I think regardless of the man’s culture, let us learn how to flirt, smile and compliment. and let go of the hard unapproachable look because we are stereotyped as aggressive.
Thank you for this video. I'm a British Born African man, but lived in my motherland for about a decade as a child. For this reason, I'm very rooted in my culture, I speak my languages, I'm AfroCentric but also have some Western Values albeit not Liberal. I personally believe in Marrying or dating within our community. Our unity is greater than romantic love. With that being said, I think some of the challenges that our sisters face is that they set exceptionally high standards for Black Men compared to Caucasian men. We are expected to be Ready Made with house, career, physique, assets etc. Also in the West we also have to consider how we wait to raise our children. Not to be brainwashed with Western Values etc. Modern women expect us to make the move, but sometimes we just do not know how interested you are. Just be straightforward. We don't have time for games. We don't want to be seen as a nuisance, so first "no" is no. We walk away and leave you in peace. Like you said in your previous video, time and availability is also an issue. As is location. We can't just date casually like Caucasians, unless it's agreed from day 1 that it's purely casual. Also, the reluctance to show any emotions sometimes. For me, I have children whom I'm very close to, so any sign of not being affectionate is a red flag. Just a few thoughts while I'm working. Despite all these challenges, I will only ever date African / Black women. There is hope yet. ✌🏿❤️💯
I love my Kenyan wife. I met her online in a forum AFTER I booked my solo trip to Kenya. I wanted to marry her but a law change in UK meant i had to do it fast. I am lucky to be in the financial/employment situation i am in. I am not rich but I have not been stingy with her. she has free gym, pocket money for the bus, new clothes, nails, hair, good food, iphone 15 and can use my tv, wifi and gameing pc. Every weekend i take her somewhere new in the north of england and now she has her own african friends she can hang out with or without me. I go to work and she takes care of the home but in a few weeks she will get a spouse visa so she can earn a living. I will help her find something to do.
Being single is a challenge when you grow older for us Africans.You really need a family because it's in our DNA.But the problem is, we are scattered all over the world and to get a true loyal partner from your own culture becomes a problem.In Zimbabwe we say," rooranai vematongo,"meaning marry from your own culture.Marrying from other cultures it's difficult and age is catching up with us.I think God must intervene in our situation because it's so sad.Soon we gonna be old with no family, being single is not nice at all.
You make some good points..Finding love abroad is challenging im speaking as a Zimbabwean also living abroad but i also think some of our black sisters put themselves in this position. There are stereotypes for a reason and of course there are exceptions. In my experience I've noticed some if not most of our African sisters out here are exactly as you described (aggressive) and a bit more so than the ones back home so i aslo understand the men with negative stereotypes even though its not fair to paint everyone with the same brush.. The other thing is their pride is dialed up to eleven, social media has given them the illusion that they have an infinite amout of options and time and some have very unrealistic expectations. The truth is the average woman has no shortage of men showing interest in them regardless of ethnicity it's just that they ignore the men in their league.. Also Love nowadays translates to making considerably way more money than her. some men understand this that we are loved on condition of how much we can provide at the instant and having a good character or honour is further down the list.If you're a black woman abroad you probably make more money than your male counterparts back home and if you're a man abroad well you most likely are on the same footing with your black woman so she won't respect you and the relationship becomes more of a competition than a partnership.As men we now say its better kuroora wekuruzeva or wekumba(its better to find a wife back home) but who knows what's waiting for us there 😅.. I think a way forward is going back to the basics of love being kind and content with what you have and if you're a Christian seeking he's Kingdom then the rest will follow.
51 year old black african woman - I miss the days when men approached women. I have found that when you, as a women, even smile at a man it gets seen as you being thirsty and just looking for sex. Honestly, its a no win situation.
I'm a Trinidadian man living in America I would like to marry a African woman but it has been very difficult for me to meet one I tried . I like culture and the traditions it reminds me of Trinidad but its seems just saying hi to some I get no responds and they are reserved . I'm a hard working man and a pleasant man but I have gotten no where in meeting one for a relationship and this is NYC
I'm sorry about your experience. I've also noticed that at the moment, black women seem to have become conditioned to believe or expect black men not to take notice of them and I could go into that here but my writing would be too long. Maybe that's another video but I'm sure you get what I'm trying to say. But I'll say this - go ahead and approach the African woman you like. Once we go past that initial hello and the shyness, it's smooth-sailing from there. We're just taught not to be too forward and I don't think it's a bad thing.
The problem is the American black culture on tv,it’s expected of everyone black women are thought to be loud and aggressive, men are good dancers musicians and have other attributes people fetishize about which is all not true
It’s time we decease from thinking about what the world will think of us. Take of the musk and these social norms put down by someone God knows when. Ladies don’t limit yourself, wake up and smell the coffee, open your eyes and shine ✨
I really think arranged marriages anongst black Africans in the diaspora is the way to go. Within our black circles, our kids can be matched and start families. Of course its up to the kids to agree. This way we remain "us"
@@mzee5533 It works when it's done right. In Africa, Rwandan Tutsis, Ugandan Himas, Somalis, Ethiopian Habesha, and Southern Sudanese Dinka and Nuer in the diaspora across the UK, Europe, US, and Australia are somewhat practicing this. It's not like Desi arranged marriages where the woman has no say, but we Cushites and Nilotics of East Africa are culturally obsessed with our clans and have carried that structure of marrying in alignment with our culture wherever we are in the West. There are a few interracial marriages here and there, but they're extremely rare among these groups. I'm Rwandan Tutsi, born in France, and ended up marrying a Somali woman of Somali-Kenyan background. We're from different cultures, but we share a common ancient pastoralist East African origin, so our families were happy. She had also already converted to Christianity before we met, which made things alot easier. Among African Bantu people or West Africans, like Gambians, Ghanaiaans, Nigerians, it doesn’t seem to be practiced the same way. This might be a cultural difference. Nigerians, for example, seem to marry whoever they please. I've met people who are half-Nigerian, half-Norwegian; half-Nigerian, half-Chinese; half-Nigerian, half-Serbian, and the list goes on. For us Tutsis, though, we're culturally expected to marry another Tutsi, whether in Kigali, Nairobi, Paris, Stockholm, or London. The clan and sub-clan must align. If not another Tutsi, our parents are more likely to accept Ethiopians or Somalis as East Africa has become more connected, and we've gotten to know each other better in the West as part of the larger diaspora Also, the term "black" lacks specificity in Africa. We're incredibly diverse, and simply saying "black marriages" or "black dating" isn’t specific enough. Culturally, genetically, and historically, a Djiboutian woman from the Afar tribe is as alien to an Ashanti man from Ghana as a Swede is to a Portuguese person. They have nothing in common.
Black women are vulnerable all over the world.black women must find a black man who she can luv and who luvs her.i believe any black woman running from this cause her more problems.she must face reality of the world and her position in it.she has no power or influence and can only turn to her own man for a basic loving family life that will sustain her in her lifetime as well as gives her important role to play in mans world and mans life personally.thats a game changer in a mans life and that is what a black African woman should do in any man's life and gives her the advantage to be loved by a man.there should be no dark side to dealing with a woman 🤔 she should be a joy and a wanted responsibility for a man.dont fall for any man's game or stereotype of women especially African women.man is sick in the head over and about black women.only luv between black people is by black man and woman.this knowledge is thousands of years old and black African women can't act like they are new in the world and there is no history to understand and be aware of.black African women your black men already luv u and think the best of u.u can be whoever u want with us as long as it is in luv.there is much pride and dignity black men have about black women and black family.african black women must join in this luv affair because black luv rules and can't be conquered.u can only join in.black men put no pressure on black women and just want to luv her and be responsible for his family.u as black african women dont have to do much to attract your own counterparts.black men want to luv black women and take care of them and be blessed in our days together.blqck women please stop 🛑 listening to lies of the world and trust and believe black men want to luv u and have great relationships with black African women.i have been scammed in luv for black African women,I have trusted and lived and been burned by black African women.i still luv them and pray and hope I can one day find the right one.luv is everything to me and being in luv and taking care of family is everything to me.hopefully one day i will get to make this a reality as it already exist in my ❤️ and is just waiting for a woman and the action to take place, to come from the ❤️ and make into actual real heart felt feelings and luv making. ✌️ And blessings 🙏
More African women should wear their Natural Hair
Mr Okechi wearing their natural hair and you the same man go behind their backs and bang those girls with wigs.
I think regardless of the man’s culture, let us learn how to flirt, smile and compliment. and let go of the hard unapproachable look because we are stereotyped as aggressive.
Thank you for this video.
I'm a British Born African man, but lived in my motherland for about a decade as a child. For this reason, I'm very rooted in my culture, I speak my languages, I'm AfroCentric but also have some Western Values albeit not Liberal.
I personally believe in Marrying or dating within our community. Our unity is greater than romantic love.
With that being said, I think some of the challenges that our sisters face is that they set exceptionally high standards for Black Men compared to Caucasian men. We are expected to be Ready Made with house, career, physique, assets etc.
Also in the West we also have to consider how we wait to raise our children. Not to be brainwashed with Western Values etc.
Modern women expect us to make the move, but sometimes we just do not know how interested you are. Just be straightforward. We don't have time for games. We don't want to be seen as a nuisance, so first "no" is no. We walk away and leave you in peace.
Like you said in your previous video, time and availability is also an issue. As is location. We can't just date casually like Caucasians, unless it's agreed from day 1 that it's purely casual.
Also, the reluctance to show any emotions sometimes. For me, I have children whom I'm very close to, so any sign of not being affectionate is a red flag.
Just a few thoughts while I'm working.
Despite all these challenges, I will only ever date African / Black women. There is hope yet.
✌🏿❤️💯
Thank you so much for sharing this. Much appreciated. Enjoy your work!
I forgot to mention if the lady wants (more) children. Or if she has children, but the man doesn't. Then there is also Sickle Cell consideration.
@@funkmasterjay Sounds complicated
@Resithrive it needn't be. We just have to know out purpose, learn to compromise and also know our boundaries.
I love my Kenyan wife. I met her online in a forum AFTER I booked my solo trip to Kenya. I wanted to marry her but a law change in UK meant i had to do it fast. I am lucky to be in the financial/employment situation i am in. I am not rich but I have not been stingy with her. she has free gym, pocket money for the bus, new clothes, nails, hair, good food, iphone 15 and can use my tv, wifi and gameing pc. Every weekend i take her somewhere new in the north of england and now she has her own african friends she can hang out with or without me. I go to work and she takes care of the home but in a few weeks she will get a spouse visa so she can earn a living. I will help her find something to do.
You sound like a good husband. Thank you so much for sharing your story.
I pray she doesn't get bored of you after doing all the nice things for her.
Being single is a challenge when you grow older for us Africans.You really need a family because it's in our DNA.But the problem is, we are scattered all over the world and to get a true loyal partner from your own culture becomes a problem.In Zimbabwe we say," rooranai vematongo,"meaning marry from your own culture.Marrying from other cultures it's difficult and age is catching up with us.I think God must intervene in our situation because it's so sad.Soon we gonna be old with no family, being single is not nice at all.
Thank you so much for leaving your thoughts.
@@Resithrive you're welcome ❤️
You make some good points..Finding love abroad is challenging im speaking as a Zimbabwean also living abroad but i also think some of our black sisters put themselves in this position. There are stereotypes for a reason and of course there are exceptions. In my experience I've noticed some if not most of our African sisters out here are exactly as you described (aggressive) and a bit more so than the ones back home so i aslo understand the men with negative stereotypes even though its not fair to paint everyone with the same brush.. The other thing is their pride is dialed up to eleven, social media has given them the illusion that they have an infinite amout of options and time and some have very unrealistic expectations. The truth is the average woman has no shortage of men showing interest in them regardless of ethnicity it's just that they ignore the men in their league..
Also Love nowadays translates to making considerably way more money than her. some men understand this that we are loved on condition of how much we can provide at the instant and having a good character or honour is further down the list.If you're a black woman abroad you probably make more money than your male counterparts back home and if you're a man abroad well you most likely are on the same footing with your black woman so she won't respect you and the relationship becomes more of a competition than a partnership.As men we now say its better kuroora wekuruzeva or wekumba(its better to find a wife back home) but who knows what's waiting for us there 😅.. I think a way forward is going back to the basics of love being kind and content with what you have and if you're a Christian seeking he's Kingdom then the rest will follow.
Well said.
Hi. It's almost like 20 years!!! Thank you
I know!! Where have you been hiding and how is the channel doing?
I'm in zim. The channel is growing steadily. How are you yourself
51 year old black african woman - I miss the days when men approached women. I have found that when you, as a women, even smile at a man it gets seen as you being thirsty and just looking for sex. Honestly, its a no win situation.
Yep! It's crazy.
I'm a Trinidadian man living in America I would like to marry a African woman but it has been very difficult for me to meet one I tried . I like culture and the traditions it reminds me of Trinidad but its seems just saying hi to some I get no responds and they are reserved . I'm a hard working man and a pleasant man but I have gotten no where in meeting one for a relationship and this is NYC
I'm sorry about your experience. I've also noticed that at the moment, black women seem to have become conditioned to believe or expect black men not to take notice of them and I could go into that here but my writing would be too long. Maybe that's another video but I'm sure you get what I'm trying to say. But I'll say this - go ahead and approach the African woman you like. Once we go past that initial hello and the shyness, it's smooth-sailing from there. We're just taught not to be too forward and I don't think it's a bad thing.
@@Resithrive ok thank 🙏 you for your advice and yes you are absolutely right
The problem is the American black culture on tv,it’s expected of everyone black women are thought to be loud and aggressive, men are good dancers musicians and have other attributes people fetishize about which is all not true
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
It’s time we decease from thinking about what the world will think of us. Take of the musk and these social norms put down by someone God knows when. Ladies don’t limit yourself, wake up and smell the coffee, open your eyes and shine ✨
Thanks for leaving your thoughts
@Resithrive, You are such a pretty , mature lady .If u are not taken let me know please
I really think arranged marriages anongst black Africans in the diaspora is the way to go. Within our black circles, our kids can be matched and start families. Of course its up to the kids to agree. This way we remain "us"
Getaway with arranged marriages.
@@mzee5533 It works when it's done right. In Africa, Rwandan Tutsis, Ugandan Himas, Somalis, Ethiopian Habesha, and Southern Sudanese Dinka and Nuer in the diaspora across the UK, Europe, US, and Australia are somewhat practicing this. It's not like Desi arranged marriages where the woman has no say, but we Cushites and Nilotics of East Africa are culturally obsessed with our clans and have carried that structure of marrying in alignment with our culture wherever we are in the West. There are a few interracial marriages here and there, but they're extremely rare among these groups.
I'm Rwandan Tutsi, born in France, and ended up marrying a Somali woman of Somali-Kenyan background. We're from different cultures, but we share a common ancient pastoralist East African origin, so our families were happy. She had also already converted to Christianity before we met, which made things alot easier.
Among African Bantu people or West Africans, like Gambians, Ghanaiaans, Nigerians, it doesn’t seem to be practiced the same way. This might be a cultural difference. Nigerians, for example, seem to marry whoever they please. I've met people who are half-Nigerian, half-Norwegian; half-Nigerian, half-Chinese; half-Nigerian, half-Serbian, and the list goes on. For us Tutsis, though, we're culturally expected to marry another Tutsi, whether in Kigali, Nairobi, Paris, Stockholm, or London. The clan and sub-clan must align. If not another Tutsi, our parents are more likely to accept Ethiopians or Somalis as East Africa has become more connected, and we've gotten to know each other better in the West as part of the larger diaspora
Also, the term "black" lacks specificity in Africa. We're incredibly diverse, and simply saying "black marriages" or "black dating" isn’t specific enough. Culturally, genetically, and historically, a Djiboutian woman from the Afar tribe is as alien to an Ashanti man from Ghana as a Swede is to a Portuguese person. They have nothing in common.
100% true. Arranged marriages will solve a lot of issues.
Black women are vulnerable all over the world.black women must find a black man who she can luv and who luvs her.i believe any black woman running from this cause her more problems.she must face reality of the world and her position in it.she has no power or influence and can only turn to her own man for a basic loving family life that will sustain her in her lifetime as well as gives her important role to play in mans world and mans life personally.thats a game changer in a mans life and that is what a black African woman should do in any man's life and gives her the advantage to be loved by a man.there should be no dark side to dealing with a woman 🤔 she should be a joy and a wanted responsibility for a man.dont fall for any man's game or stereotype of women especially African women.man is sick in the head over and about black women.only luv between black people is by black man and woman.this knowledge is thousands of years old and black African women can't act like they are new in the world and there is no history to understand and be aware of.black African women your black men already luv u and think the best of u.u can be whoever u want with us as long as it is in luv.there is much pride and dignity black men have about black women and black family.african black women must join in this luv affair because black luv rules and can't be conquered.u can only join in.black men put no pressure on black women and just want to luv her and be responsible for his family.u as black african women dont have to do much to attract your own counterparts.black men want to luv black women and take care of them and be blessed in our days together.blqck women please stop 🛑 listening to lies of the world and trust and believe black men want to luv u and have great relationships with black African women.i have been scammed in luv for black African women,I have trusted and lived and been burned by black African women.i still luv them and pray and hope I can one day find the right one.luv is everything to me and being in luv and taking care of family is everything to me.hopefully one day i will get to make this a reality as it already exist in my ❤️ and is just waiting for a woman and the action to take place, to come from the ❤️ and make into actual real heart felt feelings and luv making.
✌️ And blessings 🙏