It always feels weird when adults ask about your accolades because you feel like you have to prove yourself to make them think you have your life together and they can give their approval. I even had an older Lyft driver ask what GPA I graduated with from college this month and it felt so weird to be talking about all that. But you are absolutely right, you do not need to prove yourself to them! As long as you’re happy with where you are, that is the most important thing 💖 my therapist always tells me to think about locus of control: if you can’t do anything about it, then it’s not worth the time to stress about it 💯
Couldn’t have said it better!! Well said ❤️ I’m sorry you had that experience it definitely is hard to navigate without feeling offended or waneting to be rude back lol. Your therapist and you are very wise
After coming to terms with my ego, not necessarily having an ego death since the ego isn’t inherently bad, i realized all these accolades and accomplishments won’t ever define me. I’m who I am and that makes me happy, obviously I still want to accomplish things but i don’t want people to judge me based of what i can do or what i have nor do i do that to others anymore and it’s made me so much happier
I hope that Korean guy becomes humbled when he sees this video. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. No one should talk about other people’s bodies. You are beautiful inside and out (that’s why I love watching you). Love you Lena, don’t listen to the haters❤️
Oh man those cultural struggles will hit home for a lot of people I am sure. The audacity of the people in our community sometimes! Yes it may not be malicious and truly just ignorant but doesn’t make it ok. Glad you are in a place where those comments don’t make you spiral and you know you are so much more than anyone’s words 👑
Could not agree more, growing up in an Asian household it's so normalized by relatives to say insensitive things about other people's physical appearance. Its time to change the norms. Kindness and understanding of who we are is so valuable. Thanks for sharing Lena!
What’s wrong with being confident? Absolutely nothing, I admire that you take an opportunity and make it. Love ya vids Lena and hope your week is great with no stress or worry!!!
Recently a few strangers commented on my wheight too in a very rude way and I had to do A LOT of soul searching to heal from that and realised their opinions have nothing to do with me and it's their own flawed perception. These things used to destroy me but now I just let it go sooo easily. I feel so strong! 😌💪
I’m so sorry you had to go through that that is not okay. So glad you were strong enough to change your perspective and gain strength from it ❤️ your weight doesn’t define you. You are BEAUTIFUL!!
i feel you girl, as someone who grew up overweight with little to no confidence, asian standards are literally so harsh and unrealistic especially when you go to family gatherings and people you barely know comment on your body and how you don't look the way they want you to look. i'm honestly so proud of you and your courage to stand up and call that man out because thats something i literally could never do. don't let anybody determine your worth just because they think you job isn't good enough or your not good enough. your so amazing and i aspire to be like you and so do all the supporters that you've gained throughout your youtube journey so never let anyone put you down!
quiet follower but only RUclipsr/content creator who has and always been authentic, love how vulnerable you are and never fail to remind us that we are all human 💗 keep being your beautiful self Lena! 🥰
I was actually struggling with my mental health.. and I randomly saw one of your videos so, I joined the gym again & I’m taking care of my skin & I’m trying to eat healthy again, thank you so much.. I can’t thank you enough because you give me positive and good energy every time I watch your videos ❤️❤️❤
Wasnt expecting the conversation we had in this video (because yes it absolutely did feel like facetime) but instant subscription. I love who you are and admire you and your self-love journey. You def dont need my approval but i am more than happy to share my love and encouragement because i am proud to be joining this family. I love what we stand for 💗
FIRST of allllll! You owe no one any explanation especially when it’s bringing you joy, peace, you can provide for yourself and it presents various opportunities of growth. He honestly probably can’t understand it being from a different generation and ideology. So you are the closest he has probably been to a Y’tuber and was finally able to ask the questions he’s always wanted to know if it’s real. And just bc it’s cultural, doesn’t make it okay and you will get to the point where you will feel comfortable enough to put ppl in their place (even in a nice way) by saying oh that’s beyond my boundaries and then change the direction of the conversation!
Honestly, this has happened to me so many times and every time I immediately remind myself, I don't rank them as important in my life, you have no say over who I am or what I do, I don't care who you are, neither do I find your opinions relevant to my well being! Helps a lot. I'm happy you shared with us🥰❤
Aaah Lenaaa.. believe me I feel you. It’s not just a Korean thing.. it’s an Asian thing. They feel just too comfortable about commenting about height, weight (fat or skinny) .. they are never satisfied. And it hurts a lot especially from people who don’t even know you.. they seriously make you question your worth 🥲🥹. Also they ask about your job or salary or where u live just to compare believe me… they wanna compare with their kids in their mind or with other people. I have seriously come to ignore all of this… and never let anyone make u question your worth❤❤ you are so strong and you inspire so so many young girls out there.. u doing much more than a “real job”. It’s not easy to influence people and be liked by them❤
Hey lena.. I hope that you see this message because it’s filled with love & comfort. I want you to know that you gave me so much strength to go back and get my life together, I know it’s not all you.. But you did so much to me you don’t even know.. thank you so much for making your RUclips videos & for sharing your life with us ❤️ you’re one of the few people I really get influenced by.. i love you so much & I hope you’re always happy and healthy ❤️❤️❤️❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I really appreciate that you talked about the car ride with your dad’s friend, and ranted a bit. What you said really comforted me because I have always dealt with comments on my body from my cambodian family and with them all being somewhat skinny made it worse. And now that i’m an adult, family gatherings and holidays give me so much anxiety because they has so much to say.
it makes me so sad that this is such a universal experience but im glad we have each other to relate to and lift each other up ❤ sending u lots of love
No because the makeup chats HIT SO HARD i truly do feel like we’re on ft 😂 I grew up with a pretty Americanized Asian family but somehow that judgemental, result based mindset is still in my family. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable like always, love you so much ❤
love you more girl thanks for letting me know im not alone ❤ also sucks that we have this shared experience but i plan on NOT carrying the tradition of being judgemental LOL
girl, i do really grateful that i found your channel. idk why, but i fell like i finally find a person that really inspiring me. watching your video really help me become more confident and enjoying my very simple daily life. i wanna say i love youuu so much lena, i wish i have a sister like you. stay healthy^^
LENA I FELT IT IN MY BONES when you were ranting. Coming from a Korean household, my mother would always make it seem ok to comment on weight. She always had something to say about my food portions comparing it to hers, mind that I am 5’8” and she is 5’2”. Im so sorry you had to go through that and it sucks how our culture, esp in the older generation, think that behavior is ok and blames you for overreacting. I’m so proud of you for not letting it get to you because you know your worth!
i literally started watch youtube videos today and i’m obsessed with every single video that u make i literally spend my half day watching youtube videos and the advice u gave and the way u explain things it’s very helpful for me! ur my new favorite youtuber
Great message from that car drive .. people like that need to mind their own business sometimes it doesn't matter you are of value for being alive and breathing ❤ no man can determine your worth - no job, no money , no education- all those things on this earth are temporary and can be taken away at any moment
Yeah my boyfriends family is Korean and I totally understand this struggle but in the long run it’s helping us have thicker skin and it’s really all coming from a place of love ❤
Coming from a family that has been focused on my weight and achievements bc I am the oldest, it’s so relatable to hear this vent! And I didn’t realize how much I needed you to talk about this to know that I am worthy of everything in life no matter my weight or appearance. So thank you, for being you and putting yourself out there through this account because it has helped my so freaking much in my (fitness) journey. Finding your channel has truly been a blessing ❤
Girl, I know compliments can either be bad or good, but YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND SMART and the reason I subscribe to your channel was because of the way you are, your personality and your motivation to continue with life and not the way you look. LOVE YOU MA😘😘😘😘😘!!!!!!
Lena it feels so comfortable watching your vlogs & I feel like you're my elder sister...😅 But girl you just make my whole life a lot better by just watching one of your vlogs I feel I build up my confidence by watching you and thank you so much for that...and that appearance talk it helped me to know that my outer look doesn't mention my worth like at school I feel so insecure like other girls are so prettier than me...Luv u Lena ❤ and Lena you are literally gorgeous girl...and I feel so lucky to be one of your subscribers...❤
There are more important things from those material achievements. You are so real, humble, and beatiful and you do not need to prove yourself just for people who do not bring something good to your life. You are my favorite youtuber, for being yourself. Love Pika😍 God bless you, Lena queen.🥹💖
Gurl I freaking love your videos you gave me the confidence I didnt think I had growing up being bullied and having 0 motivation for literally anything and now seeing your videos got me working on myself more and getting out of my comfort zone soon thank you so much 🫶🏾
sis THAT story time wow I could totally relate to it. Mexican culture is almost the same when it comes to peers or even parent speaking on weight. It’s very unfortunate but all that matters is our relationship with our body :)
No matter what Lena. You look amazing. You are doing something you love and helping out others you know that. The person from before and now she is so confident and know your worth. I always enjoy your videos always stay true to yourself❤️
I'm Italian, I think we have a metal in criticizing comments to & toxic talk to each other as a culture! My mom, right before I left home told me that sometimes you have to "love people from afar, including toxic family". It was humbling and eye-opening. And there was a lot of people I cut out of my life...for the better!
I dont normally comment on youtube videos, but I have to say I really loved what you had to say about your experience with the man in the car. Your words were very insightful and your advice was inspiring. It came from a place of maturity and confidence and it was admirable to hear/see it. Thank you for speaking up. What you do matters more than what you think 💖
thank you for deciding to comment 💖 i really appreciate it and thank you for the kind words!! you just made going through that experience well worth it haha
Thanks Lena for being transparent with all of us and letting us know we are all worth it no matter how we look ♥️ I just discovered you and I love all your videos so far ! And you are right ! You are worth it and thanks for inspiring me to start my fitness journey again ♥️
The story made me wanna cry coz I am in that situation rn where people judge me for the way I look, and my weight. Your storytime boosted me a little, but I still think I have a long way to go. Thank you, and love you!
GIRL. Lemme tell u that I have been going through it. After watching your video it motivated me to actually get up and get things done. You are such a beautiful girl with a beautiful soul. Ily! Thank you for doing the things you do :)
This video came at just the right time! A few days ago I dealt with family friends that were basically undermining my accomplishments and just being condescending. Love you Lena!!!
sorry to hear about your dad's friends, it's. very relatable in even Filipino culture, so I feel you. Stay strong, you know your worth and who you are :)
this venting sesh really spoke to me. is insane the position we put ourselves into when we’re trying to impress people that don’t even need to be impressed i even cried bc i understand every word you said. hope i get to my confident era soon just like you did 🤍
im so glad it spoke to you 💗 it also breaks my heart that you relate to the hurt i spoke about. im not confident 100% of the time but the point of life is to keep. building confidence and work for it everyday! sending u love
that story time hit waayyy too close to home. i moved away from my parents a few years ago, and it's given me the freedom and confidence to really step into who i've always wanted to be! my hair changed, i have tattoos, and after hitting the gym more, my body _definitely_ looks different. everytime i visit my family, i get the same comments about how "oh, you should have kept your hair the same." and "you'll never find a job if you have tattoos" or "men don't like women who have muscles". i always gotta remind myself that i'm doing good for myself away from my hometown and it has _nothing_ to do with how i changed my appearance. i don't need to impress anyone or live up to anyone's standards. even though their comments hurt sometimes, you gotta keep your head up and pay them no mind. 😌💅🏼
Thank you for talking about weight and culture. When I was growing up it was endearing for them to make nicknames on my weight. However, it really affected me and my confidence! You are amazing and I love watching your videos ❤
Lena I love how confident you've gotten! I'm so happy you were also able to be honest about that situation, coming from a latino culture I relate to this so much
Literally came back to your channel after a year because I was feeling low and you boosted up my entire mood Cannot thank you enough also I’m coming to New York next year really can’t wait to see you if I get chance
I’m so sorry he made you feel that way, I just want you to know that you are such a beautiful person inside & out ! You are right you have came a long way & we all see it ❤️ your personality is soo amazing which makes you soo much more beautiful. Thanks to you whenever I get ready for the gym I blast my music & drink my pre workout like if I’m getting ready for a party. ( I don’t even go out to party 😂 ) I love your vibe, whenever I’m feeling down or lazy your videos always make me feel soo much better ❤️ keep doing you! ❤️
Omg gurl older people can be so insensitive when judging our lives, especially our looks! Trust me I know! I am Mexican and live with older Mexican people; they always judge how I look and comment on my weight. I have learned to ignore them but it took me a while to do so since it has been going on for many years. You do you gurl, ur such an inspiration! 💖💖
girl I MISS UUU. i discovered u like in march and i’ve seen every single video u put out so far bc ur personality and energy are just 🤌🤌 i love your videos so so much!
Hi Lena! Thank you for sharing your experiences, thoughts and motivation. I’m sorry you went through that. The way you described how you felt before your fitness journey hit really close to home. I’ve been on and off on my fitness journey and for the last couple of years I’ve been struggling mentally on my weight and the lack of feeling motivated to be a better me. Every time I watch your videos it gives me motivation and I feel like your my coach 😆😄 thank you for being you and sharing. ❤❤❤❤😊
Gracias por aparecer en mi inicio!! Chica me reiniciaste la vida he estado viendo tus videos estos últimos días y me encantan amo tu contenido! Saludos desde Chile 🇨🇱🩷
Love your videos, your content is so relatable. I work with a couple Korean business owners and as I have lost and gained weight in my journey they have always commented on my weight especially when I have gained weight, I know they don’t mean it in a mean way but it can make you feel bad. Have also learned on this journey to love life and yourself.
Lena you look beautiful on the outside as well. I suffered from bad acne growing up. People used to make fun of me, also you are a beautiful person on the outside as well Lena. Please do not let haters get to you my favorite RUclipsr.
Omggg your story with the family friends in your backseat, girl!!! Chinese culture is the same exact way. It’s way more annoying when it’s random stranger you just met like oh🫠 but also growing up with this all my life and unfortunately its just normal conversation in my family😭😭 and best part, not only did gain weight when I saw my relatives for the holidays but I can tell how different I was being treated bc I was bigger than before🫠😭
Ugh I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Even though it’s “normal” in our cultures, it doesn’t make it okay. I hope you know that weight fluctuations are normal and as long as you feel healthy and comfortable that’s all that matters. You’re beautiful ❤️ remind yourself especially in those moments!!
@@lenalifts you’re amazing, Lena. I know we have experienced a lot of similar unfortunate events in regards to our weight but YES sis, we are much more than our body image to ourselves and others. I hope you feel as beautiful as you look! You’re such a sweet soul, I appreciate you❤️❤️
Girl , love you and all your kind strong words. You’re incredible. And holy sh** your cheekbones in the reflection of your mirror when you were doing your make up was 😍😍😍
sadly a lot of asians can relate with your story but i'm so glad you talked about it because the truth is that no matter HOW you look, they will comment. I've always been pretty skinny due to health conditions and my relatives would comment that I dont eat enough, but once i improved my health and gained weight they would comment about my weight gain. just proof they will never be happy!! i'm happy with myself and i'm healthier now so that's all that matters. ALSO you going out and then immediately needing the spend the next day inside alone is so me HAHA this vlog was so comforting thanks lena
I'm sorry that happened to you! I feel like sometimes people are just bored/insecure and don't quite know what to say to people they just met. Maybe that played a role too. Sometimes I say mean things on accident when I meet someone new just because I don't quite know what to say, sometimes I'm also very nervous and only notice what I said after the conversation is over.
Oh my god… I can’t even describe how obsessed I went with watching ur videos. Found you a per days ago and ur videos are just so motivating and comforting to watch. Love it! Because of u I’m so much more motivated to be productive in my days. 😂💕
ugh girl when you said “in the moment it made me feel really…*and the long pause*… small” I FELT THAT DEAR! i feel so related to this and I empathize w u for having gone through that❤ I sooo get kinda the default setting of inadvertently feeling like you need to impress them, even if you disagree w the idea of needing to impress them. ugh omg, i felt that. thanks for sharing and also, 🫂 🫂 🫂 for us
It’a time to end generational trauma. I don’t care if it’s culture, family or how it’s always been done…it’s never ok to invade someone’s privacy & tear them down (good intentions or not). The fact you felt exhausted after the ride is your body screaming at you that you were triggered & that’s not ok. You’d love Dr. Nicole LePera’s books 📚 So proud of you for being self-aware of that experience & remembering your worth. Your relationship with yourself is all that matters 🫶🏻
"That arm is the size of my daughter" NAW WE'D BE PULLING OVER FOR A GTA BRAWL
i cut the part out by accident where before that he said i look way fatter on youtube than in person LOL
literally lol
@@lenalifts Aint no way 💀 some people out here too comfortable sharing their opinions
That's what I'm sayinggggg
He could never understand the community you have created here on RUclips. You make others happy with your energy Lena!
im so honored thank you for the kind words
PERIOD.
It always feels weird when adults ask about your accolades because you feel like you have to prove yourself to make them think you have your life together and they can give their approval. I even had an older Lyft driver ask what GPA I graduated with from college this month and it felt so weird to be talking about all that. But you are absolutely right, you do not need to prove yourself to them! As long as you’re happy with where you are, that is the most important thing 💖 my therapist always tells me to think about locus of control: if you can’t do anything about it, then it’s not worth the time to stress about it 💯
Couldn’t have said it better!! Well said ❤️ I’m sorry you had that experience it definitely is hard to navigate without feeling offended or waneting to be rude back lol. Your therapist and you are very wise
After coming to terms with my ego, not necessarily having an ego death since the ego isn’t inherently bad, i realized all these accolades and accomplishments won’t ever define me. I’m who I am and that makes me happy, obviously I still want to accomplish things but i don’t want people to judge me based of what i can do or what i have nor do i do that to others anymore and it’s made me so much happier
@@lenalifts hi Lena I’m Chance aka Thor Son Of Odin
I hope that Korean guy becomes humbled when he sees this video. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. No one should talk about other people’s bodies. You are beautiful inside and out (that’s why I love watching you). Love you Lena, don’t listen to the haters❤️
thank you so much for the kind words, love ❤❤
As a korean girl korean men aint shit
“ In my confident era?” I love this for you 🥺
Love this for US!
Oh man those cultural struggles will hit home for a lot of people I am sure. The audacity of the people in our community sometimes! Yes it may not be malicious and truly just ignorant but doesn’t make it ok. Glad you are in a place where those comments don’t make you spiral and you know you are so much more than anyone’s words 👑
Yess gotta use those experiences to make us stronger 🫶 hope you’re well shivani bae sending you love this week!!
Could not agree more, growing up in an Asian household it's so normalized by relatives to say insensitive things about other people's physical appearance. Its time to change the norms. Kindness and understanding of who we are is so valuable. Thanks for sharing Lena!
thanks for sharing your words of wisdom
Your videos are so relaxing and make me so motivated and confident about myself as a person
I’m so glad ahh this is the best compliment ever and honestly keeps me going to want to post. Love you sm 🤍
What’s wrong with being confident? Absolutely nothing, I admire that you take an opportunity and make it. Love ya vids Lena and hope your week is great with no stress or worry!!!
thank you sm for the motivation and kind words!!
Recently a few strangers commented on my wheight too in a very rude way and I had to do A LOT of soul searching to heal from that and realised their opinions have nothing to do with me and it's their own flawed perception. These things used to destroy me but now I just let it go sooo easily. I feel so strong! 😌💪
I’m so sorry you had to go through that that is not okay. So glad you were strong enough to change your perspective and gain strength from it ❤️ your weight doesn’t define you. You are BEAUTIFUL!!
Some people should mind they own business. Sorry for that
i feel you girl, as someone who grew up overweight with little to no confidence, asian standards are literally so harsh and unrealistic especially when you go to family gatherings and people you barely know comment on your body and how you don't look the way they want you to look. i'm honestly so proud of you and your courage to stand up and call that man out because thats something i literally could never do. don't let anybody determine your worth just because they think you job isn't good enough or your not good enough. your so amazing and i aspire to be like you and so do all the supporters that you've gained throughout your youtube journey so never let anyone put you down!
quiet follower but only RUclipsr/content creator who has and always been authentic, love how vulnerable you are and never fail to remind us that we are all human 💗 keep being your beautiful self Lena! 🥰
thank you for taking the time to comment i appreciate you sm 💗 sending u lots of love
I was actually struggling with my mental health.. and I randomly saw one of your videos so, I joined the gym again & I’m taking care of my skin & I’m trying to eat healthy again, thank you so much.. I can’t thank you enough because you give me positive and good energy every time I watch your videos ❤️❤️❤
WOW I’m so proud of you 😭❤️ you just made my day. Keep showing up for yourself your future self will thank you. Sending you sm love
@@lenalifts I LOVE YOOOOUUUUU
Here she is again, always making peoples days 10x better 😀😀
You make my day 😭🤍 ty for watching!!
Wasnt expecting the conversation we had in this video (because yes it absolutely did feel like facetime) but instant subscription. I love who you are and admire you and your self-love journey. You def dont need my approval but i am more than happy to share my love and encouragement because i am proud to be joining this family. I love what we stand for 💗
FIRST of allllll! You owe no one any explanation especially when it’s bringing you joy, peace, you can provide for yourself and it presents various opportunities of growth. He honestly probably can’t understand it being from a different generation and ideology. So you are the closest he has probably been to a Y’tuber and was finally able to ask the questions he’s always wanted to know if it’s real. And just bc it’s cultural, doesn’t make it okay and you will get to the point where you will feel comfortable enough to put ppl in their place (even in a nice way) by saying oh that’s beyond my boundaries and then change the direction of the conversation!
Honestly, this has happened to me so many times and every time I immediately remind myself, I don't rank them as important in my life, you have no say over who I am or what I do, I don't care who you are, neither do I find your opinions relevant to my well being! Helps a lot. I'm happy you shared with us🥰❤
Aaah Lenaaa.. believe me I feel you. It’s not just a Korean thing.. it’s an Asian thing. They feel just too comfortable about commenting about height, weight (fat or skinny) .. they are never satisfied. And it hurts a lot especially from people who don’t even know you.. they seriously make you question your worth 🥲🥹. Also they ask about your job or salary or where u live just to compare believe me… they wanna compare with their kids in their mind or with other people.
I have seriously come to ignore all of this… and never let anyone make u question your worth❤❤ you are so strong and you inspire so so many young girls out there.. u doing much more than a “real job”. It’s not easy to influence people and be liked by them❤
Hey lena.. I hope that you see this message because it’s filled with love & comfort.
I want you to know that you gave me so much strength to go back and get my life together, I know it’s not all you.. But you did so much to me you don’t even know.. thank you so much for making your RUclips videos & for sharing your life with us ❤️ you’re one of the few people I really get influenced by.. i love you so much & I hope you’re always happy and healthy ❤️❤️❤️❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
That literally means so much to me thank you sm for the kind words. Im so so proud of you for showing up for yourself 🥹🤍 keep it up
I really appreciate that you talked about the car ride with your dad’s friend, and ranted a bit. What you said really comforted me because I have always dealt with comments on my body from my cambodian family and with them all being somewhat skinny made it worse. And now that i’m an adult, family gatherings and holidays give me so much anxiety because they has so much to say.
it makes me so sad that this is such a universal experience but im glad we have each other to relate to and lift each other up ❤ sending u lots of love
im hella late but lenas lowkey the most genuine vlogger, love her vibes shes fire 🔥
No because the makeup chats HIT SO HARD i truly do feel like we’re on ft 😂 I grew up with a pretty Americanized Asian family but somehow that judgemental, result based mindset is still in my family. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable like always, love you so much ❤
love you more girl thanks for letting me know im not alone ❤ also sucks that we have this shared experience but i plan on NOT carrying the tradition of being judgemental LOL
girl, i do really grateful that i found your channel. idk why, but i fell like i finally find a person that really inspiring me. watching your video really help me become more confident and enjoying my very simple daily life. i wanna say i love youuu so much lena, i wish i have a sister like you. stay healthy^^
I watch Mai RELIGIOUSLY, and I'm so glad I found you, because you two have helped me SO much with becoming a better person!
LENA I FELT IT IN MY BONES when you were ranting. Coming from a Korean household, my mother would always make it seem ok to comment on weight. She always had something to say about my food portions comparing it to hers, mind that I am 5’8” and she is 5’2”. Im so sorry you had to go through that and it sucks how our culture, esp in the older generation, think that behavior is ok and blames you for overreacting. I’m so proud of you for not letting it get to you because you know your worth!
i literally started watch youtube videos today and i’m obsessed with every single video that u make i literally spend my half day watching youtube videos and the advice u gave and the way u explain things it’s very helpful for me! ur my new favorite youtuber
She's an amazing woman.🙏
thank you sm 💗
I love Lena’s confident and relaxing vlog, I truly enjoyed it so much! ❤
im so glad you enjoyed!! thanks for watching 💗
new york is such a gorgeous city
you are my research for vlogging ,so much love for you and the videos you make, Its like little drops of heaven when you appear on my screen✨✨
Great message from that car drive .. people like that need to mind their own business sometimes it doesn't matter you are of value for being alive and breathing ❤ no man can determine your worth - no job, no money , no education- all those things on this earth are temporary and can be taken away at any moment
Yeah my boyfriends family is Korean and I totally understand this struggle but in the long run it’s helping us have thicker skin and it’s really all coming from a place of love ❤
Aww you guys are such a beautiful couple I’m sure ❤️
@@lenalifts thank you ❤️
Coming from a family that has been focused on my weight and achievements bc I am the oldest, it’s so relatable to hear this vent! And I didn’t realize how much I needed you to talk about this to know that I am worthy of everything in life no matter my weight or appearance. So thank you, for being you and putting yourself out there through this account because it has helped my so freaking much in my (fitness) journey. Finding your channel has truly been a blessing ❤
Girl, I know compliments can either be bad or good, but YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND SMART and the reason I subscribe to your channel was because of the way you are, your personality and your motivation to continue with life and not the way you look. LOVE YOU MA😘😘😘😘😘!!!!!!
Lena it feels so comfortable watching your vlogs & I feel like you're my elder sister...😅 But girl you just make my whole life a lot better by just watching one of your vlogs I feel I build up my confidence by watching you and thank you so much for that...and that appearance talk it helped me to know that my outer look doesn't mention my worth like at school I feel so insecure like other girls are so prettier than me...Luv u Lena ❤ and Lena you are literally gorgeous girl...and I feel so lucky to be one of your subscribers...❤
I’m Punjabi and I related to your story so hard!!!!!
You’re intelligent and beautiful and all of the above!✨💗
dont let someone not important affect ur feeling!!!!! u r like the best the most prettiest and positive gal
There are more important things from those material achievements. You are so real, humble, and beatiful and you do not need to prove yourself just for people who do not bring something good to your life. You are my favorite youtuber, for being yourself. Love Pika😍 God bless you, Lena queen.🥹💖
You ARE enough on your own 🙌🙌 YES MA’AM! You are helping us out by reassuring us as well!❤
I am officially following from this video. Your message about knowing your worth is so powerful. Keep killing it and dusting off those noisy ppl. ❤
thank you for joining the fam im so honored and glad to have you here ❤
we love the tan with the black dress thing
Gurl I freaking love your videos you gave me the confidence I didnt think I had growing up being bullied and having 0 motivation for literally anything and now seeing your videos got me working on myself more and getting out of my comfort zone soon thank you so much 🫶🏾
Don't listen to hate you shineee
I need somebody like Lena in my life 💕
sis THAT story time wow I could totally relate to it. Mexican culture is almost the same when it comes to peers or even parent speaking on weight. It’s very unfortunate but all that matters is our relationship with our body :)
ugh im so sad that this is such a universal experience but im glad we have each other to relate to and lift each other up ❤
No matter what Lena. You look amazing. You are doing something you love and helping out others you know that. The person from before and now she is so confident and know your worth.
I always enjoy your videos always stay true to yourself❤️
I'm Italian, I think we have a metal in criticizing comments to & toxic talk to each other as a culture!
My mom, right before I left home told me that sometimes you have to "love people from afar, including toxic family".
It was humbling and eye-opening. And there was a lot of people I cut out of my life...for the better!
You make me a better person, full of inspiration 🤍 thank you for all your positivity and kind, hopeful influencing x
I dont normally comment on youtube videos, but I have to say I really loved what you had to say about your experience with the man in the car. Your words were very insightful and your advice was inspiring. It came from a place of maturity and confidence and it was admirable to hear/see it. Thank you for speaking up. What you do matters more than what you think 💖
thank you for deciding to comment 💖 i really appreciate it and thank you for the kind words!! you just made going through that experience well worth it haha
Thanks Lena for being transparent with all of us and letting us know we are all worth it no matter how we look ♥️ I just discovered you and I love all your videos so far ! And you are right ! You are worth it and thanks for inspiring me to start my fitness journey again ♥️
Thank you for inspiring me to make more content 😭❤️ you motivate me more than you know!! So proud of you for starting your fitness journey again
Lena you are the most positive person i know! You are the reason I have more self-confidence and think more positively! Love from Bulgaria, girl! ❤
please post more videos like this ❤❤❤ I've been feeling unmotivated lately and you really help me. Thank you Lena
The story made me wanna cry coz I am in that situation rn where people judge me for the way I look, and my weight. Your storytime boosted me a little, but I still think I have a long way to go. Thank you, and love you!
sending you SO much love 💖 im here to remind you how amazing you are and how beautiful you are. keep telling yourself.
watching your entire living alone playlist while i set up my new home (:
GIRL. Lemme tell u that I have been going through it. After watching your video it motivated me to actually get up and get things done. You are such a beautiful girl with a beautiful soul. Ily! Thank you for doing the things you do :)
Girl you make me feel like im really worthy and good with myself
This video came at just the right time! A few days ago I dealt with family friends that were basically undermining my accomplishments and just being condescending. Love you Lena!!!
sorry to hear about your dad's friends, it's. very relatable in even Filipino culture, so I feel you. Stay strong, you know your worth and who you are :)
You have to remind yourself of your struggles and triumphs and that no matter what just like you said you are perfect the way your are!!!
i’ve been binging your videos the last week or so, i love your vibe girl, it feels like we’ve been friends for a long time.🤍✨
I love her so much,I only watch her vlogs ❤.
I admire you so much!! You are so strong. Just by being you, you uplift the whole community 🤍
Seeing how far you’ve come brings me tears of joy 🥹🥹🥹 I love you so much sis, keep being the amazing person that you are! ❤
this venting sesh really spoke to me. is insane the position we put ourselves into when we’re trying to impress people that don’t even need to be impressed
i even cried bc i understand every word you said. hope i get to my confident era soon just like you did 🤍
im so glad it spoke to you 💗 it also breaks my heart that you relate to the hurt i spoke about. im not confident 100% of the time but the point of life is to keep. building confidence and work for it everyday! sending u love
Your growth and self love is everything ❤️👏🏻
that story time hit waayyy too close to home. i moved away from my parents a few years ago, and it's given me the freedom and confidence to really step into who i've always wanted to be! my hair changed, i have tattoos, and after hitting the gym more, my body _definitely_ looks different. everytime i visit my family, i get the same comments about how "oh, you should have kept your hair the same." and "you'll never find a job if you have tattoos" or "men don't like women who have muscles".
i always gotta remind myself that i'm doing good for myself away from my hometown and it has _nothing_ to do with how i changed my appearance. i don't need to impress anyone or live up to anyone's standards. even though their comments hurt sometimes, you gotta keep your head up and pay them no mind. 😌💅🏼
im gonna be so honest here , your videos are so comforting :)
Girl i love you so much watching you just makes my heart feel safe
this video was awesome and also something I needed because like you said your weight doesn’t define your worth and I’ll always remember that thanks💕
Thank you for talking about weight and culture. When I was growing up it was endearing for them to make nicknames on my weight. However, it really affected me and my confidence! You are amazing and I love watching your videos ❤
Lena I love how confident you've gotten! I'm so happy you were also able to be honest about that situation, coming from a latino culture I relate to this so much
Loved the chit chat while doing your make up, so relatable and so many of us feel the same! So glad to have another video to watch and relax with 💛
LITERALLY LIKE I JUST STARTED WATCHING YOU YESTERDAY and im like.. i already love u. i cant, your so ICONICCC
Literally came back to your channel after a year because I was feeling low and you boosted up my entire mood Cannot thank you enough also I’m coming to New York next year really can’t wait to see you if I get chance
I’m so sorry he made you feel that way, I just want you to know that you are such a beautiful person inside & out ! You are right you have came a long way & we all see it ❤️ your personality is soo amazing which makes you soo much more beautiful. Thanks to you whenever I get ready for the gym I blast my music & drink my pre workout like if I’m getting ready for a party. ( I don’t even go out to party 😂 ) I love your vibe, whenever I’m feeling down or lazy your videos always make me feel soo much better ❤️ keep doing you! ❤️
not her hating rain when alone and loving it later with her boo, cuteeee you two
Omg gurl older people can be so insensitive when judging our lives, especially our looks! Trust me I know! I am Mexican and live with older Mexican people; they always judge how I look and comment on my weight. I have learned to ignore them but it took me a while to do so since it has been going on for many years. You do you gurl, ur such an inspiration! 💖💖
im so sorry you had to go through that as well. i hope you know how beautiful you are no matter your weight. ❤ sending u sm love!!
girl I MISS UUU. i discovered u like in march and i’ve seen every single video u put out so far bc ur personality and energy are just 🤌🤌 i love your videos so so much!
Hi Lena! Thank you for sharing your experiences, thoughts and motivation. I’m sorry you went through that. The way you described how you felt before your fitness journey hit really close to home. I’ve been on and off on my fitness journey and for the last couple of years I’ve been struggling mentally on my weight and the lack of feeling motivated to be a better me. Every time I watch your videos it gives me motivation and I feel like your my coach 😆😄 thank you for being you and sharing. ❤❤❤❤😊
Gracias por aparecer en mi inicio!! Chica me reiniciaste la vida he estado viendo tus videos estos últimos días y me encantan amo tu contenido! Saludos desde Chile 🇨🇱🩷
BRB CRYING --you make me want to be in that ~confident~ era! YOU INSPIRE ME.
Love your videos, your content is so relatable. I work with a couple Korean business owners and as I have lost and gained weight in my journey they have always commented on my weight especially when I have gained weight, I know they don’t mean it in a mean way but it can make you feel bad. Have also learned on this journey to love life and yourself.
love u Lena ❤. You're a huge inspiration and ur vlogs bring me so much joy!
Lena you look beautiful on the outside as well. I suffered from bad acne growing up. People used to make fun of me, also you are a beautiful person on the outside as well Lena. Please do not let haters get to you my favorite RUclipsr.
Omggg your story with the family friends in your backseat, girl!!!
Chinese culture is the same exact way. It’s way more annoying when it’s random stranger you just met like oh🫠 but also growing up with this all my life and unfortunately its just normal conversation in my family😭😭 and best part, not only did gain weight when I saw my relatives for the holidays but I can tell how different I was being treated bc I was bigger than before🫠😭
Ugh I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Even though it’s “normal” in our cultures, it doesn’t make it okay. I hope you know that weight fluctuations are normal and as long as you feel healthy and comfortable that’s all that matters. You’re beautiful ❤️ remind yourself especially in those moments!!
@@lenalifts you’re amazing, Lena. I know we have experienced a lot of similar unfortunate events in regards to our weight but YES sis, we are much more than our body image to ourselves and others. I hope you feel as beautiful as you look! You’re such a sweet soul, I appreciate you❤️❤️
Girl , love you and all your kind strong words. You’re incredible. And holy sh** your cheekbones in the reflection of your mirror when you were doing your make up was 😍😍😍
It's a thing in South Asian culture too, and it's so exhausting! Also, I LOVE the new vlogs with such meaningful discussions and good energy ❤
I love your mature attitude and you’re a bomb ass role model for people like me- a work in progress!
sadly a lot of asians can relate with your story but i'm so glad you talked about it because the truth is that no matter HOW you look, they will comment. I've always been pretty skinny due to health conditions and my relatives would comment that I dont eat enough, but once i improved my health and gained weight they would comment about my weight gain. just proof they will never be happy!! i'm happy with myself and i'm healthier now so that's all that matters. ALSO you going out and then immediately needing the spend the next day inside alone is so me HAHA this vlog was so comforting thanks lena
I'm sorry that happened to you! I feel like sometimes people are just bored/insecure and don't quite know what to say to people they just met. Maybe that played a role too. Sometimes I say mean things on accident when I meet someone new just because I don't quite know what to say, sometimes I'm also very nervous and only notice what I said after the conversation is over.
You are well on your way to 1million+ people that do love and appreciate you and what you do
I’m proud of you for speaking up on this issue Lena!! Confidence Era 😊💅💕
“You are not better than anyone,
and nobody is better than you
you’re literally my inspiration to better myself!! ❤
I’m so honored thank you sm for the kind words, beautiful 😭🤍
Oh my god… I can’t even describe how obsessed I went with watching ur videos. Found you a per days ago and ur videos are just so motivating and comforting to watch. Love it! Because of u I’m so much more motivated to be productive in my days. 😂💕
ugh girl when you said “in the moment it made me feel really…*and the long pause*… small” I FELT THAT DEAR! i feel so related to this and I empathize w u for having gone through that❤ I sooo get kinda the default setting of inadvertently feeling like you need to impress them, even if you disagree w the idea of needing to impress them. ugh omg, i felt that. thanks for sharing and also, 🫂 🫂 🫂 for us
You are beautiful inside and out. Don't ever doubt that. Love your videos❤
Lena back at it again! 💖😭🫰🏼
Hope all is well gorgeous ❤️❤️
It’a time to end generational trauma. I don’t care if it’s culture, family or how it’s always been done…it’s never ok to invade someone’s privacy & tear them down (good intentions or not).
The fact you felt exhausted after the ride is your body screaming at you that you were triggered & that’s not ok. You’d love Dr. Nicole LePera’s books 📚
So proud of you for being self-aware of that experience & remembering your worth. Your relationship with yourself is all that matters 🫶🏻
I am BAFFLED. You’re so right, culture does not mean you can just say the first thing on your mind. Omg.