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  • Опубликовано: 8 ноя 2022
  • Mike is a paedophile hunter. When we first met Mike in 2020, he would pose as 12-year-old children to try and entrap men online. Mike’s vigilante work saw him catch and confront offenders across the country. This time, Mike opens up about his own trauma that first led him to paedophile hunting and why he’s now quit the work for good.
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  • @johnytwotimes4072
    @johnytwotimes4072 Год назад +1840

    I can't judge him for quitting, most people might hate this crime but he actually did something about it. He's done more for a good cause than I ever have because this type of work has to leave scars on one's psyche. The saying about the void staring back at you has to be rough but he probably saved hundreds of kids from a lifetime of pain.

    • @Sneaky_Basket
      @Sneaky_Basket Год назад

      And what he did actually?
      U think there no left pedofile at all?
      Don`t be naive!
      This is very difficult problem and no one knows how to solve it coz u cant just do like did with "light drugs" or "guns" it`s unexceptable in society
      So he basically did nothing ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
      Well actually his probably did things worst coz they for sure no will be much more carefull, so police cant cach them that quickly as it was before
      Think about it...

    • @johnytwotimes4072
      @johnytwotimes4072 Год назад

      @@Sneaky_Basket Naive? Okay so he shouldn't have stopped pedophiles because maybe they learned how to avoid getting caught by being caught. You could make that argument for anything. Although there are organizations out there that do a terrible job at this sort of thing but this guy is legit. What have you done to stop pedos? Probably the same thing I have just watched them get taken down by Chris Hansen. I don't leave comments to argue with people so I do hope you have a great day and no one you or I know ever comes into any contact with these sickos.

    • @nedmartlew5277
      @nedmartlew5277 Год назад +4

      Love the name mate

    • @thebolsta
      @thebolsta Год назад +19

      The sad thing is, the nonces don't get long enough sentences, or don't even get custodial. Most of them will keep offending.

    • @patrixmatrix7163
      @patrixmatrix7163 Год назад +9

      Godbless this man in Jesus Christ name and all the victims. 🙏🙌🍀

  • @chelseaboylucas25
    @chelseaboylucas25 Год назад +359

    My brother was abused , I was lucky enough not to have been born at the time , he ended up on heroin at sixteen , in and out of prison , all the way through to his fourties’ until he eventually jumped in front of a train. He had no voice , I admire you guys so much for what you have done. Rest in peace to my bro lenny , and to anyone else who fell through the cracks and didn’t make it ❤

    • @joegreen8248
      @joegreen8248 Год назад +3

      Lenny from Guildford? I new lenny

    • @popsssss
      @popsssss Год назад +3

      Rest in peace to your brother❤

    • @bobmiller7502
      @bobmiller7502 Год назад +5

      we can ALL make a difference EVERYDAY even if its just a tiny one, just a smile say hello how are you, so sad what happend to Lenny who knows what he could of become with the right support,, never STOP Loving my brother x

    • @bbghoul_x
      @bbghoul_x Год назад +3

      My deepest condolences 🙏

    • @chelseaboylucas25
      @chelseaboylucas25 Год назад +4

      @@joegreen8248 yeah Lenny from Guildford , he was my brother

  • @intrepidtomato
    @intrepidtomato Год назад +317

    Congratulations to these two men that managed to use their trauma to help others. What a great gift to society.

    • @taylordavison6849
      @taylordavison6849 Год назад +2

      There are some who only do that for views, though. There's a whole thing about how the guy who started the trend in America had spoken out against the practice because opportunists were coopting it for views. I'm not saying do nothing, but I am saying do anything but what those guys did.

    • @Madonnalitta1
      @Madonnalitta1 Год назад

      ​@@Brian_fooking_Ferry he skipped over it fast but he was.

  • @MrSpasticdancer
    @MrSpasticdancer Год назад +953

    its not "vigilantism" its a neighbourhood watch of the internet age. people like this man have the right to try and keep their communities safe.

    • @guntguardian3771
      @guntguardian3771 Год назад +13

      It really depends on the group involved. From what I have seen they run the gamut from being really professional and doing it for all the right reasons, it just doing it purely for attention and have no care for the wider family and the abuser they are catching.
      We are much better in the UK than in the US, where a lack of easily used citizens arrest laws makes it difficult to hold them until the authorities arrive, so many of those involved are quite clearly in it for clicks. The ends do not always justify the means here, as they often make the individual phone up their families who are innocent and as a result end up posting these humiliating conversations online.

    • @trip4923
      @trip4923 Год назад +17

      @@guntguardian3771 That's the thing about consequences, they often affect more than just the receiving ndividual. It's not fair to the family, but they need to know when they are harboring a pedo. The police aren't always there to clean up the mess exactly how you would prefer.
      Many pedo hunting groups DO act silly and unprofessional. While still doing a great job at what they set out to do.
      Pedophiles deserve no mercy and deserve every negative thing that comes their way.
      When it comes to this kind of justice, there is not a right way to go about it. You either get the guy caught or you don't.

    • @guntguardian3771
      @guntguardian3771 Год назад +10

      @@trip4923 Yeah, but that does not mean that the way the family is informed should be used as some sort of spectacle. No one would say they should not be informed, but either that should be done professionally by the team - with a female who takes them to one side and shows them the evidence if they are willing to view it - or via the police. You seem to be saying that it is fine to traumatise innocent people, because people want clicks or cannot be arsed to act in an appropriate manner when telling them their husband, son or dad is a nonce.
      There is a right way to go about it, making a spectacle of it is clearly just done as a power trip by those involved. They then use the refrain that it is just a nonce to defend their poor behaviour. Seeing them scream "nonce defender" at innocent, and understandably confused and shocked family members because they do not instantly trust what some chavs who have knocked on their door are claiming is nuts. It's actually disgusting. People defending these actions because it's a nonce do not seem to realise that this is in turn harming their own cause - professionalism would make it easier for authorities to work more closely with teams, and in doing so benefiting everyone asides from those who are preying on children.

    • @seekthetruthfindit6879
      @seekthetruthfindit6879 Год назад +4

      I agree. The police is underfunded, and it could be your child they're saving.

    • @TKUA11
      @TKUA11 Год назад

      I wish they had these but for thieves. Portland is out of controls thieves are running rampant, without getting their faces smashed in

  • @singingsam40
    @singingsam40 Год назад +649

    These guys are a real inspiration. Talking about SA is tough for everyone, but it's historically been harder for men. So it's great to see the doors opening for men to talk about their experiences too. The problem of paedophilia can only be tackled once it's brought out into the open.

    • @kaelabelle4886
      @kaelabelle4886 Год назад +13

      Absolutely agree

    • @ferninthehouse
      @ferninthehouse Год назад +23

      people find it emasculating for men to talk about being abused (in any form not just sexual) but the reality is abuse can happen to anyone

    • @connorj6462
      @connorj6462 Год назад +4

      Well said

    • @DX-d
      @DX-d Год назад +15

      SAY IT. Sexual assault? Rape? Molestation? Say the words. By censoring these words people become less affected by their meaning.

    • @ferninthehouse
      @ferninthehouse Год назад +13

      @@DX-d it’s a RUclips comment. People don’t want their comments to get ghosted for having buzzwords

  • @Amandavg
    @Amandavg Год назад +570

    From a fellow child abuse survivor, thank you for the work you did and the new work you are doing now. I also work in the human services field and I always say my goal is to be the person I wish I had during my darkest times. Keep up the great work ❤️

  • @sarahdalton5308
    @sarahdalton5308 Год назад +507

    Proud to call Mike my close friend. Proud to have been part of the Dark Light team. Selfless yet unapologetic and thats rare now-a-days. Growth is so powerful and I hope this new vid helps even 1 person. Props also to LadBible for raising awareness. Mad respect Mike, I am so happy to have seen your growth over the years and looking forward to being by your side watching the rest! The Power Of One 🖤

    • @muddyguns
      @muddyguns Год назад

      Mmm you're yummy

    • @scootrussell1
      @scootrussell1 Год назад +1

      You up to much tonight

    • @OP-rp8ws
      @OP-rp8ws Год назад +5

      Massive respect you 👍🏼

    • @saida4292
      @saida4292 Год назад +3

      Glad he has good friends because good people need a warm community of friends and loved ones ❤ biggest respect 🙌 ❤ 👏 💙

    • @adrianalisitza5543
      @adrianalisitza5543 Год назад +2

      These guys are great. I would be proud to call them friends.

  • @FatherDingo
    @FatherDingo Год назад +552

    This man deserve some kind of medal. Mad respect from Denmark.

    • @derekstynes9631
      @derekstynes9631 Год назад +4

      Yes He Deserves that and Perhaps King Charles Might Agree with You ?

    • @ffffffffffff691
      @ffffffffffff691 Год назад

      one in five children have been molested in australia and 70% go on to be molesterers,heres an important question,would you kill your child if they are a petofile?because in todays world theres a good chance they will be,we need to get to the base of the problem and i have the solutions but people are wont learn them because they are to busy covering thier own tracks,have you ever heard the saing though dust protest to much,if you want the solutions to petofilia and how to break the cycle i have them but they will open the whole worlds insecurities,so will we fix this or do i have to give you the medal for covering up your own insecurities

    • @larrymullins3853
      @larrymullins3853 Год назад

      @@derekstynes9631 with the kings links to known pedo Jimmy saval? And his brother Andrew?

    • @JB-gq1od
      @JB-gq1od Год назад

      @@derekstynes9631 Charles is a nonce 😂

    • @theun4giv3n
      @theun4giv3n Год назад

      King Charles defends paedophiles like Andrew and other rich Elites.

  • @MossChopsMan
    @MossChopsMan Год назад +356

    I am a female survivor, I love what Mike and Dan are doing to help men come to terms with what happened to them as boys, children are never to blame for the wicked acts of devious adults. Excellent work guys and using your experiences to help others is commendable.

    • @Tryste
      @Tryste Год назад +3

      What is problematic is that these devious adults are more than often molested in tehir childhood, they can on average molest 300 children themselves, so it's exponential humanity problem.

    • @gabbermensch
      @gabbermensch Год назад +1

      Happened to me back in the 1980s...as a male....sorry ladies, but if it happens to you as a boy "stand up...stop crying..be brave"....I got so lost in feeling no emotion anymore...I got so fucking angry I just tried to hammer shit out of everything in my path, then I found drugs, and drugs allowed me to not really feel anything, on cue, on point of payment...easy. Now...I actually forgive them, I'm not carrying their evil on my shoulders, they already stole my childhood, I'm not giving them my adulthood. Fuck them, they get hanged by thyself, I don't need to care about the grave they already already dug, for me, a spade is used for a garden, where things can grow, live and thrive.

    • @Tryste
      @Tryste Год назад

      @@gabbermensch I'm sorry for you, I do wish you all the best ahead and be liberated of all this

    • @dudeybagz
      @dudeybagz Год назад +8

      @@Tryste I’m not sure where you’re from, but in Australia only 10% of convicted pedophiles have had pedophilia perpetrated upon them. I’m a survivor and I can tell you that other survivors I’ve talked to would never put a kid through the kind of trauma that they themselves have have had inflicted upon them.

    • @Tryste
      @Tryste Год назад +2

      @@dudeybagz depending on the data, here in Europe some studies went up to 30%. But what is scary is that the average perprators age is younger and younger and the porn culture is suspected to be the cause for that.

  • @Ryangosden
    @Ryangosden Год назад +314

    This guy is a hero. I cannot imagine the amount of lives he has saved.

    • @Lee-wg7en
      @Lee-wg7en Год назад +6

      he has probably saved his own as well. big up him and good on him.

  • @TheBigChad
    @TheBigChad Год назад +196

    I feel that a lot. I was an EMT for 7 years and the stress and emotion of everything I saw got to me one day and I also attempted to un alive myself. Seeing kids ripped apart in car accidents from a drunk driver, who is completely untouched, it just really got to me. 911 calls of child abuse, sexual abuse I really hated those calls. This planet is such a beautiful place but it can have very very dark spots

    • @chickenlittle5095
      @chickenlittle5095 Год назад +21

      Former RN here. I echo your sentiments. We see the absolute worst/best in people but more often than not, the worst is more often what sticks with you.

    • @Mothman308
      @Mothman308 Год назад +3

      Reminds me of 'Nam

    • @ThyAmREmo
      @ThyAmREmo Год назад +1

      I feel you there mate. Here's hoping it doesn't weigh down on you so much these days because yeah it's definitely a struggle to deal with at times.

    • @everybodylovesraven
      @everybodylovesraven Год назад +5

      Im now 37 and still comming to terms with my trauma is the only way to put it BUT people like you make the world liveable THANKYOU from every part of my heart from Oxford 🇬🇧

    • @JimiBegbaaji
      @JimiBegbaaji Год назад +1

      @The Chad. Thank you. You made a difference. You are still making a difference. 👏🏾

  • @studiocelestedesign
    @studiocelestedesign Год назад +196

    Shocking numbers he's quoting for the quantity of stings. 500. And the predator's are going after 8 year olds. Holy Christ. These two heroes. Unbelievably strong & kind hearted men. It must be far too emotionally heavy to do this work for too long. I send all my love. And I'll warn all the friends I know who have children nearing the age of social media. Blessings. x Edit: LADbible you guys are doing incredible work making our world clearer and more understandable. Thank-you.

    • @BUDbizWIZ
      @BUDbizWIZ Год назад +8

      They go after much younger than 8. It’s horrific!

    • @anthonyhowrard526
      @anthonyhowrard526 Год назад +3

      dont think i could do it. respect to them.

  • @alindsey1013
    @alindsey1013 Год назад +71

    As a survivor of childhood abuse? Thank you. A million times thank you. I have my own child now, 6 years old, and I hope there's more heros like you out there fighting for his safety.

  • @sandrasweeney798
    @sandrasweeney798 Год назад +112

    What a terrific guy. I've seen him in an interview with mainstream media and he comes across in both as a genuine caring individual. He really deserves total respect.

  • @rarebird_82
    @rarebird_82 Год назад +82

    Not many people can bare the worlds pain, suffering and horror to this degree, let alone a victim/survivor of said horror. It must take such a strong stomach, heart, mind and soul to endure this... but not a broken soul, and this man, God bless him, is a broken soul. You can hear it in his voice, see it in his eyes, his posture, his apathy - he is haunted, this is PTSD. His pursuit of truth and justice, though highly honourable, is akin to self harm in his case, ripping open that wound daily. This man deserves a medal, a reward and the best aftercare money can buy, he's a guardian angel among mere mortals and cowards. As for the "higher up police" being against good, brave men like Michael, men doing Gods work - well, we all know why... crooked, complicit, GUILTY.

    • @steevo211
      @steevo211 Год назад +1

      I do not believe he is broken.
      He is angry.
      He needs respite.
      We Need A Legion Of Them.
      🖤

    • @kokoskokso
      @kokoskokso 29 дней назад

      Who wouldn't be haunted, of course he is. However I think what he's doing is a form of exposure therapy, which is the only thing that works for phobias. You slowly face your demons and you learn you have nothing to fear, that you're stronger than them. Also he mentioned looking for answers, lots of people who had dysfunctional relationships as children seek to re-enact them in adulthood in order to change the pattern and resolve the conflict in a better way.

  • @KarrierBag
    @KarrierBag Год назад +76

    I spent near on 30 years working with kids in secure units (some abused some not) and such, this man is a legend IMO.

  • @MrJonboy
    @MrJonboy Год назад +80

    Absolute hats off to these two guys, a shining example of turning yourself around and passing on the help, wish them both all the best of luck.

  • @connormitchell6396
    @connormitchell6396 Год назад +42

    Mike is one of the most genuine guys I’ve had the pleasure of knowing and working with big up 🙏🏻💪

  • @johncopenhaver4311
    @johncopenhaver4311 Год назад +25

    What a trio of heros! The two fellas who sacrificed their mental well-being to try to help children to not go through what they and a lot of us went through, but the host as well for giving them a platform.

  • @katkatkatkat463
    @katkatkatkat463 Год назад +60

    “they say you can’t polish a turd, but we’re gleaming” HAHA I LOVE HIM

    • @gavin6284
      @gavin6284 Год назад

      He's right. You can't polish a turd, but you can glitter it!

  • @user-np3fd5hw2p
    @user-np3fd5hw2p Год назад +34

    I feel weird about liking this video because of how horrible the subject matter is. But we've got to protect our children by raising awareness. God bless these men and everyone who is combatting this horrible horrible crime.

  • @JaneDoe-lf8qj
    @JaneDoe-lf8qj Год назад +34

    Very emotional hearing these two men speak. I work in mental health and honestly will take this video with me through my career. The second gent especially, you are so articulate and speak so honestly and clearly about your experiences and feelings throughout your life. Abuse grows within silence. We need to give people from a young age the vocabulary and the space to speak.

  • @w.urlitzer1869
    @w.urlitzer1869 Год назад +11

    I'm very grateful especially for the second part of the program.
    This happened to me aged 9 to 12, no one intervened and it has its consequences to this day.
    I am 59.

    • @Linda72.
      @Linda72. Год назад +1

      Your not on your own xx

    • @iamnothungry
      @iamnothungry Год назад +2

      I’m so sorry for that. Glad that your here, you’re strong! You can’t change things around you but you can change your perspective. Life life to its fullest and don’t let bad ‘people’ tell you how to feel or live. Being here, breathing, having legs and eyes is precious, use it to do what u love! Stay healthy and blessed🙏🏼

  • @HurricaneScully
    @HurricaneScully Год назад +7

    From a survivor I want to say thank you for what you've done. You've saved so many people from horrific trauma

  • @chrisholzhauer3698
    @chrisholzhauer3698 Год назад +13

    Nobility walks among us in those that fight against abuse. Thank you, for all you've done to protect the innocent.

  • @amyleather4509
    @amyleather4509 Год назад +14

    This really hit my emotions hard, absolutely nothing but utmost respect for both of these men for speaking up and giving a message to the world !

  • @jennifermasino9137
    @jennifermasino9137 Год назад +4

    I'm a psychologist in the USA, and it is so heartening to witness this powerful conversation between such courageous men. I have such respect and admiration for you. I work with combat Veterans, and when they are recovering, they are some of the most wise, compassionate, brilliant and kind human beings on earth. I have worked with some of the professionals you speak of, that lack curiosity and inquisitiveness. I think that, on the other side of trauma is incredible depth and empathy. Gentlemen, you are changing the world and creating an enduring legacy of healing. Thank you for being who you are in the world!

  • @ambriajenna3263
    @ambriajenna3263 Год назад +6

    “Vulnerability is the sharpest tool in your box.” Brilliant 👌🏼

  • @AzuraFallen
    @AzuraFallen Год назад +21

    I teared up when he talked about the girl he helped prosecute her abuser. I hope she lives a happy healthy life with her baby, that's such great news and I totally understand why he would be proud of that, he should be

  • @cadd9572
    @cadd9572 Год назад +45

    These guys are incredibly inspiring, and this interviewer is so good. He asks great questions and also knows when to let his interviewees steer the conversation. Great stuff

  • @WalkingPaceWP
    @WalkingPaceWP Год назад +2

    This is probably the single greatest thing ladbible has done. I gotta respect your clickbait "journalism" company for producing this.

  • @jimladjnr2636
    @jimladjnr2636 Год назад +7

    I've never been through any kind of trauma like this, but as a man in my mid 40s who has pretty severe mental health issues, hearing these guys speak was huge for me
    "Your vulnerability is the sharpest tool you have"
    That's huge.
    Thank you guys so much for this.

  • @Ziltoid_Knows
    @Ziltoid_Knows Год назад +86

    As a survivor, thanks for all you did.

    • @Financialguide2023
      @Financialguide2023 Год назад

      @BCo what are you on about?

    • @Jamiearge
      @Jamiearge Год назад +4

      @@Financialguide2023NightTimeLounge admitted to finding children attractive and then edited the comment to look supportive. Shame

    • @gabriel8578
      @gabriel8578 Год назад

      Woah, how’d you survive him hunting you???

  • @VileCAESARB
    @VileCAESARB Год назад +2

    As a fellow Manc, the second lad is one of the most articulate I've heard speak about these issues, power to you mate.

  • @mccartyzoe
    @mccartyzoe Год назад +2

    I’m a healthcare provider. Professional curiosity will go forward with me even more than before. Thank you both.

  • @philima
    @philima Год назад +22

    34:17 these are the words I needed. I never can explain to people why I am scared of emotional intimacy. This is exactly why. When I gave emotional intimacy a final chance, I was abused and discarded. How am I supposed to ever allow someone close again? I am petrified

    • @ShogunateDaimyo
      @ShogunateDaimyo Год назад +4

      Love yourself first. Be kind to yourself even if you made a mistake. Betrayal says volumes about them and nothing about you. You had the courage to open up which is a huge milestone for yourself. Next time vet your partner longer before opening up. Match their level of intimacy and loyalty, but only at YOUR comfort level. Look up reparenting to help yourself through your negative inner voices you inherited from past trauma. Research narcissism so you can identify and separate genuine people from those that are toxic with self-serving behavior. It will help you identify what may have conditioned you growing up too which can contribute to being naive about the nature of some people. Also research and truly contemplate your own boundaries and don't budge for no one. Create boundaries and know how to enforce them. People will love you with your boundaries and all. People that challenge your boundaries do not have your best interests in mind.

    • @hamali8126
      @hamali8126 Год назад +1

      ((Virtual huggs))

  • @sonyaflorence5972
    @sonyaflorence5972 Год назад +13

    I can’t imagine the negativity of the world from the view of these teams, but for me, the fact that there are these teams shows the positivity. Thank you to everyone involved in child protection and safeguarding vulnerable people xxx

  • @nicolekrzyzanowski2952
    @nicolekrzyzanowski2952 Год назад +4

    I have a little daughter and every time I see interviews and documentary about that topic I feel so sorry for all Those little kids. I watch my daughter sleep , knowing she is safe and loved and a happy child...and burst out in tears how someone could do anything to a child. I can't comprehend and it makes me feel paralyzed. Seeing people like Mike and Dan actually do something gives me a little bit of hope. Thank you.

  • @PCC_
    @PCC_ Год назад +55

    I walked away from catching predators as well. Felt like I did my part, but now it’s time for me to fully focus on my family.

  • @easyeste_True_Salfordian
    @easyeste_True_Salfordian Год назад +5

    I'm in Salford and like one of the guests said would love to be involved in this. Unfortunately I'm now a vunerable adult I suffer with cptsd, parasomia and borderline. All brought on by my childhood abuse and toxic environment. Thank you gents for speaking up for the many. I worked in the sra survivors community to help for many years. But was also not healed. I'm getting there now. Watching these guests is like a breath of fresh air for me and many others. Thank you would love to connect

  • @billymkirkwood4956
    @billymkirkwood4956 Год назад +15

    My daughter was nearly groomed at 8 years old on an online child platform game called Roblox.. we became aware something was a bit off with her behaviour! If we hadn't been as vigilant God knows where it could have lead? I personally would love to become a hunter, they do a fantastic job the ones that follow the law and build up the case. We'll done to this guy for his service to protecting children. 👏

  • @raggedbreath
    @raggedbreath 2 месяца назад +1

    Great to see two men who have experienced terrible things finding a way through. So articulate. This is a great example of why we need more mental health support.

  • @auzzygirl8175
    @auzzygirl8175 Год назад +3

    Mike you are an incredible man. Thank you for all the work you have done for paedophile victims. I'm so sorry to hear that you yourself have been a victim. You are an eloquent speaker and your calm demeanor helps people to hear your message. Please take care of yourself and your own health. You are a special and worthy person.
    Best wishes to both you and Daniel with your new venture, it's long overdue. It would be wonderful to see you guys travel the world and share your message, knowledge and ideas but be careful that it's not at the expence of your families and loved one's. God bless you both.

  • @ooga_booga399
    @ooga_booga399 Год назад +24

    after going through shit like that its crazy that you have the balls to go through it again again mad respect

  • @sadlystuckinreality
    @sadlystuckinreality Год назад +33

    I'm absolutely loving these podcast episodes. It's so nice to hear from these people and catch up with what's going on with them. This one was particularly great and I'm so happy for these two for being able to work through their trauma.

  • @jonathanfarquhar
    @jonathanfarquhar Год назад +5

    There is always something so powerful about people and especially men, talking openly about their own stories. Not just about the abuse, but their life and conquering.

  • @connorj6462
    @connorj6462 Год назад +13

    True definition of hero. So grateful for people like this who dedicate their time to save children’s lives. Respect.

  • @tasha5927
    @tasha5927 Год назад +5

    As the mum of a nearly 3 year old boy, and another one on the way, I couldn't help but get emotional watching this. Seeing two adult males talking so candidly about the abuse they faced has me in awe of their strength. I feel so sad they weren't protected as they should have been, they deserved so much more. I just can't get my head around how anyone can abuse children, it really does keep me up at night.

  • @ryunsmallbone7549
    @ryunsmallbone7549 Год назад +5

    So much respect to you.
    Watching you really moved me.
    Not sure why you have stopped.
    I'll carry on your work, if you show me ropes.

  • @GeneralButtNake
    @GeneralButtNake Год назад +9

    Outstanding talk! These lads are above the bar with what they are doing! God bless you two and the trauma groups your bring to light!
    I’m a child trauma survivor and seeking help now. Thank you for coming across my channel because this comforted me knowing we can turn this around and get out of the cycle! Amen brothers thank you so much! ✌🏾❤️🔥🍻🙏🏾

  • @rewindthetape23
    @rewindthetape23 Год назад +8

    Protecting our children from predators! These people should be given a salary and more resources. Well done you hero’s.

  • @johngill2390
    @johngill2390 Год назад +3

    Massive thank you for all your work and to all the other teams who carry out this voluntary work. Protecting the most vulnerable.

  • @KathySong1
    @KathySong1 Год назад +7

    This interview was so gripping. What these guys have been through and are now achieving is immense on so many levels.
    Something that I was really hoping to hear discussed are funding issues, budget cuts, socioeconomic issues and systemic fracturing of social welfare in the UK and how this attributes to the way people speak out. Or potentially even the way in which social workers tackle cases/case loads.

  • @shelleyaleman8683
    @shelleyaleman8683 Год назад +5

    Also a survivor and so grateful that you gentlemen found your voice. You became heroes when you decided to share your vulnerability! What you have actively done to bring predators to justice is awe inspiring. Thank you for marching boldly into the dark to save children! God bless you!

  • @katefrench6526
    @katefrench6526 Год назад +2

    I have personally done the training with Lads Like Us and will attest to its power. Amazing to hear the pain and see the recovery first hand, the lads are truly incredible and I'm very thankful they wear their hearts on their sleeves to demand change in the systems. Thanks guys ❤

  • @neilclaydon2038
    @neilclaydon2038 Год назад +12

    I cant imagine the psychological trauma doing this kind of thing must leave, I had to stop watching the sting videos because of how it affected me mentally, I actually saw people I grew up with and went to school with and called friends at one time or another on those stings, I think its the realisation of just how many of these horrible people there are out there, its terrifying as a father

  • @jasonpeacock8320
    @jasonpeacock8320 Год назад +7

    I met Mike and Danny - Lads Like Us at a Resolve Conference in London earlier this year. Their lived experience is so sad. But, how far they have come today comes down to that one person who managed to turn something on which changed their whole compass of life. Its a key we all hold for someone else struggling, just don't stop trying your key in people. One day it will fit on someone. Mike and Danny's true potential got unlocked by someone who just listened and didn't give up trying. Being trauma informed and as he said The Power of One, can achieve one man's true potential.

  • @catherinesimpson6256
    @catherinesimpson6256 Год назад +53

    Phenomenal podcast. Very interesting to hear you both talk about your experience. I hope that this podcast will act as a useful resource for someone who may be in a similar headspace or had similar experiences

  • @bingbingfluffbird6736
    @bingbingfluffbird6736 Год назад +8

    Thank you gentlemen, for being so open and vulnerable with all of us. 💙

  • @daviddeville4200
    @daviddeville4200 Год назад +43

    Sadly how ever many sickos there are times it by 10, they are very hidden, crafty and above all abhorrent!!! More should be done to stop them, especially those lurking amongst friends and family- which are harder to trap 🙏

    • @Skylark123
      @Skylark123 Год назад +1

      But WHY are there so many sickos?! No one is talking about WHY these evil disgusting bastards exist let alone deem it okay to hurt children? WTH is wrong with them? Why so many of them?!
      I can’t wrap my head around it 😢

  • @nicoles5817
    @nicoles5817 Год назад +4

    Thank you for sharing your path to helping so many. It's men like you both, that are truly what is needed throughout the world.

  • @toportime
    @toportime Год назад +6

    LADbible TV thank you for talking about the hard topics in the world that people need to hear. And thank you to the guests that participate.

  • @archeewaters
    @archeewaters Год назад +14

    you guys are heroes because you're setting a great example by sharing your experience and lending your perspective to professionals. more power to you both

  • @cindygenogram5667
    @cindygenogram5667 Год назад +5

    So much love and respect for these guys. Thank you so much 💓

  • @Hartley_Hare
    @Hartley_Hare Год назад +11

    I have so much respect for these guys and their ability to articulate what their journey has been like. Their courage is self-evident, but they use that courage to help others and that takes something very, very special and very rare. They're making society better and we're all in their debt.

  • @roryholmes2209
    @roryholmes2209 Год назад +20

    These guys are legends to the truest word. Every ounce of respect for people like this. Well done guys 👏🏼

  • @danbartlett804
    @danbartlett804 Год назад +2

    The world needs so much of this, having been through a lot of trauma as a child i was lucky and used my demons to better myself and those around me who had also been through trauma ,, much love to you guys and keep up the good work.

  • @judithflom6366
    @judithflom6366 8 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks to these men for their observations and progress towards protecting young people and their mental health. It is hard work and very few people could or would do it.

  • @EmmaMendez
    @EmmaMendez Год назад +21

    I'm so grateful to the both of them and I'm 100% sure that this will help victims and survivors of any background speak out/get support. Sending love and hugs to those who have gone through this

  • @jadenaomi8388
    @jadenaomi8388 Год назад +6

    Not all hero’s wear capes! This man has saved so many children!! Thank you!!

  • @jodiesparey3901
    @jodiesparey3901 Год назад +2

    What an amazing gentleman. So real, honest and down to earth. This is so raw, so frightening for many reasons. The problem is bigger and terrifying.

  • @jennathornton7992
    @jennathornton7992 Год назад +8

    These guys are awesome. They remind me that I can do something with my negative childhood experiences. They encourage me to pursue trauma care, to help people, and to educate others on what survivors really need.

  • @highdownmartin
    @highdownmartin Год назад +4

    Hats off to these guys and the programme makers. Fascinating and brilliant.

  • @chasingclouds7101
    @chasingclouds7101 Год назад +11

    When ordinary people do extra ordinary things. You lads are the ''bollocks'', well done so proud of you! Respect from Sheffield.

    • @GreggyAck
      @GreggyAck Год назад

      Fellow Sheffielder 🙌

  • @toportime
    @toportime Год назад +1

    "The cops at the top are against it, not the ones on the ground." < That statement should be far more terrifying than it was said.

  • @mrscairns4618
    @mrscairns4618 Год назад

    This is the best video I have seen on RUclips, so far this year.
    It is heartwarming to see & hear two working class men speak with such encouraging clarity. They both obviously have their emotional energies in the right gear, driving themselves towards even brighter futures whilst offering lifts to any other men who want to go in a positive direction too

  • @jonparkhouse920
    @jonparkhouse920 Год назад +5

    Brilliant podcast! My heart goes out to the two guys. Their braveness has resulted in a powerful forum which thankfully authorities etc are recognising! God bless you both! Respect!

  • @aelinorholloway3669
    @aelinorholloway3669 Год назад +8

    This really speaks to me, after I'd been sexually assaulted I hit rock bottom. I became dependant on alcohol, I was acting out on dating apps with absolute idiots, and it took a really evil fight with my parents to wake me up and ask for help. I'm doing things that I enjoy now, and I'm possibly on my way to having a real proper romantic relationship with someone
    I suppose Rue should get a mention too, sitting there and seeing those graphic depictions of withdrawal made realize that shit, I don't want to end up like her.

  • @saida4292
    @saida4292 Год назад +8

    Biggest respect 🙌 🙏 👏 thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤ I wish you peace and happiness. We need more people like you!!!

  • @emmabutler1433
    @emmabutler1433 Год назад +6

    2 incredible men, so inspiring. Much love from Liverpool

  • @audreyharalambos2592
    @audreyharalambos2592 Год назад +24

    i watch a few hunting groups and my daughter is a decoy and i have often thought how do you listen to what some monsters have done to our children, and see photographs confront them and then go home to your own kids, i hope the hunters get to talk about it and get it out of your head with a bit of therapy because you couldnt do this day in and day out walk away from it and live a "normal" life i hope they get help.well done lads and thanks for helping our kids, i am a survivor but not healed yet and i am 66 now and never got justice xxxxx

  • @jasonghoul3691
    @jasonghoul3691 Год назад +12

    Fuck man, I watch this interview and it's both comforting and conflicting. It's comforting to know that there a lot of people who have gone through what i've been through. But in my community i can't find anyone to talk to. I'm afraid that if i open about it, it will hugely impact the image of my family. I don't have enough cash to afford a decent therapy as well. But like these guys found their ways to cope with it without taking their lives, i hope time and years will give me and answer or a partner.

    • @user-qo3yn1jy1o
      @user-qo3yn1jy1o Год назад +1

      best of luck brother from another person who’s gone through it aswell, don’t be afraid to talk to a help line.

    • @mccartyzoe
      @mccartyzoe Год назад +2

      You sir should have no fear… many warm wished to you. I hope u find the support you deserve. This is so common yet each mam thinks he’s alone. That’s so much tragedy …I wish u peace and warmth and recovery and love

  • @gg4ever414
    @gg4ever414 Год назад +3

    It take an angel to take on and endure this level of Hell on Earth in order to help the helpless. So many blessing and love upon you Sir for all the good you have done.

  • @Ben-Downlow.
    @Ben-Downlow. Год назад +4

    It takes courage to explain how you have worked through your trauma, and reached a part of your journey where you have moved on from hunting and taken the next courageous step on your path.

  • @carynmartin6053
    @carynmartin6053 Год назад +16

    What a great man this guy is for doing that kind of necessary but traumatizing work! Excellent interviewer, too!

    • @mariemccann5895
      @mariemccann5895 Год назад

      Or so he would like us to think...

    • @teresaspensley5640
      @teresaspensley5640 Год назад

      @@mariemccann5895well what do you think then?

    • @abigailgrady9931
      @abigailgrady9931 Год назад

      @@mariemccann5895 your a disgrace to say that, he's saving kids fgs 😡

  • @maryjones5057
    @maryjones5057 Год назад +7

    Two incredibly brave men who are and have changed lives, by having the courage to share their stories. All ‘behaviour’ is a form of communication and in particular, we must listen to children through our eyes. This way, as a community, we can start to shine a torch on the significant lifelong negative impacts that are experienced by millions of ppl across the globe, from the trauma of sexual assault. If you want to really understand others beyond words, listen with your eyes and soon you may become a person who has empathy, compassion and deep love for those we simply don’t understand. There will never be any comparison, but it will help you decide what shoes to put on when you begin to walk a mile in their shoes

  • @NinjaDildoShow
    @NinjaDildoShow Год назад +6

    *"I want to be part of the generation that says 'Enough is enough.'"*

  • @tamferguson3891
    @tamferguson3891 Год назад +3

    "It's Societies Responsibility!" ... Truth.
    I pray that all who experiance trauma, find their own peace and break free from its shackles.
    Everyone involved in this type of work are Heroes. Thank You for simply being -- we all need your strength and courage.

  • @abigailhoward9312
    @abigailhoward9312 Год назад +9

    What an amazing guy. He’s made such a massive difference in so many victims or potential victims lives. I hope he finds mental peace in the future

  • @gamewithadam7235
    @gamewithadam7235 Год назад +15

    Really sad he worked hard to keep families together and ended up almost losing his own.

  • @ianhayes3980
    @ianhayes3980 Год назад +4

    The down fall of these teams were the ones that popped up just for attention the ones that would turn up making jokes taking the piss out of the way people look and creating dumb games out of it like nonce bingo while making unnecessary comments about things that were irrelevant to what they claimed they was there for, those people I won't name any names but we know who they are and what teams they belonged to are the reason why these legit teams and hunters got a bad response from the police and some members of the public
    I'm all down for turning up and exposing/filming these people and then uploading it to youtube after the police have done their side of things, but Turing up to their homes with multiple people blasting them and their family live all over the internet screaming your heads off about the way they smell or look whole drawing in unwanted attention from the public before they have been charged with anything is just fked up in its own way

  • @nickschalin6594
    @nickschalin6594 Год назад +10

    Mike and Daniel are two amazing men and i deeply respect them and their work without knowing them personally. More has to be done to help young boy without taking away from the girls. Great vid.

  • @EndritVj
    @EndritVj Год назад +12

    This great soul should have been supported to continue his work. He deserves a medal for god’s sake!

  • @100162136
    @100162136 Год назад +50

    Thank you Ladbible for giving these guys a platform to promote their positive message and increase awareness about male sexual abuse victims and toxic masculinity. These 2 guys are very inspirational, I have so much respect for what they're doing now - well done lads👏🏻👏🏻

  • @skpm3840
    @skpm3840 Год назад +6

    This catch up is actually brilliant 🙌🏽that's for putting this out 🤝🏼

  • @CarpetStainRemover
    @CarpetStainRemover Год назад

    Had no idea that this video was an hour long - it flew by. So deeply interesting these guys are so inspiring. I wish them nothing but good health and happiness

  • @LD-ky8bo
    @LD-ky8bo Год назад +35

    I was so scared that I would be traumatizing myself by watching this. What a loving ending and so much hope for the future 💗

    • @gisela1122
      @gisela1122 Год назад +3

      Thank you for writing this. I’m emotionally very weak so this comment is encouraging me to watch the whole thing.

    • @LD-ky8bo
      @LD-ky8bo Год назад +1

      @@gisela1122 no problem ☺

    • @WhitneyCutthroat
      @WhitneyCutthroat Год назад

      Big Hugs for you both! ❤🫂❤

  • @ferninthehouse
    @ferninthehouse Год назад +4

    "4 or 500" wow, i want to make an impact like him. not doing his same line of work cause thats super heavy, but i want to impact as many peoples lives as he did. thats a huge accomplishment

  • @lenalena1683
    @lenalena1683 Год назад +1

    I can't watch even half a video as it's make me too upset at the moment.
    anybody who does anything that helps fight this horrific crime is a hero!
    Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

  • @baricuaguy908
    @baricuaguy908 Год назад +17

    We need more of this man in the 🌎!!!!!!!!!!!!!