How to VALIDATE YOURSELF : Stop Seeking External Validation & Be Ready to Walk Away

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  • Опубликовано: 12 янв 2025

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  • @haram4l
    @haram4l Год назад +396

    As a man I can say your videos are important towards growth for a lot of younger woman and it's nice to see a female teach others to embrace their femininity!

    • @Lisaglamour
      @Lisaglamour  Год назад +76

      Happy to see a gentleman that appreciate my content 🙏☺️

    • @naileenlifestyletv
      @naileenlifestyletv Год назад +35

      * Women not female.

    • @auhbreykumming4429
      @auhbreykumming4429 Год назад

      @@naileenlifestyletv why are you micromanaging someone's positive comment? You're the exact type of woman men don't want to be around.

    • @honeymoonavenue97
      @honeymoonavenue97 Год назад

      @@irinaivanovic9792If men did this in a way that didn’t encourage violence it would be so helpful.

    • @estherharing7430
      @estherharing7430 6 месяцев назад +3

      ​@@naileenlifestyletvmasculine energy to correct.

  • @blancheb3533
    @blancheb3533 Год назад +50

    I grew up with a narcissistic mom. She just kept criticizing me and made me feel like I had to prove and work on something to be worthy, but it was never enough. It took me a long time to work on my feminine energy and self-esteem. Before my self-love journey I attracted unavailable men where I needed to prove many things for them to love me, ignoring red flags, and them never giving me the commitment I want. Now everytime my parents say something bad to me, undue criticism, shaming me, I no longer internalize it and repel with my positive thoughts and validating my own worth. Thank you Lisa for channels like this

    • @Jenniferrr818
      @Jenniferrr818 10 месяцев назад +2

      oh gawdd same. i always love to be glamoruous and my mom always crticized me so badly that i stopped being myself but i slowly learned that shes narcisstcst . i need to avoid her

  • @ametrineambrosia4929
    @ametrineambrosia4929 Год назад +49

    Having autism, don't wanna change it. I think I'm awesome. I WANT a king. But even without, I'm still a goddess 👑

  • @xzuajkgka3479
    @xzuajkgka3479 Год назад +25

    "they value the things they worked hard for. and when they work hard for a woman, they value it"

  • @vanessavasquez1099
    @vanessavasquez1099 Год назад +172

    Self validation is the key to unbothered mindset, it's like removing a burden off your shoulders.

  • @DeshaunDamon
    @DeshaunDamon Год назад +22

    At age 53, a lot of younger women lose me during communication. Your videos are relaxing and relatable - so I actually learn. Thanks for being who you are. You are important and needed.

  • @Sarahhenderson11
    @Sarahhenderson11 Год назад +19

    Lisa lots of femininity channels out there, but yours is the most invaluable. Truly, your energy is absolutely beautiful.

  • @Vixenventures
    @Vixenventures Год назад +48

    I grew up in a really abusive family and as an adult was constantly second guessing myself in every way, unknowingly seeking validation from others to make sure I was handling things the right way or best way. After doing the work and starting to relearn how healthy people behave, I don't seek validation anymore. Being confident shows up as very steadfast and not easily shaken. I love your videos so much, Lisa. You're such an amazing person.

    • @annemuller4499
      @annemuller4499 Год назад +4

      Same here, hugs from Germany dear sister and all the best! 🥰

    • @Vixenventures
      @Vixenventures Год назад +3

      @@annemuller4499 Thank you! 💜

    • @jeanniepetrov9934
      @jeanniepetrov9934 Год назад +2

      I had he same Story and issue . Its beautiful to grow out of this and being confident and happy . Much love ❤

  • @withlovechristine3378
    @withlovechristine3378 Год назад +21

    I wish I had access to this type of wisdom when I was younger. I was raised by a single mom, she loved us and raised us as best as she could, but she herself lacked confidence and didn't have a high self worth. I allowed myself to be used by men who saw my desperate need to be loved and was constantly seeking validation/approval from other. I'm almost 50 and just starting to figure this out. Thank you for your content, it will be invaluable to young women.

  • @itsaghosttown
    @itsaghosttown Год назад +12

    3:27 she said it so sweetly

  • @EternalWanderer-it4uf
    @EternalWanderer-it4uf Год назад +7

    Every time I see you, you look better than the last. A true level up princess. BY THE WAY!!!! Keep the thumbnail formula it’s so unique and glamorous

  • @hristina436
    @hristina436 Год назад +10

    I would like to see a dressing feminine video another one with beautiful dresses and everything! 👗👒💅🥿

  • @Scranton0
    @Scranton0 Год назад +14

    She is a confident woman encouraging
    Other women to have a positive attitude
    She has one and it is really great to have
    Wearing the finest dresses that she has
    In this video walking along in much beauty
    Wearing only her dress and nothing more

  • @LOADING...o.o.o
    @LOADING...o.o.o Год назад +8

    This is very true. I didn’t love myself and didn’t value myself. I accepted bare minimum and trying to chase the guy. At the end he didn’t even want me back after I broke up with him once I reached my limit.

  • @ShaniOnSinai
    @ShaniOnSinai Год назад +15

    Yes! Validation is self authorized. We respect ourselves through discipline and it should be reciprocated. Ever the gracious, ready to turn the cheek and walk away from disgrace.

  • @carmencarmenatti
    @carmencarmenatti Год назад +15

    I've never had a problem with being who I am.Don't need no one validation but my own.I always listen to my silence💕

  • @lou15176
    @lou15176 2 месяца назад

    “Talk to yourself - I know it’s weird” 😂😂
    Been talking to myself for 49 years, it’s probably the one thing that’s kept me sane 😊

  • @vikm1341
    @vikm1341 Год назад +2

    thank you for this video! I love the way you dress. alot of people would laugh at me for wearing pink or liking barbie type style but it makes me happy.

  • @hegyesialexa7617
    @hegyesialexa7617 Год назад +5

    Dear Lisa,
    Love your accent, and I learned Italian, I am in love with italian people :) :)

  • @gulmillart375
    @gulmillart375 Год назад +6

    Ohhhh myyyy myyyy what can i say .hattss offf to ur confidence and strenght.

  • @andreatorluemke4982
    @andreatorluemke4982 Год назад +3

    That cut of dress is so beautiful on you! I love it!!❤❤❤

  • @jessicadah-mk8up
    @jessicadah-mk8up Год назад +11

    I have a similar style to you Lisa and seeing you makes me happy bc so many girls my age ( I’m 23 ) don’t really care too much about glamour

  • @diyab1056
    @diyab1056 Год назад +11

    It's so nice that you empower women!

  • @taboquinha4i20
    @taboquinha4i20 Год назад +2

    Your dresses are perfect ❤ one more beautiful than the other

  • @inarijm
    @inarijm Год назад +56

    This came right on time for me 🙏🏽❤️

    • @dehsimao6409
      @dehsimao6409 Год назад +3

      same

    • @newfavs
      @newfavs Год назад +2

      When the student is ready, the teacher appears. 😊

  • @ViintageVoyage
    @ViintageVoyage Год назад +28

    This is my favorite video you've made, ever!. I really needed to hear what you have to say. It came just at the right time!
    You are completely right! Thank you, Lisa

  • @adrianamelendez5335
    @adrianamelendez5335 Год назад +37

    The timing on this is perfect! A person I really cared for recently walked away without much of an explanation or reason. Thank you for the reminder that their reasons why don’t matter.

  • @mojyoqueen350
    @mojyoqueen350 Год назад +3

    High five! Shakira was my childhood role model too. Actually little me learned how to belly dance and I still do it when I'm cooking or cleaning.

  • @elizabethandiosa4579
    @elizabethandiosa4579 Год назад +4

    Oh my gosh. This is such a good reminder for a woman of any age. I am making my well being and safety and health in every way top priority. Clothes are important and so is grooming. I finally feel I am pursuing my dreams and art and painting and design. My grandma and dad used to tell me to pursue my dreams and clothes do make the person. It's not good for anyone to have jealous sneaky belittlers around, especially if they are relatives. It is so important to dump those that don't hold your similar values, or lift you up but put you down and cause harm. It's so much better to pursue your own dreams instead of doing time with Dana anrd Danny downers. Blessings. I am signing up.

  • @Meesha612
    @Meesha612 2 месяца назад +1

    I love the way she talks

  • @katarzyna2901
    @katarzyna2901 Год назад +3

    You look beautiful ✨Greetings from Poland

  • @pratitijoshi4231
    @pratitijoshi4231 Год назад +4

    OMG LISA YOU LOOK SO BEAUTIFUL.

  • @shuntizamoore4805
    @shuntizamoore4805 Год назад +8

    Thank you I really needed to hear that

  • @Annababe333
    @Annababe333 3 месяца назад

    Thank you for all of your wisdom. I have really been trying to step into that true feminine essence within. Sometimes I can still feel the walls up but I’m trying, learning and growing.

  • @dafnneperez9577
    @dafnneperez9577 Год назад +6

    I love All your videos and I’m so grateful I found your channel. This one is one of my favorites!! It resonates with me specially about men validation. I learned that when a man don’t put a lot of effort I need to let him go and move on. The right one will come along and Universe timing is always perfect. I will like to see a video about Divine timing in relationship and in life.

  • @daniellecharming
    @daniellecharming Год назад +7

    This is my favorite video of yours to date, Lisa! I have recently been talking to myself like a second person- my own best friend!

  • @rubyfullglam
    @rubyfullglam Год назад +4

    I love it when you say 'so what, and? I dont care' it makes me laugh and feel better about myself. Great video because this is the area I struggle with ❤

  • @therosaceous404
    @therosaceous404 Год назад +7

    I love these long explanation videos, this was a real treat, Madame, merci! 😘💓💓

  • @cyndiapasillas1137
    @cyndiapasillas1137 Год назад +5

    This video is soooo Amazing ❤ Kisses Lisa 😘

  • @nolongerhumannnn
    @nolongerhumannnn Год назад +10

    Lisa is amazing and gorgeous as always. Thank you so much for the inspiring video 💕

  • @kurthalover
    @kurthalover Год назад +8

    I will be honest, I felt your positive energy throughout this whole video and it gave me that positive boost.
    I used to think so much of other people's opinions but there comes a time, and experience, where it is just not worth it anymore. As you said, the only opinion that matters is yourself. Also validating yourself is also a from of self-care both physically and mentally. At the end of the day, the only person that's with you will always be you and it is important to see yourself as a best friend. As you said, and I loved that you mentioned it, about how you treat your family and friends with kindness, you should also treat yourself that way too.
    Looking forward to your next video!

  • @Knowledgeispower276
    @Knowledgeispower276 Год назад +6

    I love you and I’m so grateful for everything you pour into this channel! ❤

  • @klezzaa8957
    @klezzaa8957 Год назад +3

    I really needed to hear this. I have no sister and not a good feminine relationship with my mother. Im trying to be more feminine again and be in surrender. This was really good advice. Thank you. You also delivered it with kindness and empathy and it just made it better.❤️

  • @hristina436
    @hristina436 Год назад +5

    Omg your dress is stunning haha! Nice Lisa sister you look so beautiful! 🥳💛👗💅👒👠

  • @kellyolson602
    @kellyolson602 Год назад +4

    You are my inspiration ❤

  • @Entertainment_shed
    @Entertainment_shed 6 дней назад

    You are incredible❤thank you and don't stop being so amazing🥰

  • @veronicacarrillocaceres5938
    @veronicacarrillocaceres5938 Год назад +4

    My favorite video by far this 2023 💖Thanks for doing this video, it comes along in the right time 😊

  • @glowuphandbook
    @glowuphandbook Год назад +4

    I love this video! Super helpful topic.

  • @margaretgallo914
    @margaretgallo914 Год назад +3

    Love the dress ❤, I hope you are doing well. ❤️ love you Lisa. Thank you for what you do.

  • @israelisongsabram4796
    @israelisongsabram4796 Год назад +3

    Absolutely adore you and your videos. Thank you so much for the wisdom you impart on others. You are amazing and we are blessed to have you

  • @frankyavery
    @frankyavery Год назад +13

    There is a meme you would love. I went something like "It's okay if you don't like me. Not every can have good taste."

  • @rachelmcclain5367
    @rachelmcclain5367 Год назад +5

    Hi Lisa! Once again, I love your content! ❤

  • @stefilane
    @stefilane Год назад +2

    Thank you for this video ❤

  • @Kristynas706
    @Kristynas706 Месяц назад

    Thank you Darling, I needed to hear this today ❤

  • @YK.Naturo
    @YK.Naturo Год назад +3

    Bravo ma chère ! Thank you for this reminder 🙏🏿✨

  • @cleoknight8536
    @cleoknight8536 Год назад +5

    This was really helpful Lisa. Much love to you xxx

  • @bernices6311
    @bernices6311 Год назад +6

    So much value in this video Lisa! Thank you for what you provide to our community ❤

  • @marilynmcgaha3957
    @marilynmcgaha3957 Год назад +4

    WOW! Lisa I needed to hear this so badly! Thank you ❤️

  • @danielajocelyn
    @danielajocelyn Год назад +3

    Love this video! We have a similar taste in artists :) I think it’s important to nurture those things you have interest in or that you identify with, so it solidifies your confidence even further because of your familiarity with the subject. Plus I think starting with learning about one or two subjects thoroughly gives you the skill to learn another more easily.

  • @winnielim80
    @winnielim80 26 дней назад

    You are so clever with your words

  • @philippagrimoire5968
    @philippagrimoire5968 4 месяца назад

    I found when I did treat myself like a Queen I had so many men and women try and tear me down or call me a narcissist or just generally not like me because I wasn’t being a people pleaser anymore. I got abused a lot and it wore me down over time til I felt unworthy. I have cptsd which is a brain injury as well so it’s easy to slip back into feeling unworthy. It’s so frustrating dealing with tall poppy syndrome in my country Australia 🇦🇺

    • @lou15176
      @lou15176 2 месяца назад

      Reverting back to people pleasing to suit others is not the answer…I am not saying isolate yourself, but if it’s possible - remove yourself from those people/situations and start to to build new connections with the people who value you ❤ x

  • @Wandertheworldwithme
    @Wandertheworldwithme Год назад

    Thank you so much for these lovely reminders ❤💃🏼

  • @rinamaya8858
    @rinamaya8858 Год назад +3

    Thank you! Perfect timing 🥰❤️

  • @liveeverydaylikeitsyourlas984
    @liveeverydaylikeitsyourlas984 Год назад +4

    Love it.

  • @klaudiawitek5300
    @klaudiawitek5300 5 месяцев назад

    Amazing content, right now I really needed to hear your message and remind myself of who I am. Hope to spread this positivity. I’ve got 3 jobs opportunities all at once and I got to choose which one I like most and it’s for me. I’ve chosen the one where from beginning I was treated with respect and admiration.
    When it comes to relationship I realised that it’s ok if it’s not going to work out with the person I was attracted to because I’m the queen and many people treat me accordingly so it’s my job to only see me that way and be unbothered by those who doesn’t value me.

  • @ElaBliss
    @ElaBliss 4 месяца назад

    Girl, just wanted to say thank you for showing up. You are really such a great role model and you should be proud of yourself 🥰 Love watching your videos

  • @Tessybriggs
    @Tessybriggs Год назад

    This is the best video i have seen so far ❤❤

  • @mansoor3159
    @mansoor3159 Год назад +3

    Lisa you're too too too too inspiring for me 💕💫😭 and you're looking too pretty

    • @Lisaglamour
      @Lisaglamour  Год назад +2

      Thank you very much darling 🙏🥰

  • @victoriavaughan8362
    @victoriavaughan8362 Год назад +2

    Love the dress😍

  • @HaninSindi
    @HaninSindi 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you looove ur Video and this beautiful message u made me realize even so much more and Ur style is also beautiful love whn people show and just are their induviduality ❤

  • @Yulia.chandrika
    @Yulia.chandrika Год назад +5

    Wow this woman is more gorgeous day by day! Very valuable video it helped a lot. I would love if she would make a video of how to combine colors I think she is so good on choosing the best colors for her, red golden... so beautiful.
    Sorry if the comment seems superficial 🙏 I also think her message is wise and psychologicaly empowering and healing

  • @hiruhiru5998
    @hiruhiru5998 Год назад +2

    Can you explain how to show vulnerability in a relationship?

  • @fluffy8718
    @fluffy8718 Год назад +2

    Thank u lovely Lisa 💜

  • @spoonfullofdream
    @spoonfullofdream Год назад +4

    Tu es resplendissante ❤️

  • @nehasable8347
    @nehasable8347 2 месяца назад

    Thank u Lisa I am changing

  • @terraiznajem105
    @terraiznajem105 Год назад +1

    Thank you

  • @jocelin5957
    @jocelin5957 Год назад

    Thank you Lisa😘😘

  • @AminaOud-vc7ph
    @AminaOud-vc7ph Год назад

    Giiiirl you are gorgeous 😍

  • @harmainaltaf3753
    @harmainaltaf3753 Год назад +4

    Sis can you make a video for teenager girls , that how to develop our personality😅

  • @pallinagialla97
    @pallinagialla97 Год назад +2

    Hi! What's the name of the actress at 9:58? Such a good video!!! Thank you, Lisa!!!

    • @bobinaleigh
      @bobinaleigh 4 месяца назад +1

      @pallinagialla97, It's Jayne Mansfield

    • @pallinagialla97
      @pallinagialla97 4 месяца назад

      @@bobinaleigh thank you!

  • @plottwist1541
    @plottwist1541 4 месяца назад

    thank you for that!!

  • @ElaBliss
    @ElaBliss 4 месяца назад

    Dear, could you do a youtube video on how to overcome the discomfort on starting a youtube chanel or showing up online? Would be nice 😊

  • @zdravaistoria
    @zdravaistoria Год назад +2

    I love your videos, thank you!

  • @laurengeorges3705
    @laurengeorges3705 Год назад +1

    Merci pour cette vidéo !

  • @aparnapremkumar395
    @aparnapremkumar395 5 месяцев назад

    U r simply lovely :)

  • @sasukiopah7145
    @sasukiopah7145 Год назад +1

    Thank you ❤

  • @breh9243
    @breh9243 Год назад +1

    Great video idea

  • @beluasmr
    @beluasmr 9 месяцев назад

    Excelente

  • @shinystar-w5j
    @shinystar-w5j 9 месяцев назад

    you’re god in orange 🧡

  • @florinmcf7340
    @florinmcf7340 Год назад +2

    Hello I’m a man and find this helpful

  • @annemuller4499
    @annemuller4499 Год назад +2

    How can somebody your age can be so wise? I agree with all you say, but I have to warn you guys as well: nowadays there is too much jealousy arround, don't listen too much to feedback, even men will try to push you down, because they think they are not your level, even more stay careful with other women. *I never had a friend who hadn't a grain of jelousy in her*

  • @sskksshjigg9767
    @sskksshjigg9767 Год назад +2

    Can you do a roomtour❤

  • @JogoBelIa
    @JogoBelIa Год назад +1

    "I know you care a lot what people think when you are a teenager" - crying in my 30s

  • @DJSTOEK
    @DJSTOEK Год назад

    ❤❤

  • @annemuller4499
    @annemuller4499 Год назад +3

    I hate the modern feedback culture as people are so brazen and give unrequested feedback, using it to push you down hard (your pants are too tight, naked shoulders are vulgar, you show too much leg). All my live I had just one or two feedbacks which were helpful and millions of feedbacks just targeting to push me down! Even with a toxic partner this can happen to you, he is feeling bad and is jelous of your good mood or thinks he is not as attractive as you.

  • @claudiokabanata3325
    @claudiokabanata3325 Год назад

    ❤❤❤

  • @sunflowersseeds_
    @sunflowersseeds_ Год назад +1

    🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @bankpoaspirant5250
    @bankpoaspirant5250 4 месяца назад

    I am too judgemental towards me , tell me what to do

    • @aj__love5919
      @aj__love5919 4 месяца назад

      Learn to love yourself and improve the flaws you got this💃🏻

  • @kevinrobles3203
    @kevinrobles3203 11 месяцев назад

    Hi Lisa can you visit liverpool fc YNWA we you Jurgen klopp

  • @antevenio8303
    @antevenio8303 4 месяца назад

    when does it turn to pure selfishness