WHY do you ACTUALLY want success?
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- Опубликовано: 7 сен 2024
- Do you believe success will fulfill you as a person? Logically you might know its not the solution to life's problems, yet as humans we obsess over it. But do we even know why?
Hi there! Just a little mumblings about things that were on my mind today. I’m not entirely sure in I’m coherent or not but I’m just practicing speaking in an improvised way.
I’m just a girl, not the smartest nor dumbest, not the most of anything or the other, just simply speaking authentically to myself and my thoughts.
Thanks :)
One of the things we are afraid of the most is to end up on the street with no friends. You wanna acquire as much wealth as possible to have as much freedom in life. The ideal goal is to have so much money that you dont have to work for anyone else, you can wake up anytime you want and only do things you want and have a nice house and everything you need and being able to pay for any treatment you need in case you get sick. If you dont have that, you have to cope in one way or another. And obviously if you are succesful, it usually attracts people to you so are less likely to be alone. I think this is why people, at least on the fundamental level, want success.
Yes, you are right. The question I’m asking is.. then what? Once you get all of those things, what happens then? There’s never a guarantee that success will bring you friends. Usually, people who become successful often speak about how lonely they feel and how difficult it is to find real true friends and a partner because of the fear that they’re being taken advantage of.
Chasing success only gives you financial freedom but it will not fix all the problems you face as a person within you.
Have you ever heard of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs? I’m speaking about the self-actualization part. Following one’s soul purpose. There’s tons of stories of heavily successful people quitting their jobs to become farmers, or seclude themselves from society, or become monks. Why? Because we’re told financial success will fix everything, but there’s something more interpersonal within us that it won’t fix.
Yes money is important, until it satisfies our basic needs. But then after that, it doesn’t mean anything.
That’s just how I see it :)
@@AnLittleAlex Are you saying people shouldn't even try to be successful because it will mean nothing to them after it did what it was supposed to do (it satisfied their basic needs) or are you saying people should do it and then have a plan b? Im kind of not sure what exactly is the message. I would also suggest that even after satisfying the basic needs, the wealth can still mean a lot because it can help you to help others way more than without it. So if someone likes to help others because it feels good, isn't it logical to want to help as much as possible? Something tells me Bill Gates gets way more than nothing when he helps solving hunger in Africa:)
@@johncombo No the message is to think deeper about why one wants success and not to believe that it will satisfy your every need. Like I mention in the video, for me success is about helping people that I love. I think it’s normal to want wealth, and a way out of that 9-5. That’s the dream for everyone, right? I’m not saying not to work hard to achieve success, I’m just saying to look a little beyond, think about it more philosophically. How will success add to your souls purpose in life?
Oh my god, I'm still going through some of your past videos and this one REALLY resonates with me. I think about this question ALL the time. What is my core motivation? I think so many of our goals and ideas of "success" are conditioned into us by the society/culture we grew up in. I think once you achieve a certain amount of money, then getting more money just starts to feel pointless and meaningless. I've had moments of feeling utterly empty and sad. Spiritual teachers like Osho, Eckhart Tolle and Gary Zukav talk about aligning your desires with the desires of the Universe. You are no longer driven by what your ego wants, but instead, you are surrendered to whatever the Universe/God/Existence wants for you. I feel like I'm in this surrendered state now, where I utterly surrender my ego to the will of the Whole/Existence/Universal God Force Energy (whatever word you want to use). And I think the Universe simply wants us to love people and spread compassion everywhere. This is what gives my life meaning and fulfillment now.
I feel the same way! I came to that realization recently, that most people that I am surrounded by have this idea of success that completely differs from my idea of success. If you’re someone who’s completely in tune with the divine in some fashion, you can often feel that emptiness within them and yourself. For a long time I decided to just let things be, let the universe take its course and I am simply just following my own intuition. Never forcing anything, but believing that things will run their course how they are meant to. Our purpose as humans is simply to be and to love. In all possible forms.
@@AnLittleAlex Not sure if this will resonate with you or not, but like I said above, I am a big fan of this guy, Gary Zukav. And he explains that we can only make choices either based on fear or love. That's it. So, your intention is really the key. For example, if your intention is to make money and be a "success" because you want to impress people, then that is actually fear-motivated (trying to get love from outside of you). But if your intention is to make money so that you can spread more loving energy into the world, then that is an intention of love. So, I try to think about my intention a lot.
We are here to add a little bit to the universe. And then we vanish blowing in the wind.
My only achievement in life was making my wife happy, love, laugh and smile.
That is wonderful and an immensely beautiful way to live
I've achieved big(ish) success and also seen it slowly fade as well.
Isn't it the same for everyone? Autonomy, freedom, options, in the goal of self-actualization?
(Also, good luck going thru life without hurting ppl, you might as well be a hermit)
I think thinking you're doing things for ppl is a romantic ideal, but not the root reason.
IMO, we do things for ppl because we literally can't survive without the group support. That's the pyramid's base behind our social tendencies.
Like you said, you do things for ppl cuz its for you; purpose, community, belonging, thrive.
It IS purely selfish, the romantic ideals are the higher vibrations of human growth, but ultimately its just to stay alive.
Apart from sustenance and material possessions you could never build on your own, we need each other to bounce back our psychology; aka remind us why we're alive.
Its the same as why fishes swim in schools; its for their own survival, and by contributing themselves in numbers, its ALSO for the group, because whichever the predator eats, the rest of the group survives.
Still, nice to hear your thoughts, you're obviously a full decade younger than me :) Its nice to see I how naive I was in my youth as well
You’re totally right, maybe I may have not expressed myself as profoundly as I was thinking but by doing things for people I mean it in the sense that you describe. We as humans NEED others, it’s something I learnt after (as you mention) being a hermit for most of my life. And I think I actually mention that in the video that this idea is also selfish in nature - the desire to “help” others. You are right, it is a romantic and idealistic way to think. But community is something we lack at this point in time, it’s why my generation feels so utterly lonely and devout of purpose. A lot of my generation focuses on material possessions without really thinking why we desire those things in the first place, and how they can never really truly fulfill us. If we achieve these things, then what? The more you ask yourself WHY you want the things you want, you figure out it’s rooted in selfishness. The goal is to surpass that, and find one’s true inner purpose, devout of any external factors. But often one comes to that realization after having achieved those things. I definitely am on the path to figuring that out.
Thanks for your insight:)
@AnLittleAlex isn't that Christ in nature? Transcending selfishness is selfless - christ consciousness. It's actually quite simple. But if I tell you I'll spoil the fun of the traumatic passage of life's impact on you 🤣
How old are you, for science 🤔
@@SoldierofGod88 hahaha, I’m 25 :)
What is the meaning of life? There is none per se. We give life a meaning. Nothing comes from outside. We have a single task in life and that is to be happy. BM
You’re right, it is to simply be. :)
I never supposed to live pass 25; jokes on them, I'm still alive.
Meh. I'll die at 50.