Hope you don’t mind but I was watching YFF and noticed your comment. I can relate in every way and I just wanted to congratulate you for being so brave also to wish you well in your future…being free. Don’t forget to have a word with yourself every now and then. Take care and be well Respect from Australia ❤
23+ here. It's exhausting and has caused me alot of health issues in every manner. I gave 110+% for him and our relationship and home. I poured all into him and family, that I forgot MY anythings. Took me awhile to believe things, because I didn't wanna be like alot of people. But I realise I gave up me and my dreams. I'm focused on me and all that makes me happy. As he has no matter what. I trust in myself and in the ☝️✝️ all will be fine. I am very capable. I love life over expectations of others. Stay strong. BLESS🙏🌻
I’m in my mid-60’s and I’ve embraced my age. People see my gray hair and automatically dismiss me. Let them. It’s empowering in a way to be invisible. So freeing.
I’m so glad I read these comments. I’m having a hard time accepting how much my physical appearance has changed. I’m 72 and when I see pictures of myself it really makes me feel ashamed since like many others I was very attractive when I was younger. I don’t see age issues in others just myself.
@@rebeccadees2300 You’re not alone. We all miss our youthful appearance to some extent. I’m enormously grateful everything still works on my aging body. I stopped being ashamed of my appearance. If someone else doesn’t like it, that’s their problem, not mine. I cherish each line and wrinkle as proof I’ve live a full life.
O lord you're on the right track,am 68,and have been news for the main part,free,if people start ''I DONT WANT TO HEAR,I didnt know who the present leader of country was,for 2 wks after the vote of witch I didnt take part
The news is propaganda. I recognize that in the 60s when I was eight years old. Me and my sister knew that the story they gave about JFK was bullshit. We were children, but we could see it.
@@Susweca5569 uh no? you can actually turn off watch history with then also turns off youtube recommendations and leaves the front page blank. that way you only see/search for what you're actively looking for. everyone knows this lol. so no, you're not seeing the news just by using youtube. you can literally turn it off
My husband and I recently bucked conventional norms/tradition and left our 40+ year suburban home/life and moved out to a 5 acre property in the country. We’ve got a huge garden, chickens and apple trees. Friends and family didn’t think that at our age (63) we should be undertaking such an ‘adventure’ but we love it! Many also didn’t understand why we would want to give up what they consider a more convenient lifestyle where food, services, healthcare, etc. are usually minutes away or can be delivered right to your door. We have found that our ‘authentic’ selves like being more self sufficient, growing our own food, cooking from scratch, and our bodies and minds are thriving thru the physical work and all the time spent outdoors listening to the sounds of nature instead of traffic and neighbors.
Sounds idyllic… and hard work 😅 Kudos yo you guys for making the decision & doing what’s best for you. You definitely threw a few brules out the window with this adventure!
@@johenderson3742 Yes, as we're only about 45 min to an hour from where most our family/friends live. We have 4 granddaughters who spend many weekends with us as well!
I'm 82 years old and I've finally realized that I am NOT a problem to solve... which is incredibly liberating. No more shame, no more trying to prove I'm acceptable... either to myself or to other people. Life becomes very sweet when all I do is live with patience, kindness and compassion for myself and for those I encounter along the way.
Such wonderful values to live by - the world could definitely do with more! And realising that you/me are NOT problems to solve, but just individuals - love that!!!
Things I've given up at 63: working for others, pantyhose, wearing shoes in the summer, running, things I hate doing, dieting, trying to give up wine, going into debt for things, trying to impress people I don't like.
I'm a 75 yr old widow....been widowed for over 20 yrs. I've never been interested in being married again. I own my 5 acres of heaven outright in western Oregon, US. I have nature, friends, dogs. My sister and brother live within 20 miles of me. I do crafts, volunteer at the local Humane Society. I never imagined life would be this good at this time.
@@melindalemmon2149 I don't even hear about that...thank goodness. All of us who care for annies are not at all involved with the medical things. I do know that euthanasia is comfortable for them....of course, they don't stress about it before hand.
Here in Oregon right now also... but I spend Winters in Mexico and usually a week or two in Hawaii... for some reason I don't care much for Oregon Winter... I was born in Portland and while I have done a lot of Traveling around, I stayed around here to focus on my family " Parents" Both parents have passed along with 2 sisters... More and More I think about fulltime in Mexico... I don't much care for the long flights to Europe anymore... Although I wouldn't mind going again, I just really dislike long flights. Currently I am trying to find homes for kittens born to a Feral cat that happened on my property, any suggestions?
I'm 57, retired at 40 because I received 40% burns in an accident (I was given a 20% chance of surviving) and ever since I do whatever makes me happy. I wear whatever I want (mostly Goth grunge), I cut off all my hair and grew it out silver, I pull on my Dr. Marten boots everyday and we are currently building a van to live in so we can travel around Australia for the next few years and I can't wait! Young people don't seem to understand that just because we get older in years doesn't mean that we get older in mind, I still feel like I'm in my late 20's and I'm going to enjoy it for as long as I can.
Exactly - we are still young in our minds. Sometimes an event in our lives, often times a very painful one, sends us off on a completely different trajectory. Maybe a hero’s story as described by Joseph Campbell.
I’m also 57 I retired at 39 when side effects from a serious neck and spinal cord injury no longer allowed me to continue my profession (working with children with with behavior disorders mainly, so it could be quite physical). There was a time, since I was about 16, that I would not be seen in public without an ounce of makeup and dressed well, but in my own style and always in heels. How times change, yesterday, I walked to the Village shop in torn jeans, bra-less, still wearing my pajama top. I needed coffee and was out of milk. Makeup has been replaced by skincare. I was widowed a year ago, my dog died within a week of my husband. So it was just me. And in the past year, with my new Chihuahua companion, I have become more and more just me. I’d lost, or forgotten myself, for a long while I realised and it was time to remedy that. So I’m all in favour of BRULES, not that I often followed them, really, I guess I’m re-embracing my eccentricities.
I'm 58. I don't follow rules either. I buzz my head. Just don't want to mess with hair at all. I watch nothing mainstream. I watch a couple RUclips channels and occasionally some British tv on Amazon Prime. I prefer British tv to American. I do not watch the news or any other controlled media. I hardly ever wear makeup either. I just don't want to mess with it anymore. I'm not trying to impress anyone. I painted the inside of my house the colors I wanted, not what's in style. My living room is neon green and the hallway is aqua blue, the kitchen bright yellow and red. I do what i like. I never fit in and don't care to. Why be normal? It's overrated. I'm the eccentric artist on the corner. Nothing i do is mainstream.
Sixty-plus and retired, with no one to answer to or impress. I trim my own hair, rarely wear make-up, dress for comfort, my hearing's good but I'm deaf to unsolicited advice. I love your concept of ditching 'brules,' I wish I'd found it decades earlier.
I hear ya! I recently moved out to no where, turned 60, make things from scratch and am learning to grow and can and preserve. I never wear make up and usually my dress is dirty from life, but I love learning new things. Know that others are out here too!🥰
I quit doing most of the Christmas traditions, cards, gifts, outdoor lights. Too much work and stress over a commercially hyped holiday. I quit walking on eggshells when asked for my opinion. If you ask, you will get an honest answer. I refuse to look at social media during an election year (USA), and get caught up in senseless debates. I quit watching the news. It is full of senseless violence and negativity. I prefer to meditate on the higher frequency love centered emotions, creating art, and energy healing.
We stopped 5 years ago. I realized we were celebrating a holiday that isn’t ours. Marketing got us! Much like Santa for the Christians. It’s been such a relief. Sure, we do “holiday” time meals etc, because people are off, not because we feel we need to participate in someone else’s special time for them.
First time watching your video…love it! I have lived in the same house for almost 30 years so this year I decided to pretend I was moving and purge everything that wasn’t necessary or beautiful ( in my opinion). I want to have more time to do the things I enjoy, and not just spend all my time taking care of STUFF. I started watercolour painting a few years ago and found I have a love and talent for it and I want to paint almost daily. With each box of things I donate and there’s been many…I feel lighter and happier. By the way…your hair is lovely. As a retired hairdresser I saw so many woman with lovely curls, spend hours straightening it and it doesn’t suit as well as those curls do.
Thank you for the hair compliment ☺️, and for loving the conversation. I absolutely agree, getting rid of unnecessary stuff and non-beautiful (to you) does make one lighter & more flexible. Enjoy the painting!
I'm still getting rid of things from my last two moves. There's no pretending ugh. I'd like to just throw everything mostly everything away & start over but I do not have the funds to do so. I just do a little at a time donating or throw away. I'm 60+ & do feel like wasting my time sorting through things but I do need to downsize a lot soon.
@@pearlrichardson4179same here. I recently sold my house and had to move all my stuff to my 2nd property (not a house - yet!). I've been feeling a bit down this week as I really need to get rid of most of it. Perhaps we could jolly each other along on our decluttering/downsizing journey!
I’m 29 and I’m still working on this one: not smiling when I don’t feel like smiling. When I was a kid my mom told me I should smile at everyone, and this made me feel valuable and accepted by others, but I don’t think it makes me feel good to myself. I still love being friendly and smiling at folks on the street when it’s honest.
When you’re happy with yourself, you will naturally feel like smiling all the time anyway. Don’t force smiles, people can see they’re fake anyway. Enjoy your youth, do what you want, not what others want, when you’re older you’ll realise you should’ve just listened to your heart more🖤
I used to be criticized at work because I didn’t “look happy.” They didn’t care if I was happy. They just wanted me to look that way. No more. I don’t smile either when I don’t feel like it and it’s lovely.
@@PlantPerson58 oh was this in some sort of customer service role? Smile!!! The customer’s always right!!! 🙄🙄🙄The customer’s always an egotistical buffoon, more like! 🤣🤣
Good for you. I can say ditto. Haven't owned a TV for over a decade. Yes, IMHO, WHY would I want a HUGE Monster to be the focal pt. of my "Living room"? Stopped listening to main stream news @ 20 years ago. I too, have natural curly hair & wear it "A la Natural" & Love it! No subscriptions. NONE. I'm renting, don't want the burdens of fixing this or that. I've withdrawn from people & activities that don't enrich my life. Learned I could spend a lifetime trying to please some & would Never happen; so WHY waste my time? Don't 'belong' to any clubs or groups: Rules &/or elitism I don't need. No thanks. Thanks for your post.
Sounds like you know exactly what’s good for you - wonderful 💐 It’s very liberating to do/ not do things as you choose. Look out for more conversations!
Your comment made me giggle, my husband didn't like the time I spent tending my houseplants and didn't understand why I cared so much about a crushed little plant I was trying to save. I'm no longer with my husband, I have hundreds of beautiful, happy plants all over my home, and Clyde lives in a place of pride, thriving in his *corner* of the living room. Clyde is a six foot tall monstera with leaves so large I can hide behind them, a far cry from the pinkie sized bit of stem I picked up from the greenhouse floor. It's amazing what can happen when we give love and attention to living things, ourselves included
Love! Glad I found you❤ Quit: cutting& dyeing my hair Facebook Toxic relationships Worrying about responding to text messages and emails Caring what my siblings think of me
I'm glad you found me too!! I forgot - I also quit Facebook on a personal level, and stopped dying my hair. I kinda like my sparkles! Thanks for your contributions to the "don't" list.
I have stopped coloring my hair and being married. The expectations as I have learned them involved sacrifice to my spouse. I’m over it. I am starting over from scratch and loving every second of it.😊
I love this! Sometimes I think I'd be happier if i wasn't married. Life does seem to be about the husband. Just turned 60 and am learning who I truly am.
Right on! Moved into my roomy older hi-top van with my cat eight years ago. No TV either and don't miss it. Have all.I need and have never looked back.
@@paulaneary7877 I’m seriously considering it, but I’m 69, in ill health from Lyme infections and have a dog. Where can I stay in an RV semi-permanently? I’d also like a tiny house village. I don’t know where you’d put one of those, unless you already have a lot. My money is invested in this house, but I want to downsize dramatically!
I stopped pretending I’m young.No more dying my hair looking like a fashion model when I go out no make up and no more being a slave if you make a mess in my home clean it no maid is comming to do it .
This is refreshing. I'm 52 and starting to adopt a similar outlook. I don't have cable and just use my TV to watch movies on DVD, I have hundreds. I no longer date bc while it would be nice to find a partner for these later years, it's so stressful and loaded with judgments.
Jip, the TV is handy sometimes - enjoy those DVDs😁 Dating, hmm… another conversation altogether, but, like I said in my reframing convo: Maybe, we, & here I’m definitely talking to me 😅, need to flex our courage muscle & view it rather as fun🤷🏻♀️
Wonderful vlog! My hair is straight, but I don't colour it. I have no hesitation on going places on my own. I have ditched magazines etc and now have a collection of women RUclipsrs/Bloggers from around the world to give me different perspectives and ideas (you are a recent and very welcome addition to this list). I still have a TV, but it's only used for nature docos that really do light up on the big screen. I wish I was as brave a driver as you are - but I can work on this. I refuse to consider myself as "finished" in any sense of the word.
💪🏻💪🏻you can do road trip, even if it’s around the corner. Remember courage is a muscle & needs to be exercised! Thank you for subscribing - lots of conversations ahead🙏🏻 Ditching magazines is a good one, sooo expensive but will admit love paging through a new mag
I am 52 and I buys Hello kitty and my melody toys for myself. I didn’t have some of things I wanted when I was a little girl so I buy those for myself now. I have turned into a big kid. Having my two children showed me what it’s like to be a kid again. Having that sense of wonder! I am so happy again! That is all I ever wanted back in 2011 was to be happy again! Follow your joy is the most important thing in my opinion!! Thank you for the reminder!!❤
I just turned 60, and have no clue who I am or what I should be. Hubby and I moved off grid to some property when COVID hit. My life was turned upside down. Point being, I am living poor, broke and no close friends and only 1 family member several hrs away. The upside is I am living and depending on God more and can't do it without Him. He has peeled me like an onion layer by layer to my core. Have to say, I am more me, and learning who I want to be and what is important to me and becoming content with who I am. Don't do social media, except you tube.... I'm learning so much! Change is difficult, but I enjoy being what I want and not what society says I should be. I totally relate to everything you say, so thank you for letting everyone know it's ok and we're not weird or alone.🥰
We’re not weird or alone!!! I will do a conversation on how we’re never alone… had to work that out for myself as well. Importance is to CREATE your life lovingly & mindfully.
BRULES - Love it 😻- I am Now in Touch with My Authentic Self and have Never felt Happier as I Downsize and Clear out the Generational Trauma and Clutter. First time Visit, Liked & Scribed. 💛🙏🏻✨
Love the "Brules". I have been non-conformist since my 40's and have pretty much divorced myself totally from the matrix of fear that has been American culture since WW2.
I’m only 29 but I quit caring about athletic competitions and results. I used to run on a team and the sport was competitive, but now I just run for fun. I want to get back into racing but focus just on feeling good and strong, and not obsessed with the time or how I compare to others. It’s challenging but I don’t see how to be happy if you only care about what place you come in. Hopefully it will bring me more peace🤞🏼
I am in my 70s. I committed my first acts of rebellion on what im supposed to do or be just this last friday. I bought and wore a tie dyed dress!!! Also bought a tie dyed t shirt and a beach outfit with turtles on! havent seen a beach in 20 years...i was told by many..you are losing your mind..your too dam old for this crazy stuff. I ALMOST believed them. Now ive found this video!!! Ive been married 51 years ..now i just want to be ME..figure out what I like..not what im told to like..do..be..eat etc ....THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME SEE ITS OK!!! Oh and have not owned TV or radio in 10 years...no computer. Only "smart" phone...maybe im not crazy after all...maybe im finally growing up and realizeing I AM A PERSON TOO.
@YourForestFairy I know it's a crazy little meaningless thing to do but some reason i.felt "brave" at "getting out of control after being told NO" BABY STEPS
A lot of what you said resonates with me. My life has changed drastically after my marriage of 35 years fell apart. I turned to watercolor painting as a healing therapy. I loved your comment about pretending you were moving. I try to remind myself to do more pretending at times when I feel overwhelmed by the quiet life that I live now and I’m also trying to downsize my lifetime of belongings. It’s comforting reading comments from people out in the world that are on a similar journey to my own. Thanks for sharing.✌️
The Hero’s Journey can often be seen in our lives after an unfortunate event… watch Finding Joe on RUclips which explains this. I also find a lot of healing and inspiration when I hear the stories of change & courage, & how we are shaping our lives to suit ourselves.
But are you weird? I am beginning to think WE are the normal ones and it's weird to me that people conform to these rules for their entire lives. We need rules for civility and kindness and being caring to the Earth but outside of that, I do no conform and I am fine by that. I am losing everything and maybe that is a good thing, via a divorce BUT I am working in the areas I want to now, doing my creative craft and arts, loving on all animals and Mother Earth and loving myself as much as I can. I am almost in my 50's. I am an educator but I do not teach in a contained classroom (Too many kids in control). I work at an outdoor center and with the local parks. I can teach things like photography, about the plants and animals and local conservation. I quit chasing money and yes, life is expensive but I am finding that I am only buying what I need and I tend to live a very simple, almost European way of life (think fresh food I can recognize, water, teas, etc) and I barely shop for anything else. I have silver hair (sometimes pink because it's my favorite color) and I rather spend my weekends fosters cats or dogs than with people. I also eat what I want, I say NO to a lot now because if it doesn't lift me up, just no.
Simple, fresh, pink, animals, Earth, teas, water, conservation are all things I love as well. Actually surprising how little we need. I’m not minimalistic but buy & use loads less than previously.
@@YourForestFairy Isn't it surprising how little we actually need? I moved from 2000 square feet to less than 550. I had to curate...a good word. I am so much more happier!
BRULES! It’s my new favourite word! I love it ☺️ I quit straightening my hair - recently discovered I have waves - I’m loving my free bouncy hair. I recently quit my corporate VP career for a 50% part-time role so that I can be more with my parents in South Africa (I live in Europe) and I also don’t watch the news. I also recently quit the ideal weight rat race. I just want to eat healthy happy food until I’m full, be active and sleep well. ☺️🙏🏻
I feel like people with curlier hair can get away without combing it. I still get "your hair looks nice" even though comb once in a while when I see I'm leaving hair behind on my bed to get the loose ones out.
I don’t brush or comb my hair either-I haven’t done in decades. Neither do I use shampoo (gasp), I just use conditioner. My curly hair is healthy and clean.
my quirk is not owning a smart phone, so no texting, googling etc. I use a flip phone as a phone. I just don't want the expense, complication and emotional tethering that seems inherent (for many folks). I don't want to be that accessible 24/7.
I have started first honouring myself in my decisions and thoughts, rather than blindly prioritizing everyone else in every way--wonderful. More ability to truly love and help people, much more peace and joy and health.
Interesting video, I don't brush curly hair either and no TV, screen for me either, I use my laptop, and I try to surround myself with people or things that make me feel calm, good and positive :) Yes it's true, the small things can stop you from looking homeless when you live a simple and natural life, haha. Great video, thanks for sharing :)
I stopped washing my hair, just rinsing daily in my cold shower and I dont brush ir co b it. My curly hair is returning, it's never greasy, no odor and much thicker now. I live on my sailboat so I'm free. I only eat meat and that has improved my health beyond my dreams. I dont watch the news, too stressful. So I'm there with you and I am a much more grateful person and much happier.
Im only 41 but i dont dye my hair or cover my scars and i went carnivore and I'm Fitter now than when in my 20s dont care about money, ive no mortgage or credit cards my kids are all grown i still have a drink and the odd smoke, my husband still finds me sexy and we do naughty things and i scare people, loving life all the way hahaha
HI FOREST FAIRY! (OR DO YOU PREFER TO BE CALLED FAIRY FOR SHORT ? ) THOROUGHLY ENJOYED THIS VIDEO...GOING TO START LOOKING AT YOUR LIVBRARY.ALMOST 20 YEARS AGO, i TOLD ONE OF MY GRANDDAUGHTERS i WAS HER WEIRD GRANDMA." SUCH WISDOM FOR HER LITTLE 9 YEAR LIFE SAID "GRANDMA, YOUR NOT WEIRD! YOU ARE UNIQUE! NICE TO MEET YOU! i JUST SUBSCRIBED. KAREN...a 78 YR. OLD SINGLE WOMAN FROM WASHINGTON STATE, USA
Welcome to my corner of the woods!!! Fairy, Forest Fairy, or even just Fifi😂😂 is all good. Your granddaughter was already a wise woman at 9 👏🏻 & I’m sure is also learning from you.
Great video! I too have curly hair, have straightened and dyed it, it just wasn’t me! I’m 62 and stopped coloring my hair 12 years ago and I’m salt and pepper! My natural color was dark brown. I even got my friends to say no to the dye! Very liberating 😊
I started dyeing my hair fun colors at 50 and you would be surprised at the amount of older women who compliment it and say they wish they were that brave. I always tell them they are that brave they just have to start doing what makes them happy.
First: half the people you meet are going to back away; the other half will like you. There is no benefit in being other than authentic. Second: I am 72 and happy to become a 'Hag," from the Greek 'hagia,' or 'holy.' Third: Everything you said! (except the curly hair part; mine's straight.)
Hola from one happy “Hag” to another! Thanks for that important piece of info on hags. 😁 I agree, might as well be yourself, we’ll find the people who like us!
I love your Brules Forrest Fairy, and it does become easier to kick them out of your life when you become a bit older I guess! And I agree, ageism is an absolute no-no!!!
I have just started to really look at the conversations I have with people in terms of how much those conversations are driven by brules. I want to lose myself in the enjoyment of whatever we're talking about without worrying about how I am coming across. I am your age and work as an educator. What I find is that being a good educator gives me more freedom to speak my mind in the conversations I have at work. Outside of work, connecting with people is juicier when I'm paying attention and being real with myself and others. Thank you so much for coming on RUclips to tell us about your life! ❤
Have generally NOT done what everyone else was doing most of my life. People are so afraid of being original or unique. Social proof is strong. Now, at 68, I don't know how to be "old", I just keep on being me. Agree heartily about the TV being the focus of a room. I don't own one either. It just screams, We are not the least bit creative and can't think of a single other thing to do. For lack of the TV, I guess, I am on the computer way too much. I still look at a couple of RUclips channels dealing with politics, but I rarely click and actually watch the video. Need to stop looking at them altogether. Your hair looks amazing! Like a do from a very high-end shop! Best regards from Indiana.
Wow this is a good find. I was born and raised in s. Calif. Then i moved to fairfield iowa to finish collrge after graduation i stayed cuz of friends. Yes i agree each of us is creatively differrnt. I'm many things its dilly t identify with one thing In any case one thing is evedent Most of us are in 3 d Waking using a part of our brain I still have progress To be made yet i was fortunatr to habe met snf studied with a Himalayan Master I had previews of higher levels of consciousness. This year has been rewarding finally I see why I'm here. It is beyond the accepted understanding In short there is more and its happy amd creative
With rare exception, I am not willing to spend time or money on: shopping "for fun" non-perfect clothing subscription services books and magazines craft supplies alcohol for the home candy bars, prepackaged sweets, boxed dessert mixes off-site, long-term storage social media news handshakes I am willing to spend a bit of extra time or money on: allowing a pro to do it quality groceries gifts nice hand soap
Oh wow, what an interesting list, thank you!!! Totally agree with “non-perfect clothing”, and storage units (see my previous conversation 🤦🏻♀️). And I have also now decided I love good hand soaps🙏🏻🙏🏻
I am enamored with this channel and am now a new subscriber! I did a similar video a couple weeks ago. It was very affirming to think through my life and realize that I’m finally, at 54 years old, okay doing things my own way. That said, and to answer your question…I have stopped following diet culture and eat the way my body asks to be fed. For me that’s high-protein animal-based with no ultra-processed foods. So many others too. “Brules!” Love the term! 💕🙏
I’m so glad you found me! Yes, it’s very liberating to do things your own way, and finding the appropriate nutritional lifestyle is definitely one of the top liberators. I too enjoy good protein & less processed foods.
I've stopped trying to keep my house "magazine ready". I only clean on rainy days. If it's not raining I am in the garden, or with my horses. I also don't mow or weed for looks. And guess what? I have amazing edible and medicinal wildflowers everywhere now 😊
Be not conformed to the patterns of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is-His good, pleasing and perfect will. Jesus Christ is Lord. Follow Him and have freedom and everlasting life✨✨✨
I'm still 34, but I love your way of thinking! I trim my husband's hair and I donate my hair every 3 years, I also don't brush my curly hair. No make up, no jewelery, only comfortable and easy to wash clothes. I only care about my family's opinion and we are happy this way ❤
I stopped eating meat about 15 years ago, and fish about 9 years ago. I could never look at meat without thinking about the creature that lived (in who knows what conditions) and died so that part of its body would end up on my plate. I can live well, while not engaging in the torture that is animal agriculture. The cognitive dissonance is gone. I am more peaceful and calm as a result.
I do admit that it’s a journey - one that I’ve bern on for decades. But it’s never too late… start with small steps like what do you value - family, learning, nature? What do you enjoy - cooking, walking, laughing? Who are you - funny, loving?
Don't talk or listen about other people. I rely on the direct experience of the person. I take loss of money or friends with some sadness but not bitterness.
Hello fellow South African. Love your video. I too am becoming just me - my rules, my way !! Cut my own hair, very seldom brush it (wish it was curly tho), no TV, no magazines, newspapers or mainstream news for many years. Most movies, series, adverts etc just irritate me - I see thru the mind f@(k b#ll$hit and the scripts and the acting is soo bad too. Very very happy single girl too for about 13 yrs now. Become a real 60's child in my sixties - LOVE it. Greetings from a very cold a wet Gamtoos 💙💙💚💚
Hello there!!! Deciding what are brules for you is sooo liberating, & and the wonderful thing is that we can all agree to differ. Very wet & cold in the Overberg as well 💦🥶
I don't have curly hair, but it is wavy in some areas, straight in others and if I choose not to comb or brush my hair, I look as though I am related to Medusa, LOL! If I had hair like yours, I might not choose to comb or brush it, your hair looks very nice, IMHO...
I am 53 and an artist, I have been avoiding continuing with doing my popular fanart due to my age 😒 and gearing towards flowers and sceneries….. This video has now got me thinking differently, thank you ❤
I am 60. I quit wearing make up in 2009 unless I go to a wedding or something fancy. I quit coloring my hair and nails years ago. I quit unnatural fabrics and wear cotton, linen, and wool. I quit watching TV and the news. I quit listening to the criticism and demands of my extended family. I moved to where I wanted to live. Enjoyed your video. Subscribed.
I have natural curly hair it was really long but I cut it myself short I love it.I love your videos.i lived life for everyone and my husband of 38 years he has dementia and I care for him.im learning to love him again he wasn't very good for me most of our years together but I will be happy no matter what and do the things I enjoy.
You had me at Bulls*** Rules 😂 Always amazing how others allow society and govt dictates. They're mindful of things i don't even recognize. Cheers 🍸 and here's some fairy 🧚♀️ dust for you too ✨️ 😊
I totally agree! As I enter retirement, I want to simplify my life, and have started to eliminate the things that caused me stress in the past. I am selling my house, eliminated any debt. I am not rich, but I believe I can enjoy a comfortable and fulfilling rest of my life. I clicked on this channel just in time to reaffirm my new beliefs.
Over the last year my entire life imploded. My family gone. My job of 35 years gone. My home of 24 years gone. My friends gone. I recently moved to the country to start over and im feeling good about the decision.
Here are a few of my brules....... I don't wear bras. Instead I layer my tops for modesty. I don't wear makeup. I don't judge people that do, it's just not my thing. A nice walk brings all the color I need to my face. I don't diet. I eat what I like.
Isn't it wonderful that we can choose what don't want to do... and I love that we're all so individualistic! Thanks for sharing... and enjoy the walks!
We quit eating meat, oils and dairy, we quit alcohol as well. We quitsleeping on a traditional EXPENSIVE mattress instead sleeping on a floor bed. We quit shampoo and conditioner and use baking soda and vinegar. Fellow curly haired here and also quit brushing yeeeeears ago. We quit gift giving on “traditional” holidays about 15 years ago, instead choosing to gift when we want to, not because of an arbitrary date on the calendar. We also quit heeled shoes, going for minimalist, zero drop shoes (barefoot lifestyle). And inspired by Katy Bowman we quit chairs and couches. We have a couple of big, wide bench seats to elevate us off of cold floor (live in Nova Scotia) but they are backless and allow us to move, sitting different ways, we eat most meals sitting on the floor, allowing more movement in our daily life. We quit lots of things and GAINED so much joy and health from doing so. Lovvvved your vid, glad youtube suggested your channel!
Hello Curly Girl, welcome to my corner of the woods. Goodness, you are at a whole other level, well done!!! Barefoot shoes are also on my bucket list and I do use loads of baking soda and ACV in my house - also to rinse my hair. However... I'll have to grow into the bench and floor-sitting, but I can certainly see how it can improve your mobility and flexibility.
I am 82 years old and widow, and I’m finally taking charge of my life. After my husband passed away, I sold a motorhome that we lived in for 14 years, traveling, United States, and moved back to Savannah Georgia to be near my daughter. I thought at my age I can’t just go somewhere and not know anybody in case I needed help. well now I’m kind of sorry I did that. I did need help once when I fell and broke my hip because I tripped over something and my daughter did take my dog for me for six weeks. My question for you is do you ever comb your hair because I have naturally curly hair and I’ve started brushing it at night and combing it during the day, and after I wash it, I comb it. But when I wake up in the morning, it needs some thing and my daughter told me to just squirt it either water squish it and let it go. Well I’ve tried that and I guess I always feel like I am messy looking. Well today I came across your video for the first time And I love the messy look. So I’m thinking of getting my hair cut off because right now it’s below my shoulders and I’m tired of hair coming out all the time. And I thought I would just let it go messy but not sure what to do with it in the morning or how often it should actually be combed out. I have subscribed to your channel.
Oh wow - welcome to my corner of the woods!! Sounds as if you've had quite an adventurous life... and the adventures aren't over yet!! It took me many years to "understand" my hair and that it'll be different every single day, lol. There are many, many women explaining how to treat curly hair - just Google how to treat curly hair. My recent cut has been the best ever - the chin-length only looked good on wash day. Now I bounce out of bed, run my fingers through it, and if there are a few stray ones, I just wet and curl with a finger. Your daughter is on the right track about wetting and squishing it... Enjoy the new adventure with your hair!
I don't really watch tv or listen to news anymore too. I would rather spend the time watching or doing something that interests me. Mainstream tv or news is just depressing!
Oh man, RUclips makes my blood pressure go up a lot more these days! Seems like everything's bad and getting worse. Thanks for a change in the algorithm today :)
Well, I'm glad the algorithm sent the Forest Fairy your way!! It's so easy to get worked up about all the doom and gloom, but keeping our spirits up despite all that may be happening to and around us is important.
I don't give a care about things that people say and do that are self-serving and petty. I am 59 years old, and I quit being concerned about things that are not important. I wake up each day to how I am going to live my day for today's only. I don't think about yesterday's events and I don't plan for tomorrow. The less I speak and hear about things, the healthier I feel.
I quit explaining to peers and family why I choose to not ever have children. Knew that in my 20s, and it’s been confirmed even more now than ever in my 30s. I stopped need to go into personal reasons and just let them sit with the simple statement of “I don’t want kids…ever.”😅
Oh yes, this is a “tameletjie” (a piece of very sticky homemade toffee) when people keep asking! We all make our own choices & this is the one that suits YOUR life
I’m well into my 60s and still ride my Friesian horse nearly every day. I’ve been told by some friends that I should slow down. That’s just foolishness, I tell them. ❤
I quit tv a very long time ago. I gave up trying to maintain a relationship with my ex husband for the children’s sake. They are adults and are responsible for their own relationships. I no longer wear uncomfortable anything. If I don’t like it, I don’t wear it. I use cloth instead of paper towels and napkins. I reuse lots of glass jars for storage. My hair is gray and I like it that way
Ditto to a few things... I also use neither paper towels nor paper napkins - cloth is sooo much nicer, don't like being uncomfortable (but I still try to be stylish), reuse my glass jars, and don't colour my hair either.
Happily retired now. I only wear shoes if I am going outside. In the winter, why I am indoors, I might be shoeless for weeks. I am using up what I have before buying more. Cosmetics and toiletries do not age well. Use less, but use those products up. I started my shampoo use up 3 years ago. I still have enough shampoo for several more months. My skin is happier if I take shorter and fewer showers
We do own a TV, but we use it only to watch DVDs, or use it as a really big screen for our computer. No streaming services either, so that we can watch the (not mainstream) movies and documentaries we like.
1. I cut washing my hair to once a week. it is a lot healthier. 2. I refuse to cover that gray. 3. I quit being available for a husband who isn't interested in anything I do.
Refreshing message! Even though this video may appeal to women more than men, it applies to us as well. I grew up in a lower middle class family in the U.S. in the 1950's, 60's. What was emphasized to us kids was WORK. And we did. My brother and I gave up so much of our youth to work that I truly regret it. In my opinion, all kids should be taught critical thinking, how to take care of their health, the value of education (going to school or self education), and pursuing happiness. Nice channel, I am subscribing.
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻welcome to my corner of the woods 🌲🌳🌴! The conversations are about what I’ve learnt & experienced & being a women they would I suppose appeal to women. But, I’m hoping that at least some of the conversations will appeal to all. I didn’t grow up so much with the idea of work, work, work, but once I hit the working space that was the message if you wanted to get anywhere. Eish, if I knew then what I know now! Agree with your recommendations!
What a lovely place to be in life. I recently did a YT post on the perks of turning 65, it’s not fatal more less an awakening 😊 New to your channel and new subscriber. Have a wonderful day.
I stopped watching the news as my husband had a different view of politics and it became uncomfortable to watch the news together. He sadly passed away 18 months ago and now I work on watching what makes me feel good and that is not the news. In fact, I rarely watch TV anymore and prefer Netflix and streaming shows. It’s amazing what you can do when you work on taking care of yourself.
I agree with the common modern assumption that we should value experiences over possessions, however I no longer think that means I should travel. While the travel I've done in the past reshaped my life, I find it's no longer something I wish to do. Rather, I am much more excited about the things I can make and learn about--which are also valuable experiences. I've got a bucket list of art forms I want to learn and I've been ticking them off one by one: sewing, spinning wool, weaving, making soap, and on and on. The more I learn about the world, the longer my list becomes and that excites me more than a trip to Hawaii ever could.
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I stopped living for my husband's dreams when he didn't even ask me about mine for 20 years. It's been hard but neccessary at this point in my life.
It is hard no doubt - but rather 20 years late than never! Now your dreams get your full attention. Let me know how it goes…
Hope you don’t mind but I was watching YFF and noticed your comment.
I can relate in every way and I just wanted to congratulate you for being so brave also to wish you well in your future…being free.
Don’t forget to have a word with yourself every now and then.
Take care and be well
Respect from Australia ❤
23+ here. It's exhausting and has caused me alot of health issues in every manner. I gave 110+% for him and our relationship and home. I poured all into him and family, that I forgot MY anythings. Took me awhile to believe things, because I didn't wanna be like alot of people. But I realise I gave up me and my dreams. I'm focused on me and all that makes me happy. As he has no matter what. I trust in myself and in the ☝️✝️ all will be fine. I am very capable. I love life over expectations of others. Stay strong. BLESS🙏🌻
That's why I'm single. And I love it.
Me too. Free after 25 yrs.
I’m in my mid-60’s and I’ve embraced my age. People see my gray hair and automatically dismiss me. Let them. It’s empowering in a way to be invisible. So freeing.
They just don’t realise how much wisdom & experience they’re dismissing! 🤷🏻♀️
It's so freeing! My friends and I love being able to move in privacy in the world after being so watched when we were young!
Yes indeed.
I’m so glad I read these comments. I’m having a hard time accepting how much my physical appearance has changed. I’m 72 and when I see pictures of myself it really makes me feel ashamed since like many others I was very attractive when I was younger. I don’t see age issues in others just myself.
@@rebeccadees2300 You’re not alone. We all miss our youthful appearance to some extent. I’m enormously grateful everything still works on my aging body. I stopped being ashamed of my appearance. If someone else doesn’t like it, that’s their problem, not mine. I cherish each line and wrinkle as proof I’ve live a full life.
I’m a 32 year old woman. I haven’t watched the news in nearly a decade and ditched social media a year ago. It’s been liberating!
Yes, not being plugged into mainstream news is VERY liberating and reduces anxiety.
O lord you're on the right track,am 68,and have been news for the main part,free,if people start ''I DONT WANT TO HEAR,I didnt know who the present leader of country was,for 2 wks after the vote of witch I didnt take part
The news is propaganda. I recognize that in the 60s when I was eight years old. Me and my sister knew that the story they gave about JFK was bullshit. We were children, but we could see it.
You realize you tube is social media right?
@@Susweca5569 uh no? you can actually turn off watch history with then also turns off youtube recommendations and leaves the front page blank. that way you only see/search for what you're actively looking for. everyone knows this lol. so no, you're not seeing the news just by using youtube. you can literally turn it off
My husband and I recently bucked conventional norms/tradition and left our 40+ year suburban home/life and moved out to a 5 acre property in the country. We’ve got a huge garden, chickens and apple trees. Friends and family didn’t think that at our age (63) we should be undertaking such an ‘adventure’ but we love it! Many also didn’t understand why we would want to give up what they consider a more convenient lifestyle where food, services, healthcare, etc. are usually minutes away or can be delivered right to your door. We have found that our ‘authentic’ selves like being more self sufficient, growing our own food, cooking from scratch, and our bodies and minds are thriving thru the physical work and all the time spent outdoors listening to the sounds of nature instead of traffic and neighbors.
Sounds idyllic… and hard work 😅 Kudos yo you guys for making the decision & doing what’s best for you. You definitely threw a few brules out the window with this adventure!
Yay!!! I'm happy for you two..you're living my goals! I'm 62 and am ready to embrace a more wholesome & meaningful life. Good for you 😊
Do any of your friends come and visit you?
@@johenderson3742 Yes, as we're only about 45 min to an hour from where most our family/friends live. We have 4 granddaughters who spend many weekends with us as well!
🎉❤ Growing your food and using your body out on the land is the best health care❗🐛🦋🤸🏽♀️😊🌈🏆
I'm 82 years old and I've finally realized that I am NOT a problem to solve... which is incredibly liberating. No more shame, no more trying to prove I'm acceptable... either to myself or to other people. Life becomes very sweet when all I do is live with patience, kindness and compassion for myself and for those I encounter along the way.
Wow, what excellent advice. I am 71 and do those negative things all the time. But it is time to STOP!! Thank you ❤
Such wonderful values to live by - the world could definitely do with more! And realising that you/me are NOT problems to solve, but just individuals - love that!!!
Super. Likewise, others aren’t problems to solve!
Things I've given up at 63: working for others, pantyhose, wearing shoes in the summer, running, things I hate doing, dieting, trying to give up wine, going into debt for things, trying to impress people I don't like.
Swopped pantyhose for tights in the winter, never ran & yes to trying to impress others!!
Swopped pantyhose for tights in the winter, never ran & yes to trying to impress others!!
Was that you who wrote that or me :) What a fabulous life you are living! x
@@jayb429 I am, and so are you! 🥰
Isn't it wonderful!!!! Life is great!!!! I love my wonderful, simplistic life. It's great.
I'm a 75 yr old widow....been widowed for over 20 yrs. I've never been interested in being married again. I own my 5 acres of heaven outright in western Oregon, US. I have nature, friends, dogs. My sister and brother live within 20 miles of me. I do crafts, volunteer at the local Humane Society. I never imagined life would be this good at this time.
It sounds heavenly!!! Life can be good at any age… you made it so. Good for you!!
That’s wonderful! I have a goal like that. But it will be north of you.
How do you deal with euthanasia of the animals?
@@melindalemmon2149 I don't even hear about that...thank goodness. All of us who care for annies are not at all involved with the medical things. I do know that euthanasia is comfortable for them....of course, they don't stress about it before hand.
Here in Oregon right now also... but I spend Winters in Mexico and usually a week or two in Hawaii... for some reason I don't care much for Oregon Winter... I was born in Portland and while I have done a lot of Traveling around, I stayed around here to focus on my family " Parents" Both parents have passed along with 2 sisters... More and More I think about fulltime in Mexico... I don't much care for the long flights to Europe anymore... Although I wouldn't mind going again, I just really dislike long flights. Currently I am trying to find homes for kittens born to a Feral cat that happened on my property, any suggestions?
I'm 57, retired at 40 because I received 40% burns in an accident (I was given a 20% chance of surviving) and ever since I do whatever makes me happy. I wear whatever I want (mostly Goth grunge), I cut off all my hair and grew it out silver, I pull on my Dr. Marten boots everyday and we are currently building a van to live in so we can travel around Australia for the next few years and I can't wait! Young people don't seem to understand that just because we get older in years doesn't mean that we get older in mind, I still feel like I'm in my late 20's and I'm going to enjoy it for as long as I can.
Exactly - we are still young in our minds. Sometimes an event in our lives, often times a very painful one, sends us off on a completely different trajectory. Maybe a hero’s story as described by Joseph Campbell.
I feel the same, I'm in my 60s but feel like I'm in my 20s but with an extra 40+ years' wisdom!
I’m also 57 I retired at 39 when side effects from a serious neck and spinal cord injury no longer allowed me to continue my profession (working with children with with behavior disorders mainly, so it could be quite physical). There was a time, since I was about 16, that I would not be seen in public without an ounce of makeup and dressed well, but in my own style and always in heels. How times change, yesterday, I walked to the Village shop in torn jeans, bra-less, still wearing my pajama top. I needed coffee and was out of milk. Makeup has been replaced by skincare. I was widowed a year ago, my dog died within a week of my husband. So it was just me. And in the past year, with my new Chihuahua companion, I have become more and more just me. I’d lost, or forgotten myself, for a long while I realised and it was time to remedy that. So I’m all in favour of BRULES, not that I often followed them, really, I guess I’m re-embracing my eccentricities.
I'm 58. I don't follow rules either. I buzz my head. Just don't want to mess with hair at all.
I watch nothing mainstream. I watch a couple RUclips channels and occasionally some British tv on Amazon Prime. I prefer British tv to American. I do not watch the news or any other controlled media.
I hardly ever wear makeup either. I just don't want to mess with it anymore. I'm not trying to impress anyone.
I painted the inside of my house the colors I wanted, not what's in style. My living room is neon green and the hallway is aqua blue, the kitchen bright yellow and red. I do what i like. I never fit in and don't care to. Why be normal? It's overrated. I'm the eccentric artist on the corner. Nothing i do is mainstream.
British humour & crime series are the best!!! Eccentric-artist-on-the-corner definitely doesn’t sound mainstream👏🏻👏🏻, sounds unique & colourful.
I love this ❤
@@YourForestFairy colorful is a good description
Do people come and visit you?
Sixty-plus and retired, with no one to answer to or impress. I trim my own hair, rarely wear make-up, dress for comfort, my hearing's good but I'm deaf to unsolicited advice. I love your concept of ditching 'brules,' I wish I'd found it decades earlier.
😂 we all wish we had found it much earlier! Love that you’re deaf to unsolicited advice… need to add that to my list. 🙏🏻
Your hair is delightful ! It compliments your face and let's your personality shine .
I hear ya! I recently moved out to no where, turned 60, make things from scratch and am learning to grow and can and preserve. I never wear make up and usually my dress is dirty from life, but I love learning new things. Know that others are out here too!🥰
“My hearing’s good but I’m deaf to unsolicited advice” 👏 love it!
And yo are very, very smart!
I quit doing most of the Christmas traditions, cards, gifts, outdoor lights. Too much work and stress over a commercially hyped holiday. I quit walking on eggshells when asked for my opinion. If you ask, you will get an honest answer. I refuse to look at social media during an election year (USA), and get caught up in senseless debates. I quit watching the news. It is full of senseless violence and negativity. I prefer to meditate on the higher frequency love centered emotions, creating art, and energy healing.
Agree! I’m on the fence re Christmas decorations… where to store them is an issue now!
I still love Christmas traditions such as the lights (and food!) but agree everything else is too commercialised now
No I dont do Christmas any more . It's just a hassle
We stopped 5 years ago. I realized we were celebrating a holiday that isn’t ours. Marketing got us! Much like Santa for the Christians. It’s been such a relief. Sure, we do “holiday” time meals etc, because people are off, not because we feel we need to participate in someone else’s special time for them.
First time watching your video…love it!
I have lived in the same house for almost 30 years so this year I decided to pretend I was moving and purge everything that wasn’t necessary or beautiful ( in my opinion). I want to have more time to do the things I enjoy, and not just spend all my time taking care of STUFF.
I started watercolour painting a few years ago and found I have a love and talent for it and I want to paint almost daily.
With each box of things I donate and there’s been many…I feel lighter and happier.
By the way…your hair is lovely. As a retired hairdresser I saw so many woman with lovely curls, spend hours straightening it and it doesn’t suit as well as those curls do.
Thank you for the hair compliment ☺️, and for loving the conversation. I absolutely agree, getting rid of unnecessary stuff and non-beautiful (to you) does make one lighter & more flexible. Enjoy the painting!
I need to work on the decluttering for sure!
I'm still getting rid of things from my last two moves. There's no pretending ugh. I'd like to just throw everything mostly everything away & start over but I do not have the funds to do so. I just do a little at a time donating or throw away. I'm 60+ & do feel like wasting my time sorting through things but I do need to downsize a lot soon.
@@pearlrichardson4179same here. I recently sold my house and had to move all my stuff to my 2nd property (not a house - yet!). I've been feeling a bit down this week as I really need to get rid of most of it. Perhaps we could jolly each other along on our decluttering/downsizing journey!
I’m 29 and I’m still working on this one: not smiling when I don’t feel like smiling. When I was a kid my mom told me I should smile at everyone, and this made me feel valuable and accepted by others, but I don’t think it makes me feel good to myself. I still love being friendly and smiling at folks on the street when it’s honest.
Welcome! Wish I had known what i know now at 29 - good on you for being honest & authentic!
In my teens and 20’s smiling was my way of protecting myself as in “I’m incredibly nice so there’s no need to be horrible to me!” It doesn’t work lol
When you’re happy with yourself, you will naturally feel like smiling all the time anyway.
Don’t force smiles, people can see they’re fake anyway.
Enjoy your youth, do what you want, not what others want, when you’re older you’ll realise you should’ve just listened to your heart more🖤
I used to be criticized at work because I didn’t “look happy.” They didn’t care if I was happy. They just wanted me to look that way. No more. I don’t smile either when I don’t feel like it and it’s lovely.
@@PlantPerson58 oh was this in some sort of customer service role? Smile!!! The customer’s always right!!! 🙄🙄🙄The customer’s always an egotistical buffoon, more like! 🤣🤣
Good for you. I can say ditto. Haven't owned a TV for over a decade. Yes, IMHO, WHY would I want a HUGE Monster to be the focal pt. of my "Living room"? Stopped listening to main stream news @ 20 years ago. I too, have natural curly hair & wear it "A la Natural" & Love it! No subscriptions. NONE. I'm renting, don't want the burdens of fixing this or that. I've withdrawn from people & activities that don't enrich my life. Learned I could spend a lifetime trying to please some & would Never happen; so WHY waste my time? Don't 'belong' to any clubs or groups: Rules &/or elitism I don't need. No thanks. Thanks for your post.
Sounds like you know exactly what’s good for you - wonderful 💐 It’s very liberating to do/ not do things as you choose. Look out for more conversations!
Your comment made me giggle, my husband didn't like the time I spent tending my houseplants and didn't understand why I cared so much about a crushed little plant I was trying to save.
I'm no longer with my husband, I have hundreds of beautiful, happy plants all over my home, and Clyde lives in a place of pride, thriving in his *corner* of the living room.
Clyde is a six foot tall monstera with leaves so large I can hide behind them, a far cry from the pinkie sized bit of stem I picked up from the greenhouse floor.
It's amazing what can happen when we give love and attention to living things, ourselves included
Love! Glad I found you❤
Quit: cutting& dyeing my hair
Facebook
Toxic relationships
Worrying about responding to text messages and emails
Caring what my siblings think of me
I'm glad you found me too!! I forgot - I also quit Facebook on a personal level, and stopped dying my hair. I kinda like my sparkles! Thanks for your contributions to the "don't" list.
Same here lol. Especially the siblings.
I have stopped coloring my hair and being married. The expectations as I have learned them involved sacrifice to my spouse. I’m over it. I am starting over from scratch and loving every second of it.😊
Exciting!! The chance to redesign a magical life👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I love this! Sometimes I think I'd be happier if i wasn't married. Life does seem to be about the husband. Just turned 60 and am learning who I truly am.
You go girl! Great opening sentence, best wishes for a wonderful life 🎊💐🎊
I sold my house and now live in a caravan, I have no household bills, no TV, so no media brainwashing, consequently, I have never been happier ! 🇬🇧👍
Adventure, here we come!!! 🚌
Right on! Moved into my roomy older hi-top van with my cat eight years ago. No TV either and don't miss it. Have all.I need and have never looked back.
I envy you!
That is AWESOME! I have often thought of doing such a thing,
@@paulaneary7877 I’m seriously considering it, but I’m 69, in ill health from Lyme infections and have a dog. Where can I stay in an RV semi-permanently?
I’d also like a tiny house village. I don’t know where you’d put one of those, unless you already have a lot. My money is invested in this house, but I want to downsize dramatically!
I stopped pretending I’m young.No more dying my hair looking like a fashion model when I go out no make up and no more being a slave if you make a mess in my home clean it no maid is comming to do it .
Jip-jip, no-one’s slave! In fact, don’t think of making a mess in my home if you ain’t gonna clean it!
@@YourForestFairy I love that!!!
I quiT being silent and keeping secrets for others who disrespect me.
Yes yes yes!!! This is a good one
Thank you for this insight!
Same here ❤
Im in my 40's and already have people telling me im too old for certain things i enjoy. you cant be for everyone, so just be for yourself!
Exactly! Authentically you is best way to go, and you definitely cannot please everyone.
Absolutely, you're the one living your life, not them. Do what feels right and good for you!
This is refreshing. I'm 52 and starting to adopt a similar outlook. I don't have cable and just use my TV to watch movies on DVD, I have hundreds. I no longer date bc while it would be nice to find a partner for these later years, it's so stressful and loaded with judgments.
Jip, the TV is handy sometimes - enjoy those DVDs😁 Dating, hmm… another conversation altogether, but, like I said in my reframing convo: Maybe, we, & here I’m definitely talking to me 😅, need to flex our courage muscle & view it rather as fun🤷🏻♀️
Wonderful vlog! My hair is straight, but I don't colour it. I have no hesitation on going places on my own. I have ditched magazines etc and now have a collection of women RUclipsrs/Bloggers from around the world to give me different perspectives and ideas (you are a recent and very welcome addition to this list). I still have a TV, but it's only used for nature docos that really do light up on the big screen. I wish I was as brave a driver as you are - but I can work on this. I refuse to consider myself as "finished" in any sense of the word.
💪🏻💪🏻you can do road trip, even if it’s around the corner. Remember courage is a muscle & needs to be exercised! Thank you for subscribing - lots of conversations ahead🙏🏻 Ditching magazines is a good one, sooo expensive but will admit love paging through a new mag
I am 52 and I buys Hello kitty and my melody toys for myself. I didn’t have some of things I wanted when I was a little girl so I buy those for myself now. I have turned into a big kid. Having my two children showed me what it’s like to be a kid again. Having that sense of wonder! I am so happy again! That is all I ever wanted back in 2011 was to be happy again! Follow your joy is the most important thing in my opinion!! Thank you for the reminder!!❤
Glad you are finding your joy - it’s never too late!
I just turned 60, and have no clue who I am or what I should be. Hubby and I moved off grid to some property when COVID hit. My life was turned upside down. Point being, I am living poor, broke and no close friends and only 1 family member several hrs away. The upside is I am living and depending on God more and can't do it without Him. He has peeled me like an onion layer by layer to my core. Have to say, I am more me, and learning who I want to be and what is important to me and becoming content with who I am. Don't do social media, except you tube.... I'm learning so much! Change is difficult, but I enjoy being what I want and not what society says I should be. I totally relate to everything you say, so thank you for letting everyone know it's ok and we're not weird or alone.🥰
We’re not weird or alone!!! I will do a conversation on how we’re never alone… had to work that out for myself as well. Importance is to CREATE your life lovingly & mindfully.
Off grid. You are lucky to have such a partner.
Hugs from someone who went through this onion-layer-peeling, too. Things do slowly get better and your faith is inspiring to me. Blessings to you 🫂
BRULES - Love it 😻- I am Now in Touch with My Authentic Self and have Never felt Happier as I Downsize and Clear out the Generational Trauma and Clutter. First time Visit, Liked & Scribed. 💛🙏🏻✨
Welcome to my corner! Downsizing is very freeing - keep a look out for a conversation on letting go when downsizing.
Love the "Brules". I have been non-conformist since my 40's and have pretty much divorced myself totally from the matrix of fear that has been American culture since WW2.
Good on you for taking your own side earlier in life!!!
I’m only 29 but I quit caring about athletic competitions and results. I used to run on a team and the sport was competitive, but now I just run for fun. I want to get back into racing but focus just on feeling good and strong, and not obsessed with the time or how I compare to others. It’s challenging but I don’t see how to be happy if you only care about what place you come in. Hopefully it will bring me more peace🤞🏼
Run for fun, smart 29 yr old … You Got This 🫶🏿👍🏿🏃♀️🏃🏼🏃♂️
only ever compete with yourself! it's a great rule
I am in my 70s. I committed my first acts of rebellion on what im supposed to do or be just this last friday. I bought and wore a tie dyed dress!!! Also bought a tie dyed t shirt and a beach outfit with turtles on! havent seen a beach in 20 years...i was told by many..you are losing your mind..your too dam old for this crazy stuff. I ALMOST believed them. Now ive found this video!!! Ive been married 51 years
..now i just want to be ME..figure out what I like..not what im told to like..do..be..eat etc
....THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME SEE ITS OK!!! Oh and have not owned TV or radio in 10 years...no computer. Only "smart" phone...maybe im not crazy after all...maybe im finally growing up and realizeing I AM A PERSON TOO.
Congratulations on buying a tie-dye dress!!!! You're never too old to be authentically you!
@YourForestFairy I know it's a crazy little meaningless thing to do but some reason i.felt "brave" at "getting out of control after being told NO" BABY STEPS
You might like the show Grace and Frankie 🌷
@@attheranch873 thanks but don't own tv
A lot of what you said resonates with me. My life has changed drastically after my marriage of 35 years fell apart. I turned to watercolor painting as a healing therapy. I loved your comment about pretending you were moving. I try to remind myself to do more pretending at times when I feel overwhelmed by the quiet life that I live now and I’m also trying to downsize my lifetime of belongings. It’s comforting reading comments from people out in the world that are on a similar journey to my own. Thanks for sharing.✌️
The Hero’s Journey can often be seen in our lives after an unfortunate event… watch Finding Joe on RUclips which explains this. I also find a lot of healing and inspiration when I hear the stories of change & courage, & how we are shaping our lives to suit ourselves.
Yes that is right
Its your Divime birth right from the Creator
Of the Universe.
There is more
Am its happy amd creative, loving and beatiful
But are you weird? I am beginning to think WE are the normal ones and it's weird to me that people conform to these rules for their entire lives. We need rules for civility and kindness and being caring to the Earth but outside of that, I do no conform and I am fine by that. I am losing everything and maybe that is a good thing, via a divorce BUT I am working in the areas I want to now, doing my creative craft and arts, loving on all animals and Mother Earth and loving myself as much as I can. I am almost in my 50's. I am an educator but I do not teach in a contained classroom (Too many kids in control). I work at an outdoor center and with the local parks. I can teach things like photography, about the plants and animals and local conservation. I quit chasing money and yes, life is expensive but I am finding that I am only buying what I need and I tend to live a very simple, almost European way of life (think fresh food I can recognize, water, teas, etc) and I barely shop for anything else. I have silver hair (sometimes pink because it's my favorite color) and I rather spend my weekends fosters cats or dogs than with people. I also eat what I want, I say NO to a lot now because if it doesn't lift me up, just no.
Simple, fresh, pink, animals, Earth, teas, water, conservation are all things I love as well. Actually surprising how little we need. I’m not minimalistic but buy & use loads less than previously.
@@YourForestFairy Isn't it surprising how little we actually need? I moved from 2000 square feet to less than 550. I had to curate...a good word. I am so much more happier!
I have started saying “no” to things I don’t want to do. I know what limits I have, but don’t need to explain in detail what they are.
Glad you could start saying no.
You're cool. I dont have a tv either, cut my own hair, 60 and run ultras.....just enjoy adventures with my dogs. Gratitude is the way to go! ❤
Gratitude is definitely a high vibration emotion! Your dogs are probably very grateful they can join you on adventures👏🏻👏🏻🐶🐶
My wife and I explicitly decided to do this 20 years ago. It has been a life worth living.
Oh wow, great to hear!
BRULES! It’s my new favourite word! I love it ☺️ I quit straightening my hair - recently discovered I have waves - I’m loving my free bouncy hair. I recently quit my corporate VP career for a 50% part-time role so that I can be more with my parents in South Africa (I live in Europe) and I also don’t watch the news. I also recently quit the ideal weight rat race. I just want to eat healthy happy food until I’m full, be active and sleep well. ☺️🙏🏻
Ah yes, the quitting of corporate - brave move! Kudos for quitting the weight race💪🏻💪🏻
I feel like people with curlier hair can get away without combing it. I still get "your hair looks nice" even though comb once in a while when I see I'm leaving hair behind on my bed to get the loose ones out.
I’ve always had “curly hair envy”!!!
I don’t brush or comb my hair either-I haven’t done in decades. Neither do I use shampoo (gasp), I just use conditioner. My curly hair is healthy and clean.
my quirk is not owning a smart phone, so no texting, googling etc. I use a flip phone as a phone. I just don't want the expense, complication and emotional tethering that seems inherent (for many folks). I don't want to be that accessible 24/7.
I have started first honouring myself in my decisions and thoughts, rather than blindly prioritizing everyone else in every way--wonderful. More ability to truly love and help people, much more peace and joy and health.
Interesting video, I don't brush curly hair either and no TV, screen for me either, I use my laptop, and I try to surround myself with people or things that make me feel calm, good and positive :) Yes it's true, the small things can stop you from looking homeless when you live a simple and natural life, haha. Great video, thanks for sharing :)
Glad you liked the conversation! No brushing 👏🏻👏🏻 but as I said, I need to keep tabs on other small things otherwise 🧟♀️🧟♀️🤣
I stopped washing my hair, just rinsing daily in my cold shower and I dont brush ir co b it. My curly hair is returning, it's never greasy, no odor and much thicker now. I live on my sailboat so I'm free. I only eat meat and that has improved my health beyond my dreams. I dont watch the news, too stressful. So I'm there with you and I am a much more grateful person and much happier.
Love the sailboat idea🛟🛟
Im only 41 but i dont dye my hair or cover my scars and i went carnivore and I'm Fitter now than when in my 20s dont care about money, ive no mortgage or credit cards my kids are all grown i still have a drink and the odd smoke, my husband still finds me sexy and we do naughty things and i scare people, loving life all the way hahaha
HI FOREST FAIRY! (OR DO YOU PREFER TO BE CALLED FAIRY FOR SHORT ? ) THOROUGHLY ENJOYED THIS VIDEO...GOING TO START LOOKING AT YOUR LIVBRARY.ALMOST 20 YEARS AGO, i TOLD ONE OF MY GRANDDAUGHTERS i WAS HER WEIRD GRANDMA." SUCH WISDOM FOR HER LITTLE 9 YEAR LIFE SAID "GRANDMA, YOUR NOT WEIRD! YOU ARE UNIQUE! NICE TO MEET YOU! i JUST SUBSCRIBED. KAREN...a 78 YR. OLD SINGLE WOMAN FROM WASHINGTON STATE, USA
Welcome to my corner of the woods!!! Fairy, Forest Fairy, or even just Fifi😂😂 is all good. Your granddaughter was already a wise woman at 9 👏🏻 & I’m sure is also learning from you.
Gave ‘em up decades ago. Too many to mention. Helen Keller quote: “Life is a daring adventure or nothing.”
Absolutely - life is an adventure!
Great video! I too have curly hair, have straightened and dyed it, it just wasn’t me! I’m 62 and stopped coloring my hair 12 years ago and I’m salt and pepper! My natural color was dark brown. I even got my friends to say no to the dye! Very liberating 😊
Thank you!! Also stopped colouring my hair a few years back & yes, very liberating!
I believe in aging gracefully and accepting it. Be grateful I made it this far!
I started dyeing my hair fun colors at 50 and you would be surprised at the amount of older women who compliment it and say they wish they were that brave. I always tell them they are that brave they just have to start doing what makes them happy.
Love the hair… and that you’re brave! Good advice to hand out.
Beautiful
First: half the people you meet are going to back away; the other half will like you. There is no benefit in being other than authentic. Second: I am 72 and happy to become a 'Hag," from the Greek 'hagia,' or 'holy.' Third: Everything you said! (except the curly hair part; mine's straight.)
Hola from one happy “Hag” to another! Thanks for that important piece of info on hags. 😁 I agree, might as well be yourself, we’ll find the people who like us!
At 76, I personally like to call myself a Crone from the ancient mythical stages of womanhood ... Maiden , Mother and Crone. Or wisewoman 😉
I love your Brules Forrest Fairy, and it does become easier to kick them out of your life when you become a bit older I guess! And I agree, ageism is an absolute no-no!!!
Yes, I do think age makes us realise we don’t necessarily have to confirm. Wish I had been aware of this as a young woman 😅
Quit anything that doesn't bring me joy. Stopped living to the I should…….
I have just started to really look at the conversations I have with people in terms of how much those conversations are driven by brules. I want to lose myself in the enjoyment of whatever we're talking about without worrying about how I am coming across. I am your age and work as an educator. What I find is that being a good educator gives me more freedom to speak my mind in the conversations I have at work. Outside of work, connecting with people is juicier when I'm paying attention and being real with myself and others. Thank you so much for coming on RUclips to tell us about your life! ❤
What an interesting insight, thank you! I also love inspiring, real & juicy conversations. I learn so much from others.
Have generally NOT done what everyone else was doing most of my life. People are so afraid of being original or unique. Social proof is strong. Now, at 68, I don't know how to be "old", I just keep on being me.
Agree heartily about the TV being the focus of a room. I don't own one either. It just screams, We are not the least bit creative and can't think of a single other thing to do. For lack of the TV, I guess, I am on the computer way too much. I still look at a couple of RUclips channels dealing with politics, but I rarely click and actually watch the video. Need to stop looking at them altogether.
Your hair looks amazing! Like a do from a very high-end shop! Best regards from Indiana.
Thank you for hair compliment 🙏🏻🙏🏻 Hello to Indiana👋🏻
Wow this is a good find. I was born and raised in s. Calif. Then i moved to fairfield iowa to finish collrge after graduation i stayed cuz of friends.
Yes i agree each of us is creatively differrnt. I'm many things its dilly t identify with one thing
In any case one thing is evedent
Most of us are in 3 d
Waking using a part of our brain
I still have progress
To be made yet i was fortunatr to habe met snf studied with a
Himalayan Master
I had previews of higher levels of consciousness.
This year has been rewarding finally
I see why I'm here.
It is beyond the accepted understanding
In short there is more and its happy amd creative
I never comb, brush, wash, or cut my hair.
Alas. Maybe I should. I liked your video, though.
Great stuff.
"Quirky" is such a bs word. Used by the conventional to condescend to someone who doesn't fit THEIR template. Good for you!
😂😂😂 🙏🏻🙏🏻
With rare exception, I am not willing to spend time or money on:
shopping "for fun"
non-perfect clothing
subscription services
books and magazines
craft supplies
alcohol for the home
candy bars, prepackaged sweets, boxed dessert mixes
off-site, long-term storage
social media
news
handshakes
I am willing to spend a bit of extra time or money on:
allowing a pro to do it
quality groceries
gifts
nice hand soap
Oh wow, what an interesting list, thank you!!! Totally agree with “non-perfect clothing”, and storage units (see my previous conversation 🤦🏻♀️). And I have also now decided I love good hand soaps🙏🏻🙏🏻
Quality groceries is a must in our home. What we choose to eat has a direct effect on the quality of our lives. I’m glad you mentioned that!
I am enamored with this channel and am now a new subscriber! I did a similar video a couple weeks ago. It was very affirming to think through my life and realize that I’m finally, at 54 years old, okay doing things my own way. That said, and to answer your question…I have stopped following diet culture and eat the way my body asks to be fed. For me that’s high-protein animal-based with no ultra-processed foods. So many others too. “Brules!” Love the term! 💕🙏
I’m so glad you found me! Yes, it’s very liberating to do things your own way, and finding the appropriate nutritional lifestyle is definitely one of the top liberators. I too enjoy good protein & less processed foods.
I gave my teLIEvision away 10 years ago. Its so peaceful without that brainwashing square box in my home.
I've stopped trying to keep my house "magazine ready". I only clean on rainy days. If it's not raining I am in the garden, or with my horses. I also don't mow or weed for looks. And guess what? I have amazing edible and medicinal wildflowers everywhere now 😊
Be not conformed to the patterns of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is-His good, pleasing and perfect will. Jesus Christ is Lord. Follow Him and have freedom and everlasting life✨✨✨
I'm still 34, but I love your way of thinking! I trim my husband's hair and I donate my hair every 3 years, I also don't brush my curly hair. No make up, no jewelery, only comfortable and easy to wash clothes. I only care about my family's opinion and we are happy this way ❤
What a wonderful thing to do - donate your hair ♥️ And I also say yes to comfortable clothes… just cannot wear heals anymore😅😅
Bye bye brules 🚀
Jip, have a good trip🚀
I stopped eating meat about 15 years ago, and fish about 9 years ago. I could never look at meat without thinking about the creature that lived (in who knows what conditions) and died so that part of its body would end up on my plate. I can live well, while not engaging in the torture that is animal agriculture. The cognitive dissonance is gone. I am more peaceful and calm as a result.
I would not know where to start to be my authentic self. But, I am going to try.
I do admit that it’s a journey - one that I’ve bern on for decades. But it’s never too late… start with small steps like what do you value - family, learning, nature? What do you enjoy - cooking, walking, laughing? Who are you - funny, loving?
Don't talk or listen about other people. I rely on the direct experience of the person. I take loss of money or friends with some sadness but not bitterness.
Hello fellow South African. Love your video. I too am becoming just me - my rules, my way !! Cut my own hair, very seldom brush it (wish it was curly tho), no TV, no magazines, newspapers or mainstream news for many years. Most movies, series, adverts etc just irritate me - I see thru the mind f@(k b#ll$hit and the scripts and the acting is soo bad too. Very very happy single girl too for about 13 yrs now. Become a real 60's child in my sixties - LOVE it. Greetings from a very cold a wet Gamtoos 💙💙💚💚
Hello there!!! Deciding what are brules for you is sooo liberating, & and the wonderful thing is that we can all agree to differ. Very wet & cold in the Overberg as well 💦🥶
You forgot the most important - I don't care what other people think. Period.
I quit paying taxes ! ✨️🤍✨️. No TV either, but looking forward to purchasing property ✨️🌲🌳🧚♀️🧚♂️🌳🌲near a Faerie forest ✨️🌸🤍🌸✨️🌸🌸🌸🥂🌸🌸🌸
Sounds absolutely delightful♥️
BRULES right up my alley.
Im quirky too.
Too much of an individual for most ppl.
Well, all ppl, actually 😂
Welcome to my quirky corner😂
Sorry darlin don't believe you never use a comb or brush, do you use your fingers?
I don't have curly hair, but it is wavy in some areas, straight in others and if I choose not to comb or brush my hair, I look as though I am related to Medusa, LOL! If I had hair like yours, I might not choose to comb or brush it, your hair looks very nice, IMHO...
Thank you, but it does not always look like this😅 I can easily look like Medusa as well…
I am 53 and an artist, I have been avoiding continuing with doing my popular fanart due to my age 😒 and gearing towards flowers and sceneries….. This video has now got me thinking differently, thank you ❤
Absolutely - don’t let your age dictate your type of art!!!
I think you shoud consult with Dr. Steve Brule.
I am 60. I quit wearing make up in 2009 unless I go to a wedding or something fancy. I quit coloring my hair and nails years ago. I quit unnatural fabrics and wear cotton, linen, and wool. I quit watching TV and the news. I quit listening to the criticism and demands of my extended family. I moved to where I wanted to live. Enjoyed your video. Subscribed.
Welcome to my corner of the woods!!! Enjoyed your quits - it's so interesting to see what each person feels is important, or not, in this case.
I don’t do reality TV, I don’t do motivational speakers, but I love the Forest fairy - short, simple and informative.
Agree - no reality TV, it’s anything but real!! So glad you enjoy the conversations.
I have natural curly hair it was really long but I cut it myself short I love it.I love your videos.i lived life for everyone and my husband of 38 years he has dementia and I care for him.im learning to love him again he wasn't very good for me most of our years together but I will be happy no matter what and do the things I enjoy.
So glad you like the conversations! And love your decision to be happy… it’s often a simple choice!
You had me at Bulls*** Rules 😂 Always amazing how others allow society and govt dictates. They're mindful of things i don't even recognize. Cheers 🍸 and here's some fairy 🧚♀️ dust for you too ✨️ 😊
Thank you for the fairy dust✨✨✨
I totally agree! As I enter retirement, I want to simplify my life, and have started to eliminate the things that caused me stress in the past. I am selling my house, eliminated any debt. I am not rich, but I believe I can enjoy a comfortable and fulfilling rest of my life. I clicked on this channel just in time to reaffirm my new beliefs.
Over the last year my entire life imploded. My family gone. My job of 35 years gone. My home of 24 years gone. My friends gone. I recently moved to the country to start over and im feeling good about the decision.
Sorry to hear that, but wonderful that you're feeling good about your decision to start over!
Here are a few of my brules....... I don't wear bras. Instead I layer my tops for modesty. I don't wear makeup. I don't judge people that do, it's just not my thing. A nice walk brings all the color I need to my face. I don't diet. I eat what I like.
Isn't it wonderful that we can choose what don't want to do... and I love that we're all so individualistic! Thanks for sharing... and enjoy the walks!
We quit eating meat, oils and dairy, we quit alcohol as well. We quitsleeping on a traditional EXPENSIVE mattress instead sleeping on a floor bed. We quit shampoo and conditioner and use baking soda and vinegar. Fellow curly haired here and also quit brushing yeeeeears ago. We quit gift giving on “traditional” holidays about 15 years ago, instead choosing to gift when we want to, not because of an arbitrary date on the calendar. We also quit heeled shoes, going for minimalist, zero drop shoes (barefoot lifestyle). And inspired by Katy Bowman we quit chairs and couches. We have a couple of big, wide bench seats to elevate us off of cold floor (live in Nova Scotia) but they are backless and allow us to move, sitting different ways, we eat most meals sitting on the floor, allowing more movement in our daily life. We quit lots of things and GAINED so much joy and health from doing so. Lovvvved your vid, glad youtube suggested your channel!
Hello Curly Girl, welcome to my corner of the woods. Goodness, you are at a whole other level, well done!!! Barefoot shoes are also on my bucket list and I do use loads of baking soda and ACV in my house - also to rinse my hair. However... I'll have to grow into the bench and floor-sitting, but I can certainly see how it can improve your mobility and flexibility.
I am 82 years old and widow, and I’m finally taking charge of my life. After my husband passed away, I sold a motorhome that we lived in for 14 years, traveling, United States, and moved back to Savannah Georgia to be near my daughter. I thought at my age I can’t just go somewhere and not know anybody in case I needed help. well now I’m kind of sorry I did that. I did need help once when I fell and broke my hip because I tripped over something and my daughter did take my dog for me for six weeks. My question for you is do you ever comb your hair because I have naturally curly hair and I’ve started brushing it at night and combing it during the day, and after I wash it, I comb it. But when I wake up in the morning, it needs some thing and my daughter told me to just squirt it either water squish it and let it go. Well I’ve tried that and I guess I always feel like I am messy looking. Well today I came across your video for the first time And I love the messy look. So I’m thinking of getting my hair cut off because right now it’s below my shoulders and I’m tired of hair coming out all the time. And I thought I would just let it go messy but not sure what to do with it in the morning or how often it should actually be combed out. I have subscribed to your channel.
Oh wow - welcome to my corner of the woods!! Sounds as if you've had quite an adventurous life... and the adventures aren't over yet!! It took me many years to "understand" my hair and that it'll be different every single day, lol. There are many, many women explaining how to treat curly hair - just Google how to treat curly hair. My recent cut has been the best ever - the chin-length only looked good on wash day. Now I bounce out of bed, run my fingers through it, and if there are a few stray ones, I just wet and curl with a finger. Your daughter is on the right track about wetting and squishing it... Enjoy the new adventure with your hair!
I don't really watch tv or listen to news anymore too. I would rather spend the time watching or doing something that interests me. Mainstream tv or news is just depressing!
My thoughts exactly - there are so many interesting things one can be doing.
Oh man, RUclips makes my blood pressure go up a lot more these days! Seems like everything's bad and getting worse. Thanks for a change in the algorithm today :)
Well, I'm glad the algorithm sent the Forest Fairy your way!! It's so easy to get worked up about all the doom and gloom, but keeping our spirits up despite all that may be happening to and around us is important.
Wonderful, l agree completely. Im 73 but do come my still naturally blond straight hair. Sending love from Utah
Thank you! Love from South Africa!
I do my own thing too! Feels good listening to you. 👍
Doing your own thing is what it's about. Glad you enjoying the conversations.
I don't give a care about things that people say and do that are self-serving and petty. I am 59 years old, and I quit being concerned about things that are not important. I wake up each day to how I am going to live my day for today's only. I don't think about yesterday's events and I don't plan for tomorrow. The less I speak and hear about things, the healthier I feel.
Absolutely agree - the less I hear or speak about the negative events around me and in the world, the better I am and live!
I quit explaining to peers and family why I choose to not ever have children. Knew that in my 20s, and it’s been confirmed even more now than ever in my 30s. I stopped need to go into personal reasons and just let them sit with the simple statement of “I don’t want kids…ever.”😅
Oh yes, this is a “tameletjie” (a piece of very sticky homemade toffee) when people keep asking! We all make our own choices & this is the one that suits YOUR life
I’m well into my 60s and still ride my Friesian horse nearly every day. I’ve been told by some friends that I should slow down. That’s just foolishness, I tell them. ❤
I'm really glad you're not listening to others - riding must give you so much pleasure! My daughter had a Fresian - what majestic animals they are.
I quit tv a very long time ago. I gave up trying to maintain a relationship with my ex husband for the children’s sake. They are adults and are responsible for their own relationships. I no longer wear uncomfortable anything. If I don’t like it, I don’t wear it. I use cloth instead of paper towels and napkins. I reuse lots of glass jars for storage. My hair is gray and I like it that way
Ditto to a few things... I also use neither paper towels nor paper napkins - cloth is sooo much nicer, don't like being uncomfortable (but I still try to be stylish), reuse my glass jars, and don't colour my hair either.
Happily retired now. I only wear shoes if I am going outside. In the winter, why I am indoors, I might be shoeless for weeks. I am using up what I have before buying more. Cosmetics and toiletries do not age well. Use less, but use those products up. I started my shampoo use up 3 years ago. I still have enough shampoo for several more months. My skin is happier if I take shorter and fewer showers
Our homes aren't built for shoeless... cement flooring which is icy in the winter, despite carpets... which I haven't replaced yet after the flood...
We do own a TV, but we use it only to watch DVDs, or use it as a really big screen for our computer. No streaming services either, so that we can watch the (not mainstream) movies and documentaries we like.
A TV screen can still be useful - these lots of interesting and inspiring things out there to watch.
1. I cut washing my hair to once a week. it is a lot healthier.
2. I refuse to cover that gray.
3. I quit being available for a husband who isn't interested in anything I do.
Refreshing message! Even though this video may appeal to women more than men, it applies to us as well. I grew up in a lower middle class family in the U.S. in the 1950's, 60's. What was emphasized to us kids was WORK. And we did. My brother and I gave up so much of our youth to work that I truly regret it.
In my opinion, all kids should be taught critical thinking, how to take care of their health, the value of education (going to school or self education), and pursuing happiness.
Nice channel, I am subscribing.
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻welcome to my corner of the woods 🌲🌳🌴! The conversations are about what I’ve learnt & experienced & being a women they would I suppose appeal to women. But, I’m hoping that at least some of the conversations will appeal to all. I didn’t grow up so much with the idea of work, work, work, but once I hit the working space that was the message if you wanted to get anywhere. Eish, if I knew then what I know now! Agree with your recommendations!
I quite celebratrating things because society tells me to. Instead I celebrate every day I wake up
Absolutely!!! Celebrating life!
I don’t subscribe to Brules either. There’s just so many b.s. things that I’m not putting up with anymore.
Exactly!!! Sone things are just a total waste of time and energy… and the great thing is we can choose what we don’t want to tolerate any more!
What a lovely place to be in life. I recently did a YT post on the perks of turning 65, it’s not fatal more less an awakening 😊 New to your channel and new subscriber. Have a wonderful day.
Great description - an awakening! Welcome! I’ll pop over your side soon.
Great description - an awakening!! Welcome! I’ll pop over to your side soon.
I stopped watching the news as my husband had a different view of politics and it became uncomfortable to watch the news together. He sadly passed away 18 months ago and now I work on watching what makes me feel good and that is not the news. In fact, I rarely watch TV anymore and prefer Netflix and streaming shows. It’s amazing what you can do when you work on taking care of yourself.
Sorry for your loss. It does however make a space for you to get to know you snd what you like.
I agree with the common modern assumption that we should value experiences over possessions, however I no longer think that means I should travel. While the travel I've done in the past reshaped my life, I find it's no longer something I wish to do. Rather, I am much more excited about the things I can make and learn about--which are also valuable experiences. I've got a bucket list of art forms I want to learn and I've been ticking them off one by one: sewing, spinning wool, weaving, making soap, and on and on. The more I learn about the world, the longer my list becomes and that excites me more than a trip to Hawaii ever could.
Love your bucket list of art forms!!! I’m also itching to do something with my hands again - it’s winter here so maybe I’ll knit