The happiest time is most definitely not where you’re engaged!!! I’ve been married over a decade now, and there have been so many different seasons of our relationship and marriage, the being engaged period was just a blip on the radar. Things only got better as the relationship progressed over time in so many different ways.
I came to watch this after her divorce announcement and now I see why it went wrong. The happiest time has been now 15 years later! Our engagement was just the beginning. I hope she finds this kind of love.
Susan, I think you are wrong about one thing. I disagree that the happiest time you ever have is when you are engaged. I am 43, have two kids out of the house, & one more in high school. We can finally take a breath. Right now, is the happiest time yet for us! 😊
Good point, they just have not gotten to that point. The kids are still so little. Mine are 3 and 7 and it's even good now because I don't need to be around them all the time. That's a nice breath of fresh air.
This is great! More Arun! Love his dry sense of humor, esp the look he gave after the, “…he really cares about his appearance.” statement. You two have an awesome dynamic!! Xoxo
Even if he didn't want to do it, he could have perked up. He could have tried. Now i see why susan's eyes lit up every time she talked about finally getting a divorce. I get the sense that he wasn't willing to try to put on a face for things that would make her happy. I'm happy for Susan.
Together (almost) 7 years, married (almost) 2 : We never go to bed angry at each other. We'll talk until we reach some kind of understanding, hug it out and then go to bed.
I think having something for him to do, focusing on answering questions honestly and thoughtfully, made Arun seem more relaxed on camera, at least to me. As opposed to just giving him the floor to just talk about himself and him (much like I would) not knowing where to start or how to really interact with the camera. I really enjoyed the video and **completely** agree with the overall sentiment that focusing on being the best you really is what matters, bc then you can go into relationships knowing your worth and who you are and what you need/want from a romantic relationship.
As soon as a I realized I don't have to have kids & I really don't want them Life got better for me bc I can really take my time I don't have to worry about my "clock" running out
Ok... I laughed SO hard during this video, ESPECIALLY during the outro with Arun's extra-awkward fist 👊 pump. @Susan, how much convincing does it take to get the hubs to agree to do these with you?! 🤣
I’ve dated my husband for 11 years and married for 2 years, lol, no more newly engaged couple or those romantic moments lol, we know we give each other lots of space and this keep our marriage very healthy! Space is we need!
Love your answer about how to share money! That's exactly what my husband and I do and I feel like everyone treats us like we're weird, but it works so well for us!
Such a great video Susan! Really enjoyed watching this and Arun does have very nice skin. Just getting my husband to wear sunscreen daily has been rough!
You guys are awesome cause we can see how much love there is but how you’re also being honest about things- cause relationships take work and aren’t always picture perfect- far from it, really. Such a great looking mixed family as well! Wooo!! Cheers to love and family!
I have been with my partner since I were 19 and he 23. We lived with with each other almost immediately. He asked for my hand LONG AGO. We’ve been engaged more or less 10 years 😂 lots of reasons why the marriage has been delayed, it’s not that important anyway. But we welcomed our first child a few months ago at 32 and 36 respectively. The early days of our relationship were fun, we had a lot of adventure and everything was new… but THIS is hands down the happiest time of our relationship. Even though new parenthood is hard, we are happy, and closer than ever to our families. We love our son. We had a really long time ‘free’ and unattached and go places, party ect. and we did. The baby is new but I really don’t miss it so much, yet. At the moment I am more excited about doing things with our kid. Maybe naïveté! We will see!
I enjoyed that. Your husband seems so laid back & quiet. 😄 My husband & I have been married for 38-years & he still won’t do any facial routine at all.
Totally agreed with your husband about cleaning dishes I’m the one who does it and it’s really frustrating that you think you’re done and like ten minutes later there’s more sitting in the sink and no one cleans them.🤔🤔🤔🤔
Loved the video and I think it was great advise!! The only thing I don’t really agree with was that you need to feel butterflies. I dated my now husband after being friends for a while and didn’t have butterflies, it just felt right. At the time he was a fling to me and slowly turned into the one. My husband and I have been together 8 years, married 5 with a little one and we are both so happy.
You can tell on this video, he was completely checked out, she is forcing the answers, and he is so cool and collected, just going along for the sake of the video and her social media platform. I can see why they are divorced now.
It’s important to have fun while dating for sure, but I think it’s also important to date with intention, if you’re looking for something committed and serious. It’s different now in the dating culture with all the online stuff and social media. I just turned 34 and newly single and my therapist told me to date with my own goals in mind, but obviously everything takes time, so it’s a balancing act. And yeah guys can wait til they’re in their 40s to have kids, women not so much. So it just depends on what you want for you own life I guess even tho we don’t always get what we want lol. But we try, try again! Good luck beautiful ppl 💞
I love his expression at the start 🤭 , hey susan please do the skincare video for breastfeeding moms to get rid of patches malasma and acne scars which developed during pregnancy
I've only been married for a little over 2 years. I'm so glad you guys mentioned the separate accounts. I have it that way too. But one of my older bosses thinks that "you're not all in" otherwise. I'm like nope sorry disagree lol. I feel better knowing you guys didn't go right into kids. I get so sick of people telling me I should have them and I don't want them. Im 30 and people think you're ancient if you don't pop kids out right after you marry. People think life will be boring without kids and I highly disagree lol. Congrats on your 10 years. He did so great 🤗. My husband responds with grunts and mhm all the time so he cracked me up.
I took a sip of coffee for every “mhm” that Arun made hahaha Love how engaging and more he relaxed he was this time around, also I think both of you gave and pointed out some really good advices and personal experiences! You guys should do this more often hehehe ♥️
I love this. thank you both for being open and honest! especially the finances part (i agree with you two wholeheartedly) and my husband can watch espn 24/7 too. it annoyed me the first few years, but a decade later, I''ve learned to just embrace it. he will go watch his sports, ill go take a hot bath by myself or read a book (me time!).
At 52, I quit dating. I’m not looking to have kids. Already had them and they’re grown. Dating at my age is an exercise in futility. Seems like you relax after being married because both people feel like each other has one foot out the door before the wedding.
Hes completely tuned out and emotionally not present. I'm so sorry but I don't see this couple working out long term 😔😭😥...but Susan is so beautiful and kind hearted and talkative. And Arun is laid back and cool level headed but there's an emotional disconnect between you both. Why not let Arun talk more and follow his lead ? I love you Susan. Please follow Adrienne everheart ...your marriage will blossom and just be beautiful 💕💕💕 Love you.
it’s so hard to not be goal oriented with dating in the early 20s because the biological clock is ticking!! men don’t have to deal with that for the most part! I would like to have kids before my parents get too old and can’t spend many years with them, which probably might be a problem that’ll happen w future generations since many couples are having their kids later in life. and then my parents expect me to go to med school, do a residency for little money, and somehow make it out alive and have time for dating, marriage, kids?? Being a woman is so much pressure sometimes
@lisa no need to worry with biological clock! We all have different paths and different timings and every baby arrive when it is supposed to. I seen woman spend decades fit into biological clock from 19-33 and couldn’t get pregnant and when they completely forgot or married new person, baby arrived in 2 minutes and in some cases 2 in a row or 4 naturally, after 40! Enjoy your study and build your carrer ✨marriage and kids will come when they are suppose to 😍🙏🏼🌈✨
@@xxdeanochkaxx I have health conditions that affect my biological clock unfortunately, i know modern medicine can do a lot and adoption is an option but expectations are there. i just wish it was easier to throw away the pressure if you're raised in a traditional household :( i'm especially worried about my kids not having enough time to know their grandparents if i'm having them at 40! i'm in my 20s, i'm the last kid, and my parents are 65 and 70.
@@unbiasly what is important to you first? Marriage and children? Then date with intention and date people who are like minded. A lot of women waste precious time and have regrets becuase they heard people say "it will come when it come". While some women have difficulty having children, and yes dating is hard and yes you do want to be a doctor. Keep the door open always and out yourself out there. Also, be ok with rejections. Every guy to date will not be the one, but there will be that one eventually. Eventually, won't come if you hiding. You can be married and still in be medicine school. Challenging yes, but doable.
Guys know whether you will be their wife within the first several times of meeting you. Absolutely all men know by the 6th month of dating you whether they want to marry you. For most though it's by the first month of getting to know you. Which is why the woman is inclined to think about this part so much. A man should progress things steadily. Women often get anxious when they don't sense that progression happening.
Susan…you are fantastic and your hubby is super cute 💜 please listen to your video and count how many times you have said ‘like’ when it wasn’t necessary…
Hi Susan, were you ever intimidated by him? Sometimes when I date professionals who have a good poker face (kind of like your husband), I get intimidated!
Recommending this after Susan just posted a video saying they are getting divorced...THE SHADE, RUclips...the shade
Lmaooo he looks so uncomfortable and Susan is like in her element 😂😂😂
The happiest time is most definitely not where you’re engaged!!! I’ve been married over a decade now, and there have been so many different seasons of our relationship and marriage, the being engaged period was just a blip on the radar. Things only got better as the relationship progressed over time in so many different ways.
I came to watch this after her divorce announcement and now I see why it went wrong. The happiest time has been now 15 years later! Our engagement was just the beginning. I hope she finds this kind of love.
Seeing this today after her divorce announcement 😢
I just commented this same sentiment
Susan, I think you are wrong about one thing. I disagree that the happiest time you ever have is when you are engaged. I am 43, have two kids out of the house, & one more in high school. We can finally take a breath. Right now, is the happiest time yet for us! 😊
I agree. My youngest is 20 and now my husband and I go out and don’t rush back home ❣️
Good point, they just have not gotten to that point. The kids are still so little. Mine are 3 and 7 and it's even good now because I don't need to be around them all the time. That's a nice breath of fresh air.
@Justprettymakeup Yeah, but she’s not there yet. She’s talking from her perspective.
@@mominetti exactly
yeaaah Susan is taking it from her perspective
I like what Susan said about your “fun secrets” you don’t need to tell your partner everything.
The mhm meter is truly hilarious. But hey, silver lining, I’m happy your partner can agree with you so much.
Susan, love you, but you must rewatch to see your husbands reactions to your answers 🤣 he disagreed a lot but kept it low . True husband 😁😎
My husband and I are 9 months into married life and this was so helpful (and made us giggle too). 💗
your husband is so chill and cool!
This is great! More Arun! Love his dry sense of humor, esp the look he gave after the, “…he really cares about his appearance.” statement. You two have an awesome dynamic!! Xoxo
Even if he didn't want to do it, he could have perked up. He could have tried.
Now i see why susan's eyes lit up every time she talked about finally getting a divorce. I get the sense that he wasn't willing to try to put on a face for things that would make her happy.
I'm happy for Susan.
Omg I asked the “thirty and single” question in the thumbnail!!! 💕💕💕 yayy thank you for this Susan
Wow you can see his unhappiness!!
Red flags already there. My ex also wanted lots of space. Turned out he had lots of female friends I didnt know about
This is a good one! Aww, your hubby is uncomfortably funny! How cute! 😆
Together (almost) 7 years, married (almost) 2 : We never go to bed angry at each other. We'll talk until we reach some kind of understanding, hug it out and then go to bed.
I think having something for him to do, focusing on answering questions honestly and thoughtfully, made Arun seem more relaxed on camera, at least to me. As opposed to just giving him the floor to just talk about himself and him (much like I would) not knowing where to start or how to really interact with the camera.
I really enjoyed the video and **completely** agree with the overall sentiment that focusing on being the best you really is what matters, bc then you can go into relationships knowing your worth and who you are and what you need/want from a romantic relationship.
As soon as a I realized I don't have to have kids & I really don't want them
Life got better for me bc I can really take my time I don't have to worry about my "clock" running out
Yay!! Another Arun video!!! He'll be a total youtuber at the end of the year hahaha
Your husband is literally the cutest. I’d like to see more videos with him! ❤️
Ok... I laughed SO hard during this video, ESPECIALLY during the outro with Arun's extra-awkward fist 👊 pump. @Susan, how much convincing does it take to get the hubs to agree to do these with you?! 🤣
I’ve dated my husband for 11 years and married for 2 years, lol, no more newly engaged couple or those romantic moments lol, we know we give each other lots of space and this keep our marriage very healthy! Space is we need!
Arun better drop that skin care routine cuz that skin is poppin’!!
Can you please do a video about having mixed race children and teaching your children both cultures and what your husband teaches both your children?
Love your answer about how to share money! That's exactly what my husband and I do and I feel like everyone treats us like we're weird, but it works so well for us!
Such a great video Susan! Really enjoyed watching this and Arun does have very nice skin. Just getting my husband to wear sunscreen daily has been rough!
😂😂😂 I can totally relate!!! And washing off the sunscreen at the end of the end is another struggle...
You guys are awesome cause we can see how much love there is but how you’re also being honest about things- cause relationships take work and aren’t always picture perfect- far from it, really. Such a great looking mixed family as well! Wooo!! Cheers to love and family!
Y’all keep it 💯 from dating to having kids, love that!
Great video! Love when Arun makes an appearance. xx
When Arun says “You lost me at the end there” 😂 😂 😂
I have been with my partner since I were 19 and he 23. We lived with with each other almost immediately. He asked for my hand LONG AGO. We’ve been engaged more or less 10 years 😂 lots of reasons why the marriage has been delayed, it’s not that important anyway. But we welcomed our first child a few months ago at 32 and 36 respectively. The early days of our relationship were fun, we had a lot of adventure and everything was new… but THIS is hands down the happiest time of our relationship. Even though new parenthood is hard, we are happy, and closer than ever to our families. We love our son. We had a really long time ‘free’ and unattached and go places, party ect. and we did. The baby is new but I really don’t miss it so much, yet. At the moment I am more excited about doing things with our kid. Maybe naïveté! We will see!
You both are so adorable!! It cracks me up how your hubby just stares at the camera 😁. God bless you both
lol he’s such a dude! Love this & your small “banter”. ♥️
He looks bored and uncomfortable lol
I just love when Arun is here!
I enjoyed that. Your husband seems so laid back & quiet. 😄 My husband & I have been married for 38-years & he still won’t do any facial routine at all.
Also something that my sister shared with me is dating gets easier when u learn what u value
Totally agreed with your husband about cleaning dishes I’m the one who does it and it’s really frustrating that you think you’re done and like ten minutes later there’s more sitting in the sink and no one cleans them.🤔🤔🤔🤔
Loved the video and I think it was great advise!! The only thing I don’t really agree with was that you need to feel butterflies. I dated my now husband after being friends for a while and didn’t have butterflies, it just felt right. At the time he was a fling to me and slowly turned into the one. My husband and I have been together 8 years, married 5 with a little one and we are both so happy.
Your husband learned the biggest lesson; « to always agree with the wife » 😂 smart guy
Sad to hear they got divorced recently.
You can tell on this video, he was completely checked out, she is forcing the answers, and he is so cool and collected, just going along for the sake of the video and her social media platform. I can see why they are divorced now.
I ain't never seen two pretty married people-wait a second there's two here!
I just love Susan’s relationship!!! Goals 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Naturium has improved his skin! Specially B3 and retinol ( may be considering his age). Periodt
It’s important to have fun while dating for sure, but I think it’s also important to date with intention, if you’re looking for something committed and serious. It’s different now in the dating culture with all the online stuff and social media. I just turned 34 and newly single and my therapist told me to date with my own goals in mind, but obviously everything takes time, so it’s a balancing act. And yeah guys can wait til they’re in their 40s to have kids, women not so much. So it just depends on what you want for you own life I guess even tho we don’t always get what we want lol. But we try, try again! Good luck beautiful ppl 💞
Woah even Americans worry about being unmarried at 30. I'm Indian
More so if you’ve never been married.
This fact doesn't ever change in between countries. It starts a bit earlier in India but no one is immune to it
I love his expression at the start 🤭 , hey susan please do the skincare video for breastfeeding moms to get rid of patches malasma and acne scars which developed during pregnancy
Your husband skin is so nice !! U guys are really sweet !!
Bahahaha "most people have babies because they don't know what to do with themselves" LOL
I'm here for the 'Mhm' counts 😂😂😂
Arun is so cool. Totally unperturbed. And a perfect straight man. After every question, Susan is dissolving in laughter at his straight face.
I've only been married for a little over 2 years. I'm so glad you guys mentioned the separate accounts. I have it that way too. But one of my older bosses thinks that "you're not all in" otherwise. I'm like nope sorry disagree lol.
I feel better knowing you guys didn't go right into kids. I get so sick of people telling me I should have them and I don't want them. Im 30 and people think you're ancient if you don't pop kids out right after you marry. People think life will be boring without kids and I highly disagree lol.
Congrats on your 10 years. He did so great 🤗. My husband responds with grunts and mhm all the time so he cracked me up.
Arun just like my husband. I am the talkative one. He is reserved one
I took a sip of coffee for every “mhm” that Arun made hahaha
Love how engaging and more he relaxed he was this time around, also I think both of you gave and pointed out some really good advices and personal experiences!
You guys should do this more often hehehe
♥️
I love this. thank you both for being open and honest! especially the finances part (i agree with you two wholeheartedly) and my husband can watch espn 24/7 too. it annoyed me the first few years, but a decade later, I''ve learned to just embrace it. he will go watch his sports, ill go take a hot bath by myself or read a book (me time!).
This mans face be lookin perfect and groomed
👁👄👁
Love the vid, and happy birthday!
You guys are so cute! His expression at the beginning was hilarious 😂. He was a good sport!
Ok, I live for this Arun content.
At 52, I quit dating. I’m not looking to have kids. Already had them and they’re grown. Dating at my age is an exercise in futility. Seems like you relax after being married because both people feel like each other has one foot out the door before the wedding.
Hes completely tuned out and emotionally not present. I'm so sorry but I don't see this couple working out long term 😔😭😥...but Susan is so beautiful and kind hearted and talkative. And Arun is laid back and cool level headed but there's an emotional disconnect between you both. Why not let Arun talk more and follow his lead ? I love you Susan. Please follow Adrienne everheart ...your marriage will blossom and just be beautiful 💕💕💕 Love you.
Seems like you're right. They're getting divorced.
This video is pure magic. I love you guys :) thanks for sharing!
What a good looking couple!
A shot for every “mhm” 😂💀
Okay but why is his skin better than mine though....
🤣🤣🤣🤣He has the same expressions all the time Lol mmmmhuh !! Lmao , I can tell your the fun and funny one in the relationship Susan 🤣
RUclips hella shady I did not search for this 😂😂😂
The husband… latch on for emotion to susan lol so funny
You two are such a sweet duo!
What a cute and attractive couplee aww this was nice to see
he has the Most Amazing Skin ive seen Wow :D
Why is this painful to watch
That was cute. That’s what I want only flipped cuz I’m the introverted one.
it’s so hard to not be goal oriented with dating in the early 20s because the biological clock is ticking!! men don’t have to deal with that for the most part! I would like to have kids before my parents get too old and can’t spend many years with them, which probably might be a problem that’ll happen w future generations since many couples are having their kids later in life. and then my parents expect me to go to med school, do a residency for little money, and somehow make it out alive and have time for dating, marriage, kids?? Being a woman is so much pressure sometimes
@lisa no need to worry with biological clock!
We all have different paths and different timings and every baby arrive when it is supposed to.
I seen woman spend decades fit into biological clock from 19-33 and couldn’t get pregnant and when they completely forgot or married new person, baby arrived in 2 minutes and in some cases 2 in a row or 4 naturally, after 40! Enjoy your study and build your carrer ✨marriage and kids will come when they are suppose to 😍🙏🏼🌈✨
@@xxdeanochkaxx I have health conditions that affect my biological clock unfortunately, i know modern medicine can do a lot and adoption is an option but expectations are there. i just wish it was easier to throw away the pressure if you're raised in a traditional household :( i'm especially worried about my kids not having enough time to know their grandparents if i'm having them at 40! i'm in my 20s, i'm the last kid, and my parents are 65 and 70.
@@unbiasly what is important to you first? Marriage and children? Then date with intention and date people who are like minded. A lot of women waste precious time and have regrets becuase they heard people say "it will come when it come". While some women have difficulty having children, and yes dating is hard and yes you do want to be a doctor. Keep the door open always and out yourself out there. Also, be ok with rejections. Every guy to date will not be the one, but there will be that one eventually. Eventually, won't come if you hiding. You can be married and still in be medicine school. Challenging yes, but doable.
@@unbiasly 🙏🏼🙏🏼 stay strong ✨🌈 impossible is possible
Susan, your husband is a good looking man and his eyes are really attractive. You both make a good couple 🤗.
Arun yay!! 😄
He is so funny! Handsome too!
Honest, delightful and. funny.
I love Arun & Susan videos!!!! Congratulations on 10years ❤️🥰😍
You two are goals!!
Love you guys !!!
Please share your lip color!
The mhm counter 🤣🤣
Love Arun. Keeping it real.
He does NOT want to be here at all in the slightest 🤣🤣🤣
Random question, is Arun Tamilian or from Chennai??
So funny his face does not crack!! Poker face ♥️ ♦️ ♣️ ♠️
Guys know whether you will be their wife within the first several times of meeting you. Absolutely all men know by the 6th month of dating you whether they want to marry you. For most though it's by the first month of getting to know you. Which is why the woman is inclined to think about this part so much. A man should progress things steadily. Women often get anxious when they don't sense that progression happening.
Had to pause @8:05 in to say, ARUN'S "MHM" COUNT!!😂😂😂
Susan…you are fantastic and your hubby is super cute 💜 please listen to your video and count how many times you have said ‘like’ when it wasn’t necessary…
Body language says you guys aren't happy. He looks overwhelmed.
Daddy is in the house
Can you clone your husband and post him to me please? I mean how chill and cool can someone be.
Your husband is hilarious!!
Hi Susan . If I am not mistaken your husband lost a lot of weights and looks like more healthy.
Hi Susan, were you ever intimidated by him? Sometimes when I date professionals who have a good poker face (kind of like your husband), I get intimidated!
I don’t like him. He seems cold and distant- the opposite of Susan ☹️
The mhm counter 😂
This dude's body language says "oh god please help me". I guess that's part of selling your soul to be a Disney influencer