How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself | Adlerian Psychology (Alfred Adler's Individual Psychology)
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- Опубликовано: 21 сен 2020
- How to stop self-sabotage based on key concepts of Alfred Adler's Individual Psychology.
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I recently read "The courage to be disliked ," (Koga/Koshima). I think Adlerian psychology is powerful and capable of changing lives so long.as one has the courage to admit that they are creating their own barriers.
Thank you for your comment! I totally agree. Best wishes 🍀
"Do you really not approach the man or woman you’d like to approach because you feel you’re too ugly or are you actually afraid of relationships? Because you’re so god damn afraid of relationships, you use the excuse that you’re too ugly in order to avoid reaching for that goal. Avoiding relationships is your real goal. " it makes me think so much. btw it's so funny when you say 'g** d***' in such a soft, soothing voice. :)
Dear Songyi, it's quite a challenging thought isn't it? :) Sometimes we need to be brutally honest with ourselves... Haha, I thought if I use swear words, I need to at least say them softly I guess ;) All the best for you
But what is the possible solution?
I am an ardent supporter of Adlerian psychology. It's sad that he is not the father of psychotherapy. His approach was what we call as common sense. His teleology concept is what I am reading about now. This video clarified it. Thank you. Your voice is so calming. I would love more videos from you on Adler's concept.
Dear Lakshmi, thanks for your comment, I completely agree. His theories are so practical and helpful that it's a pity they're not more known. I have created a playlist with all my videos about Alfred Adler, maybe that could be interesting for you? Best wishes 🍀
He born today 7/2/1870
Thanks Perennial 💐
Dear Hala, thank you so much for bringing that to my attention! I'll put that in my new video today :) Thank you and all the very best 😊🍀
This sounds a lot like pull yourself up by your bootstraps. And while I agree that there are life lies, blanket attributing all issues to yourself is also dangerous. Example: existing in a time when society and big tech aim to disorient the masses. You can say its outside of ones control and therefor isn't even an issue in psychological terms, IE its hard to do something about it. Existential responsibility could be a wonderful thing if its served in context.
It does sound like that from one POV, but on further investigation, I am convinced that it is not negating the depth or influence of trauma, simply asking the question "Yes and what now?" If the best way to manage the symptoms of trauma is to work on physical, psychological and emotional regulation, Adler would say, this is one of your life tasks, be courageous and do the work. It could also be said that the work of others who have not been impacted by trauma is to ensure that all who need it, have access to supports for the learning new behaviours of self-regulation. This fits with the overall idea of creating social good. We can resist big tech by spending less time using it
I read that Adlerian psychology is a psychology of courage.😊
It’s insane that this video have zero dislikes when I just viewed
Thanks to Adler and thanks to you
I hope this advise and idea could spread more to people that are afraid to approach their crushes or people that worried about getting into a relationship
Thank you so much for your kind comment, Stephen :) That really means a lot! I'm grateful that people seem to like it as I really appreciate Adler's ideas myself. Best wishes and have a good day!
This video is brilliant, I got goosebumbs! I study psychology too and your videos helped me so much while studying for my exams. Olso it spoked to my soul and I thank you for that!
Thank you so much for your heartfelt comment, Aneta! It really means a lot and I deeply appreciate your words. Made my day. Best of luck with your exams and joy with discovering Adler 😉
No one explains Adler and brings him back to life like you do. Thanks a lot Alina.
Thank you so much, that is such a generous compliment. It means a lot!
I recently found your videos and they are so helpful! I hadn't heard of Adler before and your gentle, encouraging messages are compelling and truly a gift to us on this channel. Thank you x
Thank you so much for your kind words, Susan! That is beyond generous and means a lot ot me. Best wishes
I really enjoyed this - thanks for making it
Thank you so much!
What a gem of a video👏🏾 Thank you for this!
I'm so glad to hear you liked it 😊 Thank you for your comment, James!
Wow this is so powerful. I have become obsessed with Alderian psychology
This was so helpful! Thank you so much for sharing 😊
Thank you for your comment here as well, Mayank 😊I'm so glad it was helpful!
Hi. Personally, i like both equally. Each could work in different situations, at least to me. while in therapy phase for my clinical depression (bipolar type 2 here), Freud's gave me assurance that whatever im having that time, wasn't my fault and i should not blame myself (which i did severely). My emotions n mood were validated too. I don't think Adler's would work that time, as i percept it seems to 'blame' a person, Although the actual term is 'responsibility'. Now that 'i am OK', exploring Adler's & teleology making so much sense, as i am building up my mental resiliency and Adler's really helps! ;-)
Thank you for your interesting and insightful comment, Ruff! I couldn't agree more. It all depends on where one is at and different approaches can be helpful at different times. I wish you all the very best 😊
Thank you, beautifully summarised and explained!
I'm so glad you liked it. Thank you and best wishes 🍀
This is so good. Simple and well explained.
Thank you! I'm very happy you liked it, that means a lot.
These videos are an excellent introduction to Adler. I'm learning loads. Thank you!
Wonderful! Thank you for your comment :)
This is by far your best video
Thank you so much! That's so kind of you to say. Best wishes 🍀
Thanks for this explanation!!
You're so welcome! Thank you for your comment.
Love the roses!
Thank you for this.
You’re welcome! Thank you for your comment.
Inspiring for self-improvement. 👍
I'm glad if it's helpful 😊
Thank you ❤
You're welcome 😊
Spot on!!
Thank you!
I like your opinion and the explination. Thanks a lot.
Thank you for your comment, Carlos :)
I love this ❤️
Wonderful!
“As soon as you use your inferiority as an excuse and not a trigger for growth, this is what we call a life lie.” Brilliant!
I'm glad you enjoyed it! Thank you for your comment, Philip.
wow, seeing this by happenstance. Very good
Hope I can afford one day. i have never watched something that showed up as an ad, the way i did this one.
I don't promote any of my videos with ads! So I have no idea why this showed up - but I'm glad you enjoyed it :)
Nice one... Great... 👍
Thank you so much 😊
I need to finish the ‘Courage to be disliked book’ thanks for this summary .. I feel I have so much to offer but then sabotage myself all the time.. frustrating
Let me know what you think about the book!
c est magnifique!
Ma'am your video is really really impactful. Loved it, thank you. And keep enriching our self awareness.🙏 From India
Thank you for your kind words, Ravindar! Self-Awareness and psychodynamic theory are my favourite topics - so there will be a lot of videos specifically for that in October :)
@@PsychodynamicPsychology hope so watch them soon ma'am. I am gaining interest in psychology of self . And after reading and watching videos like yours I am actually feeling the difference in my personality. Wish to remain connected to the positive and energetic thoughts and people like you🙏
That's so beautiful! Thank you for the compliment. I also created a free "Roadmap to Self-Awareness" booklet, in case that would be interesting for you ;) I think you will find it at www.alinamueller.com/freebie
Thanks to your social interest we can learn something new 😊 Thanks a lot 🎉
That's so kind of you to say! Still working on increasing that social interest 😉 Thank you for your comment 😊
brilliant
Thank you 😊
I love your videos keep uploading keep sharing its very informative and it helps me a lot since I am Psychology students. ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thank you so much! That's so kind of you 😊 I'm so glad I can be of help. All the best of luck with your studies 🍀
I love his pragmatism. Keep up the good work!
Thank you!
@@PsychodynamicPsychology By the way, have you looked into Peter Levine's work on trauma?
I haven't, trauma is not one of my main interests. I prefer to study neurotic dynamics (instead of trauma or structural deficits) and inner conflicts.
@@PsychodynamicPsychology aha. Although i am really neurotic and psychodynamic theory serves me well in some aspects, i suffered from emotional trauma in my childhood which i don’t think is easily treated at all with such approach since not enough focus is put on body sensation. If someone is traumatized and neurotic, it is impossible to heal the neurosis without healung the trauma first. Some concepts in Levine’s work might help a lot a subset of your patients. True trauma is not well understood. It puts an incredible physiological strain on the body and is known to shorten lifespans and increase the probability of all sorts of diseases. I am currently reading his book, Healing Trauma, and have had some insights that have been really helpful. I am also conscious of the fact that as I get better i will move more towards psychodynamic theory.
I thought that Albert Ellis gave practical methods of implementing Alders' ideas.
Wth this video is great why doesnt ur have any views
Haha, thank you! 😊 I don't know, let's hope more people discover it 🙃
I really appreciate your videos they're very academic and professional .. would you be open to do a video on Nietzsche since he mentioned some critical points about human psychology .. :)
Thank you so much, James. That's so kind of you :) Unfortunately I know hardly anything about Nietzsche and am definitely not the right person to make a video about him :/
Hi!
Can you recommend a book by Adler that goes deeply in to his notion of courage?🙏
That's a good question... I honestly don't have a spot-on recommendation unfortunately :/ A popular book to learn more about Adler is "The Courage to Be Disliked" and a more technical book is "The Individual Psychology of Alfred Adler: A Systematic Presentation in Selections from His Writings" by Ansbacher & Ansbacher. You might also find some more information here www.adlerpedia.org/. Good luck! 🍀
@@PsychodynamicPsychology Latest book, The courage to be happy. Excellent read.
Thanks for the suggestion! I haven't read it yet but it's on my list.
Okay,there are life lies,but would you deny that society uses narratives to calm down and desorient the mass,for instance you can get if you really want,implying that you just didnt try hard enough,is a myth.Adler,oversimplifies complex social structures.
Didnt isben make the life lie? Genuinely asking. Did adler use the term "life lie"
Hm... might be. Adler used the German word "Lebenslüge" and maybe that was a translation or adaptation of Ibsens original work!
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I have been using Adler in all my assignments and love his theory. Thank you I learned something very useful
Please use subtitles in English
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Thank you for the support, Stephen :)
@@PsychodynamicPsychology keep coming will love to hear more from you 👍
And all the very best 👍
@@stephendoungel8745 So nice to have you here :) If there are topics you're particularly interested in, let me know ;)
@@PsychodynamicPsychology sure! 👍
It’s actually not a surprise to me that Alfred Adler psychology is not better known or that he is not thought of as the father of modern psychology, as his psychology emphasizes a form of personal responsibility as opposed to being able to make a claim of victimhood due to circumstances. We all know which path is the most popular one!
Personal responsibility has indeed become an unpopular topic (at least pretty visiblly on social media). You might be right about this! Thank you for your comment and best wishes 🍀
I guess Bessel van der Kolk would disagree?
Yes, very likely Adler and van der Kolk would not have been friends 😅
I got a BA in Psychology in the USA. And you know what?
We never discussed Adler.
Oh yes! I do a training in psychodynamic psychotherapy and Adler has not been mentioned so far :D In most university programs all we learn about psychodynamic psychology is one slide about Freud saying it's all outdated. It's a shame!
Adler has no idea of the real effects of true trauma if he said we do not suffer from them and it has no bearing on how we live
flashbacks are involuntary.. this has been proven by scans of brain activity and amygdala activity in people..
it's learning how to live with it is the art
they have TERRIBLE EFFECTS on people, emotional and even physical effects of stress caused by the flashbacks
it's been proven they never go away.. we just have to learn how to live with it and still function
Why you speak so low.