Mate, Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this story. Life can be, quite challenging many times - for anyone, no matter who you are or what you do. Mental health is a huge thing to take care of, and in all of the madness it can be hard to prioritize these days. I empathize with you significantly on all of the RUclips fronts... it's the same over here as well. The story of needing to re-shoot gave me heartburn, I know that exact feeling. I'm glad you're taking a break. To all of you out there - it's important to keep working on you. Just as your steam loco needs a boiler wash, your car needs an oil change, your brain needs maintenance too. And for the men in the room, there's no shame in sharing these feelings and vulnerabilities - I know at least on this side of the pond, culture says you need to be an impenetrable fortress of manliness; but that's really not ideal, nor is it healthy. I go to therapy weekly to work on my mental health - and would advocate it for everyone. Cheers again Lawrie, and remember everyone - there's always someone who will listen, and loves and cares about you.
This. This is an important comment to us all. Lawrie has become a friend of mine lately, and I have been worried about him and his wellbeing. Big love to you all.
Mark, the work that you and Lawrie do on here is so great I'm glad yall are are taking care of yourselves and thank you for being open about it. Its difficult to overcome the cultural pressure to just bottle up all the stress and die of a heart attack at 57. Even if on the surface of culture that seems to be changing some, I feel like so many of us just have that inclination so internalized that we feel like thats still what you"should" do. It seems like this world gets harder to live in every year - pressures on time, work, money, healthcare, housing, social isolation, weather disasters, and more, and feeling comfortable admitting that these things affect a person and feeling normal about trying to get help is something that we all deserve. In the past couple of years both of your channels are something I have turned to for peace and enjoyment in good times and difficult times. There have been many days or weeks where I did didn't have time to take more than an hour or so for myself, and watching some of the things you have made has been the thing I needed to get over the hump. Thank you so much to you both, - Harry
I know your feeling Lawrie. At the moment my job in the Royal navy medical is not at its best. Im a lone medic regenerating a ships medical department all on my own. Normally its a 2-3 person job but we can't get the medics. Like you I feel very lonely in my job and have a fear of failure due to the immense work load. Almost daily i reach a point where I'm ready to burst into tears from the stress and anxiety I feel. Luckily I know the signs and symptoms being a medic so I've got help from the Doctors in base. For those with mental health, please don't suffer alone. your much stronger to admit you need help than to suffer in silence
Much respect to you for sharing Lawrie. I’ve had MH issues too and I’m currently going through a divorce but I spoke out and luckily I do have a good network of friends who will listen. Things can and WILL always get better.
Lawrie, I just wanted to thank you for sharing this with us. Plenty of young men these days, including myself, need to know that they can talk about the thoughts. I hope you have someone you can talk to openly about the stresses you face, and I truly hope that you’re in a far better place. I love your content and appreciate all the work you do!
That was incredibly brave Lawrie. As someonewho has spent thirty years in seaech and rescue picking up the pieces on the dark side of this my only wish is that people talked more. Things are never as dark when someone lights a candle in the room . That candle can be as simple as "are you ok?"
I really don't think it's brave at all - I'm fine and these are things that happened. If they can help someone else and make a difference, then that's what is important. Also, top respect for being search and rescue. You guys are proper hero's.
You know Laurie, only some of your friend's are are worth talking to on this level. When you need help then you find out who is worth your friendship. I Identify with a lot of what you say and am currently not working following redundancy, which is a blessing in disguise as i went through covid etc without any time off for years, taking the job to heart too much. Am taking time for myself, doing up my project and things in the house that went neglected due to my work work work period leaving me no time for myself. Best wishes to you and hopefully you get over this period, stronger than ever 💪 😊
Hi Lawrie. great you shared how you felt. I too had a crisis when i was about your age. I have never looked back since. today i went to see my god mother who is in dementia in a home. It was great to see her and chat over our past. fortunately she remembered many things and me too. Unfortunately she lost her husband a year ago and now talks to him still. It was worth to us both for me to drive 80 miles for an hour with her. Did not know what day it is but was very relevant. Really enjoy what you are doing. At 67 i may not be about much longer so i do what ever im asked with railways and buses in my case and seeing all my remaining relatives all 4 of them. Enjoy your holiday. caroline
No problem lawrie she being looked after well by her family and the care home. She is in her late 80s. I have worked for glos social services in the home care section so am used to caring for people with dementia. Just have to be careful of what you say to her now about her hubby who died last year. caroline@@fanofeverything30465
Excellent video and well put..i suffer with mental health illness quite a bit, so six years ago i sold my house and business and became a full time vanlifer, it's helping me no end. Best thing i ever did. Thanks for uploading this video 🎥🚐🚐🚂🤟👍💯
Lawrie, deep respect for your willingness to open yourself up and support others to do the same. I typed a novel that goes for you both in response to Hyce's comment so I won't repeat it here, suffice it to say thank you for what you do.
Thanks for a good video! I am myself on my way out of a depression, a year with a series of setbacks both employmentwise and relationshipswise. It's weird how I have heard everything you said several times from several people, yet everyone of you just say it in a different way so that it manifests itself better every single time I hear your advices.
Thank you for sharing your story Lawrie. Everyone goes through hard times, and everyone needs others in order to get through their struggles. Mental health is important, and as citizens, we need to do as much as we can to make sure everyone feels safe, cared for, and happy with their lives.
Mental health is very important, but much overlooked. Thank you for being so open with your story. Life can be rough at times and having friends you can talk with is important. I've been at the point of doing too much lately. I'm building a RUclips channel solo and doing the job of a staff of five at my day job. It's a real struggle sometimes.
Good to see people talking, As someone with a yet to be diagnosed mental health condition (as in the DRs etc agree there is one there but what is still to be determined) But even with others speaking up you some how still feel like the only one in the village type. Lets all keep talking and more importantly listening.
Very much not the only one. Everyone goes through these things, some just more than others. It'll get better - I recommend getting involved with a hobby to give a focus and a positive environment!
@@lmm Thank you for the reply, the railway you are a member of is only 20-30 mins up the road from me. I did car modification and karate however recently events have stopped that.
Amazing video, sometimes hearing words from another can really help you realise how you feel. I also struggled a lot with school. Being a weird nerdy metal head, my interest and passion for things made me feel bad about myself as it has never quite aligned with those around me. Finding your channel has sparked such a joy in me, seeing the passion and enthusiasm for what you talk about is contagious. You are appreciated and it is important to take time for yourself, it’s not worth losing that sparkle within yourself.
Hello from Detroit Michigan brother thank you for sharing your knowledge and expertise and what you do . please keep in mind if it's got ti.ts or tires it will cause you trouble but keep in mind that there is always another squeaky wheel just around the bend that will be just as squeaky as the last one 👋👋 God-bless brother
It's very important to discuss, including with just yourself, how you're doing. But equally to act. It's so easy to comment on other people's lives, and then not take our own advice. I'm glad you're holidaying. And I hope you'll do it more.
Greatest respect to you for sharing this. From my own experience and this is an area where there is still some way to go, many, often very well meaning people unfortunately say things that are less than helpful and want to give what they believe to be good advice but is in fact is quite the opposite. A common example being that time heals all wounds or that if a lot of time has passed, since an unpleasant event such as a relationship break up, that it no longer should be an issue. In many cases, this is just not true.
I have those thoughts even to the point where the clarity of how I wanted to end it and being ready was so clear and even reasonable. Thankfully I never have as I now have a 2 year old boy and have everything to live for.
Lawrie you are a gentleman and a scholar...so many people dont realise how mental issues creep up on you unnoticed...I drive a truck for 70 hours a week away from my partner... you need an outlet to recharge... destress...mine is my 1942 David Brown...without an outlet you c an go downill very quickly
Dealing with mental health is a struggle which takes more bravery than most wish to believe. To the point where waking up in the hope that your luck is going to change becomes draining in its own way. You'd think after the deaths of Robin Williams, Chester Bennington and Chris Cornell, people would be a little more understanding of men suffering in silence. But in many cases, people are still judging those who are too quiet, dress too differently, have niche interests, etc. Good on you for speaking up about your woes. The ex-gf and reshoot situations hit home with me, too. I think I currently work anything between 70-90 hours a week on video production for YT at various stages. So I hear you when it comes to burnout. I usually find that it's at its worst when the bills are racking up, so you've got no other choice BUT to keep plodding on and generating as much income as possible; despite knowing that you're burning out. And for everyone reading these comments and suffering your own problems, there's no shame in sharing or seeking help. Look after yourselves, one and all.
Only just seen your video on mental health. Brought to this by watching your Jimmy for sale vid. So just goes to show the audience it can reach even though much later than first shown. Glad your enjoying life now, with a break (4months ago). Enjoy life, you only come this way once. Regards Dave. 😊.
Hi Lawrie. Thanks for this. I'm glad you found your way through your difficult time, and I hope you will always be able to talk to friends whenever the need arises. The black dog sneaks up on us if it sees a chance, so it's important to be aware of how one's health (physical and mental) is travelling. To everyone, take care of yourself, and of your loved ones as well - they may be in need of support but not ready to ask for it, so let them know you're there for them.
Ive been watching the channel more the past few weeks due to my illness which has trigged off my mental health that dark place is a horrible place to be finally starting to come round but like you say talking to friends does help and try to do what you enjoy to take your mind off things. I really do applaud you laurie for making this video as you say its easier just to bottle it up and say nothing. Keep up the good work look forward to the next video.
Sorry to hear that you've not been having a good time. The LMM discord is a good place to chat to people about the stuff that we show on the channel, and my DMs are always open.
@lmm thank you very much for the support it's much appreciated. I did see you at Stafford unfortunately I didn't get chance to introduce myself. 0 gauge modelling is my major interest love building locos. Even tempted to build a model of a certain Ruston 😉
I've dealt with my mental health most of my life and continue to do so now, got diagnosed conditions which are pretty well controlled but I really admire you for this video. I do advocate to anyone suffering issues that talking really does help, it not only allows you to get it off your chest how you're feeling but allows others to give you different view points that in your irration mindset at the time you won't have thought about. Prescribed medications can help but in my experience talking and talking therapies have done so much more. I've been helped and have helped family and friends just be talking, it's amazing how much you can achieve just by opening your mouth but just as important opening your ears. stay healthy everyone.
@@lmm You've made a valid point about hobbies there Lawrie. Only recently I have started a collection of mainly 1/43 diecast models, got 100 or so already, been busy lol but it's really lifted my spirits. It doesn't have to cost a lot either, I think I've spent maybe £600 in a year, toy fairs and ebay which at maybe £50 a month is nothing. I like you am teetotal so its less than most folk spend on beer in a month buying from a supermarket.
@@lmm Me too, I'm a single man who's happy without a woman in my life so I've turned my front room and dining room (it L shaped with an arch between) into a huge man cave. Metal plaques, Castrol etc on the walls, posters, shelves for models and a collection of creepy skulls, it's my paradise lol
Model railways saved me from continuing negative introspection and a downward spiral. An active hobby can help with Positivity (or shagging a Spice Girl). Bravo for your focus on this. Cheers Lawrie, Chris (Valleys 56xx)
Respect to you Lawrie talking about this subject and your experience. Everyone gets depressed at some point and I to have had my fair share of moments. I have actually recently been a little stressed and burnt myself out at work. Luckily my boss realised this and had a little chat with me in private about why I am struggling with my job at the moment and after the chat I felt a lot more positive throughout the day.
You're welcome, but I'm sorry to hear that. The LMM discord is a good place to chat with people about the kind of stuff shown on the channel, and my DMs are always open.
Machines are your best therapy. Spend more time learning how to fix things and know when to cut your losses. Dealing with people is frustrating, and that's why you need to be alone sometimes. Regular self maintenance and periodic mental shop cleaning is the key.
A frank and honest video Lawrie, I’m glad we now live in a world where mental health is accepted by society. I think we all have our own stories and it is something we should talk about. Look after yourself Lawrie and enjoy your break, I think you have a lot of people who genuinely care even though not many of us have met you.
Your content is great Laurie. You have extensive knowledge on those mechanical marvels. Sorry to hear about the dark times you have occasionally. I can totally relate to this. I'm much older than you but my youth was ruined by depression. I'm sort of OK now. I hope you hit the 100k mark very soon.
Thank you so much. My partner of almost 25 years passed away just over a year ago. For that entire time we spent almost all of our time working and living together and for her last few years I was her sole carer. I really wouldn't have made it through without my friends. The thing is it can be very hard to ask for help, you get so down that it's just too much effort. If you know someone in a bad situation then reach out to them, they really do want to hear from you, it's just they don't have the strength left ta ask. We all need help sometimes.
I know your feeling way to well. I've been alone pretty much all my life and I'm now 40. My work I do is with entertainment and I can do alot of travelling. I do find times of the year like Christmas and New years I can get very emotional, especially been alone. Mental health really is laughed at, especially with men. Men are a joke to the world now and we lake any support. I have been called a manist and you know what, yer I am, I'm sick and tired of men been treated like a second class citizen. Keep your head high mate, you have done so well with your channel. You've inspired many other's into a world their parents won't show them.
Thank you - if I can help get people excited by all the stuff on the channel I've done my job! I'm sorry to hear that - remember we do the traditional Christmas eve stream for people who are on their own over the festive period - so come join in!
Hi Lawrie, what can I say but ‘wow’. Why? Because that could have been me making this video - I’ve been there on every level. I’m still working through the RUclips burnout and I know I’ll get there. I’ve also had to take steps to free myself from isolation and re-connect with friends in the real world, because friends ARE so important. All the best to you mate 👍
Thank you for sharing this, and virtual hugs. Im sorry to hear about some of the journey, but im glad that your doing better now and that your managing to reach out and yalk yo people more. And thank you for talking about it and 'normalising' this. I can relate about school and bullying, those experiences can be the worst of things, i know i still bear scars from that happening throught life. From what youve said before, your current schedules and workloads and presures are a vast ammount. I hope you manage to work in some more you time and get enough rest. Keep well and best wishes from me. If you ever need an outsider to talk to, I could be an ear. :) Hum, i might have to look into discord, that sounds like a really good comunity.
Thanks Lawrie, I really appreciate the message. I just discovered your channel about a week ago after moving to a new state. It's become a bit difficult trying to keep in touch with friends at points but this has reminded me how important it is ultimately.
Thank you for trusting us enough to share this info, many people are going through this with you, and even more are willing to lend a year. On a much lighter note, how was driving the Corris falcon?
You're welcome - glad you're enjoying the channel, the LMM discord is a good place to talk about the stuff that we show on the channel and my DMs are always open
That man (or woman) who’s the life and soul of the party you see at work, or friend, or family, can be out of the limelight breaking their heart at home behind closed doors. We all put up a public face to hide the pain of life… mental health can and will affect us all at some point in life so if you feel things are not right, find help and talk with a friend, family member or help through your GP. Don’t feel embarrassed or feel ashamed, there’s nothing to be ashamed off as mental health issues are… health issues.
Things happened in 2014 and I am a much more confident person. But before then. I had zero self confidence. My visits to the coast or seeing a steam engine is where I clear the mind and reset.
Really glad to hear your taking break and taking some time for yourself, bout time too! Can fully understand how what you do can cause stress, burnout, anxiety and much more. Hope you know (my view) your followers are here for you and we can happily wait for content if it means your in a better place yourself! Thank you for this vid to say, hey, take care of yourself! And tip for everyone and yourself, ask twice...how are you and are you ok? Until next time TTFN
Mental health is such a serious thing. I've seen first hand where it can go with someone ending up in hospital. People need to talk more and one way to help that is rather than replying with I'm fine, I'm OK is to asking people to answer in a %. Very rare people will be 100%. If somone says they are 70% it's easier to get them to explain why, what would help them raise it to 80-90%. It gets people talking. Take as much time as you need. As I've said before, end of the day you need to look after number one, everyone needs to put themselves first time to time and look after yourself.
Very brave of you to share this. Glad you seem ok now. I have a friend who had problems a few years ago and was never off the phone. We all talked him round but he's still an oddball (that is what makes him erm, him!) Now I'm not so good, haven't been for some time but I don't hear much from him, despite saying so. I lost another good friend last year quite unexpectedly so it was tough. Can choose your friends.....
Well said. I have suffered for a long time now. One of the best things I ever did was cut back on my hours and get a slightly less stressful job. Keep doing what you do, but in your own time. We will love you content no matter how frequent it is.
@@fanofeverything30465 Thank you. The worst of it was 5 or so years ago now. Had to change my whole life style. Get counselling. Developed coping skills. Am way better now, but ocasionally have the odd wobble.
It's more difficult now to know what your place in society is, what your thing is that makes you what you are. Before you were a postman and that was your identity along with the family you had, your hobbies and you found your confidence in routines and chores. Now a man can be many things and not really know all the time what his thing is. You have many great things to film but you don't have to be everywhere and about. Concentrate on fewer things and have the confidence to know people wants to watch what your doing. You are not the only youtuber, artist struggling. Heard others say the same thing about stress. As far as I know you're the #1 british train youtuber and have a great thing going. I have sort of same problem as you do I have my private small business and it can be rather lonely and easy to lose interest then it's good to step back for a moment and reload.
It's hard running a business by yourself. People often don't understand the work that goes into it. I think I'm the biggest in the UK looking at this kind of content, which is exciting!
Thanks for sharing this its not talked-about enough a have struggled with lonely ness alot in my life and it can be difficult to deal with sailing Is my way of dealing with it work was killing me ave gave that up age 42 a don't care if am poor as long as I have my little yacht and can get out to see when I need to or want to thats all thay matters
This is a very good video. Communication is most definitely key to dealing with mental health issues. Im glad to see that alot more men are opening up and being honest about their struggles. I got relentlessly bullied for years for uhm being gay. I know that its not a popular way to be when you live in the irish countryside and have a love for vintage machinery but that's what and who i am. The point of mentioning that being that whenever i started opening up to my family and friends about the struggles and the issues with my mental health. Safe to say it helps a shit ton to be speak your feelings and your mind. The point of this rambling is to say always talk to your friends and loved one's. As they might just be the people that keep you from attempting something silly. Much love and great video btw.
Sorry to hear that. It's crap people will bully someone for something so trivial as who they fancy. I hope things have improved, the LMM discord is a good place to chat about the stuff we show on the channel and my DMs are always open
Well done lawrie. I am not trying to be sexist but from experience girls can be so harsh. Like you I've been really taken down by actions of a few. Mental abuse it's much more difficult to heal than physical abuse. I completely understand that journey you described...on your own and with those horrid thoughts she left you with on your mind. Terrible . Thanks for opening up in this video.
Thank you. Yeah, some people can be nasty, and don't realise the impact their words and actions can have. My ex wasn't trying to be, but it had quite the effect. Still, onwards and upwards.
My own mental health has not been the best in recent months 3 attempts at suicide ..the last time only being yesterday morning..if not for the police and public talking me of the bridge I'd hate to think what would of happened
I'm sorry to hear that, and really hope you're doing better. My DMs are always open and the LMM discord is a good place to distract yourself talking with other people on the channel who share an intrest in the kind of stuff shown on the channel.
I'm in that same place but i have few friends and i live in a country were i don't speak the language so i struggle from time to time. My wife is great but i don't want to overload her.
That sounds very hard. I'm sorry to hear that. Are any of the online communities any use? Have you tried the LMM discord to chat about the kinda stuff we show on the channel?
We appreciate all your work. That said, your health is preeminent. There would be nothing for us to look forward to if you were to not take care of yourself first.
Well said thank you, show me someone over 50 who hasn’t had a mental problem and I will show you a liar, but people don’t like to admit it, it’s not the manly thing sadly
I'm over 50 and I'd never admit it. Sometimes someone will say how are you and I think, do you really want to know? Everyone has problems that they are dealing with, some tougher than others and finding a genuine person to talk to is difficult particularly here in Ireland where people are nosy and gossip about others.
Things are getting better, there are plenty of good people, those who you want in your life who understand that men often do struggle. It's about finding these good people and cutting out the others. The LMM discord is a good place to talk and my DMs are always open
Not interested in watching personal chats You must have known what was intended with doing a utube site editing , filming And trying to fill I n a full time job ! Otherwise how do you find LMM
Then with the greatest of respect don't watch the personal chat then. No one forces you to do so, and certainly no one asked for you to tell us that it's not for you. Mental health is incredibly important and so is the message the Lawrie is getting across. We need to be more open about these things, it could literally save a life. If you are not interested in this content then fine, but I sure I speak for the majority when I say that we didn't need to know you weren't.
Quite frankly, you have no idea of the work that goes in to running a channel for your free entertainment. I have a wide audience, some of whom may need a little bit of support and to know they're not alone. I'm not asking for help or pity. It's simply a video for others who might need the help. So based on a comment like that, are you OK? Doesn't sound like you are.
I'm in that same place but i have few friends and i live in a country were i don't speak the language so i struggle from time to time. My wife is great but i don't want to overload her.
Mate,
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this story. Life can be, quite challenging many times - for anyone, no matter who you are or what you do. Mental health is a huge thing to take care of, and in all of the madness it can be hard to prioritize these days. I empathize with you significantly on all of the RUclips fronts... it's the same over here as well. The story of needing to re-shoot gave me heartburn, I know that exact feeling. I'm glad you're taking a break.
To all of you out there - it's important to keep working on you. Just as your steam loco needs a boiler wash, your car needs an oil change, your brain needs maintenance too. And for the men in the room, there's no shame in sharing these feelings and vulnerabilities - I know at least on this side of the pond, culture says you need to be an impenetrable fortress of manliness; but that's really not ideal, nor is it healthy. I go to therapy weekly to work on my mental health - and would advocate it for everyone.
Cheers again Lawrie, and remember everyone - there's always someone who will listen, and loves and cares about you.
This. This is an important comment to us all.
Lawrie has become a friend of mine lately, and I have been worried about him and his wellbeing.
Big love to you all.
You're welcome - reshoots are such a pain in the backside!
Mark, the work that you and Lawrie do on here is so great I'm glad yall are are taking care of yourselves and thank you for being open about it. Its difficult to overcome the cultural pressure to just bottle up all the stress and die of a heart attack at 57. Even if on the surface of culture that seems to be changing some, I feel like so many of us just have that inclination so internalized that we feel like thats still what you"should" do. It seems like this world gets harder to live in every year - pressures on time, work, money, healthcare, housing, social isolation, weather disasters, and more, and feeling comfortable admitting that these things affect a person and feeling normal about trying to get help is something that we all deserve.
In the past couple of years both of your channels are something I have turned to for peace and enjoyment in good times and difficult times. There have been many days or weeks where I did didn't have time to take more than an hour or so for myself, and watching some of the things you have made has been the thing I needed to get over the hump. Thank you so much to you both, - Harry
I know your feeling Lawrie. At the moment my job in the Royal navy medical is not at its best. Im a lone medic regenerating a ships medical department all on my own. Normally its a 2-3 person job but we can't get the medics. Like you I feel very lonely in my job and have a fear of failure due to the immense work load. Almost daily i reach a point where I'm ready to burst into tears from the stress and anxiety I feel. Luckily I know the signs and symptoms being a medic so I've got help from the Doctors in base. For those with mental health, please don't suffer alone. your much stronger to admit you need help than to suffer in silence
I'm sorry to hear that - that's a hell of a lot of pressure to be under. I hope you're doing better.
Much respect to you for sharing Lawrie. I’ve had MH issues too and I’m currently going through a divorce but I spoke out and luckily I do have a good network of friends who will listen. Things can and WILL always get better.
Good to see someone being optimistic among everyone going on about how nothing will ever improve
Sorry to hear you're going through a bad time at the moment. I'm glad you've got a good network around you though!
That network is the most valuable thing in the world.
If it helps I appreciate all your hard work your channel brings me a great deal of enjoyment so thank you
Thank you very much!
Lawrie, I just wanted to thank you for sharing this with us. Plenty of young men these days, including myself, need to know that they can talk about the thoughts. I hope you have someone you can talk to openly about the stresses you face, and I truly hope that you’re in a far better place. I love your content and appreciate all the work you do!
You're welcome - I do thank you and I'm in a pretty good place, so don't worry about me!
That was incredibly brave Lawrie. As someonewho has spent thirty years in seaech and rescue picking up the pieces on the dark side of this my only wish is that people talked more. Things are never as dark when someone lights a candle in the room . That candle can be as simple as "are you ok?"
I really don't think it's brave at all - I'm fine and these are things that happened.
If they can help someone else and make a difference, then that's what is important.
Also, top respect for being search and rescue. You guys are proper hero's.
I support this message 100%. Thank you, sir.
You're welcome!
Excellent. A very brave, personal and meaningful video. Thank you.
You're welcome!
Thank you 🙏 for sharing on this subject Lawrie. Great video as always. Keep up the good work but look after yourself and those close to you first.
You're most welcome - I'll try my best!
Lawrie thank you for this video. I suffer from mental health and it is not easy. Trains are a great hobby to help with my Mental health.
Sorry to hear that - getting involved with the railway community can be a great way to help your mental health!
You know Laurie, only some of your friend's are are worth talking to on this level. When you need help then you find out who is worth your friendship. I Identify with a lot of what you say and am currently not working following redundancy, which is a blessing in disguise as i went through covid etc without any time off for years, taking the job to heart too much. Am taking time for myself, doing up my project and things in the house that went neglected due to my work work work period leaving me no time for myself. Best wishes to you and hopefully you get over this period, stronger than ever 💪 😊
Sometimes you really need some time for yourself!
Thanks for posting this and being so open and honest. Really appreciate it and hope it helps others. You are greatly appreciated Lawrie.
Thank you very much!
Hi Lawrie. great you shared how you felt. I too had a crisis when i was about your age. I have never looked back since. today i went to see my god mother who is in dementia in a home. It was great to see her and chat over our past. fortunately she remembered many things and me too. Unfortunately she lost her husband a year ago and now talks to him still. It was worth to us both for me to drive 80 miles for an hour with her. Did not know what day it is but was very relevant.
Really enjoy what you are doing. At 67 i may not be about much longer so i do what ever im asked with railways and buses in my case and seeing all my remaining relatives all 4 of them. Enjoy your holiday.
caroline
I'm so sorry to hear that 😞
No problem lawrie she being looked after well by her family and the care home. She is in her late 80s. I have worked for glos social services in the home care section so am used to caring for people with dementia. Just have to be careful of what you say to her now about her hubby who died last year. caroline@@fanofeverything30465
Sorry to hear that. I know very much the struggles of that having helped look after my Nan who suffered the same. It's hard work.
I had it with my step gran too. Maybe see you at mk show on sunday.@@lmm
Excellent video and well put..i suffer with mental health illness quite a bit, so six years ago i sold my house and business and became a full time vanlifer, it's helping me no end. Best thing i ever did. Thanks for uploading this video 🎥🚐🚐🚂🤟👍💯
Sorry about your mental health illness
@@fanofeverything30465thanks I find it helps massively If you talk to someone about it 🙏🤟💯🚂
I'm pleased to hear that you're doing better now!
Lawrie, deep respect for your willingness to open yourself up and support others to do the same. I typed a novel that goes for you both in response to Hyce's comment so I won't repeat it here, suffice it to say thank you for what you do.
You're most welcome.
I hope that it's helped some people to realise they're not alone when they feel like that, and that things get better
Thank you Lawrie
Hopefully the openness will encourage others to speak out about there own problems
Enjoy the rest and the recharge
I hope so! That's the idea behind it
Thanks for a good video! I am myself on my way out of a depression, a year with a series of setbacks both employmentwise and relationshipswise. It's weird how I have heard everything you said several times from several people, yet everyone of you just say it in a different way so that it manifests itself better every single time I hear your advices.
I'm sorry to hear you've had a difficult time, but really pleased to hear things are improving.
Glad the video helps - my DMs are always open too
Thanks for sharing!
You're welcome!
Thanks, some very good insights.
You're welcome
Thank you for sharing your story Lawrie. Everyone goes through hard times, and everyone needs others in order to get through their struggles. Mental health is important, and as citizens, we need to do as much as we can to make sure everyone feels safe, cared for, and happy with their lives.
You're welcome. It's important to check on others!
Lovely video mate, keep up the great work as they are always a treat to watch!
Thank you very much! I'm glad you're enjoying what we do!
Mental health is very important, but much overlooked. Thank you for being so open with your story. Life can be rough at times and having friends you can talk with is important.
I've been at the point of doing too much lately. I'm building a RUclips channel solo and doing the job of a staff of five at my day job. It's a real struggle sometimes.
It really is hard work. I couldn't run the channel and do another job at the same time
Good to see people talking, As someone with a yet to be diagnosed mental health condition (as in the DRs etc agree there is one there but what is still to be determined)
But even with others speaking up you some how still feel like the only one in the village type.
Lets all keep talking and more importantly listening.
Very much not the only one.
Everyone goes through these things, some just more than others. It'll get better - I recommend getting involved with a hobby to give a focus and a positive environment!
@@lmm Thank you for the reply, the railway you are a member of is only 20-30 mins up the road from me. I did car modification and karate however recently events have stopped that.
Thank you Lawrie for sharing. 👍👍👍
You're most welcome
Amazing video, sometimes hearing words from another can really help you realise how you feel.
I also struggled a lot with school. Being a weird nerdy metal head, my interest and passion for things made me feel bad about myself as it has never quite aligned with those around me.
Finding your channel has sparked such a joy in me, seeing the passion and enthusiasm for what you talk about is contagious.
You are appreciated and it is important to take time for yourself, it’s not worth losing that sparkle within yourself.
Thank you for sharing Lawrie. Stay positive when you can and reach out when you need help guys.
You're welcome!
Hello from Detroit Michigan brother thank you for sharing your knowledge and expertise and what you do . please keep in mind if it's got ti.ts or tires it will cause you trouble but keep in mind that there is always another squeaky wheel just around the bend that will be just as squeaky as the last one 👋👋 God-bless brother
That made me chuckle
It's very important to discuss, including with just yourself, how you're doing. But equally to act. It's so easy to comment on other people's lives, and then not take our own advice. I'm glad you're holidaying. And I hope you'll do it more.
This will do for another two years 😂
Greatest respect to you for sharing this. From my own experience and this is an area where there is still some way to go, many, often very well meaning people unfortunately say things that are less than helpful and want to give what they believe to be good advice but is in fact is quite the opposite. A common example being that time heals all wounds or that if a lot of time has passed, since an unpleasant event such as a relationship break up, that it no longer should be an issue. In many cases, this is just not true.
Thank you - distractions do great work!
I have those thoughts even to the point where the clarity of how I wanted to end it and being ready was so clear and even reasonable. Thankfully I never have as I now have a 2 year old boy and have everything to live for.
I'm sorry to hear you've had a bad time - but I'm pleased to hear that things have improved!
Lawrie you are a gentleman and a scholar...so many people dont realise how mental issues creep up on you unnoticed...I drive a truck for 70 hours a week away from my partner... you need an outlet to recharge... destress...mine is my 1942 David Brown...without an outlet you c an go downill very quickly
Thank you - having done hgv driving I can relate. The roads can be very lonely.
That's a nice project to have!
Dealing with mental health is a struggle which takes more bravery than most wish to believe. To the point where waking up in the hope that your luck is going to change becomes draining in its own way.
You'd think after the deaths of Robin Williams, Chester Bennington and Chris Cornell, people would be a little more understanding of men suffering in silence. But in many cases, people are still judging those who are too quiet, dress too differently, have niche interests, etc.
Good on you for speaking up about your woes. The ex-gf and reshoot situations hit home with me, too.
I think I currently work anything between 70-90 hours a week on video production for YT at various stages. So I hear you when it comes to burnout. I usually find that it's at its worst when the bills are racking up, so you've got no other choice BUT to keep plodding on and generating as much income as possible; despite knowing that you're burning out.
And for everyone reading these comments and suffering your own problems, there's no shame in sharing or seeking help.
Look after yourselves, one and all.
It's hard isn't it.
No option though but up!
Only just seen your video on mental health.
Brought to this by watching your Jimmy for sale vid.
So just goes to show the audience it can reach even though much later than first shown.
Glad your enjoying life now, with a break (4months ago).
Enjoy life, you only come this way once.
Regards Dave. 😊.
Having a load of fun! Just need to work on that having a break!
Hi Lawrie. Thanks for this. I'm glad you found your way through your difficult time, and I hope you will always be able to talk to friends whenever the need arises. The black dog sneaks up on us if it sees a chance, so it's important to be aware of how one's health (physical and mental) is travelling. To everyone, take care of yourself, and of your loved ones as well - they may be in need of support but not ready to ask for it, so let them know you're there for them.
You're welcome - yes so important to check up on our friends
Ive been watching the channel more the past few weeks due to my illness which has trigged off my mental health that dark place is a horrible place to be finally starting to come round but like you say talking to friends does help and try to do what you enjoy to take your mind off things. I really do applaud you laurie for making this video as you say its easier just to bottle it up and say nothing. Keep up the good work look forward to the next video.
Sorry to hear that you've not been having a good time.
The LMM discord is a good place to chat to people about the stuff that we show on the channel, and my DMs are always open.
@lmm thank you very much for the support it's much appreciated. I did see you at Stafford unfortunately I didn't get chance to introduce myself. 0 gauge modelling is my major interest love building locos. Even tempted to build a model of a certain Ruston 😉
You're most welcome - sorry you didn't get a chance to say hi at Statfold. See you at the model show?
I'm not sure which show I'll be attending next but I'll keep my eyes open and introduce myself next time for sure.
I've dealt with my mental health most of my life and continue to do so now, got diagnosed conditions which are pretty well controlled but I really admire you for this video. I do advocate to anyone suffering issues that talking really does help, it not only allows you to get it off your chest how you're feeling but allows others to give you different view points that in your irration mindset at the time you won't have thought about. Prescribed medications can help but in my experience talking and talking therapies have done so much more. I've been helped and have helped family and friends just be talking, it's amazing how much you can achieve just by opening your mouth but just as important opening your ears. stay healthy everyone.
It's important to talk, hobbies and getting involved in a positive community can really make a difference too!
@@lmm You've made a valid point about hobbies there Lawrie. Only recently I have started a collection of mainly 1/43 diecast models, got 100 or so already, been busy lol but it's really lifted my spirits. It doesn't have to cost a lot either, I think I've spent maybe £600 in a year, toy fairs and ebay which at maybe £50 a month is nothing. I like you am teetotal so its less than most folk spend on beer in a month buying from a supermarket.
@@graemew7001 oh that's cool.
I like having things like that - just looking at them knowing they're there makes me feel happy!
@@lmm Me too, I'm a single man who's happy without a woman in my life so I've turned my front room and dining room (it L shaped with an arch between) into a huge man cave. Metal plaques, Castrol etc on the walls, posters, shelves for models and a collection of creepy skulls, it's my paradise lol
@@graemew7001 that sounds great!
Model railways saved me from continuing negative introspection and a downward spiral.
An active hobby can help with Positivity (or shagging a Spice Girl).
Bravo for your focus on this.
Cheers Lawrie, Chris (Valleys 56xx)
Sorry to hear about your downward spiral
Having a hobby can really help, glad to hear you've improved!
the best thing to do is talk about it ! it helps a lot !!
Yes indeed!
Just wanted to say thank you for making this video Lawrie
You're welcome
Respect to you Lawrie talking about this subject and your experience.
Everyone gets depressed at some point and I to have had my fair share of moments. I have actually recently been a little stressed and burnt myself out at work. Luckily my boss realised this and had a little chat with me in private about why I am struggling with my job at the moment and after the chat I felt a lot more positive throughout the day.
I'm sorry 😞
That's really good to hear you've got a good boss!
Lawrie, thank you I really needed this video
You're welcome, but I'm sorry to hear that.
The LMM discord is a good place to chat with people about the kind of stuff shown on the channel, and my DMs are always open.
Machines are your best therapy. Spend more time learning how to fix things and know when to cut your losses. Dealing with people is frustrating, and that's why you need to be alone sometimes. Regular self maintenance and periodic mental shop cleaning is the key.
A bigger hammer and more tape then?
A frank and honest video Lawrie, I’m glad we now live in a world where mental health is accepted by society. I think we all have our own stories and it is something we should talk about.
Look after yourself Lawrie and enjoy your break, I think you have a lot of people who genuinely care even though not many of us have met you.
Thank you. I'm enjoying myself!
Your content is great Laurie. You have extensive knowledge on those mechanical marvels. Sorry to hear about the dark times you have occasionally. I can totally relate to this. I'm much older than you but my youth was ruined by depression. I'm sort of OK now. I hope you hit the 100k mark very soon.
Keep up the good work, when you get older you realise that you can be yourself and don't give a hoot what other people think.
It's the best way to be!
@@lmm Indeed, just started in 7.25 inch gauge, still driving trams, into rally cars, dj ING and retro car audio... What's not to like in life.
That sound great!
I suffered from depression and got help. Keep your head straight, come back when you're ready
I'm sorry 😞
Glad you got help, and hopefully feeling better.
Regular content will continue, don't worry!
Thank you so much. My partner of almost 25 years passed away just over a year ago. For that entire time we spent almost all of our time working and living together and for her last few years I was her sole carer. I really wouldn't have made it through without my friends. The thing is it can be very hard to ask for help, you get so down that it's just too much effort. If you know someone in a bad situation then reach out to them, they really do want to hear from you, it's just they don't have the strength left ta ask. We all need help sometimes.
Being a carer is really hard work. I don't think people appreciate just how hard it can be.
I know your feeling way to well. I've been alone pretty much all my life and I'm now 40. My work I do is with entertainment and I can do alot of travelling. I do find times of the year like Christmas and New years I can get very emotional, especially been alone. Mental health really is laughed at, especially with men. Men are a joke to the world now and we lake any support. I have been called a manist and you know what, yer I am, I'm sick and tired of men been treated like a second class citizen. Keep your head high mate, you have done so well with your channel. You've inspired many other's into a world their parents won't show them.
Thank you - if I can help get people excited by all the stuff on the channel I've done my job!
I'm sorry to hear that - remember we do the traditional Christmas eve stream for people who are on their own over the festive period - so come join in!
Hi Lawrie, what can I say but ‘wow’. Why? Because that could have been me making this video - I’ve been there on every level. I’m still working through the RUclips burnout and I know I’ll get there. I’ve also had to take steps to free myself from isolation and re-connect with friends in the real world, because friends ARE so important. All the best to you mate 👍
Thank you.
RUclips is an unforgiving mistress.
It's very hard going sometimes, but the community around LMM is awesome.
Thank you for sharing this, and virtual hugs. Im sorry to hear about some of the journey, but im glad that your doing better now and that your managing to reach out and yalk yo people more.
And thank you for talking about it and 'normalising' this.
I can relate about school and bullying, those experiences can be the worst of things, i know i still bear scars from that happening throught life.
From what youve said before, your current schedules and workloads and presures are a vast ammount. I hope you manage to work in some more you time and get enough rest. Keep well and best wishes from me. If you ever need an outsider to talk to, I could be an ear. :)
Hum, i might have to look into discord, that sounds like a really good comunity.
Thanks Lawrie, I really appreciate the message. I just discovered your channel about a week ago after moving to a new state. It's become a bit difficult trying to keep in touch with friends at points but this has reminded me how important it is ultimately.
I can understand that. I hope the move went well and you make new friends to compliment the old ones
Really appreciate you doing this video. I've had somewhat similar issues
Sorry to hear that
Thank you for trusting us enough to share this info, many people are going through this with you, and even more are willing to lend a year. On a much lighter note, how was driving the Corris falcon?
Brilliant! Video coming soon!
@@lmm great to hear
Wow, just wow. Thank you so much for your open honesty and making me feel normal 🙏. Love your channel and all you do
You're welcome - glad you're enjoying the channel, the LMM discord is a good place to talk about the stuff that we show on the channel and my DMs are always open
That man (or woman) who’s the life and soul of the party you see at work, or friend, or family, can be out of the limelight breaking their heart at home behind closed doors.
We all put up a public face to hide the pain of life… mental health can and will affect us all at some point in life so if you feel things are not right, find help and talk with a friend, family member or help through your GP.
Don’t feel embarrassed or feel ashamed, there’s nothing to be ashamed off as mental health issues are… health issues.
Well done.
Thank you
Happy Late World Mental Health Day and I'm so sorry for your loss 😢
Thank you
@@lmm No problem 😊
Things happened in 2014 and I am a much more confident person. But before then. I had zero self confidence. My visits to the coast or seeing a steam engine is where I clear the mind and reset.
I'm sorry 😞
I had zero self confidence as a child, much better now.
Steam is good for the soul!
Really glad to hear your taking break and taking some time for yourself, bout time too!
Can fully understand how what you do can cause stress, burnout, anxiety and much more. Hope you know (my view) your followers are here for you and we can happily wait for content if it means your in a better place yourself!
Thank you for this vid to say, hey, take care of yourself!
And tip for everyone and yourself, ask twice...how are you and are you ok?
Until next time TTFN
Regular content will always continue - don't worry about that :p
Such a brave video. Many thanks for sharing .
You're most welcome
Mental health is such a serious thing. I've seen first hand where it can go with someone ending up in hospital. People need to talk more and one way to help that is rather than replying with I'm fine, I'm OK is to asking people to answer in a %. Very rare people will be 100%. If somone says they are 70% it's easier to get them to explain why, what would help them raise it to 80-90%. It gets people talking. Take as much time as you need. As I've said before, end of the day you need to look after number one, everyone needs to put themselves first time to time and look after yourself.
So sorry to hear you saw that
Very true
Very brave of you to share this. Glad you seem ok now. I have a friend who had problems a few years ago and was never off the phone. We all talked him round but he's still an oddball (that is what makes him erm, him!)
Now I'm not so good, haven't been for some time but I don't hear much from him, despite saying so. I lost another good friend last year quite unexpectedly so it was tough.
Can choose your friends.....
I'm so sorry 😞
I'm sorry to hear that
Excellent video lawerie ,everyone needs someone to talk to and there is what friends are there for 🤠🤘
Excatly!
Well said. I have suffered for a long time now. One of the best things I ever did was cut back on my hours and get a slightly less stressful job. Keep doing what you do, but in your own time. We will love you content no matter how frequent it is.
So sorry about your suffering
That sounds a very good idea.
I'd like to cut back on hours too, but I can't afford to take the financial cut from less videos
@@lmm A difficult situation most of us find ourselfs in ever increasingly, unfortunatly. Look after yourself. I hope you are enjoying you holiday.
@@fanofeverything30465 Thank you. The worst of it was 5 or so years ago now. Had to change my whole life style. Get counselling. Developed coping skills. Am way better now, but ocasionally have the odd wobble.
You’re a good man ❤️
I try!
It's more difficult now to know what your place in society is, what your thing is that makes you what you are. Before you were a postman and that was your identity along with the family you had, your hobbies and you found your confidence in routines and chores. Now a man can be many things and not really know all the time what his thing is.
You have many great things to film but you don't have to be everywhere and about. Concentrate on fewer things and have the confidence to know people wants to watch what your doing. You are not the only youtuber, artist struggling. Heard others say the same thing about stress.
As far as I know you're the #1 british train youtuber and have a great thing going.
I have sort of same problem as you do I have my private small business and it can be rather lonely and easy to lose interest then it's good to step back for a moment and reload.
It's hard running a business by yourself.
People often don't understand the work that goes into it.
I think I'm the biggest in the UK looking at this kind of content, which is exciting!
This is really a fantastic video, definitely a subject that’s not easy to chat about either
Thanks buddy
I didn't know there was a mental health day.
There is! Hence the video
Thanks for sharing this its not talked-about enough a have struggled with lonely ness alot in my life and it can be difficult to deal with sailing Is my way of dealing with it work was killing me ave gave that up age 42 a don't care if am poor as long as I have my little yacht and can get out to see when I need to or want to thats all thay matters
You're welcome.
It's so important to do the things that make you happy. Enjoy being on the water!
Completely agree. 💯
👍
This is a very good video.
Communication is most definitely key to dealing with mental health issues.
Im glad to see that alot more men are opening up and being honest about their struggles.
I got relentlessly bullied for years for uhm being gay. I know that its not a popular way to be when you live in the irish countryside and have a love for vintage machinery but that's what and who i am.
The point of mentioning that being that whenever i started opening up to my family and friends about the struggles and the issues with my mental health.
Safe to say it helps a shit ton to be speak your feelings and your mind.
The point of this rambling is to say always talk to your friends and loved one's.
As they might just be the people that keep you from attempting something silly.
Much love and great video btw.
I'm sorry 😞
@fanofeverything30465 sure don't be sorry, all that can be done is to look back and hope for the future.
@@IdiotBumpkin Indeed
Sorry to hear that. It's crap people will bully someone for something so trivial as who they fancy.
I hope things have improved, the LMM discord is a good place to chat about the stuff we show on the channel and my DMs are always open
Here for you. Dubscottie
Well done lawrie. I am not trying to be sexist but from experience girls can be so harsh. Like you I've been really taken down by actions of a few. Mental abuse it's much more difficult to heal than physical abuse. I completely understand that journey you described...on your own and with those horrid thoughts she left you with on your mind. Terrible .
Thanks for opening up in this video.
I'm really sorry 😞
Thank you.
Yeah, some people can be nasty, and don't realise the impact their words and actions can have. My ex wasn't trying to be, but it had quite the effect.
Still, onwards and upwards.
@lmm just a reminder at this point, of free digs for you plus one near swanage railway always on offer matey, just ask.
I'm hoping to get down before too long, so would be great!
My own mental health has not been the best in recent months 3 attempts at suicide ..the last time only being yesterday morning..if not for the police and public talking me of the bridge I'd hate to think what would of happened
Sorry to hear that
I'm sorry to hear that, and really hope you're doing better.
My DMs are always open and the LMM discord is a good place to distract yourself talking with other people on the channel who share an intrest in the kind of stuff shown on the channel.
I'm in that same place but i have few friends and i live in a country were i don't speak the language so i struggle from time to time.
My wife is great but i don't want to overload her.
That sounds very hard. I'm sorry to hear that.
Are any of the online communities any use? Have you tried the LMM discord to chat about the kinda stuff we show on the channel?
@@lmm thanks for replying.
We appreciate all your work. That said, your health is preeminent. There would be nothing for us to look forward to if you were to not take care of yourself first.
True, but regular content will continue!
@@lmm Even Better!!!
Hello
Hey there
100% .Take time off.
I only clicked on this video bcse of the thumbnail
Hope it helped
Biological mechanics!
Well said thank you, show me someone over 50 who hasn’t had a mental problem and I will show you a liar, but people don’t like to admit it, it’s not the manly thing sadly
I'm over 50 and I'd never admit it. Sometimes someone will say how are you and I think, do you really want to know?
Everyone has problems that they are dealing with, some tougher than others and finding a genuine person to talk to is difficult particularly here in Ireland where people are nosy and gossip about others.
@@terryatkinson899I think there's a lot more good people in your country wants you to think
Things are getting better, there are plenty of good people, those who you want in your life who understand that men often do struggle.
It's about finding these good people and cutting out the others.
The LMM discord is a good place to talk and my DMs are always open
Not interested in watching personal chats
You must have known what was intended with doing a utube site editing , filming
And trying to fill I n a full time job !
Otherwise how do you find LMM
Then with the greatest of respect don't watch the personal chat then. No one forces you to do so, and certainly no one asked for you to tell us that it's not for you.
Mental health is incredibly important and so is the message the Lawrie is getting across. We need to be more open about these things, it could literally save a life. If you are not interested in this content then fine, but I sure I speak for the majority when I say that we didn't need to know you weren't.
Quite frankly, you have no idea of the work that goes in to running a channel for your free entertainment.
I have a wide audience, some of whom may need a little bit of support and to know they're not alone.
I'm not asking for help or pity.
It's simply a video for others who might need the help.
So based on a comment like that, are you OK?
Doesn't sound like you are.
I'm in that same place but i have few friends and i live in a country were i don't speak the language so i struggle from time to time.
My wife is great but i don't want to overload her.