OP needs to call her out for her BS and tell her she needs effing therapy. Not only was she afraidher brother would become a R-ist just because she read some article, but she thinks being a caring uncle can only mean that OP wants to SA her child. She has lost hold on reality if the first thing she thinks is abuse with everyon. And the parents? I certainly hope they contacted all the relatives she's been contacting and set the record straight that OP's never been inapropriate at all and that any and all physical contact has been initiated by the kid. And yes, i'd be throwing the sister under the bus if i was the parents. I'd be telling all the relatives of her reaction to the article and that she seems to have some "serious issues that need adressing with a therapist or psychiatrist" that she's been ignoring.
If she thinks this way about all men, then how long before she looks at her own son the same way or even worse messes him up completely, cuz she teaches him to be ashamed of his gender
@@wiresculptor5951 I think she properly only thinks that about boys that are always alone or something bc op mentiont that he was a kid that didn't really interact With other people, but it is still wrong think about people that way
But still he’s here brother her on flesh and blood like I get the when they were kids part but there not kids anymore and she lives far away from him and there parents and you don’t do your own brother like that you just don’t she told everybody but him what she thought she didn’t even talk to him about it when they were kids like I understand if there were some boundaries being crossed or something but he was just being a good uncle like she’s weird for this she’s going to push her own brother away and for what and also being alone as a kid doesn’t mean anything I was a loner and I turned out fine and and the simple fact that she thought that of her on brother that’s wrong
Considering that there are literally hundreds to thousands of women telling each other and anyone else willing to listen that "all men" are r@pists and child-touchers, is it a surprise when one takes it seriously enough to falsely accuse a man, let alone her own brother?
Yeah , she saw the article and she thought about her brother will become one, if she see every man with that sight, then she ve to be even more terrified to her father. Idk what's going on in mind but that's only and only one person problem 🫤
Why do all redditors think this way, it's messed up, yeah, but it's a misunderstanding it didn't seem to affect his life much at all so why make his sisters life a living nightmare?
@Jumblion Could you highlight where the misunderstanding is? It seems the sister is telling people that OP is a predator solely because he happens to have a penis, and I'm appalled you're defending this.
Extreme response, considering this could very well be seen as retaliation, which could end up OP in a worse place then he was before I’d be better to just have a talk with the sister and express how you feel and what’s going to change going forward
(Edit: put /edit and changed past to paste bcs of autocorrect) There’s an update/edit where they got a response, I will paste the update/edit here for yall to see Edit 2: Got a response. She apologised about things went down, and that she meant to bring it up with me. Apparently the issue was that she felt that things like kids sitting in my lap were ok for a 2-3 year old, but not when they're 5-6 which made her uncomfortable. This is completely understandable to me, but a lot of trouble could've been saved my communicating this to me personally. She said it was nothing personal and hopes I can understand her one day, but with the gay comments and all, it's kinda hard not to see it that way. I am a bit relieved there are no serious accusations being thrown around, but I still don't think this is a mendable relationship, so I'll be staying out her life. Thank you for all the supportive messages.
@@bmthbsbsbs She probably went down a rabbit hole of craziness online, reading articles and all that. Causing her to have unnecessary fears, or another possibility is someone is whispering stuff in her ear about it. But all of it could have been solved by a simple conversation, saying she no longer felt comfortable with the kids sitting on his lap Edit: I forgot to put that because the reason why she doesn’t feel comfortable would have been brought up in that conversation
@@maddog102the sister has fallen into the homophobic conspiracy theory that queer people are predators and after children. She accuses him of being too close to his nephew and makes sure to bring up him potentially being gay. That sister is a nightmare and he should definitely run.
Similar thing happened to me. I had a nephew who adores me to the point that he apparently was always asking when he could see me next. He was 3 years old at the time. I think he was so obsessed with me because I showed genuine interest in him and what he enjoys, because I've always found making kids happy a fulfilling experience. But my sister started acting weird whenever we were together. She didn't like me being alone with him and was always "checking up" on us. Of course it was usually just me helping him play with toys or me showing him videos of motorbikes and monster trucks since he loved them. I adored the little guy, but my sister went super paranoid and I decided to just keep my distance. I don't know what I could have done to make her concerned, the only thing I can think of is that my sister is very religious and I am actually gay. She always seemed to be okay with me, but who knows. I haven't seen him in two years and I miss the little guy, but it is what it is.
Say that she was the one who keeps making you feel uncomfortable because she is clearly obsessed with you and sexual things . Call cps and warn them about her behavior surrounding you and her son and how you are worried about her potential acting on her deviancy
@@SidCyanideif she looks at all men that way, then how many months, how many years before she views her son the same way she sees all men? Whats the chances she does not teach him to be ashamed of his own gender- something he literally has no control over
@@SidCyanide Not really. I was SAd, so I’m cautious around men, even relatives. I try not to let the kids see it, but they do. Even at 2, they were cautious around men. It wasn’t something I really noticed until their grandfather pointed it out. I’m still working on it, because I don’t want them to live in fear but to be safe (there’s a balance, though it’s hard for me to find), but I’m trying not to let my past dictate my family’s future. Kids aren’t stupid, and learn a lot about life from their parents.
@@littlecamo8 ??? I'm unsure if you're agreeing or disagreeing. My comment was in regards to the original commenter suggesting to call CPS on the sister for an issue she obviously needs therapy for. I wouldn't necessarily think she'd hurt her kids because she has conflicted/wary feelings about the OP of the story.
@@wiresculptor5951 your response seems kinda jaded.... Why are you not more concerned with getting all parties involved into therapy? Her behaviors can't be coming out of nowhere - something may have happened to her. I agree that it's possible that she could look at her son that way, but it's not as though it cannot be safely and healthily dealt with before it reaches that point. As it stands though, nothing in the story indicates that she's harming any of her children. So she needs to get help, sooner than later - it'll be best for everyone involved.
I would have more respect for the sister if she was doing more than just turning family members against OP. She is not going to the police or anything? And if she feels this strongly, why she allowing her kids to be there even once a year? Nah, if she’s done this to OP before, she is either mentally ill or has a problem with him.
Why would she go to the police? It seems less likely that she thinks OP is actively doing something and more that she’s scared of him doing something not justify her response, but there would be really no reason to go to the police
If she thinks that only by seeing one little thing she might need therapy and she might do the same to her own son in the future it is goes that bad because it might end up with her trying to attack someone if it gets worse
I would honestly be more concerned because like did your uncle do something to you? For you to think that he would do that to your kid? Something happened to her for sure.
It's good for a mother to care about her son.. The issue is that women tend to be out of touch when it comes to boys You will ruin your son treating him like his made of glass
She’s just scared of her children liking there uncle because he with them more and is probably nicer but no hate to sis in story she will probably play a victim card
Talk to her about if he she still thinks you are going to turn out like that person on the news and tell someone to come with you to her house if possible. Make it known it was your idea. This will reassure her you are not going to try anything as you would not want your image tarnished in front of somebody like that.
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OP needs to call her out for her BS and tell her she needs effing therapy.
Not only was she afraidher brother would become a R-ist just because she read some article, but she thinks being a caring uncle can only mean that OP wants to SA her child. She has lost hold on reality if the first thing she thinks is abuse with everyon.
And the parents? I certainly hope they contacted all the relatives she's been contacting and set the record straight that OP's never been inapropriate at all and that any and all physical contact has been initiated by the kid. And yes, i'd be throwing the sister under the bus if i was the parents. I'd be telling all the relatives of her reaction to the article and that she seems to have some "serious issues that need adressing with a therapist or psychiatrist" that she's been ignoring.
If she thinks this way about all men, then how long before she looks at her own son the same way or even worse messes him up completely, cuz she teaches him to be ashamed of his gender
@@wiresculptor5951 I think she properly only thinks that about boys that are always alone or something bc op mentiont that he was a kid that didn't really interact With other people, but it is still wrong think about people that way
But still he’s here brother her on flesh and blood like I get the when they were kids part but there not kids anymore and she lives far away from him and there parents and you don’t do your own brother like that you just don’t she told everybody but him what she thought she didn’t even talk to him about it when they were kids like I understand if there were some boundaries being crossed or something but he was just being a good uncle like she’s weird for this she’s going to push her own brother away and for what and also being alone as a kid doesn’t mean anything I was a loner and I turned out fine and and the simple fact that she thought that of her on brother that’s wrong
Sister must have some mental deal going on, I mean she read 1 news article and immediately goes to being scared that’s what her brother would do?
Considering that there are literally hundreds to thousands of women telling each other and anyone else willing to listen that "all men" are r@pists and child-touchers, is it a surprise when one takes it seriously enough to falsely accuse a man, let alone her own brother?
I'm wonder how she even managed to have kids. 😮
Yeah , she saw the article and she thought about her brother will become one, if she see every man with that sight, then she ve to be even more terrified to her father.
Idk what's going on in mind but that's only and only one person problem 🫤
@@user-dp3td6bn1jimagine how she will treat her own son, its only a matter of time before she looks at him the same as all other me
@@wiresculptor5951 she : EVERY MAN IS A MONSTER.. 😱😱
also she : why no one loves me 😢
Sue her for defamation of character.
That will just make it worse and she has the right to not let him see his kids but I do agree it is messed up
I want to like this comment, but its at 69 likes. I won’t mess with perfection.
It’s not defamation of character lmao. It’s not like she blasted him on social media calling him a predator. Still messed up regardless though
Why do all redditors think this way, it's messed up, yeah, but it's a misunderstanding it didn't seem to affect his life much at all so why make his sisters life a living nightmare?
@Jumblion Could you highlight where the misunderstanding is? It seems the sister is telling people that OP is a predator solely because he happens to have a penis, and I'm appalled you're defending this.
Cease and desist letter stopping her from mentioning you in any ci versation, then no co tact order
Extreme response, considering this could very well be seen as retaliation, which could end up OP in a worse place then he was before I’d be better to just have a talk with the sister and express how you feel and what’s going to change going forward
(Edit: put /edit and changed past to paste bcs of autocorrect)
There’s an update/edit where they got a response, I will paste the update/edit here for yall to see
Edit 2: Got a response. She apologised about things went down, and that she meant to bring it up with me. Apparently the issue was that she felt that things like kids sitting in my lap were ok for a 2-3 year old, but not when they're 5-6 which made her uncomfortable.
This is completely understandable to me, but a lot of trouble could've been saved my communicating this to me personally. She said it was nothing personal and hopes I can understand her one day, but with the gay comments and all, it's kinda hard not to see it that way.
I am a bit relieved there are no serious accusations being thrown around, but I still don't think this is a mendable relationship, so I'll be staying out her life.
Thank you for all the supportive messages.
Fuck that she jumps to child predator from “oh this behavior I didn’t like the CHILDREN doing”
Why is SHE uncomfortable when her son is happy spending time with his uncle though.
Sounds like she's projecting imo.
@@bmthbsbsbs She probably went down a rabbit hole of craziness online, reading articles and all that. Causing her to have unnecessary fears, or another possibility is someone is whispering stuff in her ear about it. But all of it could have been solved by a simple conversation, saying she no longer felt comfortable with the kids sitting on his lap
Edit: I forgot to put that because the reason why she doesn’t feel comfortable would have been brought up in that conversation
@@maddog102the sister has fallen into the homophobic conspiracy theory that queer people are predators and after children. She accuses him of being too close to his nephew and makes sure to bring up him potentially being gay. That sister is a nightmare and he should definitely run.
@@maddog102 that's why I said she's projecting haha
Similar thing happened to me. I had a nephew who adores me to the point that he apparently was always asking when he could see me next. He was 3 years old at the time. I think he was so obsessed with me because I showed genuine interest in him and what he enjoys, because I've always found making kids happy a fulfilling experience. But my sister started acting weird whenever we were together. She didn't like me being alone with him and was always "checking up" on us. Of course it was usually just me helping him play with toys or me showing him videos of motorbikes and monster trucks since he loved them. I adored the little guy, but my sister went super paranoid and I decided to just keep my distance. I don't know what I could have done to make her concerned, the only thing I can think of is that my sister is very religious and I am actually gay. She always seemed to be okay with me, but who knows. I haven't seen him in two years and I miss the little guy, but it is what it is.
Say that she was the one who keeps making you feel uncomfortable because she is clearly obsessed with you and sexual things . Call cps and warn them about her behavior surrounding you and her son and how you are worried about her potential acting on her deviancy
That's not a hinged response
@@SidCyanideif she looks at all men that way, then how many months, how many years before she views her son the same way she sees all men?
Whats the chances she does not teach him to be ashamed of his own gender- something he literally has no control over
@@SidCyanide Not really. I was SAd, so I’m cautious around men, even relatives. I try not to let the kids see it, but they do. Even at 2, they were cautious around men. It wasn’t something I really noticed until their grandfather pointed it out. I’m still working on it, because I don’t want them to live in fear but to be safe (there’s a balance, though it’s hard for me to find), but I’m trying not to let my past dictate my family’s future. Kids aren’t stupid, and learn a lot about life from their parents.
@@littlecamo8 ??? I'm unsure if you're agreeing or disagreeing. My comment was in regards to the original commenter suggesting to call CPS on the sister for an issue she obviously needs therapy for. I wouldn't necessarily think she'd hurt her kids because she has conflicted/wary feelings about the OP of the story.
@@wiresculptor5951 your response seems kinda jaded.... Why are you not more concerned with getting all parties involved into therapy? Her behaviors can't be coming out of nowhere - something may have happened to her. I agree that it's possible that she could look at her son that way, but it's not as though it cannot be safely and healthily dealt with before it reaches that point. As it stands though, nothing in the story indicates that she's harming any of her children. So she needs to get help, sooner than later - it'll be best for everyone involved.
I would have more respect for the sister if she was doing more than just turning family members against OP. She is not going to the police or anything? And if she feels this strongly, why she allowing her kids to be there even once a year? Nah, if she’s done this to OP before, she is either mentally ill or has a problem with him.
Why would she go to the police? It seems less likely that she thinks OP is actively doing something and more that she’s scared of him doing something not justify her response, but there would be really no reason to go to the police
So she should commit a crime and lie to the police instead of being a completely normal person over her brother spending time with his nephew???
If she thinks that only by seeing one little thing she might need therapy and she might do the same to her own son in the future it is goes that bad because it might end up with her trying to attack someone if it gets worse
I would honestly be more concerned because like did your uncle do something to you? For you to think that he would do that to your kid? Something happened to her for sure.
It's good for a mother to care about her son.. The issue is that women tend to be out of touch when it comes to boys
You will ruin your son treating him like his made of glass
Karens dont understand that fathers are a good thing to have around😂
The kids do have a father…so it seems to be either a personal issue between OP and sis
Yeah no, I would have no sister no more; she would be death to me.
She’ll most likely just accuse you of something bigger just stay away from her at all cost or else she will try to hurt you
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She’s just scared of her children liking there uncle because he with them more and is probably nicer but no hate to sis in story she will probably play a victim card
That gyatt 1:52 but besides that the sister sucks
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Talk to her about if he she still thinks you are going to turn out like that person on the news and tell someone to come with you to her house if possible. Make it known it was your idea. This will reassure her you are not going to try anything as you would not want your image tarnished in front of somebody like that.
i would just cut contacts with her and never talk even if my parents told me to talk to her
This really p***** me off
The sister is a huge AH but the parents are even bigger AH for hiding this instead of stoping it
Sis should go to therapy
I think that the child is fatherless
The sister or the kids? Both have fathers since it’s mentioned in the comments of OPs post by the aforementioned