11:48 I hadn’t realized it before, but I think this is why I’ve always had trouble with safe space visualization. I’ve never been anywhere where I’ve felt completely safe. Even now, I always feel like my peace could be abruptly interrupted and taken away from me at any moment. I’ve always had to live in a constant state of hyper-awareness, which has recently manifested itself as severe social anxiety.
Hello Barbara. I did the three-part video. Thank you very much for producing such useful techniques to live a more centered and calm life. I am practicing diaphragmatic breathing, it so beneficial. The newly learned exercise about Safe Place seems also beneficial. Thank you so much.
Wow, this video is fantastic. I suffer from Panic Disorder, GAD, CPTSD, BPD, Bipolar 1, MDD, and this is one of the best videos that has helped me. Thank you. Also, you remind me of Laura Linney.
Helpful exercises. You are so very professional and loving. Thank you for your explanations of why and how this works. And, thank you for the resources.
Ty for these videos. So helpful. I really enjoyed your 3 week mini series. Learned a lot. Using these techniques to calm myself when i am stressed or triggered.
Hello, I am an EMDR therapist and just completed the calm secure place with a client. I was looking for something to send to her as an in between session homework assignment since she liked it so much and ran into this video. I hope you don't mind me sharing it. Thank you so much for creating this video! Diaphragmatic breathing and visualization techniques are some of the skills that I teach a lot amongst others such as DBT skills. Thanks for allowing me to share!
Of course! I know a number of my viewers share these videos with their therapists, and vice versa. I also have some guided meditations and a diaphragmatic breathing video that might be helpful. How wonderful you are doing this work, and looking for additional resources for your client!
I just went through some pretty major life events, and to cope with increasing feelings of not being safe - especially since one of those events was moving 2.5 hours away, just me and my cat - I sought out some therapeutic coping techniques, specifically to help with feeling safe enough to fall asleep and feeling safe in a new environment. I found out about the strong connections between PTSD and not feeling safe from your Hyperarousal (Six Steps to Help Now) video, it made a very big impact on me. I'm one of those "never really felt safe" people, but I have actually had some places that I have felt were... sanctuaries. This might sound silly at first, but work with me. For me, these safe places were places I made in Minecraft. I spent hours and hours in these places, they were a second home, and they were a place I could retreat to that was always safe... as long as you stay indoors at night! I was inspired to create my own Zen Garden safe place in Minecraft, so that at night I could visualize a place that I knew very well, because I crafted it pixel by pixel. And I know it's safe, because I turned the difficulty to "Peaceful"! 😆 I came back to your videos to see if you had a dedicated safe place guided meditation, to help as I visited this place in my imagination before sleep. Aaaaaand that brought me here! I will admit, I haven't watched the other videos in the aah! mini-series. I have only been doing this exercise, because it fit into my sleep ritual really well and that was easier to integrate into my schedule as a habit. I have been watching this every night for the past almost 2 weeks? Something close to that. Two moments of this video stand out as being most beneficial to me. The first was the physical sensation of the butterfly tapping. The muscle release and relaxation. When I do this exercise I am noticeably more physically relaxed after, especially around the lower back and legs. The breathing does help a lot with this, but the tapping added in was like... "whoa, haven't felt that relaxed in a minute..." The second was the reminder about how this whole process is about being gentle. My mind wanders a lot during meditation and right before sleep, it makes falling asleep really tough. The reminder to be gentle (and that it's okay if it didn't work) is very helpful to me because I often beat myself up for that. Every reminder I get to be gentler with myself when I'm really trying is invaluable to me. If you have any questions for me about my experience so far, I'd be glad to share. If you're looking for a video idea, may I suggest... a guided safe place meditation specifically for falling asleep? (I have a little bit of a vested interest in this... 😉) This is turning into a novel, but I did want to say - Thank you. I would most likely be a complete paranoid wreck right now without the insights you've helped me discover through this and your Hyperarousal video. You're doing really great work, and I'm glad we have generous people like you to share these tools with those of us out here who really need them. ❤
Wow. Thank you for letting me know how impactful this video and the hyperarousal one were for you. I'm so pleased that the butterfly tapping is working for you! Awesome! Also, your suggestion is very timely. I actually recently joined a sleep and meditation app and have begun producing some sleep content. I don't yet have a safe place sleep one, but that is a great idea. If you are interested in trying the app: www.aurahealth.io/guestpass/barbara-heffernan this link gives 30 days free. You are probably the first one to know this since i just joined, and am building up some content on there before I spread the word more. I actually like some of the sleep content they have on there by other coaches. And stay tuned, I'll try to put one up on RUclips as well.
In the notes under the video (easier to see on a computer than on a phone, but you can find it both places). There is a link for the free PDF, Transform Your Negative Core Beliefs. When you download it, it sometimes goes straight to your download folder, so check there. All the best!
Interesting. I don't actually remember as this was a few years back :). Haven't heard this from others, but I certainly can go off on tangents! Sorry if it didn't work for you. I do appreciate the feedback. Wishing you all the best
How did the Safe Place Exercise go for you?
It was very pleasurable. Imagining myself on the pier in tel aviv watching the sunset. Feeling free and safe.
It was wonderful! Thank you!
I’m having trouble finding my safe place,
@@iBRINGpeace2day yes me too
I can't find my safe place and whenever I try to imagine myself I botch it up and become numb at the end
THANK YOU Barbara ❤ I will forever be grateful for making this series, my life after finding it is not the same at all. Thank you.
How wonderful!! Thank you for letting me know and I’m thrilled you found it so helpful!
Watching you makes me feel safe.You are such a sweet loving person.Thank you so much for your videos.
So nice of you! 🤗
I just started EMDR, and having the exercises available is a huge help. I’m a lot more vulnerable with myself at home. Thank you.
So glad this Safe Place exercise is helpful for you!
11:48 I hadn’t realized it before, but I think this is why I’ve always had trouble with safe space visualization. I’ve never been anywhere where I’ve felt completely safe. Even now, I always feel like my peace could be abruptly interrupted and taken away from me at any moment. I’ve always had to live in a constant state of hyper-awareness, which has recently manifested itself as severe social anxiety.
This!!!
Thank you so much. This has been incredibly helpful.
Thank you for this video it makes a huge difference us suffering from ptsd/ depression
You are welcome. Wishing you health and healing, Barbara
Hello Barbara. I did the three-part video. Thank you very much for producing such useful techniques to live a more centered and calm life. I am practicing diaphragmatic breathing, it so beneficial. The newly learned exercise about Safe Place seems also beneficial. Thank you so much.
You are so welcome! These are great to keep practicing! I hope they are super helpful.
Wow, this video is fantastic. I suffer from Panic Disorder, GAD, CPTSD, BPD, Bipolar 1, MDD, and this is one of the best videos that has helped me. Thank you. Also, you remind me of Laura Linney.
Helpful exercises. You are so very professional and loving. Thank you for your explanations of why and how this works. And, thank you for the resources.
Ty for these videos. So helpful. I really enjoyed your 3 week mini series. Learned a lot. Using these techniques to calm myself when i am stressed or triggered.
Awesome! So glad it helped - those are practices worth continuing.
Thank you so much. You have no idea how usefull your videos have been to me 💖💖
I'm so glad to hear that. Wishing you all the best
Hello, I am an EMDR therapist and just completed the calm secure place with a client. I was looking for something to send to her as an in between session homework assignment since she liked it so much and ran into this video. I hope you don't mind me sharing it. Thank you so much for creating this video! Diaphragmatic breathing and visualization techniques are some of the skills that I teach a lot amongst others such as DBT skills. Thanks for allowing me to share!
Of course! I know a number of my viewers share these videos with their therapists, and vice versa. I also have some guided meditations and a diaphragmatic breathing video that might be helpful. How wonderful you are doing this work, and looking for additional resources for your client!
This is my third day doing it! I love it! I will continue with it my 3 weeks! ❤
Wonderful! Let us know how it goes!
I just went through some pretty major life events, and to cope with increasing feelings of not being safe - especially since one of those events was moving 2.5 hours away, just me and my cat - I sought out some therapeutic coping techniques, specifically to help with feeling safe enough to fall asleep and feeling safe in a new environment. I found out about the strong connections between PTSD and not feeling safe from your Hyperarousal (Six Steps to Help Now) video, it made a very big impact on me.
I'm one of those "never really felt safe" people, but I have actually had some places that I have felt were... sanctuaries. This might sound silly at first, but work with me. For me, these safe places were places I made in Minecraft. I spent hours and hours in these places, they were a second home, and they were a place I could retreat to that was always safe... as long as you stay indoors at night! I was inspired to create my own Zen Garden safe place in Minecraft, so that at night I could visualize a place that I knew very well, because I crafted it pixel by pixel. And I know it's safe, because I turned the difficulty to "Peaceful"! 😆
I came back to your videos to see if you had a dedicated safe place guided meditation, to help as I visited this place in my imagination before sleep. Aaaaaand that brought me here!
I will admit, I haven't watched the other videos in the aah! mini-series. I have only been doing this exercise, because it fit into my sleep ritual really well and that was easier to integrate into my schedule as a habit. I have been watching this every night for the past almost 2 weeks? Something close to that.
Two moments of this video stand out as being most beneficial to me. The first was the physical sensation of the butterfly tapping. The muscle release and relaxation. When I do this exercise I am noticeably more physically relaxed after, especially around the lower back and legs. The breathing does help a lot with this, but the tapping added in was like... "whoa, haven't felt that relaxed in a minute..." The second was the reminder about how this whole process is about being gentle. My mind wanders a lot during meditation and right before sleep, it makes falling asleep really tough. The reminder to be gentle (and that it's okay if it didn't work) is very helpful to me because I often beat myself up for that. Every reminder I get to be gentler with myself when I'm really trying is invaluable to me. If you have any questions for me about my experience so far, I'd be glad to share.
If you're looking for a video idea, may I suggest... a guided safe place meditation specifically for falling asleep? (I have a little bit of a vested interest in this... 😉)
This is turning into a novel, but I did want to say - Thank you. I would most likely be a complete paranoid wreck right now without the insights you've helped me discover through this and your Hyperarousal video. You're doing really great work, and I'm glad we have generous people like you to share these tools with those of us out here who really need them. ❤
Wow. Thank you for letting me know how impactful this video and the hyperarousal one were for you. I'm so pleased that the butterfly tapping is working for you! Awesome!
Also, your suggestion is very timely. I actually recently joined a sleep and meditation app and have begun producing some sleep content. I don't yet have a safe place sleep one, but that is a great idea. If you are interested in trying the app:
www.aurahealth.io/guestpass/barbara-heffernan
this link gives 30 days free. You are probably the first one to know this since i just joined, and am building up some content on there before I spread the word more. I actually like some of the sleep content they have on there by other coaches.
And stay tuned, I'll try to put one up on RUclips as well.
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Thank you so much. Your voice is so gentle and encouraging.
You are so welcome, and thanks 🤗🙏
My therapist suggested I try emdr. Stumbled on to your channel. Looking for a provider and in the mean time self practicing.
Thanks. Very calming.
I'm so glad to hear that!
Thank you!
Thank you for for this video 💙
It was really good as a morning selfcare activity.
Awesome! Yes, the safe place exercise can be a great self-care tool!
You are a real angel 😇❤️.. Thank you so much .
Wow, thank you!
Wonderful❤
Would love to see an actual
Emdr session
Good idea!
I liked the meditation but I would not stop the exercise to teach the butterfly hug. I would have done that before the session.
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I can’t find the PDF Re: Negative thoughts
In the notes under the video (easier to see on a computer than on a phone, but you can find it both places). There is a link for the free PDF, Transform Your Negative Core Beliefs. When you download it, it sometimes goes straight to your download folder, so check there. All the best!
I don’t see your first two in this series on your site
You keep interrupting yourself, and going off on a tangent or instructions in the middle of a meditation...confused
Interesting. I don't actually remember as this was a few years back :). Haven't heard this from others, but I certainly can go off on tangents! Sorry if it didn't work for you. I do appreciate the feedback. Wishing you all the best