Clearing model is a game changer. One piece missing in this video is for the clearer to state “my role in this is….” taking accountability before they state what they want from the other.
Love it! And in coaching this process I hear so many rebuttals (some from me)..."Talking about it will make it worse", "There are so many it will take forever", "It's all about me anyway so why include the other person"... how would deal with those hesitancies to even come to the table with curiosity and hope?
This is basically active listening and I don't see how it's effective without the desire expressed by the first person being directly addressed. Saying "What I want is for you to keep your agreements or renegotiate them before an approaching deadline" isn't enough to resolve the issue. The other person needs to address that in some way. Either, "Yes, " commit to doing so," "no, I can't" or a counteroffer of some kind.
Thank you for your thoughts. What you are saying is saying we commonly hear. People naturally believe that an issue cannot be resolved unless the other party addresses the issue directly. We get that, AND this is a clearing model and not an issue resolution model. In our experience one does not need the other party to directly address the issue in order to be “clear.” To be clear it is essential that I be fully expressed in my stories, feelings and wants and that I be witnessed or mirrored so that I can be seen and see myself. Once I have fully expressed and been seen I can let go of the past and be fully present in the moment. From this place of presence our experience is that 80% of the time the issue resolves itself and 20% of the time there is a need for another conversation. It’s also our experience that if we try to resolve and issue with out clearing the issue will just keep recycling.
Great stuff. But wouldn't this only work if then other person knows how to do this and is willing to participate? Unless others are trained this way, you can't do this successfully, right? People who aren't trained to do this will become defensive, or get triggered and lash out.
What we suggest is that you send both this video, along with the digital copy of the script found on our website www.conscious.is/resources to the person you want to clear with. Ask them to review both first and then let you know if they would be willing to do the process with you. It is true that if people are committed to being in victimhood, this process may not be friendly for all parties involved.
We recommend you practice these commitments with others who are equally committed. Otherwise if you are committed to one thing (no blame/100% responsibility) and they are committed to another (blaming/being a victim) then you will have drama. We suggest you look to be part of teams who want to play the same "game" you do.
Keep the videos coming I've just found your channel and appreciate the methods used to help the self and in effect help others.
+Goku G we plan to keep the videos coming. Let us know if there is a specific topic you would like us to address. Cheers to your journey.
Clearing model is a game changer. One piece missing in this video is for the clearer to state “my role in this is….” taking accountability before they state what they want from the other.
Love it! And in coaching this process I hear so many rebuttals (some from me)..."Talking about it will make it worse", "There are so many it will take forever", "It's all about me anyway so why include the other person"... how would deal with those hesitancies to even come to the table with curiosity and hope?
You could role play clearing a small portion with a friend and see how it goes.
i like this one thank you
This is basically active listening and I don't see how it's effective without the desire expressed by the first person being directly addressed. Saying "What I want is for you to keep your agreements or renegotiate them before an approaching deadline" isn't enough to resolve the issue. The other person needs to address that in some way. Either, "Yes, " commit to doing so," "no, I can't" or a counteroffer of some kind.
Thank you for your thoughts. What you are saying is saying we commonly hear. People naturally believe that an issue cannot be resolved unless the other party addresses the issue directly. We get that, AND this is a clearing model and not an issue resolution model. In our experience one does not need the other party to directly address the issue in order to be “clear.” To be clear it is essential that I be fully expressed in my stories, feelings and wants and that I be witnessed or mirrored so that I can be seen and see myself. Once I have fully expressed and been seen I can let go of the past and be fully present in the moment. From this place of presence our experience is that 80% of the time the issue resolves itself and 20% of the time there is a need for another conversation. It’s also our experience that if we try to resolve and issue with out clearing the issue will just keep recycling.
Great stuff. But wouldn't this only work if then other person knows how to do this and is willing to participate? Unless others are trained this way, you can't do this successfully, right? People who aren't trained to do this will become defensive, or get triggered and lash out.
What we suggest is that you send both this video, along with the digital copy of the script found on our website www.conscious.is/resources to the person you want to clear with. Ask them to review both first and then let you know if they would be willing to do the process with you. It is true that if people are committed to being in victimhood, this process may not be friendly for all parties involved.
Hello sir/mam, may I know what software you use to make this animation video please?
Thank you in advance
How are you supposed to use this effectively when the people you work with are deeply paranoid and passive aggressive?
We recommend you practice these commitments with others who are equally committed. Otherwise if you are committed to one thing (no blame/100% responsibility) and they are committed to another (blaming/being a victim) then you will have drama.
We suggest you look to be part of teams who want to play the same "game" you do.