Har raat sote wakt mere aansu aa hi jaate h , choti si trigger karne wali baat koi bol de main rone lagti hoon and my mental health is truly fucked up ,and my mom's mental health is even more fucked up ,that's why mere saath aisa kar rhi h woh ,mere uthne sone ka schedule unhe itna effect karne laga h ki , meri din ki shuruaat rote hue hoti h ,end rote hue hoti h ,I am hypersensitive every time, and it only depends on me , mereko agar apna aur mummy ka meantal health thik karna h toh ghisna padega ,truly needed this video. Abhi main apne lowest p thi sir,video dekhte hue bhi ro Rahi thi but end m nhi ro rhi , thanks sir.
It's sad how u just explained my childhood , parents were supposed to hold me when i cry , when i fall , when i fail but it was always opposite. But I'll be better than them . I'll never hit my child , never put them through so much emotional and physical pain that my parents did . My whole childhood was just me getting beaten everyday for the dumbest reason possible now that i think . I'll first get independent and get away from these morons who never knew how to raise a child . Their stress , their lack of resources, their failed relationships do not justify hitting and bullying their own child who is supposed to look upto them for love and empathy, case .
To all my brothers and sisters who had to go through this tough time in life ... I'm super proud of you and I know you are super strong and super awesome and I'm grateful to share this earth with you in this life time you will always be the best for me .... lots of love ❤️
Yakeen Maan,tu khud bhi waisa hai,aur iss baat ko uss samay bhul jyga,aur waisa hi harkat karega... Aur inn kadwi baato ke baad agar tune iska ulta kaam kar diya,to mujhe khushi hi hogi.
Ayush he is feeling the scenario and seeing it in that way. Jo cheeze log face karte hai apne environment mein reh reh ke. Fir bolte hai duniya harami aur chutiyo se bhari pari hai. Bhai khud septic tank se nai nikal na chahtai ho koi aakai nikalne wala. Khud hi ko nikal na parta hai
Yess, no one has addressed it, the role of environmental factors, the childhood trauma stress is the key of adult chronic disease, but no one talks about that, rational thought should be spreaded, you are helping me since 2018, and thank you for existing...
Jo log logical hokar nahi soch paate yaa deep thinking nahi rakhte unhe iss bande ki video Chutiyaa lagegii But vou log jo sach me smjhte kuchh vou smjh jayengay aur kaafi cheeze gain kar lengay inki video se Thnq brother🙏
My childhood was the same and now I'm 18 and seen alot of fightings between my parents and now I want to avoid any fights and any argument, if anyone talks to me with a high tone voice i get scared internally ( even I have a good fitness, muscularity and height ) I am 6ft but when someone talks a little harshly i get a little scared even if the person is 4ft and not muscular i get scared and also I'm a easy target for bullies. Edit : i was bullied beaten up in front of school, beaten up in class, slapped for no reason by boys and also girls and i never raised my voice now I'm trying to fight for myself and get some courage
stay strong my man , life is so long that you have enough room to make yourself from scratch , be proud of yourself that you endured all those hard days and night and still standing on your own legs and holding down your burden on your own ,make your circle good , good person around you will surely help you out in such situations and at the end "DON'T LOOSE HOPE".
I literally go to college and spend hours there (even if I don't have classes) just to get alone and peace time. This guy is fu*king right here, Please take care of yourself guys, cut off toxic ppl even if it's your family
Same dude, I didn't clear jee and go to teir-3 college. The disgust I see on my father's face is so depressing and it screams that I will remain a failure. My father always fights with mother. I just want to get out of this situation and become a successful person. btw sending good wishes to you too !
This is my problem but I'm used to it but it hurts sometimes a lot. Sara self confidence aur focus ghus jata hai jab parents kuch aisa keh dete hai which you are expecting to them.
I needed this video so much for about one year ago. I was going thru severe family problems and I shared it with 2 3 friends but they had no solution to give. Most of the people were showing sympathy to me which was frustrating me even more. Bcz I needed motivation to live a happier life. I wanted to be happier but I couldn't be due to unpredictable circumstances around me. But I got the motivation in your words which I needed the most. After watching this video, I've got so much courage and have become so much optimistic towards my life. I literally had the mentality that life will never get better. Thank you so much 💕
Chant "om namah shivai"... Regularly. Be empathetic to everyone every organism. Connect with God... You will get every solutions and road. God's light will come to your life in different different forms. Be kind, be thankful.. No matter what you go through.
Yes I also facing some problems in past but when started to watch you and acharya prashant and understand things most of things are on track now and feeling more happy about it 😇
just wanna say thankyou...thankyou shwetabh for making this video...from last 2 years i have been revisiting my past right from childhood till now and i was feeling very confused abt how my mother could do that to me and ...now when i am 19 and look back at little girl going through gaslighting silent treatments for weeks by everyone in the house...physical abuse...manipulation....taunts for eating a little extra....i was feeling really guilty for blaming my parents u know in india parents have their own GOD complex...and i was very confused abt thinking that my mother is a narcissist i was giving myself every false hope to not conclude...the worst that people can do is to make u feel not welcomed to make u feel that u dont belong....to call u a burden and wish if u were dead of the pneumonia u caught when u were born..they blame u for their dysfunctional marriage...for many this country these people are none other than their parents.... but as they say healing starts the moment we realise we were hurt....thanku for this
@@Arnav_22212 i am so sorry it happened...and please don't fall into this trap of empathizing with the perpetrators...your parents are perpetrators...don't hate them ofcourse...but they don't give a shit abt u achieving things and becoming independent...as they will lose their easy target...but u have to standup for urself...talk back when u see wrong happening to u....talk back when they belittle u...people will call u mannerless etc...they might turn the whole world against u by bitching abt u Wrongly...but Don't give up...and realise they only care when u achieve something not while u are in the process of achieving it.....its like poori journey me hurdles daalenge lekin agar phir bhi succeed kr gye to end me saara crdit khaane aa jayenge...hum parents h humne kiya..!
same thing happened with me.... And I thought that there's some communication barrier that's why it's happening. But whenever I used to express my emotions , I expected that she would understand me now but nopes... I was always seen as the girl who is throwing tantrums which backfired me. It became more and more toxic as the time passed.She started to do it more as I was getting weak and exhausted. Not only I was suffering mentally, i was suffering physically too (severely underweight) but still she didn't care. After 3 4 yrs i realised that the only way left is to stay away from her. Anyone who is reading this if ur suffering from such relationships it's okk everything will be fine in the end, nd don't blame urself u have already tried enough to fix it. It's okk to walk away from such relationships for ur own peace of mind 💜🤗
@Archie you know the worst thing in our society is this half knowledge of things. And secondly the God complex which you mentioned is another fuel addition factor. I am not trying to promote blasphemy here. But the psychological understanding of things where in you are told that parents are gods form and all elders are God and teachers are God. This is soo not fair because the abuse inflicted on a child comes mostly from these soo called figures. Who think mai toh bhagwan hu. Seriously Tu bhagwaan nai chaman chutiya hai. Be very very modest and never consider yourself to be the best at anything. Learning is an ongoing process. And when you need help reach out. I know it becomes very difficult for a child to trust someone else or a stranger when the so called God figures are the ones who inflict the abuse and say that don't mix up with the outside world. No one will believe you. Because they are trying to protect their arse in the name of privacy. And being called a burden to the child which has happened with me as well. As I had learning disability as a child I know the mental sociological long term effects it takes. I knew at some point I needed help. And I reached out. So that is why when ever I see a person struggling I try to lend in my hand. If they wish to accept it. And some thing we all should follow is lending the helping hand. If you have come out of such situations you will definitely know how to help someone else.
This video is soo soo relatable to me...lga ki mere lie h . meri story h Puri...I have narcissistic father..and the environment of my family is genuinely very toxic......since my childhood I have seen a lot....that I can't describe in words thanks swetabh for making this video..... It's really motivating 💜
I was in a toxic friendship with a girl , she was using me for her work and she was manupulating me , i finally decided to ignore her by watching your videos posted 4 years ago where i know about many bitter truths. Thanks to Swetabh Ganguar for saving me from a very dangerous friend zone. By your videos i am now focusing on myself by working on my body for 6 months. I am focusing my studies to crack my jee exam in 2024! Edit- Thanks to everyone for your suggestions!🙂
@Aman Modanwal nhi It's one of the shwethab video were he also told and my personal experience in daily life also That boys giving unnecessary and Unrequirable soldier in hoping that we will get impressed by them And when we say no they hate that girl and says she was manipulating them ✌🏻kabhi kabhi room se bahar nikal ke real life dekha karo toh sayad janoge ki kya ho rh You are literally trapped in bubble of judging others
yaar shwetabh sir has really in-depth knowlege in almost all the things. i don't know how they gain but i really want to know about the good social books, knowledgeable websites, forums, podcast from shwetabh sir perspective. So we can also gain some good info from the internet.
I'm literally going through worst phase of my life.. One day I searched my thoughts coming in my mind swetabh video just changed my perspective.. Although alot has happened but still able to handle my situation with his help
I just want to say thank you. two of your videos one on adhd and this one is so relatable for me thank you for doing what you do. Thank you so much really needed your perspective. Before i didn't know what's the need for this content but now i do when I dig deep.
Much needed for this day...Goung for therapy tomorrow. You said all the things just apt for helpung anyone facing childhood toxicity results in their adult life.
Shwetab bhai bahut sahi baat kaha the toxic stress is soo bad. I have my own personal experience with it. Not just toxic stress and stressful mental emotional situations create a massive impact in a child's growing up. The thing is that never fight in front of kids in that way. Problem hai toh sort out karna seekho. Once you have a child you have to forget everything and focus on the child. And people fail to understand this kind of environment starts a chain reaction of effects. Kuch baar aisa bhi hota hai that I have dated people tried to help at a certain point but until and unless the person is not able to put the effort. And they tend to get into similar toxic relationship in the future. And then that comes out on the right person. And then they start being abusive. So please guys if you need help please get help. Please reach out to us we will help you out. Hum bhi nikle hain iss situation se.
Going through exact same situation. I'm Killing myself everyday inside my mind. I was thinking about moving out but at the same time was holding back Thank you shwetabh for making this video🙏❤
I am so Inspired by shwetabh, just by watching this video. Even though not in a degree, he has so much knowledge about so many things in neuroscience. I am impressed. Like to kmow about all this I had to study for like 2 years in my degree. Hats off shwetabh.
Your talk gives reality of world..i living in daydream. Always put me down my myself. But your perspective towards life is very diffrent... 'ladayi dusro se nahi khudse hai.'
Hello sir ( Anyone reading this please reply) This is my daily schedule 7-8:30 - Yoga, and preparing for office. 8:30-10 - Travel to office 10 - 6:30 - office 6:30 - 7:45 - travel back home 8 - 9 - Gym 9 - 9:30- Prepare dinner 9:30 - 9:45 - dinner 9:45 - 10: 30 - video editing 10:30 - 11:00 - learn new songs on guitar/record vocals 11 - 11:30 - read book Sir how should I get more time as I am unable to get success and still struggling. How should I get success faster and escape this 8-8 job loop. Please help as I am suffering this since 3 years and people behind me came forward and are successful.
Let's fuckin go guys , just achieve your goals , live your dreams , make your parents happy , change profession if you are not satisfied , keep changing till you are not able to pour yourself in your work , kaam hi jeevan hai , toh kaam esa chuno ki usme flow karo , or kuch nhi chahiye jeevan me 💯💯🌻 thank you shwetabh bhaiya
Shwetabh brother thank you so much i by chance followed your advice way before you release this video and now I'm really happy and feeling like a person I also had toxic parents and in short I was living in straight hell So I just told them i wanna study in a university which is far away from my hometown so I started living in hostel It was hard to convince them but I did it and finally I'm free feeling like a bird 🐦 You are a great Problem solver shwetabh brother. 🙏🙏🙏
@@Anonymous-pq6bg mere hisaab mai agle saal transfer wagera hota hai toh dekhlo Yaa fir simple cheez ghar mai raho hi Matt sirf khaana khaane aur sone ke liye Ghar jaao Baaki dosto ke saath khelo, ghumo yaa fir liberary wagera mai padhai karne jaao. Koi Hobby club join karlo jaise koi cricket club yaa Aisa kuch. Ghar pe raho matt in short. Mai suggest karunga tum acharya Prashant ko sunna suru Karo tumhari life sudhar jaaegi.
*I can releate so much I am also in this toxic environment my father is also narcisst and he is beer adict because of his abusive behavior i also feel depressed and face anxiety issues.* *I am currently in matric class and not financially independent*
This one is a banger ! pehela laga video sirf abusive parents pe hogi.....but end tak in a way wide range of problems are touched.....and the end part really hits hard......
I know so many toxic ,rageful,Manipulative,victim card,bpd,bipolar,narc, passive aggressive ppl,they have degree n knowledge About their feild...n just because of this...they have right for toxicity...they think nothing is wrong with them....totally Ignorant....jiski bhi life me jate hai tabahi machate hain🙏
Why did it feel like a personal- one on one session. I am grateful to my parents that they provided everything materialistically but I could never develop a better emotional intelligence. Have been suffering emotionally for the past many years. Took tons and tons of wrong decisions and now living through the results of those decisions. Now every day there will be some fights verbally! It is just hell. But for last two years, I have been discovering solutions to internally strengthen myself. It is such a slow burn.
Hi Shwetabh, I just wanted to thank you. I've been going through a weirdly emotionally unstable phase, while dealing with Masters applications. Masters is what I've been dreaming of since I knew how to speak, and I've been freaking out that I'll ruin my chances by self-sabotage and these emotions. But your videos are reminding me of the winner I was, and what 18 year old me would tell me if she saw me now. I'm listening to you and trying to focus on my work, I just wish I had found your videos earlier.
Bhai jbse apke video dekhne laga hu mera aas pass ke log bolte h ki mai sakt londa ban jaunga wagera but I know after listening to you i have become more responsible in life and now I know what are my duties as a son , lover , student , friend, brother and a human. Thanks for making my life much simpler not in all the ways but many ways . ❤️🙏
Ye poora video main ache se relate kar pa raha hu kyuki main khud ye sab kar chuka hu.. Bas mujhe nahi pata tha ki ye saari cheezein mere sath hui hai is wajah se meri mental health improve hui hai.. Aaj poori process pata chali.. I love your videos shwetabh bhaiya! 🙌❤
Both my parents grew up with parents who would verbally abuse them and taunt them so that they would grow up to be responsible adults (the logic).....my parents were very neglectful towards me and growing up with a schizophrenic brother....he was violent....ever since i was 6-7 yrs old....i have been experiencing constant fear of getting attacked by him (strangulation) OR verbal abuse from parents...... The cherry on top is that when now i confront my parents they would just act like they are the victim here.....plus i did show signs of depression 7 yrs ago while i was getting ready to for counseling...my mother pulled me aside and said "the moment you step inside that room (for counseling) you will be known as a PAGAL just like your brother so it is up to you whether to go or not" .....and i didn't go..... Thank You mom...... I could have had an easier life as a 15yr old but thanks to you..... nothing as beautiful as having toxic parents.
We need to normalize going to therapy.... what's the use of education if we still think therapy is not for us... even a healthy person needs to get his brain checked....the brain is going to be with us until we die then why do we neglect it?
I'm going through this since childhood now i became 22 i'm glad he talk about the level of tangencies behind it i thought this is my problem only cause i tried to make understand to my close friend but he also said it's normal...people around me never gonna understand this...that's why i'm into healing & spirituality Brahmacharya deeply i don't want to attract such relationships in this material world so im trying to make myself worthy...grew up with this environment i have lost and killed many little things about me like been in one sided relationship thrice and broken myself up in the past and continuously healing myself through manifestations or letting go of the things in life still im with my family but i do isolate myself in a room which look-like storeroom but i having a desk and chair i will try to moveout physically completely will plan for new home even while getting a first job. Thank you Shwetabh bhaiya LOVE YOU 🧡
I am living in a very toxic environment rn. Esa lag raha hai jaise life mein kuch interesting chiz hai hi nahi sab kuch bekar lagta hai. Aur childhood trauma bhi hai. Fuck yaar😭😭 I will leave this environment within 1 year
the idea of doing best in whatever resources you got is amazing like michael bisping became the middleweight champ with one eye he could have of i dont have one eye i have bad knee and just retire but he didnt
i am 24 i have been facing the same problem, but I know how what to do in life, just every night I take anti depression medicine and sleep. everything repeating like a cycle in my life
This is really what I was looking for. Even though I don't see any violence in my family. But I'm struggling a lot mentally. It feels like my life is stuck and is not moving forward even if I'm hard working towards my goal. You said absolutely right. One has to physically distance him/herself first. That's why I'm looking for a job out of my city and as far as possible. I literally have no friends at least not like-minded and supportive people. I often cry a lot. I am black sheep of my family. That's why everyone despise me and underestimate me a lot. That's why it feels so lonely. There's no support from my family. And it is giving a lot of trauma, negativity and stress. My brain is constantly on the negative phase even though I'm aware and conscious of it. I've no people to share my feelings and that's why it's bottling up inside. I'm really tired of pretending who I'm not. My mother and society expects me to be in a certain way to live in a certain way but I just can't. And it's getting frustrated day by day. I've had many suicide attempts and sometimes try to commit horrendous and horrible acts. You literally give me a sign to physically distance from my family. And I will not ignore it. I'm a very curious person so I often think about how serial killers and criminal's minds work. And how they become what they are. I've done a lot of research about it. And what I found is what you said in the video. It's all about toxic environment and childhood trauma that pass through parents to child. That's why it's been for centuries. People who have had brought up in a very toxic and violent household are more likely to become criminal. The chaos and violence and crimes you see all around the world is the direct product of all of the trauma and very f**ked up mental health. People who are traumatic and with f***ed up mental health are more likely to act out their trauma and suppressed rage through violence. And I can guarantee because I myself experienced this trauma by first hand. Now I can completely empathize with these people. Thank you Swetabh for bringing this topic and awareness to general people. I have a very great interest in psychology and philosophy. I've got all this knowledge through my curiosity of human existence and mind. It's very very crucial to heal your trauma. And the very first step is to get far away as much as you can physically.
Bhai Jo hai apne pass use mai apna best do....or Rona nahi .....kya positive thoughts hai........❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏 Ase he humlogo ke uper kirpiya banaye rakhe.........
Lotsa people in India suffering w mental health just can not really visit a therapist because of different reasons including affordability and societal constraints, man. Their only hope is gathering as much knowledge about what's happening with them as possible from internet and apply different techniques to eradicate mental difficulties from their life. Besides, I think it's possible for people to treat themselves on their own if they are willing to learn about what's happening them on a deep level because I’ve done that myself and so have million others. Something to consider 🙏🏻
i can see over the years,the vocab and sentences you use are more psychological than normal evryday words you used to use and for that reason i feel discconnected and aloof when youre solving anyone's problem rather you seem like a different entity which one can not relate to, you sound very cool though but that personal vibe you had is fading bro but still change is the part of life so what can i say.... keep it up man !!!!
I came first time on this channel and I loved his explanation, nobody talks about such mental issues neither school nor college tried to come closer to such issues.
#ShwetabhBhai I am Mahesh Thorve(18years old, JEE Aspirant) & this guy in the DP is my big brother(5 years older than me & An IITian from IITB)...Since last 2 years I have been using YT, watching 2 to 3 anime,got introduced to DesiHipHop & found alot of nice content creators(lndian & foreign)...& I'm really glad that I found you in 2020(before you met vedant&prakhar)...& these(YT, DISTRACTIONS, ETC.) are one the reasons why I didn't focused on studies....BUT when you uploaded that #ADHD video I was so fu*king shocked, BCZ nothing felt so much relatable...I started journaling & using alarm clock method but never sticked to it...I always quitted(more than A #MILLION TIMES in less than a day)...Still I observed alot of symptoms of ADHD in me
#SYMPTOMS :- {like always having 10 to 15 TABS opened in my browser & constantly switching between all the TABS ; In conversations, I always #INFODUMP & thus, people get bored really quickly ; I can't expain anything 'in short' to anyone(can't even expain to myself);when I procrastinate about talking to someone Sometimes, I am genuinely funny, confident(I am not like this in reality); While procrastinating, I speak in english very clearly/fluently(but when it comes to reality, I start having anxiety, kabhi kabhi toh haat kapne lag jaate hai); In conversations, I always get blanked when someone asks me something specific{especially in front of my father & brother} ; always vibrating my legs ; procrastinating ; doing Maladaptive Daydreaming about being in a relationship or about achieving something big{like going into IIT} ; Always made great plans but always failed to execute them even a single day ; then started doing pomodoro & aloted only 3 imp tasks for the day but still couldn't sticked to it ; always started execising but always quitted ; sometimes while brushing my teeth I start procrastinating & waste 15 to 25minutes without even knowing[maybe BCZ of time blindness] ; I only work just before deadlines [even in that I try to waste my time{#Escapism}] OR I work when parent's or my brother scolds me(BCZ I have already told them the truth that I wasted my 2 IMP YEARS) ; etc...........} But I am not gonna tell my parents about it for some time now BCZ they lost all the trust they had on me & they will think that I'm giving excuses. So, the only option that is left for me is to build the trust(which is gonna take some fu*king amount of effort but I will give my best)
#OurSocioeconomicStatus :- My father was never rich...He came from a village to here in this city(Aurangabad, Maharashtra) & worked in a hotel {But, I have observed since my childhood that he is really good at talking & have great contacts}...so, our socio-economic status was never that high but now my brother has a job & my father is also earning well(still not really rich by money BUT both are really rich by there heart's & they are giving me this 2nd chance to prove myself in front them & in front of myself)...especially my brother has seen more struggle BCZ of money than me...Also once we had a house of 1room & a kitchen which was really fu*king big for little me...NOW, we have a 2bhk house of our own since last 10 years...
After that video, I found a TedTalk of Jessica McCabe(founder of #HowToADHD yt channel) & felt alot more relatable... right now I just got admission into a droppers batch for jee(I am giving another year for JEE)...I know shwetabh that things change slowly & that's why I am again starting for the 1000th time...my dropper classes has started since 2 last days & I need to make an habit of working consistently(WHICH IS REALLY HARD BUT I'M TRYING) ; I am also going to improve my English, Hindi & Marathi(my marathi is good but still I sometimes get blanked [Maybe BCZ of ADHD or SOMETHING ELSE])... #ReasonWhyIwantToGetIntoIIT :- I want to get into IIT BCZ I will have a lot of opportunities to discover a different side of myself more there, I can try & learn different things(hobbies,etc...) there... Also you were gonna make more videos related to ADHD, no pressure...I love these streams as well,I get great perspectives from them as well... Also give us an update on your #60dayDATA (data of your own way to tackle ADHD or something like that) which you were talikng about in one of your livestreams?... I'd been trying since ages to write this, but always quitted... & Finally , Tell me what are your thoughts [ OR Your different #GangstaPerspectives ] on my Story???(Obviously, I couldn't write about my entire life but I think I wrote most of the things) It would be great if you take my problem & make a video(If Possible) on this shwetabh bhai... I wrote all this comment 3 months ago on your ''ghus jao padhai mein'' wala video... Update:- I am in depression, anxiety, & for a long time I was even having suicidal thoughts...But, I told my parents about my depression & my suicidal thoughts, they listened & we had a 2-3hr long really EMOTIONAL talk & now, we are ok...But, still I cheat on myself by wasting days after days...One of the most Important things which I learned from u is 'how to think' & Now, I don't take sides, don't follow anybody, a lot of times I think critically...but, I am not even able to talk properly infront of my parents, I get blank & not even able to make proper sentences/ not able to choose correct words & because of that I often offend them...I am always angry at them for no reason(I just can't control that), I can't talk to someone in a phonecall infront of my parents/brother, My maladaptive daydreaming about me being in a (sexual)relationship with an imaginary person has became a serious addiction, also watching too much porn lately & I cry a lot lately,etc.....
So, brother I know, what u are going through in recent times & so that's why take your time bhai & I will wait for days & months for that video, because I know that I will get a new perspective :) Also, whenever I listen music(for 2 to 3 times), then that music stays in my mind for atleast 2-3 days straight & thus, I can't focus properly...So, can u plz suggest me some music(As u have some good music taste)...How to improve music taste? Plz, make a video on my problem(whenever u have time)... Also give us an update on your #60dayDATA (data of your own way to tackle ADHD or something like that) which you were talikng about in one of your livestreams, so,what happened to that?? Also, a suggestion, Plz bring a proper series of video's on #HowToThink
BTW, i am really sorry, but I've typed this comment 5-6 months ago & i've been reposting it in every single new videos of yours(except controversy wali)
Mein toxic environment mein bada huya. Aaj ki date mein kisi per bhi trust nahi ker pata hu. Bewajah gussa aa jaata hai....jab bhi ghar mein raho toh aisa lagta hai body ki energy drain ho rahi hai or bahar nikal jao toh sabkuch theekh....parents ke bare mein kisi apne dost ko bhi nahi bata sakte hai kyuki Aisa lagta hai woh judge kerenge....
My boy friend had this toxic family where he was only put down n down ... we were serious about getting married so we both decided to get married and now we are staying away from his family... My dad also stays with us and my husband is so happy now... he is actually happy staying away from his parents and he never wants to even see their faces ... for me I always had a very loving family that's why my parents always supported me in everything I did ... when I went wrong my parents helped me get over that situation and gave me that courage I'm blessed ...
Thank you Bhai meri life me X , environment , friends, responsibility ne meri aesi lagai he me hamesa compro karti rahe gai bas aaj to aap aankhe khol di 🙏
Thanks shwetabh bhaiya you addressed it right. Currently going through hypochondria, mood swings , toxicity , and the irony is those people giving toxicity don't even know what they injecting and my last armour to beat this is, I think about my future family i.e. my children, my wife . Child trauma makes you a complete opposite personality of you . I sometimes introspect and think this is not who i am. Yeah as you said I am making hell lot of efforts to get out of this envoirmennt and then heal myself I guess it will take easily a decade to reverse the damage, it is sad but life!!
I generally split my problems into small pieces, then try to solve the easiest things first, after that go toward time-consuming things, and never get upset cause my mind is too strong.
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Bro,
Mera gaana sunoge to aapki aag bujh jaayegi 😉😂
Toxicity me toh baap hai Indians Bina maa behan ki gaali k khana gale se nhi utarta 😂
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Bhnchhod aukaad me bola kr...
Har raat sote wakt mere aansu aa hi jaate h , choti si trigger karne wali baat koi bol de main rone lagti hoon and my mental health is truly fucked up ,and my mom's mental health is even more fucked up ,that's why mere saath aisa kar rhi h woh ,mere uthne sone ka schedule unhe itna effect karne laga h ki , meri din ki shuruaat rote hue hoti h ,end rote hue hoti h ,I am hypersensitive every time, and it only depends on me , mereko agar apna aur mummy ka meantal health thik karna h toh ghisna padega ,truly needed this video. Abhi main apne lowest p thi sir,video dekhte hue bhi ro Rahi thi but end m nhi ro rhi , thanks sir.
Hope you will be ok same goes with me 🙃
Great how's your life?
How are you now ?
It’s hard for some people iam in this situation trying to escape so I can save myself 😢
It's sad how u just explained my childhood , parents were supposed to hold me when i cry , when i fall , when i fail but it was always opposite. But I'll be better than them . I'll never hit my child , never put them through so much emotional and physical pain that my parents did . My whole childhood was just me getting beaten everyday for the dumbest reason possible now that i think . I'll first get independent and get away from these morons who never knew how to raise a child . Their stress , their lack of resources, their failed relationships do not justify hitting and bullying their own child who is supposed to look upto them for love and empathy, case .
Going through similar situation, i wish u luck brother 👍
Best of luck 👍👍We all are running the same marathon.
Ya man I can feel what you're going through , I hope things will get better
To all my brothers and sisters who had to go through this tough time in life ... I'm super proud of you and I know you are super strong and super awesome and I'm grateful to share this earth with you in this life time you will always be the best for me .... lots of love ❤️
Yakeen Maan,tu khud bhi waisa hai,aur iss baat ko uss samay bhul jyga,aur waisa hi harkat karega...
Aur inn kadwi baato ke baad agar tune iska ulta kaam kar diya,to mujhe khushi hi hogi.
The rage in his voice shows he is not faking his energy and truly feels for those subjects
He himself suffered from this toxic parenting so he knows how we feel.
Ayush he is feeling the scenario and seeing it in that way. Jo cheeze log face karte hai apne environment mein reh reh ke. Fir bolte hai duniya harami aur chutiyo se bhari pari hai. Bhai khud septic tank se nai nikal na chahtai ho koi aakai nikalne wala. Khud hi ko nikal na parta hai
Yess, no one has addressed it, the role of environmental factors, the childhood trauma stress is the key of adult chronic disease, but no one talks about that, rational thought should be spreaded, you are helping me since 2018, and thank you for existing...
Yes childhood stress has very dangerous nd chronic effects on our personality but alas it is avoided
Only guy on youtube, who really understands problems, also gives the relevant advice. 💙
Acharya Prashant also.
@@InvinciblePepe don't you know Acharya prashant is Fucked up
...in India+ acharya
@@InvinciblePepe wtf
@@InvinciblePepe Achariya has some serious issues
Jo log logical hokar nahi soch paate yaa deep thinking nahi rakhte unhe iss bande ki video
Chutiyaa lagegii
But vou log jo sach me smjhte kuchh vou smjh jayengay aur kaafi cheeze gain kar lengay inki video se
Thnq brother🙏
I needed this video 3 years ago, glad someone can see the video who needs it now
To bro abhi kis cheez ki jrurat h.. Aja chal Baat krte h us bare me.. I m also a life advisor
@@cricketupdatesbyashu863 bhaiyya apne kya ukhaada hai life me?
My childhood was the same and now I'm 18 and seen alot of fightings between my parents and now I want to avoid any fights and any argument, if anyone talks to me with a high tone voice i get scared internally ( even I have a good fitness, muscularity and height ) I am 6ft but when someone talks a little harshly i get a little scared even if the person is 4ft and not muscular i get scared and also I'm a easy target for bullies.
Edit : i was bullied beaten up in front of school, beaten up in class, slapped for no reason by boys and also girls and i never raised my voice now I'm trying to fight for myself and get some courage
Same boat as you brother...can really feel ya❤️
@@ashuraj2763 ❤️ feels good that I'm not alone
stay strong my man , life is so long that you have enough room to make yourself from scratch , be proud of yourself that you endured all those hard days and night and still standing on your own legs and holding down your burden on your own ,make your circle good , good person around you will surely help you out in such situations and at the end "DON'T LOOSE HOPE".
keep fighting bro
Bro keep fighting for what you deserve till your last breath.
It's too late to step back
And don't expect anything from people or this world.
I literally go to college and spend hours there (even if I don't have classes) just to get alone and peace time. This guy is fu*king right here, Please take care of yourself guys, cut off toxic ppl even if it's your family
Same dude, I didn't clear jee and go to teir-3 college. The disgust I see on my father's face is so depressing and it screams that I will remain a failure. My father always fights with mother. I just want to get out of this situation and become a successful person. btw sending good wishes to you too !
I did the same but what will you do once the college is over?
This is my problem but I'm used to it but it hurts sometimes a lot.
Sara self confidence aur focus ghus jata hai jab parents kuch aisa keh dete hai which you are expecting to them.
I needed this video so much for about one year ago. I was going thru severe family problems and I shared it with 2 3 friends but they had no solution to give. Most of the people were showing sympathy to me which was frustrating me even more. Bcz I needed motivation to live a happier life. I wanted to be happier but I couldn't be due to unpredictable circumstances around me. But I got the motivation in your words which I needed the most. After watching this video, I've got so much courage and have become so much optimistic towards my life. I literally had the mentality that life will never get better. Thank you so much 💕
This video came at very right time.. I was dealing with this bullsh** . This video will really help me going forward
Chant "om namah shivai"... Regularly. Be empathetic to everyone every organism. Connect with God... You will get every solutions and road. God's light will come to your life in different different forms. Be kind, be thankful.. No matter what you go through.
Sorry bhai kuch glt aagya tha aapke barme
Ohh Bhai....🤔
@@omkarshesh jaise?
Sahi kaha,inhi sab chizo ke karan vegetarian Bana,aur yakeen Maan,1 chiti tak nhi maarta hu consciously...
Hare Krishna Hare Krishna
Krishna Krishna Hare Hare
Hare Rama Hare Rama
Rama Rama Hare Hare
Yes I also facing some problems in past but when started to watch you and acharya prashant and understand things most of things are on track now and feeling more happy about it 😇
just wanna say thankyou...thankyou shwetabh for making this video...from last 2 years i have been revisiting my past right from childhood till now and i was feeling very confused abt how my mother could do that to me and ...now when i am 19 and look back at little girl going through gaslighting silent treatments for weeks by everyone in the house...physical abuse...manipulation....taunts for eating a little extra....i was feeling really guilty for blaming my parents u know in india parents have their own GOD complex...and i was very confused abt thinking that my mother is a narcissist i was giving myself every false hope to not conclude...the worst that people can do is to make u feel not welcomed to make u feel that u dont belong....to call u a burden and wish if u were dead of the pneumonia u caught when u were born..they blame u for their dysfunctional marriage...for many this country these people are none other than their parents.... but as they say healing starts the moment we realise we were hurt....thanku for this
Same thing happen with me
@@Arnav_22212 i am so sorry it happened...and please don't fall into this trap of empathizing with the perpetrators...your parents are perpetrators...don't hate them ofcourse...but they don't give a shit abt u achieving things and becoming independent...as they will lose their easy target...but u have to standup for urself...talk back when u see wrong happening to u....talk back when they belittle u...people will call u mannerless etc...they might turn the whole world against u by bitching abt u Wrongly...but Don't give up...and realise they only care when u achieve something not while u are in the process of achieving it.....its like poori journey me hurdles daalenge lekin agar phir bhi succeed kr gye to end me saara crdit khaane aa jayenge...hum parents h humne kiya..!
I can relate completly 💔💔
same thing happened with me....
And I thought that there's some communication barrier that's why it's happening. But whenever I used to express my emotions , I expected that she would understand me now but nopes...
I was always seen as the girl who is throwing tantrums which backfired me. It became more and more toxic as the time passed.She started to do it more as I was getting weak and exhausted. Not only I was suffering mentally, i was suffering physically too (severely underweight) but still she didn't care.
After 3 4 yrs i realised that the only way left is to stay away from her.
Anyone who is reading this if ur suffering from such relationships it's okk everything will be fine in the end, nd don't blame urself u have already tried enough to fix it.
It's okk to walk away from such relationships for ur own peace of mind 💜🤗
@Archie you know the worst thing in our society is this half knowledge of things. And secondly the God complex which you mentioned is another fuel addition factor. I am not trying to promote blasphemy here. But the psychological understanding of things where in you are told that parents are gods form and all elders are God and teachers are God. This is soo not fair because the abuse inflicted on a child comes mostly from these soo called figures. Who think mai toh bhagwan hu. Seriously Tu bhagwaan nai chaman chutiya hai. Be very very modest and never consider yourself to be the best at anything. Learning is an ongoing process. And when you need help reach out. I know it becomes very difficult for a child to trust someone else or a stranger when the so called God figures are the ones who inflict the abuse and say that don't mix up with the outside world. No one will believe you. Because they are trying to protect their arse in the name of privacy. And being called a burden to the child which has happened with me as well. As I had learning disability as a child I know the mental sociological long term effects it takes. I knew at some point I needed help. And I reached out. So that is why when ever I see a person struggling I try to lend in my hand. If they wish to accept it. And some thing we all should follow is lending the helping hand. If you have come out of such situations you will definitely know how to help someone else.
Bhai apka title padhke hi hil gaya great video praying for your mother's health♥️
This video is soo soo relatable to me...lga ki mere lie h . meri story h Puri...I have narcissistic father..and the environment of my family is genuinely very toxic......since my childhood I have seen a lot....that I can't describe in words thanks swetabh for making this video.....
It's really motivating 💜
I was in a toxic friendship with a girl , she was using me for her work and she was manupulating me , i finally decided to ignore her by watching your videos posted 4 years ago where i know about many bitter truths.
Thanks to Swetabh Ganguar for saving me from a very dangerous friend zone.
By your videos i am now focusing on myself by working on my body for 6 months. I am focusing my studies to crack my jee exam in 2024!
Edit- Thanks to everyone for your suggestions!🙂
I am also watching this to leave friend zone because this was ruining my time.
Ho jayega bhai JEE tera 💪🏼
Wo manipulate ki yah tum soldier bane the💀
tum class 10th ke hokya
@Aman Modanwal nhi
It's one of the shwethab video were he also told and my personal experience in daily life also
That boys giving unnecessary and Unrequirable soldier in hoping that we will get impressed by them
And when we say no they hate that girl and says she was manipulating them
✌🏻kabhi kabhi room se bahar nikal ke real life dekha karo toh sayad janoge ki kya ho rh
You are literally trapped in bubble of judging others
You are telling my whole life story. Same words jo mera dil mujhse khta h
yaar shwetabh sir has really in-depth knowlege in almost all the things. i don't know how they gain but i really want to know about the good social books, knowledgeable websites, forums, podcast from shwetabh sir perspective. So we can also gain some good info from the internet.
I'm literally going through worst phase of my life.. One day I searched my thoughts coming in my mind swetabh video just changed my perspective.. Although alot has happened but still able to handle my situation with his help
I just want to say thank you. two of your videos one on adhd and this one is so relatable for me thank you for doing what you do. Thank you so much really needed your perspective. Before i didn't know what's the need for this content but now i do when I dig deep.
Thanks A Lot Shwetabh Bhai Ye Video Ki Bahut Jaroorat Thi Mujhe 🙇🏻❤️
Much needed for this day...Goung for therapy tomorrow. You said all the things just apt for helpung anyone facing childhood toxicity results in their adult life.
Shwetab bhai bahut sahi baat kaha the toxic stress is soo bad. I have my own personal experience with it. Not just toxic stress and stressful mental emotional situations create a massive impact in a child's growing up. The thing is that never fight in front of kids in that way. Problem hai toh sort out karna seekho. Once you have a child you have to forget everything and focus on the child. And people fail to understand this kind of environment starts a chain reaction of effects. Kuch baar aisa bhi hota hai that I have dated people tried to help at a certain point but until and unless the person is not able to put the effort. And they tend to get into similar toxic relationship in the future. And then that comes out on the right person. And then they start being abusive. So please guys if you need help please get help. Please reach out to us we will help you out. Hum bhi nikle hain iss situation se.
Going through exact same situation. I'm
Killing myself everyday inside my mind. I was thinking about moving out but at the same time was holding back
Thank you shwetabh for making this video🙏❤
Take my words this is the single most effective video to first of all self introspect and then self cure.
Thank you from New Zealand.
Thanks bro for making such topic now i can share this to my cousin dealing with this shit from childhood she is now 17
I am so Inspired by shwetabh, just by watching this video. Even though not in a degree, he has so much knowledge about so many things in neuroscience. I am impressed. Like to kmow about all this I had to study for like 2 years in my degree.
Hats off shwetabh.
Shwetabh's feelings expressed in title and thumbnail 😂😂🔥🔥
69👍🏼
The only time he give opinions unscripted in public
@@shirwadkaryash460 💀💀
@@deletedaccount011 😁😁
I made it 369🦊
I WISH I COULD LIKE FOR 100 TIMES.
GREAT VIDEO ON FILLING THE VOID WITH SELF LOVE AND CARE : )
Self love is distoying humans
Your talk gives reality of world..i living in daydream. Always put me down my myself. But your perspective towards life is very diffrent... 'ladayi dusro se nahi khudse hai.'
This is the number one content i needed at this point of time.
Gali kya datay ho dada , video to pura hi dekhagay 🥺
lol
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sahi baat🥺🥺
waise gaali khaane ke liye hi iske channel mein itne log aate hai.....🤔😅
Teray jaisa bnda puray India Pakistan main ni ,,, champion hai tu ❤
Hello sir ( Anyone reading this please reply)
This is my daily schedule
7-8:30 - Yoga, and preparing for office.
8:30-10 - Travel to office
10 - 6:30 - office
6:30 - 7:45 - travel back home
8 - 9 - Gym
9 - 9:30- Prepare dinner
9:30 - 9:45 - dinner
9:45 - 10: 30 - video editing
10:30 - 11:00 - learn new songs on guitar/record vocals
11 - 11:30 - read book
Sir how should I get more time as I am unable to get success and still struggling. How should I get success faster and escape this 8-8 job loop. Please help as I am suffering this since 3 years and people behind me came forward and are successful.
It will get better guys you aren't alone. It will take time but keep taking a step forward. Take care guys.
this is what we call content ❤
Let's fuckin go guys , just achieve your goals , live your dreams , make your parents happy , change profession if you are not satisfied , keep changing till you are not able to pour yourself in your work , kaam hi jeevan hai , toh kaam esa chuno ki usme flow karo , or kuch nhi chahiye jeevan me 💯💯🌻 thank you shwetabh bhaiya
Let's go ..I am ready
Shwetabh brother thank you so much i by chance followed your advice way before you release this video and now I'm really happy and feeling like a person
I also had toxic parents and in short I was living in straight hell
So I just told them i wanna study in a university which is far away from my hometown so I started living in hostel
It was hard to convince them but I did it and finally I'm free feeling like a bird 🐦
You are a great Problem solver shwetabh brother. 🙏🙏🙏
Bhai mein nahi kar paunga ab convince meine toh fees bhi bhaar di hai kya karu Ghar mein na toh padhne ka mahul banta hai na hi jeena ka
@@Anonymous-pq6bg mere hisaab mai agle saal transfer wagera hota hai toh dekhlo
Yaa fir simple cheez ghar mai raho hi Matt sirf khaana khaane aur sone ke liye Ghar jaao
Baaki dosto ke saath khelo, ghumo yaa fir liberary wagera mai padhai karne jaao.
Koi Hobby club join karlo jaise koi cricket club yaa Aisa kuch.
Ghar pe raho matt in short.
Mai suggest karunga tum acharya Prashant ko sunna suru Karo tumhari life sudhar jaaegi.
*I can releate so much I am also in this toxic environment my father is also narcisst and he is beer adict because of his abusive behavior i also feel depressed and face anxiety issues.*
*I am currently in matric class and not financially independent*
This one is a banger ! pehela laga video sirf abusive parents pe hogi.....but end tak in a way wide range of problems are touched.....and the end part really hits hard......
I know so many toxic ,rageful,Manipulative,victim card,bpd,bipolar,narc, passive aggressive ppl,they have degree n knowledge About their feild...n just because of this...they have right for toxicity...they think nothing is wrong with them....totally Ignorant....jiski bhi life me jate hai tabahi machate hain🙏
Why did it feel like a personal- one on one session. I am grateful to my parents that they provided everything materialistically but I could never develop a better emotional intelligence. Have been suffering emotionally for the past many years. Took tons and tons of wrong decisions and now living through the results of those decisions. Now every day there will be some fights verbally! It is just hell. But for last two years, I have been discovering solutions to internally strengthen myself. It is such a slow burn.
Shwetabh bhaiyya ...thankyou so much for this video ...🥺💛
Hi Shwetabh, I just wanted to thank you. I've been going through a weirdly emotionally unstable phase, while dealing with Masters applications. Masters is what I've been dreaming of since I knew how to speak, and I've been freaking out that I'll ruin my chances by self-sabotage and these emotions. But your videos are reminding me of the winner I was, and what 18 year old me would tell me if she saw me now. I'm listening to you and trying to focus on my work, I just wish I had found your videos earlier.
Bhai jbse apke video dekhne laga hu mera aas pass ke log bolte h ki mai sakt londa ban jaunga wagera but I know after listening to you i have become more responsible in life and now I know what are my duties as a son , lover , student , friend, brother and a human. Thanks for making my life much simpler not in all the ways but many ways . ❤️🙏
Ye poora video main ache se relate kar pa raha hu kyuki main khud ye sab kar chuka hu.. Bas mujhe nahi pata tha ki ye saari cheezein mere sath hui hai is wajah se meri mental health improve hui hai.. Aaj poori process pata chali.. I love your videos shwetabh bhaiya! 🙌❤
May Lord krishna bless everyone 🙏🙏🙏taki sab shant rhe
Always Love The Perspective Shwetabh Gives❤️👌
This is a very in-depth topic and people don't pay attention to it by listening to those who claim that they know everything.
Both my parents grew up with parents who would verbally abuse them and taunt them so that they would grow up to be responsible adults (the logic).....my parents were very neglectful towards me and growing up with a schizophrenic brother....he was violent....ever since i was 6-7 yrs old....i have been experiencing constant fear of getting attacked by him (strangulation) OR verbal abuse from parents...... The cherry on top is that when now i confront my parents they would just act like they are the victim here.....plus i did show signs of depression 7 yrs ago while i was getting ready to for counseling...my mother pulled me aside and said "the moment you step inside that room (for counseling) you will be known as a PAGAL just like your brother so it is up to you whether to go or not" .....and i didn't go..... Thank You mom...... I could have had an easier life as a 15yr old but thanks to you..... nothing as beautiful as having toxic parents.
lmao meri behen ko bhi same bola tha baap ne, pagal bolenge log
ab bipolar disorder hai usko -_- anti depressent lene padte hain :/
I have good parents but my 5'2 Height is my biggest truama
We need to normalize going to therapy.... what's the use of education if we still think therapy is not for us... even a healthy person needs to get his brain checked....the brain is going to be with us until we die then why do we neglect it?
@@SumitKumar-pv6wg isn't it insecurity instead of truama???
I'm going through this since childhood now i became 22 i'm glad he talk about the level of tangencies behind it i thought this is my problem only cause i tried to make understand to my close friend but he also said it's normal...people around me never gonna understand this...that's why i'm into healing & spirituality Brahmacharya deeply i don't want to attract such relationships in this material world so im trying to make myself worthy...grew up with this environment i have lost and killed many little things about me like been in one sided relationship thrice and broken myself up in the past and continuously healing myself through manifestations or letting go of the things in life still im with my family but i do isolate myself in a room which look-like storeroom but i having a desk and chair i will try to moveout physically completely will plan for new home even while getting a first job. Thank you Shwetabh bhaiya LOVE YOU 🧡
It feels like... He knows all my personal life and he is directly talking to me.....great bro...
Shwetabh nd prakhar are gems..
not prkhr
Prakhar...☕️☕️☕️🤣🤣🤣🤣
Asli id se comment kro prakhar😂😂😂
Mine life too.. 👍
At least this video...
@@TrailBliss_ 😂😂
Thanks a lot shwetabh bhai,this is a life changing video for me bro,because i am going through the same hell in my life.
I am living in a very toxic environment rn. Esa lag raha hai jaise life mein kuch interesting chiz hai hi nahi sab kuch bekar lagta hai. Aur childhood trauma bhi hai. Fuck yaar😭😭
I will leave this environment within 1 year
Thank you so much , i feel your energy this is so important topic
the idea of doing best in whatever resources you got is amazing like michael bisping became the middleweight champ with one eye he could have of i dont have one eye i have bad knee and just retire but he didnt
i need this video ... and i watched it meny time and yes shwetabh is gr8 mentor in my life no doubt thankyou bhai you are awesome....
i am 24 i have been facing the same problem, but I know how what to do in life, just every night I take anti depression medicine and sleep. everything repeating like a cycle in my life
Same... i am also 24 :)
Should we make a group you guys 😂
Same with me it's just that I have never taken meds or pshycatric help
You may get addicted.
Congrats
sir, you are absolutely right but it's easier said than done - please guide us how to get rid of toxic environment in practical manner
please sir
This is really what I was looking for. Even though I don't see any violence in my family. But I'm struggling a lot mentally. It feels like my life is stuck and is not moving forward even if I'm hard working towards my goal. You said absolutely right. One has to physically distance him/herself first. That's why I'm looking for a job out of my city and as far as possible. I literally have no friends at least not like-minded and supportive people. I often cry a lot. I am black sheep of my family. That's why everyone despise me and underestimate me a lot. That's why it feels so lonely. There's no support from my family. And it is giving a lot of trauma, negativity and stress. My brain is constantly on the negative phase even though I'm aware and conscious of it. I've no people to share my feelings and that's why it's bottling up inside. I'm really tired of pretending who I'm not. My mother and society expects me to be in a certain way to live in a certain way but I just can't. And it's getting frustrated day by day. I've had many suicide attempts and sometimes try to commit horrendous and horrible acts.
You literally give me a sign to physically distance from my family. And I will not ignore it.
I'm a very curious person so I often think about how serial killers and criminal's minds work. And how they become what they are. I've done a lot of research about it. And what I found is what you said in the video. It's all about toxic environment and childhood trauma that pass through parents to child. That's why it's been for centuries. People who have had brought up in a very toxic and violent household are more likely to become criminal. The chaos and violence and crimes you see all around the world is the direct product of all of the trauma and very f**ked up mental health. People who are traumatic and with f***ed up mental health are more likely to act out their trauma and suppressed rage through violence. And I can guarantee because I myself experienced this trauma by first hand. Now I can completely empathize with these people.
Thank you Swetabh for bringing this topic and awareness to general people. I have a very great interest in psychology and philosophy. I've got all this knowledge through my curiosity of human existence and mind. It's very very crucial to heal your trauma. And the very first step is to get far away as much as you can physically.
@T-REX ANIMATIONS Hi! I'm open to friendship. We can get to know each other.
Peace be with you , n god bless you ... Don't hard on yourself
@T-REX ANIMATIONS damn nice desperation bro! Hehe
@T-REX ANIMATIONS your last comment is so baseless yet again proving men can't maintain platonic relationships.
@@_o6629 yes phle mujhe B lga ek to achaa ladka mila, last tatti comment krke sb gud gobar kr diya isne😠😡
Sahi Time pe apka video milta hy 🙏 thank you
killer motivation you give bhaiya 🔥🙌
Bhai Jo hai apne pass use mai apna best do....or Rona nahi .....kya positive thoughts hai........❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏 Ase he humlogo ke uper kirpiya banaye rakhe.........
what I think is when this generation in future become as father then something really gone change in a positive way✌️❤️
Lotsa people in India suffering w mental health just can not really visit a therapist because of different reasons including affordability and societal constraints, man. Their only hope is gathering as much knowledge about what's happening with them as possible from internet and apply different techniques to eradicate mental difficulties from their life. Besides, I think it's possible for people to treat themselves on their own if they are willing to learn about what's happening them on a deep level because I’ve done that myself and so have million others. Something to consider 🙏🏻
i can see over the years,the vocab and sentences you use are more psychological than normal evryday words you used to use and for that reason i feel discconnected and aloof when youre solving anyone's problem rather you seem like a different entity which one can not relate to, you sound very cool though but that personal vibe you had is fading bro but still change is the part of life so what can i say.... keep it up man !!!!
5:32 The smile
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I came first time on this channel and I loved his explanation, nobody talks about such mental issues neither school nor college tried to come closer to such issues.
sir when will you launch your new book? btw the rudest book is really good☺
#ShwetabhBhai
I am Mahesh Thorve(18years old, JEE Aspirant) & this guy in the DP is my big brother(5 years older than me & An IITian from IITB)...Since last 2 years I have been using YT, watching 2 to 3 anime,got introduced to DesiHipHop & found alot of nice content creators(lndian & foreign)...& I'm really glad that I found you in 2020(before you met vedant&prakhar)...& these(YT, DISTRACTIONS, ETC.) are one the reasons why I didn't focused on studies....BUT when you uploaded that #ADHD video I was so fu*king shocked, BCZ nothing felt so much relatable...I started journaling & using alarm clock method but never sticked to it...I always quitted(more than A #MILLION TIMES in less than a day)...Still I observed alot of symptoms of ADHD in me
#SYMPTOMS :- {like always having 10 to 15 TABS opened in my browser & constantly switching between all the TABS ; In conversations, I always #INFODUMP & thus, people get bored really quickly ; I can't expain anything 'in short' to anyone(can't even expain to myself);when I procrastinate about talking to someone Sometimes, I am genuinely funny, confident(I am not like this in reality); While procrastinating, I speak in english very clearly/fluently(but when it comes to reality, I start having anxiety, kabhi kabhi toh haat kapne lag jaate hai); In conversations, I always get blanked when someone asks me something specific{especially in front of my father & brother} ; always vibrating my legs ; procrastinating ; doing Maladaptive Daydreaming about being in a relationship or about achieving something big{like going into IIT} ; Always made great plans but always failed to execute them even a single day ; then started doing pomodoro & aloted only 3 imp tasks for the day but still couldn't sticked to it ; always started execising but always quitted ; sometimes while brushing my teeth I start procrastinating & waste 15 to 25minutes without even knowing[maybe BCZ of time blindness] ; I only work just before deadlines [even in that I try to waste my time{#Escapism}] OR I work when parent's or my brother scolds me(BCZ I have already told them the truth that I wasted my 2 IMP YEARS) ; etc...........}
But I am not gonna tell my parents about it for some time now BCZ they lost all the trust they had on me & they will think that I'm giving excuses. So, the only option that is left for me is to build the trust(which is gonna take some fu*king amount of effort but I will give my best)
#OurSocioeconomicStatus :- My father was never rich...He came from a village to here in this city(Aurangabad, Maharashtra) & worked in a hotel {But, I have observed since my childhood that he is really good at talking & have great contacts}...so, our socio-economic status was never that high but now my brother has a job & my father is also earning well(still not really rich by money BUT both are really rich by there heart's & they are giving me this 2nd chance to prove myself in front them & in front of myself)...especially my brother has seen more struggle BCZ of money than me...Also once we had a house of 1room & a kitchen which was really fu*king big for little me...NOW, we have a 2bhk house of our own since last 10 years...
After that video, I found a TedTalk of Jessica McCabe(founder of #HowToADHD yt channel) & felt alot more relatable... right now I just got admission into a droppers batch for jee(I am giving another year for JEE)...I know shwetabh that things change slowly & that's why I am again starting for the 1000th time...my dropper classes has started since 2 last days & I need to make an habit of working consistently(WHICH IS REALLY HARD BUT I'M TRYING) ; I am also going to improve my English, Hindi & Marathi(my marathi is good but still I sometimes get blanked [Maybe BCZ of ADHD or SOMETHING ELSE])...
#ReasonWhyIwantToGetIntoIIT :- I want to get into IIT BCZ I will have a lot of opportunities to discover a different side of myself more there, I can try & learn different things(hobbies,etc...) there...
Also you were gonna make more videos related to ADHD, no pressure...I love these streams as well,I get great perspectives from them as well... Also give us an update on your #60dayDATA (data of your own way to tackle ADHD or something like that) which you were talikng about in one of your livestreams?...
I'd been trying since ages to write this, but always quitted...
& Finally , Tell me what are your thoughts [ OR Your different #GangstaPerspectives ] on my Story???(Obviously, I couldn't write about my entire life but I think I wrote most of the things)
It would be great if you take my problem & make a video(If Possible) on this shwetabh bhai...
I wrote all this comment 3 months ago on your ''ghus jao padhai mein'' wala video...
Update:- I am in depression, anxiety, & for a long time I was even having suicidal thoughts...But, I told my parents about my depression & my suicidal thoughts, they listened & we had a 2-3hr long really EMOTIONAL talk & now, we are ok...But, still I cheat on myself by wasting days after days...One of the most Important things which I learned from u is 'how to think' & Now, I don't take sides, don't follow anybody, a lot of times I think critically...but, I am not even able to talk properly infront of my parents, I get blank & not even able to make proper sentences/ not able to choose correct words & because of that I often offend them...I am always angry at them for no reason(I just can't control that), I can't talk to someone in a phonecall infront of my parents/brother, My maladaptive daydreaming about me being in a (sexual)relationship with an imaginary person has became a serious addiction, also watching too much porn lately & I cry a lot lately,etc.....
So, brother I know, what u are going through in recent times & so that's why take your time bhai & I will wait for days & months for that video, because I know that I will get a new perspective :)
Also, whenever I listen music(for 2 to 3 times), then that music stays in my mind for atleast 2-3 days straight & thus, I can't focus properly...So, can u plz suggest me some music(As u have some good music taste)...How to improve music taste?
Plz, make a video on my problem(whenever u have time)... Also give us an update on your #60dayDATA (data of your own way to tackle ADHD or something like that) which you were talikng about in one of your livestreams, so,what happened to that??
Also, a suggestion, Plz bring a proper series of video's on #HowToThink
BTW, i am really sorry, but I've typed this comment 5-6 months ago & i've been reposting it in every single new videos of yours(except controversy wali)
More power to you bro! ✨🤝
You are really aware about yourself and no one can stop you from doing your best. Best wishes 💗
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Hi bro! I am from same City.
Stay strong, you will definitely overcome it.
Same city..
Thank you so much bhai. I promise aik din aesa kuch achieve kar lunga ki abhi jitne bhi problems face karra hu saari worth it lagengi
As u mentioned..hila dala🙌
yess l promise l ll not leave my hand bro!! tysm🤗♥️
Mein toxic environment mein bada huya. Aaj ki date mein kisi per bhi trust nahi ker pata hu. Bewajah gussa aa jaata hai....jab bhi ghar mein raho toh aisa lagta hai body ki energy drain ho rahi hai or bahar nikal jao toh sabkuch theekh....parents ke bare mein kisi apne dost ko bhi nahi bata sakte hai kyuki Aisa lagta hai woh judge kerenge....
shwetabh bhai Perspective 🔥On point
I will pray for aunty daily ❤️ I promise
I just want you to say Thank you @Swetabh!! You are doing a great work.
⭐ Amazing, I mean this one was really really great, thank you so much for being there with me in my mind every single day.
Are bhai itna deep of mind thoughts me kaafi dino baad ghusa hu.. seriously thanks big brother.. 👌❤️ ab me sb smjh gya (mzk kr rha 😁) Great video 🔥
Thank you sir🥺
My boy friend had this toxic family where he was only put down n down ... we were serious about getting married so we both decided to get married and now we are staying away from his family... My dad also stays with us and my husband is so happy now... he is actually happy staying away from his parents and he never wants to even see their faces ... for me I always had a very loving family that's why my parents always supported me in everything I did ... when I went wrong my parents helped me get over that situation and gave me that courage I'm blessed ...
I mistakenly read the title "pura video dekh kar sirf hilate hi raho" 😂
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Me too😂
CURRENTLY ...THIS PHASE IS GOING IN MY LIFE FROM 5 YRS. ...!!
@Victor James Kerketta Yes! I am being I have also to make by brother strong ...✌🏻
Great advice, truly sensible video once again..✨
ekdm sahi bol rhe hai bhaiya really felt that things..
yhi sab ho rha h
Love u swetabh bhai ❤❤
feels good to know that im not the only one to blame for my nature
Shwetabh is the person who understands these types of problem completely,
Bhai gadar lesson bhai ....lajawaab ...❤️❤️❤️
Utho aur badal dalo apni roop rekha aur badal jayega itihaas 🎯🎯🎯
Video was made Completely for me ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Bhai meri life me X , environment , friends, responsibility ne meri aesi lagai he me hamesa compro karti rahe gai bas aaj to aap aankhe khol di 🙏
It's similar to my life's story
I turned 19 years old in September
Your video notification is my new stressbuster ....
We're with you gangwar sir !! keep it up with your content ❤️
Thanks shwetabh bhaiya you addressed it right. Currently going through hypochondria, mood swings , toxicity , and the irony is those people giving toxicity don't even know what they injecting and my last armour to beat this is, I think about my future family i.e. my children, my wife . Child trauma makes you a complete opposite personality of you . I sometimes introspect and think this is not who i am. Yeah as you said I am making hell lot of efforts to get out of this envoirmennt and then heal myself I guess it will take easily a decade to reverse the damage, it is sad but life!!
One of my favourite movie dialouges: Why do we fall Bruce? So that we can learn to pick ourselves up!
I generally split my problems into small pieces, then try to solve the easiest things first, after that go toward time-consuming things, and never get upset cause my mind is too strong.