Hopefully her daughter at least feels a bit less alone. I hope she's seen some of these videos and seen the validation- because we all see RIGHT through her bonkers egg donor.
Telling your kid "I'm sorry" takes a LOT less effort than a whole series of videos like this. I'm also willing to bet she's been a hater to her own kids for their whole lives.
Yes these women are often in competition with their daughters. Otherwise they May be looking to live vicariously through them. Looking back at her original video wearing the yoga pants walking away from the camera at butt level for example. Who the hell thinks to make a shot like that? There are several voyeuristic camera angles she takes of herself and it's to show that she's 'still got it.'
This person wants to be right, at all costs. That includes losing her daughter - as long as she is the star of her own story be it a victim, martyr or hero.
It’s funny, because I’ve always known I wasn’t the abusive one in my friendships/relationships because I can swallow my pride and calm the heck down and apologize. Or at least not fight if you’re handling a narc (I don’t feed the narc’s ego they get so angry at just passive “sure” “alright” “if you want to think that” when they’re baiting). But when I’ve been in arguments with people who _grew up_ with the 1950s version of Diane, so non-narcs pick up narcissistic tendencies just from trying to survive, I don’t turn around and walk out because I do care and I care more about the person who I know cares about me, than I care about my ego. The hard one is when it’s not about my ego, but accidentally hit a trigger point that their response basically is my own button to push, and my physical disabilities and pain make it so my tolerance most days is below the floor. And no one, narc or not, likes it when I point out that as someone who needs mobility help, I am trapped with whomever I am living with which puts me at an extremely high chance for all sorts of ab^s^, which in my case has always been verbal until it gets to me being “lazy” (ah yes, lazy, because my bones are malformed) and then the non-narcissistic family bemoans how they wish they’d beaten me because then I’d do it. Which is wild. And also makes me think “nah man, I’d be terrified as a child and would have done anything, medical issues or not, to find a safer place to live where my physical disabilities couldn’t be used as reason to not run away or drive away.” And that does sort of reset anyone who is only doing narc behaviors, but isn’t one themselves. Especially in context of “if I had a bf who said that to me would you recommend I keep dating him?” (Answer is “no that’s toxic!” and then we can have a reasonable conversation after it’s reframed.)
You mentioned all the people on her channel saying, "Write them out of your will!". That right there is the issue---total vindictiveness. A healthy parent would never even think of that
It’s the unspoken agreement to these kind of people. They brought you into this world (and didn’t take you out even though they threatened to!) and you owe them. In return , you get granted some goodies in the will. 😢
Also, yeah, if you hate your children and they want nothing from you, write them out of your will. They don't want your money. They wanted your love. You didn't give them love, so now it's just over. Taking away your money won't hurt. Not loving your children is what hurt them. Damage is already done. Congratulations. Pat yourselves on the back.
I've had a few people make the "I hope your parents write you out of their will" comment to me, and it falls completely flat. One reason is the reason you give. The other is that my parents are both irresponsible children without a dime to their names. Indeed, one of the reasons I finally cut contact with my mother was her unending financial abuse of ME.
Exactly! So many emotionally distant parents see parenthood as almost purely transactional. Like I don’t completely buy into the saying “money can’t buy happiness” but it’s not a substitute for human and familial connection
Every day she practicing that smile. She thinks it's a perfect mask, but it generates discomfort (cringe) in the first second. My mother have the same smile. As a child I always seen it collapsing when the person who was the receiver of the smile moved out from my mother's line of sight. It requires a lot of energy from the narc to keep up this smile. After he/she turns the smile off, all that remains is an exhausted dead expression. That's when the void from the inside 'shines' as it is. "Shark smile" - I love the naming. So accurate! I know from a neighbor that - as my day of birth is coming - my mother tries to hoover. She can't realize that I have a real birthday counted from the day I managed to gain the *CONTROL* over myself.
If only she had "given permission" to her daughters to silly, authentic, to play, to explore, to be themselves...to feel loved. How generous of her to make money teaching other narcissists to love themselves more because it's too fricken hard for her to just love her daughters and support them. And no, Diane. If you're reading this, telling them you wish they'd be their "true selves" because you don't like this "fake exotic weird persona" is not supportive. "Your autism and ADHD and depression and anxiety diagnoses are fake!" is not supportive. "Don't talk like that. Don't dress like that. Don't do things that don't make money. Hey, they might be nice even though they're bald. She's an exotic cosplayer." NOT SUPPORTIVE. You never wanted them to be themselves. But now, you're giving yourself permission to be your authentic self. You never didn't have that permission from yourself, Diane. You've always been yourself. Give yourself permission to let others be themselves and to dare to open your mind to them and appreciate them as they are. You're worshipping the rut you're in, and it's painful to watch.
Hit the nail on the head. Kudos to her daughters for feeling strong enough in themselves to live authentically and openly despite her. My mom also wouldn't let me be myself and I still struggle with it even though she passed away 5 years ago. It's a rough thing to put your kid through.
She’s jealous of her daughter. Sickened that she couldn’t make her daughter a spiteful, ugly, evil, troll like her. Instead her daughter, which I have found, is thriving, gorgeous, and so beautiful inside and out and shares it with everyone. And to mention is so pure! Nothing like Diane’s sorry self
Their “love” is all transactional. Rather than unconditional. Everything comes with strings attached, at least that’s how it is with my dad. With my mom, it was all emotional manipulation. She passed this year, and I’m not all that sad about it.
I found out my mom had died online. She had passed a few years before I found her memorial. I had no idea. I thought I would feel a disturbance in the force when such evil left this realm. But alas. I spent a week telling everyone, "Great news!!! My mom died!!" Me: 🥳🤘😁 Them: 🤨🫣🤯 a few got it immediately and were so happy for me. It was a wild week. Glad she's gone and didn't post videos online like Diane. Holy hell.
Why does she sound so aggravated while listing the things she’s grateful for? I don’t think she’s grateful… she sounds more like she feels entitled to all those things.
It all also sounded like she's so grateful for everything as if it all fell into place specifically for her. The world is her oyster to be grateful for. "I'm grateful for this mountain in my view," like what???
"If your kid is estranged from you, just cry about it and let it go. They were never all that important anyways, right?" These people keep saying the quiet part out loud without even realizing it
My father wrote me a letter on his deathbed after 9 years of me cutting him off. I threw it in the garbage, never read it, just laughed. I never gave it a second thought until this. She doesn’t agree with therapy but then uses therapeutic methods like meditation and roleplay to “help heal estranged parents.” Do you know what it takes for a kid to cut off their parent? The tears, the confusion, the betrayal, the anger, the self-loathing and self-questioning, the mourning of bond that never existed, almost drove me insane. The day I left for the final time was the day I got my first taste of peace and I didn’t know what to do with it. I know what to do with it now, and that’s to protect it. Period.
My Mum held a faux funeral for me when I was 8 years old. Eight. Years. Old! She burned all my baby photos, and now I have none to pass on to my children. She did this funeral because I 'made her look like a bad parent.' Lol. That's one of the reasons at 41 I don't talk to her, haven't in more than a decade and she doesn't know her grandchildren.
Some toxic parents have a level of imagination that is beyond extraordinary! I'm so sorry for you, and I'm glad your children were spared that kind of individuals. No one deserves this.
The people that watch Diane's channel are just like Diane or just see her as a joke. The sad part is she is only doing these videos as a smear campaign against her daughter.
She is a monster but I do feel some admiration for her, she is like beyond horrible, it would take 20 regular awful people to reach this level of infuriating, Diane is as bad as getting stuck in a room with 20 awful people And then you realize someone had to grow up around her
What's insidious about this is she uses techniques and philosophies that targets of abuse NEED in order to heal FROM PTSD caused by abusers like her and the people watching her channel. Abusers will go to counseling in order to use good tools meant to heal and improve relationships/mental health as weapons against their targets.
This is very true. Mental health professionals who specialize in working with narcissists say that they can become even more dangerous after going to therapy. Because they have better tools to gaslight you with. Yikes.
Yes! And their targets sometimes encourage them to go to therapy thinking it will fix them. I had no idea that these kind of people do it on purpose and are unwilling to change.
5:20 I don’t have to imagine. My mother actually did write that letter. Only she actually sent it to me. It was my Christmas card one year. It came in a bright red envelope and I can’t remember what the actual card was but inside was a multiple page, typed (because I guess I wasn’t even worth the effort of hand writing) letter that mainly just talked about how she missed when I was an infant and fully relied on her and she could do anything to me without complaint. Thats the same year she showed up to my father’s house unannounced and spent like 20+ minutes banging on the front glass door. I spent that time curled in my bedroom having a panic attack that she’d be able to see me because I wasn’t allowed to close my door and you could see into my room from the front door
I had to google spiritual bypassing, thanks for introducing me to this idea. spiritual bypassing can be defined as a "tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks
The funniest part, to me, is that she was talking shit about therapy a few videos back and now she's suggesting it to people and taking ideas from modern therapy and using them in her videos. Fuckin' wild.
she unlisted the video where she goes on her anti work anti therapy racist rants and so i've been piecing it together from other channels but absolutely wild that in months she went from therapy is a scam designed to keep you in therapy to let me be your therapist
@Maximmmino narcissist are insane and have zero self-reflection abilities they think having self-reflection is saying nobody is perfect deny any criticism of what they do.
I hate this woman so much. I went no contact with my parents a year ago when I turned 51. I also have 2 grown daughters who I parented terribly when they were kids. I have a very close relationship with both of them. You know why!? Because I humbled myself and have worked really hard to change my patterns of behavior.
Girl, let me congratulate you. I did the work too and it involved a lot of therapy and a lot of self acknowledgment. It's so hard to accept that we weren't the best parents. I hear you, I acknowledge you and I'm very proud of you and your family.
It’s really difficult to be a parent when you never learned from a good role Model. I’m right there with you. I have two very young daughters and I have to constantly check myself and apologize when I’m wrong. It’s hard to break the cycle when that’s alll you’ve known.
@66katemom thank you so much. Yesterday, I went to visit my daughter and grandkids (about an hour drive from where I live)....my sweet little granddaughter (almost 3) just adores me....I can't imagine life without her, and I'm so grateful her mother forgave me, and I can show up for all of them and be a rock solid foundation of love and acceptance. Bravo to you, as well, for doing the HARD work!
She researchers self-help to make her content but she is *NOT* a professional and should *NOT* be presenting herself as a professional which her content implies to the unsuspecting viewer.
And she truly hates therapy and these are things done in therapy. By a professional. This woman can't figure out what it is she likes and doesn't like.
Your Imagined Letter is EXACTLY the WEIRD TWISTED STUFF OF NARCISSISTIC PARENTS. Abusive Detached Mother Becomes Life Coach - - That Should Be the Subtitle Under All of Diane's Videos. How to maintain your own victimhood while getting the attention and giving advice to others. She is the Poster Mom for Appropriation of Self Help to Dole Out the Air of Mastery Over The Pain She Has For Driving Away Her Daughters. Sad and Dangerous Woman - Partners Like This Are Called Malignant - - She is such a negatively motivated being - - I pray her daughters stay strong and get the validation and respect they deserve and desire from their chosen significant others and communities.
I mean, she doesn't have kids to boss around anymore so she needs new targets. The internet provides. "If I can't be my daughter's abusive mom, I'll be everyone else's!!" Awesomesauce, Diane.
I saw a meme on Pinterest which replied to the classic "I give you food, clothing, and shelter" slam with something like "Congratulations; you did the bare minimum required by law. Do you want a medal?"
I think i realized this when she talked about visiting her second daughter at the monastery prior to their estrangement and diane said something like they ask you questions and unlike everyone else they actually listen not realizing that she herself was someone who didn't listen and just wanted to talk
“We did our best” is such an obvious cope/rejection of the idea that you should care (or even know about) what your kids actually want and need… they think there’s just a checklist of how to do parenting, and it’s never specific to who their child is as a person.
See also: the use of past tense. She could continue doing her best (not that I believe she actually did) by actually working on herself but instead it's "welp. did all I could!" She chose to throw up her hands and play victim as if she couldn't do real reflection and grow as a person.
This is all just advice on “how to mentally detach from my bad feelings and continue to believe I’m a great person.” How is this any different from how they have always been!? Self-focused, dissociated, delusional, entitled, and going about life like your kids don’t exist.
I went NC in 1998. People told me that I would "be sorry when she was gone," that "you only get one mom," etc. etc. ad nauseum. Fact is, when she passed in 2017, all I felt was a little sad, and a HUGE relief. I had been subconsciously expecting one of her degrading, love bombing ambushes at any time. Afraid that she would track me down at my public service job and grab me and start yelling about how much she'd missed me and how awful I'd been to leave her. When I heard through relatives that she'd passed, they took the time to tell me about how she'd "seen" me in her hospital room (I was 6 states away at the time). I hadn't spoken to her in 19 years at the time. They never change. Just move on
I've Ben fully estranged from my dad for 7 years but I was low contact since I was about 20. I'm 49 now. It took this year when I explained fully all the heartbreak and rejection because she kept trying to tell me ill regret it. I don't. I'd regret getting back in contact.
My mom passed a year ago (malignant, Machiavellian narc) and I'm SO much happier and free. Thankfully I nor my son will ever be abused by her again. Such a relief indeed.
I think this comes down to her also wanting to compete with her daughter on social media. After all, the daughter has a somewhat popular ticktok/youtube. She wanted to outdo her daughter here as well. Another way to show she is "right."
What i got from her video is that she struggled with Motherhood daily & actively hated every minute of it. My Mother was the same, but the face she presented to others was a quiet, dutiful Stepford Wife.
The writing out of the will thing is so sad. Just imagine doing that because one child distanced herself while another child didn’t, and now imagine the first child was sexually abused by dad and the second wasn’t. Obviously the first child did not deserve punishment for what they already suffered. Most cases of “disowning” offspring are not rooted in something so awful, but can be rooted in having treated a child very poorly in some way.
Two weeks before the entire family was to travel several states away, to attend my daughter's wedding, my estranged mother of 1.5 years, had an attorney send me via certified mail, documents removing me as Power of Attorney and from ALL MATTERS of Will and Trust. We are now 8 years estranged, and I'm finally appreciating peace within myself. It's always about money and control for them. Everything is a transaction with them. We are NOT the same.
The write them out of the will comments just don't understand how many kids who had to go no contact don't care about getting money/assets from a will. It gets brought up sometimes so I have thought on it a bit and legit I don't want anything when they pass. I rather not have any further contact and that includes something when they pass. But the boomers who kneejerk to that kind of reveal how transactional the relationship is.
My mom will be shocked to learn i want nothing from her. I've been donating/throwing out things she gave me in the past because i just get triggered and think about all the nasty things she said/did to me, rather than seeing a cute necklace or whatever. It's got bad bad stuff attached to it, i want none of it lol
"We've spent time examining this from all sides" PSSSHHHHHHHH she never examined this from her daughter's perspective, in fact she actively avoided examining it from her daughter's perspective this entire time
Yes. In an early video she actually said she decided not to let in the things her daughter told her in her letter because it required "too much contrition." Diane isn't into that.
I made a very poor choice in partner when my youngest was 15. It severely affected our relationship. I now know that I was in an abusive relationship and was influenced negatively and that impacted my sweet daughter who prior to this relationship, was very close to me. I’ve apologized and tried to make amends over the years but I completely understand her estrangement from me and though, for HER happiness I hope she can someday forgive me, I also know that I failed her and broke her heart with my actions, so *I don’t deserve her forgiveness. It is my deepest regret in life. I miss her terribly even though she does still communicate, it’s on a basic level, she doesn’t let me in. I’m suffering the consequences of MY actions and I have to learn to live with it. I just want her happiness even if that means keeping her distance from me.
@@LoremLipsumz I know you say you apologized but have you ever actually taken accountability or was it just surface level "Sorry", I feel like that might make a big different in the relationship between you and her, atleast depending on how severe this persons detriment to her life was
@@ratdog6317I have taken accountability, I don’t try and excuse my behavior. It took me a while to deconstruct what happened to me and to them. I’ve told her all the things I wrote in the post except about being in an abusive relationship, since that just sounds like an excuse. I think she knows anyway. I’m an adult and should’ve listened and acted when she and her siblings told me they hated him and told me why. He wasn’t abusive to her or her siblings, but he actively worked to alienate me from them and I let him. I didn’t listen to them. I was being a huge pick-me. I’ve told her that I’m here when/if she needs to say what she needs to say to me and that I’d love to go to counseling with her if she ever wants to do that. She said she appreciated my words and will think about it. So that’s more than I really deserve. Sometimes we just have to suffer the consequences of our own actions. I make the effort to stay in communication with her but I don’t push her or guilt her, I just want her to find peace and healing from the trauma I inflicted on her. Before that relationship we were a tight knit group. I had been single for a decade, I didn’t date I was focused on being a good mom. It was a perfect storm situation, I was going through a depression, unemployed (2008 hit me hard as a single mom dad not paying child support for years) it was a rough time for me and this person took advantage of my vulnerability and exploited it. Still not an excuse. It just is what happened. What I let happen. I’m grateful she speaks to me at all honestly.
@@ratdog6317We can't know for sure but at least, in this public comment, there's more accountability than in Diane's videos and no guilt tripping of the child. Anyways, even if she had really taken accountability in front of her daughter, that doesn't mean the daughter has healed enough, or is ready enough for starting a new relationship with the mom. Nobody's perfect. She might even have other issues the mom doesn't know about and have no strength nor time to reconsider about her mom
The problem with Diane's giving of advice is that it's not about addressing the problem, it's about distracting yourself and how to more effectively outrun your guilt
atp i'm just glad she's grifting other people like her and validating people like her daughter who had to make the hard decision to walk away from the very people who were supposed to love them more than their ego but didn't.
I am very grateful Diane made this series of videos because it shows people who had healthy parents and fairly good childhood's a good slice of what a lot of us had to deal with. Especially in the aftermath when she tried to take down channels with copyright strikes, that was very telling to a lot of people
Threatening with writing out children from the will, because she wants them to have a relationship with her based of dependence on her and not based on love/mutual interest in actually being with one another. While I am not estranged, one of the best things I did was refusing gifts, making the person in question actually learning to behave somewhat, when money could'nt solve the issue. It's still complicated, but better now between us.
As somebody estranged from.a parent I want nothing from.them. however the act of cutting the child out of the will is a hateful act of vengeance from the parent and that is usually what estranged kids already think their parent thinks of them.
Before my stepmother died, she sent me a text to tell me she forgives me for all the hateful things I supposedly did to her, because it was stupid anyway. Wait, what now? She turned the entire family against me after SHE blocked ME on Facebook without a word to me about it. This entire victim routine and blocking me on FB came 2 weeks AFTER her granddaughter/my niece had blocked her on Facebook. She whined about how painful it was and said that her granddaughter wouldn’t be allowed to come to Thanksgiving if she didn’t add my Stepmom back and apologize to her!! My niece blocked her because of a comment my stepmom left on one of her pictures saying she was showing too much cleavage. I can’t even make this stuff up, you know?? But she only tells the half of the story that makes her look like the victim.
She joined a support group of other parents whose kids detached. So she's mining their experiences as well as her own and presenting the whole weird ball as being her own. I'm sure that the daughter wasn't nearly as dramatic as she makes out. But narcissists will always drop a relationship when it no longer fuels their narcissism
I sincerely think these "FRIENDS" she is talking about are other people from her channel - who already chose to accept everything she put out and say something positive about her. I sense that is the basis for who she calls friends. Community and connection - - the same. These are the people she attracted by posing as healing and wanting to help others. Likely she is spending time at spiritual places and yoga gatherings where everyone smiles at each other and is just nice on the surface. She is also obviously reading while she is speaking and again its a blueprint for trying to become a life coach - - poaching all this self help stuff from those she sees have been SUCCESSFUL - - the Other Charlatan Advise Givers like Toni Robbins. Had to pause many times during her pep talk - - its triggering me in its insincere - monotone - non emotion level contents - - It Hits Me Very PREACHY - - That is because I am a survivor of two very damaging familial and intimate partner narcissistic abuse relationships - - and I am emphatic - - So I Can See And Feel the Lack Of Truth In Her From Many Moons Away and Her Tone Is the SAME IN EVERY VIDEO - - It's FLAT. She Is FLAT INSIDE. Not Someone To Take Into Your Heart Mind or to Learn From.
It'd be really funny and ironic if she considers these online people her "friends" considering she got sooooo offended her daughter would supposedly replace her for people online. 💀💀💀
I have met many "healers" who learn coaching and mental health techniques and then use them and folks vulnerability to feed their own wounded egos. It can be dangerous for some of people who sincerely are trying to find help and do their self growth work. They end up being consumed by the psychological predators. The folks who continually hurt people are drawn to such communities for false validation, avoiding accountability and to avoid painful feelings that come from hurting people. Communities that form around women like Diane are as cannibalistic as they are.
I discovered the delightful gift to the universe that is Diane, several months ago. I have never heard someone articulate their level of narcissistic abuse so in such depth and still fail to realize that they are the perpetrator of the abuse.
You have to be a special kind of nutjob to hold a "living funeral" for your child that wants nothing to do with you. That's a slap in the face to parents whose kids actually died.
I tried to have a relationship with my mom, because my brother being disabled was at her mercy. I did not want him to bear her badmouthing me. I am very happy to receive my part of the inheritance. Mom was stingy, except concerning her cigarrettes and vodka. I had chronic laryngitis and I smelled terrible plus had panic attacks when she smoked in our car. When I was 7 I read about how dangerous smoking is and pleaded for her to stop. She did not until she needed extra oxygen and she already had lung cancer. I am relieved because she will never offer me her unwanted advice again.
I hope the one minute part at the end is Diane and her daughter coming on screen together saying it was a joke and they tricked the internet. And Diane comes out as gay.
absolutely painful to watch. i hate, hate, hate when toxic people appropriate mental health jargon and techniques to pander to their own vile behavior. it grosses me out so much.
@@Maximmmino and yet, there have been some lucky parents who despite the odds, did the work on themselves and eventually reconciled with their children.
I didn’t realize how rare it is for a dysfunctional parent to actually change because mine did. He genuinely apologized and worked to fix his mistakes. It’s so sad how rare that is.
When she smiles, I’m expecting her to hiss like a snake. The one gift I am grateful for having been surrounded by narcissism- is my ability to read people.
Literally the entire internet: “Diane, please just take personal accountability for your daughter going no contact” Diane: “UNIVERSITIES ARE TRANSGENDERING STUDENTS” Literally the entire internet: 🤦♀️
Let your tears water the seeds of happiness 😭 🌳 so that's how she waters her plants. Letting go of ever having to take accountability 😌 nothing is ever my fault. I am a victim of my children that both left me. Now I will teach you how to heal. Lol I can't take her seriously. No diane please don't smile 🙏 I don't need anymore nightmares.
It's been clear from the start that Diane's videos were never about informing the public, they've just been another passive-aggressive way to inflict emotional harm on her daughter remotely. The idea of sending her a "goodbye letter" is nothing more than retaliation. "Oh, you're going to cut ME off? Well, I'M cutting YOU off". Very mature. Not at all the kind of thing an unhinged narcissist would do. Just one more twist of the knife. Diane showed her whole hand in the very first video when she was smugly dismissive of the email her daughter had sent her, admitting she didn't respond to it because she just figured "she'd get over it". Every single thing Diane has said since has done nothing but make it very clear what a horrible person she is and why any self-respecting kid would cut her off. The only thing left for Diane's trajectory now is starring as the "psycho entitled Karen who thinks the law doesn't apply to her while she spits on the officer and resists arrest for DUI" on a police bodycam video.
She starts guiding you in what's called vipanassa which is a kind of mindfulness meditation. It's where you try to be fully in the present moment. You do this by focusing on your breath. That's what she says to do. THen she has you notice the sensations that come with the breath. This is all stuff when you're doing mindfulness meditation to be fully aware and present. Then she goes into a visualization meditation which is a completely different animal. When you do a visualization meditation, you beging the medition by putting them into a hypnotic state. You don't tell people to focus. You don't want them fully aware and present. You tell them to relax over and over again so they're receptive to the imagery you're about to walk them through.
It's a video about how to mend your badly bruised ego because you cannot take any accountability. Step one: denial Step two: denial Step three: denial Now you can let it go.
There was a man in my church growing up whose parents/family held a literal funeral for him, going so far as to bury an empty coffin. All because he converted from the religion his family’s “insular, fanatical fundamentalist sect” was a part of to the “insular, fanatical fundamentalist sect” of my family’s religion. Learning such a possibility existed borderline traumatized my 4th grade brain
“Now all the white people are dancing,” You didn’t have to call me out like that 😭
They’re using the Cha Cha Slide against us! That’s uncalled for! Take it back now, y’all!
@@strawberrysangria1474 this made me laugh real good
He could have just easily got us with sing-saying "Sweet Caroline"
"Everybody clap your hands"
Me: 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Fr i even crossed my arms at the criss cross part 😭
This woman went from gaslighting her kids to gaslighting the whole internet ....
Hopefully her daughter at least feels a bit less alone. I hope she's seen some of these videos and seen the validation- because we all see RIGHT through her bonkers egg donor.
It’s like she’s running out of narcissistic supply
sort of like the evil queen. From just cursing snow white. To cursing the whole realm.
Telling your kid "I'm sorry" takes a LOT less effort than a whole series of videos like this. I'm also willing to bet she's been a hater to her own kids for their whole lives.
oh 100%
It takes courage and humility to apologize to your kids. That's what she lacks.
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Yes these women are often in competition with their daughters. Otherwise they May be looking to live vicariously through them. Looking back at her original video wearing the yoga pants walking away from the camera at butt level for example. Who the hell thinks to make a shot like that? There are several voyeuristic camera angles she takes of herself and it's to show that she's 'still got it.'
This person wants to be right, at all costs. That includes losing her daughter - as long as she is the star of her own story be it a victim, martyr or hero.
I’d like to say you’re right butttttt…Diane would be mad at me… Jk you’re so right. BITE ME DIANE!
honestly tragic
It’s funny, because I’ve always known I wasn’t the abusive one in my friendships/relationships because I can swallow my pride and calm the heck down and apologize. Or at least not fight if you’re handling a narc (I don’t feed the narc’s ego they get so angry at just passive “sure” “alright” “if you want to think that” when they’re baiting).
But when I’ve been in arguments with people who _grew up_ with the 1950s version of Diane, so non-narcs pick up narcissistic tendencies just from trying to survive, I don’t turn around and walk out because I do care and I care more about the person who I know cares about me, than I care about my ego.
The hard one is when it’s not about my ego, but accidentally hit a trigger point that their response basically is my own button to push, and my physical disabilities and pain make it so my tolerance most days is below the floor. And no one, narc or not, likes it when I point out that as someone who needs mobility help, I am trapped with whomever I am living with which puts me at an extremely high chance for all sorts of ab^s^, which in my case has always been verbal until it gets to me being “lazy” (ah yes, lazy, because my bones are malformed) and then the non-narcissistic family bemoans how they wish they’d beaten me because then I’d do it.
Which is wild. And also makes me think “nah man, I’d be terrified as a child and would have done anything, medical issues or not, to find a safer place to live where my physical disabilities couldn’t be used as reason to not run away or drive away.”
And that does sort of reset anyone who is only doing narc behaviors, but isn’t one themselves. Especially in context of “if I had a bf who said that to me would you recommend I keep dating him?” (Answer is “no that’s toxic!” and then we can have a reasonable conversation after it’s reframed.)
Exactly...those are the three characters in the Drama Triangle. Healthy people don't want to bounce around the triangle.
„Live, Laugh, love (myself)“
-Diane
this would be a very good wall poster
That is hilarious 😂
@@Maximmminoyes!
You mentioned all the people on her channel saying, "Write them out of your will!". That right there is the issue---total vindictiveness. A healthy parent would never even think of that
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great point
Both my parents have been threatening that to me since I was 10
It’s the unspoken agreement to these kind of people. They brought you into this world (and didn’t take you out even though they threatened to!) and you owe them. In return , you get granted some goodies in the will. 😢
I went no contact and that was the very first retaliation I got. I didn't intend it to be permanent, but that "revenge" sealed the deal for me.
Her hairdresser also hates her
😂😂😂😂 yep
Shoutout to her hairdresser doing karma's work 😂
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She went in and asked for the extreme Karen cut.
She probably uses a Flowbie. I’m not sure how it’s spelled.
I think Diane gives herself a little too much permission 🤦♀️
a lil too much 😭😭
Lol!
I was thinking: "If you'd have given your children the same permissions, you wouldn't be estranged by any of them."
Also, yeah, if you hate your children and they want nothing from you, write them out of your will. They don't want your money. They wanted your love. You didn't give them love, so now it's just over. Taking away your money won't hurt. Not loving your children is what hurt them. Damage is already done. Congratulations. Pat yourselves on the back.
THIS. I literally do not and never have wanted my mother’s money, she’s made me feel like a burden my entire life.
I've had a few people make the "I hope your parents write you out of their will" comment to me, and it falls completely flat. One reason is the reason you give. The other is that my parents are both irresponsible children without a dime to their names. Indeed, one of the reasons I finally cut contact with my mother was her unending financial abuse of ME.
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Exactly! So many emotionally distant parents see parenthood as almost purely transactional. Like I don’t completely buy into the saying “money can’t buy happiness” but it’s not a substitute for human and familial connection
This is exactly how I feel!
Diane creeps me out when she smiles. There is something so sinister about her snarking and saying nice things that she doesn't believe in.
It is legit terrifying
Shark smile. My mommy dearest had the same. I also went no contact.
Every day she practicing that smile. She thinks it's a perfect mask, but it generates discomfort (cringe) in the first second.
My mother have the same smile.
As a child I always seen it collapsing when the person who was the receiver of the smile moved out from my mother's line of sight.
It requires a lot of energy from the narc to keep up this smile. After he/she turns the smile off, all that remains is an exhausted dead expression. That's when the void from the inside 'shines' as it is.
"Shark smile" - I love the naming. So accurate!
I know from a neighbor that - as my day of birth is coming - my mother tries to hoover. She can't realize that I have a real birthday counted from the day I managed to gain the *CONTROL* over myself.
She has the same smirk and cruel eyes as Lady Tremaine from Cinderella. Those animators knew what a narcissist looks like.
You are right.
She snarks.
If only she had "given permission" to her daughters to silly, authentic, to play, to explore, to be themselves...to feel loved. How generous of her to make money teaching other narcissists to love themselves more because it's too fricken hard for her to just love her daughters and support them. And no, Diane. If you're reading this, telling them you wish they'd be their "true selves" because you don't like this "fake exotic weird persona" is not supportive. "Your autism and ADHD and depression and anxiety diagnoses are fake!" is not supportive. "Don't talk like that. Don't dress like that. Don't do things that don't make money. Hey, they might be nice even though they're bald. She's an exotic cosplayer." NOT SUPPORTIVE. You never wanted them to be themselves. But now, you're giving yourself permission to be your authentic self. You never didn't have that permission from yourself, Diane. You've always been yourself. Give yourself permission to let others be themselves and to dare to open your mind to them and appreciate them as they are. You're worshipping the rut you're in, and it's painful to watch.
"If only she had "given permission" to her daughters to silly, authentic, to play, to explore, to be themselves...to feel loved." hurt to read
@@Maximmminoouch in the soul.
OMG!!!! YES!!!! This makes SO MUCH SENSE!
Hit the nail on the head. Kudos to her daughters for feeling strong enough in themselves to live authentically and openly despite her. My mom also wouldn't let me be myself and I still struggle with it even though she passed away 5 years ago. It's a rough thing to put your kid through.
She’s jealous of her daughter. Sickened that she couldn’t make her daughter a spiteful, ugly, evil, troll like her. Instead her daughter, which I have found, is thriving, gorgeous, and so beautiful inside and out and shares it with everyone. And to mention is so pure! Nothing like Diane’s sorry self
Their “love” is all transactional. Rather than unconditional. Everything comes with strings attached, at least that’s how it is with my dad. With my mom, it was all emotional manipulation. She passed this year, and I’m not all that sad about it.
I'm glad that you are not sad.
You are genuine.
That makes you superb.
I found out my mom had died online. She had passed a few years before I found her memorial. I had no idea. I thought I would feel a disturbance in the force when such evil left this realm. But alas. I spent a week telling everyone, "Great news!!! My mom died!!" Me: 🥳🤘😁 Them: 🤨🫣🤯 a few got it immediately and were so happy for me. It was a wild week. Glad she's gone and didn't post videos online like Diane. Holy hell.
And as we know it it's transactional, it's never been love.
Why does she sound so aggravated while listing the things she’s grateful for? I don’t think she’s grateful… she sounds more like she feels entitled to all those things.
i was terrified i don't wanna be yelled at in my own home
It all also sounded like she's so grateful for everything as if it all fell into place specifically for her. The world is her oyster to be grateful for.
"I'm grateful for this mountain in my view," like what???
When she was talking about smiling it was the most angry sneer that shined through. She's miserable
She is so angry and only acting like she's letting go. I doubt she has let anything go in her life.
My mom always said to let people talk, they will tell you exactly who they are and if they're fake they're slip will show.
Her daughter shows incredible restraint by refusing to respond to any of her mother's videos with a video of her own telling her side of the story.
There is one small short
@@Sarah-with-an-H on YT? what did she say?
SNL needs to do a skit in this woman. Yikes! Did you give your daughter permission to be herself?
I give myself permission to laugh
at Diane
she would not take this well
Funny
"If your kid is estranged from you, just cry about it and let it go. They were never all that important anyways, right?"
These people keep saying the quiet part out loud without even realizing it
My father wrote me a letter on his deathbed after 9 years of me cutting him off. I threw it in the garbage, never read it, just laughed. I never gave it a second thought until this.
She doesn’t agree with therapy but then uses therapeutic methods like meditation and roleplay to “help heal estranged parents.”
Do you know what it takes for a kid to cut off their parent? The tears, the confusion, the betrayal, the anger, the self-loathing and self-questioning, the mourning of bond that never existed, almost drove me insane. The day I left for the final time was the day I got my first taste of peace and I didn’t know what to do with it.
I know what to do with it now, and that’s to protect it. Period.
Imagine being creepy Diane's kid and you're trying to talk to her about your feelings and she's just maniacally smiling at you. She's nuts.
Her poor child.
Yea toxic positivity doesn't help, and pretending to smile is probably what she does constantly to cover her festering projected anger at her daughter
She can’t disguise her sneering contempt no matter how hard she tries
Diane is a master spiritual bypasser.
@@GoldBerryTarot Yes! It is so contemptuous.
My Mum held a faux funeral for me when I was 8 years old. Eight. Years. Old! She burned all my baby photos, and now I have none to pass on to my children. She did this funeral because I 'made her look like a bad parent.' Lol. That's one of the reasons at 41 I don't talk to her, haven't in more than a decade and she doesn't know her grandchildren.
That is wild to hear
Sorry you don't have those pictures
I hope you took so many pics of your kids
I'm so sorry.....
That is incredibly awful 😞
You did your grandkids a great service by keeping them away.
That is gut wrenching. I am so sorry and wish you peace of mind and heart❤
Some toxic parents have a level of imagination that is beyond extraordinary! I'm so sorry for you, and I'm glad your children were spared that kind of individuals. No one deserves this.
The people that watch Diane's channel are just like Diane or just see her as a joke. The sad part is she is only doing these videos as a smear campaign against her daughter.
She is a monster but I do feel some admiration for her, she is like beyond horrible, it would take 20 regular awful people to reach this level of infuriating, Diane is as bad as getting stuck in a room with 20 awful people
And then you realize someone had to grow up around her
What's insidious about this is she uses techniques and philosophies that targets of abuse NEED in order to heal FROM PTSD caused by abusers like her and the people watching her channel. Abusers will go to counseling in order to use good tools meant to heal and improve relationships/mental health as weapons against their targets.
Exactly.
This is very true. Mental health professionals who specialize in working with narcissists say that they can become even more dangerous after going to therapy. Because they have better tools to gaslight you with. Yikes.
Yes! And their targets sometimes encourage them to go to therapy thinking it will fix them. I had no idea that these kind of people do it on purpose and are unwilling to change.
Right?! After all the sh*t she talked about therapy.
5:20 I don’t have to imagine. My mother actually did write that letter. Only she actually sent it to me. It was my Christmas card one year. It came in a bright red envelope and I can’t remember what the actual card was but inside was a multiple page, typed (because I guess I wasn’t even worth the effort of hand writing) letter that mainly just talked about how she missed when I was an infant and fully relied on her and she could do anything to me without complaint. Thats the same year she showed up to my father’s house unannounced and spent like 20+ minutes banging on the front glass door. I spent that time curled in my bedroom having a panic attack that she’d be able to see me because I wasn’t allowed to close my door and you could see into my room from the front door
Oh and the cherry on top is that I didn’t even cut her out. She kicked me out of her house for being trans.
That is all so awful i am so sorry you experienced any of that
@@Maximmminothanks. It’s been a long time since I’ve seen her but obviously some things take a long time to heal.
diane has all this grift money yet still shops at old navy
okay wait i like old navy 😭😭
@@Maximmmino they're fine i'm just talkin shit lol.
😅😅 I worked at Old Navy like 15 years ago, and the "old navy is cheap and basic" jokes NEVER get old 🤣🤣
And lets a demented goat cut her hair. Probably.
@@-norsecode- Perhaps the stylist can't help it no matter how skillful.
The spiritual bypassing is overwhelming lol
I cut out so much of her breathing exercise and still feel like there was too much
I had to google spiritual bypassing, thanks for introducing me to this idea.
spiritual bypassing can be defined as a "tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks
This is painful. When she says the affirmations she sounds like she’s on the verge of tears.
The funniest part, to me, is that she was talking shit about therapy a few videos back and now she's suggesting it to people and taking ideas from modern therapy and using them in her videos. Fuckin' wild.
she unlisted the video where she goes on her anti work anti therapy racist rants and so i've been piecing it together from other channels
but absolutely wild that in months she went from therapy is a scam designed to keep you in therapy to let me be your therapist
Everything is a scam until it's time for them to be involved in it 🙄
Narcissist only agree with therapy if THEY are the therapist 😂😂. Their minds are freaking twisted and sick
@Maximmmino narcissist are insane and have zero self-reflection abilities they think having self-reflection is saying nobody is perfect deny any criticism of what they do.
Write out of will is very r/endstagecapitalism thing too
There's no way its her last video. She gets narc supply from them.
I hate this woman so much. I went no contact with my parents a year ago when I turned 51. I also have 2 grown daughters who I parented terribly when they were kids. I have a very close relationship with both of them. You know why!? Because I humbled myself and have worked really hard to change my patterns of behavior.
Girl, let me congratulate you. I did the work too and it involved a lot of therapy and a lot of self acknowledgment. It's so hard to accept that we weren't the best parents. I hear you, I acknowledge you and I'm very proud of you and your family.
It’s really difficult to be a parent when you never learned from a good role
Model. I’m right there with you. I have two very young daughters and I have to constantly check myself and apologize when I’m wrong. It’s hard to break the cycle when that’s alll you’ve known.
@66katemom thank you so much. Yesterday, I went to visit my daughter and grandkids (about an hour drive from where I live)....my sweet little granddaughter (almost 3) just adores me....I can't imagine life without her, and I'm so grateful her mother forgave me, and I can show up for all of them and be a rock solid foundation of love and acceptance. Bravo to you, as well, for doing the HARD work!
She researchers self-help to make her content but she is *NOT* a professional and should *NOT* be presenting herself as a professional which her content implies to the unsuspecting viewer.
Yes 100%
And she truly hates therapy and these are things done in therapy. By a professional. This woman can't figure out what it is she likes and doesn't like.
IMAGINE BEING SUCH MANIPULATOR THAT U EVEN MANIPULATE YOURSELF INTO BELIEVING U MAKE NO MISTAKES, AND ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU LOL
lol your pfp
I think that pretty much sums up narcissism 😂
@@legoqueen2445 lol right
She slagged off therapy and blamed it for estranged children.
Now she’s a therapist herself 😂😂
Right?! She's so fugazi.
Your Imagined Letter is EXACTLY the WEIRD TWISTED STUFF OF NARCISSISTIC PARENTS. Abusive Detached Mother Becomes Life Coach - - That Should Be the Subtitle Under All of Diane's Videos. How to maintain your own victimhood while getting the attention and giving advice to others. She is the Poster Mom for Appropriation of Self Help to Dole Out the Air of Mastery Over The Pain She Has For Driving Away Her Daughters. Sad and Dangerous Woman - Partners Like This Are Called Malignant - - She is such a negatively motivated being - - I pray her daughters stay strong and get the validation and respect they deserve and desire from their chosen significant others and communities.
i'm afraid she'd be proud of being called a life coach and ignore all the other words
@Maximmmino that's exactly correct
I mean, she doesn't have kids to boss around anymore so she needs new targets. The internet provides. "If I can't be my daughter's abusive mom, I'll be everyone else's!!" Awesomesauce, Diane.
I saw a meme on Pinterest which replied to the classic "I give you food, clothing, and shelter" slam with something like "Congratulations; you did the bare minimum required by law. Do you want a medal?"
okay but what if they say yes where do i get a medal 😭😭
Just like prison standards!
That’s what my dad said to me.
Diane wants to be the main character in someone else's story. If I found out I was the main character in my daughter's story, I'd be devastated
I think i realized this when she talked about visiting her second daughter at the monastery prior to their estrangement and diane said something like they ask you questions and unlike everyone else they actually listen not realizing that she herself was someone who didn't listen and just wanted to talk
“We did our best” is such an obvious cope/rejection of the idea that you should care (or even know about) what your kids actually want and need… they think there’s just a checklist of how to do parenting, and it’s never specific to who their child is as a person.
See also: the use of past tense.
She could continue doing her best (not that I believe she actually did) by actually working on herself but instead it's "welp. did all I could!" She chose to throw up her hands and play victim as if she couldn't do real reflection and grow as a person.
This is all just advice on “how to mentally detach from my bad feelings and continue to believe I’m a great person.” How is this any different from how they have always been!? Self-focused, dissociated, delusional, entitled, and going about life like your kids don’t exist.
Exactly this!
The irony is that my therapist told me to do the burning the letter thing for my narcissistic mother
I went NC in 1998. People told me that I would "be sorry when she was gone," that "you only get one mom," etc. etc. ad nauseum. Fact is, when she passed in 2017, all I felt was a little sad, and a HUGE relief.
I had been subconsciously expecting one of her degrading, love bombing ambushes at any time. Afraid that she would track me down at my public service job and grab me and start yelling about how much she'd missed me and how awful I'd been to leave her. When I heard through relatives that she'd passed, they took the time to tell me about how she'd "seen" me in her hospital room (I was 6 states away at the time). I hadn't spoken to her in 19 years at the time.
They never change. Just move on
I've Ben fully estranged from my dad for 7 years but I was low contact since I was about 20. I'm 49 now. It took this year when I explained fully all the heartbreak and rejection because she kept trying to tell me ill regret it. I don't. I'd regret getting back in contact.
My mom passed a year ago (malignant, Machiavellian narc) and I'm SO much happier and free. Thankfully I nor my son will ever be abused by her again. Such a relief indeed.
There's a reason Jeanette McCurdy titled her book "I'm Glad My Mom Died"
"you only get one mom"
Well if you can the mom I was promised instead of this abuser lmk
I think this comes down to her also wanting to compete with her daughter on social media. After all, the daughter has a somewhat popular ticktok/youtube. She wanted to outdo her daughter here as well. Another way to show she is "right."
What i got from her video is that she struggled with Motherhood daily & actively hated every minute of it. My Mother was the same, but the face she presented to others was a quiet, dutiful Stepford Wife.
The writing out of the will thing is so sad. Just imagine doing that because one child distanced herself while another child didn’t, and now imagine the first child was sexually abused by dad and the second wasn’t. Obviously the first child did not deserve punishment for what they already suffered. Most cases of “disowning” offspring are not rooted in something so awful, but can be rooted in having treated a child very poorly in some way.
I'm immediately distrustful to the parents who seek revenge as form of punishment
@@Maximmmino It's not even revenge. It's "so-and-so" has forfeited and does not deserve my "generosity."
So creepy where she calls husband/ father "Daddy-o" red flag
Two weeks before the entire family was to travel several states away, to attend my daughter's wedding, my estranged mother of 1.5 years, had an attorney send me via certified mail, documents removing me as Power of Attorney and from ALL MATTERS of Will and Trust. We are now 8 years estranged, and I'm finally appreciating peace within myself.
It's always about money and control for them. Everything is a transaction with them.
We are NOT the same.
The write them out of the will comments just don't understand how many kids who had to go no contact don't care about getting money/assets from a will. It gets brought up sometimes so I have thought on it a bit and legit I don't want anything when they pass. I rather not have any further contact and that includes something when they pass. But the boomers who kneejerk to that kind of reveal how transactional the relationship is.
My mom will be shocked to learn i want nothing from her. I've been donating/throwing out things she gave me in the past because i just get triggered and think about all the nasty things she said/did to me, rather than seeing a cute necklace or whatever. It's got bad bad stuff attached to it, i want none of it lol
And let's be real here, the boomers aren't saving anything for their kids. All will be spent. Empty threat.
1:37 / You’re not tripping she looks evil
yzma coded
@@MaximmminoYzma was way more fun!!❤
If we are gonna stoop to making fun of her looks...she kinda looks like roz from monsters inc...
@@WaffleDoge omg TOTALLY!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 oh geez I need to stop…but it’s so fun tearing apart these hideous characters…it’s very difficult to resist!!! Lol
@@MaximmminoYzma, Mother Gothel, Lady Tremaine, and the Evil Queen, all wrapped up in one sinister suburban package.
"We've spent time examining this from all sides" PSSSHHHHHHHH she never examined this from her daughter's perspective, in fact she actively avoided examining it from her daughter's perspective this entire time
Yes. In an early video she actually said she decided not to let in the things her daughter told her in her letter because it required "too much contrition." Diane isn't into that.
I made a very poor choice in partner when my youngest was 15. It severely affected our relationship.
I now know that I was in an abusive relationship and was influenced negatively and that impacted my sweet daughter who prior to this relationship, was very close to me.
I’ve apologized and tried to make amends over the years but I completely understand her estrangement from me and though, for HER happiness I hope she can someday forgive me, I also know that I failed her and broke her heart with my actions, so *I don’t deserve her forgiveness.
It is my deepest regret in life. I miss her terribly even though she does still communicate, it’s on a basic level, she doesn’t let me in.
I’m suffering the consequences of MY actions and I have to learn to live with it.
I just want her happiness even if that means keeping her distance from me.
@@LoremLipsumz I know you say you apologized but have you ever actually taken accountability or was it just surface level "Sorry", I feel like that might make a big different in the relationship between you and her, atleast depending on how severe this persons detriment to her life was
@@ratdog6317I have taken accountability, I don’t try and excuse my behavior. It took me a while to deconstruct what happened to me and to them. I’ve told her all the things I wrote in the post except about being in an abusive relationship, since that just sounds like an excuse. I think she knows anyway. I’m an adult and should’ve listened and acted when she and her siblings told me they hated him and told me why. He wasn’t abusive to her or her siblings, but he actively worked to alienate me from them and I let him. I didn’t listen to them. I was being a huge pick-me. I’ve told her that I’m here when/if she needs to say what she needs to say to me and that I’d love to go to counseling with her if she ever wants to do that. She said she appreciated my words and will think about it. So that’s more than I really deserve.
Sometimes we just have to suffer the consequences of our own actions. I make the effort to stay in communication with her but I don’t push her or guilt her, I just want her to find peace and healing from the trauma I inflicted on her.
Before that relationship we were a tight knit group. I had been single for a decade, I didn’t date I was focused on being a good mom. It was a perfect storm situation, I was going through a depression, unemployed (2008 hit me hard as a single mom dad not paying child support for years) it was a rough time for me and this person took advantage of my vulnerability and exploited it. Still not an excuse. It just is what happened. What I let happen.
I’m grateful she speaks to me at all honestly.
@@ratdog6317We can't know for sure but at least, in this public comment, there's more accountability than in Diane's videos and no guilt tripping of the child.
Anyways, even if she had really taken accountability in front of her daughter, that doesn't mean the daughter has healed enough, or is ready enough for starting a new relationship with the mom. Nobody's perfect. She might even have other issues the mom doesn't know about and have no strength nor time to reconsider about her mom
@@karllytskfk8471 True. Hopefully everything will work out somehow
Look up communal narcissism.
The problem with Diane's giving of advice is that it's not about addressing the problem, it's about distracting yourself and how to more effectively outrun your guilt
The way she repeats "I am thankful for..." and "I give myself permission..." makes me feel like I'm watching an elementary school powerpoint
3rd grade presentation on yourself 100%
hearing your takes on her gives me hope, thank you for your work
we're all in this together
atp i'm just glad she's grifting other people like her and validating people like her daughter who had to make the hard decision to walk away from the very people who were supposed to love them more than their ego but didn't.
I am very grateful Diane made this series of videos because it shows people who had healthy parents and fairly good childhood's a good slice of what a lot of us had to deal with. Especially in the aftermath when she tried to take down channels with copyright strikes, that was very telling to a lot of people
Threatening with writing out children from the will, because she wants them to have a relationship with her based of dependence on her and not based on love/mutual interest in actually being with one another.
While I am not estranged, one of the best things I did was refusing gifts, making the person in question actually learning to behave somewhat, when money could'nt solve the issue. It's still complicated, but better now between us.
As somebody estranged from.a parent I want nothing from.them. however the act of cutting the child out of the will is a hateful act of vengeance from the parent and that is usually what estranged kids already think their parent thinks of them.
When she said "smile," I was expecting the song from Joker. lol
THAT'S who she reminds me of! 😂 Thx! I couldn’t put my finger on it!😂
Hahahaha!
Unrepentant. Self righteous. Zero insight.
Also super tangential side note but LOOOOOOL at the super conservative Christian mom telling other parents to do literal witchcraft rituals 😂😂😂
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I agree
I like your name, epic.
Before my stepmother died, she sent me a text to tell me she forgives me for all the hateful things I supposedly did to her, because it was stupid anyway.
Wait, what now? She turned the entire family against me after SHE blocked ME on Facebook without a word to me about it.
This entire victim routine and blocking me on FB came 2 weeks AFTER her granddaughter/my niece had blocked her on Facebook. She whined about how painful it was and said that her granddaughter wouldn’t be allowed to come to Thanksgiving if she didn’t add my Stepmom back and apologize to her!!
My niece blocked her because of a comment my stepmom left on one of her pictures saying she was showing too much cleavage.
I can’t even make this stuff up, you know?? But she only tells the half of the story that makes her look like the victim.
She joined a support group of other parents whose kids detached. So she's mining their experiences as well as her own and presenting the whole weird ball as being her own. I'm sure that the daughter wasn't nearly as dramatic as she makes out. But narcissists will always drop a relationship when it no longer fuels their narcissism
The words I could say in pure anger at this woman would get me arrested
I’m actually grateful that Diane made these videos , because she gives me (horrifying) insight into how the brains of these people work.
"Let your tears water the seeds of happiness"
Sounds like something Michael Scott would say 😅
I sincerely think these "FRIENDS" she is talking about are other people from her channel - who already chose to accept everything she put out and say something positive about her. I sense that is the basis for who she calls friends. Community and connection - - the same. These are the people she attracted by posing as healing and wanting to help others. Likely she is spending time at spiritual places and yoga gatherings where everyone smiles at each other and is just nice on the surface. She is also obviously reading while she is speaking and again its a blueprint for trying to become a life coach - - poaching all this self help stuff from those she sees have been SUCCESSFUL - - the Other Charlatan Advise Givers like Toni Robbins. Had to pause many times during her pep talk - - its triggering me in its insincere - monotone - non emotion level contents - - It Hits Me Very PREACHY - - That is because I am a survivor of two very damaging familial and intimate partner narcissistic abuse relationships - - and I am emphatic - - So I Can See And Feel the Lack Of Truth In Her From Many Moons Away and Her Tone Is the SAME IN EVERY VIDEO - - It's FLAT. She Is FLAT INSIDE. Not Someone To Take Into Your Heart Mind or to Learn From.
Exactly
The wild thing is she sounds a lot like the life coach ted interviewed
So
Full circle
It'd be really funny and ironic if she considers these online people her "friends" considering she got sooooo offended her daughter would supposedly replace her for people online. 💀💀💀
Yes exactly. You are very insightful.
I have met many "healers" who learn coaching and mental health techniques and then use them and folks vulnerability to feed their own wounded egos. It can be dangerous for some of people who sincerely are trying to find help and do their self growth work. They end up being consumed by the psychological predators. The folks who continually hurt people are drawn to such communities for false validation, avoiding accountability and to avoid painful feelings that come from hurting people. Communities that form around women like Diane are as cannibalistic as they are.
Its her hair. Her hair, permanent smirking face 😏 and on brand of an abusive person
I discovered the delightful gift to the universe that is Diane, several months ago. I have never heard someone articulate their level of narcissistic abuse so in such depth and still fail to realize that they are the perpetrator of the abuse.
You have to be a special kind of nutjob to hold a "living funeral" for your child that wants nothing to do with you. That's a slap in the face to parents whose kids actually died.
100%
I can't imagine having to be related to her and hear her say something like this
I never get tired of listening to people insult this snot.
There is no love in this woman.
I tried to have a relationship with my mom, because my brother being disabled was at her mercy. I did not want him to bear her badmouthing me. I am very happy to receive my part of the inheritance. Mom was stingy, except concerning her cigarrettes and vodka. I had chronic laryngitis and I smelled terrible plus had panic attacks when she smoked in our car. When I was 7 I read about how dangerous smoking is and pleaded for her to stop. She did not until she needed extra oxygen and she already had lung cancer. I am relieved because she will never offer me her unwanted advice again.
I hope the one minute part at the end is Diane and her daughter coming on screen together saying it was a joke and they tricked the internet. And Diane comes out as gay.
what a wild ride this would be
Her smile is sooo sour for real!
she is the METHOD ACTOR and the MONSTER
absolutely painful to watch. i hate, hate, hate when toxic people appropriate mental health jargon and techniques to pander to their own vile behavior. it grosses me out so much.
My parents told me that i would have to ask for their forgiveness if i want to reconnect! Manipulation!!! Not going to happen. Done means done!
You have to do the work on yourself if you want to really reconcile.
one day they'll get it
@@Maximmmino what did you mean by that?
@@rnbsteenstar I just mean that the parents will probably figure that out when it’s too late or not at all
@@Maximmmino and yet, there have been some lucky parents who despite the odds, did the work on themselves and eventually reconciled with their children.
Omg Diane please stop smiling, it’s creepy and not genuine.its like you’re auditioning for the horror film Smile
WOW!!!! True Narcissist. I feel so sorry for her daughter.
16:32 This woman is the epitome of “nice nasty.”
The way she smiles gives me the creeps and the ick.
When Diane talked about smiling I immediately thought of the Smile horror movie.
I didn’t realize how rare it is for a dysfunctional parent to actually change because mine did. He genuinely apologized and worked to fix his mistakes. It’s so sad how rare that is.
Mine too ❤
@@66katemomyou’re not fooling anyone with your bs act
@ you know who’s also stalking u? The CIA
Listening to Diane giving advice tells me everything need to know about why her children needed to leave her.
When she smiles, I’m expecting her to hiss like a snake. The one gift I am grateful for having been surrounded by narcissism- is my ability to read people.
Literally the entire internet: “Diane, please just take personal accountability for your daughter going no contact”
Diane: “UNIVERSITIES ARE TRANSGENDERING STUDENTS”
Literally the entire internet: 🤦♀️
Let your tears water the seeds of happiness 😭 🌳 so that's how she waters her plants.
Letting go of ever having to take accountability 😌 nothing is ever my fault. I am a victim of my children that both left me. Now I will teach you how to heal. Lol I can't take her seriously.
No diane please don't smile 🙏 I don't need anymore nightmares.
Salty water is no good for most plants…
@@lelduck6388 lol 🤣
Wow, I got this “funeral” letter from my mom a few years ago and didn’t even realize she was probably watching these videos. lol.
It is so gross how she has co-opted meditation just to feel right
It's been clear from the start that Diane's videos were never about informing the public, they've just been another passive-aggressive way to inflict emotional harm on her daughter remotely. The idea of sending her a "goodbye letter" is nothing more than retaliation. "Oh, you're going to cut ME off? Well, I'M cutting YOU off". Very mature. Not at all the kind of thing an unhinged narcissist would do. Just one more twist of the knife.
Diane showed her whole hand in the very first video when she was smugly dismissive of the email her daughter had sent her, admitting she didn't respond to it because she just figured "she'd get over it". Every single thing Diane has said since has done nothing but make it very clear what a horrible person she is and why any self-respecting kid would cut her off. The only thing left for Diane's trajectory now is starring as the "psycho entitled Karen who thinks the law doesn't apply to her while she spits on the officer and resists arrest for DUI" on a police bodycam video.
Good people do their best to stay away from that toxic trash with the name Diane 😂
Interesting the entire time she's talking about smiling she's sneering. Reading body language helps see what they are really thinking.
She starts guiding you in what's called vipanassa which is a kind of mindfulness meditation. It's where you try to be fully in the present moment. You do this by focusing on your breath. That's what she says to do. THen she has you notice the sensations that come with the breath. This is all stuff when you're doing mindfulness meditation to be fully aware and present. Then she goes into a visualization meditation which is a completely different animal. When you do a visualization meditation, you beging the medition by putting them into a hypnotic state. You don't tell people to focus. You don't want them fully aware and present. You tell them to relax over and over again so they're receptive to the imagery you're about to walk them through.
It's a video about how to mend your badly bruised ego because you cannot take any accountability.
Step one: denial
Step two: denial
Step three: denial
Now you can let it go.
I had to skip those affirmations. Can't take it.
i am very envious of the people that got to skip that part i had to watch it three times 😭😭
“Whose feet are those!?” Took me out 😂😭☠️
i wasn't ready 😭😭😭
she will NEVER get her daughter back.my gosh #selforphan
When I see This Is A Place Of Gathering floor mats and Live, Laugh, Love carved letters, I know I am in a snakepit.
There was a man in my church growing up whose parents/family held a literal funeral for him, going so far as to bury an empty coffin. All because he converted from the religion his family’s “insular, fanatical fundamentalist sect” was a part of to the “insular, fanatical fundamentalist sect” of my family’s religion.
Learning such a possibility existed borderline traumatized my 4th grade brain
I've heard of similar things in podcasts where people leave the church of lds or or cults what a wild time
Excommunication is a type of coercion, whether or not they knew it what they were doing was designed to scare you
great video, she sounds so much like my dying father. its fascinating how narcissism will manifest so similarly all over the world