Expressing emotions doesn’t mean you should *act* on it. You might feel angry but that doesn’t mean you should punch someone. The idea is to acknowledge your own emotions, perhaps by saying, ‘I’m angry about this’, or ‘I feel disappointed’, rather than denying you feel the emotion. Telling yourself “I’m fine” when it’s not true is not healthy. Also, acknowledging your emotions at the time you feel them helps you get over them faster, so your feelings don’t linger and fester.
Lol Lol I’m not sure sadness brought on by an imbalance of brain chemistry can be treated exactly the same as sadness brought on by a sad life event (though there may be overlap) Medication is probably more helpful. I’m not a medical professional.
Yeah, this sounds like a possible lack of socialization, or learning how to respond appropriately to others through modeling. Perhaps consider **why** this other person is sharing their thing, what **you** want out of the exchange (feel closer? help out? glean support or understanding?), and I guess just try to stay friendly and helpful, reflecting back happy or sad feelings with your body posture and what-not. Social mirroring is an important skill!
Your first sentence nails it. Chronic childhood trauma meant that my priorities were not what a child's should have been. My priorities were my parents' twisted dynamic rather than learning about the world and the people in it. Still, there's hope...and my therapist.
Yea that's my problem, I've been taken advantage of so many times that I've bottled myself up and now its hard for me to express myself to my girl and its been really hard on our relationship.... I need help
As a person of British heritage, I wholly disagree with the subject of this episode. It has been well established that only legitimate way to process emotion is through gin (or a strong bitter), passive-aggressive behavior, deadpan comedy, the colonization of a quarter of the planet, or by humiliating the French. God Save the Queen
I would like a video on looking at Highly Sensitive People or the HSP personality. Being vulnerable or sensitive has a negative stigma surrounding it. Even this video says its okay to open up, but there's no denying there has been a longstanding suppression in various cultures.
Yes and when they started at the beginning by saying sharing your feelings might sound" new agie or cheesy" I nearly turned it off I don't think it's necessary to make feelings Sound ridiculous Or to diminish anyone's beliefs.
This episodes is basically my mental state. I have learned to suppress a lot of anxiety, but it's all still there. I sometimes psych myself out so much that I miss obvious things, and while I do learn from my mistakes... eventually, I feel like I should _do better._ Well, I think everyone get this feeling at some point. I hope, at least.
Jocko Willick talks about that last point in his podcast. About how expressing emotions that might register as say a 2 or 3 aren't worth expressing , tend to be normalized (i.e people who get hangry know when and why they get hangry). Learning to cope and rationalize is important with those feelings. In regards to intense feelings like that of a an extreme stressor like death or depression or other things you should try to 'outsource' your strength and talk about it.
Expressing your emotions is helpful from a social perspective and may drop stress levels, BUT it also digs in the Neural Pathways for those feelings making them easier to slip into in other situations. So while expressing your emotions could help in a short-term way, I'm under the impression over the long run it makes things worse if done regularly
I dislike vulnerability of showing anger towards certain people and expressed none of it. Expressing anger does lead to discomfort but this video helps me understand that my expressed feelings can help me win arguments. My shared feelings provide some data to the others to let us be more accepting of who others are.
It is important to express emotions to improve our relationships with people, it is also good behavior to avoid excess anxiety and stress, we have the ability to turn an unfavorable situation into something beneficial if we have emotional intelligence and the good news. it's a matter of training
Brady P or we want it to fit our previous notions so we give the small positive correlation more credence than it should. Only way to find out is more experiments.
I still wonder how the Japanese are able to deal with their emotions, since their culture seems to heavily emphasize suppression of their emotions, as well as suppression of their true opinions on things, even from their friends and colleagues. How can a society that is not emotionally open still function under so much pressure for conformity and excellence?
Brit - I love your videos and your presentation. I've gotta ask because it's been driving me crazy, what do your tats say? (Right inner elbow and left collar bone). If they're personal and private, I totally understand. Keep up the fantastic work!
Unsurprising. My siblings and I all have depression. I am physically unable to suppress strong emotions, and both of them have difficulty not suppressing emotions. My physical health is generally better than theirs.
I totally agree with this I discover that my insecurity problem comes when i can't express my feeling I can't say what i don't like, or like, agree, or disagree, angry or happy Right now i decided to be more honest to myself and people around me
That's another big issue I have like I'm afraid of their reaction when honestly, I shouldn't care in the first place.... its gonna be an uphill battle but WE got this!
@@brandonharwell95 yes, i hope you can do it well. For me might take sometime, i grew up in a environment that cannot allow me to freely express myself, disagree with elder in my country culture can be count as act of rebellion. It might be not really related, but we also have law that somehow preventing us to have freedom of speech, insulting people can make you go to jail. Although this law often used by our politician to attack their political enemy
@@joannej7018 what country are you from? And it sounds like that you more government oppression that self-suppression, nonetheless I hope it gets better for you J and you have to look within yourself do some serious soul searching and just be open with yourself
Dialectical behavioural therapy is what you go to for emotional regulation so I assume it would help with emotional intelligence as it teaches mindfulness and interpersonal effectiveness
Yet another amazing content, well done! It feels as if you guys are steadily working your way into autism research hahaha.. Truly an amazing channel, easily one of my favorites.
Is important , first because you need to learn to identifique the different emotions and feelings, after we can get the skill to manage, and applied during a conversation with other peoples in several contexts or situations. The bad is because can to affect you healht because you have some agressive or depresive behaviors
I try to be an open, and flexible person but I am stubborn on occasion and try to appropriately put my foot down. How does one tell how stubborn they are and how do you talk to someone who is easily angered with a "highway" mentality?
Do you think it could also be that by bottling up feelings earlier in life, later in life one might be jealous of those who are able to express themselves and end up hating them because of it?
People act out-using their bodies to bully or physically abuse BECAUSE they don't know HOW TO EXPRESS THEIR FEELINGS/EMOTIONS!DUH!!!Also they are filled with fear that they aren't a good,loveable,worthy person.WE ALL NEED TO FIND OUR LOVE&MAKE IT GROW!
As Brit herself demonstrated here, I hate how it seems to have become the cool thing to reject emotions or the "feels" as some call them. It really annoys me when a watch a sad video and someone says something like, "I'm not crying. You are crying." or they make up some excuse for why they have watery eyes. I don't trust people who reject emotions. That is not a healthy behaviour.
sweiland75 I think there's value in portraying insecurity over expressed emotions. Like it or not, people aren't necessarily comfortable with highly emotional people. There's moments where being emotional yourself can make it harder to give empathy back and there's moments where you need to let your emotions be your emotions and expressing them emotionally. It's emotional intelligence versus 'radical emotional honesty'. And emotional intelligence means knowing what the right moment is to give way for an emotion and when to compartmentalize it. It also means not deliberately making yourself feel something to get something out of another person. Such as not making yourself angry or making yourself overwhelmed because it gets you out of doing something you don't like. There's a lot of sides to this obviously, you probably didn't need my rant to know that. But to your point, I think that there's a time and a place for everything and that's cool.
You can allow yourself to feel any emotion at any given time. The trick is to suppress any inappropriate behavior that may result because of the the emotions you're feeling.
How is this so ? I am extremely emphatic , have different kinds of synesthesia and often feel like an alien 👽 being emotional is not accepted by society now days being cruel is cool😭
I haven't expressed most emotions (apart from the 'good' one) for around 6 years and now I'm anxious, depressed and suicidal... Yeah, cry when you're sad, scream when you're angry and try to understand your feelings...
so, what about venting then? I thought the whole idea of catharsis through giving into things as anger and such was a form of conditioning yourself to that response, thereby creating a whole new set of problems....
The tattoo on her right arm is a set of coordinates that leads to a position just off the coast of "Sunset Key" which is just off the Florida pennisula. I wonder why
It's important, so that society and bullies can then tell you how wrong you're feeling, and should be feeling differently. Abuse them for their own gain. Imagine if everyone stopped expressing, where would the bullies go on? We can't have that, we need bullies to ruin your mental health everyday! So that there's balance in the force. And you know who is boss. How would they ever get to feel better themselves? Ugh, it's so f'ing selfish!
So you're saying express your feeling for health? However if your feel angry it's more likely to kill you. Well that a double edged sword if I have ever heard of.
But I have to wonder, whether this research showing the benefits of expressing emotion could be replicated with success in cultures, wherein emotional expression isn’t idolised (eg. Markus & Kitayama 1991), as it sometimes is in the western macroculture, as I will call it; I have to wonder, whether the meaning we culturally ascribe to emotional expression nigh fundamentally changes, how it affects us.
According to Brit, we should manage "angry and hurt feelings" in a non-aggressive way. Not that i know how either, when i get tipped over the edge i have to try to hold myself back from destroying EVERYTHING.
That's good advice for physical health but still not mental health. My hand was covered in cuts after punching a door into submission once. Big mistake lol.
Or maybe people with low emotional suppression scores have fewer negative emotions that they need to suppress, and it is often appropriate to express their positive emotions? My point is maybe it's not the emotional suppression that is unhealthy, but the things that course you to have the feelings you are suppressing, or the things that course the suppression itself, that is bad?
Found a "small" positive "correlation" between suppressing emotions and mortality in a study of only 111 people.... That is barely worth noting. Just think there might be some bias in this episode based on what we think should be true.
Pick up a shovel and to the hard work. Become president... a politician, or something. If you can’t do that and make a contribution... learn to accept it I guess
I don't express anger very much and when I do, I'm rational and reasonable about it. One of these days...I want to just yell and scream about what angers me and I don't HAVE to be rational or reasonable.
カバルナハンナミツチ. Then deny bottle up and ignore all emotion. Worked for me for the entirety of my sentient existence and so far I haven’t turned into a wrist cutting emo yet. You appear to have this conviction that emotion is something to be dumped on any willing person in sight but that doesn’t fix anything
You can express emption with many ways, not just with facial expression, In reality facial expression could make someone looks naive and easily manipulated
Jynx C. Would be interesting. Some get interested to learn to deal with stage fright and others didn't get as much attention in childhood as is the norm, so the youngest sibling or a divorcee child.
Expressing emotions doesn’t mean you should *act* on it. You might feel angry but that doesn’t mean you should punch someone. The idea is to acknowledge your own emotions, perhaps by saying, ‘I’m angry about this’, or ‘I feel disappointed’, rather than denying you feel the emotion. Telling yourself “I’m fine” when it’s not true is not healthy. Also, acknowledging your emotions at the time you feel them helps you get over them faster, so your feelings don’t linger and fester.
River Amazon can someone please pin this comment! Because this is what it’s all about 💗💗
River Amazon but when I know I’m depressed it still lingers for the whole day (depending on when I get depressed)
Lol Lol depression isn’t an emotion, it’s a state of being, encompassing all your emotions
River Amazon sadness is apart of depression so I guess that counts then
Lol Lol I’m not sure sadness brought on by an imbalance of brain chemistry can be treated exactly the same as sadness brought on by a sad life event (though there may be overlap) Medication is probably more helpful. I’m not a medical professional.
* holds back a single tear *
New Message **wipes single tear gracefully**
New Message *Offers a smile, a tissue, and chocolate*
If you bottle up your emotions they will ferment and turn into whine.
I thought they would lament instead.
Man you are the king of comments today 👍
So THAT'S why my mother drinks so much wine. 🤔
Master Therion you sir, are genius
Any validation for your claim?
I can read people okay, but I have no idea what to do with it.
ok
Yeah, this sounds like a possible lack of socialization, or learning how to respond appropriately to others through modeling. Perhaps consider **why** this other person is sharing their thing, what **you** want out of the exchange (feel closer? help out? glean support or understanding?), and I guess just try to stay friendly and helpful, reflecting back happy or sad feelings with your body posture and what-not. Social mirroring is an important skill!
Your first sentence nails it. Chronic childhood trauma meant that my priorities were not what a child's should have been. My priorities were my parents' twisted dynamic rather than learning about the world and the people in it. Still, there's hope...and my therapist.
Glent Hunt - Me too. Well I can simulate the behavior. But being genuine ? Only if I have business with those people.
Plus we have to dump this idea of showing emotions being a weakness. Our culture is really screwy when it comes to this.
Simone. Emotion can be exploited and therefore it is a direct extension of weakness and vulnerability.
We live in a fucked up world where it's easy to take advantage of someone who's showing emotion
Yea that's my problem, I've been taken advantage of so many times that I've bottled myself up and now its hard for me to express myself to my girl and its been really hard on our relationship.... I need help
“You can’t bottle your emotions forever”
Me: *bottling up more emotions*. “WATCH ME”
As a person of British heritage, I wholly disagree with the subject of this episode. It has been well established that only legitimate way to process emotion is through gin (or a strong bitter), passive-aggressive behavior, deadpan comedy, the colonization of a quarter of the planet, or by humiliating the French.
God Save the Queen
I'm not even British, but yes.
Coire Jones so sacrifice your mental health because of social norms
erin crawford well that's a good countered statement and does that mean you are expressing a dislike feeling more than the hate one
Yeah, suppressing your negative emotions toward a person can turn you into a no-good person to him/her.
Still waiting for the Brit-singing-her-way-through-the-script episode.
Delluvian Me too
:D
*Well for vegetables it's so others don't think that you don't **_carrot_** all...* 🥕
Have been waiting for an excuse to use this beast of a pun 😂
Aspect Science +
Alright, pack it up everyone, we're done...
Aspect Science
The most emotional vegetable is the onion, it makes me cry :'(
Now that's a pun that can't be beet.
Celina k Thanks for the +, you Hank Green fan you - always nice to come across a fellow nerdfighter!
You guys are literally changing my life.
NO YOU CAN'T FOOL ME MEATBAG I'LL BE ON THE WINNING SIDE IN THE COLD, SOULLESS ROBOT UPRISING
This is by far my favorite channel, thank you for doing all of this amazing research and spreading awareness about mental health
I'm _super_ in touch with all of my emotions! It's just unfortunate that all of my emotions are bad...
GhengisJohn. Try denying em.
Your T-shirt collection fills me with joy
I would like a video on looking at Highly Sensitive People or the HSP personality. Being vulnerable or sensitive has a negative stigma surrounding it. Even this video says its okay to open up, but there's no denying there has been a longstanding suppression in various cultures.
It should be the other way around, insensitive people should be the stigma. But alas, they don't care.
Yes and when they started at the beginning by saying sharing your feelings might sound" new agie or cheesy" I nearly turned it off I don't think it's necessary to make feelings Sound ridiculous Or to diminish anyone's beliefs.
This episodes is basically my mental state. I have learned to suppress a lot of anxiety, but it's all still there. I sometimes psych myself out so much that I miss obvious things, and while I do learn from my mistakes... eventually, I feel like I should _do better._ Well, I think everyone get this feeling at some point. I hope, at least.
This is really so informative.
And I like the way as she explained.
Let you interact in a more direct way with others. And give you more peace and understanding from others.
Thank you for the information :) I really like these videos
P.S. Your Tshirt's great
You made a video just for Mark Zuckerberg! How thoughtful.
Master Therion 🤖 just find the Zuckerberg emoji!
He's already expressing all of his emotions.
wait
You mean it *is* important to express your feelings?...
Software Man I thought I’d see you here
Software Man. No it’s not it’s just the 21st century making us all pussified slaves of our own sentimentality
Jocko Willick talks about that last point in his podcast. About how expressing emotions that might register as say a 2 or 3 aren't worth expressing , tend to be normalized (i.e people who get hangry know when and why they get hangry). Learning to cope and rationalize is important with those feelings. In regards to intense feelings like that of a an extreme stressor like death or depression or other things you should try to 'outsource' your strength and talk about it.
"Mr. Stark, I don't *feel* so good..."
Matteus Silvestre god damn XD
TOO SOON
DAMN YOU MATTEUS SILVESTRE. DAMN. YOU.
WHHHHHY?????😦😦
Next video: How to hide all of your feelings and become a hermit.
Or win at poker.
Expressing your emotions is helpful from a social perspective and may drop stress levels, BUT it also digs in the Neural Pathways for those feelings making them easier to slip into in other situations. So while expressing your emotions could help in a short-term way, I'm under the impression over the long run it makes things worse if done regularly
I find it hard to read people. They won't let me write on them.
I dislike vulnerability of showing anger towards certain people and expressed none of it. Expressing anger does lead to discomfort but this video helps me understand that my expressed feelings can help me win arguments. My shared feelings provide some data to the others to let us be more accepting of who others are.
It is important to express emotions to improve our relationships with people, it is also good behavior to avoid excess anxiety and stress, we have the ability to turn an unfavorable situation into something beneficial if we have emotional intelligence and the good news. it's a matter of training
I love this host! great work thank you!
First bit about it being linked to higher mortality rates could just be correlation not causation
it makes sense, though. lots more stress. lots more heart problems.
Brady P or we want it to fit our previous notions so we give the small positive correlation more credence than it should. Only way to find out is more experiments.
That's what she said, "small positive correlation."
Which, if you know anything about statistics in psychology, doesn't really mean much.
暗知能 not everyone who watches these knows anything about psychological statistics tho and it implies that it does mean something
we already know that stress causes inflammation and inflammation is bad
Muscle hank taught me that only strong, muscular people can safely suppress their emotions.
That odd, hustle hank sold me a box of emotion suppressing pills.
Sean Peery That's odd. Hustle Hank stole my heart.
I feel dizzy...
Alderick van Klaveren F
But mind courage also important
So, I have the option of either
(1) Die soon
or
(2) yell at my boss and get fired.
============================
Pretty damn confusing
So true. I recommend to search for Possibility Management in the net. It helped me so much.
I still wonder how the Japanese are able to deal with their emotions, since their culture seems to heavily emphasize suppression of their emotions, as well as suppression of their true opinions on things, even from their friends and colleagues.
How can a society that is not emotionally open still function under so much pressure for conformity and excellence?
And isn't Japan one of the countries where people have some of the longest lifespans? Hmmm.
japanese suppressing their emotions? wait wut?
dont forget that japan is also the country with the highest rate of suicides if i remember correctly, especially tokyo... it can go either way
japan ain't the highest, it's on the tenth somewhat. still it is very high
xXSchimpXx actually north korea is the highest I think
Another good related topic that should be covered in its own episode: Alexithymia
Brit - I love your videos and your presentation. I've gotta ask because it's been driving me crazy, what do your tats say? (Right inner elbow and left collar bone). If they're personal and private, I totally understand.
Keep up the fantastic work!
I love your Hogwarts shirt 😊 it makes me feel happy
Speaking of all of this, you should do an episode on Asperger's.
Unsurprising. My siblings and I all have depression. I am physically unable to suppress strong emotions, and both of them have difficulty not suppressing emotions. My physical health is generally better than theirs.
so are you saying if you are physically more active, making you stronger and healthier than ones that are less physically active?
...no. I have fewer health problems than my siblings, on average. Our activity levels are pretty similar.
Look. I'm Irish. We bottle our feelings up. And then we die. That's the culture. It's just what we do
Wait, are you saying bottling up emotions is what causes you to die or that you just bottle it up until you die?
Captain Hunt until we die.
Savage Jesus thats savage
And then we turn to alcoholism as an outlet which leads to our death
did u get this from john mulaney lolol
I totally agree with this
I discover that my insecurity problem comes when i can't express my feeling
I can't say what i don't like, or like, agree, or disagree, angry or happy
Right now i decided to be more honest to myself and people around me
That's another big issue I have like I'm afraid of their reaction when honestly, I shouldn't care in the first place.... its gonna be an uphill battle but WE got this!
@@brandonharwell95 yes, i hope you can do it well. For me might take sometime, i grew up in a environment that cannot allow me to freely express myself, disagree with elder in my country culture can be count as act of rebellion. It might be not really related, but we also have law that somehow preventing us to have freedom of speech, insulting people can make you go to jail. Although this law often used by our politician to attack their political enemy
@@joannej7018 what country are you from? And it sounds like that you more government oppression that self-suppression, nonetheless I hope it gets better for you J and you have to look within yourself do some serious soul searching and just be open with yourself
This reminded me a lot of what they're trying to teach me in DBT
Nice video!
Dialectical behavioural therapy is what you go to for emotional regulation so I assume it would help with emotional intelligence as it teaches mindfulness and interpersonal effectiveness
Im south african and i wish my country had made it into the world cup. Am i doing it right?
You are right to express that thought. Did doing so, make you feel better?
She's very good! More videos with her please! :)
Yet another amazing content, well done! It feels as if you guys are steadily working your way into autism research hahaha.. Truly an amazing channel, easily one of my favorites.
Is important , first because you need to learn to identifique the different emotions and feelings, after we can get the skill to manage, and applied during a conversation with other peoples in several contexts or situations. The bad is because can to affect you healht because you have some agressive or depresive behaviors
I love it when she talks
"Wait a minute....
This isn't my world.
DISAPPOINTED"
03:14 _"...and acording to Kurisu..."_
Makise?
Cristina?
This must be an alpha worldine.
El Psy Kongroo
Argamis (SilverComet) *flashbacks to all of Mayuri’s death* Oh no, not again
I'm going to implement this immediately with my customers! "Can I get a caramel macchiato?" "I feel like you should go to starbucks, idiot."
I try to be an open, and flexible person but I am stubborn on occasion and try to appropriately put my foot down. How does one tell how stubborn they are and how do you talk to someone who is easily angered with a "highway" mentality?
Do you think it could also be that by bottling up feelings earlier in life, later in life one might be jealous of those who are able to express themselves and end up hating them because of it?
Micah Beiser, yes there are definitely couple of people in the world that might be jealous of that reason.
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In some people though, it seems like angry outbursts lead to MORE angry outbursts.
People act out-using their bodies to bully or physically abuse BECAUSE they don't know HOW TO EXPRESS THEIR FEELINGS/EMOTIONS!DUH!!!Also they are filled with fear that they aren't a good,loveable,worthy person.WE ALL NEED TO FIND OUR LOVE&MAKE IT GROW!
This feels exactly like the kind of video all the trumpets wouldn't be able to stand
this is something i really need to get better at, i'm horrible at expressing myself
As Brit herself demonstrated here, I hate how it seems to have become the cool thing to reject emotions or the "feels" as some call them. It really annoys me when a watch a sad video and someone says something like, "I'm not crying. You are crying." or they make up some excuse for why they have watery eyes. I don't trust people who reject emotions. That is not a healthy behaviour.
sweiland75 I think there's value in portraying insecurity over expressed emotions. Like it or not, people aren't necessarily comfortable with highly emotional people.
There's moments where being emotional yourself can make it harder to give empathy back and there's moments where you need to let your emotions be your emotions and expressing them emotionally.
It's emotional intelligence versus 'radical emotional honesty'. And emotional intelligence means knowing what the right moment is to give way for an emotion and when to compartmentalize it. It also means not deliberately making yourself feel something to get something out of another person. Such as not making yourself angry or making yourself overwhelmed because it gets you out of doing something you don't like.
There's a lot of sides to this obviously, you probably didn't need my rant to know that. But to your point, I think that there's a time and a place for everything and that's cool.
sweiland75 comments such as ‘I’m not crying, you’re crying’ are not intended to be taken seriously
"I'm not crying, you're crying." are not serious... welcome to the internet! Don't take everything seriosly.
You can allow yourself to feel any emotion at any given time. The trick is to suppress any inappropriate behavior that may result because of the the emotions you're feeling.
It ıs hard to express someone's feelings to their mother in law :) :) :)
Thanks for video
How is this so ? I am extremely emphatic , have different kinds of synesthesia and often feel like an alien 👽 being emotional is not accepted by society now days being cruel is cool😭
So expressing anger and frustations on video games make you a better and happy person.
Suppressing emotions can make you more aggressive? Well, that explains the British Empire then.
You’re not Angry, you’re Miffed !! (the silly sounding name helps 🤫)
You’re not Happy, you’re Ecstatic!!!
You’re not Sad, you’re Bummed!!
I haven't expressed most emotions (apart from the 'good' one) for around 6 years and now I'm anxious, depressed and suicidal... Yeah, cry when you're sad, scream when you're angry and try to understand your feelings...
so, what about venting then?
I thought the whole idea of catharsis through giving into things as anger and such was a form of conditioning yourself to that response, thereby creating a whole new set of problems....
The tattoo on her right arm is a set of coordinates that leads to a position just off the coast of "Sunset Key" which is just off the Florida pennisula. I wonder why
I don't know. I was trying(and failing ) to read her shoulder.
It's important, so that society and bullies can then tell you how wrong you're feeling, and should be feeling differently. Abuse them for their own gain.
Imagine if everyone stopped expressing, where would the bullies go on? We can't have that, we need bullies to ruin your mental health everyday! So that there's balance in the force. And you know who is boss. How would they ever get to feel better themselves? Ugh, it's so f'ing selfish!
Suppressing & holding on tightly to emotions tightens all of your muscles which pull on your muscular-skeletal system& can also give you hemmroids!
So you're saying express your feeling for health? However if your feel angry it's more likely to kill you. Well that a double edged sword if I have ever heard of.
Just let me cryyyyy a little bit longeeeeeeeer
I ain't gonna smile if I-dont-want-tooooo
Hey man, we all can't be like you
I wish we were all rose-colored too
My rose-colored boy
Yeeeees 💕
I bottle up my emotions and then drink my feelings away.
You can definitely train that. You just have to want it.
Even my feelings have feelings.
crying is great, wish I could do it more
What about mediation though? Isn't it great for increasing emotional intelligence?
But like, black people ALWAYS dress better than white people, and they match every single color SO good.
*those are the feelings I expressed*
*ANGERY*
Reminds me of that Malcolm In The Middle episode when Malcolm stops complaining.
How to control the emotions over suppressing it?
But I have to wonder, whether this research showing the benefits of expressing emotion could be replicated with success in cultures, wherein emotional expression isn’t idolised (eg. Markus & Kitayama 1991), as it sometimes is in the western macroculture, as I will call it; I have to wonder, whether the meaning we culturally ascribe to emotional expression nigh fundamentally changes, how it affects us.
So if I'm angry does that mean it's ok for me to punch an inanimate object?
InvisibleEmma No lol
BaguetteHD Rip
How do I deal with those emotions then
According to Brit, we should manage "angry and hurt feelings" in a non-aggressive way.
Not that i know how either, when i get tipped over the edge i have to try to hold myself back from destroying EVERYTHING.
Maybe punch a pillow instead of the wall or anything that can break under the pressure of your fist
That's good advice for physical health but still not mental health. My hand was covered in cuts after punching a door into submission once. Big mistake lol.
Or maybe people with low emotional suppression scores have fewer negative emotions that they need to suppress, and it is often appropriate to express their positive emotions? My point is maybe it's not the emotional suppression that is unhealthy, but the things that course you to have the feelings you are suppressing, or the things that course the suppression itself, that is bad?
well take THAT every jerk who's ever told me I'm too emotional. I'M JUST HEALTHY
Found a "small" positive "correlation" between suppressing emotions and mortality in a study of only 111 people.... That is barely worth noting. Just think there might be some bias in this episode based on what we think should be true.
In my experience people who are not afraid to "express their feelings" are actually more aggressive. A better way to deal with anger is exercise.
So Even if your passive by saying "Hate" brain areas know your using a strong word, thus no matter how we say it, its negative and harmful???
You’re currently reading something from the past.
How do I express my unquenchable desire to free the working class from the clutches of the capatalist pigs
Pick up a shovel and to the hard work. Become president... a politician, or something. If you can’t do that and make a contribution... learn to accept it I guess
I don't express anger very much and when I do, I'm rational and reasonable about it. One of these days...I want to just yell and scream about what angers me and I don't HAVE to be rational or reasonable.
In some way, this all necessarily undermines; flies in the face of the James-Lange somatic theory of emotion.
What if you don't trust anyone to know what you really feel?
That is sad🙁
Journaling helps for me at least to vent out feelings!
カバルナハンナミツチ. Then deny bottle up and ignore all emotion. Worked for me for the entirety of my sentient existence and so far I haven’t turned into a wrist cutting emo yet. You appear to have this conviction that emotion is something to be dumped on any willing person in sight but that doesn’t fix anything
You can express emption with many ways, not just with facial expression,
In reality facial expression could make someone looks naive and easily manipulated
"What happened to Gary Cooper? The strong, silent type...."
feelings?
whoa whoa whoa, feelings.....
(not the sunglasses guy) lol
So does high emotional intelligence cause better mental and physical health, or does terrible mental health lower one's emotional intelligence?
Does that mean thespians have great emotional health?
Jynx C. Would be interesting.
Some get interested to learn to deal with stage fright and others didn't get as much attention in childhood as is the norm, so the youngest sibling or a divorcee child.
While they are acting, they are expressing the characters emotions.
most do not care when express your emotions so why even try