With regards to the first question, the lady needs to sit the guy down and ask him what's up with their relationship, there's nothing like "don't put him under pressure" here like you guys were saying, just giving excuses for the guy. It's obvious he's not serious with the relationship, if not he would've been familiarizing with the lady's family by now, not necessarily getting married immediately. From what she said, he has a stable life going (a means of livelihood, and could even afford to buy a house), so what's stopping him planning to settle down, at least start getting close to the lady's family. They are adults and she's a lady. Know that it's a bit cool for a guy in his 30s or 40s to start a family than a lady to start nursing a baby and joggling with a career too in that age. If it was a case of them not having a viable source of income, we can understand. Take note; I am not saying they should be married already, but there isn't no commitment to a future between them from the guy.
I just listened to this episode on spotify today, and i ran over here to drop my two cents on this particular dilemma cos i was pissed off. Glad to know someone shares the same sentiment as me.
Yay! First time commenting and viewing. Always listening either driving/exercising/working, so this is refreshing, to sit and watch. First, I concur. How involved are you in your local community/government?! I’m slowly getting involved and trust, your voice is more powerful in your local community. Second, sis, put pause to that relationship. If his reasoning are not within grasps as to him not meeting your parents, you need to have that hard conversation and if he is not ready to “meet the parents” because to you that means another step in the relationship, then put a pause until there is clarity. I agree with Michael. Control that narrative early on with your parents about who you are talking with. If it doesn’t work out, I let them know and why. They now say okay.NOW, They trust me enough to know that I won’t make a flimsy decision or statement in a relationship. That’s how one talking stage told me, was engaged for 4 years, dated for 7 years. Now he japa-ed and his statement was “I didn’t want her to come her with me.” Bro, why didn’t you end the relationship since? Oh, I wasn’t ready to do so. Ahhhhh abeg. See, speak up early on and if conversations are not within a common and compromising ground, hit a hard pause on it and restrategize.
Iron sharpens iron, sometimes it's good to reframe the emotion of jealousy as motivation rather than a bad mind
Well said
Great episode. That focus isn't easy. However, many people who have built a successful business or career were focused on it for an extended period.
Well said
With regards to the first question, the lady needs to sit the guy down and ask him what's up with their relationship, there's nothing like "don't put him under pressure" here like you guys were saying, just giving excuses for the guy. It's obvious he's not serious with the relationship, if not he would've been familiarizing with the lady's family by now, not necessarily getting married immediately. From what she said, he has a stable life going (a means of livelihood, and could even afford to buy a house), so what's stopping him planning to settle down, at least start getting close to the lady's family.
They are adults and she's a lady. Know that it's a bit cool for a guy in his 30s or 40s to start a family than a lady to start nursing a baby and joggling with a career too in that age.
If it was a case of them not having a viable source of income, we can understand. Take note; I am not saying they should be married already, but there isn't no commitment to a future between them from the guy.
Great perspective. Thank you for sharing.
I just listened to this episode on spotify today, and i ran over here to drop my two cents on this particular dilemma cos i was pissed off. Glad to know someone shares the same sentiment as me.
Yay! First time commenting and viewing. Always listening either driving/exercising/working, so this is refreshing, to sit and watch.
First, I concur. How involved are you in your local community/government?! I’m slowly getting involved and trust, your voice is more powerful in your local community.
Second, sis, put pause to that relationship. If his reasoning are not within grasps as to him not meeting your parents, you need to have that hard conversation and if he is not ready to “meet the parents” because to you that means another step in the relationship, then put a pause until there is clarity. I agree with Michael. Control that narrative early on with your parents about who you are talking with. If it doesn’t work out, I let them know and why. They now say okay.NOW, They trust me enough to know that I won’t make a flimsy decision or statement in a relationship.
That’s how one talking stage told me, was engaged for 4 years, dated for 7 years. Now he japa-ed and his statement was “I didn’t want her to come her with me.” Bro, why didn’t you end the relationship since? Oh, I wasn’t ready to do so. Ahhhhh abeg. See, speak up early on and if conversations are not within a common and compromising ground, hit a hard pause on it and restrategize.
This is so spot on! Thanks for watching.
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😂 Short and simple
Great discussion
Appreciate it
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Thank you