Tell me if I’m being crazy in this podcast // Ep 44 - Pretty Lonesome with Madeline Argy
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- Опубликовано: 13 окт 2024
- In this episode of Pretty Lonesome, Madeline’s thoughts race about vacation mishaps, riddled children, forgiveness & understanding, spiritual warnings & soulmates, experiences with therapy, and her mission for wellness.
She’s glowing already IM SO EXCITED
She’s pregnant???
Why’s everyone saying she’s glowing 😭😭😭
shes way to pretty
@@heyysophie9928 NOOO I’ve had an ex and I didn’t glow after our fall out until 2 years later like she’s alr glowing im so proud f
Haven’t watched it yet but I know for a fact that you’re not being crazy bc you’re always real
This
Idk along with the cringe fake US accent she seems pretty insane
@@cathal3020 me I don’t hear the US accent but the UK one
@darina2186 ok that's nice
@@cathal3020 idk why people say that maybe I’m the crazy one with the UK accent
your emotions about your ex from years ago might be trapped within the frame of your teenage mind, when i look back at people who have wronged me as an adult i am not as bothered but when i think about being wronged as a teen the emotions feel like so severe because they were only ever felt by my younger disregulated self
i completely agree
that’s a good point omg
wait…
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Idk why but this comment just opened up a brand new world to me
madeline you look gorgeous like you’re literally glowing rn
Forgiveness is never self harm if you have enough self respect to not allow that situation happen again. Indeed forgiveness can be considered self love, as you are forgiving to allow yourself to go over the situation and be in peace.
agreed 😇
I’ve never had someone speak the thoughts I’m my brain so beautifully 😭😭
FR we are literally having the same thoughts 😭
“Stop fookin bringin’ up me mum’s arms” TOOK ME OUT HAHAHAHA
Was coming on here to comment just that LOL
Lmao cracked me up
I genuinely can't stop laughing 😂
that’s literally why i came to the comments lmaooooo
I don’t think anyone knows how much I love this prodcast and Madeline. I’m like obsessed idk if it’s weird or I’m just a fan😭🫶🏼
i relate sm to this
i really love her 🫶🏻
please bring gavin magnus on
@Ik3517 dude you r literally me😭
I just feel like she’s my older sis
I don’t even be watching podcasts ever but I could listen to you talk all day
I feel like at some point you forgive someone because it’s just not worth it for you to be angry any more. Like they are not apart of your life anymore and the anger is doing nothing but hurting you. It becomes a self love thing to know that you are worth more than to spend so much energy on them
you are literally me to a tee. I’m going through a breakup rn and watching ur videos is so comforting and makes me feel like I’m not alone.
she looks so pretty
Ikr 🩷🥺
Just got out of school and Madeline posted PLUS it's Friday 🙏🏼🙏🏼 three blessings in one day
Wait! Can we talk about how STUNNING Madz looks in this vlog. Omw. The hair (why does the colour look so good in the light) 😻😻😻😻 the face ❤❤ Absolutely gorgeous ❤ Now back to me watching about the kids on the plane 😂❤
English is not my first language, however I’m learning it still on process ,I listen to a lot of podcasts but this is different , this is my favourite, I don’t just listen to it on Apple Podcast because i want to watch her face she is so beautiful and I love the way she speaks her mind the way she tries to structure her words out loud with us I love I love it 💕she gives off a normal natural person vibes like everyone listening out there, she is so authentically natural and genuine
I think forgiving someone and feeling the pain of what they did can be two separate things. The best quote I've heard about it is somewhere along the lines of forgive not because you think what they did is okay but because you love yourself enough to not keep putting yourself through it.
OMG she's glowinnngggggggg!!!
I love the question about understanding and forgiveness because when you think you know someone and they betray you, it fucks your brain up. So when you forgive them, it's like you relearn them. Some people don't change though.
madeline you’re absolutely MINDBLOWING i just written about this podcast in my diary bc this is so interesting and thought provoking i can’t even tell you how much i loved this episode
This made me feel like I can understand your brain, and I feel so validated that someone is speaking what I feel. Absolutely insane how much I relate to every word. I hope your mind gives you a break ❤️🩹
madeline if you’re crazy you’re as crazy as me and I’m loving it keep going 😭
its such an awful feeling to literally be trapped in a small crammed spaced for however many hours and the long flights are so terrible in those situations. I always had a feeling i had some sort of OCD about these things but after madz telling that story, and my reaction, its confirmed it for me.
You are glowing❤️😍 these are the only podcast that i can listen from the begining to the end, just love it!
Enjoy your trip✌️
the people like madeline are the ones that really need to make podcast videos cs u hear everything that comes to her mind and its never boring
You have the iq of a fish
Forgiveness is for yourself and it truly helps with moving forward.
“The light’s horrible” but it’s literally the most gorgeous woman I have ever seen
Genuinely something in my mind changed when I started watching Madz like I have a completely different outlook on everything
This episode was HEALING
16:50 I think it’s bc we were forced to say sorry as children that we just say sorry without expressing our side & feelings of hurt etc. saying sorry doesn’t equate to remorse , if anything it’s rude/unhealthy/fake to say sorry immediately in my opinion
the kind of face and aura i’d willingly watch hours and hours of yt ads uncomplainingly to just watch her…
As a person with diagnosed OCD, please do consider "ERP"/ Exposure and response prevention therapy. While during this Podcast, you made it sound a bit comedic, it does sound like your contamination fear causes severe anxiety if things are not in your control. ERP is the treatment for OCD and is the only therapy that helped my OCD issues.
NOCD is an app + therapy provider that does ERP therapy.
“No revenge because who you are is punishment enough” a line that sounds exactly what you’re talking about concerning forgiveness
Ive always said along the same lines of the soul mate thing, that our souls come back to learn and acquire knowledge needed to actually access eternal peace, whatever that may be but just for the soul to rest i believe the soul must graduate the levels of life and experience every experience. And the “Old souls” we encounter in our day to day are just the few that are finally on their way to the ultimate peace. Alsoooooo Idk if it’s the brown sweater that’s your color or if you’ve done something with your hair or what exactly it is but you look so grown up and beautiful here Madeline!!
I SO AGREE about the part hwere she says youre more focused on why you let someone do you that wrong or how u didnt notice it
Working out right before the crash keeps me from crashing out feeling burnt out from my medication. Even if it’s just a walk or my stepper machine. 💖💖💖
our minds work similarly and it’s so comforting seriously, if you’re not crazy i’m not crazy 🥰
youre NOT crazy dont ever doubt yourself girly xoxo
i’m only 19 so i definitely still have growing to do obvi- and compared to my brain, you explain your thoughts so welllll. i understood everything u said about forgiveness. I think i’m very similar in the way i kinda skip to forgiveness and healing cuz i don’t want to feel how they made me feel. still not sure if i’m avoiding or not. but anyway you’re fantastic at explaining your thoughts and i really appreciate it. it’s helpful for me to think through my own feelings. loveee your podcast
I’ve never heard anyone think the way I do the way that Madeline does ! Where are the people IRL that talk about this kind of stuff ? I think about this shit all the time and if I say it out loud most people think I’m just mad and due to my extreme adhd it’s just me and my racing thoughts “overthinking” or “ thinking to much “ !! Madness ! Love her for broadcasting this topic and several others makes me feel less alone
madeline i keep relating to u it’s scary 😭 i got betrayed really deeply and my first instinct was to tell them i forgive them
THEY DIDNT EVEN APOLOGIZE CORRECTLY
i just removed myself from the equation and kept it pushing
sometimes i feel i need to learn how to hold a grudge
queen so active yayyyy
my lifes perfect and i rly enjoy being just by myself, makes me the happiest i can be and everyone in my life would just be an downgrade
As humans, we do feel the need to understand why things happened and find reasons for things people do because the brain needs to know that life isn’t random otherwise we’d continue the human race so depending on the degree of things you forgive people on, that shows how well you’ve understood yourself and how empathetic you are to that situation or to that person. It shows more about you and forgiveness is largely for the person to whom things have been done rather than the one who does them. This reminds me of a sentence I read which said that if you knew everyone, deep down to their core and everything they went through, you’d love everyone on earth and there are exceptions of course, but on some plane, empathy is linked to forgiveness.
It is also why when someone runs their cart over our shoes and says sorry, we can accept it because there’s logically no reason behind what they did and there’s no anger there. You can’t forgive someone if you don’t know them and you can only know them if you can forgive them.
I feel like your a overthinker
@@Mimiitty-h4l I just engage in directed thinking!
super interesting take i feel that way too
Hey girl, I understand what you're feeling. Funny enough it happened when I also was around 25 and I'm 28 now. I thought I was never going to be good because I had so many thoughts constantly that it was never "silent" and I cried all the time because I was scared it would never change. But what I did was I actually cried as soon as my body wanted to and as much as I could, but something that really helped was to just lay up completely still with my body and just relax all my muscles (my nerves started twitching because my nervous system was calming down), and I watched long youtube videos that made me feel safe. Watching tiktok or reels was really bad for my brain and emotions (idk if you watch a lot) but cutting down on that and practicing silence really helped. Anyways, you're never crazy because around that age it's common to have a lot of emotional stress and anger lmao. But after it will get better. I think that's why people say 30's are better. Just breath deep breaths and stretch, wish you the best ♡
You’re mum sounds amazing I came to the same conclusions about life experiences and existence and soulmates
As a mother I laughed at the kids part. Yes my son never washes his hands gross stuff, I’m constantly sending him back and he gets travel sick too 😅 cross contamination freak me out too especially siting on public transport seats. I can’t wait to drive 😅
I can relate to what you say and share some similar philosophies and beliefs on life as you and I would agree with what you say but also allow yourself to process those emotions and then go to nature and ground yourself
jesus that forgiveness question just took me out bc i thought at first u meant full understanding of the situation and then u clarified ha
i think if you know why they did what they did then you inherently know who they are to their core. it’s not about knowing but rather accepting that who they are is not who you thought they were. and it’s really fucking painful
like childhood innocence i think as you get older you lose the ability to completely believe you know someone. you have a sense now that people are not as they seem it’s kind of a dangerous lesson that we learn but. you can’t really do much abt it can u
i had a really bad friendship breakup when i was younger and it kills me like genuinely kills me thinking abt it and i only ever was able to move past it after i accepted that they just were not the right person. now i brush all my bad encounters with people to the side bc i believe that the right person won’t do something like that to me. it’s made me kind of a recluse so idk how well it’s working for me oh well!!!
Wait you’re so smart you spoke to my heart rn, this forgiveness outlook go crazy sis
We Have Several Things In Common, For Starters Budget & Eco Friendly Flights And/Or Airlines Make Me Nervous. Also, Last Time I Flew To A Resort, I Woke Up The Next Morning With The Flu. Ever Since Then, I Travel With Tamiflu, But I Only Take It If The Symptoms Are Unbearable & It Lingers Around For Longer Than A Day Or Two? I Wish You The Best, When It Comes To Your Mental Health, Because You Deserve To Be Happy & Stress Free...
this is how my brain functions suddenly I don't feel crazy
me too …)
40:20 there are collagen capsules. i don't like the powder either, so I take capsules. (I just do two of the Vital Proteins Collagen Peptides Capsules a day.)
also, my view on the not getting angered as easily is that we are actually just growing up. I feel like when people treat me bad throughout normal day activities (e.g. talk to me like I am less then, have an attitude, question my way of life), I just sorta brush it off (even if it has been a consistent thing from a family member over multiple years of my life). I don't think that is supressing the emotions, I sorta just don't care enough at this point in my life. Maybe they are having a bad day or maybe they just think/live differently than I do, so that's not really an issue. I imagine you are talking about issues where people wronged you in much more significant ways though, so I'm not sure if it is the same. I'm also 21 though, so I might be totally wrong.
omg ur glowing today 🥹🫶🏼
the first 10 minutes is the most relatable shit ever. i canceled my plane to Milan because I was convinced someone was gonna throw up and I couldn't escape.... so real queen
the way i RELATEE sooo much to the forgiveness part. Years can pass by and i still can continue being annoyed about a person that did me wrong. Honestly it annoys myself atp, like why does that person still irritate me?? I’m so glad to hear that someone also relates :)))!!
Babe been feeling the same bout being sexually abused and a past friendship sorry if this is a trigger for anyone….to me it’s sounds like you are ona spiritual journey of growth and expansion..Sending love, light and hugs..hope you find the strength every step of the way babe❤❤❤❤ I might start might medication again…thanks for the motivation to do better😝
Every passing second of the video i feel like I m listening to myself rn. lol if you crazy so am I you not alone..not like that’s better lol. I m loving this. Feeling normal. Thanks 😝🤣
I don't want to talk nonsense but my life is really divided into the part where I don't know Madeleine and the part where I doThis girl is everything I really love him from the bottom of my heart and I see that he has become a dream for me and I want to make this dream come true.
Madeleine please motivate me to study better and see you in London soon i love you girl :)
i desperately need to know where this cozy jacket is from!!
i like posessed aggresive and being absolut kind hearted and boundaries, if broken mean instant breakup forever
normally i dont put too much attention to strangers but i feel like we match a little to good for me being happy to just ignore it so i just do my job
needed this so bad omg
LOVE YOU MADELINE U MAKE MY DAY
I don't think we have to offer forgiveness for all wrongs. Sometimes we just need to forgive ourselves and move on. You don't have to forgive people for hurting you. Especially if they haven't done anything to earn forgiveness. (Apology, explanation, actions to do better.)
Such a good episode. The whole time explaining your health anxiety and ocd and then going into your existentialism and racing thoughts to then end that segment saying “one thing about me is I am not a worrier” is SO REAL hahaha.
maybe it's just bc i have OCD as well, but the forgiveness/spiritual spiel was spot on
It’s not good for health I hop you get well soon
and im rly selfless so i just like getting told what to do and if the partners happy im happy
Forgiveness is a conscious choice we make in response to a perceived wrong committed against us by another party. The other party doesn’t need to be aware of your forgiving them, although they may be. The other party needn’t be remorseful or apologetic in order to receive the GRACE of your forgiveness, although they may also be. The purpose of the forgiving is to help foster your peace of mind and heart so you can begin to move forward but the forgiveness must be genuine and heartfelt and not just unconscious rote procedure.
BUT don’t confuse forgiveness with ABSOLUTION, which requires sincere remorse, regret, restitution and a change of way from the offending party, which they may never do. We should often forgive but must be more judicious in granting the expungement of the wrong through absolution.
心の綺麗さが外面にも表れてます
Understanding how to forgive is when you understand how God forgives us. Some of these questions won’t be able to be answered merely by our own human thinking because it’s so limited.
Love the podcast. -love Roper
Anger is a double edged sword and hurts both yourself and the other. so forgive for the sake of feeling better yourself for letting go is always the goal….. and can’t control anything in this world beside your own reactions. Can’t control people either, only can guide them. So forgiveness can be universal for self love, you love yourself enough to let go… for everything you need is within you as well. What you’re seeking is truly within. OPPPSSSS but “love thy crooked neighbor with thy crooked heart” “kill em with kindness”….
All negative feelings are rooted out of fear. The fear of loosing worthiness created jealousy. Fear of losing honor created anger, fear of losing security created anxiety.
Fear will always loose in the face of love!!! For fear is but a shadow of the light. Light is love and is eternal. Hehehe
i feel you on “what the fuck in in your soul for you to do this to me” i also think this way as a form of comfort when knowing that im not the reason their acting like this( everything that’s happened to them is making them do certain things)
the title is me questioning my sanity every five seconds fr
I think forgiveness is something u do to stop a situation from affecting u it doesn't necessarily mean u understand or justify the other persons actions or forgetting about it but that could happen it just depends on the situation
just as i needed an ep 🤝
55 mins?? Let's gooo
At 3:16, you said "incubuses." lol, I think you meant "incubators." Incubuses, or really incubi are the male counterpart to succubi.
Forgiveness is a fantastic quality! :)
You know it’s bad when everything Madeline experiences by her new medication is how you usually feel on a day to day hahah whoopsi.. The racing thoughts, the anxiety thought loops before anything even starts or happens, the unfocused energy and the feeling that you need to do something but don’t really know what or where to start etc etc. And the fact that she directly wants to go off of it shows me how bad it actually is hahaaha. Who pays for getting me a diagnosis pleaseee because I can’t handle my life at all right now because I am crazy internally unstructured and sooo paralyzed by it. And yes better get off of that medication fast because I wouldn’t wish this internal confusion and stress on anyone! Or maybe on some people but not on you! 🧡
I’ve been thinking about forgiveness a lot too was just talking about it today. I feel like even when I have understanding for why people do what they do I still have a hard time forgiving them because even if they’ve been through a lot they still made a series of choices that brought them there so it’s not justifiable. Usually they justify it on their own anyway so I don’t need to do it for them😂 idk it’s hard for me to forgive and let go of things especially that happened to me when I was a child. I can always convince myself I forgave someone knowing it’s only hurting me and they’re just a human, but then I’ll get triggered and realize am still far from over it. I don’t have any answers for how to forgive yet. I really want to figure that one out though.
I think forgiveness on any level IS as you so eloquently put it a form of ‘self harm’ that is ironically required for full healing. …and your emotions and hippocampus all seem pretty healthy for your age! Your twenties are the most vulnerable time in your life. No one tells you that till you combust. Forget infancy!!! Xxxx
Madz you have shared so much here it's hard to comment on any one part of it. Professional counseling or therapy can really help you. If you move to LA, I'm just feeling that a California therapist (a woman) would be better for you than someone in the UK. It's just a feeling. What I see is a beautiful French-lineage woman who is looking for an identity. Forget the baby in the forest. You can learn so much about yourself by looking at your family history. I get the sense that you're looking for an identity -- not an online identity but a *real* one. That's not a negative thing. We are all on that journey. Forgiveness? You can never understand anyone, not really. Trying to do so is a form of control. You can know a person, but you can never know them fully. We're all different. So for the abuses, unless it's something like your teacher in grade school, and let me just say that you could sue the hell out of that school and because you were a minor, your teacher, no matter what she says, can do nothing because she and the school are supposed to be looking after your best interests, which means you could sue the school and win -- but to the point, in most matters all you can do is let it go. Forgiveness comes from the heart and is always there, and all you have to do is extend it. To yourself and others. Then let go. Take care.
You might have to forgive your younger self for putting you in that situation. With trauma we often hold a grudge against our younger self for not rescuing “us” and that anger will be projected on the person wo did the “hurting”.
madz I never know when to expect an upload anymore
Hi
I was at corfu, and the prices for the flights there were ridiculously expensive compared to the hotel cost
36:50 I'm weak 🤣🤣🤣😅🥰🫶🫶🫶🫶❤️
The "you were destined to suffer" is an inherently christian teaching, used to dismiss disabilities. Its foundational in most christian denominations, its also biblical canon.
Not just understanding other people to the core, Accepting the fact that you’re actually hurt or etc etc cause you have a core that must be understood as well .. dk if it makes sense
I have the same issues with therapy. I just want a gen Z therapist…but I think I have to wait a couple years before the older Gen Z therapists finish school 😍
Madeline’s Mum’s spiritual beliefs! Yes! Look up Dolores Canon 💫
You seem authentic and honest, If you were doing it any other way people would relate to that version of you right. Would you want that? (Love your earrings btw)
I can’t quiet my mind either. Just started taking ashwagandha, it helps!
this is the world wide internet for everyone to see on an platform mainly used by children, thats the reason
Girl u re glowing. Cutting out that extra trash weight rly did u good ❤😂
i have never related to a video SO MUCH. Like damn.
Btw you look beautifull and you can be angry and forgive someone at the sametime. You can also understand and be angry at the same time. Our brain can make things so difficult.
Girl u got me cryin at 8:30 am 😒🤣🩷
22:44 if anyone else wants to read more about this, there is a great book called "Your Soul's Plan" by Robert Schwartz.
I feel for you talking about people looking at your mom in public. It’s so rude
you’re literally perfect
Anger is a punishment for yourself. Forgiveness is a gift to you not the other person.