You can just drop out of college at anytime. You can just quit your job at anytime. But you can’t just drop out of parenthood. And you can’t just quit being a parent.
I am a 51 year old black women who is childfree. I absolutely thank God and my mother for this life. It is freedom, it is wonderful, it is peaceful. Pay no attention to people trying to spread fear about old age. As a nurse I have worked in countless nursing homes and the people with the most children are the loneliest. FACTS!!!
I'm a 56 year old single and childfree Black woman myself, and I enjoy my peaceful and quiet childfree life!!! I really feel you!!! In my opinion being childfree and single is truly the best thing for me to live my life!!!
Love to hear you sistas thriving! I'm 30 myself and appreciate the opportunities I'm able to obtain as a child free woman, especially doing what I want when I want ✨
The only aspect of childfree life that bothers me is how difficult it is to find other women who think like you in my day to day life! Forever dreaming of a supportive sisterhood with likeminded women
Honey! Clarity hit me at 9 years old & it’s only been reinforced & grown exponentially😂 I do not want them problems! I want to sleep…..I want to go to the store when I want….I want to keep my money & spend as much or as little as I want on anything I want & most importantly I want to keep my damn sanity! Celibacy & lack of patience with the bulls%*t has allowed me to achieve a child free & humble life 🙌🏾 #freedom #lovemylife #mindyouruterus #notmine
1. Misery loves company. People have kids for their own benefit. It's literally inherently selfish to have kids. They tried to flip the script but truly feel convicted. 2. You'll mainly find men fear mongering to manipulate women into having kids. This is not only a capitalist tactic but also predatory. Ladies, I promise you that majority of these men are child predators and are very calculated. They will hype your heads up because they know your trauma and insecurities. 3. The other men who push child bearing are usually lonely or trying to prove something (meet societal standards). 4. Women who have kids typically do it to prove their cexual desirability (rooted in rejection and childhood SA). 5. Many women who were SA'd as children start families to prove their "normality". They want to blend in with society and prove that they've moved on from their past. They like to prove that someone does see their worth. Again, rooted in insecurity. 6. Some women have kids out of loneliness, to feel useful and have someone to love them. They may be very bored with life. These women often suffer from rejection/abandonment wounds. 7. Some women are underdeveloped and see babies like baby dolls. They think they're cute, want to dress them and do all of the cute stuff. It's more so a childhood fantasy game to them. 8. We also have women who have kids for financial gain. They know having kids is the only way men will provide for them. 9. If you see a woman encouraging child bearing after having kids... AGAIN. Misery loves company. No one wants to be alone in their mistakes.
Great list! What about wanting someone to take care of you when you're old? Many claim it's their spouse's role but we know it often falls on their children! Also, related to #3, men really want a legacy. They can give someone their last name and have to put in a lot less work than the mother. If you can go through the list above and say, 'No, these issues don't apply to me'. Then, by all means! Sadly, I think most people would get stuck on the first couple of points.
@@suselperez2409 Thank you for adding. That is also a common reason. I guess I was just listing reasons my generation has kids. I never hear them say they have kids so that they'll have a caregiver in old age. My generation believes they're invincible. Lol. I think when men say they want children for their legacy, it's really all about their reputation. Basically wanting to meet societal standards so they won't look like a loser.
@Kay Shields I understand but I don't think you should act like it's excusable. I think you should encourage women to make better choices. You deserved a better life and so do your kids.
yep number 1 is classic narcissist projection. They know forcing someone into this terrible world without their consent to toil, suffer and die is INHERENTLY SELFISH AND EVIL! yet they project that onto childfree and antinatalist that we are the selfish ones. How sway?…
@@scottsummersreloaded4618 The brain's last attempt at survival is delusion. Disassociation. MENTAL GYMNASTICS. I'd be scared if I were them too. It's pure evil.
I work in retirement home most of the women in those place regret not having children's in there later days as they die alone not to pass on there blood line or wisdom. Its fun and all with no children's belivee dear you will regret it and I think you will make amazing mother at the end of the day thats all that matter
@@citizenm9590 I'm middle aged and not once in my life have I desired a child. No regrets. I'm an introvert and the idea of being a mom makes me sad. I would love the child, but I wouldn't love my life. I choose to experience this life on my terms and I'm at peace with dying alone.
@@citizenm9590 my mom works in a nursing home and she says the same thing when I tell her I don’t want kids. But I don’t care bc it’s selfish to have kids as part of a retirement plan lol
I'm currently experiencing a depressive episode and I can tell you that I'm so glad I don't have kids to deal with on top of all the other challenges I'm facing.
@@TeraChantelle I hear you fam and to each their own, but having a daughter is the best thing that has happened in my life, she brings me such joy. And trust me as they get older it gets even better. Now of course you don't want baba's kids. But if you raise your child properly the journey is not hard at all
@@koolsmoothfan Did you not hear these women saying they DO NOT want children? But you come along with your anecdotal life and list reasons why they should. I got news for you: some parents do everything right and their kids STILL turn out to be drug addicts, depressed, abusers, narcissists, criminals, and serial killers.
I work in retirement home most of the women in those place regret not having children's in there later days as they die alone not to pass on there blood line or wisdom. Its fun and all with no children's while you are young but when you get older belive me it will hit you hard.
@@LaLa_856 I hear you but from my experience and family n friends foe those that raise there kids proper those kids never abandoned there parents. You do you but we need to remember we come from Africa we value our family and children's lot of people being influced by Western way of living of selfish of being childless isn't a good look.
I am 21 years old I’ve been single for going on two years after a serious relationship/break up . I used to think I wanted kids and to be a mother but now that I’ve had time to sit alone and learn who I am as a growing woman I’ve been realizing that motherhood doesn’t sound or look all that appealing to me . I cherish my peace,solitude and time . If I don’t wanna do anything one day and lay in bed I want to do that with no interruptions or having to watch someone . I want my money to go my wants and needs . Pregnancy sounds absolutely terrifying . I don’t want to give up my freedom . Being a mother just seems so hard it’s 24/7 with little to no breaks . I saw someone say “fatherhood is a hobby, motherhood is a job” is actually how I feel about parenting and being a mother .
I also hate how as women we’re expected to want to have kids or have that motherly instinct and that’s another reason to my list of not wanting kids even more . Telling me “I’m gonna charge my mind “ makes me want to not change my mind even more . I’m good being the fine auntie single or not with NO kids . 😌
@@tayeloiss right?! Like seeing so many people telling me don’t have kids that have them or the people who say you’ll change your mind. I’d just rather not have kids at all . They take up time and my nerves are bad lol . Plus this world is too crazy. I can’t deal with it tbh
This is why I love social media (sometimes. Lol) it’s so nice to hear and be validated by someone who aligns with me. To feel less alone. I don’t want kids for the same reason as you. My philosophy is also less is more. I am learning to reparent myself and being my own “mother” instead of someone else. I just want to be free, an artist, follow my spiritual path and live abundantly. We are blessed to live in a time as women where we can actually choose our life. (Well, Roe v. Wade takes that into question but same idea.) I am choosing the life that aligns with my heart, not the default life that society says I “should” do. You have a beautiful way of expressing yourself vocally in a way that I haven’t been able to. Thank you! 💗
I’m 21 and I don’t think I want kids anymore! I just don’t think I can do it. I don’t have the mental capacity for it. I feel like a lot of woman regret having kids and I just see how a lot of people around me life slowed up. I’m also just nervous because the soul tie like a soul tie with sex is already strong enough and honestly the reason why I’m on a celibate journey. I couldn’t imagine having a child with a man I really can’t do it. I wanna be free! And I won’t fall for these men and they games they try to play. I’m just ok with just me! Now I’ve been alone and know more I know better!
Girl these FACTS!!!!! People just don't get it. I've been called SELFISH for not wanting to have kids. How does that make sense? Lol, it's MY choice and MY body and most of the time, the pressure comes from people who quite honestly struggling with being parents and also because you are 'free' of parental responsibility, they don't like that. I'm quite happy with my peace and quiet,spending money on MYSELF,my two cats and house full of plants,thank you very much😌 Lemme go subscribe my sista!
lol yep they jealous. Your money is your money, you sleep as much as u want, lower cortisol levels from less stress cause u not worried 24/7 about your kids well being etc. U know im 40 years old and most could mistake me for 20. I dont even have not 1 grey hair. I can thank being a vegan, working out on the regular, no kids, low stress and having money. People wit kids age TERRIBLY! generally…
@@rses916 Big facts, when you get married and/or have kids you are not just attaching yourself to that woman and that kid. You are marrying and attaching yourself to the system. You got all the financial responsibility as a man but NO CONTROL. No control over your kids and how they are raised, seeing them, no control over your baby mama or ex wife and what she do and what scumbags she bring around your kids. Why would I bring kids into a world that I have to protect them from? That makes no logical sense to me. When you have a kid you are automatically enslaved to that kid, that child's mother and the child support system. I had an advantage when I was younger cause I was friends with people who had kids and I saw all the misery they went thru with the family courts taking all their money and some more. it looked soul crushing and scared me into being really careful to not knock these chicks up. Dont even wanna imagine what my life woulda been with some stupid child support order and stressin constantly being dragged to court. no thanks
I just got on the other side of depression. I also just turned 35. The stress to have a child is getting realer by the day on all sides. When I raise up the stress of it all,I am demonized and called selfish. It''s becoming harder and harder to silence the pressure. I love kids but kids that go home. I am also scared of when I get older and I am alone. But I refuse to have kids just so I am not alone. I don't know ya'll. I am stressed because it's now or never.
Let me tell you something. DO NOT HAVE KIDS because you really don't want them. You are operating from fear and societal pressure. If the though of having kids does not fill you with joy, with happiness, with anticipation, or with deep love then you don't want kids. There are too many children out here that are abused, neglected, and lost because their idiot parents didn't think twice about having them. They just wanted to be like everyone else. Don't do that to yourself or some innocent child. Find your passion and live your life. It may take awhile, but it will happen. Having babies is NOT the answer. I guarantee you that you will feel real misery and pain having kids you really don't want.
When I tell people I don’t want kids they say around age 35 is when they start to want them! So hang in there it might just be a phase. Think more logically than emotionally
@@Aniexo_ Yeah. I am praying for clarity. I love kids too much to cause misery to one of bring trauma on them because I couldn't think clearly. The more days go by,the more I am realizing Motherhood has never been in me. I was just told it is the thing to go through as a woman. Otherwise,something is missing.
I worked at a school as a teacher assistant. If you feel stress without kids (who doesn’t) it multiples with kids. People say, “it’s only for 18 years.” Bullshit. Kids live at home until their mid twenties now. Seeing parents drop their kids off for less than 1 minute at the office, I could feel the stress radiate off of them and they didn’t have to say anything. The people that say have kids so you don’t end up dying alone? Your kids can die before you, but more commonly most kids don’t let their parents live with them when they’re old because they either don’t care or are too poor to help support them. Add in the cost of daycare which is literally the cost of a college degree now for one child, and the financial cost of college or another trade school for their career and expect to work yourself into an early grave unless you’re independently wealthy. At the end of the day, the people who tell you to have kids are not the ones who will be there supporting you when you have them. I also was a nanny and the parents who had time to themselves would hire me while they got spa services every single week and worked 24/7. Life is too short to appease what others think I should be doing.
The funniest part of it all is that a lot of parents are jealous of everyone, including other parents for not being overwhelmed with the task. Most parents claim child-rearing is the hardest, thankless, unpaid job. Yet, when some couples or single parents come out saying they’re happy and fulfilled, a lot of parents will undermine that and say “just wait until they get older” or “you’re in the baby moon phase with all the good hormones” or “you’re only happy because you have a good support system, try doing it alone” or “you only have one kid, wait until you have more and see how you feel”. The list goes on. I’ve seen and heard all of these statements from parents. So when a person is childfree, those same miserable parents are literally scathing with jealousy because you did you not sign up for a lifetime bid and and are outwardly unashamed of it. I feel bad for kids with parents like the ones I described. All of their internalized and expressed hatred of childfree people are a root of a deeper issue. Those children will get the brunt of the negativity that their parents harbor inside of them. As for me, I’m CF but happy for everyone! You had a kid and love being a parent, AMAZING. That’s how it should be. You decided to live CF , AWESOME. That’s how it should be. The only people I despise are the ignorant.
I say, create the life you want... regardless. Period. Kids or no kids. Stay grounded and keep your eyes on the prize. I definitely am someone who agrees with the sentiment "just because you can have kids doesn't mean you SHOULD have kids." that's just facts. The consciousness of parenting and raising kids needs to be elevated. Intention. Intention
I wanted kids, then I worked with kids all day, and became accustomed to my quiet house. I wamted to marry first. Didn't happen. Then I said "I'm okay without kids" and later became childfree I didn't know parenthood was an option. So if I didn't know it was an option, and I'm not pressured by society to have them I can't imagine the conflict women have coming to the choice Thanks for uploading. Much love!
People are FOREVER saying that someone is selfish because they DON'T want to have kids...smh 🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️They are NOT going to finance those kids lives...are they going to provide emotionally for the kids...NO so they have zero say so on ANOTHER person's procreation choices!! UGGH!
Yep. I always say it’s MORE selfish to insist on reproducing your own genes. That is literally being selfish. I’m not saying it’s bad, but let’s call it what it is
i knew since i was 13 i never wanted kids. i'm gonna be 32 in a few months and i haven't changed my mind at all! i am enjoying myself and spending that time and energy on me and the people i love. i can give them my full attention without being bogged down mentally, emotionally, or physically. i'm so glad that more and more women are speaking up about not wanting kids because when i was younger, this was an even more of a taboo subject!
I totally agree with everything you said I literally just did a video on why I don’t want to be a mother and a big reason why I don’t want to be a mother is due to my mental health ‼️ thank you for this video ✨
I applaud all u ladies who though this through, and taking the steps for this. Instead of having a kid ull love but didn't want in the first place. Salute!
Going half on a human is way more serious and deep than people give credit. Pretty sure my sister had a baby to 'do the normal thing' and now she hates him
I'm a 56 year old single and childfree Black woman and I'm not sorry about my decision to be childfree and single at all!!! I think that it's best that I never had children or gotten married, because if I did, my life would be totally miserable and I would be unhappy and more depressed than I already am!!! So not having children or getting married was the best life decisions for me personally!!!
I have a whole pancake stack of reasons for being childfree but here are my top 3.... 1. Children are too expensive 2. Parenthood is a lot of responsibility 3. This world is disgusting as hell
Thank you for this video!!! I’m an educator as well. I love kids. Never knew if I wanted my own or not. Glad we are finally having these conversations! Maybe this will change what’s “normal” and instead of being pressured, we will find our own healing, governments will be more supportive eventually. We have a long ways to go to ease the stress within our families from a structural standpoint. I had my baby and I love her more than life but boy it’s tougher than I realized. Single moms are the biggest hero’s. I was a cat mom first as well!🐈 💜
Our cat meows a lot and requires lots of attention and love and it's already too much for me to handle sometimes. I love her with all my heart but someday it's too much because she wants to be with me 24h. And it's too much I just thank God this is a cat (my babygirl) and not a childlike needing my attention all the time and speaking too much I cant even tolerate adults who speak too much they traumatize me. Nah hell no no regrets whatsoever. Not even talking about the fact you will always be worried for your children. My cat and her needs are already too much stress and worry because I'm always thinking of ways to make her happy hehe. Childfree 4 ever 😂🧚♀️
I work in retirement home most of the women in those place regret not having children's in there later days as they die alone not to pass on there blood line or wisdom. Its fun and all with no children's belivee dear you will regret it and I think you will make amazing mother at the end of the day thats all that matter
@@citizenm9590 you dont know me. How can you give the same advice to everyone as if we were all the same, like some robots. That's how you know whatever you're saying is bs. Everyone has their own unique life with their own experiences sensibilities tolerance needs and wants and traumas and interests etc. There are lots of old people with kids who never see them who have been abandoned by their lovely children in these retirement houses too. There are no guarantees in life. I won't regret it because it makes me physically sick to be around nose screams and dirt and anyone needing my attention all the time and having to be around people with too much energy who speak too much and kids never shut up I'd rather die right here. I love my nephews and nieces and children but I don't want any they can go back to their parents.
@@citizenm9590 I've been a palliative care volunteer for the last couple of years. I talk to people on their deathbed regularly. The most common regret I've heard is some variation of 'I wish I lived a life true to myself, not the life society/family/religion expected of me. I wish I did more of what I wanted to do and not what I thought I had to do.' Research backs this up as well. We should be encouraging everyone to live a life true to themselves. Kids are not a one size fits all for humanity. But, even if I have a fun, fulfilling life and start regretting being childfree on my deathbed... I'm okay with it. I'm gonna be dead pretty soon anyway! I'd rather live my next 50 years in freedom and risk dying with the possibility of loneliness than live my entire life in a way I don't want to live it just to avoid feeling sad when I'm dying. I'm probably gonna be sad regardless, whether it's sadness from grieving all the things I didn't get to do in this lifetime due to betraying myself and having kids or sadness because I don't get the chance to see my kids grieving and crying while holding my dying hand. Or I'll be completely out of it due to the illnesses that tend to inflict the older generation - a lot of patients I work with don't even know who or where they are, much less who their kids are. Maybe I won't even get to retirement and I'll die before it (not a single one of my grandparents made it to retirement, so the odds are not in my favour). Either way, I'll be dead shortly after and it won't matter at all! Free yourself from fear and stop projecting your fear onto other people! It's a short life, make the most of it in whichever way your heart desires :)
I would never recommend retirement home those people that have kids either way most them choose to live independent close to there kids and they help out with there grand kids helps them stay young in return they get lot of help to allow them to live independent. Its truly sad people choosing the life of not having kids will miss on a lot of things that are most joyfull when its said and done. Lot of people are being influenced by western selfish based society and we should never forget were we come from in Africa children's are a blessing. Ase
@@citizenm9590 Really? Children are a blessing? I guess all these black people having babies and abandoning them to foster care would tend to disagree with you there.
Just because ... it doesn’t mean! My little mantra! The fact is many women lie and pretend that they are so happy being mothers especially the ones who had babies irresponsibly and you know who you are. Nothing wrong with women deciding to be child free and no one should be judgemental about it either. The creator is not being judgemental. He has given us all the parts to be complete but it is entirely up to us how we decide to use it. The creator has given us that choice so people u do u and leave others alone!
Great points!!! I may have said every single thing you just said. I never wanted kids. When I was 29, I revisited the whole idea, and why I had believed that all my life. I decided that, if I ever met my kid’s dad, then I would reconsider ever having kids. So, I did. I decided I was an awesome-enough person to be able to put a good person out into this beautiful Earth. At 34, I got pregnant on the first attempt, all signs point to Life. I agree, we have to change this school/prison structure! And we don’t have to have kids to do that. So, I’m just saying, it’s great to be childfree, and it’s great to not get boxed into our own beliefs, of course it’s your prerogative to change your mind anytime. 😊💕 Also, my greatest healing has come from growing him these past 7 years, like seriously, healing I thought may not occur in this lifetime.
I know a good amount of people who are choosing not to have children. Im 29 and child free thankfully. Will I have kids? Maybe but im still undecided. My mom had me at 33 and my sister at 35. It just feels like a scary/daunting complete lifestyle makeover especially with how our society is going. Life is already a struggle, im not sure how much more difficult I could handle!!
I want less (or even none) as well. If I see a source of trouble something might cause me, I'd literally eliminate that thing as a whole. Like if I see how a piece of clothing that I will need to take care of, dry wash, iron, etc etc, I'd not even purchase that thing to begin with. This is just one example. I literally do this to all my decisions.
Whew! You make some valid points about the state of the world, the school system and capitalism. I certainly think it’s wise that you have really given this some thought.
Y’all I got two Betta fishes and the stress I was going through just doing research going to Petco, setting up their aquariums, getting the right food, I was damn near bouta fall out! I knew since 11 I didn’t want them baby thangs. Didn’t even wanna play with baby dolls
True I preferred barbies over baby dolls. My friend was obsessed with acting like the baby doll was her child and even back then I didn't understand the appeal 😂. I was like no I want to be like a doll having luscious hair and fancy outfits I'd comb their hair all the time lol. Turned out she had kids young and I stayed being a childfree doll. 💁♀️
@@rses916 lmfaoo man when I finally put them in their aquariums they started stressing out and hitting their heads on the gravel. I was like how tf am I ganna have kids?
so many people have children,and to be honest,they shouldn't . my older sister is a prime example. she firmly believes a television is parenting. gets pregnant,has baby,comes home,plops baby in front of television. repeat.repeat.repeat. her oldest son is 22. never been to school,nor even homeschooled. never potty trained. dude is all the way destroyed because of lazy birth giving. can't call it parenting,because it's clearly not
Everytime I watch your videos, I am baffled by the amount of people who are upset with your own personal decision to forego motherhood. These are the same folks who turn a blind eye to postpartum depression, child abuse, child abandonment, and absent parents. Make it make sense.
Lol okay... the more I listen today it's like you're literally "Mother Earth" personified 😀 hence the name... and connection to all and deeper understanding than most people. I feel you
Dogs are the new kids. I hate having a dog. I am the one who has to walk her 2 times a day and feed all the pets. My husband doesn’t really help. So I’m sure husbands are the same when it comes to kids…they don’t help. I really am not fit to have a dog and I will never get another dog after my dog goes to heaven one day. Yes I love my cat. Cats are easier and I am drawn to them more.
I worked at a retirement home too once and even women with 5 children died alone, the nurses were there but not their kids this happened more then once.And their kids would rarely visit maybe once or twice a year. I knew single women there too and yes they did regret not having kids. But one lady always talked about how she flew around the world in her planes she was a pilot. So women could die alone with or without kids it just depends on the life you want to live and we just have to live with those choices. Single ladies can travel and buy many things while women with children have someone to spend holidays with and take care of it just depends what you want .
It’s has been worst these last 3 years. I would hate to have to decide to get my child V 💉 in order to go to school. That was horrible that a parent had to decide that for their child. Things are bad.
People think of birth and babies not death and old age. When I stared death and illness in the face I felt this shit is real. I can barely cope how can I pass this along. It’s not all goodies
I wouldn't listen to her let me tell you I work in retirement home most of the women in those place regret not having children's in there later days as they die alone not to pass on there blood line or wisdom. Its fun and all with no children's while you are young but when you get older belive me it will hit you hard. Children's are a blessing have them at the end of the day all these childless women will all regret it.
@@citizenm9590 How do you know that?? Who are you to say that kids are a necessity to everyone’s life?? What if those elderly ppl in the group home are sad because they have kids who abandoned them or what their life story truly is?
@@citizenm9590 For every childless “regretful” person in that group home, there is another person in there with living kids who are not at their bedside either. That’s just not a reason to have kids.
@@SincereWithit9903 I know this because I work with them 5 days week and they are so lonely they need someone to talk to its so sad they tell me there life story. I would never recommend retirement home those people that kids they choose to live independent close to there kids and they help out with there grand kids helps them stay young. Its truly sad people choosing the life of not having kids will miss on a lot of things they will regret.
People used to say that to me at the age of 10, then 20, then 25. "You'll change your mind." I'm now 50 and still waiting to change my mind. 😂 Childfree for life🍹🍹🍹
I truly do respect your choice,but,if we all do that,I guess we’ll see humanity disappear in less than what !? 150 years maybe 🤔 (no more humans,interesting)
There is not even the smallest possibility that everyone in the world will stop reproducing lmao. Most people in the world don't have access to contraceptives/abortions you really think every single human in the world will just stop having sex? Hahahaha humanity will live on, you don't need to be worried about the impossible.
This is the DUMBEST argument ever. Everyone is NOT going to stop having kids, especially the brown and black people in poor countries. Don't even worry about that.
You will be dead and gone so why the hell do u care if humans or life still exist. You wont be here to enjoy it. There is not a whole dam lot to enjoy about life in the first place.
Just because all you see is misery in this world, doesn't mean we all see it like that. For me, life is worth beimg lived. This world is worth beimg experienced. Sure it has challenges, negatives, dangers and pain, but it's all worth it.
That's the vibe I'm getting to. It would be different if she was telling this story as a mom already, but she's not. I've heard stories from women who are mothers who genuinely regret having children, and that's fine
This woman is suspect i been telling me people and wouldn't take any advise. I work in retirement home most of the women in those place regret not having children's in there later days as they die alone not to pass on there blood line or wisdom. Its fun and all with no children's while you are young but when you get older belive me it will hit you hard.
@@NallahBrown Whenever I've seen moms talk about regretting kids 99% of the comments are calling them monsters and telling them they should've thought about that before they had kids. So no it wouldn't have been fine then either! No matter what a woman says there are always haters ready to tell her she's wrong/evil/selfish. The beauty of it comes when you, as a woman, realise there is no right way for you to live - and therefore there is no wrong way for you to live. So do whatever the fuck you want and squeeze as much happiness and freedom out of this life as you can!
@@citizenm9590 How do you know they regret having children? So they just come out and tell you? Seems to me like you are a regretful, jealous mother who spends her time hating on young, beautiful, childfree women.
You can just drop out of college at anytime. You can just quit your job at anytime. But you can’t just drop out of parenthood. And you can’t just quit being a parent.
Literally 😅
Only way to quit is your own death.
I am a 50 year old single black woman child free and im so happy 😊 and I travel all the time
I am a 51 year old black women who is childfree. I absolutely thank God and my mother for this life. It is freedom, it is wonderful, it is peaceful. Pay no attention to people trying to spread fear about old age. As a nurse I have worked in countless nursing homes and the people with the most children are the loneliest. FACTS!!!
I'm a 56 year old single and childfree Black woman myself, and I enjoy my peaceful and quiet childfree life!!! I really feel you!!! In my opinion being childfree and single is truly the best thing for me to live my life!!!
Love to hear you sistas thriving! I'm 30 myself and appreciate the opportunities I'm able to obtain as a child free woman, especially doing what I want when I want ✨
The only aspect of childfree life that bothers me is how difficult it is to find other women who think like you in my day to day life! Forever dreaming of a supportive sisterhood with likeminded women
I feel you, I'm over 30 child free and you right most of my friends already have 2 or more kids . So they don't connect with me like I wish
Exactly. There are not enough friends who are down to travel the world.
Honey! Clarity hit me at 9 years old & it’s only been reinforced & grown exponentially😂 I do not want them problems! I want to sleep…..I want to go to the store when I want….I want to keep my money & spend as much or as little as I want on anything I want & most importantly I want to keep my damn sanity! Celibacy & lack of patience with the bulls%*t has allowed me to achieve a child free & humble life 🙌🏾 #freedom #lovemylife #mindyouruterus #notmine
PREACH 🙏🏾🥂
1. Misery loves company. People have kids for their own benefit. It's literally inherently selfish to have kids. They tried to flip the script but truly feel convicted.
2. You'll mainly find men fear mongering to manipulate women into having kids. This is not only a capitalist tactic but also predatory. Ladies, I promise you that majority of these men are child predators and are very calculated. They will hype your heads up because they know your trauma and insecurities.
3. The other men who push child bearing are usually lonely or trying to prove something (meet societal standards).
4. Women who have kids typically do it to prove their cexual desirability (rooted in rejection and childhood SA).
5. Many women who were SA'd as children start families to prove their "normality". They want to blend in with society and prove that they've moved on from their past. They like to prove that someone does see their worth. Again, rooted in insecurity.
6. Some women have kids out of loneliness, to feel useful and have someone to love them. They may be very bored with life. These women often suffer from rejection/abandonment wounds.
7. Some women are underdeveloped and see babies like baby dolls. They think they're cute, want to dress them and do all of the cute stuff. It's more so a childhood fantasy game to them.
8. We also have women who have kids for financial gain. They know having kids is the only way men will provide for them.
9. If you see a woman encouraging child bearing after having kids... AGAIN. Misery loves company. No one wants to be alone in their mistakes.
Great list! What about wanting someone to take care of you when you're old? Many claim it's their spouse's role but we know it often falls on their children! Also, related to #3, men really want a legacy. They can give someone their last name and have to put in a lot less work than the mother.
If you can go through the list above and say, 'No, these issues don't apply to me'. Then, by all means! Sadly, I think most people would get stuck on the first couple of points.
@@suselperez2409 Thank you for adding. That is also a common reason. I guess I was just listing reasons my generation has kids. I never hear them say they have kids so that they'll have a caregiver in old age. My generation believes they're invincible. Lol.
I think when men say they want children for their legacy, it's really all about their reputation. Basically wanting to meet societal standards so they won't look like a loser.
@Kay Shields I understand but I don't think you should act like it's excusable. I think you should encourage women to make better choices. You deserved a better life and so do your kids.
yep number 1 is classic narcissist projection. They know forcing someone into this terrible world without their consent to toil, suffer and die is INHERENTLY SELFISH AND EVIL! yet they project that onto childfree and antinatalist that we are the selfish ones. How sway?…
@@scottsummersreloaded4618 The brain's last attempt at survival is delusion. Disassociation. MENTAL GYMNASTICS. I'd be scared if I were them too. It's pure evil.
One person's dream is another person's NIGHTMARE. I love being childfree!
😂😂✨ FACTS❤️🔥
I work in retirement home most of the women in those place regret not having children's in there later days as they die alone not to pass on there blood line or wisdom. Its fun and all with no children's belivee dear you will regret it and I think you will make amazing mother at the end of the day thats all that matter
@@citizenm9590 I'm middle aged and not once in my life have I desired a child. No regrets. I'm an introvert and the idea of being a mom makes me sad. I would love the child, but I wouldn't love my life. I choose to experience this life on my terms and I'm at peace with dying alone.
I agree, if you want kids have them, if not don't do not have them. Me personally I love having a daughter, best thing that ever happened to me
@@citizenm9590 my mom works in a nursing home and she says the same thing when I tell her I don’t want kids. But I don’t care bc it’s selfish to have kids as part of a retirement plan lol
I'm currently experiencing a depressive episode and I can tell you that I'm so glad I don't have kids to deal with on top of all the other challenges I'm facing.
Sis! I’m here if you need me love. You’re never alone❤️ We in this together!
@@TeraChantelle Thank you❤️
@@TeraChantelle I hear you fam and to each their own, but having a daughter is the best thing that has happened in my life, she brings me such joy. And trust me as they get older it gets even better. Now of course you don't want baba's kids. But if you raise your child properly the journey is not hard at all
You can do it! Sending big hugs❤️
@@koolsmoothfan Did you not hear these women saying they DO NOT want children? But you come along with your anecdotal life and list reasons why they should. I got news for you: some parents do everything right and their kids STILL turn out to be drug addicts, depressed, abusers, narcissists, criminals, and serial killers.
I saw this at age 5 and declared at age 5 that I do not want children. I am almost 34 and still do not want kids.
I work in retirement home most of the women in those place regret not having children's in there later days as they die alone not to pass on there blood line or wisdom. Its fun and all with no children's while you are young but when you get older belive me it will hit you hard.
@@citizenm9590 so those who don't want children are supposed to go through the regret and hardship just so we're not alone during our time of death?
@@citizenm9590 what about the ones that do have children but none of them are there for them. They must feel even worse than the childless women.🤷🏾♀️
@@LaLa_856 I hear you but from my experience and family n friends foe those that raise there kids proper those kids never abandoned there parents. You do you but we need to remember we come from Africa we value our family and children's lot of people being influced by Western way of living of selfish of being childless isn't a good look.
@@citizenm9590 stop copy and paste are you insane?
I am 21 years old I’ve been single for going on two years after a serious relationship/break up . I used to think I wanted kids and to be a mother but now that I’ve had time to sit alone and learn who I am as a growing woman I’ve been realizing that motherhood doesn’t sound or look all that appealing to me . I cherish my peace,solitude and time . If I don’t wanna do anything one day and lay in bed I want to do that with no interruptions or having to watch someone . I want my money to go my wants and needs . Pregnancy sounds absolutely terrifying . I don’t want to give up my freedom . Being a mother just seems so hard it’s 24/7 with little to no breaks . I saw someone say “fatherhood is a hobby, motherhood is a job” is actually how I feel about parenting and being a mother .
I also hate how as women we’re expected to want to have kids or have that motherly instinct and that’s another reason to my list of not wanting kids even more . Telling me “I’m gonna charge my mind “ makes me want to not change my mind even more . I’m good being the fine auntie single or not with NO kids . 😌
@@tayeloiss right?! Like seeing so many people telling me don’t have kids that have them or the people who say you’ll change your mind. I’d just rather not have kids at all . They take up time and my nerves are bad lol . Plus this world is too crazy. I can’t deal with it tbh
Girl my sentiments exactly! It goes deeper than just not wanting kids I don’t actually want to be pregnant🤣🤣
43 and childfree no regrets …. Living life to its fullest
I don’t blame you, your life is your life.
Thank you🤸🏽♀️📚
Young Women such as yourself give me hope. There's sign of Intelligent Life. Kudos 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💖
This is why I love social media (sometimes. Lol) it’s so nice to hear and be validated by someone who aligns with me. To feel less alone. I don’t want kids for the same reason as you. My philosophy is also less is more. I am learning to reparent myself and being my own “mother” instead of someone else. I just want to be free, an artist, follow my spiritual path and live abundantly.
We are blessed to live in a time as women where we can actually choose our life. (Well, Roe v. Wade takes that into question but same idea.) I am choosing the life that aligns with my heart, not the default life that society says I “should” do.
You have a beautiful way of expressing yourself vocally in a way that I haven’t been able to. Thank you! 💗
I’m 21 and I don’t think I want kids anymore! I just don’t think I can do it. I don’t have the mental capacity for it. I feel like a lot of woman regret having kids and I just see how a lot of people around me life slowed up. I’m also just nervous because the soul tie like a soul tie with sex is already strong enough and honestly the reason why I’m on a celibate journey. I couldn’t imagine having a child with a man I really can’t do it. I wanna be free! And I won’t fall for these men and they games they try to play. I’m just ok with just me! Now I’ve been alone and know more I know better!
There is no such thing as a soul tie. You are just emotionally weak when it comes to men. You definitely do not need to be having any babies.
I love your self-awareness and honesty. For those still unsure, please consider becoming a foster parent. It’s a way to give back
I say it like this.
ask yourself honestly.
do I want kids,or am I brainwashed by societal norms to want kids?,
Exactly. For most people, it is definitely brainwashing and wanting to be like everyone else.
Love your thoughts.
Girl these FACTS!!!!! People just don't get it. I've been called SELFISH for not wanting to have kids. How does that make sense? Lol, it's MY choice and MY body and most of the time, the pressure comes from people who quite honestly struggling with being parents and also because you are 'free' of parental responsibility, they don't like that. I'm quite happy with my peace and quiet,spending money on MYSELF,my two cats and house full of plants,thank you very much😌 Lemme go subscribe my sista!
Also I see the look on the face of my siblings with kids. They're like damn you lucky you (for having no kids) lol.
The facial expressions don’t lie😂❤️❤️
@@TeraChantelle 🤣🧚♀️
lol yep they jealous. Your money is your money, you sleep as much as u want, lower cortisol levels from less stress cause u not worried 24/7 about your kids well being etc. U know im 40 years old and most could mistake me for 20. I dont even have not 1 grey hair. I can thank being a vegan, working out on the regular, no kids, low stress and having money. People wit kids age TERRIBLY! generally…
@@rses916 Big facts, when you get married and/or have kids you are not just attaching yourself to that woman and that kid. You are marrying and attaching yourself to the system. You got all the financial responsibility as a man but NO CONTROL. No control over your kids and how they are raised, seeing them, no control over your baby mama or ex wife and what she do and what scumbags she bring around your kids. Why would I bring kids into a world that I have to protect them from? That makes no logical sense to me. When you have a kid you are automatically enslaved to that kid, that child's mother and the child support system. I had an advantage when I was younger cause I was friends with people who had kids and I saw all the misery they went thru with the family courts taking all their money and some more. it looked soul crushing and scared me into being really careful to not knock these chicks up. Dont even wanna imagine what my life woulda been with some stupid child support order and stressin constantly being dragged to court. no thanks
@@scottsummersreloaded4618 yes 🍹
I just got on the other side of depression. I also just turned 35. The stress to have a child is getting realer by the day on all sides. When I raise up the stress of it all,I am demonized and called selfish. It''s becoming harder and harder to silence the pressure. I love kids but kids that go home. I am also scared of when I get older and I am alone. But I refuse to have kids just so I am not alone. I don't know ya'll. I am stressed because it's now or never.
Let me tell you something. DO NOT HAVE KIDS because you really don't want them. You are operating from fear and societal pressure. If the though of having kids does not fill you with joy, with happiness, with anticipation, or with deep love then you don't want kids. There are too many children out here that are abused, neglected, and lost because their idiot parents didn't think twice about having them. They just wanted to be like everyone else. Don't do that to yourself or some innocent child.
Find your passion and live your life. It may take awhile, but it will happen. Having babies is NOT the answer. I guarantee you that you will feel real misery and pain having kids you really don't want.
When I tell people I don’t want kids they say around age 35 is when they start to want them! So hang in there it might just be a phase. Think more logically than emotionally
@@Aniexo_ Yeah. I am praying for clarity. I love kids too much to cause misery to one of bring trauma on them because I couldn't think clearly. The more days go by,the more I am realizing Motherhood has never been in me. I was just told it is the thing to go through as a woman. Otherwise,something is missing.
@@Childfree334 totally agree. Thank you❣
I worked at a school as a teacher assistant. If you feel stress without kids (who doesn’t) it multiples with kids. People say, “it’s only for 18 years.” Bullshit. Kids live at home until their mid twenties now. Seeing parents drop their kids off for less than 1 minute at the office, I could feel the stress radiate off of them and they didn’t have to say anything. The people that say have kids so you don’t end up dying alone? Your kids can die before you, but more commonly most kids don’t let their parents live with them when they’re old because they either don’t care or are too poor to help support them. Add in the cost of daycare which is literally the cost of a college degree now for one child, and the financial cost of college or another trade school for their career and expect to work yourself into an early grave unless you’re independently wealthy. At the end of the day, the people who tell you to have kids are not the ones who will be there supporting you when you have them. I also was a nanny and the parents who had time to themselves would hire me while they got spa services every single week and worked 24/7. Life is too short to appease what others think I should be doing.
The funniest part of it all is that a lot of parents are jealous of everyone, including other parents for not being overwhelmed with the task.
Most parents claim child-rearing is the hardest, thankless, unpaid job. Yet, when some couples or single parents come out saying they’re happy and fulfilled, a lot of parents will undermine that and say “just wait until they get older” or “you’re in the baby moon phase with all the good hormones” or “you’re only happy because you have a good support system, try doing it alone” or “you only have one kid, wait until you have more and see how you feel”. The list goes on. I’ve seen and heard all of these statements from parents.
So when a person is childfree, those same miserable parents are literally scathing with jealousy because you did you not sign up for a lifetime bid and and are outwardly unashamed of it.
I feel bad for kids with parents like the ones I described. All of their internalized and expressed hatred of childfree people are a root of a deeper issue. Those children will get the brunt of the negativity that their parents harbor inside of them.
As for me, I’m CF but happy for everyone! You had a kid and love being a parent, AMAZING. That’s how it should be. You decided to live CF , AWESOME. That’s how it should be. The only people I despise are the ignorant.
I say, create the life you want... regardless. Period. Kids or no kids. Stay grounded and keep your eyes on the prize.
I definitely am someone who agrees with the sentiment "just because you can have kids doesn't mean you SHOULD have kids." that's just facts. The consciousness of parenting and raising kids needs to be elevated. Intention. Intention
I couldn’t agree more. I want less responsibility, I want less stress!! Also, we have 8 million people on this earth.
I wanted kids, then I worked with kids all day, and became accustomed to my quiet house.
I wamted to marry first. Didn't happen. Then I said "I'm okay without kids" and later became childfree
I didn't know parenthood was an option. So if I didn't know it was an option, and I'm not pressured by society to have them I can't imagine the conflict women have coming to the choice
Thanks for uploading. Much love!
Literally took ALL the words right out my mouth. I couldn’t agree more sis and we need more voices like yours 🤟🏾🙌🏾👏🏾
❤️❤️❤️
Feel you on this a thousand percent!!!🙏🏾❤️👍🏾😊
❤️❤️❤️
Glad I decided on the child free lifestyle bc I knew I wasn’t fit to raise another human being. I didn’t let society pressure me. I come first for me.
People are FOREVER saying that someone is selfish because they DON'T want to have kids...smh 🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️They are NOT going to finance those kids lives...are they going to provide emotionally for the kids...NO so they have zero say so on ANOTHER person's procreation choices!! UGGH!
Yep. I always say it’s MORE selfish to insist on reproducing your own genes. That is literally being selfish. I’m not saying it’s bad, but let’s call it what it is
@@jentastic3236 right?? 💯
Thank you! How is it selfish not to being another person into this world?? “I want a baby” is a far more selfish emotion!
i knew since i was 13 i never wanted kids. i'm gonna be 32 in a few months and i haven't changed my mind at all! i am enjoying myself and spending that time and energy on me and the people i love. i can give them my full attention without being bogged down mentally, emotionally, or physically. i'm so glad that more and more women are speaking up about not wanting kids because when i was younger, this was an even more of a taboo subject!
Well the problem is- most women don‘t think at all when getting pregnant…🙈 33, childfree, living my best life.
The world is never going to be without flaws, that's just facts
Facts🔥
I totally agree with everything you said I literally just did a video on why I don’t want to be a mother and a big reason why I don’t want to be a mother is due to my mental health ‼️ thank you for this video ✨
I applaud all u ladies who though this through, and taking the steps for this. Instead of having a kid ull love but didn't want in the first place. Salute!
Going half on a human is way more serious and deep than people give credit. Pretty sure my sister had a baby to 'do the normal thing' and now she hates him
Sad 😔
If you are the woman you are not going half on the kid. You are going 99%.
Ah so happy you mentioned the school system! So true! X
I love.fhe way you explained this, it basically summed up exactly how I feel about kids.
Yes!! All of this. ❤️
Appreciate you!
YESSSSSIR WE LOVE THE CONTENT . KEEP IT UP
Appreciate you love❤️❤️
A Sis is childfree and ecstatic about it!
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿SAY IT AGAIN!!!!!
You have said it better than any other childfree channel. Love your videos on childfree just subscribed today.
God bless you love, thought long and hard on this one lol
I'm a 56 year old single and childfree Black woman and I'm not sorry about my decision to be childfree and single at all!!! I think that it's best that I never had children or gotten married, because if I did, my life would be totally miserable and I would be unhappy and more depressed than I already am!!! So not having children or getting married was the best life decisions for me personally!!!
Amen girl!!
I am an fur babies mama and glad of that. I love animals and trust them people not so much. People have an agenda and animals don't.
I have a whole pancake stack of reasons for being childfree but here are my top 3....
1. Children are too expensive
2. Parenthood is a lot of responsibility
3. This world is disgusting as hell
I'm here. Joining the childfree lifestyle.
Welcome to the party🤣🤣❤️
Thank you for this video!!! I’m an educator as well. I love kids. Never knew if I wanted my own or not. Glad we are finally having these conversations! Maybe this will change what’s “normal” and instead of being pressured, we will find our own healing, governments will be more supportive eventually. We have a long ways to go to ease the stress within our families from a structural standpoint. I had my baby and I love her more than life but boy it’s tougher than I realized. Single moms are the biggest hero’s. I was a cat mom first as well!🐈 💜
Our cat meows a lot and requires lots of attention and love and it's already too much for me to handle sometimes. I love her with all my heart but someday it's too much because she wants to be with me 24h. And it's too much I just thank God this is a cat (my babygirl) and not a childlike needing my attention all the time and speaking too much I cant even tolerate adults who speak too much they traumatize me.
Nah hell no no regrets whatsoever. Not even talking about the fact you will always be worried for your children. My cat and her needs are already too much stress and worry because I'm always thinking of ways to make her happy hehe.
Childfree 4 ever 😂🧚♀️
I work in retirement home most of the women in those place regret not having children's in there later days as they die alone not to pass on there blood line or wisdom. Its fun and all with no children's belivee dear you will regret it and I think you will make amazing mother at the end of the day thats all that matter
@@citizenm9590 you dont know me. How can you give the same advice to everyone as if we were all the same, like some robots.
That's how you know whatever you're saying is bs. Everyone has their own unique life with their own experiences sensibilities tolerance needs and wants and traumas and interests etc.
There are lots of old people with kids who never see them who have been abandoned by their lovely children in these retirement houses too.
There are no guarantees in life.
I won't regret it because it makes me physically sick to be around nose screams and dirt and anyone needing my attention all the time and having to be around people with too much energy who speak too much and kids never shut up I'd rather die right here. I love my nephews and nieces and children but I don't want any they can go back to their parents.
@@citizenm9590 I've been a palliative care volunteer for the last couple of years. I talk to people on their deathbed regularly. The most common regret I've heard is some variation of 'I wish I lived a life true to myself, not the life society/family/religion expected of me. I wish I did more of what I wanted to do and not what I thought I had to do.' Research backs this up as well.
We should be encouraging everyone to live a life true to themselves. Kids are not a one size fits all for humanity.
But, even if I have a fun, fulfilling life and start regretting being childfree on my deathbed... I'm okay with it. I'm gonna be dead pretty soon anyway! I'd rather live my next 50 years in freedom and risk dying with the possibility of loneliness than live my entire life in a way I don't want to live it just to avoid feeling sad when I'm dying. I'm probably gonna be sad regardless, whether it's sadness from grieving all the things I didn't get to do in this lifetime due to betraying myself and having kids or sadness because I don't get the chance to see my kids grieving and crying while holding my dying hand. Or I'll be completely out of it due to the illnesses that tend to inflict the older generation - a lot of patients I work with don't even know who or where they are, much less who their kids are. Maybe I won't even get to retirement and I'll die before it (not a single one of my grandparents made it to retirement, so the odds are not in my favour). Either way, I'll be dead shortly after and it won't matter at all!
Free yourself from fear and stop projecting your fear onto other people! It's a short life, make the most of it in whichever way your heart desires :)
I would never recommend retirement home those people that have kids either way most them choose to live independent close to there kids and they help out with there grand kids helps them stay young in return they get lot of help to allow them to live independent. Its truly sad people choosing the life of not having kids will miss on a lot of things that are most joyfull when its said and done. Lot of people are being influenced by western selfish based society and we should never forget were we come from in Africa children's are a blessing. Ase
@@citizenm9590 Really? Children are a blessing? I guess all these black people having babies and abandoning them to foster care would tend to disagree with you there.
38 year old, chilfree by choice living in Africa and i looooovvvvvve it 🎉🎉🎉
Just because ... it doesn’t mean! My little mantra!
The fact is many women lie and pretend that they are so happy being mothers especially the ones who had babies irresponsibly and you know who you are. Nothing wrong with women deciding to be child free and no one should be judgemental about it either. The creator is not being judgemental. He has given us all the parts to be complete but it is entirely up to us how we decide to use it. The creator has given us that choice so people u do u and leave others alone!
Great points!!! I may have said every single thing you just said. I never wanted kids. When I was 29, I revisited the whole idea, and why I had believed that all my life. I decided that, if I ever met my kid’s dad, then I would reconsider ever having kids. So, I did. I decided I was an awesome-enough person to be able to put a good person out into this beautiful Earth. At 34, I got pregnant on the first attempt, all signs point to Life. I agree, we have to change this school/prison structure! And we don’t have to have kids to do that. So, I’m just saying, it’s great to be childfree, and it’s great to not get boxed into our own beliefs, of course it’s your prerogative to change your mind anytime. 😊💕 Also, my greatest healing has come from growing him these past 7 years, like seriously, healing I thought may not occur in this lifetime.
EXACTLY! I feel the same way.
Minimalistic!!!!!!!! Simplicity is the key! I agree 100%… Drop those jewels Queen!!
I know a good amount of people who are choosing not to have children. Im 29 and child free thankfully. Will I have kids? Maybe but im still undecided. My mom had me at 33 and my sister at 35. It just feels like a scary/daunting complete lifestyle makeover especially with how our society is going. Life is already a struggle, im not sure how much more difficult I could handle!!
I want less (or even none) as well. If I see a source of trouble something might cause me, I'd literally eliminate that thing as a whole. Like if I see how a piece of clothing that I will need to take care of, dry wash, iron, etc etc, I'd not even purchase that thing to begin with. This is just one example. I literally do this to all my decisions.
Amazing beloved indeed Amazing Angel fr peace and love as always ty ty ty
Whew! You make some valid points about the state of the world, the school system and capitalism. I certainly think it’s wise that you have really given this some thought.
Y’all I got two Betta fishes and the stress I was going through just doing research going to Petco, setting up their aquariums, getting the right food, I was damn near bouta fall out! I knew since 11 I didn’t want them baby thangs. Didn’t even wanna play with baby dolls
True I preferred barbies over baby dolls. My friend was obsessed with acting like the baby doll was her child and even back then I didn't understand the appeal 😂.
I was like no I want to be like a doll having luscious hair and fancy outfits I'd comb their hair all the time lol. Turned out she had kids young and I stayed being a childfree doll. 💁♀️
Also the story about your fishes lmao I'm dead 😂 I know exactly what you mean.
@@rses916 same the teen dolls get to have sex, drive, have their own place? Why tf would I want the. Baby was my mindset
@@rses916 lmfaoo man when I finally put them in their aquariums they started stressing out and hitting their heads on the gravel. I was like how tf am I ganna have kids?
@@Aniexo_ 😂😂😂 fr
New subscriber, 27 newly engaged! I can’t even imagine!
so many people have children,and to be honest,they shouldn't .
my older sister is a prime example.
she firmly believes a television is parenting.
gets pregnant,has baby,comes home,plops baby in front of television.
repeat.repeat.repeat.
her oldest son is 22. never been to school,nor even homeschooled.
never potty trained.
dude is all the way destroyed because of lazy birth giving.
can't call it parenting,because it's clearly not
Isn't school obligatory for kids tho? How come he never went to school? Wth
Sadly, this is how most people do it. People love to have babies, but don't want to be parents.
@@Childfree334 👏
Everytime I watch your videos, I am baffled by the amount of people who are upset with your own personal decision to forego motherhood.
These are the same folks who turn a blind eye to postpartum depression, child abuse, child abandonment, and absent parents. Make it make sense.
Most will never fathom the bravery it takes to be the odd ball out😂🥹
Lol okay... the more I listen today it's like you're literally "Mother Earth" personified 😀 hence the name... and connection to all and deeper understanding than most people. I feel you
Ma’am not I’ll let the baby cry 😂😂
Me too. I don’t really like kids like that especially when they’re at that age.
Dogs are the new kids. I hate having a dog. I am the one who has to walk her 2 times a day and feed all the pets. My husband doesn’t really help. So I’m sure husbands are the same when it comes to kids…they don’t help. I really am not fit to have a dog and I will never get another dog after my dog goes to heaven one day. Yes I love my cat. Cats are easier and I am drawn to them more.
Girl these dogs is something else😂. I prefer cats too.
Girl I can't disagree with this
I worked at a retirement home too once and even women with 5 children died alone, the nurses were there but not their kids this happened more then once.And their kids would rarely visit maybe once or twice a year. I knew single women there too and yes they did regret not having kids. But one lady always talked about how she flew around the world in her planes she was a pilot. So women could die alone with or without kids it just depends on the life you want to live and we just have to live with those choices. Single ladies can travel and buy many things while women with children have someone to spend holidays with and take care of it just depends what you want .
Ok, Im in love with you. Seriously, I wish there would be more women like you here in Brazil.
When I get rich we gon have a fine single rich aunty convention. ❤️
We don’t have to be the “rich aunt” neither.
@@StephanieNiecey okay lol
It’s has been worst these last 3 years. I would hate to have to decide to get my child V 💉 in order to go to school. That was horrible that a parent had to decide that for their child. Things are bad.
People think of birth and babies not death and old age. When I stared death and illness in the face I felt this shit is real. I can barely cope how can I pass this along. It’s not all goodies
So true
Aw man, I think her account is gone. I tried looking it up so I can support her as a childfree by choice woman!
I love the less. You have the right idea. I barely have the energy to be present for my own husband.
Can I just adopt so many unwanted children needing a home and guidance.
we’re all different. end of story
❤️😘
❤️❤️
I want less too, I’m not a fan of capitalism aswell. I’m tired of the world, imagine how I would cope with a kid already struggling myself iyoh
To be real😂😂🥹
Damn Tera 😂 tell us how you really feel. May I please ask a question?
What if you have a husband and he helps out and take care of the baby, you are both doing your part being a parent…..
I’m not interested in the marriage institution either☺️
I wouldn't listen to her let me tell you I work in retirement home most of the women in those place regret not having children's in there later days as they die alone not to pass on there blood line or wisdom. Its fun and all with no children's while you are young but when you get older belive me it will hit you hard. Children's are a blessing have them at the end of the day all these childless women will all regret it.
@@citizenm9590 How do you know that?? Who are you to say that kids are a necessity to everyone’s life?? What if those elderly ppl in the group home are sad because they have kids who abandoned them or what their life story truly is?
@@citizenm9590 For every childless “regretful” person in that group home, there is another person in there with living kids who are not at their bedside either. That’s just not a reason to have kids.
@@SincereWithit9903 I know this because I work with them 5 days week and they are so lonely they need someone to talk to its so sad they tell me there life story. I would never recommend retirement home those people that kids they choose to live independent close to there kids and they help out with there grand kids helps them stay young. Its truly sad people choosing the life of not having kids will miss on a lot of things they will regret.
You're really in Taoism.
you'll change your mind honey.
People used to say that to me at the age of 10, then 20, then 25. "You'll change your mind." I'm now 50 and still waiting to change my mind. 😂 Childfree for life🍹🍹🍹
I truly do respect your choice,but,if we all do that,I guess we’ll see humanity disappear in less than what !? 150 years maybe 🤔 (no more humans,interesting)
There is not even the smallest possibility that everyone in the world will stop reproducing lmao. Most people in the world don't have access to contraceptives/abortions you really think every single human in the world will just stop having sex? Hahahaha humanity will live on, you don't need to be worried about the impossible.
1. Not everyone will stop having kids. That's not going to happen.
2. What would be wrong with humanity disappearing?
This is the DUMBEST argument ever. Everyone is NOT going to stop having kids, especially the brown and black people in poor countries. Don't even worry about that.
Dude we're 7 billions dont worry.
You will be dead and gone so why the hell do u care if humans or life still exist. You wont be here to enjoy it. There is not a whole dam lot to enjoy about life in the first place.
Just because all you see is misery in this world, doesn't mean we all see it like that. For me, life is worth beimg lived. This world is worth beimg experienced. Sure it has challenges, negatives, dangers and pain, but it's all worth it.
It might be worth it for you because you're already alive - why do you think that it's ok for you to make that decision for someone else?
íF YOU ARE ALREADY CHALLENGED EXISTING...well than please dont have any children...but why does the world need to know?
Why so triggered? Ask yourself.
Want to change your mind.
😂😂 Hell to the nah
Idk this video is spreading a lot of fear..
That's the vibe I'm getting to. It would be different if she was telling this story as a mom already, but she's not. I've heard stories from women who are mothers who genuinely regret having children, and that's fine
This woman is suspect i been telling me people and wouldn't take any advise. I work in retirement home most of the women in those place regret not having children's in there later days as they die alone not to pass on there blood line or wisdom. Its fun and all with no children's while you are young but when you get older belive me it will hit you hard.
@@citizenm9590 exactly, that is wild and she's of color
@@NallahBrown Whenever I've seen moms talk about regretting kids 99% of the comments are calling them monsters and telling them they should've thought about that before they had kids. So no it wouldn't have been fine then either! No matter what a woman says there are always haters ready to tell her she's wrong/evil/selfish. The beauty of it comes when you, as a woman, realise there is no right way for you to live - and therefore there is no wrong way for you to live. So do whatever the fuck you want and squeeze as much happiness and freedom out of this life as you can!
@@citizenm9590 How do you know they regret having children? So they just come out and tell you? Seems to me like you are a regretful, jealous mother who spends her time hating on young, beautiful, childfree women.