How To Deal With A Messy Family Situation

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  • Опубликовано: 13 дек 2024

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  • @johnbriggs1038
    @johnbriggs1038 2 часа назад +21

    He wouldn't be invited to Thanksgiving or Christmas if he was part of my family. You don't get to take a good thing the parents did for their kids and turn it into a bad thing without consequences. The fact that he is actively ducking communication proves he knows what he is doing.

    • @Happypeacelovee
      @Happypeacelovee Час назад

      I think it's important to mention that the relationship is already strained he's completely ignoring them already so I'm sure he doesn't care if he's invited to Thanksgiving or Christmas

  • @kslucki
    @kslucki 2 часа назад +22

    I was lucky in that way. Years ago I pleaded with my parents to be specific in their will. Not to leave a problem in my lap, to have to go through court system and deal with my sibling, as we are like oil and water. They were kind enough to listen and divided their assets equally between the two of us and no drama. Praise the Lord.

  • @dnorris4733
    @dnorris4733 4 часа назад +37

    My Grandparents deeded the family cabin to their 3 sons. SAME scenario! One brother got out quickly. One brother decided to live there, and my Dad and his brother ended up going to court. It was not a happy ending. I hope they have a happier ending. Moral of that story - never deed property to all of your children.

  • @deeanderson4686
    @deeanderson4686 3 часа назад +27

    Who is paying taxes and insurance?

  • @willelliott5052
    @willelliott5052 Час назад +7

    My wife is one of five siblings, and it appears that they will jointly inherit their surviving mother's house in Hawaii. I absolutely dread it. I think that it is rarely a good idea.

  • @willelliott5052
    @willelliott5052 Час назад +8

    Your brother has zero character, and is abusing you and your siblings. He traded your relationship for free rent. You all need to legally force the sale and be rid of this mess.

  • @silentnot4812
    @silentnot4812 3 часа назад +22

    He is probably trying to get the others to just give up their portion. What a mess over a $200k house.

  • @thegenxgamerr
    @thegenxgamerr 3 часа назад +5

    The sooner you can get out of this the better. I had a 3rd of an interest in a property with my siblings and as soon as the option became available to me I sold my 1/3 stake. Now I had no emotional attachment to this property (it was an uncles house), so I offered my siblings the opportunity to buy me out at market value and they took it. They still jointly own the property and rent it and split the income, and cost. I don't resent them, they don't resent me (from what I can tell). I took my proceeds and invested it and I am still making a good return. Get out of this ASAP, this has family mess written all over it just like my situation did. Good luck.

  • @Ryan_DeWitt
    @Ryan_DeWitt 4 часа назад +36

    If she goes the legal route, then a judge will likely just force the sale of the house.

    • @rachelfrank8647
      @rachelfrank8647 4 часа назад +6

      If any concessions or repairs are made for a sale to occur, that should come out of the past due "rent" owed by the one sibling up to the amount he owes.

    • @jimmymcgill6778
      @jimmymcgill6778 3 часа назад +2

      Or he buy's them out.

    • @ja1980lady
      @ja1980lady 2 часа назад +3

      Not a bad option. Otherwise he will keep this going forever

  • @taurusthebull76
    @taurusthebull76 2 часа назад +7

    Leaving behind a home to multiple off springs just sounds messy.

  • @cj90014
    @cj90014 3 часа назад +6

    It called a partition. File it with the Court, and it will order the property sold. It is simple.

  • @AuroraCardi-in9zt
    @AuroraCardi-in9zt 4 часа назад +16

    Sell the house and deduct what he owes from his portion of the sale. If his portion is zero, it is he fault!

    • @jimmymcgill6778
      @jimmymcgill6778 3 часа назад

      You cannot sell it without his permission too.

    • @hiteshadhikari
      @hiteshadhikari 3 часа назад +1

      Legal route, judge forces sale most likely ​@@jimmymcgill6778

    • @aao449
      @aao449 23 минуты назад

      ⁠A judge forcing a sale won’t need his permission.

    • @jimmymcgill6778
      @jimmymcgill6778 4 минуты назад

      @@aao449 ANd the sellers cannot just decide to sell them on their own.

  • @coderider3022
    @coderider3022 Час назад +3

    Court… force sale. Sad so many of these situations where 1 selfish person screws over other siblings and enabled by some parent etc

  • @AllinClay
    @AllinClay 45 минут назад +68

    Dude, I withdrew 3k USD from my Elizzarda account yesterday. You should tell your subscribers about it so they can earn too

  • @Happypeacelovee
    @Happypeacelovee Час назад +6

    The relationship is over either way.

  • @YanilleCastillo-sf4vb
    @YanilleCastillo-sf4vb 2 часа назад +9

    Moral of story is to leave a will well prepared don’t let it be a curse but a blessing

  • @joanclement6671
    @joanclement6671 4 часа назад +9

    Take him to court & the judge will force a sale.

  • @rmr24
    @rmr24 Час назад +2

    I believe it’s very difficult to evict someone in Texas, especially if their name is on the deed and there is no written agreement amongst the owners. Good luck.

  • @bellkatz9068
    @bellkatz9068 8 минут назад

    In his will, my husband's father gave his lake property to his four children. What a mess! Each was supposed to put some of the money they received from his IRAs into a fund to pay taxes & maintenance. One had to have his/her arm twisted to do this. One never contributed. One had their house repossessed, then moved into the lake house after the other 3 specifically told them not to. Eventually, the three had to threaten to sell the lake house to get the squatter sibling to move out. My husband and I bought out the other three, who all got a nice chunk of money. There were hard feelings for a time, but eventually love for family mended hearts.

  • @cyoohoos
    @cyoohoos 3 часа назад

    I want to:thank my therapist who helped me navigate a similar situation. All siblings were left the family home. I set up a 30, 90, 6 mo and one year plan. All were adults with independent lives and agreed to it. Within one year we sold the house and split the proceeds. Were there tense times, yes. Did we hurt feelings, yes. But to this day we are a family. And closer knit as a result

  • @lindawilson4625
    @lindawilson4625 Час назад +1

    Great advice. Sell! Geez...there's one in every family :-(

  • @cyoohoos
    @cyoohoos 3 часа назад +2

    As someone who wrote software for gift cards. It is a not the best use of your money. You’d be surprised how many people never use them, companies setup “expiration policies” to claim that money back and it is reported on the books as deferred revenue. You just donated your HARD EARNED $$$ to a major corporation. Give CASH.
    Don’t believe me… ask yourself …why is EVERY COMPANY now offering a gift card? When you see a display? It’s an interest free loan and most they never have to pay back.

  • @jasonrodgers9063
    @jasonrodgers9063 2 часа назад +5

    If they can force a sale, they NEED to deduct the deadbeat bother's 6 years of rent from his share!

    • @NickAndTech
      @NickAndTech Час назад

      Unless there was a written agreement about rent they can't deduct anything.

    • @jasonrodgers9063
      @jasonrodgers9063 Час назад

      @@NickAndTech Sometimes verbal agreements can be enforced in court (absent ANY written agreements) but it's not easy!

  • @BrianaBudgets
    @BrianaBudgets 17 минут назад

    Leaving one house to multiple people is stupid. Either pick one person or sell the house and divide the profit evenly.

  • @BradKandyCroftFamily
    @BradKandyCroftFamily Час назад +4

    All it takes is one selfish jerk to mess up a good thing.

  • @ja1980lady
    @ja1980lady 2 часа назад +2

    Sell it, split the proceeds except keep what he owes and split amongst the remaining siblings. Done.

  • @Sandy-of6gq
    @Sandy-of6gq 3 часа назад +2

    Omg I am in the same situation...

  • @queen.kristal8395
    @queen.kristal8395 4 часа назад +5

    Sell the house and split the money .hes not going to pay anything since it was inherit to him

  • @iii9266
    @iii9266 3 часа назад +2

    I'd wager, with him being military and not living on base, he's drawing BEQ allowance and is pocketing the money...

    • @alanlippincott2802
      @alanlippincott2802 Час назад +1

      Fax. He's collecting a fat entitlement on taxpayers dimes.

  • @itchyisvegeta
    @itchyisvegeta 3 часа назад +1

    If a judge force sales a house in a scenario like this, can one of the siblings simply buy the house during that force sale? Does that happen?

  • @1timothydillon
    @1timothydillon 2 часа назад +2

    Jade's not from there, she just works there. Tennessee will always be a place full of "you people".

  • @DFullerLisa
    @DFullerLisa 2 часа назад +1

    Something tells me he's the kid that the parents always bailed out and made excuses for.

  • @upforanadventure3039
    @upforanadventure3039 3 часа назад +2

    Have the brother pay the property tax/repairs and nothing else. Any of the siblings are allowed to live there. The parents did this so none of the children would ever be homeless.

  • @lauraellsworth1813
    @lauraellsworth1813 3 часа назад

    Haha Applebees...... I'm with Jade😂

  • @jaiazandapher
    @jaiazandapher 2 часа назад +1

    Or you all buy him out, and if he wants to stay, he'll pay $1000 a month for maintenance and profit amongst the NOW 3 OWNERS. If he's not cool with it, he needs to be out 30 days after the buyout.

  • @paulhathaway5907
    @paulhathaway5907 48 минут назад

    Get an attorney and force the sale. In an effort to save the relationship offer him first right to purchase

  • @TrazimDollare1982
    @TrazimDollare1982 2 часа назад +1

    Ken went to Red Lobster for Lunch

  • @RichardLeo-mf3zb
    @RichardLeo-mf3zb Час назад

    And when you sell the house, his share is 50K less the rent.

  • @listerinr
    @listerinr 3 часа назад

    The up speak with this one is strong ugh

  • @YanilleCastillo-sf4vb
    @YanilleCastillo-sf4vb 2 часа назад

    Olive garden even lol

  • @carlosmiro4932
    @carlosmiro4932 15 минут назад

    How is this an asset if nobody is paying rent and there is no revenue?

  • @TheEGA4421
    @TheEGA4421 2 часа назад

    Jade 🤭. I would have said "⭐bucks".

  • @godsdozer
    @godsdozer 3 часа назад +7

    fighting over 50K lol . Walk away and enjoy your life.

    • @jaunt3603
      @jaunt3603 3 часа назад +5

      For some that is a lot of money. Imagine having a 50k medical debt to pay off or a student loan.

  • @itchyisvegeta
    @itchyisvegeta 2 часа назад

    I would totally take an Applebees gift card.

  • @jimroscovius
    @jimroscovius 41 минуту назад

    I need to start this call over, and take a drink energy fine she says "like". I'll be drunk by the end.

  • @diceportz7107
    @diceportz7107 2 часа назад +1

    My Mom but the family home in a trust to be divided among 8 kids. Biggest nightmare. Do Not Ever do this to your kids. And can you imagine if one of us dies before the house is sold? Giving a clear title is a is tough under these circumstances.

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    @rustyburns1182 4 часа назад +5

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  • @IeldudeI
    @IeldudeI Час назад

    I like Applebees. I dont want to go to Applebees by myself.

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  • @pamelavesey6381
    @pamelavesey6381 Час назад

    Who is paying the taxes? Whoever pays the taxes, does the upkeep and inhabits the property for 10 years wins the deed.

  • @lms2379
    @lms2379 3 минуты назад

    Starting to wonder if dying broke is actually the better blessing for your children....

  • @IraDuncan
    @IraDuncan 3 часа назад +1

    J Alexanders is a good place.

  • @YanilleCastillo-sf4vb
    @YanilleCastillo-sf4vb 2 часа назад

    He needs realize u guys won’t tolerate his spirit of entitlement. My first step is to gather with siblings on your side and hire a lawyer . Better call Saul just kidding but advice serious 💯

  • @Yomine123
    @Yomine123 56 минут назад

    She can get her own gift card she's an adult. NO GIFT CArD FOR YOU!!!!!!!😮

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  • @JustinCase780
    @JustinCase780 3 часа назад +3

    Need to hear his side of the story. 😅

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  • @jimmymcgill6778
    @jimmymcgill6778 3 часа назад +1

    So he have lived there for 6 years. They don't talk to each other.
    How does she know that he did not do any repairs.
    He's paying the utilities, insurance and taxes.
    He own 25% of it. Why should he pay any rent?
    Ken thinks 50k is nothing?

    • @omnipi
      @omnipi 2 часа назад +3

      You are assuming he's paying all those ongoing costs. She says he did not make repairs. If what you're saying were true - which goes against the story as given - then ya, he's skipped paying into an account and is instead paying directly much more than $250 (six years a house will need more than $18k in utilities tax and repairs)

    • @missnycforever7532
      @missnycforever7532 2 часа назад +2

      rent is for repairs. If he'd had to rent elsewhere it would be significantly cheaper. They would be better served renting it on the open market and splitting the proceeds after upkeep cost. Now he is out here spending thousands of dollars in rental cost when he had almost free housing.

    • @KS-cl8br
      @KS-cl8br 2 часа назад +4

      you lack integrity... he doesn't own 75% of it so yeah he needs to pay 75% of market rent to his 3 siblings

    • @KS-cl8br
      @KS-cl8br 2 часа назад +3

      also him paying utilities doesn't count since he is living there, do you pay utilities or do you mouch off of others

    • @jimmymcgill6778
      @jimmymcgill6778 Час назад

      @@missnycforever7532 He owns 25% of the house.
      He lived there. So he was most likely dong repairs.

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    @HOLDXSTEEL 2 часа назад

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  • @gdolly166
    @gdolly166 4 часа назад +1

    Agree w Jade. Applebee's is not good and they take forever to bring your food . Was like almost 2 hrs

  • @ojg386
    @ojg386 3 часа назад +1

    Relationship more important than money.

    • @jumanji5239
      @jumanji5239 3 часа назад +4

      That is no longer a relationship!

    • @omnipi
      @omnipi 2 часа назад

      All the more reason to resolve the situation

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      @Emjay_blackdogranch Час назад

      If my sibling is willing to scam me, or take advantage, I don’t want a relationship with them. I say this as someone who has gone no contact with a sister that took advantage of me financially

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      @BREEZYM6015 3 часа назад

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  • @ruthirwin8222
    @ruthirwin8222 2 часа назад +1

    I have left my home to my 3 daughters to sell and split or if one of them needs it then that can be worked out between them, they all love and respect each other so i dont forsee a problem

    • @arthrodea
      @arthrodea 2 часа назад +3

      Hahaha. I bet that’s what the parents of these 4 thought would happen too. Don’t set your kids up for a mess like this.

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  • @YanilleCastillo-sf4vb
    @YanilleCastillo-sf4vb 2 часа назад +2

    He needs realize u guys won’t tolerate his spirit of entitlement. My first step is to gather with siblings on your side and hire a lawyer . Better call Saul just kidding but advice serious 💯

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