Definitely the rushing, but also I interpreted it as just a lack of presence, which I definitely had with my kids quite a bit. Which was mostly due to depression. I wonder if you have anything to say to how that effects things?
Multitasking, Social Media ,Hurry Mode... Totally overwhelmed by not getting things done by wasting time on YT , looking for that "magic formula "to cure my stress
Hurrying! Especially with young kids. I love going at their speed. You see a lot of bugs that way. And multitasking will really drive you crazy. Especially if combined with social media. Or any 10 things you're doing on the computer. It becomes a challenge to see how many things you can do at the same time. Till your brain starts wanting quiet. Oh, and I gave up yoga 10 years ago, because everybody started doing vinyassa, flow or whatever. The tradition of holding yourself in a pose wasn't done anymore. For what reason? Fitness by moving? The other day I started again. I see many teachers are going back to slow, static, hatha yoga. So maybe the whole rushing thing is over. Mindfulness is back. Thanks for your video.
As someone much older than you, girl, this is such an important message. In my 30s with young kids, did all the toxic stuff and called it productivity. My kids are now in their late teens and I regret my 30s completely because I was so busy being “super mom”…I don’t remember that decade at all. Moms, nothing is more important than being fully present for our kids. It was until my kids provided me with “feedback” that was pretty hard to hear. This is such great advice, thank you. ❤
Got off social media a couple months ago. Deleted my accounts so I couldn’t go back. I was diagnosed with ADHD last year and my focus has improved so much after giving up social media. The longer I’m away from it, the weirder it seems to share so much of our lives online. It’s enriched my friendships and I haven’t found a negative.
@@parisgirl3090 It's inspired my mom too. She hasn't completely eliminated it, but it's made her reevaluate how much time she spends on it. I hope you find what works best for you!
Decluttering has been crucial for me. I used to fill every nook and cranny of our home with decor because I thought that was what I was supposed to do. Now that I have decluttered, I appreciate the empty spaces and it has given me room to breathe. Plus, cleaning is a lot easier when you have less to manage. I would love to see a video on your 10 item wardrobe.
Wow! When you said, “I don’t think that we were created to have access to all of this information all at once” it immediately made me think of the garden of Eden. Which tree were they not supposed to eat of? The knowledge of good and evil 🤯 that’s social media (the internet/technology in general)! And what was one of trees they could freely eat of? The tree of life! I can’t wait to get back to the garden (slow living) and start being present with God and my family and friends and just being in the moment! 🙌🙏💜
If you look at Apples logo, one day it hit me they have a fruit with a bite. Perhaps they have another reason, but looking at my apple it hit me that deep down man knew that pioneering to increase in knowledge at rapid speed was going to lead to some issues but yet they did it anyway. Being present is now pioneering in this culture of speed.
Yes! I just went camping with the family and I left my phone in the RV. Laid down in the hammock and sat there. I looked at the pinecones on the tree. I listened to the birds. It was so peaceful!
This is ME right NOW 😞.. thought it was JUST me… I feel like the years are flying by… it’s NOT.. it’s ME rushing to get towards my goals, then I’m out here looking for the next goal! But I’m working on slowing down and enjoying each day 🌺
You hit the social media thing right on the mark. In Johann Hari's Stolen Focus, he researches when our attention span started decreasing and found that it wasn't when phones came around, but when information started becoming so wide spread, not even computers, like newspaper, cars that gave you faster access to books, libraries etc. Even the invention and use of the lightbulb that allowed us to consume information through all hours of the night allowed us to consume information without processing it. It's not specifically technology or its contents that harms us (although it is that in part), it's the amount of information we're consuming.
TBH I watch these kinds of video's a lot, but I never really pick up on somthing useful. However, when you started talking about the multi tasking being related to stresslevel, it really was like an eureka moment. I really do try to multi task in order to save time, and then enter a slump of not doing anything to decompres because my stresslevel is so high, eventually losing more time overal. Thank you so much for your tip!
Yep! Not rushing around allowed me to be present. I didn’t even realize I wasn’t present until I would have to keep rechecking things (did I lock the door, did I turn off the lights, etc). In the past, rushing around/packing my days/multitasking is what made me have to temporarily stop running my business. I also learned that rushing was a form of avoiding/running away from some internal feelings. Great video, thank you! ❤
The quote "Is you home a source of stress of a source of peace" really resonated with me. Also quitting multitasking is so healthy! As an older woman trying to recuperate from an overwhelming amount of caregiving stress and grief, these tips are VERY applicable at my stage of life too! THANKS!
That really resonated with me too. I was able to finally escape a 9-year abusive relationship a little over a year ago. Even at about year 5 of that relationship I understood that my home (which I shared with the abuser) was my major source of stress. We ended up moving to a new home in a new area a little before we finally separated, and despite being in better circumstances and a nicer home, we had just brought all of that stress with us so that even the new home couldn't be as much of a source of peace as I'd hoped. I'd have panic attacks at the thought of going home to the point that I'd find myself finding reasons to stay gone from the house all day, sometimes even opting to sleep in my SUV in the driveway rather than go inside. I have since moved to a new home in a completely different area, thrown out anything that the abuser and I shared in previous houses, decluttered, painted, and restructured my days to make more time for slow living and self-care. And I can see that it's slowly working, because I no longer feel the need to stay gone all day. I'm no longer afraid of what I'll have to face once I enter my house. I look forward to sleeping in my bed and waking up and doing things at my own pace. It's such a nice feeling to finally have a home that feels like a source of peace rather than stress. I had almost forgotten what that felt like...
@@InaStanley83 Kudos for taking the brave step of moving on from an abusive relationship and finding a home that supports you. As a therapist, I spent a part of my career working with women who were in or were leaving abusive relationships and I honour your bravery!! Hope you can continue to take care of you while your nervous system re-regulates. Be gentle with yourself as it does take some time to get off the adrenaline roller coaster. This is normal.
@@mindbodyhome102 thank you. I'm enjoying finally being able to take things one day at a time. It's such a nice feeling to have the capacity to be spontaneous sometimes, but it's just as nice to decide to take an entire day to just relax, rest, and nourish myself well. I think so many of us take that kind of everyday freedom for granted. It's so underrated but so necessary!
Social media, mindlessly scrolling, spending too much time on the phone (really wasting valuable time!) is my biggest problem right now. I know it has to change, and I will work out a good effective way to change it. Keeping my habits won't be good for my (physical and mental) health. I want to be a good role model and the best support I can be for my teenage daughter. If you can do it, I can also change! Thanks for inspiring me!
I noticed that the art piece behind you depicts turbulence and stress. The art we observe in our home often reflects how we feel subconsciously; but we can also consciously choose the emotion that our art depicts with the intention of it impacting our emotional state. Great video!
OMG I need all of these… also along the lines of multitasking, I stopped having constantly my headphones in with media. Now I just embrace the sounds of daily life and my own thoughts. Game CHANGER
The hurry culture. The programmed glorification with doing and busyness (busi-ness). Survival mode rushing and avoidance of internal feelings. Currently off all social media. Do have to watch addictions on RUclips. A useful tool in moderation. The Social Dilemma documentary I watched recently was quite telling. Grateful your channel popped up in my feed. Much love and blessings from Toronto, Canada.
Couldn’t agree more! I am the same, gave up all the social media but still a RUclips addict. I think of it as harm reduction 😉. Giving up instagram, Facebook and TikTok was the most liberating moment of my adult life, and hey Toronto! From Victoria BC 😊
“Finding pleasure & awe in the everyday” YES. Jesus - I’ve come to give you life and life more abundantly! When I allow myself to find that wonder of the blessings he’s given, that’s when I notice abundance! This was such a timely reminder of that!
The way you talked about decluttering and going through your things, the emotional attachments and how getting rid of them was like getting rid of old hurts, old traumas... That hit hard. Also, I know my social media habits are out of control.
I've been in survival mode for many years but lately I have noticed that when it comes to a meal I eat soooo fast like in 5 min as if I was timed and never did that before.. As for as social media deleting all that was the best thing for my anxiety.
Ugh! You hit all the points for me! Just today I was short tempered with my kids at the end of the day because all throughout the day I was doing this doing that and it all became too much. Then your hurry point blew my mind a bit because I noticed that in myself; I like to hurry even when we had nothing to do, “ok we need to get going” to get to what? I rush for no reason at all! Love you video!
I am 54, lost my husband 5 months ago, he was my main companionship, my friend and the dad of my 11 year old son. My life was guided by not having any "pending" in life, waiting for everything to be perfect, then I could rest and be "happy". Not anymore, I am learning to relax and let it be for what it is. I am taking care and tending for everything that need my attention but also telling myself that nothing is that urgent. Take care everyone and stay present. Good video!
Ladybugs all dressed in red, Slowly strolling through the flower beds. How brave a ladybug must be! Each drop of rain is big as she. Tiny bug big Beauty knows how stop & smell the roses & just take it in🐞 ❤ 💪🏽 Thanks for the wake up call! It worked & im going to continue to declutter & slow down & not keep up with the Jones, I dont want to race in everything I do. I thought racing gives you a 2nd & 3rd winds & then you get the runners high... but i didnt realize i was putting myself in survival modes. Im going to be more aware of staying present.
I used to use my profession (nursing) as the reason I was always multitasking/in a hurry. Then I left patient care and realized it was actually just my default setting. Fast forward a few years and I am a work-in-progress, but multitasking is still so tempting to me. God bless you and the work you are doing with your channel!
Not me reaching the part about under eating, realizing that I haven’t eaten enough today, getting up and going to the kitchen, and then starting to multi task by still watching this video and making food 🤣
Even though I am not a mother, I could relate to these feelings after finally quitting my toxic work environment. Focusing on myself and being mindful in the moment was so lost, always at a rush for no things. I finally feel better and I feel like I can get my life together.
I love the idea of being more intentional and I truly believe that clutter raises cortisol, at least it does for me. I also used to strive for productivity by being a multi tasker, only to realize that it feels so much better to do one thing at a time. There are also studies that REAL multi tasking is impossible, humans are unable to do more than one thing at a time actively, fully. e.g. typing and listening to someone: one of the two tasks suffers in quality when compared to doing those two tasks one after another. So while I was sure to be so much more efficient trying to do more than one thing at the same time, I was doing them with less quality and of course not at all mindfully, just speeding through the process. Needless to say I am now in burnout and depression and slowly recovering. Now I am so much more intentional with what I spend my time on and how I do things. It feels so much better.
Fantastic video. I burnt myself out this way and got really sick for over a year. I worry for people who say they’re fine with this sort of hurried/over stimulated lifestyle because I thought I was too! It’s never worth burning ourselves out! I’m on the path to healing now. I still have to regularly remind myself to slow down
This is excellent and very helpful, thank you! Hurrying definitely makes me anxious so I plan the night before so the next day isn’t so bad. And nourishing our bodies is SO important. How we look should be the least important thing about us. Our health and mental wellbeing, and spiritual health are so much more valuable and lasting. ❤
I learned the value of focus years ago. It's so true. It helps me be peaceful. For a long time I had a sign on the inside of my door (I would see before leaving) "Think before acquiring". It helped.
I am 53, and have just implemented/began implementing all of these strategies into my life within the past three years. You are very wise to figure this out at a young age. Social media was the last one I implemented last month. I deleted FB (the only social media I had and used since 2009), and choose to get on FB, on my desktop computer, which is downstairs in the basement/family room. And like you, that’s not often. I am so much more at peace now. God is the only one able to handle knowing everything (omniscient) about everyone, at every time of the day and night, and be present (omnipresent) everywhere around the world. We are not created for that kind of pressure. I hope you reach many young ladies with this video. ❤️
I think when we really stop and listen to our bodies, we naturally want to stop all these things that we were meant to do At least that's how it was for me. I don't think it's a coincidence that so many people seem to be quitting all the same toxic habits Loved this video ❤
Thank you for saying your brain was "staticy". I have felt in the past year my brain was itchy and people didn't understand what I meant so I appreciated hearing that you experienced it too.
I really appreciate you talking about equating a sense of self worth and value to productivity. I have been doing this my entire life, something I learned in my childhood and have lived my life by without even realizing it until recently when I had a mental health collapse (I basically hit a wall after finishing an intensive college program while also caring for my elderly Mom with complex health issues). I'm 49 years old and am working to unlearn this conditioning; it's been very challenging but it's worth it. Thank you also for sharing about leaving social media-I stepped away from it over a year ago and feel freed up to have deeper connections with a handful of people in my life, and, I no longer walk around in my day to day life with "Instagram eyes" where everywhere I go I think/blink in photos and moments to perfect and share through the lens of my phone camera! Thanks again for the great content, happy to subscribe!
All of this was so good. For so long, I operated with my nervous system in a complete frenzy. I’m guilty of all 5 with social media being the least, or rather the one I caught the earliest. I definitely still have random moments when I pop on and ingest entirely too much and then toss my phone with my mind feeling weighty from both helpful and totally unnecessary information. I have been avoiding the voice screaming at me to declutter my closet and drawers for some time now 😭 today was supposed to be the day buuut there’s no day like tomorrow 😂! I’ve learned that real change is multifaceted and requires making the daily choice of improvement. Thanks for the tips!
just found your channel and thought 'I bet she loves 'The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry'!' SUCH a good book (and I'm a Buddhist). Really glad to have found your channel
I love your videos! I read the ruthless elimination of hurry last summer and it changed my life! I was totally addicted to cortisol. I'm still learning, tip one is fantastic! I'm looking forward to trying that one. I so resonate with your videos. I'm a momma of 7 and going through perimenopause. It's awesome you are so young and have already learned this!! What a blessing ❤️
omg i did all you did... just graduated college; half a year early, and i walk fast, drive fast, listen to podcasts on 1.25 speed. thanks for the video! will read the book you mentioned!!
Can relate to every single habits. The most I dish them out of my life the better I feel. I remember while in Paris noticing how people would savour the moment and do one thing at a time, when I got back to the states I committed myself to let of of multi tasking and girl SAME, I became even MORE productive!!!!
Hurry culture is so real and so not for me. I will always remember my ex husband would rush for everything mostly for work and it bothered me so much. I’m very slow maybe for medical reasons I’ve always been low in iron but I just like to take my time even though I work 9-5 I still don’t rush.
My low iron is what made me rush around sometimes. Because I knew I had finite energy. Lol. I started using iron patches (like how a nicotine patch works but for iron). That helped so much, but I still had to figure out how to pace myself after I had more energy. Haha
I truly believe the Lord put a social media fast on my heart so I’d find your channel. It started two days ago. I was searching RUclips for homeschooling curriculums and your video popped up. Subscribed instantly. You are speaking my LIFE and what I am going through. 😮💨praise Jesus!
This video is fantastic! Clutter resonates most to me. It is most recognizable after losing a loved one. Every possession in sight provokes a thought or feeling in your subconcious that causes ease or discomfort (aka dis-ease, pun intended).
I enjoyed this video so much. I was in therapy for over two years dealing with anxiety and one of the first realizations I gained from therapy was that I was so stressed that I no longer knew what stress felt like. Nothing stressed me out. Until I started having panic attacks and then the thought of having another terrified me. Now, I see such a value in slower living. If I could build a life that would allow for my family to 100% live slowly, I would. Unfortunately, my daughter’s school begins at 7:30 and the morning rush is a real thing. I hate this. Baby steps though. We’ll all get there in the end.
I know I may not be the target audience of the video, I’m not a mom and I don’t have a family, but this video was extremely helpful and you helped me identify the different ways I was doing the toxic habits that’s keeping me in the realm of stress. Thank you for sharing this and I’m grateful it came up in my feed.
So much to chew on here… This very much describes me and has given me a lot to reflect upon. I am a high stressed person and a high achiever and my wife has been that way since I can remember. But it is becoming super taxing on me and I’m realizing that my body doesn’t know how to shut off or go into rest mode because I always have it engaged through social media or work or life and, it’s just not a way to function. So thank you for this very thought-provoking video. I definitely plan on unpacking this a little bit more and possibly sharing about it on my own channel. I love that I found you and I’m playing catch up on your content as we speak…
I’ve been working on healing my absolutely fried nervous system. Learning various somatic exercises etc but I’ve never really thought about the things you said. This is going to be life changing. The thought of not multitasking or rushing? Sounds like freedom right there. Thank you!
One of the best videos out there . This is absolutely helpful. When tou described your state in the beginning it is my current state. I am so amazed that i found this video. I should have found this sooner
So relatable! I’m naturally overachiever too, this has burned me out twice. I have simplified my life a lot since then, but even now still working on this, I remind myself constantly to more gentle with myself, to live slowly and to be more present, etc. I guess it’s an ongoing process. ❤ But it’s very, very freeing and rewarding once we manage to create a slow life. 🥰🙌🏻
Great video! I have already quit most social media (I love Pinterest though!), and it’s incredible the difference it’s made in my life. I no longer feel the need to buy things that I saw on Instagram, I’m not comparing my journey to anyone else’s, and I’m overall happier. I’m going to try the others now too, especially no more multi-tasking. I am really bad at trying to do all the things at the same time.
Wow your words are amazing here! It was like you were speaking directly to me and my life. As a 38-year old mom of 3 young kids, I am just now realizing I have a terrible habit of being addicted to being 'productive', multitasking, busy, hurry culture. Your video here is enlightening and going to be the start of my journey to peace and calmness!! Thank you so much!
You got me with the story of rushing your kid! I have been trying so hard to let me kid be at her own pace but it’s so hard when you are full of stress yourself!
This is exactly me!!! Hormone crash/ overstimulated/ nervous system needed a hard reset and end survival mode after years of putting worth in what I did and being productive. I love your calm approach and helpful tips. Thanks 😊
I also multitask, but I realized that because of my personality and my upbringing I always felt like I had to be doing something because my parent always wanted to see me being productive getting something done. I was not allowed to just exist. I had to be cleaning, organizing or helping with something. I now realize that I can simply do what I need/want. I can do things that I like or do nothing at all without being made to feel lazy or useless, I am an adult now. Although I will say it is hard because I find myself thinking that my husband is going to think that I am lazy or useless if I am doing nothing or if I’m doing something for myself like a hobby. I’m working on fixing this.
Nothing like childhood narratives sneaking up on us haha. My husband and I were actually just talking about how I should make a video on this. The things we carry from childhood and how it affects our home, definitely more common than we think!
I’m so glad your videos came across my feed because I thought I was alone in doing/learning all of this! 😅 Literally all the people (including my friends) are “high-speed” people and when I finally came to a quite literal crashing halt beginning of last year, I started looking around and realizing I don’t want that life. I didn’t exactly know what was right, but I was absolutely drained from always trying to “multi-task” to be more productive, always trying to learn new things, always trying to be busy, always surviving. I literally don’t think I’d live much longer if I kept it up. Anyway, it’s good to know I’m not the only one learning and seeing these things! It sure feels like I’m the only one in my circle. It almost makes me feel lazy or like I’m being looked at as lazy but that’s ok. I definitely don’t want to go back to the always stressed, ready to burst into anger at the slightest inconvenience, falling apart, nerves frazzled, kind of person I was.
It took me a long time to realize that I power walked everwhere 😅 I didnt realize how much energy I was kind of just wasting to save a few minutes. I was too focused on my internal world, and did not take enough time to notice and to appreciate my present, physical world, and I know that I am able to see and process so much more if I just take some time. Thank you for this video
This resonates with me so much! I’ve done it before, healed and then gotten myself back into this position! 🤦🏼♀️ It really creeps up on you. Thank you!
De cluttering is honestly so refreshing idk how but since i still live in my parents house and my room is the room for everyone to just come in and has a lot of storage i de cluttered the whole thing the other day and my mother made me put half of it back in the closet for “what if” “still usable” “money wasted” “energy wasted” man if i had half of that stuff to my name it’d be reused by someone that actually needs it i mean i have emotional attachment with my paints and old paintings but the amount of clothes that we have in the house is unbelievable
Oh my goodness! I am dealing with soooo much of the same issues…high cortisol and major hormonal issues. It is definitely a God thing that I found your account ❤️ I started reading John Mark Comer’s book a few days ago before I found you! Thank you for sharing your journey- I am starting my own journey this week.
FEEL YOU on the rushing and multitasking. I feel like I'm constantly looking for little chores to do while waiting on other things, 'that's how the house stays clean!' But actually it's just making my house stressful because everything is a to-do. The times when I only do one thing at a time are so peaceful, if my social-media stimulated brain can tolerate the boredom of it. These are all things I've heard but you articulated really well!!
WOW, stumbled upon your video at the right time!! I'm a mom to an almost 7 yr/old and I've been doing all of the above for far too long. My body, mind and soul needs this change NOW more than ever. Thank you for sharing this!!
I need to hear this today… So much of my life I’ve pried myself on multitasking, multitasking, multitasking, and loading so much on my plate, but I would burn out. Crash, get up and do it all over again. I am busy helping my fiancé raise his three children 14, 12, and 10. That will also result in a custody battle due to their abusive neglectful narcissistic birthmother. While running a new cleaning 🧽 service business Also, running my little hobby farm, and egg 🥚 business.. it’s a lot, but I have systematically been cutting unnecessary things and people out of my life.. I needed to see this today… Thank you! 🙏🏻 💜💜💜☺️😌
When I say everything was on point!!! I’ve literally been set free from this myself this is so refreshing to watch. God literally has been working with me on this. I feel like our generation is so hyperactive especially us women.
I am a rusher, and it hurt me because I've been in many accidents because of it. I don't need to hurry, but I feel that if I don;t get somewhere on time, I'll freak out. Being anal about things in like an OCD type of way has also got me into trouble. I am working on it, and I thank you for putting it into perspective for me because I always want to be on time or I'll fail. It;s something I'm working on, and I thank you for explaining the things I never knew I needed to hear.
Omg i was looking for this video for so long in my history. My mom just had a stroke and is in need of some stress relief. Your video instantly came to mind. Thanks for sharing!
Where is this wardrobe video?!?! Holy moly. I love this list. Very inspiring. I'm in a SEASON where all these things have all been on my radar but I have not made the move to make the necessary change. What a sign from God. ❤
It's kinda good to see that there are so many people out there who struggle with the same feelings, but on the other hand it's also so alarming 🥲 We all need to be at ease more. And allow ourselves to take our time with things. It's easier said than done. It's so important to cherish your daily life! That makes up most of our days, so it's necessary to feel comfortable being with oneself and to care for one's own good. Very nice vlog, I'd love to see more of the positive selfcare!
Not me listening to this video x1,5, taking notes, while working. All at once 😭 Thank you very much for this video. The "It's me I'm the problem" was like a gentle slap on my face 😅
I completely related to so many points! Except multitasking, I'm more naturally mindful, almost too mindful to where I don't like doing more than one thing at a time even when necessary. But yes. Preach.
For me, the thing about eating properly (which sounds cliche) was very helpful. I eat healthy but I do skip meals A LOT and I never thought about entering into survival mode because of it. It makes so much sense. And I can confirm that it does feel good for a while but afterwards I just crash completely with extreme anxiety and I don't know why. Also the reason why I skip meals is because of anxiety and feeling nervous in the stomach. Wow, I'll definitely put attention to that. Thank you so much ❤
How am I a mum to a 4year old with same ethics as you and am all about securing mental health and living for your higher self AND I'VE JUST DISCOVERED THIS CHANNEL!?!?!?!?!?!?❤
LOVE! Quitting multitasking and clutter has been huge for me. Both are things that can be easily fallen into, but once you stop, it is a total weight lifted off of your shoulders.
Oh you’re so like me! Rare for me to find someone who thinks like me. Just 3 mins in and every word is true! I’m gonna watch the rest and see if we sync any more 😄
Lol, you stopped me in my tracks there as I was sipping my coffee, tidying my desk and listening to you on 1.5 speed. I rush from the moment I wake until I crash at night, exhausted and feeling defeated because I can only think of the list of things that I didn't accomplish. Thanks for this inspiration. I'm going to focus on slowing down, doing one task at a time, cutting down coffee and social media. I'm tired of being tired!
Everything is so true, I’m glad that I found this video. Let’s be focused on one task at a time in peace and life would be 100 times better. Life is simple and pleasant, let’s see that and not complicate it that much. Regarding diet, I lowered the amount of carbs and I feel so much more focused and energised, carbs are causing your blood sugar to be unstable.
not even a minute in and i already relate so much ETA: social media made me feel the same. my brain didnt do well consuming so much information and opinions from every single app
Wow, I feel like you have given words to behaviors I didn’t even have labels for. I resonate so much with your experiences on multitasking and hurrying and you’ve given me hope that I can make room for new patterns in my life. Thank you!
Great insight!!! I must say that this is one of the most easy to grasp videos as far as nervous system regulation is concerned. 👏 All habits that have been discussed to let go have a very sound reasoning as to why they are toxic in the modern day. The creator even suggests doable pragmatic approaches to improve on all fronts. Though I do wonder how much time did it take Jesica to implement all.
I have felt this way too with scrolling, clutter, and multitasking. Thank you for such practical advice that seems like it should be common sense for us all, but we need to be reminded. Greatly helpful video that I’m on the right track! ❤
Great suggestions of habits to change. For me, these habits are or were symptoms of unhealed trauma. Healing old trauma - which is healing the nervous system - leads me to have new better habits more naturally. Both work, working on the root causes and changing the habits/symptoms. Thank you for sharing.
I’m so grateful to have come across this video 🥺 thank you for sharing your beautiful energy to the world and for your vulnerability, it feels good knowing I’m not the only one experiencing this/ being aware of the severity of staying in survival mode.
If anyone has any tips for those of us who work in a career that is made up of multitasking/ feeds into survival mode aka bedside nursing, please share!
This literally sounds like ME! I am always in a hurry. When I was listening to this I was brushing my teeth and I noticed I was brushing as fast as I could and so vigorously! LOL I’m a stay at home mom and homeschool my three, and I am always in a constant state of “what can I get done?” And ALWAYS multitasking. And if someone is talking to me it’s “inconvenient”. So terrible! This video was so helpful!! Something else I struggle with is people pleasing 😅❤
These are great tips. I’ve been doing all of these things for a few years now, always a work in progress and balancing act. I focus on what is overstimulating (how environment, food or lack of, my thoughts, feelings create overwhelm and becoming aware)
Restricting access to social media websites in my settings helps (I don’t have any social media apps on my phone). Social media feeds my need to compare, fix, do more, plan, overstimulation of information, thoughts and negative feelings
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Do any of these 5 resonate with you more than the others? I'd love to know!
Definitely the rushing, but also I interpreted it as just a lack of presence, which I definitely had with my kids quite a bit. Which was mostly due to depression. I wonder if you have anything to say to how that effects things?
Definitely for me!
Multitasking, Social Media ,Hurry Mode...
Totally overwhelmed by not getting things done by wasting time on YT , looking for that "magic formula "to cure my stress
Hurrying! Especially with young kids. I love going at their speed. You see a lot of bugs that way. And multitasking will really drive you crazy. Especially if combined with social media. Or any 10 things you're doing on the computer. It becomes a challenge to see how many things you can do at the same time. Till your brain starts wanting quiet. Oh, and I gave up yoga 10 years ago, because everybody started doing vinyassa, flow or whatever. The tradition of holding yourself in a pose wasn't done anymore. For what reason? Fitness by moving? The other day I started again. I see many teachers are going back to slow, static, hatha yoga. So maybe the whole rushing thing is over. Mindfulness is back. Thanks for your video.
As someone much older than you, girl, this is such an important message. In my 30s with young kids, did all the toxic stuff and called it productivity. My kids are now in their late teens and I regret my 30s completely because I was so busy being “super mom”…I don’t remember that decade at all. Moms, nothing is more important than being fully present for our kids. It was until my kids provided me with “feedback” that was pretty hard to hear. This is such great advice, thank you. ❤
Not multi-tasking is my new favorite. Doing one thing at a time is calming. And I feel like I get more done.
agreed!
I have to multitask at my job. I try not to in my personal life. It is exhausting
Congrats! But how do you do it? Every time I try I feel the urge to do something else ahahah, any tips?
1.multitasking
2.being in a hurry
3. Social media
4.being a clutter queen
And undereating! (2)
So glad to see this. I couldn't hear her. The volume is way too low.
@@user-ry1vi1jc7o my pleasure 🌸💕
@@user-ry1vi1jc7ouse the volume button
@@user-ry1vi1jc7o you can try using the closed captions
Got off social media a couple months ago. Deleted my accounts so I couldn’t go back. I was diagnosed with ADHD last year and my focus has improved so much after giving up social media.
The longer I’m away from it, the weirder it seems to share so much of our lives online. It’s enriched my friendships and I haven’t found a negative.
Braavooo how strong you are to take this hard step!!!
@@carriefinn3401 Absolutely agree!
@@carriefinn3401 Absolutely agree!
I need to do this too. My daughter did and it has done wonders for her
@@parisgirl3090 It's inspired my mom too. She hasn't completely eliminated it, but it's made her reevaluate how much time she spends on it. I hope you find what works best for you!
Decluttering has been crucial for me. I used to fill every nook and cranny of our home with decor because I thought that was what I was supposed to do. Now that I have decluttered, I appreciate the empty spaces and it has given me room to breathe. Plus, cleaning is a lot easier when you have less to manage.
I would love to see a video on your 10 item wardrobe.
i agree! My wardrobe video is the next to drop:)
@@jessicarothley looking forward to this one!
Wow! When you said, “I don’t think that we were created to have access to all of this information all at once” it immediately made me think of the garden of Eden. Which tree were they not supposed to eat of? The knowledge of good and evil 🤯 that’s social media (the internet/technology in general)! And what was one of trees they could freely eat of? The tree of life! I can’t wait to get back to the garden (slow living) and start being present with God and my family and friends and just being in the moment! 🙌🙏💜
Wowww, that's so profound actually!
If you look at Apples logo, one day it hit me they have a fruit with a bite. Perhaps they have another reason, but looking at my apple it hit me that deep down man knew that pioneering to increase in knowledge at rapid speed was going to lead to some issues but yet they did it anyway. Being present is now pioneering in this culture of speed.
@@hephzibahb.7370 I totally agree!
@@Y2kDiva_333 that’s God 🙌 He revealed it to me 🙏💜
I love this insight...this is bang on!!!
I'd like to ad nature to the list... Nothing so beautiful and calming to my nervous system as being in nature..... ❤
Yes! I just went camping with the family and I left my phone in the RV. Laid down in the hammock and sat there. I looked at the pinecones on the tree. I listened to the birds. It was so peaceful!
This is ME right NOW 😞.. thought it was JUST me… I feel like the years are flying by… it’s NOT.. it’s ME rushing to get towards my goals, then I’m out here looking for the next goal! But I’m working on slowing down and enjoying each day 🌺
Same!!! :(
You hit the social media thing right on the mark. In Johann Hari's Stolen Focus, he researches when our attention span started decreasing and found that it wasn't when phones came around, but when information started becoming so wide spread, not even computers, like newspaper, cars that gave you faster access to books, libraries etc. Even the invention and use of the lightbulb that allowed us to consume information through all hours of the night allowed us to consume information without processing it. It's not specifically technology or its contents that harms us (although it is that in part), it's the amount of information we're consuming.
oof yes. This sounds like a book i"d be into reading!
@@jessicarothley it’s a great book. I’ve literally bought multiple copies to give away to my friends and family so they read it. I highly recommend. 🙂
Such interesting insight. Thank you.
TBH I watch these kinds of video's a lot, but I never really pick up on somthing useful. However, when you started talking about the multi tasking being related to stresslevel, it really was like an eureka moment. I really do try to multi task in order to save time, and then enter a slump of not doing anything to decompres because my stresslevel is so high, eventually losing more time overal. Thank you so much for your tip!
Yep! Not rushing around allowed me to be present. I didn’t even realize I wasn’t present until I would have to keep rechecking things (did I lock the door, did I turn off the lights, etc). In the past, rushing around/packing my days/multitasking is what made me have to temporarily stop running my business. I also learned that rushing was a form of avoiding/running away from some internal feelings. Great video, thank you! ❤
so agree on it being running away from feelings!!
The quote "Is you home a source of stress of a source of peace" really resonated with me. Also quitting multitasking is so healthy! As an older woman trying to recuperate from an overwhelming amount of caregiving stress and grief, these tips are VERY applicable at my stage of life too! THANKS!
so glad they speak to you!
That really resonated with me too. I was able to finally escape a 9-year abusive relationship a little over a year ago. Even at about year 5 of that relationship I understood that my home (which I shared with the abuser) was my major source of stress. We ended up moving to a new home in a new area a little before we finally separated, and despite being in better circumstances and a nicer home, we had just brought all of that stress with us so that even the new home couldn't be as much of a source of peace as I'd hoped. I'd have panic attacks at the thought of going home to the point that I'd find myself finding reasons to stay gone from the house all day, sometimes even opting to sleep in my SUV in the driveway rather than go inside.
I have since moved to a new home in a completely different area, thrown out anything that the abuser and I shared in previous houses, decluttered, painted, and restructured my days to make more time for slow living and self-care. And I can see that it's slowly working, because I no longer feel the need to stay gone all day. I'm no longer afraid of what I'll have to face once I enter my house. I look forward to sleeping in my bed and waking up and doing things at my own pace. It's such a nice feeling to finally have a home that feels like a source of peace rather than stress. I had almost forgotten what that felt like...
@@InaStanley83 Kudos for taking the brave step of moving on from an abusive relationship and finding a home that supports you. As a therapist, I spent a part of my career working with women who were in or were leaving abusive relationships and I honour your bravery!! Hope you can continue to take care of you while your nervous system re-regulates. Be gentle with yourself as it does take some time to get off the adrenaline roller coaster. This is normal.
@@mindbodyhome102 thank you. I'm enjoying finally being able to take things one day at a time. It's such a nice feeling to have the capacity to be spontaneous sometimes, but it's just as nice to decide to take an entire day to just relax, rest, and nourish myself well. I think so many of us take that kind of everyday freedom for granted. It's so underrated but so necessary!
Social media, mindlessly scrolling, spending too much time on the phone (really wasting valuable time!) is my biggest problem right now. I know it has to change, and I will work out a good effective way to change it. Keeping my habits won't be good for my (physical and mental) health. I want to be a good role model and the best support I can be for my teenage daughter. If you can do it, I can also change! Thanks for inspiring me!
I noticed that the art piece behind you depicts turbulence and stress. The art we observe in our home often reflects how we feel subconsciously; but we can also consciously choose the emotion that our art depicts with the intention of it impacting our emotional state. Great video!
this is a great observation and tip!
OMG I need all of these… also along the lines of multitasking, I stopped having constantly my headphones in with media. Now I just embrace the sounds of daily life and my own thoughts. Game CHANGER
The hurry culture. The programmed glorification with doing and busyness (busi-ness). Survival mode rushing and avoidance of internal feelings.
Currently off all social media. Do have to watch addictions on RUclips. A useful tool in moderation. The Social Dilemma documentary I watched recently was quite telling. Grateful your channel popped up in my feed. Much love and blessings from Toronto, Canada.
I have to watch that one! I've heard great things!
Couldn’t agree more! I am the same, gave up all the social media but still a RUclips addict. I think of it as harm reduction 😉. Giving up instagram, Facebook and TikTok was the most liberating moment of my adult life, and hey Toronto! From Victoria BC 😊
“Finding pleasure & awe in the everyday” YES. Jesus - I’ve come to give you life and life more abundantly! When I allow myself to find that wonder of the blessings he’s given, that’s when I notice abundance! This was such a timely reminder of that!
The way you talked about decluttering and going through your things, the emotional attachments and how getting rid of them was like getting rid of old hurts, old traumas... That hit hard. Also, I know my social media habits are out of control.
I've been in survival mode for many years but lately I have noticed that when it comes to a meal I eat soooo fast like in 5 min as if I was timed and never did that before.. As for as social media deleting all that was the best thing for my anxiety.
The fast 💨 eating me too! 😑
same for mine!
Ugh! You hit all the points for me! Just today I was short tempered with my kids at the end of the day because all throughout the day I was doing this doing that and it all became too much. Then your hurry point blew my mind a bit because I noticed that in myself; I like to hurry even when we had nothing to do, “ok we need to get going” to get to what? I rush for no reason at all! Love you video!
I completely agree with the irritation that stems from being in a hurry. I've recognized that in myself lately.
I am 54, lost my husband 5 months ago, he was my main companionship, my friend and the dad of my 11 year old son. My life was guided by not having any "pending" in life, waiting for everything to be perfect, then I could rest and be "happy". Not anymore, I am learning to relax and let it be for what it is. I am taking care and tending for everything that need my attention but also telling myself that nothing is that urgent. Take care everyone and stay present.
Good video!
Prayers for you ❤ I love what you said about relaxing
Not me, listening to this video at 1.5 speed 😂😂😂 called out 😅😅
hahahah omg
😂😂😂😂same ❤❤
Me at 2x lol
I do it all the time 😂
Me too😅
I feel so overwhelmed. I feel so relaxed when I don’t multitask even for a day. 👀
this is so accurate. i felt like i was crazy because nobody seemed to act like i did
Ladybugs all dressed in red, Slowly strolling through the flower beds. How brave a ladybug must be! Each drop of rain is big as she. Tiny bug big Beauty knows how stop & smell the roses & just take it in🐞 ❤ 💪🏽
Thanks for the wake up call! It worked & im going to continue to declutter & slow down & not keep up with the Jones, I dont want to race in everything I do. I thought racing gives you a 2nd & 3rd winds & then you get the runners high... but i didnt realize i was putting myself in survival modes. Im going to be more aware of staying present.
I used to use my profession (nursing) as the reason I was always multitasking/in a hurry. Then I left patient care and realized it was actually just my default setting. Fast forward a few years and I am a work-in-progress, but multitasking is still so tempting to me. God bless you and the work you are doing with your channel!
Not me reaching the part about under eating, realizing that I haven’t eaten enough today, getting up and going to the kitchen, and then starting to multi task by still watching this video and making food 🤣
hahahah. gotta eat though girl!
Like my resume .. on my way out of trauma mode tyGod
Me too, went to get a sandwich to satisfy my pms cravings as soon as I reached that part. I pressed pause first tho 😂😇
Yeah me at 3pm realizing I had a cup of coffee today and a chocolate Costco muffin!! That’s it!! Ughhhhh 😢
Even though I am not a mother, I could relate to these feelings after finally quitting my toxic work environment. Focusing on myself and being mindful in the moment was so lost, always at a rush for no things. I finally feel better and I feel like I can get my life together.
I love the idea of being more intentional and I truly believe that clutter raises cortisol, at least it does for me. I also used to strive for productivity by being a multi tasker, only to realize that it feels so much better to do one thing at a time. There are also studies that REAL multi tasking is impossible, humans are unable to do more than one thing at a time actively, fully. e.g. typing and listening to someone: one of the two tasks suffers in quality when compared to doing those two tasks one after another.
So while I was sure to be so much more efficient trying to do more than one thing at the same time, I was doing them with less quality and of course not at all mindfully, just speeding through the process. Needless to say I am now in burnout and depression and slowly recovering. Now I am so much more intentional with what I spend my time on and how I do things. It feels so much better.
yes to this!
Fantastic video. I burnt myself out this way and got really sick for over a year. I worry for people who say they’re fine with this sort of hurried/over stimulated lifestyle because I thought I was too! It’s never worth burning ourselves out! I’m on the path to healing now. I still have to regularly remind myself to slow down
This is excellent and very helpful, thank you! Hurrying definitely makes me anxious so I plan the night before so the next day isn’t so bad. And nourishing our bodies is SO important. How we look should be the least important thing about us. Our health and mental wellbeing, and spiritual health are so much more valuable and lasting. ❤
I learned the value of focus years ago. It's so true. It helps me be peaceful. For a long time I had a sign on the inside of my door (I would see before leaving) "Think before acquiring". It helped.
I am 53, and have just implemented/began implementing all of these strategies into my life within the past three years. You are very wise to figure this out at a young age. Social media was the last one I implemented last month. I deleted FB (the only social media I had and used since 2009), and choose to get on FB, on my desktop computer, which is downstairs in the basement/family room. And like you, that’s not often. I am so much more at peace now. God is the only one able to handle knowing everything (omniscient) about everyone, at every time of the day and night, and be present (omnipresent) everywhere around the world. We are not created for that kind of pressure. I hope you reach many young ladies with this video. ❤️
could not agree more. thank you!!
I think when we really stop and listen to our bodies, we naturally want to stop all these things that we were meant to do
At least that's how it was for me. I don't think it's a coincidence that so many people seem to be quitting all the same toxic habits
Loved this video ❤
I've been procrastinating declutterong as much as I absolutely know my mental is craving I do so. Perhaps today is the day.❤😂
Thank you for saying your brain was "staticy". I have felt in the past year my brain was itchy and people didn't understand what I meant so I appreciated hearing that you experienced it too.
I really appreciate you talking about equating a sense of self worth and value to productivity. I have been doing this my entire life, something I learned in my childhood and have lived my life by without even realizing it until recently when I had a mental health collapse (I basically hit a wall after finishing an intensive college program while also caring for my elderly Mom with complex health issues). I'm 49 years old and am working to unlearn this conditioning; it's been very challenging but it's worth it. Thank you also for sharing about leaving social media-I stepped away from it over a year ago and feel freed up to have deeper connections with a handful of people in my life, and, I no longer walk around in my day to day life with "Instagram eyes" where everywhere I go I think/blink in photos and moments to perfect and share through the lens of my phone camera! Thanks again for the great content, happy to subscribe!
All of this was so good. For so long, I operated with my nervous system in a complete frenzy. I’m guilty of all 5 with social media being the least, or rather the one I caught the earliest. I definitely still have random moments when I pop on and ingest entirely too much and then toss my phone with my mind feeling weighty from both helpful and totally unnecessary information. I have been avoiding the voice screaming at me to declutter my closet and drawers for some time now 😭 today was supposed to be the day buuut there’s no day like tomorrow 😂! I’ve learned that real change is multifaceted and requires making the daily choice of improvement. Thanks for the tips!
just found your channel and thought 'I bet she loves 'The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry'!' SUCH a good book (and I'm a Buddhist). Really glad to have found your channel
Especially agree with the effects of social media and cluttering! Overwhelming but freeing when you can let go of both!
I love your videos! I read the ruthless elimination of hurry last summer and it changed my life! I was totally addicted to cortisol. I'm still learning, tip one is fantastic! I'm looking forward to trying that one. I so resonate with your videos. I'm a momma of 7 and going through perimenopause. It's awesome you are so young and have already learned this!! What a blessing ❤️
omg i did all you did... just graduated college; half a year early, and i walk fast, drive fast, listen to podcasts on 1.25 speed. thanks for the video! will read the book you mentioned!!
Can relate to every single habits. The most I dish them out of my life the better I feel. I remember while in Paris noticing how people would savour the moment and do one thing at a time, when I got back to the states I committed myself to let of of multi tasking and girl SAME, I became even MORE productive!!!!
Hurry culture is so real and so not for me. I will always remember my ex husband would rush for everything mostly for work and it bothered me so much. I’m very slow maybe for medical reasons I’ve always been low in iron but I just like to take my time even though I work 9-5 I still don’t rush.
My low iron is what made me rush around sometimes. Because I knew I had finite energy. Lol. I started using iron patches (like how a nicotine patch works but for iron). That helped so much, but I still had to figure out how to pace myself after I had more energy. Haha
@@LilAnonymissinteresting! What patch Brad do you use if you don’t mind me asking?
@@Dcaroline99 I like the PatchAid brand. I just get them from Amazon
I truly believe the Lord put a social media fast on my heart so I’d find your channel. It started two days ago. I was searching RUclips for homeschooling curriculums and your video popped up. Subscribed instantly. You are speaking my LIFE and what I am going through. 😮💨praise Jesus!
I'm healing from chronic stress induced chronic illness. I feel this video! Our bodies need to know that it is safe. These are such great tips!
This video is fantastic! Clutter resonates most to me. It is most recognizable after losing a loved one. Every possession in sight provokes a thought or feeling in your subconcious that causes ease or discomfort (aka dis-ease, pun intended).
I enjoyed this video so much. I was in therapy for over two years dealing with anxiety and one of the first realizations I gained from therapy was that I was so stressed that I no longer knew what stress felt like. Nothing stressed me out. Until I started having panic attacks and then the thought of having another terrified me. Now, I see such a value in slower living. If I could build a life that would allow for my family to 100% live slowly, I would. Unfortunately, my daughter’s school begins at 7:30 and the morning rush is a real thing. I hate this. Baby steps though. We’ll all get there in the end.
yes! And i think anyway you can bring presence and slowness throughout the day matters. It doesn't have to be all or nothing!
I know I may not be the target audience of the video, I’m not a mom and I don’t have a family, but this video was extremely helpful and you helped me identify the different ways I was doing the toxic habits that’s keeping me in the realm of stress. Thank you for sharing this and I’m grateful it came up in my feed.
I'm grateful it spoke to you!!
So much to chew on here… This very much describes me and has given me a lot to reflect upon. I am a high stressed person and a high achiever and my wife has been that way since I can remember. But it is becoming super taxing on me and I’m realizing that my body doesn’t know how to shut off or go into rest mode because I always have it engaged through social media or work or life and, it’s just not a way to function. So thank you for this very thought-provoking video. I definitely plan on unpacking this a little bit more and possibly sharing about it on my own channel. I love that I found you and I’m playing catch up on your content as we speak…
I’ve been working on healing my absolutely fried nervous system. Learning various somatic exercises etc but I’ve never really thought about the things you said. This is going to be life changing. The thought of not multitasking or rushing? Sounds like freedom right there. Thank you!
One of the best videos out there . This is absolutely helpful. When tou described your state in the beginning it is my current state. I am so amazed that i found this video. I should have found this sooner
Im so glad you enjoyed it!
So relatable! I’m naturally overachiever too, this has burned me out twice. I have simplified my life a lot since then, but even now still working on this, I remind myself constantly to more gentle with myself, to live slowly and to be more present, etc. I guess it’s an ongoing process. ❤ But it’s very, very freeing and rewarding once we manage to create a slow life. 🥰🙌🏻
very rewarding indeed:)
Great video! I have already quit most social media (I love Pinterest though!), and it’s incredible the difference it’s made in my life. I no longer feel the need to buy things that I saw on Instagram, I’m not comparing my journey to anyone else’s, and I’m overall happier. I’m going to try the others now too, especially no more multi-tasking. I am really bad at trying to do all the things at the same time.
Yes! No social media was life changing for me
Wow your words are amazing here! It was like you were speaking directly to me and my life. As a 38-year old mom of 3 young kids, I am just now realizing I have a terrible habit of being addicted to being 'productive', multitasking, busy, hurry culture. Your video here is enlightening and going to be the start of my journey to peace and calmness!! Thank you so much!
You got me with the story of rushing your kid! I have been trying so hard to let me kid be at her own pace but it’s so hard when you are full of stress yourself!
This is exactly me!!! Hormone crash/ overstimulated/ nervous system needed a hard reset and end survival mode after years of putting worth in what I did and being productive. I love your calm approach and helpful tips. Thanks 😊
I also multitask, but I realized that because of my personality and my upbringing I always felt like I had to be doing something because my parent always wanted to see me being productive getting something done. I was not allowed to just exist. I had to be cleaning, organizing or helping with something. I now realize that I can simply do what I need/want. I can do things that I like or do nothing at all without being made to feel lazy or useless, I am an adult now. Although I will say it is hard because I find myself thinking that my husband is going to think that I am lazy or useless if I am doing nothing or if I’m doing something for myself like a hobby. I’m working on fixing this.
Nothing like childhood narratives sneaking up on us haha. My husband and I were actually just talking about how I should make a video on this. The things we carry from childhood and how it affects our home, definitely more common than we think!
I’m so glad your videos came across my feed because I thought I was alone in doing/learning all of this! 😅 Literally all the people (including my friends) are “high-speed” people and when I finally came to a quite literal crashing halt beginning of last year, I started looking around and realizing I don’t want that life. I didn’t exactly know what was right, but I was absolutely drained from always trying to “multi-task” to be more productive, always trying to learn new things, always trying to be busy, always surviving. I literally don’t think I’d live much longer if I kept it up.
Anyway, it’s good to know I’m not the only one learning and seeing these things! It sure feels like I’m the only one in my circle. It almost makes me feel lazy or like I’m being looked at as lazy but that’s ok. I definitely don’t want to go back to the always stressed, ready to burst into anger at the slightest inconvenience, falling apart, nerves frazzled, kind of person I was.
It took me a long time to realize that I power walked everwhere 😅 I didnt realize how much energy I was kind of just wasting to save a few minutes. I was too focused on my internal world, and did not take enough time to notice and to appreciate my present, physical world, and I know that I am able to see and process so much more if I just take some time. Thank you for this video
This resonates with me so much! I’ve done it before, healed and then gotten myself back into this position! 🤦🏼♀️ It really creeps up on you. Thank you!
De cluttering is honestly so refreshing idk how but since i still live in my parents house and my room is the room for everyone to just come in and has a lot of storage i de cluttered the whole thing the other day and my mother made me put half of it back in the closet for “what if” “still usable” “money wasted” “energy wasted” man if i had half of that stuff to my name it’d be reused by someone that actually needs it i mean i have emotional attachment with my paints and old paintings but the amount of clothes that we have in the house is unbelievable
Oh my goodness! I am dealing with soooo much of the same issues…high cortisol and major hormonal issues. It is definitely a God thing that I found your account ❤️ I started reading John Mark Comer’s book a few days ago before I found you! Thank you for sharing your journey- I am starting my own journey this week.
FEEL YOU on the rushing and multitasking. I feel like I'm constantly looking for little chores to do while waiting on other things, 'that's how the house stays clean!' But actually it's just making my house stressful because everything is a to-do. The times when I only do one thing at a time are so peaceful, if my social-media stimulated brain can tolerate the boredom of it. These are all things I've heard but you articulated really well!!
I'm so grateful it spoke to you!
WOW, stumbled upon your video at the right time!! I'm a mom to an almost 7 yr/old and I've been doing all of the above for far too long. My body, mind and soul needs this change NOW more than ever. Thank you for sharing this!!
I need to hear this today…
So much of my life I’ve pried myself on multitasking, multitasking, multitasking, and loading so much on my plate, but I would burn out. Crash, get up and do it all over again.
I am busy helping my fiancé raise his three children 14, 12, and 10.
That will also result in a custody battle due to their abusive neglectful narcissistic birthmother.
While running a new cleaning 🧽 service business
Also, running my little hobby farm, and egg 🥚 business..
it’s a lot, but I have systematically been cutting unnecessary things and people out of my life..
I needed to see this today…
Thank you! 🙏🏻 💜💜💜☺️😌
so refreshing to see a video like this from a mom, not just a man who doesn't have a care in the world. thank you!
When I say everything was on point!!! I’ve literally been set free from this myself this is so refreshing to watch. God literally has been working with me on this. I feel like our generation is so hyperactive especially us women.
I am a rusher, and it hurt me because I've been in many accidents because of it. I don't need to hurry, but I feel that if I don;t get somewhere on time, I'll freak out. Being anal about things in like an OCD type of way has also got me into trouble. I am working on it, and I thank you for putting it into perspective for me because I always want to be on time or I'll fail. It;s something I'm working on, and I thank you for explaining the things I never knew I needed to hear.
Omg i was looking for this video for so long in my history. My mom just had a stroke and is in need of some stress relief. Your video instantly came to mind. Thanks for sharing!
I discovered your channel 30 minutes ago and I’m obsessed. You are me, right now 😂
Where is this wardrobe video?!?! Holy moly.
I love this list. Very inspiring. I'm in a SEASON where all these things have all been on my radar but I have not made the move to make the necessary change. What a sign from God. ❤
It's kinda good to see that there are so many people out there who struggle with the same feelings, but on the other hand it's also so alarming 🥲 We all need to be at ease more. And allow ourselves to take our time with things. It's easier said than done. It's so important to cherish your daily life! That makes up most of our days, so it's necessary to feel comfortable being with oneself and to care for one's own good. Very nice vlog, I'd love to see more of the positive selfcare!
noted!
this video is sooo valuable ! I started watching it in 1.5 speed and came back to normal hearing about the hurry part...
Not me listening to this video x1,5, taking notes, while working. All at once 😭
Thank you very much for this video. The "It's me I'm the problem" was like a gentle slap on my face 😅
I completely related to so many points! Except multitasking, I'm more naturally mindful, almost too mindful to where I don't like doing more than one thing at a time even when necessary. But yes. Preach.
For me, the thing about eating properly (which sounds cliche) was very helpful. I eat healthy but I do skip meals A LOT and I never thought about entering into survival mode because of it. It makes so much sense. And I can confirm that it does feel good for a while but afterwards I just crash completely with extreme anxiety and I don't know why. Also the reason why I skip meals is because of anxiety and feeling nervous in the stomach. Wow, I'll definitely put attention to that. Thank you so much ❤
How am I a mum to a 4year old with same ethics as you and am all about securing mental health and living for your higher self AND I'VE JUST DISCOVERED THIS CHANNEL!?!?!?!?!?!?❤
Subscribed! I've never related to an influencer this much! SO glad I found this channel
GIRL YOU ARE SPIT-TING... I needed this video so badly. About to start it over and take notes, for real.
LOVE! Quitting multitasking and clutter has been huge for me. Both are things that can be easily fallen into, but once you stop, it is a total weight lifted off of your shoulders.
Nice list! I had very similar observations and you are right: it is a daily decision to live an unhurried life.
Yes! Your home is a "shelter for your spirit". There's a book titled that
I think I've heard of this before, I need to read it!
Oh you’re so like me! Rare for me to find someone who thinks like me. Just 3 mins in and every word is true! I’m gonna watch the rest and see if we sync any more 😄
Lol, you stopped me in my tracks there as I was sipping my coffee, tidying my desk and listening to you on 1.5 speed. I rush from the moment I wake until I crash at night, exhausted and feeling defeated because I can only think of the list of things that I didn't accomplish. Thanks for this inspiration. I'm going to focus on slowing down, doing one task at a time, cutting down coffee and social media. I'm tired of being tired!
I can relate to feeling this way!
Everything is so true, I’m glad that I found this video. Let’s be focused on one task at a time in peace and life would be 100 times better. Life is simple and pleasant, let’s see that and not complicate it that much. Regarding diet, I lowered the amount of carbs and I feel so much more focused and energised, carbs are causing your blood sugar to be unstable.
This is really touching because someone else sharing how I have been really helps highlight it. Thank you ❤
not even a minute in and i already relate so much
ETA: social media made me feel the same. my brain didnt do well consuming so much information and opinions from every single app
Wow, I feel like you have given words to behaviors I didn’t even have labels for. I resonate so much with your experiences on multitasking and hurrying and you’ve given me hope that I can make room for new patterns in my life. Thank you!
Great insight!!! I must say that this is one of the most easy to grasp videos as far as nervous system regulation is concerned. 👏
All habits that have been discussed to let go have a very sound reasoning as to why they are toxic in the modern day. The creator even suggests doable pragmatic approaches to improve on all fronts. Though I do wonder how much time did it take Jesica to implement all.
Okay so wow this is hitting the nail on the head. I need to heal it asap
I have felt this way too with scrolling, clutter, and multitasking. Thank you for such practical advice that seems like it should be common sense for us all, but we need to be reminded. Greatly helpful video that I’m on the right track! ❤
Great suggestions of habits to change. For me, these habits are or were symptoms of unhealed trauma. Healing old trauma - which is healing the nervous system - leads me to have new better habits more naturally. Both work, working on the root causes and changing the habits/symptoms. Thank you for sharing.
yes yes yes!
I’m so grateful to have come across this video 🥺 thank you for sharing your beautiful energy to the world and for your vulnerability, it feels good knowing I’m not the only one experiencing this/ being aware of the severity of staying in survival mode.
If anyone has any tips for those of us who work in a career that is made up of multitasking/ feeds into survival mode aka bedside nursing, please share!
This literally sounds like ME! I am always in a hurry. When I was listening to this I was brushing my teeth and I noticed I was brushing as fast as I could and so vigorously! LOL I’m a stay at home mom and homeschool my three, and I am always in a constant state of “what can I get done?” And ALWAYS multitasking. And if someone is talking to me it’s “inconvenient”. So terrible! This video was so helpful!! Something else I struggle with is people pleasing 😅❤
I have a video planned all on people pleasing haha this is a real struggle for so many!
You described my life in the first minute! Thank you for putting this into words!!!
These are great tips. I’ve been doing all of these things for a few years now, always a work in progress and balancing act. I focus on what is overstimulating (how environment, food or lack of, my thoughts, feelings create overwhelm and becoming aware)
Restricting access to social media websites in my settings helps (I don’t have any social media apps on my phone). Social media feeds my need to compare, fix, do more, plan, overstimulation of information, thoughts and negative feelings
“A well fed body is a safe body” 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Brilliant video and fantastic tips. Thank you!!
Important to point out that we are responsible for our own behavior. That gives us power