I get what he's saying with the "Tell Tell signs" but just cause YOU THINK IT doesn't mean it's true. It's usually a 50/50. To me this is bad impulsive advice tho, i went thru hell for over 2 yrs living with my ex. I was CONSTANTLY BEING ACCUSED of cheating almost everyday when I WAS NOT and NEVER did when with her. She was young & insecure, it was toxic. Just assuming, attacking & prying thru privacy. Just have a normal sit down talk like adults & COMMUNICATE. I do agree with gathering proof to actually verify, but that's it.
As soon as I know someone has a girlfriend or a wife, I don't see them again. I don't get how people could feel ok with being the person someone cheats with O.o
What's even crazier is when they get with that person. I've had a few friends who have gotten a girl to cheat on her dude with them. Then started dating the girl and somehow be surprised when she cheated on them. I mean come on bro if she would cheat on her dude with you. Then why wouldn't she cheat on you with another dude it's crazy.
Most people know they are going to leave their spouse or girlfriend or husband or whatever, they are just looking for another branch to grab onto. It’s called “monkeybranching” and women and men both do it. As my grandma used to say, never throw out dirty water unless you have clean water. You’re not supposed to sell your Honda until you know you have a Porsche waiting for you.
Yes, women have sex with another man when they lose respect for their current man. It's not good for either party to cheat, but men cheat for different reasons than women. Don't put your female way of thinking onto men.
Meh… maybe on the east coast… Tattoos are so mainstream now, there’s nothing gangster about em! My tattoo’d friends think it’s gangster that I don’t have a single tat! 🤪😎
I agree, but then we can’t forget that there are always those paranoid possessive partners who always think their partner has cheated on them, even though their partner has never left the kitchen. I once had a boyfriend who cancelled delivery of mail to our house so that no other man would ever be near me. Nothing ever went on and I was always loyal, never a cheater. There are those people too.
If it wouldn't enter your mind to cheat on your spouse, then it's very difficult to recognize that behavior from someone you love and trust, even when presented with this type of evidence.
My gut has never led me astray. The few times I've been cheated on, I knew. Don't know how, just knew. Always, always, always listen to your gut - it's trying to tell you something your conscious mind hasn't caught up to yet.
I’m not afraid of being cheated on. It’s happened multiple times already. The difference with marriage is that they get to leave with cash and prizes at your expense. Not happening!
I first saw you on Mark’s channel and you impressed me sooooo much with your understanding of marriage. You were SPOT ON with EVERYTHING you said!! And, I am sure you have seen it all.
A friend mine was going tru a divorce got blindsided,nothing about cheating,money and MIL,living with them.any way he found out his lawyer became a lawyer after his divorce seems like his ex took him to the cleaners. So he became a divorce lawyer, well my friend and his ex were going back n forth. With intimate relations here and there,before the final ax, the lawyer told him "HAVE FUN" I've seen and heard it all 😂
not trying to be rude, just genuinely... can't understand what you're saying. Would you mind rewriting it? I legit want to understand it, because it sounds like a cool story and some sort of experience one can learn from :) I'd rather learn from other people's mistakes. Thanks in advance :) (didn't mean to be sarcastic, I promise) @@MattyNelson-rs3ik
the right one might stop loving you as well. Do you see yourself as a quintessence of perfect traits for marriage and only your partner’s “defects” can ruin it?😂😂😂
@@Chad_Max😂😂😂😂yes, I started to buy new sexy underwear because I was working on my self worth and self confidence to leave the relationship. Not because I was cheating but you are right it wasn’t for him either😅
Facial hair changes often indicate a person is going through emotional exploration. My X tried to brush me of with "all the girls have got one" but I knew something was up.
This is almost exactly how it happened. My step dad started working more, staying out later, and finally after a year of keeping his now gf a secret… he finally came home and out of the blue told my mom he wanted a divorce. That was 4 years ago lol it’s still going on. We all saw it coming but her because she stayed oblivious.
Just my 52 year old opinion, but I think people shouldn't be able to marry until 25. Also, young engaged couples should have a "mandatory" weekend or at least a sit-down with a divorce attorney to really see what is at stake. Like I said, just my opinion.
@@squatchpnw2331 couldn't agree more. Everyone should know what their legal rights are before entering a marriage. I'm so glad his interview exists because I can at least plan ahead now 😅
Many years with a controlling jealous bf. He oppressed all my joy because it all seemed like evidence to him. I never cheated. He never believed me. He never trusted me. He never got help. I finally gave up and let him go. He has a gf and I’ve been alone for years. If he saw this it would confirm all his erroneous fears.
@@trappart9209The lawyer has a skewed sample and experience. He only sees couples at their worst. If he were a therapist he might see people trying to be their best. My ex did some couples therapy w me and he was able to say that he knew I was trustworthy and didn’t cheat, but his brain was still grinding along like an OCD person having to check the stove.
Saw for the first time (yesterday), this gentleman. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ his straight shooting honesty. I agree with all he had & has to say. THIS IS REALITY PEOPLE!!!
Never ignore your gut. My 1st is now with the woman who was banging him on and off all thru our 25 yrs of marriage. They deserve one another. My 2nd husband showed me a man who could be faithful. He passed away from cancer. I enjoyed your SWU interview. Great insight! Just FYI, some of us out here ARE capable of devotion and faithfulness to the guy who deserves it.
This is bad advice. I work with couples and there are often situations where one spouse has major insecurity/trust/jealousy issues and constantly thinks their partner is cheating when they're not. That kind of behavior can actually sabotage a good relationship.
Well this solidifies my experience. But he also did have a head injury and his personality changed, had a new job and it was more difficult than his last job. I supported him through it - emotionally, psychologically and all the home duties. Still pisses me off to this day.
I'm friendly and outgoing in a lot of ways. I am sure my wife thinks I cheated. She has. But here's the thing. I wouldn't cheat, even though I know I could. One...I did cheat once while dating, as the relationship was winding down. I felt so shady and unmanly...like man up, end it then do what you want. Two...I'm married. Who could I cheat with that I would find attractive realizing they're aware I'm married but would still want me? Really. Do I have any respect for a woman that would do it with a married father?
When she went from always wanting to talk to me and always spending time with me. To suddenly barely speaking to me and always "stressed" always getting upset when i would try to communicate with her as i had always did and it was never an issue until suddenly out of the blue.
You’re a great actor! I like your expressions and the way you express yourself! I love your Passion for your work and love of people as well. I love that you care and like the good book says “In all thine getting , get understanding!” You have great understanding!
Best thing I ever did was get out of my 12 year marriage to someone who was arrogant, dishonest and manipulative. They took their wedding vows and then when things got hard their solution was to go outside the marriage, live a double life and lie to me. I went on to date two more bad ones (who proposed marriage) after my divorce. Just more of the same behaviors and games… only these two had much less going for them than my spouse. Multiple divorces & kids. I stopped looking for a life partner. It’s been a HUGE waste of my life and has always led to disappointment . The dream of getting married, having a family and a devoted spouse is becoming a thing of the past. Like finding a needle in a haystack.
Man I'm done trying to find my "other half" or that person I'll be with for the rest of my life. I honestly don't think she even exists at this point in time other than in my head. I was in 3 relationships the past 3 years. One I caught cheating, the other two I suspect were also. I was faithful until the end and helped all 3 out of dark and terrible situations only to get kicked to the curb when they got bored or because of a minor disagreement. I'm done putting all my time, energy, and money into girlfriends I know wouldn't be there for me when it matters. I have always wanted to have children and I long to be a father. But it's just not worth it with the girls who've agreed to date me
If you see your spouse glamming up - getting in shape, new clothes, new look, they might be preparing to cheat. Look at what you are doing to drive them away. Are you having an emotional affair? Did you let your body become a dumpster fire? Did you stop having sex? Are you emotionally walled off? The problem might be you. A lot of people get themselves ready to get the next lover before they have kicked the old one to the curb. Read the signs and make a change if there is something left worth fighting for.
Love to heard your thoughts on marriage- you missed your call on being a marriage counselor . I am a widow but find you so helpful and truthful for those who may be passing through marital difficulties. You’re funny too and I love your sense of humor.
yep i say this a lot. if you think they are, trust your gut. you HAVE social skills, you're very perceptive subconsciously, even if you can't put your finger on it, you often know. when you don't, it sucks. it's better to accuse be wrong and damage control than to not accuse find out and be heartbroken.
I met a woman who was supposed to be in ministry,evangelism,the first time I met her I knew she was after my husband, I proved to be correct,years later,nothing happened, my husband was warned by me. But he had to hear it from someone else telling him,that was her plan,even though she was already married..GO with your guts..
Not necessarily. I used to accuse my ex husband because my intuition was setting off alarm bells. I had never once cheated but I caught him cheating with a private investigator… and that wasn’t the first time.
I absolutely adore this man's standards and morals regarding marriage and relationships! I also love the way he views looks at life in general! Let's not forget the very wise opinions regarding some of the most pivotal parts throughout ours lives which in turn are the building blocks that we all inevitably mold into ourselves to shape the person we are at this very moment in time! Everyone should take a page or 10 from this mans book on life and the relationships we create cuz if only a few would take heed and listen this world would be just a bit more better for all..... This has been but one man's humble opinion and nothing more 😊
My ex lost weight, started buying new clothes, started going out all the time and making excuses to leave the house.. YEP she was cheating with the neighbor.
When my ex-wife grew a goatee, I had a hunch she was up to no good.
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As a marriage therapist of 25yrs…this man gets it
You're beautiful❤
I get what he's saying with the "Tell Tell signs" but just cause YOU THINK IT doesn't mean it's true. It's usually a 50/50. To me this is bad impulsive advice tho, i went thru hell for over 2 yrs living with my ex. I was CONSTANTLY BEING ACCUSED of cheating almost everyday when I WAS NOT and NEVER did when with her. She was young & insecure, it was toxic. Just assuming, attacking & prying thru privacy. Just have a normal sit down talk like adults & COMMUNICATE. I do agree with gathering proof to actually verify, but that's it.
Upload more vids plz
I AM BEAUTIFUL
Yup!
Time to quit being an attorney and start a T.V. career pal, you are gold.
Absolutely
He and the NPD behavioral therapist. Tie them both together..
Seriously. He’s good
literally he’s hilarious. i think he makes more as a lawyer though
So true. Saw him being interviewed first on Soft White Underbelly last year on FB. He is brilliant!
As a lawyer, it doesn't matter what I know. It matters what I can prove. Spoken like a true lawyer.
How do you prove irreconcilable differences?
What is the standard of scrutiny for a no-fault divorce trial?
This man is fascinated by himself.
@@spacemooseableHe's telling the truth and that's always fascinating.
🕵️Actually it matters ; you can't prove what you don't know.
As soon as I know someone has a girlfriend or a wife, I don't see them again. I don't get how people could feel ok with being the person someone cheats with O.o
What's even crazier is when they get with that person. I've had a few friends who have gotten a girl to cheat on her dude with them. Then started dating the girl and somehow be surprised when she cheated on them. I mean come on bro if she would cheat on her dude with you. Then why wouldn't she cheat on you with another dude it's crazy.
Bc the person married tells them they are not loved and want out of their relationship at home .
Most people know they are going to leave their spouse or girlfriend or husband or whatever, they are just looking for another branch to grab onto. It’s called “monkeybranching” and women and men both do it. As my grandma used to say, never throw out dirty water unless you have clean water. You’re not supposed to sell your Honda until you know you have a Porsche waiting for you.
💯 Me too don't "touch" married or boyfriended woman. It's a recipe for trouble.
I don't get it either.
If your spouse grew a goatee, he ain't just cheating, he just started a drug cartel in New Mexico and changed his last name to HEISENBERG!
Bhahaha😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
lets cook jesse !!
It's not a he,it's a she!!
I was thinking Salamanca but yeah, Heisenberg works, too.
You're Goddamn right
I could listen to this guy read the back of a shampoo bottle
Same
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Same! He is such an engaging speaker ❤
Can absolutely see him reading the label too. "When you see the Jojoba and the glycerine, you just know that hair is going to be thick and shiny"
When they cheat, they have ended the relationship but didn't tell you yet . You are in a fake relationship.
At least on their side, that's true only for women and not for men. Men are greedy, women are stingy.
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Great comment.
Yes, women have sex with another man when they lose respect for their current man. It's not good for either party to cheat, but men cheat for different reasons than women. Don't put your female way of thinking onto men.
Men and women cheat with 2 different mindsets about it.
The tattoos alone tells me you’re one gangster divorce lawyer…I bet your clients are getting the gold mine and the other half is getting the shaft 😂
I like getting the shaft... The tip just ain't the same without it. 😂
Meh… maybe on the east coast… Tattoos are so mainstream now, there’s nothing gangster about em! My tattoo’d friends think it’s gangster that I don’t have a single tat! 🤪😎
He needs a podcast
He does. Its called Argue in Peace
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He was amazing here on soft white underbelly ruclips.net/video/o5z8-9Op2nM/видео.html&si=OhumCUakCIT01beE
@@traceyhopkins3698 dang this is actually so low-key thanks
He needs a podcast ASAP
Denial is a very powerful and effective survival strategy.
It's the most common human emotion. It's easy to point out when someone else is deluding themselves, but harder when you are in the middle of it
It is a coping mechanism, not a survival strategy. You can't be strategic if you can't even look at the facts.😂😂😂
@@SKBottom Thus -- explaining the MAGA crowd. You can fool some of the people all of the time....
I agree, but then we can’t forget that there are always those paranoid possessive partners who always think their partner has cheated on them, even though their partner has never left the kitchen. I once had a boyfriend who cancelled delivery of mail to our house so that no other man would ever be near me. Nothing ever went on and I was always loyal, never a cheater. There are those people too.
Narcissistic control freaks - they are out there too thinking you’re doing shit when you can’t even leave the house.
My guy friend has a girlfriend like this. Yet she's very friendly with an ex of hers. 🙄
Yes, so true. Having experienced a diagnosed Narc, it's nuts how they think. They are such control freaks, they imagine anything to be cheating.
@@traceywarner652 or once burnt, always afraid of fire.
It's more likely he was one cheating. Sounds more he was guilty.
I believe that when You’re faithful and your Spouse accuses you of cheating = They Are Cheating and are Afraid you are.
Bingo !
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Bingo!
That’s what people who cheat say to avoid being accused of cheating.
This definitely happened to me
If it wouldn't enter your mind to cheat on your spouse, then it's very difficult to recognize that behavior from someone you love and trust, even when presented with this type of evidence.
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Just like a person wouldn't expect their mother to betray them, they don't expect their closest and must trusted to cheat.
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I was completely dumbfounded when my ex wife cheated because I would of never put myself in that position to cheat on her
@@milkman45828same here
My gut has never led me astray. The few times I've been cheated on, I knew. Don't know how, just knew. Always, always, always listen to your gut - it's trying to tell you something your conscious mind hasn't caught up to yet.
I hate this might be true
I just found this man on the channel Soft White Underbelly. Incredible! I could listen to him all day!!
me too
Me three.
He also has an interesting interview with Matt Walsh
I thought that was the same guy. He looks younger or different in this video.
2 hour interview with this guy on Diary of a CEO channel, very good
Extraordinary
Great interview ❤
Amazing interview.
That interview is why I clicked
It was so full of wisdom
And people ask me why I'm not married lol
I’m not afraid of being cheated on. It’s happened multiple times already. The difference with marriage is that they get to leave with cash and prizes at your expense. Not happening!
@@dialac1yup im not afraid of marriage, im afraid of divorce
@@dialac1 well it's a good thing prenup's exist.
@@Noajoa22It’s a good thing the choice to never get married exists, which is even much better. 😃👌🏻👍🏻
Only u know why, your gut is still rumbling for now..pay attention to the guts
“If you think your spouse is cheating, they probably are.”
She is never just a friend
Amen!
Yeah more or less, straight men very rarely have female friends just for the sake of it.
And he’s never “like a brother”
"unless you have a head injury"😂😂😅😅😅😅
I first saw you on Mark’s channel and you impressed me sooooo much with your understanding of marriage. You were SPOT ON with EVERYTHING you said!! And, I am sure you have seen it all.
A friend mine was going tru a divorce got blindsided,nothing about cheating,money and MIL,living with them.any way he found out his lawyer became a lawyer after his divorce seems like his ex took him to the cleaners. So he became a divorce lawyer, well my friend and his ex were going back n forth. With intimate relations here and there,before the final ax, the lawyer told him "HAVE FUN" I've seen and heard it all
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not trying to be rude, just genuinely... can't understand what you're saying. Would you mind rewriting it? I legit want to understand it, because it sounds like a cool story and some sort of experience one can learn from :) I'd rather learn from other people's mistakes. Thanks in advance :) (didn't mean to be sarcastic, I promise)
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He's a guy who will tell you things you don't want to listen to
Denial is strong because we dont want to be broken
This guy is hilarious. Truth being spoken here but in an honest dramatic manner. 😂
He's telling the truth as soon as I separated from my ex she was already seeing someone within a month, she was all about the money
Women usually monkey branch.
She was seeing him months before she seperated😂
Yes. He’s telling the truth!! 💯 💯
Btw..sorry you went through that. You are better than that. In due time you’ll cheerful you missed a big bullet.
He’s the best divorce attorney I’ve ever seen-in many interviews. He absolutely knows the deal of marriage and relationships! Total respect for him.
A hot Attorney with arm sleeve tatts. My future ex-husband.😂😂😂
He is VERY hot!
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You're hilarious and this comment is so on-brand, considering.
@@saramatthews7159 he is! I first saw him on interviewed on Soft white underbelly! 🔥🔥
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James is The Shit! Keep em coming!!!!
Marry the right person. I can’t stress this enough
… Or don’t marry at all.
the right one might stop loving you as well.
Do you see yourself as a quintessence of perfect traits for marriage and only your partner’s “defects” can ruin it?😂😂😂
this lawyer is one of a kind!!!!
New underwear is the sign lol it happen to me. All of sudden there was a package of new underwear in his drawer.
@@Chad_Max😂😂😂😂yes, I started to buy new sexy underwear because I was working on my self worth and self confidence to leave the relationship. Not because I was cheating but you are right it wasn’t for him either😅
Underwear?he could say the same for you,,unless it's been 20 years since he purchased underwear😅😮!!!!!!!
Haha come on!! No faith??
As a lawyer I concur.
I like this guy 😂
"They've grown a goatee" hahahahaha
Facial hair changes often indicate a person is going through emotional exploration. My X tried to brush me of with "all the girls have got one" but I knew something was up.
Always trust your gut intuition ladies. If you think he may be cheating, HE IS!!!!!
That is a faulty line of reasoning. Facts do not care about what you feel
Same goes to guys
@@Vasilia4It definitionally does but the original statement is still correct and applies to dudes as well.
@@Hakar17 this statement is not correct. Just because you have a feeling about something does not mean your feeling is valid
This is almost exactly how it happened. My step dad started working more, staying out later, and finally after a year of keeping his now gf a secret… he finally came home and out of the blue told my mom he wanted a divorce. That was 4 years ago lol it’s still going on. We all saw it coming but her because she stayed oblivious.
Im so sorry. I didn't know men cheated and initiated divorces 🤦🏽♂️
Then you as an adult child ,should have told her ,him,, what's up ,mom and dad?
Just my 52 year old opinion, but I think people shouldn't be able to marry until 25. Also, young engaged couples should have a "mandatory" weekend or at least a sit-down with a divorce attorney to really see what is at stake.
Like I said, just my opinion.
You should hear his full interview on the soft white underbelly
Yes. 👍👏
It's spectacular
@@EmmaAnimalWelfare everyone planning to get married one day needs to hear it. He's giving us pearls in that interview.
@@squatchpnw2331 couldn't agree more. Everyone should know what their legal rights are before entering a marriage. I'm so glad his interview exists because I can at least plan ahead now 😅
Maybe your future steady boyfriend but this guy has seen too much to get married again
This interview is a gift and a gem!
Yup, your gut feeling, intuition never lies.
Many years with a controlling jealous bf. He oppressed all my joy because it all seemed like evidence to him. I never cheated. He never believed me. He never trusted me. He never got help. I finally gave up and let him go. He has a gf and I’ve been alone for years. If he saw this it would confirm all his erroneous fears.
your perspective and experiences is valid too. we have to be careful and self aware before making assumptions and treating them as the facts
@@trappart9209The lawyer has a skewed sample and experience. He only sees couples at their worst. If he were a therapist he might see people trying to be their best. My ex did some couples therapy w me and he was able to say that he knew I was trustworthy and didn’t cheat, but his brain was still grinding along like an OCD person having to check the stove.
Not everyone is meant to be together til death. That's only 10% of people.
this man is everything …i’m glad i found this guy to listen to
Dude keeping business flowing 😂
Yea marriage isn't the fairy tale ending for 90 percent
Saw for the first time (yesterday), this gentleman. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ his straight shooting honesty. I agree with all he had & has to say. THIS IS REALITY PEOPLE!!!
This is painfully accurate.
"... unless you have a head injury..."
Comedy gold, sir.
James please start a podcast or something. You are the shit.
James' podcast is called Argue in Peace.
Love you James 😂 you're the best!! Most people live their entire life in constant denial 😂
When you’re in trauma you just can’t see it. BUT your friends can. I have been that friend and I’ve had that friend .
Yoga instructor 😂
Never ignore your gut. My 1st is now with the woman who was banging him on and off all thru our 25 yrs of marriage. They deserve one another. My 2nd husband showed me a man who could be faithful. He passed away from cancer. I enjoyed your SWU interview. Great insight! Just FYI, some of us out here ARE capable of devotion and faithfulness to the guy who deserves it.
This is bad advice. I work with couples and there are often situations where one spouse has major insecurity/trust/jealousy issues and constantly thinks their partner is cheating when they're not. That kind of behavior can actually sabotage a good relationship.
The head injury killed me 😂😂😂😂😂
Cheaters and all their apologists wouldn't love this. They hate being caught and being exposed. 😅
His yoga instructor lol
Jason Bateman's older brother is a lawyer?
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hotter* brother. Here, fixed that for you :)
He looks like James McAvoy
As a kid we used to say the phrase "two-timing"😅
My girlfriend accuses me of cheating, but I am not. So is she projecting? Which means she is cheating?
"Unless you have a head injury...!" 😭😭😭
Arguably falling in love does cause a head injury!
"... unless you have a head injury" 😆🤣😂
I adore this lawyer! He totally gets it. No one is better than him!! 😂❤💯👌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
This guy has a whole RUclips interview and he is just fascinating.
Well this solidifies my experience. But he also did have a head injury and his personality changed, had a new job and it was more difficult than his last job. I supported him through it - emotionally, psychologically and all the home duties. Still pisses me off to this day.
LOL….yes! Thank you. Found out my husband has been cheating for years. Yes, I had a feeling. Boom. Oh well! 😶
He’s just not that into you. Lol
I'm friendly and outgoing in a lot of ways. I am sure my wife thinks I cheated. She has.
But here's the thing. I wouldn't cheat, even though I know I could. One...I did cheat once while dating, as the relationship was winding down. I felt so shady and unmanly...like man up, end it then do what you want.
Two...I'm married. Who could I cheat with that I would find attractive realizing they're aware I'm married but would still want me? Really. Do I have any respect for a woman that would do it with a married father?
I am in a unipolar relationship with myself ... going on 34 years now. I suspect that I am cheating on myself, but its just a hunch.
100000000 percent true
Lollll 😂 he is straight to the point
Thank you for the knowledge I acquire arching your video interview about your view on love-marriage ❤
OMG THEY ARE CHEATING! " unless they have a head injury" LOL
❤❤❤love the way you explained
When she went from always wanting to talk to me and always spending time with me. To suddenly barely speaking to me and always "stressed" always getting upset when i would try to communicate with her as i had always did and it was never an issue until suddenly out of the blue.
Nice tats bro.. great advice too.
You’re a great actor! I like your expressions and the way you express yourself! I love your Passion for your work and love of people as well. I love that you care and like the good book says “In all thine getting , get understanding!” You have great understanding!
Cheating is a moral homicide, to me!
B.S. My ex had these hunches that I was cheating and she was completely wrong. It was ridiculous.
Best thing I ever did was get out of my 12 year marriage to someone who was arrogant, dishonest and manipulative. They took their wedding vows and then when things got hard their solution was to go outside the marriage, live a double life and lie to me. I went on to date two more bad ones (who proposed marriage) after my divorce. Just more of the same behaviors and games… only these two had much less going for them than my spouse. Multiple divorces & kids. I stopped looking for a life partner. It’s been a HUGE waste of my life and has always led to disappointment . The dream of getting married, having a family and a devoted spouse is becoming a thing of the past. Like finding a needle in a haystack.
A change in appearance for the better is usually a sign.... For both
Wearing cologne that I bought he has never worn. Shaving his pubic area for a first time...
This
Wow ,that is definitely a tell sign
Man I'm done trying to find my "other half" or that person I'll be with for the rest of my life. I honestly don't think she even exists at this point in time other than in my head. I was in 3 relationships the past 3 years. One I caught cheating, the other two I suspect were also. I was faithful until the end and helped all 3 out of dark and terrible situations only to get kicked to the curb when they got bored or because of a minor disagreement. I'm done putting all my time, energy, and money into girlfriends I know wouldn't be there for me when it matters. I have always wanted to have children and I long to be a father. But it's just not worth it with the girls who've agreed to date me
It's always on the phones....
Not the head injury 😂
If you see your spouse glamming up - getting in shape, new clothes, new look, they might be preparing to cheat. Look at what you are doing to drive them away. Are you having an emotional affair? Did you let your body become a dumpster fire? Did you stop having sex? Are you emotionally walled off? The problem might be you. A lot of people get themselves ready to get the next lover before they have kicked the old one to the curb. Read the signs and make a change if there is something left worth fighting for.
Love to heard your thoughts on marriage- you missed your call on being a marriage counselor .
I am a widow but find you so helpful and truthful for those who may be passing through marital difficulties. You’re funny too and I love your sense of humor.
I agree. If she's hiding her phone and suddenly works late, she's cheating.
I know it’s superficial, but James is fiiine 🔥🔥🔥
Brilliant ✨️
This man is everything 😂
yep i say this a lot. if you think they are, trust your gut. you HAVE social skills, you're very perceptive subconsciously, even if you can't put your finger on it, you often know. when you don't, it sucks. it's better to accuse be wrong and damage control than to not accuse find out and be heartbroken.
I met a woman who was supposed to be in ministry,evangelism,the first time I met her I knew she was after my husband, I proved to be correct,years later,nothing happened, my husband was warned by me. But he had to hear it from someone else telling him,that was her plan,even though she was already married..GO with your guts..
If your partner accuses you of cheating and you aren’t, they are likely projecting.
Not necessarily. I used to accuse my ex husband because my intuition was setting off alarm bells. I had never once cheated but I caught him cheating with a private investigator… and that wasn’t the first time.
This is the second time this has come through my feed and I’m going to say… Amen, again! Lol
James you need a podcast man!
His podcast is called Argue in Peace.
@@detectivekornfed thanks!
I absolutely adore this man's standards and morals regarding marriage and relationships! I also love the way he views looks at life in general! Let's not forget the very wise opinions regarding some of the most pivotal parts throughout ours lives which in turn are the building blocks that we all inevitably mold into ourselves to shape the person we are at this very moment in time! Everyone should take a page or 10 from this mans book on life and the relationships we create cuz if only a few would take heed and listen this world would be just a bit more better for all..... This has been but one man's humble opinion and nothing more 😊
The point is to be the husband who keeps in shape, dresses well and keeps his wife chasing.
🌟 thank you
My ex lost weight, started buying new clothes, started going out all the time and making excuses to leave the house.. YEP she was cheating with the neighbor.