Denver, married almost 14 years and we are in still in the "need space" period. During the space period i backed off and started making the shifts to a new man. Its slow, painful but i am learning everday to keep it positive polite and playful. Weve both acknowledged we have work to do seperately but never defined where we are at after she came in and embraced me saying she didnt want to leave. Love is still there but im not there yet in there yet in getting her intimate. I've notice she hasnt been wearing her ring for the last few days. previously i would have avoided bringing it up to her, but in becoming a new man and getting my masculine self back, i am working on addressing things that may concern me in a polite, calm, and open ended way to build back that emotionally safe environment. Should i address it with her (i know it must be calm, collected and not pressure inducing) or should i not let it bother me?
Exactly!! To give up control of her positions you in the masculine to be in control of your own future. Also don’t be married to outcomes of your “old” needs. It’s just a strong personal preference. Stay in your lane and with enough time you won’t be able to pry that ring off her finger. ! 🙏🏽💪🏽🔥🚀
I need some help my case is kind of complicated. I have PTSD from my time in the sandbox I don't ever talk about it to anyone. Not even my wife. I had a breakdown due to stress and everything getting to me things from my child hood ptsd from that too. I'm back to work doing the best I can. My wife asked for separation. I begged and pleaded out of desperation. I just want to save my marriage. We have 4 kids a house and the whole thing. I miss her terribly and don't know where to start. I am in therapy for my trauma and she has been going with me says she just wants change.
Denver, married almost 14 years and we are in still in the "need space" period. During the space period i backed off and started making the shifts to a new man. Its slow, painful but i am learning everday to keep it positive polite and playful. Weve both acknowledged we have work to do seperately but never defined where we are at after she came in and embraced me saying she didnt want to leave. Love is still there but im not there yet in there yet in getting her intimate. I've notice she hasnt been wearing her ring for the last few days. previously i would have avoided bringing it up to her, but in becoming a new man and getting my masculine self back, i am working on addressing things that may concern me in a polite, calm, and open ended way to build back that emotionally safe environment. Should i address it with her (i know it must be calm, collected and not pressure inducing) or should i not let it bother me?
Give up control to be in control?
Exactly!!
To give up control of her positions you in the masculine to be in control of your own future.
Also don’t be married to outcomes of your “old” needs. It’s just a strong personal preference. Stay in your lane and with enough time you won’t be able to pry that ring off her finger. ! 🙏🏽💪🏽🔥🚀
I need some help my case is kind of complicated. I have PTSD from my time in the sandbox I don't ever talk about it to anyone. Not even my wife. I had a breakdown due to stress and everything getting to me things from my child hood ptsd from that too. I'm back to work doing the best I can. My wife asked for separation. I begged and pleaded out of desperation. I just want to save my marriage. We have 4 kids a house and the whole thing. I miss her terribly and don't know where to start. I am in therapy for my trauma and she has been going with me says she just wants change.