Did we fail men? The Male Loneliness Epidemic | Shoe0nHead React
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You can see a big root of the problem in the tweets themselves- the mentality of men being guilty until proven innocent. At best.
If kids are taught that men have been evil throughout all of history until a few fragile laws were made about a hundred years ago... Yeah, this is the mentality you get.
Facts
I think you meant guilty until proven more guilty in the eyes of the female twitter mob.
@@Spectacular_Insanity ong lol
I’ve literally seen a tweet saying there are no good men, only those who haven’t become offenders yet.
But for real though, Batman trying to encourage me is probably the best emotional therapy I could want or get
I bet Alfred would do it even better. He raised Batman after all.
@@GregAtlas fair nuff
@@GregAtlas "Listen, master Potter. Some men just want to watch the wizarding world burn. And stop touching yourself. Go talk to that cute ginger bird. ... no, that one. No, other one. No, the OTHER other on- yes. Right. Her."
I'm a 32 year old man, my only irl friends are my mum and my pet dogs.
And talking to women my age is practically impossible, they have no hobbies or interests (from all the experiences I've had), they're vain and self obsessed, seemingly impossible for them to hold a conversation.
It will get much better my dudes, it really get better. I've lost a lot of my older high school and some work related friends. It sounds selfish but you have to improve yourself first before you help anyone else with anything. Like starting small helping out with the family or improving your health or your jobs or hobbies. Can't help others if you can't even stand up for yourself. But again it really honestly will get better. Know thus proverb:"Before the brightest days and times are unfortunately the darkest of moments and trying trials" I forget who said that but it is also like this one as well:"Givers have to set limits, because Takers have none"
@@WannbeSomeGuyWithLongHair”Words so easy” it’s hard to think that light exists when you have been wandering alone in the darkness for your whole life.
Hope has led me to despair more times than nihilism has.
Am 33 M, sounds about right. The ladies very close to our age arent worth dating cuz we need:
1. A nice car
2. Own our own house/apartment
3. Earn $100k+ a year
4. No kids
Currently i live with 6 friends in a house we all went in on. Do i have my own room? No, but at least i have a room to sleep in every night.
@@Shrimp4Gura as long as u're not homeless it's a win in this economy but i recommend getting your own room as soon as possible having private time is rly good for your mental health
@@Nanohamage it's all good, I'm used to it, i grew up sharing a room until i was 18. Plus we only have 4 bedrooms in our house
I can't count how many times i've gotten a vtuber with a vaguely slavic accent reacting to shoeonhead recommended to me recently.
keep em coming
My favorite genre of react content
If I had a nickel for every time I’ve seen a Vtuber with a slight Slavic accent see the Male Loneliness Epidemic video, I’d have two nickels.
Which isn’t a lot but it’s weird it happened twice.
@@Kaltsit- What's that referencing? It sounds so familiar but I can't place it. 😂
@@iCrowLink Dr. Doofemshmirtz (idk if I spelled his name right)
@@Kaltsit- Oh yeah, from Phineas & Ferb. 😂
i know a friend who's had a really unfortunate love life.
years of celibacy and loneliness being "high school's weird guy", he decided to try his luck with a woman who didn't like him. stayed with her 8 months trying to make her happy, she cheated on him, he accepted it because he wanted love at any cost, and she dumped him.
two years later, after dropping out from college, and overall becoming a shut-in, he felt so damn lonely he got with a girl he didn't even liked that way, just because, and i quote, "i'm sick of being the only one in my neighborhood who hasn't experienced a hug since i was 10 years old." he broke up a year after because both him and his girlfriend were miserable.
there's something wrong in this world when guys have to go to such lengths as "accept to be cheated on" or "get with a girl you don't feel anything for" to get a loving hug. and nobody cares.
My heart goes out to your friend, I hope he finds someone who actually cares about him
I gotchu b.
ruclips.net/video/5I6JCQhdF8E/видео.htmlfeature=shared
"You deserve real love. The fact that you're not gonna find it and there's nothing you can do about it is another matter"
Why should any man go above and beyond for a society that is apathetic towards him at best, and openly hostile at worst?
Where's the incentive?
Make it make sense.
No man should. Let it sink in a crisis of its own making. It never supported you, it does not deserve saving.
No one should be hostile towards anyone. People should all respect one another and treat each other that way. It also does not hurt to be helpful and friendly sometimes. :)
This is what society teaches us or at least it should. I am sorry you feel different. I do not think just giving up is the way to go about this. You can always make a difference.
Create a town or space where one can be allowed to be kind with no side effects or consecuences, a safe place for goodness and love
Be the change you wanna see
@@niftr Not when there's a bunch of screaming monkeys, all working their damn hardest to make sure your voice is drowned out and you'll always remain the scapegoat for every bad thing that happens.
Because being kind and thoughtful is worthwhile in and of itself - it's not supposed to require an incentive or reward
I know it's frustrating, but don't let the mistakes and insecurities of the misguided turn you into a worse person
Unfortunate that this will never be addressed until it becomes a problem for women, I.E. no one buys them shit or buys their shit
it already has, they're just too arrogant to realize it. Women who age out of the dating market just become catladies, and by then it's too late.
And if it is addressed, they will probably find a way to exclude men from the solution.
Plus, it's already too late for 2-3 generations. Many women are finally waking up to the desire to have little ones, but they're already too old to safely do so since it gets significantly more dangerous and more likely to have complications around 38 years old (if I remember right) and the ones who do succeed are significantly more likely to have genetic abnormalities and complications. And then they try In vitro fertilization programs and end up spending more on that than they would have ever earned in those years they were told to build their careers and that family can wait.
I've provided hospice care for a couple relative and I really feel bad for those who will end up dying alone in some nursing home where they'll likely be drugged out of their minds and abused with no family to take care of them or even visit them. That's even assuming they can get a space in a nursing home considering they're already understaffed and the baby boomers are getting to the age of retirement and dying off.
@GregAtlas
Not to mention, programs like social security would be dead by the time many of these women reach retirement age. So I can see many of them living on the streets by the time they reach their seventies.
@@Enchie Oh, social security is (please excuse the term) boned either way. Social security relies on the current workers paying into the program to keep it afloat for the people who need it. We're only a few years away from the largest chunk of earners retiring and entering into that social security pool at the same time we're set for record levels of population decline from not having enough children.
The government is going to have to increase taxes (or reduce funding somewhere) pretty significantly just to keep it afloat for the baby boomers and then as the next generation comes into the pool there will probably already be a lack of population crisis worse than what Japan is dealing with already.
A large chunk of the generations after the baby boomers don't even own homes and rent out of convenience so your comment about them being on the streets is even more likely.
Add to the fact that inflation and the bad economy is making all costs skyrocket to the point where social security isn't even enough to get basic necessities and insurance providers screwing us over left and right... Let's just say, I wouldn't want to be anywhere near a big city as things start kicking off and people get more desperate than they already are and that's even under the assumption that an enemy country doesn't take advantage of our situation to pull some shenanigans.
"Women got exactly what they wanted. Women most affected."
It's not that people aren't wanting friends. We've destroyed the perception of community. We are too busy fighting for ourselves against each other, even though that's not entirely true
I disagree, the internet has created more communities especially small ones with like minded individuals than ever before. Our perception is what needs to change yes. We are not defined by the number of friends we have but we define ourselves.
@@niftr ypu literally just described the problem while being too daft to get it. When you begin to micro communities you just end up scared of differing opinions and self reinforce with echo chamber mentalities.
On the RED site of DIT, there was a thread in the WRITING sub where a female writer was asking HOW DO I WEITE A MAN WHO IS SAD and the replies were too real, particularely one where a guy said "Justr have him unalive himself halfway thrtough the story."
Wasn't there replies to that one where there were barely any hints that the guy was depressed at all, and what hints that were there would be ignored? I haven't read through it extensively but I'm pretty sure I saw something like that.
Edit: just read through the post and found the comment! The replies did indeed have those suggestions, with the addition of having people be mystified and talking about how happy he seemed
Were you having a stroke while writing this?
@@t0q14s9 RUclips removes posts that have links or even reference other major sites. So I have to do stupid shit like that so people can find what I'm talking about.
Single russian Male on 28th year lf existence. June 7th will be 29th year.
Still have no clue what to do with my life beyond paying taxes to not to loose roof over my head.
I feel that my man
Get out of the mindset of just trying to get by and surviving and see life as a pond with stepping stones in it you can take to find your temple of happiness.
@@niftr id probably drown in the pond somehow
@@niftr It's more like a desert, only the cacti are alive and out for blood.
@@krukblood-axe3649 Cacti are cool. Used to have 120 of them, 40+ species.
I also like how generalizing a whole group of people is seen as bad and people get criticized when they do it, until the topic comes around to men and then it's like: 'All men are predators' and 'Men like having all the stuff they don't deserve' 😂
This is the true epidemic of humanity, people talking about other people like they are all the same and have the same character and are raised the same. It is ridicolous. The only way we change is if we stop fighting each other and stop labeling and collectively judging groups of people. There are only humans and everyone is capable of love and worth of being loved if they allow love in their lives, of course actual bad people who kill or hurt others are different but that should only be 0.01 Percent of all people. But nowadays we act like every second person is worthless and we should discriminate them because they are obviously bad people. What is going on guys? Of course this is mostly seen on the internet and in media. It is not like that in real life but it will be if we keep ignoring this because media affects what we do and how we think.
Men: I'm lonely
The left: Stop r*ping!
Men: OK... still lonely
The left: STOP R*PING!
ok ok i HEAR YOU. BUT... have you tried to stop R*ping?
I can admit being lonely but I can’t say I’m excited to head out and meet people either. My experiences are most people are just irritating. It’s hard to actually enjoy people when they have blah personalities….
Oof i feel that :/ it's really hard finding people you can actually connect to
@@MilkyMew_ very
the best chances you had at making friends was Childhood, School, and maybe work
School*
Childhood is very unlikely to last.
Work is very unlikely to be.
@@dyltanWait-wait, now I’m curious. I heard, that in American schools it’s normal to change classes multiple times during education. So, is it possible to have really good relationships with anybody, when you know them for just a couple of months at best? I’m wondering, because here in Russia we usually don’t change neither classes nor schools if it’s not truly horrible there. That being said, 3 years after graduation I have one best friend and, like, 5 friends from school and I know each of them for more than 8 years. I personally wouldn’t call anyone who I know for less than a half year a friend, but I’m really curious, is it possible to make an eternal friendship in couple of months? Or have I just got it wrong?
@@andreyraven5316 I'm curious too (from france, and almost the same as you)
@@dyltan Welp, now we will sit here and wait for other guy to answer us 😅
I definitely think it's a sad world we live in where people are just... okay with not wanting love and family. And I don't mean those who genuinely can't take an interest in it like aero/ace people, but just regular human beings who view families as an inconvenience. That's sadder than having a family and then losing them to a tragedy.
To be honest, it’s kinda hard to be or even find a good relationship nowadays.
to me it's a bit of a mix bag
like, I really wish, like seriously wish to have a daughter, spoil her, take care of her, support her
but the problems start to surge
"I am struggling to even keep myself alive, how would I even do with another mouth to feed?"
"the future is not mine to live, is my kid's to live, and the future is only getting worse, economy keeps going up day by day and the society keeps getting dumber and dumber, bringing an offpring to this world to suffer a fate even worse than mine is not an ideal thing"
so I'm just like
*I want a kid but I also don't.*
@@blazingkite8983 You see I don't buy into that garbage. You think people during the Dark Ages thought like that? No not really, and they kept moving on and tried to enjoy life as much as possible. I am still an optimistic person and have always believed that life is a mix of good and bad, some generations are simply going to have it harder than others. You can either cry about it, tolerate it, or do something about it. Giving up isn't an option and it never will be. So yeah, I still plan on having a kid and if their life is gonna be hard, then that's what I'm gonna prep them for. You can't control what the world does, but you can control how much you're prepared for it. Suffering is just as important as enjoying life, trying to remove it, is trying to remove what makes humanity resilient and strong, and strength has never been an option, it is a requirement, we've just been living off of the strength of last generation and they can't do it anymore.
@@leoncoben6983
We're several hundred years separated from the dark ages and today. Society functions fundamentally differently. Have kids all you like. Thats fine. Just don't shame everyone else for not doing so. All that will do is encourage the brain's defensive mechanisms to think "I don't want to have kids even more, now."
@@xana3961That part of the brain normally shuts down when it matures into adulthood properly.
the problem with finding the type of women that doesn't want to do expensive stuff is that... Well most of them are a really small percentage so they are mostlikely already taken. And if not already taken. Most of them are not interested by you because You're not their ideal. So yeah.
"So yeah" is basically "we have no chance, forced to just give up, AND not cry about it" and I totally understand that
Exactly. Women who are great girlfriends and/or wives are so sought after that it feels dry even if it’s not.
Not everyone should have kids, but we shouldn't stop having them entirely.
We will not stop having kids, society just has to get used to women being able to chose themselves whether they want to have kids or not. Once this phase is over things will stabilize and we will have maybe less but more women being happy with having kids.
@@niftr as long as there is more baby showers than funerals, sure, why not?
But if happyness equals extinction, something went wrong with society at some point in time
@@ELbabotas1 We have 8 billion people on earth I don't think birth rate is what will make us extinct but the conflicts that rise from overpopulation and bad economy.
@@niftr Incorrect. The only places that have significantly rising birthrates are third world countries where having more children to extort for free labor is still a benefit for a family. Most developed nations have stable or declining birthrates, and will literally run out of people within the next few generations if something doesn't change. China is an excellent example. They realized that their 1 child policy created a situation where elders can't be taken care of because 1 person has to support 4 to 6 people by themselves. Leading to massive anxiety, depression, and selfdeath. So they bumped it to 2 children, or replacement, discounting things that kill people before they have kids, like war, themselves, poverty, and famine. And since... you know, being allowed to have 1 more kid doesn't mean it's smart to have 1 more kid, it's not doing a whole lot to help.
IIRC it was either Japan or South Korea that has a replacement rate of like .4, so their population at this rate is declining by 80% every generation, and they're scrambling to try to deal with it, but nothing has worked so far. The US's replacement rate is like 1.2, so their population is getting cut by 40% every generation.
Overpopulation is still an issue because birthrates globally are increasing, but a lot of the world's population is declining so fast that we're going to be in a lot of trouble. The economy being terrible leads to even LESS kids being born, so it's gonna spiral. Conservative values also restrict immigration, meaning those third world countries will keep being overpopulated, while developed nations burn to the ground because the population is shrinking so quickly.
No, no I am DEFINITELY judging you for liking Hasan.
Certanly rised an eyebrow on that one.
@@grimjoe4739 yep. It's even more controversial with recent news about him.
Agreed.
I was cooking and the way I turned my head toward the phone when she said that was almost comical.
People liking Hasan are generally a huge red flag to me. That was nuts
It goes both ways but expectations for guys are so damn high these days
Yeah i think people are getting a little crazy with expectations they get from social media these days
True, and the world also doesn't help about it
meet real women, people are nicer without the anonymity and would probably give you a chance if they know you personally.
An attempt to dismiss the claim that women have high expectations by saying men too.
100% Is required to be the 20%
Take a shot every time milky laughs lol
How many shots so far?
tell us you just want to die 😂
Good way to get suicide rate up in ur city, ain't it?)
Alcohol poisoning speedrun💀
Id be playing drunk Minecraft on 10x difficulty at that point
The phrase "Vocal Minority" is the only thing keeping me sane nowadays. Most people are good.
Most people are like lukewarm water, but LOOOTS of people are good
27:55 The problem: consent can be retroactively revoked at any time.
... Only if the person is lying, or intoxicated... crap
The internet has made it harder for people to trust people and a lot of women (at least my age) never want children. They say “never”
And to me that’s sad because I do. Despite how hard it is to raise a child, how expensive, I want to be a great father.
But I can’t be a great father without having a loving wife who will help me along the way.
And again on the trust thing, there’s women who want to play mind games when we try to get them. No man has ever liked that. The women who do that do it for themselves then wonder “why don’t I have a man?” Because we are tired of playing the games, we want to be in a relationship and work on that, not work on trying to know what your decision is.
Same here man.
Have patience and you will find a woman like that, meanwhile work on yourself and enjoy life for what it has to offer.
Same here, I once found a girl that didn't play games, however we never got past the friendship, and now she's dating someone else, which doesn't bother me, she is a very good friend and I actually don't want anything more with her, but it felt nice just to know that a person like her exists
@@dyltan Help your buddy, so that she doesn't get step on by a douche
Some female dogs were nice girls that were trumatised, good luck with yo pal
Kids aren't even that expensive - NO government is letting a future taxpayer die of hunger.
I want to start a family too, but it took me too long. My time has run out. If you're young and you're reading this, don't prioritise your career or finances. You can earn good money when you're 50. You can't birth healthy children when you're 50.
Hello. This is the first video of yours that I’ve seen and I wanted to say I really enjoyed it. I hate Twitch, so I probably won’t be attending any streams, but I’ll happily subscribe for any new RUclips content.
The thing that I like about ShoeOnHead is that she manages to talk about the gender issues in a lighthearted way that takes seriously the problems of men without acting vicious towards women like so many other male content creators do. Politically, I am a pretty left leaning because of economic, environmental, and political issues, but nothing has made me consider voting for Donald Trump or the Republicans more than the far left’s cultural positions. It is nice to see a left leaning content creator like Shoe who isn’t insane.
Edit: added new line between sections for clarity.
Thank you!! 💙 I'm really glad i started uploading on youtube more consistently so i get to meet more youtube-only peeps!
Also yeah i fully agree with you there. Shoe makes great content, lighthearted but serious at the same time. I'll be reacting to more of her videos!
@@MilkyMew_ I can’t wait. I really like how bubbly and joyful your reaction was. Best of luck, both on RUclips and Twitch.
I really like medium form content 0.5-1.5 hours. Unfortunately my oshi likes long streams so finding time for anything longer can be challenging.
Well said, I fully agree especially with the twitch part
Every woman thinks they want to be childless until they hit the age of 35+ when it's virtually too late.
Most always say "I'll never be like them" or "I'll never change my mind".
Source : Trust me bro.
@@Goudlock it's actually real, most say they want be childless, it's like "I hate my mom anyways" But then when ability is gone "I never appreciated what I had!" "I actually loved her/wanted kids"
@@user-te2ef2jc6d again source : trust me bro
@@Goudlock Well I mean... Factually, after the age of 35, it becomes increasingly more dangerous year after year for both the would be child and mother. Biology doesn't change just because opinions do.
@@Goudlock Everyone is unconfortable at the idea of losing choices and possibilities
Story Time:
I had a very dumb moment that I realized only years later and way too late. Had this very attractive cute and very pretty blonde girl, forgot her name but I was in Senior Year in High School (12th Grade or Final year before going to college status) and she was in her Sophomore year (10th Grade). I will tell you she is like all those rock and roll songs about men writing songs about their girl crushes. What happened was that I was trying to come out my shell and not be so darn shy, like super introvert blushing shy behavior, and spent the last two or three years being in the back of the bus for the route going home and to school. Mind you I had my driver's license in Junior year( 11th grade) and had to help the parents save money on gas to school and to relay the car for like work in the afternoon when I got to use it. Yeah I know, dorky tall skinny dude has a part time job in that time and was never the cool guy or kid for not driving to school like the other stupid highly wannabe cool guys. Which was actually fine for me, I'm not working and saving money to be cool at school. Saving money to live in the future and help the family. Sorry anyways the hot cute blonde girl would literally do the turn herself around in the bus seat with her two other friends and drap themselves on top of the bus seat backwards looking like they were all doing the seductive "I want you or I want you to come over here stare!" But I, at the time, really couldn't read people street smart wise and just kept to myself and just wanted to hangout in the back of the bus and pretend to get along with the wild childs and be cool for like 10 minutes going home on the bus route. You see the cute pretty blonde girl was only on the bus 3 out of the five days and only on for the afternoon commute. I didn't know if she was teasing and glaring at me but she wouod constantly stare my way and occasionally sit back down in the seat and talk with her friends. I just thought not to bother them. And one day in the first week of May in the year 2008, she kind like stare all the while on the way home and it looked like the seductive cute bite lip motion and half eyes look. Sorry for rambling here and there but she was the afternoon bus route for the whole week. But the kicker is what I remember the most is that she did that look towards my way or at me in the drive home and one day when I was getting off the bus (she got off the route layer than I did) she reached out and kinda grabbed my arm passing by her on the bus. I looked back in a quick second and actually thought I bumped into her and felt bad. I only realise this now much late like 12 years later that she wanted me to come talk to her and was giving me the I like you eyes. Uuuuugghhh, so stupid of me to not get that till now. She was a keeper too, down to earth, good looking girl and dressed beautifully. She was amazing looking back through my dreams and memories that haunt me to this day. Oh well, hope some other guy is treating her well
Dont beat your self up about it, you werent ready for a relationship anyway if you were thinking like that at the time and it is fine, stop living in the past and date the girl of your dreams in the present.
That's on her for not just fricking talking to you lol
@@tacocats2244 Teenagers dude,
I find the most concerning that the entirety of "the greatest nation on earth" diminishes everything into binary "us vs them" situation, while some tiny European country can have a dozen political parties that are cycled through their parliament. Spewing out terms like "left /right" within the old world's boundaries would carry a much heavier, often more sinister meaning.
so Dr. Jordan Peterson is a psychology professor from Canada that is often under fire for mainly, maintaining the position that gender dysphoria is a mental health issue and should be treated as such, as well as talking about the biological and psychological differences between men and women using statistics.
He also got a lot of heat for giving advice to young, unemployed, and depressed men on how to turn their life around and take responsibility for their lives. Certain people take this as him trying to reinforce the patriarchy and put women down.
He's a bit of a boogeyman to the left leaning US media who talk shit about him every chance they get, lol
If you're interested in seeing a little slice of his work I'd recommend "Jordan Peterson - IQ and The Job Market" or "Jordan Peterson: The Mind of Highly (Dis-)Agreeable People"
of course there's also his Joe Rogan podcast appearances but those are hours long, lol
I personally have nothing but respect for Jordan Peterson. He understands the struggles that young men have these days, and seems to genuinely want to help them. That’s rare these days.
The amount of hate Jordan Peterson gets is insane.
Agree or disagree with him, that's perfectly fine, but they make him sound like Hitler reborn it's absolute insanity.
@@iCrowLink finding his words in the mouth of red skull in a comic was a trip and a half
I am not okay. Both because I'm a man, and because I'm Autistic.
If you can make that Autism into a gender identity you're golden 🤩
Aren't we all?
being autistic in a mostly neurotypical world sucks
@@iiCounted-op5jx That it does.
@@wessltovno, not everyone is autistic 😮
I keep hearing "a child? In THIS economy?!" And here i am "damn, those guys from men's&women's and pregnant in 16s Russian tv shows - they don't have much and pulling it off. Am i worse than them, who f-up in 16?"
Like i worried to not be able to afford stuff for kid and my wife "we will figure it out, you're smart honey"
CODE RED CODE RED THAT MAN AT THE START DOES NOT HAVE ORANGE JUICE GET HIM SOME BEFORE HE TOES INTO ULTRA SADNESS MODE
I love how people say the word “fascist” without really knowing what it means.
Yo fresh 20 year old male here, first time watching anything from you (Milky Mew) to my knowledge. Noting the people for the "braindead advice" portion say common sense type stuff and slightly tolerable advice for their arguments, yet showing their ignorance to the issue and thus showing the issue. They made comments making fun of the op for that twitter post whilst also showing the exact issue the person was talking about, giving IRRELEVANT advice and therefore braindead advice. The other stuff before this was interesting too such as "They're going right because they're BIGOTS" despite it being that the right a decent chunk of the time gives advice that's meant to boost a man's confidence, albeit temporarily. Additionally the people going "it's not my problem" and all that, it will be and has already started becoming everyone's problem; in fact it already is because the "good men" that people like to claim don't exist in fact ARE good at hiding from the crossfire, and they likely know what issues may befall them if they do after having seen men torn apart for merely existing in the same room as some self righteous so-called "feminist" and in some cases those men died by their own hands due to the treatment they received for acts they never committed, had COLD HARD EVIDENCE of having not been even close to getting involved in it, and yet still were deemed guilty and some depreciable term/title. I also say "so-called 'feminist'" due to the fact that to my understanding a feminist is someone who fights for EQUALITY not to put down one sex/gender or the other, along with anything falling in between. I will likely add to this with replies or something at some point but for now must get some sleep. Good night to ya'll, remember your daily affirmations and to drink enough water, again WATER, and stay safe as best you can from anything and anyone willing to harm you.
Men: You're looking great man, keep up the great work out there.
Woman: Nice vibes queen, keep staying chill and rock on baby.
I don't know whether the society fail the men or not, at least you never fail to entertain and provide us daily dose of Milky😊
hehe thank you!! 💙
This video is unironically a gold mine of memes
But really doesn't help is the fact that someone saying something and boom our lives are ruined. For an example of a group of three women claimed that a man sexually assaulted them and he was put on house arrest and any hopes of a good job was ruined because he now has that on his record those same women later confirmed that they did that just cuz they didn't like him. And that he'd never did that however as he was still accused of that serious crime it was still on his record.
it’s legit not fine to cry i’ve never met a girl who actually was okay with you showing your emotions to THEM. at most they’ll want you to just be emotional by yourself which most definitely leads to men minecrafting themselves.
it’s better to just learn how to bury emotions down and live with it if you can, i’ve gotten use to it and im 21.
Metallica- The Unforgiven.
Exactly emotions and hard lessons are a part of life the sooner you accept that the sooner you can move on with your life. It is up to you to make your life purposeful and not anyone else.
We can cry together, if you wanna
It's not gonna work forever. I'm 27, felt the exact same way as you a couple years ago, and through most of my teens. You wait long enough, and all of that shit you repressed starts to crawl its' way back up, sometimes in ways you'll never see coming.
I really hope the people at that Austrian company didn't fail art school and are writing a book in jail.
I mean we haven’t been ok for some time.
But what can we do?
You literally were not silent for one second
I'm a professional yapper
I love the way that Milky says the word “horrendous”.
So I'm 25(m) and I got only one friend, but he's my best buddy since elementary school and as for my mental health, I'm really happy every time I got to see him
How can someone this adorable even exist? How is Milky always cute?!
We're not okay.
But it is what it is.
My dude at this point I'm running out of "It is what it is."
I've heard it described as becoming a "Husk," and... yeah. At times, I wonder if I'm even human anymore.
@@johnj.spurgin7037 I understand. Feeling hollow inside, and you start to truly understand the difference between living and existing
@@kirowaterlaw9432 Exactly. The difference between surviving and living.
Yeah but don't quit guys remember gamblers quit just before they win big!
@@Isaac-eh6uu
I like that energy friend. SPREAD THAT VIBE!!
milky is so savage lololol, "no one here has a girlfriend"
I mean... it's not wrong LOL
@@MilkyMew_No, you're not wrong! LOL
It's worse when you've had a girlfriend in the past and you know what you DON'T have
Can't miss what you never knew
Had no fiends for almost 20 years. And of course never had a girlfriend ever.
Perfect example of music that's derogitory to men? Single ladies by Beyonce.
An example from the lyrics?
"If you like it then you should have put a ring on it."
Translated to the male paradigm?
"Buy me a ring or I'm breaking up with you."
And this is supposedly inspirational for women everywhere. If he doesn't buy you a ring, break up with him. And guys are just expected to be cool with that kind of pressure. So, you know what's been happening? We call the bluff. We don't buy the ring. Then they break up with us, and we stand our ground.
"Why would I buy a ring for someone who's going to break up with me over materialistic bullshit like that? She's not loyal."
Here I am, a 22 year old guy who fits all the "modern preferences" of being, tall, decent looking and a few other "good" things, but I just don't feel like I want to try for anything. Love is expensive, children are headaches, people are irritating and society can just fuck off. I am satisfied with what little I got, it's simply pointless to want something clearly out of reach.
If you are only 22 than this isnt really what you should be worrying about. At your age all you need to worry about is education, personal development and career. You have many many years left to figure out all that other shit and trust me you won't figure it out now. Just focus on one thing in life at a time and from there build your life and be consistent with the basic things you do that make your life better.
@@niftr thing is, I gave up on education and I don't have long to live anyway. I'll be lucky to live past 25, so I'm not really looking for a major career, nor do I want to waste what's left of my time wasting thousands in cash on a shitty uni or college.
@@videontekuro9399 Sorry to hear that, I obviously meant that only for people at your age who are in a different situation. But by education I did not mean you need to go to university. Education can mean any skill or knowledge you learn that helps you improve your life.
@@niftr well, I know how to do a bit of everything, so I'm well off.
@@videontekuro9399 Glad to hear that bro. I am sure you can use these skills for something awesome and everything else will become clear to you in life however long or short it may still be.
Yes I can relate as well I don’t have many friends and nor do I get to see them very often cause they have relationships and now since I’m going into the army that feeling of loneliness has gotten worse
hey bro At least you could make friends in the army 😁
@@dunkirklexington6802 that’s what I’m hoping for man cause me and my current friends haven’t gotten in touch in months
I do hope you get some homies in the army! Good luck there! 💙
@@MilkyMew_ yes ma’am thank you I absolutely will!
No joke, I got to attend a wedding between two people who met in a youtuber's discord server.
The youtuber was invited to the wedding, was there for the ceremony, then blew off the rest of the event to hang out with other youtuber buddies of his.
ok
I know a lot about Jordan Peterson, so since you asked in the video, I'll tell you all I know.
Jordan Peterson is a mixed bag, and mostly positive force in the world in my opinion. He's a Canadian clinical psychologist who got some fame through RUclips, opposing a controversial bill, holding his own in interviews and a decent self-help book called 12 Rules for Life. He's disliked by the radical left for being a mild conservative that has influenced a lot of men by legitimately trying to help them become better people. He wasn't aiming for a male audience, it just turned out that way. He's also known for being a little too active on Twitter for his own good, which he acknowledges himself, which has also produced some controversy. He's also had quite a rough time with his wife nearly dying from cancer which ended up with him on benzodiazepines to cope, and some of his erratic behavior recently is from the effects of withdrawal. He's also known for being on a diet of steak and seltzer because of some health issues that he and his daughter share, but he is trying to expand his diet to figure what foods are or aren't setting off his health issues, but because of this some vegans hate him too. He used to be part of a group that was labelled as the Intellectual Dark Web, or IDW which he is still friends with most of the members, and despite the name it's not as sinister as it sounds, it was basically made up in an article by someone who didn't like a lot of smart people. He's also known for seriously analyzing religious and mythological texts through a secular psychological lens, which makes him sound like Linus from the the Peanuts (Charlie Brown) a lot of the time. He's also known for naturally sounding like Kermit the Frog as he talks. And he does a lot of hand gestures as he talks. Because of his history of being a therapist, he does more listening than talking, which is what makes him great for interviews and podcasts. Due to someone taking a quote of his out of context, he's known for lobsters, and he has embraced the meme to the point of wearing a suit with a lobster in each pocket for a photoshoot. I think my favorite interview was with a comedian called Jim Jefferies who tried to make him look stupid with the usual Daily Show format, but it didn't work out that way and both parties changed their mind on something. He's currently working with the Daily Wire. I think he's in his 50s or 60s I forget, but I do know he's a grandfather for sure. He got attacked recently for being labelled as like a hero for incels and he turned it around by saying "sure, why not? Shouldn't the disempowered have a voice?". There's been two villainous portrayals of him in the media, in marvel comics he was equated with Red Skull and in a movie called "Don't Worry Darling" there's a cult leader that's supposed to be a stand-in for Jordan Peterson. In a weird twist of irony, the left wants men to be emotionally open, but whenever Jordan Peterson does it, which is frequently, they're the same people who openly mock him.
I think this is all the stuff I can think of off the top of my head, some of this may be misremembered though.
I really like anime music, and that's my new perfect excuse for being single lol...much love from Brasil.
Also one last thing I mostly agree with in this video is the part about purpose. I do not think we necessarily need to provide or proof anything but it is important for men to have a purpose and loving a woman, having a family etc. has always been and will always be a great purpose for men to pursue. It is sad to see that men struggle with this kind of fulfillment nowadays. But there are many other purposes we can pursue in life. It is kind of the same with having goals. There are many ways we can do good in our life and have a positive impact on someone or anyone. Once we do that we will quickly realize that we are not worthless and do not have to feel lonely. Without this we have no reason to go through all the shit we have to deal with in life. :D
I don't know, I always get screwed over/ghosted by women. I already struggle holding male friendships, since there is a huge barrier from being born ugly.
It's one sided effort I have to constantly uphold the relationship, while I only get low energy back. I still hope that I just have to find the right person/woman, but I tried so many times it starts eating away at myself.
I feel with you. I recommend you try to find a relationship with someone that does not involve real outer appearances. You do not have to meet anyones expectations in life, you have to do what makes you happy. So do things that work for you. There is nothing wrong with roleplaying online, have an online relationship, play games together, chat with someone who has the same interests than you. Set realistic goals for your life and you will start having less disappointments and more successes. We are not all made to find the love of our lives the first time we date a girl and then we be happily ever after. Thats how hollywood likes to think but not how real life works. If a relationship does not yield you any success find another goal or purpose you can pursue that will make you get noticed by good people who will love you in return.
I am in permanant boob reach.
I was really dense growing up and had far more rizz than I realised.
i remember when this video from ShoeonHead came out. she got some serious flak from twitter and shit. but it just proves that shes right. and how shes actually one of the few sane women left.
and as a man I can confirm i am lonely. to the point ive thought about unaliving almost every single day. and you know what? society wouldnt care. itd just be another number in an increasing statistic that is constantly pushed under the rug because men are not humans in the eyes of the media.
Now that i think about it, where do i find sane people? Always been intriged as to what they look like
You know, playing multiplayer games is how me and my buddy have met lots of weirdos, it ain't ideal, but better than nothin fo sho
Well, trying to find sanity on Twitter is like trying to find an iceberg in the Sahara Desert.
istg Andrew Tate, Anime, and Working out saved me from my depression
i don't trust tate, but glad it helped you, mate
Hope you keep goin
God, I hate Tate mate...
Tate is not a good influence, but im glad you are doing good, mate
Working out and anime are some of the best things in life.
Also, Tate seems to say things in such a way as to be purposefully provocative, but most of the takes I've heard (mind you, not a fan so I haven't heard many) are fairly obvious true-isms, such as the 'men are born without value' thing.
Milky's not wrong about Jesus. With him and a hobby, I don't mind being isolated.
But Jesus would've wanted you to spread the love in your heart, so, even if you are okie, a future were you go for a change of airs ain't a bad one
funny that shoe says that people only want to sell them stuff, and like 3 minutes in milky shills a daki of herself
21:45 voosh has wormed his way even here lmao
A little unrelated, but you have my respect for not skipping her ad. It makes me happy seeing creators support other creators!
I feel like not skipping ads is the bare minimum a react content creator should do hahahah
I had a few friends, but when I lost my job....I lost my friends
Me reacting to Japanese using staring videos: Wow, that looks dumb AF
Milky: if you listen to girlfriend ASMR, you can't judge
Me: OK, I shut the hell up... happy?
I like how she says the only people that actually care are trying to sell them things and proceeds to try to sell those things
34:05 Honest to god I can't remember the last time I cried 🤔 not even at my grandpa's funeral and even when my dad passed it was just a little. Well that's the price I pay for holding it in for a long time.
scrolling down through the comments on Shoe's video there is so, so heart-wrenching bro
I would cringe if I call my gf a “milker” 😂
Look i'm gonna be real... it took me so long to accept this name... my chat gaslit me into it 😂 at this point i just fully embraced the cringe hahahah
Your girlfriend is a milker.
@@MilkyMew_ At least you have wonderful sense of humor! Look at the positives ;)
@@MilkyMew_ Nothing is cringe about this name, it actually shows how open you are to all kinds of people and that you have a good sense of humor.
2:19 good ads 😂 and quite a request, CONSIDERING we have a rare female viewer
3:18 tbf most media only show the bad side of women, so men who tries to date women ended up not trying and look for alternative, such as vtubing.
Also does that mean you're open? 😂
26:07 this section is honestly unbelievable, but not surprised since it's twitter
27:46 definitely watched too much rape cases and thought all men does this
But yeah, a lot in this video forgot that helping lonely men IS the problem they need to tackle
Thanks for the upload btw, I now can hope that one day Mew uploads a video where she tells us to stop our porn addiction 😂
Means i'm open for what? And LOL Milky motivational asmr someday 😂
@@MilkyMew_ CatCough oh umm, nothing at all!
@@thatwanavy566 KEKW
Having surgery to increase your height comes with problems especially when you double the recommended 3-4 inches in height. Plus, it just doesn't look natural at all giving that it throws off your normal proportional size.
There are 3 ways that man can cure from being sad
1. Have a girlfriend (somehow because nowdays it's harder to get a girlfriend)
2. Go to gym (it is harder to go to gym if you are fat and have social anxiety)
3. (My personal favorite) pray or talk to God. He is the one that will understand your pain, wants to comfort you and wants you to have happy live before going to his kingdom and live happy forever
Edit: I actually cried when I was writing this comment
I'm sure His angels danced thru your fingers as you shared love for your peers as the Lord would've wanted
hope for you happiness, wellness , health
godspeed, Adamos
@@ELbabotas1 thanks man. You are The best
...I was going to mock you, but whatever, you do you.
I have to say this people say its okay to cry and then im like i don't want to
yep still empty cause missing half of myself with no purpose but still looking for one
KEKW the batman video çazp,c,zionzc I prefer listening to "Master Chief tells you how proud of you he is" or "Goku tells you everything's going to be okay" video 😂
HAHAHAH EVEN GOKU 😭
@@MilkyMew_ YEAH ahahah but ASMR Milky telling me how proud of me she is when...? 🥲
@@tartareauxherbes5909you're cooking
The difference between a friend and acquaintance is the 3 am phone call - you call friends for help and jump for them. You don't call your acquaintances. And work friends are the people who keep in touch after you leave - few will bother. You just don't matter to them. (Source: sad personal experience)
Edit: That chart from okcupid shows a normal distribution curve at the top and a significantly abnormal curve at the bottom. One has to wonder about sample size, 17:15 what criteria are being used in each case and whatever other confounding factors are affecting the results. Give the parameters and source data to statisticians and social scientists, not the talking heads.
16:45 Here's a challenge. Make a dating site profile on Plenty of Fish or some other site using a slightly above average looking male profile pic (or heaven forbid, just average) and see if you can get any positive interaction that isn't a bot or a dating site farmer trying to exploit you for money. Just don't go deleting yourself when the depression sets in.
Also, can us giants get boops and head pats too? We're used to giving uppies and helping get stuff from the top shelves. Short guys aren't the only ones with it rough. If we're too tall we often get labeled a monster or creep or auto assumed to be looking down blouses or they're afraid we will destroy their pelvis among other things.
I never tried any dating app myself but from what i hear it's really bad... i have the belief that any social media is a better place to find a partner than actual dating apps 😂 i feel like it gets the worst out of people.
Also omg yes of course!! 🥹 Everyone deserves head pats!! Honestly i'm so used to hear people saying that "tall guys have it easy" and stuff like that, i never thought about this. The "assuming to be looking down blouses" is so horrible wtf 😭
Everyone deserves to be loved!! Guys please if you hear horrible stuff like that... just know that you deserve better 🫂
@@MilkyMew_ Yeah, dating apps are one of the easiest ways to get depression for both genders I think. At least, if they're somewhat sane and legitimately trying to find a special someone. I wouldn't blame you for not wanting to try them.
Women get flooded with messages and often get pictures of... things... I'm sure there's other issues as well, especially since there's an abundance of men and few women on the sites in comparison.
Men typically get ignored on dating sites unless they're the top 1% good looking and rich. There are so many men on the dating sites that women can typically pick and choose. I'm not sure about the women side of things, but I'd estimate about 95% or more of the interactions I've had are either bots or dating site farms (typically offices in China or Russia filled with people trying to scam desperate men out of money.) Probably about 3% of the interactions have just been women trying to troll and insult men just for being on the site or to advertise their only fans/Instagram, 1% being psycho and/or looking for a one night stand and 1% being legitimately interested in a relationship.
I agree that social media is probably a better option, though that can be quite the cesspool too. Also super easy to get dogpiled if you voice a "wrong" opinion. I don't feel like most people on social media are looking for a relationship on social media either, but I could be wrong since I am rarely on sites like twitter or facebook.
In person often isn't an option either, especially if you don't drink and have no reason to go to a pub/bar. I hear grocery stores are a good place to meet people, but I still don't understand how. lol
Aww, thank you. Yeah, tall guys do have it easier I think, but there will always be problems. Seems like women prefer 6' to 6'4" but once it gets to 6'5" or 6'6" it seems to get into scary territory or unbelievable (if seen on a profile) for many women. Being a muscular build also somewhat contributes to the monster idea since many women consider that gross or they're worried we would somehow break them. Not even talking about body builder levels or anything.
The "assuming to be looking down blouses" thing is more prevalent in some cultures like Japan where just about everyone's shorter and they tend to be more modest about their chests.
Still, I know many women who just outright refuse to consider anyone 5'11" or under and it's even a meme if someone is exactly 5'11" but they get auto-rejected just because of the 5 being on the profile and then the girl is regretting it after realizing the 11 was there but they had already swiped.
Sorry for the walls of text.
Don't worry Milky, when my new salaried job pays out, I'll provide for you like 1 time and then forget for sure.
wait until Mike Litoris hears about this.
I don't have any friend. Noone. Everyone I knew just walked away because I had my own opinion that might differ from them.
Enthusiastic consent is as opposed to coerced consent, which is like pestering someone or making someone uncomfortable until they say yes. It's less a modification of consent, and more a clarification, if someone only said yes because you made it clear you weren't going to accept no as an answer that isn't actually consensual.
Yes that is right but it is still absurd when we need to clarify what consent means. It should be obvious that manipulating someone to consent is not real consent. :P
@@niftr It absolutely should be, but a lot of people are raised with the mentality that women are not people like them and are there to be tricked into sex, I had some of that mindset when I was very young and these clarifications on consent are useful to help people break that mindset.
@@TheBcDed Sure you are absolutely right about that. Unfortunately there are men like that but I know many who arent like that also. I just wonder if men like that would ever adapt to a term like that, I guess they would just think its a joke. So it is important to explain the term enthusiastic consent when using it in a post, which these people probably wont always do.
I registered as independent voter in the US because I hate the parties, primary voting goes against the constitution in my opinion.
But I will be brutally honest, I am more right leaning than left because at least the right focuses on some things that are for me or my values, the left calls me the problem.
Anyways, frick politics. It’s all shows that distracts people from real problems.
Funny thing, politics is supposed to be about you, but rich peple and clubs make a circus outta the thing that is supposed to make our lifes better
@@ELbabotas1don’t forget the poor or middle class trying to use these parties thinking they are somehow heros or their ideas are somehow the best and only perfect and they are in control and not the rich or people that abuse and use their emotions as shields and tools
Could you imagine two people not only meeting each other because of you but creating children because of you?
really depends on the context of a situation, if it was 2 of my friends then that's great but if it was my girlfriend cheating on me with another friend of mine no just no.
@@creepen8469 was asking milky since she's the one who brought that up in this vid lol
@@hobosapiensxx ah my mistake sorry
@@creepen8469 no worries, nothing says you can't answer it yourself. I just wanted to make it clear my original intent. But it would be wild to contemplate that some people only exist because of a podcast lol
The thing about getting people to stay around is that after middle/high school is basically impossible.
I have had 3 attempts at relationships lately and only the latest gas ended remotely well.
Without going into detail:
The first i let cheat on me for two years because I didnt want to loose her. She faked her sopuku to leave me
The second was a yandere who literally began to stalk me when i barely knew me. Wasnt even really a relationship
The third and most recent was basically amazing. But my shattered mental state and built up insecurities, combined with the standards men are held to a a constant rate (Like seriously. Walking the line between "toxic masculinity" and "not being a man" is irritatingly difficult). We stepped back to stay as close friends for the sake of my mental health.
I hate to say this but in the 20 years I have been around on this world, only once i turned 18 did I even get any new friends besides the small 2 person group i established in 3rd grade...
This crap is real. Double standards and all the prejudice by just generalizing all males into the same category
I am an extroverted introvert and do you have any idea how weird that is to figure out. I need to be around people and being alone bothers me immensely but I am too nervous and stupid to actually make plans if the other person doesn’t ask first. It’s annoying as all hell and I constantly am going in and out of depressions now because I also have trust issues because I used to be a compulsive liar so am really paranoid now. F my life bro livin like this is ass.
sounds like an autistic anxious person, get help, when you can't figure out how to life, some professionals(always remember second oppinions) may have a couple suggestions
New perspectives ain't all that bad
shoeonhead made a video as a follow up to this video recommend taking a look at it
Oh now that you mention it, i realized i completely missed it LOL i was planning to watch the female loneliness after this but her response to this one might be better! Thanks for the suggestion 🫡
@@MilkyMew_ watch both they are both good 😉👍
There are a lot of issues coming with the rise of AI, but using it to have Batman encourage young men to kick their porn addiction is one of the better uses of AI I've ever heard of.
So, any Girl wanna marry for the Tax reduction?
I think those that make Twitter their life is just sacrificial lambs. You can't take them seriously, but the fact does remain about men and that's the sad part. Regardless of the matter, both men and women need each other and this whole thing that men need to be in "said group" will never be the answer. How about people just be normal and try to, I don't know... talk?
RIGHT??? I feel like social media is making people not talk... 🥲 they just wanna spit their opinions but not really discuss it...
@@MilkyMew_ I would think that could also be due to those woman being hurt by previous relationships and/or involving parents. Could also be that these folks feel like they want to be a part of a group and will disregard anyone's feelings/moral just to feel that "sense of belonging". Either way this is a mess, but it always starts somewhere, but it shows we really need to adapt to communication and accept that people are flawed, but being downright dismissive shouldn't be tolerated.
I have 2, a girl I can smoke with and a guy I've know for 11 years, everyone else I consider close are either a few family members my girlfriend, or dead, its a cruel workd, but as men we get told to "deal with it"
It's sad how in these people's heads multiple social and economical issues can't exist at the same time. A lot of men suck, a lot of women suck, a lot of trans people suck, politics suck, the economy sucks, socializing sucks, most opinions on the Internet suck and usually very unhelpful and basically life just sucks for most people. The hard truth is most people don't give a shit about most people making wanting to talk to new people extremely unappealing.
3:30,
Girl, do you know how expensive mcdonalds is these days. No way can we take a girl on a date there. Just today when I went there and got just one big mac with no drink or anything and it was over $7.
@25:26 fee fees are feelings in this context just like calling someone "crybaby" when they lost a loved one.
Discovered you yesterday and saw noone comented on this yet so might as well share. 🙂
The thing with finding purpose in Jesus is right i problably wouldnt be on this earth if i didnt go to xhurch that one time
Yeah same. Jesus saved me both through cleaning my sins and making me a much better person. Don’t need Andrew Tate when you got the bible
Are we ready to have the conversation of how they always use "all RECORDED cases of physical abuse/ crimes" especially women on man violence even when reported usually joked off and not taken seriously. things like "oh you let a girl beat you" or "that cant happen to men" when it 100% does. had a close friend for a long time who was sliced open by his crazy (thankfully now ex gf) and peoples mentality was "shoulda gotten your girl under control." by what restraining her in self defense, her getting "abused", and him going to jail. right. ive verbally heard females talking about how they didnt enjoy a sexual encounter with someone and were considering going to the police saying they were raped.... this isnt to discredit anyone whos gone through that (did in my childhood) this system is sooo screwed up towards men and you want to say were totally entitled/ privileged... how does most of the US handle what parent ends up with the kids/ stuff in case of divorce? not even going to start on how it gets abused. how are men handled with physical altercations with women involved? how is mens mentality handled in reguards to beliefs and issues? this stupid notion of what can we do for you.... what have you done to earn it? theres so much more i could get into but most arent even ready for this level of discussion and ive already made this long enough. theres shit people everywhere doesnt matter gender, race really whatever you want to throw on it. For the people who are genuine and keeping it straight much love and live your best life!
If we are okay, we will not be here right now
This video was something lol i can only relate to the lonely and no friends lol
I have 1 close friend but we barely see each other we mostly play games online on PlayStation lol
It's nice to have a homie to play games with! 🫂 It do be hard meeting people irl...
@@MilkyMew_ yeah I'm glad I atleast have 1 friend to laugh with and have fun lol
I'm naturally 6'5 and I don't pull chicks ('cause I'm fugly af).
I have 2 close friends, one I haven't seen for three years
1:52
So if I stop watching I’ll get one?
Ok
“Stops watching”
+1 girlfriend added to inventory
Wait what
a bit late to this, but the more poor and lonely men gets, the more likely some getting radicalized, and desperate. Some might strike out to do violent acts, so helping these lonely men means less is likely to turn radical or desperate.