certain bug most have forgotten by now... The media everyday putting fear in people's heads...
as a Swiftie reading your comment feel like singing a lyric in Mastermind (Midnights)
Thinking ahead helped me become more stressed.
Thanks.
He meant think ahead of the event that's stressing you out
Haha, I agree on that a lot. It's kind of human nature and personality for us.
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Ermmm... That's good but personally i already think ahead and i don't forget things. I am stressed when situations are beyond my control and can't be planned for
Lol
The title of this video is misleading... It should be "How to avoid stressful situations" this video does not do anything to help you stay calm while you are stressed.
He talked about organization only at the end and for less than a minute. Not a fitting title, I agree
No the title should be how to prepare for a stressful situations. You can't avoid stressful situations, they are part of life...by being prepared you minimize how stressed you get. Its like preparing for a big exam. One student studied, prepared, and came into the exam confident, while the other student, unprepared, studied last minute, comes into the exam worried and stressed. Obviously the one who is prepared might get jitters at first, but because you are prepared for the situation, once you start and realize you have all the tools and answers the test becomes a lot easier. Life in itself is a test, those that are prepared and plan ahead are often the ones on top.
3232James Right you are!
I agree, seems like the TED or professional equivalent of a click-bait title. You get a flavour of him wanting to wow with the statistical formulas when in reality not a lot of substance was provided to meet the claims of the title. The very people interested in this video are likely those who already know 'luck favours the prepared' and 'plan now, saves time later'.
GamingTaylor also maybe humble brag talks about..
I think it takes a lot of courage to stand in front of a group of judgemental strangers and talk about your personal failures. So, this guy gets my vote. It's not easy. Thank you.
Well... I think he was very narcissistic with his powerful friends and deeds they had done which completely shadowing those trivial errors he mentioned. I take the presentation as someone that mostly love to brag in front of people. If one turn the stake around for example; one has to be an expert on all different scenarios to follow his template. What could people take form this on the other hand that is kind of tangible - find a spot for the car keys...
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Conclusion: Think the best, but prepare for the worst.
➡️ That's what thinking ahead means.
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Always prepared for worst otherwise tough to survive
Ty. I hadn’t made the connection to “plan for the worst, hope for the best.” Ya put it so tidy in comparison. Thanks for that
that point is :
We need to train ourselves to think ahead to these kinds of situations, the important point here is recognizing that all of us are flawed. We all are going to fail now and then, The idea is to think ahead to what those failures might be, to put systems in place that will help minimize the damage, or to prevent the bad things from happening in the first place.
maybe you should recognizing these
before the damage will go
Wholly crap, you almost made your entire point elegantly. Just curious, what distracted you?
Prevention is better than cure right?
Thanks.
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Messy chores
@@charu2059 No thanks
"I didn't know my thinking was cloudy because my thinking was cloudy" :)
A similar expression sprung in my mind, which says something like,
"You can't make out your time is delayed because your brain also get slowed."(Richard Feynman on the effect of the relativistic time dilation.)
استطعنا بس مااستطعنا.
DIY's WITH EVA no terrorist atracks today thank you
The Dunning-Kruger effect states that people fail to recognize their lack of skills, because they would need to be skilled to realize.
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I’ve taught my children to consider the long-term impact of the decisions they make. Similar to this talk, it makes them consciously consider their future based on the current situation and actions. Getting in the habit of doing this regularly allows you to be more thoughtful.
I feel very lucky to have found this video. To be honest, I am a person who is very easily stressed and panicked when in a stressful situation. I agree with what Mr. Daniel said, that an unclear mind will lead to a bigger disaster. However, it's a shame that most of us focus more on what will go well than on preventing something bad from happening. Because of this video I wanted to learn more about what a pre mortem is, and how to prevent bad things from happening without overthinking it.
It is true our mind leads to good things. It is obvious bad experience and elements stop us from risks and new experiences. These strictly stick in the minds.
I found this talk rather more informative about medicines and their effects than how to deal with stressful situations. Anyway, this was a really well compiled talk and I loved it ☺️
True, I was still waiting on how to deal with stress!
@@lionesss06 basically what he is saying is that it comes down to anticipating possible problems and having systems in place that will allow you to come out with the least damage possible or even avoid the problem in the first place, and ultimately control your stress.
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Absolutely right
@@lionesss06 same situation
I believe the title should be rewritten to "What your doctor doesn't want you to know about prescription drugs." or something similar to that.
Right on point.
I think he chose that point to illustrate how necessary information can be gathered before we need to react to a potential side effect. If you ask these questions, and practice reasoning through the possible or probable outcomes of each choice, you then can make a more informed decision. The more you practice this, the less often you'll be distressed bc you made a mistake or forgot to ask/say/do something, and therefore be less stressed in general.
first of all, I felt that Montreal story is no where related to the NTT, and no body feel stressed for elevated levels of cholesterol but for the surgery indeed. i think title should have been like "patient's right to have an access to the safety information or something else. Otherwise, he pointed out the grey area of the clinical research.
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you are right
I am fascinated by the fact that neuroscientist can also make errors just like ordinary people..😅 However, I find this video rather more about information regarding how certain medicines affect us rather than how to deal with stressful situations. Also, I find it fascinating how transparent he is regarding his failures. I mean it takes a lot of courage for someone to open up and be vulnerable specially in front of a huge crowd..
I got the points from this video:
1. Think ahead to what those failures might be, to put systems in place that will help minimize the damage, or to prevent the bad things from happening in the first place.
2. Sometimes drugs can be damage to our body when we are stressed, because we only see the benefits of drugs.
3. When we are under stress, we're not thinking clearly. So think about how we're going to work through this ahead of time.
4. We need to train ourselves to think ahead to these kind of situation.
I've found that I always perform better when I don't think about it too much and just do what I feel is right
His thinking was clouded and he forgot the main title of the monologue.
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We need to train ourselfs to think ahead!
calm is the MacGuffin
Kinda true, the subject was a little off
For me it helped. He said at the end that all that you need to do is knowing what will cause you stress and minimize it. That’s very true actually and stressing is normal honestly there is just some unnecessary stressing sometimes that we can leave but choose not to. So it’s all up to us.
“How to avoid decision making in stressful situations: plan ahead”
the whole speech has very strange structure. I didn't get the point. and the title is absolutely wrong
i think so
Yeah the speaker wanders between too many topics and doesn't make a cohesive point.
MrNickT95 ye true, getting of topic everytime
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Hearing his ted talk makes me want to live for a billion years or is it just me
And so because of the comments, I stopped watching this.
Edited: I forgot that I made this comment what the heck happened to the replies XD
Still it's an interesting video
That's is the reason why you should not read comments before watching videos. Because the thought is, why you should listen to the opinion of the individuals who even did not undergo a research. The fact is no one is more knowledgeable who commented here compared to the speaker. 🙄
SAME!!
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Lol same
LOVED IT!!!!!! Was a technique taught to me during fatigue management after brain injury, but the problem with brain injury is you can only have so many techniques before they start slipping off the edge into the void and become forgotten. Thank you for the refresher, I still have some things to strategise but not as many as I started with.
This is the most human talk I have ever listened to. We don't have to be perfect. We just need to find ways to make things better for ourselves, gradually.
When going into important meetings it is always a very good idea to take someone else with you as extra eyes and ears and who can help/support you in asking questions you have not thought about
This is a simplified version of the age-old stoic practice called Negative Visualisation.
Negative contemplation is a practice whereby an individual visualises future events and circumstances in a negative light (in the case of material goods, the individual can also visualise losing and being deprived of all the things he values in this world). This pragmatic practice is a way of emotionally fortifying oneself from adversity, and it is both an exercise in gratitude and detachment.
Negative Visualisation is something that shouldn’t be confused with worrying! There’s a big difference between the two; contemplation of the negative is the essence of internal symmetry, worrying about the negative is the core of neuroticism.
Correct
In engineering development what can go wrong will go wrong, it's one of the tenants of sods law and was quoted a lot by Murphy in the 50's as he tested and developed rockets. Another one is; If everything is well and you have no problems, go back and check again, you must have missed something...lol
well put. I thought of that.
Thank you, I actually found this to be more helpful than the video. I’ll do some more looking into this
@@alunashepard9031 Exactly. This simple comment is more helpful and informative than the actual 12 minute video. TED has seriously gone downhill.
Experienced from being fail is something that we try to figure out what to do for not be failed second time arround. The possible stress is minimize ahead of time . Thank you Sir , for your courage and speak infront of many .
No idea what some of these comments are all about -- I thought it was an EXCELLENT talk! Thank you Dr. Levitin!
they're pointing out the fact that he literally spent zero time talking about staying calm under stress, which is what it was supposed to be about according to the title of the video.
his "advice" is essentially to be paranoid about the future which only increases anxiety and stress
One of the guests in our show also said that three actions help to energize him on a hard day: breathing deeply, thinking about good experiences and concentrating on the immediate steps that lie ahead.
I do all three. You make good points
that sounds great and helpful. I will try this method to balance my life.
thank you for the advice and the thinking on drugs but now i'm really stressed
We must think ahead about how we will respond to stressful situations so that we are prepared to respond as we wish when they occur. This was a very insightful statement.
“I’m not completely organised, but organising is a gradual process. And I’m getting there”
Congratulations budd
It does not tell us how to not get stressed. It tells us not to. Not quite the same thing.
+Thomas Drummond It tells you how to stay calm UNDER stress. as in you might think you can figure something out easily now (like where your keys and passport are) but when you're stressed it'd be almost impossible. so create systmes when you're not under stress to help yourself depend on them when you ARE stressed
Amer Turkistani If you remain calm you are not under stress, by definition. So, thanks for the techniques, I'll find my keys now, but the problem remains.
Thomas Drummond that's one way to look at it but I always saw calmness as the opposite of panicking. and the people under the most stress can be the calmest. I'm used to seeing people remaining calm even under stress and even though their thinking is cloudy they still don't panic. I don't think being calm by definition means you aren't under stress but you are more likely to panic if you're under stress
Amer Turkistani Maybe, but I think those people fake calmness. Mind you, the impression you give in those circumstances is what matters, really.
+Thomas Drummond SUMMARY : If you're going to be put into a PTSD situation, a situation causing anxiety or panic attacks and you buckle, then you're screwed. Plan ahead and take precautions to avoid the fight or flight kicking in, because the frontal cortex will be deactivated and you won't be able to think rationally (or at all)
^^ is this about right?
This...made me feel more stressed. I’m one of those people who spends far too much time thinking about what could go wrong.
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You're not alone
Ohhh thank you so much Daniel, to make the things much clear to us about stress and how our body work during it is high! Wishing you good health!
Always think positive whatever situation you are in,never let those negative thoughts ruin your day be happy keep smiling u never know whos fallin' in love by the smile ur making😁
I somehow devised exactly the same method of pre-mortem intuitively to keep away from getting stressed, years before seeing this talk. Glad to hear this talk as well!
I know right !
If you plan for your failure with positive attitudes, you'll be so prepared when facing them. The probability of its happening is unpredictable. Last year I gave up on putting my effort into my college appealing. My mind was fully prepared for the worst situation but a part of it still managed to just do it. Months later, my appeal was successful and I had no clue how I could go that far.
This video will help me stay calm during this hard time. Maybe before my next blood draw appointment I’ll watch this video over and over again.
Lol, i don't care about what people say, i'm here to learn english
from broken window to heart attack.. well - that escalated quickly
Miķelis Baltruks yeah, right?!
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Miķelis Baltruks a burglar breaks in to your place through a broken window, you see him and suffer a heart attack.. well - these two events were really close connected.
lol quite true.
Feels 'human' to know that even a neuroscientist can make errors. The difference being a new pathway to research and development emerges. Thanks for sharing on this platform and to help us learn.
Not that there ever would be a poll to re-title a video. . .
Stress can interfere with our thinking, even before starting what we want to do, we already feel unable to do it.
For example, as a collage student, I have a lot of assignments every day, plus the tiring campus organizational activities, and even by imagining it, we already feel that we are unable to do it and want to give up. But in this video, it is explained that the most important thing is to think positively before doing something, we have to get rid of all the bad thoughts in our brain. Because it all can interfere with what we want to do in the future., we have to believe we can do that even when it hasn't started yet, and that motivates me to keep going and never give up.
this stressed me more to be honest.
lol hahahaha
just uploaded 3 strategies to be calm. check it out. Im new to youtube and would really appreciate your time. Thanks
“Pre-mortem”?
I’ve been doing this for years. Trouble is, I still get stressed but the stress is in advance of the event. People tell me I worry too much.
Thats called overthinking buddy
I WAS SEARCHING FOR THIS FOR 3 YEARS!!! This is GOLD - this TED talk is not about stress , its about informed consent. A true teacher gives you a new way of thinking. Respect sir
Except that he has mis-informed you. See my (rather long) original comment that begins, "Am I the only one who is SHOCKED at the irresponsibility of this man's gross misrepresentation of the medical data?"
Fight for your dreams without compromising the good in you.
You can still reach the top without stomping on anyone to get there.🏆🏆🏆
i thought this was common sense... but then again :/ i have social anxiety and to make each social interaction less painful, i have to plan ahead and guess what might go wrong.
Same here. I have social anxiety as well and for nearly very social situation, whether going to a party or simply buying milk at the grocery store, I think of everything that can go wrong. I try to think of very situation that could occur so I'll know how to react to it 😐
+Plusy You should read the book The power of now , anxiety is living in the future thinking what can go wrong just what you are doing , If you live in the now, right now is not everything just fine?
+Melanie Anne Ahern You have social anxiety but you go to parties, you don't sound too bad. Just saying.
+3 33 Lol, maybe not in the way you're thinking. I only go to "party" parties once in a blue moon. For example, over the weekend I went to my uncle's wedding. I was around a lot of people I didn't know very well, and stuff like that gives me anxiety. It's that kind of stuff I was talking about.
Ahhhh. Family parties, I see what you're saying. Yes sometimes we don't have a choice, otherwise we look bad. Surely you'll grow out of this as we naturally do.
This talk actually summed up a major part of Daniel Levitin's book, "The Organised Mind: Thinking Straight in the Age of Information Overload". I read the book about eight months ago. This would've been a nice video to watch while I was reading it.
It's so useful for me. I need to train myself to think ahead to these kinds of situations. And learn to put systems in place that will help to minimize the damage, or to prevent the bad things from happening in the first place...
Great talk. Thank you. In business or important issues of life, imp events for students like crucial exams and interviews this pre-mortem is most important. In Decision making under stress , most of us are not good enough even pathetic some of us. Organising all your things and practicing 5S techniques going to save you lot of time, money .
Deeply insightful !!! We will fail at different points in life and the presence of these "systems" can make a lot of difference...
"have a designated place for easily lost things" yeah, Thanks for reminding me that if I don't lose things, that I will know where they are.
Nice video. Be careful what you feed your mind. To feel better reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Avoid comparing, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed, avoid moving too much and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations before sleep, when reading, in the kitchen, when taking a walk etc -----anytime-anywhere. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
This is better than the damn Ted talk.☝️
Thank you 🙏🏽❤️
This man identified another whole problem for me, god bless him.
I'm not quite sure what I just heard? I don't recall learning much of anything. Don't mean to be negative...just speaking truth.
+curiousgeorge555 yes and the way he speaks creates stress. Don't now why, but he didn't sound relaxed. Also it seams that he think he is the best. The way he says, that this was the same friend who got the nobel price, says me, that he got at least some narcissistic traits.
+curiousgeorge555 thats an opinion, not a truth. start on more simply ideas rather than ted talks.
+curiousgeorge555 He doesn't actually say anything. He's just happy that someone paid him a ton of money for him to be on stage, talking about his favourite subject; himself.
+curiousgeorge555 No you're right. The only piece of interesting/useful information was the bit about Statins being terrible.
+Chad W What "I don't recall learning much of anything." That is not an opinion.
Dr. Daniel your speech was so amazing and helpful for me. Thank you so much. 😊
This talk is useful for people like me who feel stressed and don't know what to do afterwards. We have to practice and train ourselves to think ahead of these situations. After that, It will help to anticipate the situation and minimize the damage. Also this talk give lots of information about a drug related to this problem and effect.
Ted talk is so good for a person to interact with so many personalities in the world.
The primary thing to do under a stress situation is to be calm observe and introspect.....Do not show it to the world.......But critical analysis in head is required. Some prognostic and predictive rational thinking also helps a great deal......Assume the future must go wildly wrong! One can then see the picture and act accordingly; good talk from someone with a neuro background.
Having a place for things is something my friends pick on me for but it has helped me so much with keeping stress down because I know where my stuff is from bills to books to keys to stamps... so on.
*>>> Stocks are falling and bond yields are rising, but markets still don’t seem convinced the Federal Reserve will pursue plans to keep increasing interest rates until inflation is under control. I'm still at a crossroads deciding if to liquidate my $117k stocck portfolio, what’s the best way to take advantage of this bear market?*
That's impressive! I could really use the expertise of this advisor, my portfolio has been stagnant.... Who’s the person guiding you
I was kind of skeptical before watching the video cuz i readthe comments but now that i have watched it i feel the technique is genuinely helpful and not only a neuroscientist but others as well suggest premortem technique
And i think so it simply translates into rational and practical thinking.
Without being falsely positive we can accept that there's a likelihood that things might go wrong and this acceptance is the key to alleviation of that panic cuz you can decide ur steps in that situation beforehand when you are in a saner condition.
Ultimately it's not the stress that we want to go away it's the problem that is to be solved stress just becomes an obstacle. Seriously I don't know why others aren't getting the point.
i'd been watching TED and became a huge fan since the program launched few years ago.. i agree that over the years there has been issues and flaws with their programs but still very helpful to alot of people...love TED
The cooldest temperature in montreal ever recorded is -36°C(-29°F)
Maybe he was exaggerating?
Doesn't mean his front porch (non calibrated) thermometer didn't read -40°.
We need to train ourselves to think ahead to these kinds of situations, the important point here is recognizing that all of us are flawed. We all are going to fail now and then, The idea is to think ahead to what those failures might be, to put systems in place that will help minimize the damage, or to prevent the bad things from happening in the first place. Your point is very helpful. Thanks so much.
I came here to learn how to handle with the situation at work when it doesn't go well, and I'm really happy that I don't only learned it but I have learned how to stay calm in every situation of my life.
Thank you so much for share your history and taught me a lot today!! I think that we can improve ourselves everyday with a new mindset and that will be good for us and for people around us too.
Hmm some interesting pharmacist stuff but the idea is to think ahead to times when you'll be stressed to avoid trying to think through a cloud of cortisol? Well everyone does that for interviews and exams etc but the times you will be caught out are the times you can't plan for. The title of this video is misleading and the focus of the talk was a bit meandering
Disorganised and misleading talk. It had nothing to do with the title.
Thanks for saving my time.
I usually read comments before watching the video. I wish this had been one of those times. Wow, just. Pure digression.
But we would miss the opportunity to know about his Nobel prize friend
@@malgretout563 yeah I chuckled at that bit. This wasn't a very helpful talk, although the bit about NNT is interesting.
it does if you just pay attention
A few years ago, I broke into my own house. I had just driven home, it was around midnight in the dead of Montreal winter, I had been visiting my friend, Jeff, across town, and the thermometer on the front porch read minus 40 degrees -- and don't bother asking if that's Celsius or Fahrenheit, minus 40 is where the two scales meet -- it was very cold. And as I stood on the front porch fumbling in my pockets, I found I didn't have my keys. In fact, I could see them through the window, lying on the dining room table where I had left them. So I quickly ran around and tried all the other doors and windows, and they were locked tight. I thought about calling a locksmith -- at least I had my cellphone, but at midnight, it could take a while for a locksmith to show up, and it was cold. I couldn't go back to my friend Jeff's house for the night because I had an early flight to Europe the next morning, and I needed to get my passport and my suitcase.
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So, desperate and freezing cold, I found a large rock and I broke through the basement window, cleared out the shards of glass, I crawled through, I found a piece of cardboard and taped it up over the opening, figuring that in the morning, on the way to the airport, I could call my contractor and ask him to fix it. This was going to be expensive, but probably no more expensive than a middle-of-the-night locksmith, so I figured, under the circumstances, I was coming out even.
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Now, I'm a neuroscientist by training and I know a little bit about how the brain performs under stress. It releases cortisol that raises your heart rate, it modulates adrenaline levels and it clouds your thinking. So the next morning, when I woke up on too little sleep, worrying about the hole in the window, and a mental note that I had to call my contractor, and the freezing temperatures, and the meetings I had upcoming in Europe, and, you know, with all the cortisol in my brain, my thinking was cloudy, but I didn't know it was cloudy because my thinking was cloudy.
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And it wasn't until I got to the airport check-in counter, that I realized I didn't have my passport.
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So I raced home in the snow and ice, 40 minutes, got my passport, raced back to the airport, I made it just in time, but they had given away my seat to someone else, so I got stuck in the back of the plane, next to the bathrooms, in a seat that wouldn't recline, on an eight-hour flight. Well, I had a lot of time to think during those eight hours and no sleep.
Despite all the hate in the comments, I think this is a great tedtalk. In my opinion it is true that if you do not plan you are planning to fail. Because in stressful situations your mind does not think clearly. However, if you plan ahead and stay consistent you will bypass most of the problems. Very easy example of mine is that I am a student and no matter how hard I study for a test I always have a plan in my mind. If you see problem type X here are your solutions/ think this way. If you see Y do this instead. People tend to think that it is memorization, but it is not. I study ahead, and I plan how to answer question types so that I wont panick from stress during the exam. And this example can be taken in more serious situations of life rather than a midterm exam :)
Listening to this nervous guy explaining about stress, is truly stressful. Good info. Stressful and nervous delivery.
I used to think ahead of things that could go wrong because I'm a worry wart. Regarding keys, having a spot to put them in was not the answer to me, because I could lose them anytime, anywhere, even outside the house. My answer was to have triplicate keys to my house kept in different places. My regular key, a duplicate kept in my wallet, and a third hidden outside on my property. (Even a 4th set given to a family member) . For my car keys, I had 2. My regular, and duplicate kept in my wallet. This saved me a few times over the years from being locked out of my house or my car. In fact, I even had to use the hidden key a couple times. But I never got locked out of either, or was without a key again. Been doing it for over 30 years too. .
carabiner and keychains help me keep track of mine
RJ Walker
If only we didn't need keys in the first place and that an alternative solution could be available. Say a finger print or maybe a finger print via mobile phone app!? Tesla cars use the bluetooth signal from your mobile phone to unlock your car for example. Just need to be careful not to leave your phone to near your car I guess! I think I porter the finger print via an app function.... if it were possible.
We have 2 cars in the household and a spare key for each car; so 4 car keys in total: each car key also has a front and back door key for redundancy: if we park at the front of the house we need a front door key, but the car port is round the back and so we would go through the garden to the back door. Then I have a set of 'garden' keys with garage, front and back door, plus another set of door keys only with spare keys for relatives, the flat I rent out etc.
exzisd I saved entire months of my lifetime on avoided key-searching by sewing a piece of shoestring into the top part of my backpacks. Thus I had a unified and always accessible place to put them (cling karabiner to shoestring loop) plus I could pick up the closed bag and shake it just once to be absolutely sure the key was in there without looking and regardless of how full it might bei of stuff that would usually have both hidden and muted a set of keys on the bag's bottom.
Lots of great information about stress, makes sense the times I’ve been stressed and made poor decisions. Thx for the talk🙏
One thing about anxiety I've noticed is that I'm anxious I'll forget something, do something incorrectly, get yelled at, not plan accordingly, etc, etc. I always plan ahead because I'm too anxious to not plan ahead, therefore I'm always anxious. I'm anxious about the fact that I'm anxious, even. Idk if I learned anything new here tbh but it was a nice TED talk.
By 2:30, I was starting to get serious anxiety. I hope it worked out for him. I don’t need all of this unnecessary stress
Think of everything that could go wrong and form a plan beforehand. Sounds like my OCD. I don't recommend doing this
Great talk . Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.
I find the less media I consume and the more I listen to my own intuition the more confidently I can operate in the real world. However it’s crucial to have truthtellers in your life that don’t spare your feelings and keep it very real with you.
Great Video. It is important to listen to videos like this. It makes you rethink the strategy. Relax, calm your mind and body, work out!
To stay calm when you know you'll stressed, you need to prepare for the stressful situations which can happen in the future. That's his point.
@BJB me too🤗
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How you can maintain your stress,calm when you argument with anyone?
So basically be batman and prepare for everything.
It is the case that we cannot stay calm when we are under stressed.
I wonder how easy my life goes if I can realize my thinking is cloudy when my thinking is cloudy! Unpredictable accidents will always occur because our life is long.
I recognized the importance of pre-mortem from this video.
How do you stay motivated in the midst of everything that's going on?
+ciao wutang focus on what made you start the journey? if that is school/work/project, focus on finishing the goals you set for yourself. There is some satisfaction in knowing you've completed what you set out to do.
+Mike L. I'm a poor student and that's how I felt and what I believed until I had to start paying 40% income taxes.
+ciao wutang TGIM/Disclosure Intro :D
+bms 40%?? man, leave that state/country :/
Mike L. I wish, but I want to finish school first
metalhead2508 yeah
Wow. 3:38 is literally me, but instead i'm stuck with the "look around and see what could go wrong" step, and not really thinking of what i can do to prevent it from happening. so then i'm just left with all the anxiety of knowing what could go wrong but not knowing what to do about it 🙇🏻♀️
Great techniques were discussed
I liked his idea of thinking ahead for the potential damages that might happen and then figure out solutions to prevent them from happening.
And this talk was light and smooth
The good way to stay calm is think about this situation enough will help me figure out situations. Thank you a lot.
Thinking about everything that could go wrong wouldn't it increase stress to our lives?
+Andres Arboleda depends on how you're thinking about it. are you coming up with solutions? or are you just ruminating?; to think deeply about an event. again, again, and again. with no solution in sight. because this will increase your stress by a lot.
+Mike L. You're right! Thank you very much for your response!
Yea I didn't think this speech was "Ted" quality at all.
Perhaps it's just how he worded it, but based on his words, he says that 300 people had to take the drug before it prevented a heart attack etc...
That's PREVENT an actual heart attack.
What about all the people who took it and saw Benefits but still never were "going" to have a heart attack, but took it as a preliminary safety..
Etc. idk could have just been bad word choice on his part. Perhaps he meant that the drug only works on 1 in 300 people at lowering cholesterol or whatever it does.
Also I agree, thinking about everything that could go wrong (to me) would just be very very very stressful. I'd rather live in the moment than to always worry. (Hard to do when you're not ignorant tho).
Being prepared (is what he seems to be talking about), but that's common sense. That's like telling people they should have common sense (which actually is probably needed lol).
+Carson Hunt like +Mike L. Said I think we have to think of solutions to some stuff but not everything and in real life, everything can happen! So just let things happen and and let's practice to have enough mental peace to let our intelligence handle it.
+Andres Arboleda Yes its a terrible idea , read the book The power of now , teaches the opposite, dont dwel in the future or the past live in the Now
Thanks sir. Best solution is to maintain the 5 "S" in your home office kitchen and your working place.
1. S is Sort
2. S is set in order
3. S is shine
4. S is standardised
5. S is Self discipline
寒い中、鍵をなくして、焦って窓ガラス割ったりするような切羽詰まった状況から話し始めてるので、興味を惹かれた。
This has increased my stress and made my thinking cloudy
Its very wonderful speech that makes me realize how to face all the problem more calm.
Simple yet thought provoking and informative. 👍
We are not at our best under stress.
So we put systems and practices into place that help us act ahead of the stress that builds up. (Pre mortem)
this surely helps with catastrophe overthinking -it helps you think alright, in this case i'll be prepared.
Great speech... Very insightful & useful content explained in easy words.... Thanks for sharing!
Great talk , as a medical student I am just shocked by the statistics .The talk helped a lot , I will always read the statistics and the sources of information and advice people well.
Although it was a scientific speech , listening to it was enjoyable and i learned.thank you Dr. Thank you Ted 🙏🏻🌷
I have been using these techniques when stress and also when plan might not going in my way. For example, when my friend cancelled her plan with me, I will be prepared not to be sad because I have expected earlier on that she might cancel our plan together. The result? I think i will still feel a bit sad but a less sadder than what I normally feel. For me, this kind of technique is working 😊