@abigailclaudiadavids3849 please, get out of the marriage. I was with one for 25 years. It was death by a million cuts. We split 15 years ago and I'm still having to deal with the abuse, at 66 years old. I am financially destitute. He refused a reasonable support agreement. I have had no income for 2.5 years. If you divorce don't cut him any slack. I was advised to "take him for everything" but I didn't see myself being like that. It was the biggest mistake I have ever made. My best to you.
May God protect all those suffering from narcissistic abuse. It inflicts unbearable pain and lasting damage. May He strengthen us and bring ease to our hearts.
Thank you for your beautiful message! I wish the same for you. I have been in and out of therapy all my life. This time God led me to a Christian Therapist 8 years ago. I have been a Christian for years. So finding her was pure God! She has helped me understand and learn a lot; just as Danish has done. I am 64 years old and still have horrible nightmares always waking my family up screaming various words. I still have a long way to go, but have also made a lot of progress. I have a remarkable, loving , supportive husband along with my adult children. Out of 3 other siblings, one of my brothers (14 months apart) had broken away too and helps me so much! ❤️ 🙏🏼 ✝️
My dad just died. I feel relieved that he can't spread vicious lies anymore. Shame killed him by a heart attack. I fell some anger over how easy it would have been to get along and help one another. I feel sad he is gone and we never made up. I hope he finally repented to the Lord Jesus before he went. Maybe I'll see him on the other side and no sin is there so he would truly be a changed man. But lo, I fear he didn't and was hard headed to the very end. It pains me to think he might be below rather than above. That is horrendous suffering for eternity. I feel sorry for him if that's the case. Makes every vile and wicked thing he did seem nothing in comparison.
Narcissists don't want you to be happy. They're jealous of their family when they're happy. To stop it, they'll create trouble. Danish is so right about this.
Thanks. That explains a lot. Being jealous of positive states of mind in others and any kind of outstanding abilities including talent in non-traditional gender roles is the only way I can explain the trouble making going on in first marriage.
I think it could be exhaustion. I feel like that too. I am not sure if I will get over it but I know I am beyond mentally exhausted and stunned. I think that takes time to get over and it is hard to assess damage, so to speak, until people are rested and land. It is too traumatic to judge while still reeling, IMHO.
I realized yesterday, that I don't know how to be happy. Happiness= danger, cus I am waiting for the other shoe to drop. Yes, this is why I don't trust anyone, cus everything is always responsible for everything, but it's never enough. I am trying to be perfect because I fear abandoned. But obviously doesn't work. Sadly even people who aren't not narcissist, have done this as well... I'm afraid of people again... I'm exhausted of being, behaving the way everyone else needs me to be, to be exhausted. And yes, I don't know how to earn money cus I never seem to be the right way even in job interviews... I have always craved freedom, but it scares me... I am overwhelmed with all the responsibility of figuring it all out... I'm so traumatized my nervoussystem literally shuts down do to this This is crazy how accurate all your examples are.
Mine died last year, I have gotten a job, but you are right, fear of freedom is real.. I tend to shut down when I get home. I'm slowly working through it, but it is very real!
@@growingonthegriddle4945 Thank you. I’ve worked very long and hard to process it all. I don’t think it’ll do me any good. I don’t trust him one bit. A narc never changes. There is nothing that could possibly repair what he has done.
Whenever we used to go out somewhere nice I was always happy and excited. He always used to drag my mood down by being miserable or saying negative things because he was jealous. Then once he'd extinguished my happiness, he would blame me for being miserable and ruining his day!
Number 2: OMG! Yes, that's me! The older I get as a single the more I notice how I'm rorn between wanting to find love and a deep fear of finding myself trapped with a narcissist!
Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective digitalinvestigate@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.
My ex used to say, he knew I was setting with him Bec previous to him I dated men who were more financially capable than he was. After yrs of trying to convince him I loved and chose him, I eventually said to him "yes I was setting with you, happy now?". He was shocked & I didn't in why since the response he was fishing for.
😭 OH MY GOOOOD! This is exactly 💯 the thing. I write down every once in a while, that I am afraid of happiness. That, when I am happy, something bad will happen afterwards. So I push the enjoyment away, not to experience the breakdown after this big joy. "Accepting unhappiness as a constant companion" I would unconsciously create sadness by myself to keep myself "safely" in this state of mind. I was watching while letting the comment tab open. Everything you say speaks so much about my soul state. Your videos are great! The fear of freedom is one of the biggest topics!!!!
Mad respect to everyone out there who escaped from under the thumb and if can do that I believe in you! You can do all this other stuff. Say nice things to yourself because you deserve it and you should say it to you. Seek your own approval. I'm saying you but I mean me😊
@@Olivia-Scott years ago, someone told me to follow the bubbles!! Which way are the bubbles going? ..because they always rise to the surface… which are the great people going? Which are the great ideas going? Which way is going? This is how I learn to re-orient in the dark and cold below the surface.
Every single thing you are saying is 100 percent my situation. I’m in counseling, I exercise.I go to church, I try to do good everyday . But deep down I’m suffering. I can’t heal properly. I have zero self esteem and self worth. I’m trying my best but I can’t heal these phobias.
The perception of threat is always there 😢 yes. And that feeds the feeling of being oversensitive. The thoughts "I'm a bad person" and "I'm the problem" are a daily struggle. It's horrible to think they want us to be afraid. I guess it makes them feel powerful 😮💨
I never thought that I would say this but I'm dealing with the symptoms of Narc abuse once again. I'm too old (63) and too tired for this nonsense! I'm living with my son and his wife is a screeching harridan who hates me. She acts accordingly. She has a twin, too. Her mother. I share a room and a bed with her. I'm getting out of here as soon as I can, because my son is beginning to act like them. 😢
I am 60 and understand the pain. I am alone but feel like sort of Shell Shock but actually better because I am realizing it wasn't me and I am starting to decompress. I was nearly driven mad by Sisters and Brother and Others. It is difficult terrain at best but feels like a weight lifted realizing I am not to blame, at the very least, for most if not all. The Best of Luck. :)
We all need to pass on to the next generation what life taught us. My only advise is to the next generation is, never get comfortable with people who behave superior to you especially when u don’t respect them. Walk away from people who feel superior if u don’t like them or think much of them. Not worth the confidence
There are different types and intensities of Narcissists. Not all Narcissists are physically abusive, nor will all be so controlling that one would fear for his/her life at their hand. BUT, those are the kind that a person MUST find a way to disappear from, leaving no trace nor trail for them to find you... and no hint that you are planning your exit ... the same way you would do if a person came through the front door of a school or business with a firearm.
Dear Danish, every single word you are saying is a true gem and more helpful than I can express...Thank you so very much for your validation, information, support, understanding, help and encouragement...💎💎💎💎💎💎💎Blessings to you and everyone struggling with (the effects) of narcissistic abuse 🙏💙
If you are in therapy for this type of issue, send this video to your therapist and take time to discuss these symptoms in great detail. Many times therapists minimize or invalidate these symptoms like character flaws we need to just "snap out" out of (for lack of better terms). This is what happens when you are around a narc, in any dynamic whether it's parents, friends, acquaintances at work (long term), bosses or intimate relationships. Please share this info everywhere! 💜💚💛 This video sounds like CPTSD in a nutshell~ The random cow mooing in the background diffuses this heavy topic 😅
After leaving my ex, my kids and I were playing and laughing, when my is said: "Mama we haven't heard you laugh this hard in a long time". I'm still healing.
Thank you Danish. I can relate with most of the points. I have a narcissitic MIL. She wants to control me and want her son and I to live with her. She controls both of us. I left that house with my children and live with my parents. My husband cant leave that house as he cant be a bad son, the thought instilled by my MIL. My husband is trying hard to move abroad and later call me and our kids there so that we can live together in peace. I hope it works out. When I left her house, my confidence was very low, still recovering. Recently she invited my parents for lunch and complained so many issues about me. She portrayed me a bad DIL, wife and mother. I hope I get rid of her completely and I live in peace with my husband and kids.
It’s a real fear. I remember being gifted a free laptop from my caring sister, and I had this fear that it would be destroyed. I accepted the gift, not even a month later the narcissistic destroyed my laptop.
I appreciate and respect your work. Consider adding to "parent, partner" person. These entities show up in many "roles" in people's lives People covers it all. Keep going. Your work is well done and valuable.
After the malignant psychopath narcissist passed away , I tried to move on to good things. There's absolutely no way I can ever have a relationship. Ever. He took everything from me. A year and a half later I'm still terrified of everything. The other day a friend invited me to a concert. My first thought was "oh my god I'm gonna be "'unalived" and never see my dogs again'!" But I was tortured every single day in every way possible.....
You're not alone so don't ever feel like you're some weirdo. You have completely normal reactions to being treated like subhuman filth while expected to be a superhuman. Myself, I'm still messed up after 8 years limited to no contact.
Jazak Allah Khair danish I have narc czns and father 😖untill my grade 8 my czns kept targeting me and then my father now I am in class 12 and I am even not able to give exams with full concentration bcz I have fear of failure 😢😢😢
I had one see me interacting with my young nieces and nephews. They were laughing and playing with me. The narc quickly swooped in to cause a problem that destroyed their good mood. I suppose he was jealous
8 mins in, yeah, the covert narcissist steals my social skills because every Christmas I would try to fit in and visit my family who lives far away, only for the car ride home to be complete living torture. It is a lot of work for the narcissist to put on the fake personality and they mercilessly torture the real person the whole trip home, so I am no longer speaking with family who are not to blame as well as inability to start new friendships or anything along those lines. Something like a shouting or argument is as close as it gets cause oftentimes I am targeted by bullies regardless in life.
Yes, it's all true. My late father was especially cruel, he enjoyed hurting people so much. The most horrific acts he did have left me with a wall in my heart. He knew I loved animals since I was not allowed to have friends. He killed my pet rabbit Snow ball when I was 6, he killed my pet girbles Blacky and Midnight when I was 9. When I was grown and much older he got a dog a beautiful black lab and named it Traxx after me when I had had braces. I later found out he had run over her and shot her. I was horrified. He knew I had always wanted a dog like her. I know his behavior was deliberate. He had threatened me that if I kept talking about his behaviour, he would shoot me. It has been a relief that he's passed. I still have trouble making friends; but I had my pet cockatiel for 18 years, then she passed from cancer in comfort at home with veterinary cere. I now have a one year old cockatiel and she's lovely.
I remember going to my sister-in-law birthday get together she was dancing and having so much fun and out of nowhere, her jealous narcissistic sister blurted out that her sister father m*lested her when they were kids! The sister who was enjoying her special day, broke down and cried and punched a wall the narcissistic sister laughed and told her to calm down when she was the one that caused all the chaos! so glad I am free of that family
At Xmas dinner my older overt coke head sis tried to convince my boyfriend I was sterile once I'd left the table, our kids are almost 30 now and I had too little problem getting pregnant, they see normal as something to f-up, she still calls but he's under strict orders to just hang up if she makes it past the machine, she's 70 and still at it, killed both husbands with pure meanness, she's written out of the will, she's such a loser only pure manipulation got her married to her dummies!
They love to ruin parties with these announcements. I see this in soaps all the time as they normalise this behaviour for narcissists and naive people to copy. That's why I often dread parties and meals out. I will only if I can get up and walk out at any time rather than having to rely on a list home.
They laugh because they have made the person react. I have had this done over and over to me and never understood it until now. It is so abusive. My older sister did it all the time to me. I never understood it was intentional.
@@faresalynch4978 I see that sort of nonsense in soaps on TV. They wait for a special occasion like a party or dinner on Christmas Day to confront someone or speak of a very intimate problem.
It's been 10 months since my narcissistic wife discarded me and walked out on our marriage, house and children. I have dealt with pretty much all these fears..... But the biggest ones are fear of social settings and fear of success. I'm terrified of receiving praise and I am terrified of achieving anything because of the danger that could come from it. It's been over 10 months.. it's just frustrating that these feelings won't go away.
Spot on with this episode. When my mother passed, my 50 year old divorced brother with three children (only one lived with him at mother's house) said, " I'm an orphan!". So sad. Sold furniture and other possessions to live.
Yes, yes to all seven phobias. I have copped the abuse for the last 55 years and he is still doing it. No, 7...the fear of freedom is so overwhelming, so I stay put and put up with all the #@!%!
Danish, this is the best video you've ever done. Every point you made described me perfectly. I am thankful for your work. It clarifies and validates my feelings. It helps me to see that it's not my fault that my life has been like it has. I thank you for that. It helps me to see that there is a way out of this nightmare. I only need to study it and apply myself. Thank you for your goodness and kindness. You are a life jacket for those of us who are drowning.👍👏
Indeed, is always your fault for everything and is your responsability for everything. Even paying bills, but on the other hands you dont do nothing, you are lazy and you become ugly too and good for nothing. Where they try their best and are so involved into the relationship. All they did they did for the relationship :))) in words not in actions.
My mother has killed my fish multiple times, she gave away my dog while I was out of town. Now she's trying to get rid of my cat because SHE let her out of the house 3 times and now my cat has fleas. I literally feel like I'm losing my mind! I moved 4 states away to get away from her. I lived in my car for 7 months, and my son begged me to come back, I am stuck 😢 maybe I my baby and me will live in a tent to get away from her. I don't know what to do 😭
@@denamorales3204 I am totally with you I am in a similar situation Stuck with narcissist parents, no support, feel trapped, unemployed cause learning difficulty and memory issues
Great and deep 🎉 as always, Danish. Thank you ❤ It's useful to check our progress in healing, as well: how many of these fears we still have and to which degree? I think the worst fear is the "fear of doing anything" , because their constant criticism paralizes in you every thought or instinct which could lead to any normal action, even the most insignificant. I found myself often stuck in a store incapable of buying anything because any choice of product I'd make will be wrong for this person. That paralisis is almost a panic attack. And this happens everyday several times for any kind of action is required from any circumstances.
Such sick bastards. When you know you have no skills and no parents to care for you , you start observing what works in the world. It is common practice for high class people to be inclusive of low class people as high class people think these low class can not harm them. These low class learn everything high class believes in, and practice that to become them. My narc was very smart in protecting himself. He made me tell his lower middle class people that I was looking for a relationship and not a provider. This way when he discards me no one will question or feel bad for my plight.
I believe you. Things like that have happened to me. One narc Ex called my doctor, my psychiatrist, told my doc he was sooooo concerned, that he thought I was suing illegal drugs. And he was the first psych doc I had liked and trusted in years.
Summary of the video (Powered by NEX, an AI tool which summarizes RUclips videos) Key Points： 1. [Key Point 1]: Narcissists instill fears like chirophobia, soteriophobia, and iophobia. 2. [Key Point 2]: Workshop offers healing strategies for narcissistic abuse survivors. 3. [Key Point 3]: Fears persist even after leaving the narcissist, impacting life aspects. Important Details: Here's the timeline 00:00:00 Introduction and Workshop Announcement • Danish introduces the topic and workshop. • Workshop helps understand and heal from narcissistic abuse. 00:00:37 Chirophobia • Narcissists instill fear of happiness through constant sadness. • Survivors struggle to experience happiness post-abuse. 00:02:46 Soteriophobia • Narcissists weaponize dependency, causing fear in survivors. • Fear impacts relationships and vulnerability post-abuse. 00:04:16 Iophobia • Narcissists set unrealistic expectations, causing failure fear. • Fear paralyzes survivors in their life choices. 00:05:43 Isolophobia • Narcissists punish with rejection, causing fear of abandonment. • Survivors struggle with leaving and fear being alone. 00:07:08 Sociophobia • Narcissists destroy social skills and self-esteem. • Survivors find social interactions difficult and draining. 00:09:13 Doop Phobia • Narcissists mix praise with judgment, causing discomfort. • Survivors feel uncomfortable with genuine praise. 00:11:11 Elhob • Survivors fear personal freedom after years of control. • Fear stems from lack of self-navigation skills post-abuse. 00:13:11 Conclusion and Workshop Invitation • Danish invites viewers to the workshop for healing. • Workshop teaches strategies to overcome narcissistic abuse fears.
This is the reason i can't go outside, and it's so Hard to live a life everyday, it's literally impossible to go outside of my home after all the abuse from her and her supporters.. 😢 Even they abused and tortured me so much via her psychic special abilities, it's a crime but they will never understand
Not only he told me I was destroying our relationship, but he told our children that “mommy is destroying our family!” Sick.. that was one of the point that I knew something was really wrong.. who says that to a kid?!
They see normal as something to f-up, you remember that stupid line cuz even back then you'd figured out how dumb that was! Mine saw any hardships on whatever (man, plant, animal) as deserved, that too often 1st thing which goes to my head, haven't heard dumb remark for over 40 yrs but still, I was sense that via people as I've evolved but sense it towards a tree or squished animal, still trying to shake it, my place a wildlife sanctuary and I majored in Sylviculture!😊
Yeah, my narc kept working on not making me smile. I kept smiling like an idiot and kept eating like a glutton. He was like I don’t know how to help u to adjust to me. Adjust here means I should feel worthless and hopeless and see him as a superior
I don’t know whether this provides solace. Misery needs company. So, they mold us. Infact 1 narc asked me do u realize you choose us. Till I realized the concept of empath I didn’t know I was at fault in choosing them. Eventhough I am not well informed no matter how broken they are they have to be good humans. I am great people like Danish are making an effort to slice and dice and able to label it to help us recognize them
Danish, I love your information and always learn more. I do have to say the children in the background is very distracting for me. I have ADHD and it's hard to focus as it is and hearing children yell makes me very triggered. I'm so glad you are outside though. It's nice to see the greenery and your beautiful face outside but maybe edit out the children and dad yelling.
@xDanishBashir0-r9s hi Danish, I hope I didn't offend you. I'm not very computer savvy. Can I get an email I can talk to you. I'm also interested in one on one with you. I would do webinar but I can't sit still for very long.
I was not sad because of the way he treated me, like his friends a relatives thought. I was sad because of the poor choice I made. I was sad realizing how stupid I was.
Thank you. I wondered why I felt all of these intensely for so many years during my time with a narcissist, yet I found it to increase after we divorced. I wonder why it is that way?
I just completed 11 years of going no contact. Even now when I wake up in the middle of the night instead of having happy thoughts I will be thinking about being criticized for idling or relaxing and keep myself occupied by trying to read or eat.
I have had people walk out on me when they thought I was good enough for them but not superior enough. I was not offended or stopped them. Why i didn’t walk out on Narc when he insisted that I think he is my superior. I should have said I don’t think u r superior and walked out. He was good enough for me so I stayed. I should not have. Cater to people or leave
Paralyzing phobias. Don’t get me started. Ask me how many demons I fought to get to Max Amini show in downtown Sacramento. At 4 pm o was having a personal conversation with God to talk me out of driving to downtown. Blaming traffic, downtown parking, when the real reason was EX telling me not to go anywhere that is fun. With a scowl in face I made it to downtown parking garage. Mum said no scowl only pleasantness. Mum has to wait till I resolve fighting ex’s demon telling me not to go anywhere. Well, I made it to parking garage. Crest theatre where the show is 10 min walk. I survived
My fault was being non-judgemental. I saw apart from his parents being illiterates no one liked them or came to their house. He himself had zero confidence in him apart from liking about education. Later I realized I was not non judgmental I was afraid to address.
I don’t know what is the right word to use funny or evil. Evil, I guess. He knew I was the kindest person around as I would never call people names. Apart from coming from a family with no social status and both his parents being illiterates he himself was not much. He will keep coming to my place. The girls I was with told me not to entertain him. Without any hangups, he kept on showing up at my door once he realized I am not saying a No and hoping he will go away realizing I am being kind. Later, he made it look like I am pursuing when he has no interest to nullify his behavior
Praising SoMeOnE in public that yOu happen tO abUse iN priVate iS > done to deceive the ones witnessing the praise into believing < That tHe relationship iS healthy & mutually BeneFicial. >
What should I do to get rid of my ugly and dangerous narc son !? He's always around, one day he says : OK I'm leaving the house, the next day he is in the house, my wife helplessly under his demonic claws as he slashes at her with pity and fake admiring of her because she is a tailoress that makes repairs for his own benefit, real miser in action when it comes to not spending for others while he can safely put money away for his self pleasures and bank account, talks shame on parents if we don't obey his desires to restrict and slow down on necessary goods like personal clothing and other personal goods that once bought, he can easily steal, get, and wear himself, never has paid bills in all his miserable wicked life for electricity or other consumer necessities (gasoline for the car) while living in the house, nor has he ever paid rent, real smart elic, don't know, how to get rid of him!?
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So true 😢 it's been more than a week now and I started therapy already
He left me in vein and anxious
Married to one for the past 19 years it's killing me slowly can't take it anymore,I need some one to talk 😭
Thank you so much for these videos they helped me so much!
@abigailclaudiadavids3849 please, get out of the marriage. I was with one for 25 years. It was death by a million cuts. We split 15 years ago and I'm still having to deal with the abuse, at 66 years old. I am financially destitute. He refused a reasonable support agreement. I have had no income for 2.5 years. If you divorce don't cut him any slack. I was advised to "take him for everything" but I didn't see myself being like that. It was the biggest mistake I have ever made. My best to you.
Yes, you can't be happy around them, they become jealous and they will definitely do something to stop you smiling.
They owe it to the family unit or your school or your co-workers, neighbours to at least be cordial instead they hurt everyone!
Absolutely true 😔
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May God protect all those suffering from narcissistic abuse. It inflicts unbearable pain and lasting damage. May He strengthen us and bring ease to our hearts.
Thank you so much for your kind words, my friend💚May your kindness of your heart return to you and bless you and your loved ones🙏
Thank you for your beautiful message! I wish the same for you. I have been in and out of therapy all my life. This time God led me to a Christian Therapist 8 years ago. I have been a Christian for years. So finding her was pure God! She has helped me understand and learn a lot; just as Danish has done. I am 64 years old and still have horrible nightmares always waking my family up screaming
various words. I still have a long way to go, but have also made a lot of progress. I have a remarkable, loving , supportive husband along with my adult children. Out of 3 other siblings, one of my brothers (14
months apart) had broken away too and helps me so much!
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My dad just died. I feel relieved that he can't spread vicious lies anymore. Shame killed him by a heart attack. I fell some anger over how easy it would have been to get along and help one another. I feel sad he is gone and we never made up.
I hope he finally repented to the Lord Jesus before he went. Maybe I'll see him on the other side and no sin is there so he would truly be a changed man. But lo, I fear he didn't and was hard headed to the very end. It pains me to think he might be below rather than above. That is horrendous suffering for eternity. I feel sorry for him if that's the case. Makes every vile and wicked thing he did seem nothing in comparison.
Amen and amen ❤
oh God, help me….
Another name for a Narcissist is a Sadist, proudly a survivor 🙌
Sadist is just a masochist, they try to fool themself.
He is so comforting to listening to . He is my favorite on the matter . I feel he really understands
Narcissists don't want you to be happy. They're jealous of their family when they're happy. To stop it, they'll create trouble. Danish is so right about this.
Thanks. That explains a lot. Being jealous of positive states of mind in others and any kind of outstanding abilities including talent in non-traditional gender roles is the only way I can explain the trouble making going on in first marriage.
Friggin bored 💩-less souls who'd rather make stuff up than encourage and keep the peace ✌!
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And they give you these phobias with 100% intention.
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They create SELF BONDAGE
@@janiced.hatcher1272 Absolutely
@@rahulm2827 💯 Truth!!
They do. It took me a LONG time to realize it was on purpose and not just a mistake
I don't want to be social or communicate with people anymore. He broke my spirit.😢
I think it could be exhaustion. I feel like that too. I am not sure if I will get over it but I know I am beyond mentally exhausted and stunned. I think that takes time to get over and it is hard to assess damage, so to speak, until people are rested and land. It is too traumatic to judge while still reeling, IMHO.
He left me in pain and a state of anxiety and low self esteem
I realized yesterday, that I don't know how to be happy. Happiness= danger, cus I am waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Yes, this is why I don't trust anyone, cus everything is always responsible for everything, but it's never enough.
I am trying to be perfect because I fear abandoned. But obviously doesn't work. Sadly even people who aren't not narcissist, have done this as well...
I'm afraid of people again... I'm exhausted of being, behaving the way everyone else needs me to be, to be exhausted.
And yes, I don't know how to earn money cus I never seem to be the right way even in job interviews...
I have always craved freedom, but it scares me... I am overwhelmed with all the responsibility of figuring it all out...
I'm so traumatized my nervoussystem literally shuts down do to this
This is crazy how accurate all your examples are.
I have had all of these. The amazing thing is that you see these things. You are stronger than you know.
Yeah, spot on. I can’t and never want to experience happiness. Yeah my brain says someone will take it away
This
They destroy your identity.😢
I keep thinking of a term I have heard called Soul Crusher.
Mine died last year, I have gotten a job, but you are right, fear of freedom is real.. I tend to shut down when I get home. I'm slowly working through it, but it is very real!
I am going through that now. I think I am better of not visiting him (dad narc) now he’s terminal. What do you think? My sister thinks differently.
@@marjet2228 I think you know what's best for you. Don't let anyone push you to do stuff you don't want to do.
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Thank you. I’ve worked very long and hard to process it all. I don’t think it’ll do me any good. I don’t trust him one bit.
A narc never changes. There is nothing that could possibly repair what he has done.
@DanishBashir0 I understand yoyr remark. Mostvof us (me too) use a pseudonym. To me it’s very helpful to read the comments.
@DanishBashir0 how?
Don't let the narc rob you and the world of your talents and skills. Build, create, and heal unlike the narc's kill, steal, and destroy.
31 years living in a Narcissistic prison and freedom is a difficult thing to enjoy.
Whenever we used to go out somewhere nice I was always happy and excited. He always used to drag my mood down by being miserable or saying negative things because he was jealous. Then once he'd extinguished my happiness, he would blame me for being miserable and ruining his day!
Yep been there. Being happy just ramps up their abuse
@@puremaledark8305 It certainly does.
I realized my ex narc could never be happy for more than 48 hours...he had too many lies going on !!
Number 2:
OMG! Yes, that's me! The older I get as a single the more I notice how I'm rorn between wanting to find love and a deep fear of finding myself trapped with a narcissist!
Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective digitalinvestigate@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.
My ex used to say, he knew I was setting with him Bec previous to him I dated men who were more financially capable than he was. After yrs of trying to convince him I loved and chose him, I eventually said to him "yes I was setting with you, happy now?". He was shocked & I didn't in why since the response he was fishing for.
@UCNNT7fAuxoW0bjGYv7oFY8Q okay
😭 OH MY GOOOOD!
This is exactly 💯 the thing. I write down every once in a while, that I am afraid of happiness. That, when I am happy, something bad will happen afterwards. So I push the enjoyment away, not to experience the breakdown after this big joy.
"Accepting unhappiness as a constant companion"
I would unconsciously create sadness by myself to keep myself "safely" in this state of mind.
I was watching while letting the comment tab open.
Everything you say speaks so much about my soul state. Your videos are great!
The fear of freedom is one of the biggest topics!!!!
Mad respect to everyone out there who escaped from under the thumb and if can do that I believe in you! You can do all this other stuff. Say nice things to yourself because you deserve it and you should say it to you. Seek your own approval. I'm saying you but I mean me😊
Yes! I’m learning how to do that now!
Love it! Love it!! Love it!!! Deep sadness. After 10 years it started showing and people started saying talk it out to feel better. For real?
Thanks a lot Danish, for making everything clear
Wow. Wow. Wow. Everything is making perfect sense.
@@Olivia-Scott yes finally it makes sense.. which is huge gift coming out of the world
where up is down is up .
Yes!!
It’s intense. We are in this together. ☀️❤️
@@Olivia-Scott yes… TOGETHER, never alone again!!❤️❤️
@@Olivia-Scott years ago, someone told me to follow the bubbles!! Which way are the bubbles going? ..because they always rise to the surface… which are the great people going? Which are the great ideas going? Which way is going? This is how I learn to re-orient in the dark and cold below the surface.
First thing that happens is dread of what’s wrong today. How can I hid from him or shut down. Nothing ever right.
Every single thing you are saying is 100 percent my situation. I’m in counseling, I exercise.I go to church, I try to do good everyday . But deep down I’m suffering. I can’t heal properly. I have zero self esteem and self worth. I’m trying my best but I can’t heal these phobias.
The perception of threat is always there 😢 yes. And that feeds the feeling of being oversensitive.
The thoughts "I'm a bad person" and "I'm the problem" are a daily struggle. It's horrible to think they want us to be afraid. I guess it makes them feel powerful 😮💨
Absolutely true story of my life...I am not happy anymore always 😢 sad....
Once again it feels as if you are narrating the story of my life.
Me too. 😢
@@annjohnson8437 For the first time, I do not feel so alone. I really hope you are healed from whatever you encountered.
@@annjohnson8437 I always felt I was the only one.
This is a nightmare 😢
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It is other wordly
@@janiced.hatcher1272 Yes. Demonic?
There is Zero Compassion when they Hone In. JUST NOTHING. It is Scary.
I never thought that I would say this but I'm dealing with the symptoms of Narc abuse once again. I'm too old (63) and too tired for this nonsense! I'm living with my son and his wife is a screeching harridan who hates me. She acts accordingly. She has a twin, too. Her mother. I share a room and a bed with her. I'm getting out of here as soon as I can, because my son is beginning to act like them. 😢
😢that is very sad... God give you all the courage you need to love yourself enough to move on...
I am 60 and understand the pain. I am alone but feel like sort of Shell Shock but actually better because I am realizing it wasn't me and I am starting to decompress. I was nearly driven mad by Sisters and Brother and Others. It is difficult terrain at best but feels like a weight lifted realizing I am not to blame, at the very least, for most if not all. The Best of Luck. :)
We all need to pass on to the next generation what life taught us. My only advise is to the next generation is, never get comfortable with people who behave superior to you especially when u don’t respect them. Walk away from people who feel superior if u don’t like them or think much of them. Not worth the confidence
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How can you be happy being around them. You get really scared they are going to kill you!❤❤
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EMOTIONAL MALNUTRITION
There are different types and intensities of Narcissists. Not all Narcissists are physically abusive, nor will all be so controlling that one would fear for his/her life at their hand. BUT, those are the kind that a person MUST find a way to disappear from, leaving no trace nor trail for them to find you... and no hint that you are planning your exit ... the same way you would do if a person came through the front door of a school or business with a firearm.
@@shellyrubio3207 Make a decoy escape plan. Have them looking left when you go right. Leave trails for them to find that point the wrong direction.
Exactly
True.... That's My family....
Was told...wipe that smile of your face ..right now..😢😢
Dear Danish, every single word you are saying is a true gem and more helpful than I can express...Thank you so very much for your validation, information, support, understanding, help and encouragement...💎💎💎💎💎💎💎Blessings to you and everyone struggling with (the effects) of narcissistic abuse 🙏💙
Spot on every time
If you are in therapy for this type of issue, send this video to your therapist and take time to discuss these symptoms in great detail. Many times therapists minimize or invalidate these symptoms like character flaws we need to just "snap out" out of (for lack of better terms). This is what happens when you are around a narc, in any dynamic whether it's parents, friends, acquaintances at work (long term), bosses or intimate relationships. Please share this info everywhere! 💜💚💛
This video sounds like CPTSD in a nutshell~
The random cow mooing in the background diffuses this heavy topic 😅
They think you are just overreacting or you are actually to blame. It is like some Madness that spreads.
This is spot on, and sad ;(!
After leaving my ex, my kids and I were playing and laughing, when my is said: "Mama we haven't heard you laugh this hard in a long time". I'm still healing.
Exactly, everything is true
This is exactly my life as described here 💯 and i have living it for over decades 😔. I don’t know what to do, i can't function as a human being.
Thank you Danish. I can relate with most of the points. I have a narcissitic MIL. She wants to control me and want her son and I to live with her. She controls both of us. I left that house with my children and live with my parents. My husband cant leave that house as he cant be a bad son, the thought instilled by my MIL. My husband is trying hard to move abroad and later call me and our kids there so that we can live together in peace. I hope it works out. When I left her house, my confidence was very low, still recovering. Recently she invited my parents for lunch and complained so many issues about me. She portrayed me a bad DIL, wife and mother. I hope I get rid of her completely and I live in peace with my husband and kids.
It’s a real fear.
I remember being gifted a free laptop from my caring sister, and I had this fear that it would be destroyed. I accepted the gift, not even a month later the narcissistic destroyed my laptop.
Give to intentionally take, destroy as a subliminal message.
Yes, every word you talk is 100% true
I appreciate and respect your work. Consider adding to "parent, partner" person. These entities show up in many "roles" in people's lives
People covers it all.
Keep going. Your work is well done and valuable.
After the malignant psychopath narcissist passed away , I tried to move on to good things. There's absolutely no way I can ever have a relationship. Ever. He took everything from me. A year and a half later I'm still terrified of everything. The other day a friend invited me to a concert. My first thought was "oh my god I'm gonna be "'unalived" and never see my dogs again'!" But I was tortured every single day in every way possible.....
therapy therapy therapist…
You're not alone so don't ever feel like you're some weirdo. You have completely normal reactions to being treated like subhuman filth while expected to be a superhuman. Myself, I'm still messed up after 8 years limited to no contact.
😢 number one was/ is on point. They really do ruin happiness
Jazak Allah Khair danish I have narc czns and father 😖untill my grade 8 my czns kept targeting me and then my father now I am in class 12 and I am even not able to give exams with full concentration bcz I have fear of failure 😢😢😢
I had one see me interacting with my young nieces and nephews. They were laughing and playing with me. The narc quickly swooped in to cause a problem that destroyed their good mood. I suppose he was jealous
Geez, this is all ridiculously accurate.
8 mins in, yeah, the covert narcissist steals my social skills because every Christmas I would try to fit in and visit my family who lives far away, only for the car ride home to be complete living torture. It is a lot of work for the narcissist to put on the fake personality and they mercilessly torture the real person the whole trip home, so I am no longer speaking with family who are not to blame as well as inability to start new friendships or anything along those lines. Something like a shouting or argument is as close as it gets cause oftentimes I am targeted by bullies regardless in life.
make a plan to get out .. gain clarity… get stronger…
Yes, it's all true. My late father was especially cruel, he enjoyed hurting people so much. The most horrific acts he did have left me with a wall in my heart. He knew I loved animals since I was not allowed to have friends. He killed my pet rabbit Snow ball when I was 6, he killed my pet girbles Blacky and Midnight when I was 9. When I was grown and much older he got a dog a beautiful black lab and named it Traxx after me when I had had braces. I later found out he had run over her and shot her. I was horrified. He knew I had always wanted a dog like her. I know his behavior was deliberate. He had threatened me that if I kept talking about his behaviour, he would shoot me. It has been a relief that he's passed. I still have trouble making friends; but I had my pet cockatiel for 18 years, then she passed from cancer in comfort at home with veterinary cere. I now have a one year old cockatiel and she's lovely.
Watching this felt like i was talking about my mom. Its crazy how i could connect every single thing u said to my parents.
I remember going to my sister-in-law birthday get together she was dancing and having so much fun and out of nowhere, her jealous narcissistic sister blurted out that her sister father m*lested her when they were kids! The sister who was enjoying her special day, broke down and cried and punched a wall the narcissistic sister laughed and told her to calm down when she was the one that caused all the chaos! so glad I am free of that family
At Xmas dinner my older overt coke head sis tried to convince my boyfriend I was sterile once I'd left the table, our kids are almost 30 now and I had too little problem getting pregnant, they see normal as something to f-up, she still calls but he's under strict orders to just hang up if she makes it past the machine, she's 70 and still at it, killed both husbands with pure meanness, she's written out of the will, she's such a loser only pure manipulation got her married to her dummies!
They love to ruin parties with these announcements. I see this in soaps all the time as they normalise this behaviour for narcissists and naive people to copy. That's why I often dread parties and meals out. I will only if I can get up and walk out at any time rather than having to rely on a list home.
They laugh because they have made the person react. I have had this done over and over to me and never understood it until now. It is so abusive. My older sister did it all the time to me. I never understood it was intentional.
@@faresalynch4978 I see that sort of nonsense in soaps on TV. They wait for a special occasion like a party or dinner on Christmas Day to confront someone or speak of a very intimate problem.
It's been 10 months since my narcissistic wife discarded me and walked out on our marriage, house and children. I have dealt with pretty much all these fears..... But the biggest ones are fear of social settings and fear of success. I'm terrified of receiving praise and I am terrified of achieving anything because of the danger that could come from it. It's been over 10 months.. it's just frustrating that these feelings won't go away.
Spot on with this episode. When my mother passed, my 50 year old divorced brother with three children (only one lived with him at mother's house) said, " I'm an orphan!". So sad. Sold furniture and other possessions to live.
I wish I could afford the workshop, your work is amazing and so spot on...thank u for your videos❣️
Yes, yes to all seven phobias. I have copped the abuse for the last 55 years and he is still doing it. No, 7...the fear of freedom is so overwhelming, so I stay put and put up with all the #@!%!
Oh My God Just LEAVE! - it’s a demon in a skin suit- sleep in your car if you have to -JUST GET OUT!!!
I know how u feel - I went through it myself- u can heal yourself- The first step is leaving-
Danish, this is the best video you've ever done. Every point you made described me perfectly. I am thankful for your work. It clarifies and validates my feelings. It helps me to see that it's not my fault that my life has been like it has. I thank you for that. It helps me to see that there is a way out of this nightmare. I only need to study it and apply myself. Thank you for your goodness and kindness. You are a life jacket for those of us who are drowning.👍👏
One of the best channels about narcissistic abuse, I can't thank u enough Danish
Indeed, is always your fault for everything and is your responsability for everything. Even paying bills, but on the other hands you dont do nothing, you are lazy and you become ugly too and good for nothing. Where they try their best and are so involved into the relationship. All they did they did for the relationship :))) in words not in actions.
#3 around the 5 min mark, I said NEVER before you did. You are ON POINT!
My mother has killed my fish multiple times, she gave away my dog while I was out of town. Now she's trying to get rid of my cat because SHE let her out of the house 3 times and now my cat has fleas. I literally feel like I'm losing my mind! I moved 4 states away to get away from her. I lived in my car for 7 months, and my son begged me to come back, I am stuck 😢 maybe I my baby and me will live in a tent to get away from her. I don't know what to do 😭
Create an exit plan while staying with narcissist
@@piku8700 I thought I had done that moving to Arizona. It's hard when you have no help. I am a single mother on a fixed income.
@piku8700 I feel stuck, so overwhelmed and depressed, and no support. Not 1 person I can talk to, I only have God.
@@denamorales3204 I am totally with you
I am in a similar situation
Stuck with narcissist parents, no support, feel trapped, unemployed cause learning difficulty and memory issues
Please get your cat somewhere safe and protect her safety!!! She doesn't deserve to suffer, either!!
The last one is the most long lasting one... And the financial one generated from social phobia too...
Great and deep 🎉 as always, Danish. Thank you ❤ It's useful to check our progress in healing, as well: how many of these fears we still have and to which degree?
I think the worst fear is the "fear of doing anything" , because their constant criticism paralizes in you every thought or instinct which could lead to any normal action, even the most insignificant. I found myself often stuck in a store incapable of buying anything because any choice of product I'd make will be wrong for this person. That paralisis is almost a panic attack. And this happens everyday several times for any kind of action is required from any circumstances.
Me too.
💯💯💯So true, all of them exactly fit me. Thanks Danish❤
Absolute truth. U r incredible Mr.Danish. We really lv to watch yr videos....vry meaningful and realistic...thank u..
First, my father and then I repeated the pattern and married another narcissist. You perfectly describe everything I feel about myself.
your video was so helpful and insightful, thank you for your work All my previous years of therapy NEVER helped me and now I understand why.
You have helped me so much, thank you Danish! ❤
You have to use a lot of emotional restraint and have high tolerance to be around the narcassist.
ITS SELF BONDAGE,
That is so true.
Such sick bastards. When you know you have no skills and no parents to care for you , you start observing what works in the world. It is common practice for high class people to be inclusive of low class people as high class people think these low class can not harm them. These low class learn everything high class believes in, and practice that to become them. My narc was very smart in protecting himself. He made me tell his lower middle class people that I was looking for a relationship and not a provider. This way when he discards me no one will question or feel bad for my plight.
Hey! I like the peaceful outdoor background!!
I became paranoid my narc boss called my doctor after I quit.😬🙄 My spouse is like what?? I know!!! It sounds crazy but...🤔
I believe you. Things like that have happened to me. One narc Ex called my doctor, my psychiatrist, told my doc he was sooooo concerned, that he thought I was suing illegal drugs. And he was the first psych doc I had liked and trusted in years.
Excellent communication mr Danish. I M from chennai, India
Summary of the video (Powered by NEX, an AI tool which summarizes RUclips videos)
Key Points：
1. [Key Point 1]: Narcissists instill fears like chirophobia, soteriophobia, and iophobia.
2. [Key Point 2]: Workshop offers healing strategies for narcissistic abuse survivors.
3. [Key Point 3]: Fears persist even after leaving the narcissist, impacting life aspects.
Important Details:
Here's the timeline
00:00:00 Introduction and Workshop Announcement
• Danish introduces the topic and workshop.
• Workshop helps understand and heal from narcissistic abuse.
00:00:37 Chirophobia
• Narcissists instill fear of happiness through constant sadness.
• Survivors struggle to experience happiness post-abuse.
00:02:46 Soteriophobia
• Narcissists weaponize dependency, causing fear in survivors.
• Fear impacts relationships and vulnerability post-abuse.
00:04:16 Iophobia
• Narcissists set unrealistic expectations, causing failure fear.
• Fear paralyzes survivors in their life choices.
00:05:43 Isolophobia
• Narcissists punish with rejection, causing fear of abandonment.
• Survivors struggle with leaving and fear being alone.
00:07:08 Sociophobia
• Narcissists destroy social skills and self-esteem.
• Survivors find social interactions difficult and draining.
00:09:13 Doop Phobia
• Narcissists mix praise with judgment, causing discomfort.
• Survivors feel uncomfortable with genuine praise.
00:11:11 Elhob
• Survivors fear personal freedom after years of control.
• Fear stems from lack of self-navigation skills post-abuse.
00:13:11 Conclusion and Workshop Invitation
• Danish invites viewers to the workshop for healing.
• Workshop teaches strategies to overcome narcissistic abuse fears.
This is the reason i can't go outside, and it's so Hard to live a life everyday, it's literally impossible to go outside of my home after all the abuse from her and her supporters.. 😢
Even they abused and tortured me so much via her psychic special abilities, it's a crime but they will never understand
I keep meeting one after another.
Sometimes when my mother would hear me laugh, she would say, laugh today cry tomorrow.
What a weird and terrible thing to say.. to anyone let alone a child😮 not ok
Not only he told me I was destroying our relationship, but he told our children that “mommy is destroying our family!” Sick.. that was one of the point that I knew something was really wrong.. who says that to a kid?!
They see normal as something to f-up, you remember that stupid line cuz even back then you'd figured out how dumb that was! Mine saw any hardships on whatever (man, plant, animal) as deserved, that too often 1st thing which goes to my head, haven't heard dumb remark for over 40 yrs but still, I was sense that via people as I've evolved but sense it towards a tree or squished animal, still trying to shake it, my place a wildlife sanctuary and I majored in Sylviculture!😊
Yess Danish.... very true!
Danish ,could you talk about getting rid of the fear of hurting the narc by leaving....this is really sick....thank you.
Yeah, my narc kept working on not making me smile. I kept smiling like an idiot and kept eating like a glutton. He was like I don’t know how to help u to adjust to me. Adjust here means I should feel worthless and hopeless and see him as a superior
I don’t know whether this provides solace. Misery needs company. So, they mold us. Infact 1 narc asked me do u realize you choose us. Till I realized the concept of empath I didn’t know I was at fault in choosing them. Eventhough I am not well informed no matter how broken they are they have to be good humans. I am great people like Danish are making an effort to slice and dice and able to label it to help us recognize them
Very insightful ty!
Danish, I love your information and always learn more. I do have to say the children in the background is very distracting for me. I have ADHD and it's hard to focus as it is and hearing children yell makes me very triggered. I'm so glad you are outside though. It's nice to see the greenery and your beautiful face outside but maybe edit out the children and dad yelling.
@xDanishBashir0-r9s hi Danish, I hope I didn't offend you. I'm not very computer savvy. Can I get an email I can talk to you. I'm also interested in one on one with you. I would do webinar but I can't sit still for very long.
Thank you!🤗
I was not sad because of the way he treated me, like his friends a relatives thought. I was sad because of the poor choice I made. I was sad realizing how stupid I was.
Thank you. I wondered why I felt all of these intensely for so many years during my time with a narcissist, yet I found it to increase after we divorced. I wonder why it is that way?
Always enpointe!!!!
I just completed 11 years of going no contact. Even now when I wake up in the middle of the night instead of having happy thoughts I will be thinking about being criticized for idling or relaxing and keep myself occupied by trying to read or eat.
Just make more videos it helped me. ❤
I have had people walk out on me when they thought I was good enough for them but not superior enough. I was not offended or stopped them. Why i didn’t walk out on Narc when he insisted that I think he is my superior. I should have said I don’t think u r superior and walked out. He was good enough for me so I stayed. I should not have. Cater to people or leave
Paralyzing phobias. Don’t get me started. Ask me how many demons I fought to get to Max Amini show in downtown Sacramento. At 4 pm o was having a personal conversation with God to talk me out of driving to downtown. Blaming traffic, downtown parking, when the real reason was EX telling me not to go anywhere that is fun. With a scowl in face I made it to downtown parking garage. Mum said no scowl only pleasantness. Mum has to wait till I resolve fighting ex’s demon telling me not to go anywhere. Well, I made it to parking garage. Crest theatre where the show is 10 min walk. I survived
My fault was being non-judgemental. I saw apart from his parents being illiterates no one liked them or came to their house. He himself had zero confidence in him apart from liking about education. Later I realized I was not non judgmental I was afraid to address.
Is it possible for a narcissist to be a person who isn’t a jealous type but exhibits other behaviors of a narcissist??!
I don’t know what is the right word to use funny or evil. Evil, I guess. He knew I was the kindest person around as I would never call people names. Apart from coming from a family with no social status and both his parents being illiterates he himself was not much. He will keep coming to my place. The girls I was with told me not to entertain him. Without any hangups, he kept on showing up at my door once he realized I am not saying a No and hoping he will go away realizing I am being kind. Later, he made it look like I am pursuing when he has no interest to nullify his behavior
Praising SoMeOnE in public that yOu happen tO abUse iN priVate iS >
done to deceive the ones witnessing the praise into believing <
That tHe relationship iS healthy & mutually BeneFicial. >
narssisist have unlimited freedom that is why they choose narssisum over right and wrong..
What should I do to get rid of my ugly and dangerous narc son !? He's always around, one day he says : OK I'm leaving the house, the next day he is in the house, my wife helplessly under his demonic claws as he slashes at her with pity and fake admiring of her because she is a tailoress that makes repairs for his own benefit, real miser in action when it comes to not spending for others while he can safely put money away for his self pleasures and bank account, talks shame on parents if we don't obey his desires to restrict and slow down on necessary goods like personal clothing and other personal goods that once bought, he can easily steal, get, and wear himself, never has paid bills in all his miserable wicked life for electricity or other consumer necessities (gasoline for the car) while living in the house, nor has he ever paid rent, real smart elic, don't know, how to get rid of him!?
Is this real or m I just being sold something based on feelings? Let me guess this is a sign of narcissistic trauma as well 😔🤷♂️
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