Its not just boys its the mentality of people specially families and women as well...most of the shopkeepers complaint that mainly demands came from women.
This topic has always intrigued me, glad to know that every Kashmiri feels the same about it. May Allah make us the muashara CHANGERS FOR THE RIGHT and in the direction of Allah only
Such an insightful video ,these extravagant marriages are the critical issue plaguing Kashmiri society today. The shift towards lavish marriages is not only putting undue pressure on the middle class but also creating a culture where families feel compelled to delay weddings just to accumulate enough funds for extravagant celebrations. It's heartbreaking to see how this norm has affected so many households. As responsible citizens, it’s our duty to come together and put an end to this unnecessary trend. This is a collective responsibility, and we must remember that we are all answerable to Allah for fostering such harmful customs. May Almighty guide us 😑😑
Glad u liked it...our goal was to like show people that its not the rising prices but the demands and unnecessary expenses that make weddings so expensive
Good job 👏 much needed video in today's time as we are heading away from basic values and all these extravagant things puts a pressure on a poor or a middle class family...as a part of society we all need to come together and stop this dekhawa which is of no use ... simplicity is best har dour mai past mai b tha abi b hai
This is so true!!! All they care about is how grand the wedding should be or how grand their house shall be!! The culture, the heritage, the language, the art and the architecture, all of them are dying at once which actually is really very heart breaking!
great work. But my only request is that kindly make a video of good length in which you capture the views of every section of society which is related to this so called "Show off Marriage" affair. Its a request
I think innovations is not only the main reason for late marriages as these things come after the marriage has been fixed,,,,,, I have talked to so many elder people especially who have daughters and sons .....main reason is .... employed son is searching for employed women ... 90 percent girls are waiting for the right one who will have a govt job . And he should be the lone son of the family ...and he should be residing in the same area and give excuses like rishte aasmano pey bante hai joh thk hoga wohi hoga tab tak 40 age pohanch jaati hai .....I have seen so many people rejecting good girls or good boys jus because he or she is living in other district or a little bit far ..there are so many reasons I can talk about this for hours
Same for boys ..employed boys are searching employed girls . education doesn't matter for anyone ..I think it should be like if one is having good reliable job than other should compromise ..
@@Qalb-i1p I mentioned both girls and boys ....in kashmir ...even a 8th paas girl is searching for a govt job. Boy that too full explanation ki har angle se gar mei sab kaise h kya kya hai kahin kaam toh zyda nhi hoga ... family choti hai ya nhi .and same is for boys ...boys nowadays is also becoming demanding......and i will tell this in capital letters .... SOCIAL MEDIA HAVE MADE BOYS AND GIRLS BELIEVE THAT THEY HAVE OPTIONS ....SO THEY TAKE THINGS LIGHTLY ...THEY REJECT PEOPLE JUS BECOZ THEY FEEL THERE ARE SO MANY OPTIONS AND THEY DONT BELIEVE THAT WHEN IT COMES TO MARRIAGE THERE ARE NOT OPTIONS NOT EVERY BOY OR GIRL HAVE A COURAGE TO MARRY ..ITS BIG RESPONSIBILITY,,THEY JUS WANT SOME FUN IN THEIR LIFE UNTIL THEY GET MARRIED TO SOMEONE OR FIND THE GOVT JOB PERSON AND DUE TO THIS THEY GET OVERAGED PHR USKE BAAD KEHTE HAI AB KISI SE SHAADI Hi HOTI JOB B NAHI CHYE BAS SHAADI HO JAYE ...SOCIAL MEDIA IS AN ILLUSION...
@@Drzubairmagrey i guess we are on same page ... Nowadays money/ showoff is more valuable than values and sincerity...It's not just about boys and girls .. Elders are also like that .We are so blind to see that we as a society are not raising but collapsing rapidly .
@@Qalb-i1p parents always want their sons and daughters to get married to a right person so we can't blame them for these late marriages and traditions ....it's a duty of young generation to get up and change the society
I appreciate ur efforts... society needs this I request everyone to subscribe and help them to express their views freely.. subscribing those vlogger without any cause support these people who take steps to help Better society of our kashmir..thanku everyone
Listen ,some people are rich and some are poor ,you need to accept this,everyone should marry according to the amount of money that they can dish out,no need to vie with each other ,it’s not a competition.those who compete with the rich are literally fools
I get what you're saying, but when the wealthy set trends, it often creates pressure for others to follow, even when it's beyond their means. The gap between rich and middle class isn't always clear-some can afford more, while others can’t. When certain luxuries, like expensive sweets or extravagant decor, become normal people who stick to simpler options sometimes face criticism for being 'cheap.' Our documentary aimed to highlight this issue, showing that weddings should be more about the celebration than the amount spent, and there shouldn't be judgment based on how much someone can afford
"Majboori kya karo", has become an easy escape for us nowadays. The world is a prison for the believer and a paradise for the disbeliever. (Sahih Muslim)
This isn't the whole truth, in addition(in most of the cases) 1. Girls after marriage are treated like servants in most of the places. 2. She isn't considered as their own daughter, thr is a discrimination between daughter and daughter in law 3. She has to choose either career or family, why can't be both, even if she quits job and gives her whole time to the family mostly husband isn't able to fulfil her needs (financially) 4.Inlaws become dominant to the daughter in law especially when she is orphan 5.in maximum cases she can't continue her studies after marriage, this might be the major reason of late marriage 6. Concept of polygamy without first wife's consent, that makes marriage fearful, because with age she can't compete with other girls (beauty, physique etc) 7. Drugs and alcohol consumption fashion in kashmiri boys 8.modern lavish wedding fashion like cancer that is spreading day by day in our culture (everyone can't afford)
Lame! the things that you say have been a factor always. Two of the most significant factors which lead to late marriage is girls education and drug abuse. How come guys and girls stay in relationships for years all together but cannot marry? Reason is global elite have pushed women into workforce and have more than halved the purchasing power. When 40 years ago a single man was able to earn for a family of six or more; now doesn't have enough purchasing power to even afford the school fees of his one child without cutting his needs from other areas of life. But still in Kashmir many things could have been resolved by adjustment and tolerance but our generation are intolerant psychos who can just live in their own fancy bubble.
Most of the assumptions are made up, the actual reason is no one will marry a man who earns less because he can't give much alimony. And girls refuse because they want to "enjoy" promiscuousness in their youth, then, in old age trap a rich man as an ATM card. These are the actual reasons.
I have seen my few female friends that sacrificed their job/career /financial security for the betterment of their family, but it is painful to see them in trouble now, that family including husband didn't even realise 'is she happy, is she satisfied with her life instead some males have some sort of so called male ego, that makes relationships more worse, rather if a man will make her secure why would a women will force him for job (thr could be ups and downs no doubt) , believe me guys if man makes women feel safe and happy, she loves to be house wife only! (cooking meals isn't a big deal, remember happy women can do it more efficiently, life is beautiful some just don't care about it, they just need meals cooked and like to be dominating, otherwise Islam gives a respectable position to women) 0:05
Nobody should feel helpless or fear in making a change in the extravagant riwayat. Loog 2-4-5 din baat karenge, tanz kasenge lekin you have to tell them saying nikkah ko asaan banana is a sunnah. Moreover, this change is only and only to please Allah so that He puts lots and lots of BARAKAH in the marriage afterwards. subhanAllah May Allah bless us with the Quwwat from Him.
Somewhere back of the head, we know that it's because of the culture. When the valley celebrates the culture more than the deen, than the religion. Things naturally become extravagant and far from simplicity
I got married at 27 My father said, "che chuk raath zamut, che kath karun khandar wune". Kashmiri minds are full of laanath and fitne. Im 32 now and planning to get second wife soon, living outside Kashmir, Alhumdulillah, don't want my kids to live in Kashmir.
That would mean you kids would be devoid of any understanding of living in a traditional cultured society. And because you cannot live anywhere apart from metros and cities your kids would never develop first principle knowledge about life. Kashmiris are blessed in numerous ways. Probably one of the last few muslim societies which exists like this
@@najmussaqibmahboobi1192 I live outside gandhrajye Bharat, in a traditionally Islamic neighborhood. I've guts to marry off my children after 12th if they want to, try the same in Kashmir (you won't even be able to imagine it)
@@najmussaqibmahboobi1192 Muslim society for name only, Kashmir is filled with drugs and zinah. Talking is not enough, if they was so islamic and traditional, why not get married early in life?
Maybe the real reason is that we are not following the islamic teachings properly Our prophet Muhammad saw told us to make marriage easy and make zinnah difficult but nowadays in kashmir everything is going opposite
Late marriage is multi dimensional problem, not only girls are at receiving but boys too end up at same place, huge demands of bridal family for Mehar and gifts are equally detrimental. In recent times we have seen marriages with no dowry, demands and extravagent expenses,even ruksati are done of cup of tea but meanwhile in same marriages when we look out for mehar and gifts, they touch sky......We need to change our approach towards the problem.
Rathed than strengthening their relationship with their spounce and building a strong bond, people nowadays are busy focusing on rituals and traditions.
People in kashmir are gumrah bas hasad se kaam lete hai... I request everyone to get their sisters married and for boys please go ahead with simple nikaah.. Apne maa baap ka mat manoo..
Very sad that almost all Kashmiris feel and say that these are useless things still we are not able to do anything at individual level . We should take steps to stop this at ground level.
Chill dude....There r people who drive ferrari, some alto n some can't even afford cycle.... It's all about the money n class... Fault lies in those poor n middle class people who try to compete with those ferrari guys.... Sb kuch apni aukaat mai kroge tou koi burden nahi bnn jayega
We should first start with ourselves .....then society will change ...we usually say " wane gasay maine karneh seeath" yeh society nahi hain yeh hum hain jou yeh kartay hain...lehnga lagane ke bagair b shadi ho sakhti hain...hum puri life apne khud ke kapday lagatay hain ..shadi joy ke changing phase hota hain jis se adha emaan complete hita hain aus he din pata nahi payment ke lagatay hain....aur make up mtlb wou puri chnage huwe hiti hain wou koyi model lagte hain ...shadi ke din dulhan namaz b nahi padte hoge ..by saying ab makeup kharab hoga ... Yeh b ki dulha raat ko aata hai. Jaise aus ko chori karne jana hita hain ...wou phr ghar subah pohnchtay hain ... Hum yeh nhai dekhte hum kar kya jtaray hain...aj dowry ka koyi samne nahi bolta ..lekin aus ke b bohat saray faces hain ..kehwa khabar satim saal phir saal ..yeh kya haib ..mujhe samajh nahu aa raha... nikal ko jis liye easy banaya tha aj ..wahee..bidat bane hain aur hum ne uss cheez ko normalise kiya hain
Kashmiriyun mai dekh kekhi bohat hai. This characteristic of kashmiri people is one of the biggest problems in the valley, especially among families that have decent amount of wealth. Hope it changes
Great video Magar yaha Kay logon ko yeh baat samaj nahi aaye gi Woh Iss dekhawat Kay samandar mein tair rahe hai aur Wapas chadna bhi nahi chahe gay kyun ki phir inki izzat kam hojaye gi Afsoos hai Kis mohabbat walay nabi ka tareeqa hum ne choda hai aur jhooti shaam mei. Zindagi basr kar rahe hai ....
There is indeed so much wastage of things in weddings! A lot of these oppressing things can be boycotted by the Groom and his family! Make it simple! You are actually creating evil!
A human brain fully developes at 25. Many boys at age 26 don't have a stable jobs and hence can't take care of the wife and kids with that. It's not as easy as you think , there are many domestic abuse cases too hence it's very important for both genders to gain education. Most people should marry after 25 . That's an ideal age for both men and women. Anything beyond that, you need to sacrifice one of these things .
@@pepper2240 Sorry but nothing like that, full brain grows till the age of 17-18 , but thats growth, not development. A brain develops till the age he dies. U might have seen small 10-12 yr old children with brilliant minds, and 28-30yr old boys with idiotic mindset. Whats depends is the exposure aur upbringing that defines the brain development
I'm preparing for neet ...and I'm 20 years old...you tell me how will it be possible for me to get married so early..... And now if you will say that early marriage is in Islam..I agree with that but in today's world being a girl financial independence is important because we never know what is written in our destiny....will everything be okay with our inlaws and husband.... So yeah ... I think 27/28 is good age for marriage for both genders....
Society should boycott such type of things. Boys should come up for simple marriages.
Its not just boys its the mentality of people specially families and women as well...most of the shopkeepers complaint that mainly demands came from women.
What about divorce? Why should we give 50% ?
Ok let's start by changing alimony and mantainence laws.
Haha
Brother not only boys but girls also
This topic has always intrigued me, glad to know that every Kashmiri feels the same about it. May Allah make us the muashara CHANGERS FOR THE RIGHT and in the direction of Allah only
Finally someone shows reality ...May Allah almighty forgive us and guide us to straight path
This was a much needed video. We have Bollywoodised the weddings here. Rather than learning, we are just going after dekha dekhi.
@@mehrasmir6147 Exactly!
This video deserves millions of hearts 💓
I'm doing project work on this subject, I will give some recommendations later. ❤
Appreciable video
We need to promote simple marriage !
Such an insightful video ,these extravagant marriages are the critical issue plaguing Kashmiri society today. The shift towards lavish marriages is not only putting undue pressure on the middle class but also creating a culture where families feel compelled to delay weddings just to accumulate enough funds for extravagant celebrations. It's heartbreaking to see how this norm has affected so many households. As responsible citizens, it’s our duty to come together and put an end to this unnecessary trend. This is a collective responsibility, and we must remember that we are all answerable to Allah for fostering such harmful customs. May Almighty guide us 😑😑
Glad u liked it...our goal was to like show people that its not the rising prices but the demands and unnecessary expenses that make weddings so expensive
Exactly true we should boycott it all
@@Asimabhat07
As Salaamu Alaykum sister in Islam
Good job 👏 much needed video in today's time as we are heading away from basic values and all these extravagant things puts a pressure on a poor or a middle class family...as a part of society we all need to come together and stop this dekhawa which is of no use ... simplicity is best har dour mai past mai b tha abi b hai
Kudos! Such important and essential prospect of our "now society".
That was our goal to show the otherside...we are pleased to know u guys liked it
Only kashmiri youth can change this unwanted things in marriages now
This is so true!!! All they care about is how grand the wedding should be or how grand their house shall be!! The culture, the heritage, the language, the art and the architecture, all of them are dying at once which actually is really very heart breaking!
@@sheikhsibat6607 Now is the opportune moment to engage in conversations about these matters with our families and friends.
informative video ....
Great job 🎉❤
Unfortunately I HV also been out cold ...May Allah guide us
Very true...The purpose of marriage in Kashmir is complete show off nothing else
Good to see this type of content ...you guys need very appreciation ❤
Thankyou so much means a lot
Same here in jammu too
great work. But my only request is that kindly make a video of good length in which you capture the views of every section of society which is related to this so called "Show off Marriage" affair. Its a request
Nice work . Addressing social issues is very much needed .
Thank you that was our goal
I think innovations is not only the main reason for late marriages as these things come after the marriage has been fixed,,,,,, I have talked to so many elder people especially who have daughters and sons .....main reason is .... employed son is searching for employed women ... 90 percent girls are waiting for the right one who will have a govt job . And he should be the lone son of the family ...and he should be residing in the same area and give excuses like rishte aasmano pey bante hai joh thk hoga wohi hoga tab tak 40 age pohanch jaati hai .....I have seen so many people rejecting good girls or good boys jus because he or she is living in other district or a little bit far ..there are so many reasons I can talk about this for hours
Such a great insight into this matter ... I appreciate Dr saab
Same for boys ..employed boys are searching employed girls . education doesn't matter for anyone ..I think it should be like if one is having good reliable job than other should compromise ..
@@Qalb-i1p I mentioned both girls and boys ....in kashmir ...even a 8th paas girl is searching for a govt job. Boy that too full explanation ki har angle se gar mei sab kaise h kya kya hai kahin kaam toh zyda nhi hoga ... family choti hai ya nhi .and same is for boys ...boys nowadays is also becoming demanding......and i will tell this in capital letters .... SOCIAL MEDIA HAVE MADE BOYS AND GIRLS BELIEVE THAT THEY HAVE OPTIONS ....SO THEY TAKE THINGS LIGHTLY ...THEY REJECT PEOPLE JUS BECOZ THEY FEEL THERE ARE SO MANY OPTIONS AND THEY DONT BELIEVE THAT WHEN IT COMES TO MARRIAGE THERE ARE NOT OPTIONS NOT EVERY BOY OR GIRL HAVE A COURAGE TO MARRY ..ITS BIG RESPONSIBILITY,,THEY JUS WANT SOME FUN IN THEIR LIFE UNTIL THEY GET MARRIED TO SOMEONE OR FIND THE GOVT JOB PERSON AND DUE TO THIS THEY GET OVERAGED PHR USKE BAAD KEHTE HAI AB KISI SE SHAADI Hi HOTI JOB B NAHI CHYE BAS SHAADI HO JAYE ...SOCIAL MEDIA IS AN ILLUSION...
@@Drzubairmagrey i guess we are on same page ... Nowadays money/ showoff is more valuable than values and sincerity...It's not just about boys and girls .. Elders are also like that .We are so blind to see that we as a society are not raising but collapsing rapidly .
@@Qalb-i1p parents always want their sons and daughters to get married to a right person so we can't blame them for these late marriages and traditions ....it's a duty of young generation to get up and change the society
Boycott new trend
Plz carry out simple nikha
U know divorce are on peak in Kashmir
And plz
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I appreciate ur efforts... society needs this I request everyone to subscribe and help them to express their views freely.. subscribing those vlogger without any cause support these people who take steps to help Better society of our kashmir..thanku everyone
May Allah swt guide us in the right path
Listen ,some people are rich and some are poor ,you need to accept this,everyone should marry according to the amount of money that they can dish out,no need to vie with each other ,it’s not a competition.those who compete with the rich are literally fools
I get what you're saying, but when the wealthy set trends, it often creates pressure for others to follow, even when it's beyond their means. The gap between rich and middle class isn't always clear-some can afford more, while others can’t. When certain luxuries, like expensive sweets or extravagant decor, become normal people who stick to simpler options sometimes face criticism for being 'cheap.' Our documentary aimed to highlight this issue, showing that weddings should be more about the celebration than the amount spent, and there shouldn't be judgment based on how much someone can afford
"Majboori kya karo", has become an easy escape for us nowadays.
The world is a prison for the believer and a paradise for the disbeliever.
(Sahih Muslim)
Comparison kills joy
This isn't the whole truth, in addition(in most of the cases)
1. Girls after marriage are treated like servants in most of the places.
2. She isn't considered as their own daughter, thr is a discrimination between daughter and daughter in law
3. She has to choose either career or family, why can't be both, even if she quits job and gives her whole time to the family mostly husband isn't able to fulfil her needs (financially)
4.Inlaws become dominant to the daughter in law especially when she is orphan
5.in maximum cases she can't continue her studies after marriage, this might be the major reason of late marriage
6. Concept of polygamy without first wife's consent, that makes marriage fearful, because with age she can't compete with other girls (beauty, physique etc)
7. Drugs and alcohol consumption fashion in kashmiri boys
8.modern lavish wedding fashion like cancer that is spreading day by day in our culture (everyone can't afford)
Lame! the things that you say have been a factor always. Two of the most significant factors which lead to late marriage is girls education and drug abuse. How come guys and girls stay in relationships for years all together but cannot marry? Reason is global elite have pushed women into workforce and have more than halved the purchasing power. When 40 years ago a single man was able to earn for a family of six or more; now doesn't have enough purchasing power to even afford the school fees of his one child without cutting his needs from other areas of life. But still in Kashmir many things could have been resolved by adjustment and tolerance but our generation are intolerant psychos who can just live in their own fancy bubble.
Most of the assumptions are made up, the actual reason is no one will marry a man who earns less because he can't give much alimony. And girls refuse because they want to "enjoy" promiscuousness in their youth, then, in old age trap a rich man as an ATM card. These are the actual reasons.
I have seen my few female friends that sacrificed their job/career /financial security for the betterment of their family, but it is painful to see them in trouble now, that family including husband didn't even realise 'is she happy, is she satisfied with her life instead some males have some sort of so called male ego, that makes relationships more worse, rather if a man will make her secure why would a women will force him for job (thr could be ups and downs no doubt) , believe me guys if man makes women feel safe and happy, she loves to be house wife only! (cooking meals isn't a big deal, remember happy women can do it more efficiently, life is beautiful some just don't care about it, they just need meals cooked and like to be dominating, otherwise Islam gives a respectable position to women) 0:05
Alimony 😂
💯
Top notch cinematography ❤
Great cinematography🙌🏻🙌🏻
Thankyou
Nobody should feel helpless or fear in making a change in the extravagant riwayat. Loog 2-4-5 din baat karenge, tanz kasenge lekin you have to tell them saying nikkah ko asaan banana is a sunnah. Moreover, this change is only and only to please Allah so that He puts lots and lots of BARAKAH in the marriage afterwards. subhanAllah May Allah bless us with the Quwwat from Him.
Somewhere back of the head, we know that it's because of the culture. When the valley celebrates the culture more than the deen, than the religion. Things naturally become extravagant and far from simplicity
I got married at 27
My father said, "che chuk raath zamut, che kath karun khandar wune".
Kashmiri minds are full of laanath and fitne.
Im 32 now and planning to get second wife soon, living outside Kashmir, Alhumdulillah, don't want my kids to live in Kashmir.
That would mean you kids would be devoid of any understanding of living in a traditional cultured society. And because you cannot live anywhere apart from metros and cities your kids would never develop first principle knowledge about life. Kashmiris are blessed in numerous ways. Probably one of the last few muslim societies which exists like this
@@najmussaqibmahboobi1192 I live outside gandhrajye Bharat, in a traditionally Islamic neighborhood. I've guts to marry off my children after 12th if they want to, try the same in Kashmir (you won't even be able to imagine it)
@@najmussaqibmahboobi1192 Muslim society for name only, Kashmir is filled with drugs and zinah. Talking is not enough, if they was so islamic and traditional, why not get married early in life?
Why second marriage??..pehle wli ki zindagi kyu khrab kar rhe ho
Second marriage????? Nothing to be proud of!!!
These extravagant ceremonies and unnecessary expenditure have mainly been promoted by the city people and the other people follow sadly😢
Maybe the real reason is that we are not following the islamic teachings properly
Our prophet Muhammad saw told us to make marriage easy and make zinnah difficult but nowadays in kashmir everything is going opposite
aese extravagant shaadiyan krne walu ki ek alag society bnaoo... aor inko ussi jahanum mai rehne do
Most needed interviews
Keep it up 💯
Thankyou so much
Late marriage is multi dimensional problem, not only girls are at receiving but boys too end up at same place, huge demands of bridal family for Mehar and gifts are equally detrimental. In recent times we have seen marriages with no dowry, demands and extravagent expenses,even ruksati are done of cup of tea but meanwhile in same marriages when we look out for mehar and gifts, they touch sky......We need to change our approach towards the problem.
True
Rathed than strengthening their relationship with their spounce and building a strong bond, people nowadays are busy focusing on rituals and traditions.
People in kashmir are gumrah bas hasad se kaam lete hai... I request everyone to get their sisters married and for boys please go ahead with simple nikaah.. Apne maa baap ka mat manoo..
Boys should come out like in our society like lets boycott these evils then something will surely hppn in sha Allah
Bohatt acha content hai ❤
Thank you so much
As a kashmiri man, now I don't understand, who to blame?
Right💯💯 brother aap ki such bolta hai
Bro is spiting facts
Very sad that almost all Kashmiris feel and say that these are useless things still we are not able to do anything at individual level . We should take steps to stop this at ground level.
Indeed
Chill dude....There r people who drive ferrari, some alto n some can't even afford cycle.... It's all about the money n class... Fault lies in those poor n middle class people who try to compete with those ferrari guys.... Sb kuch apni aukaat mai kroge tou koi burden nahi bnn jayega
Good story
27 yr perfect 👌 marriage age
Only youth change this
❤
This is one of the reason but i guess unemployment is prime reason because our standard of life has risen and nobody wants a mediocre life now
We should first start with ourselves .....then society will change ...we usually say " wane gasay maine karneh seeath" yeh society nahi hain yeh hum hain jou yeh kartay hain...lehnga lagane ke bagair b shadi ho sakhti hain...hum puri life apne khud ke kapday lagatay hain ..shadi joy ke changing phase hota hain jis se adha emaan complete hita hain aus he din pata nahi payment ke lagatay hain....aur make up mtlb wou puri chnage huwe hiti hain wou koyi model lagte hain ...shadi ke din dulhan namaz b nahi padte hoge ..by saying ab makeup kharab hoga ...
Yeh b ki dulha raat ko aata hai. Jaise aus ko chori karne jana hita hain ...wou phr ghar subah pohnchtay hain ...
Hum yeh nhai dekhte hum kar kya jtaray hain...aj dowry ka koyi samne nahi bolta ..lekin aus ke b bohat saray faces hain ..kehwa khabar satim saal phir saal ..yeh kya haib ..mujhe samajh nahu aa raha... nikal ko jis liye easy banaya tha aj ..wahee..bidat bane hain aur hum ne uss cheez ko normalise kiya hain
When you loose faith in almighty
Kashmiriyun mai dekh kekhi bohat hai. This characteristic of kashmiri people is one of the biggest problems in the valley, especially among families that have decent amount of wealth. Hope it changes
Doomed
A broken society
Broken haram social structure
Wallahi this is totally haram...
We should have to take an initiative step. Which will made this system simple...
Kya karie kori moul ? 🙂
Simple nikkah and not worry abot what people think or say
I think boys have to play a major role here.
Stop this extravaganza.
Great video
Magar yaha Kay logon ko yeh baat samaj nahi aaye gi
Woh Iss dekhawat Kay samandar mein tair rahe hai aur Wapas chadna bhi nahi chahe gay kyun ki phir inki izzat kam hojaye gi
Afsoos hai
Kis mohabbat walay nabi ka tareeqa hum ne choda hai aur jhooti shaam mei. Zindagi basr kar rahe hai ....
There is indeed so much wastage of things in weddings! A lot of these oppressing things can be boycotted by the Groom and his family! Make it simple! You are actually creating evil!
If you really want to enjoy your youth without adultery (or haram) then marry early... 25 is ideal age..
Marriage nhi hotey hai kashmir mai bet lgte hai Sauda hota hai
Boys maximum 26, girls max 21...thats the ideal married age
21 is early.28 for both ages
@@AS-jo8qh hmmm....may be in urban settings 25 max girls
A human brain fully developes at 25.
Many boys at age 26 don't have a stable jobs and hence can't take care of the wife and kids with that.
It's not as easy as you think , there are many domestic abuse cases too hence it's very important for both genders to gain education. Most people should marry after 25 . That's an ideal age for both men and women. Anything beyond that, you need to sacrifice one of these things .
@@pepper2240 Sorry but nothing like that, full brain grows till the age of 17-18 , but thats growth, not development. A brain develops till the age he dies. U might have seen small 10-12 yr old children with brilliant minds, and 28-30yr old boys with idiotic mindset. Whats depends is the exposure aur upbringing that defines the brain development
I'm preparing for neet ...and I'm 20 years old...you tell me how will it be possible for me to get married so early.....
And now if you will say that early marriage is in Islam..I agree with that but in today's world being a girl financial independence is important because we never know what is written in our destiny....will everything be okay with our inlaws and husband....
So yeah ...
I think 27/28 is good age for marriage for both genders....
kashmiri sirf bolte hain koi sakhat step nahi le paye abi tak sirf suna
Very stereotypical society of kashmir. Lived n felt. Reason namard admi or overpowering parents
Beautifully captured