Therapist reacts to Coming Undone by Korn
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- Опубликовано: 4 сен 2024
- Therapist analyzes the lyrics of Coming Undone by Korn to discuss how allowing yourself to come undone, to be unraveled and opened so others can see and help you sort through your pain is one of the strongest things you can do. She also discusses how men, in particular, are often conditioned their whole lives to NOT do this, and how it can be difficult to break that conditioning, and they often hide their pain in order to appear "strong". Coming Undone is sometimes a necessary step in the healing process.
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As a child, Korn was like my therapy band. It was like, if this guy lived an abusive childhood but could become this amazing artist and influence, maybe there was hope.
T.H.I.S.
It's my therapy band now
Same... Got me through a lot of bad days listening to them. My fav band by far
I've been listening to KoRn since I was a teenager, and they're still my therapy band! Don't let age keep you from connecting to good music
Fun fact, Coming Undone was written to go along with We Will Rock You. They even do a chorus of it when playing Coming Undone live.
OMG I never actually put that together, I've seen them live 4 times and I always thought it was cool af when they did that haha
@@bluddwyer789 I remember seeing an interview when Munky said he put We Will Rock You on and started coming up with a riff to go with it.
I didn't know that now that's all I'm hearing lol
@@AughtelMe too lol
One year at Louder than Life when Korn performed they were playing this and then they changed it to We Will Rock You and then they switched it back flawlessly
even in in suicide the fear of failure plays a part for men, the only thing worse than doing it is fucking it up.....
one day at a time guys , one day at a time.
As someone who fucked it up, can confirm 100%. It’s the biggest embarrassment of my life.
I tired a few times, got locked up for it... it is not worth it.. the best rebellion is to live past the pain
I cut my wrist but didn't go deep enough to cause a lot of damage. I felt really stupid and a massive failure like I always do now.
@@frankanderson911 I guess the first cut wasn’t the deepest!
I agree it's been one thing that's prevented me from going through with it. Like what if I mess it up and then have to explain myself to my family.
Someone needs to tell her. Most metal music is pain. Struggling in life and hating life and jamming out to express that pain. Which is why metal helps so many people
Korn has always been really good at turning these really tough subjects into memorable and joyous songs. To the point where people can get away with fudging their way through the lyrics, but when you read the lyrics your mind is blown. Like you had no idea that it was so heavy.
As an Army Infantry veteran, These lyrics Sink Deep, So Strong so delicate.... We're supposed to be the toughest and strongest, winning Battles and pulling people out of the fire, but our community doesn't reach out for the help that is needed, and this results is a heartbreaking💔 amount of Veteran suicide. We place this prideful stigma on ourselves, I wish that could be Undone. There is No Shame whatsoever in being in need of some help, Iron sharpens Iron. It's only with help from others that be can be the best version of ourselves. Can't do it on your own.
Well said.
Ex army infantry as well.
(Belgium, 2003-2004. )
I' m curious, where did you deploy?
What was your job, and what vehicles did you ride?
If I may ask. If you do not want to talk about it, that' s fine.
@@Erika.D84 I deployed to the Middle East. We mainly travelled by Helicopter Blackhawk or Chinook. Sometimes these big troop trucks LMV's. The funest job I've had, but the Hardest ever. High's and Low's.
@andrewmcallister3903
Thank you for answering, i appreciate the sharing.
Likewise, the most fun I ever had and the worst time of my life.
But I did not deploy, so I really have no idea.
Take care and stay strong!
@@Erika.D84 men more stronger 💪
"Alone I Break" is another song by Korn that hits deep. Definitely recommend checking that one out.
As someone who's spent a lot of time in therapy and inpatient/outpatient programs and juvenile programs for the way I was and slightly still am I can say that korn is truly a blessing. Allowing people like me to have a release and see that my pain isn't the end of me no matter how much I tell myself I just can't do it. Being able to put your feelings to words when you're at a complete loss is something so touching to the soul.
I will never stop coming back to watch her enjoy life as much as she does. I've said a couple times in the comments how I just struggle to anymore due to going certain routes in life, but I always get a smile seeing others enjoy things, and let's be honest, ain't no one enjoying music more than this beautiful soul of a woman. Keep on bein you, and I'm sure all of us will keep on watchin🤘👍
Keep it SIMPle.
@@deeannchesebro not even like that at all...and that's exactly why a lot of us men just stop talkin about any of our fuckin problems. Thanks for reminding me of that.
@@AppalachianChaplinthink what you wrote was very kind, and not being a simp or crude man in anyway. Glad you have joy in watching her videos. Don't worry about a internet clown, probably depressed themselves and wants to bring you down. Takes all kinds of people to make this world, just ignore the ones that dont bring value or have anything nice to say in your world. Have you ever hiked the Appalachian trail? Those mountains run through my home town state of VA. Try your best to keep your head up, I know it is a challenge I struggle everyday myself and don't find you most days in life.
This song is pure gift. I've been dealing with anxiety and panic attacks for few years and I refused to find any help just because of the mentioned reasons - be strong, keep it to yourself, it will go away somehow, just try to hide it to be "a man". Man, I didn't tell my lovely girlfriend, that I'm expieriencing something and I don't know how deal with it. But then I opened to her, scared as fuck by thoughts like, She won't love me anymore, cause these things are not manly, and it means I'm weak... Surprise, surprise, she helped me to find a psychologist to go to, she supports me everytime and our relationship is beautiful. KoRn music helped me, still helps me, when bad moments come just by listening to it and it reminds me, that I'm not alone.
If anyone reading this feels like I did, I have to tell you, You ARE strong and great person and if you feel like you need help, don't be afraid to ask for it.
"It doesn't sound sad." It isn't supposed to. The lyrics aren't filtered through sadness, they're filtered through anger, years and years of using anger as a coping and survival mechanism. "Don't be sad, get angry!" "Don't feel pain, get angry!" "Don't give up, get angry!"
That’s what PanterA did for me, (The Great Southern Trendkill specifically). Anger was the “air” that kept my tires rolling. It was just up to me to keep the blow out from happening because I am the vehicle and the tires are a part of me.
If that makes sense.
Anger is one of the main ways depression is expressed through men. I found that out by being one of those angry young men myself not understanding what is happening to me or why. While at the same time desperately not trying to show weakness. I would get furious at myself for my emotions. Thankfully I’m much better now and would describe myself as a much calmer easy going adult :) Learning showing my emotions didn’t make me weak allowed me to process and heal instead of being angry
I love that how, in the beginning, it was day, later night and later just nothing...
that has always been the part I identify with the most. The layers of outer shells falling apart leaving them exposed until they can do nothing but fall apart themselves. The happy go lucky sunshine phase, exposes the melancholy dark of the midnight phase, then what do you have left when both your light and dark side have been stripped away and you have nowhere to hide?
Korn have so many songs that are gifts. Sean Olson is a gift song, along the same theme as Daddy, but addressing the feeling of powerlessness and how as a kid you think that you are in control by giving what they want.
Good God is a gift of a song.
Surprised you haven't covered "Falling Away From Me", given you also covered "Freak on a Leash'.
It's a direct continuation to that track
Please don't give this idiot ideas! She already disgraced herself by dancing like and idiot. She clearly has no respect for this iconic rock band... We don't need her disrespecting them even further..😡😡😡
Which is funny considering they're off two different albums
This song just reminds me of masking. I was having a terrible time with my mental health even asking friends for help and getting blank looks. Asking my work for support and not getting it because I didn't seem that bad. It took a support worker asking me to give him a numerical value of how I was feeling because I had been hiding my CPTSD and undiagnosed ADHD and my mask was too good to be seen through. Then my support worker saw the pain I was in and got me to push to see a psychiatrist to get a diagnosis and help. I am still on that journey and after 53 years I still get days when I am coming undone. I found this channel and love how you use music to discuss mental health as music has always been the way I survive and not end my days. Music is my way of seeing I am not alone. Thank you from a 53-year-old man still here and fighting.
KoRn forever 🤘🏽
Love the way you turn the dark lyrics into a way of moving forward in a positive light, it is very true that people need to be able to release the things that have happened in the past that they can’t change, not saying to forget about it, but instead to accept it, to learn from it, and move forward in a positive light, love this reaction, well done!❤
More Korn please, and thank you!
yes!!
Grew up with Korn and am now 40. Never been with anyone and have no one. Their music is strong in my mind everyday
@heartsupport you really should do a binge of Korn there are so many songs that are so good at portraying many different mental struggles that JD and many man go through. There are actually people who have thanked Korn for saving their lives because of their music.
The idea of the hard being soft is so real. Like you build a hard shell from your early shitty experiences and let yourself soften up through positive reinforcement but sometimes if that support is gone it's like there no bowl to collect the dripping parts as you're "coming undone".
First of all, your videos and analysis are SUPER interesting but I have to say that your energy is contagious. I watch your videos and headbang with you from Canada! haha.
Love it!
I love your energy and you are so beautiful , keep up the great content ❤
You wouldn’t happen to have a Spotify page where I can listen and learn about the different songs I grew up not knowing about.
I was surprised with this one mainly because I was interested in the tune but since you broke it down it’s powerful. You do a great job at what you do and I’m happy to learn about the meaning behind these songs.
It's nice and heartbreaking when the music says and shows how it feels
From one therapist to another….that was an AMAZING analysis and reaction. ❤❤❤❤
I recently had a long struggle with suicidal Ideation.
And for the most part I have always been a mentally healthy person. I have had a lot of tragedy and struggle that has made life difficult for me. Despite that or maybe because of it I have developed positive coping mechanisms, such as opening up and "coming undone".
The unfortunate thing from my last struggle was that as a man I was often told by the people I tried to open up to that I just needed to be positive in a very dismissive way.
So even when men are open about their feelings it can be difficult to find people who are receptive to your needs.
When the circle of support that you turn to reveals itself to be unsupportive it is important to seek new circles of support. It is out there.
Love these guys. Korn was and still is an exceptionally important band to me.
I've listened to Korn since I was a teenager. They, in fact, are one of my most favorite bands. They did write this song with the Queen anthem. Johnathan Davis himself has said so. I do listen to them when I am hurt. My pain and fear of situations that are perceived to be the falut from others is actually expressed in the form of anger. Interestingly enough, it makes me feel better because, at one point, it resonates within and sooths me. Mainly because I feel as if there finally is someone else who understands me and how I feel. It's almost like I'm not alone and someone gets me.
Now, don't get me wrong, I am a nu metal guy through and through. This is my music on a daily and is my motivation. Linkin Park-Figure .09 great emotional feels from this as well, just like Coming Undone. Thanks for some lyrical insight though.
This is one of my favorite songs by korn its always hit me and hearing your breakdown brought me tobtears because all i ever hear is how im so strong and im always feeling on step from the edge im tired of being strong im tired of holding it together im tired of being the voice of reason im just tired
I'm listening to your reactions, specifically to Korn songs (which are amazing), and they are wonderful! Thank you with all my heart!❤
I LOVE your style and how much you enjoy this heavier music. It's so good and refreshing to see.
Yes, lady, that’s why we love them so much 😊
thanks for another great reaction. love that your checking out more Korn.
This song and music video have such a cornerstone in my heart.
As a psychologist in training, who loves metal, who also has struggled and still struggles with my own mental health, your insight and passion is incredibly inspiring. Talking about coming undone being like a present to show our beautiful and vulnerable selves really hit hard. Please keep reacting to emotional metal/hardcore videos. You are incredibly valuable and entertaining.
Listen to all of Korn's albums! They will blow you away! Super dark music but it's beautiful!
The way i feel hear this song with the beat is how i want to break something because i can't break down my walls in my mind.
I always found the song to be calming and therapeutic because when you sing along shouting the words you release the internal rage .
This video actually made me cry and I'm not sure why, I've loved this song since I first heard it. I think it was the breakdown of it. I have never been in a physically abusive relationship but I was in a verbally abusive relationship, a lot of the things she says really hits.
i love hearing a thearapists take on this song, i lost my lady to suicide in oct 2023 i look at this song and everybody hurts by rem very differently since then, great reaction btw
This song and Alone I break are what pulled me out of the darkest place I have ever been.
I'm now a crisis therapist i owe Korn a lot.
As a therapist you're taken on this band is dead on.
It’s great to see a person who has trauma in her life, I know cause of the way you feel that song. You lady grew up with trauma.
I fell asleep to the album Issues almost every night as a lullaby as a teenager. It was calming to me, especially how it kicks in with the bagpipes and soft melodic singing.
Hi! I’m not a therapist but I am a veteran that struggles with his demons and I constantly fight to keep it together. I love the way that you interpret the song and you’re probably right but I always felt that this song was more of a celebration, not just because of the upbeat music but because he’s constantly winning his battle against coming undone. It feels like every time he gets close to the edge he’s able to fight back and pull himself together enough to keep going. Keep holding on
if you want more songs about sad and destructive life of an addict but it sounds nice, listen to almost anything from Alice In Chains
Have wanted her to react to dirt and rain when I die for a hot minute
I remember when I first heard this, I thought about was about someone trying not to slip into madness. That the "So Strong Is So Delicate" was actually referencing their grip on their personal sanity. I was actually struggling with hallucinations in my teenage years and felt that this song reflected my lingering grasp on reality far better than I could articulate at the time. That being said, I could easily see why people compare it to suicide as well.
This is a truly amazing channel, I have no doubt you are going to help hundreds of thousands of people with your perspectives.
Therapist's dancing is so endearing because like, the instinctive motion is right, that's exactly what you do, her body's trying to headbang.
But because of, like, the performance of doing a RUclips video, or habits maybe from how you dance to other genres, the other expressions are so incongruous.
It's just so endearing, I wanna go to a million metal shows with her 🤘
I bought this cd before i could drive. Early 2000s. This cd held me together. Funny to say now. Coming undone
What a great analogy of this song!!! I love this song even more.
This is why People should listen to heavy metal more often. There’s is something beautiful behind the hard aggressive sounds
This is one of my songs I listen at the gym, i’m more or less an introvert, the song is like an “undoing” of my anxious social thoughts, also, if the song comes up during a heavy set of reps. What a good motivator.
I love you! Not in a creepy stalker kind of way. But I love the way you get the songs meanings better than anybody else I've watched on RUclips over the last 5 years. Keep it up!!!!
Their entire album 'The Nothing' destroyed me. I have never cried so much through a Korn album and immediately played it through again. Surrender to Failure was what had me doing that silent, cant breathe, curled on the floor cry. My 1yr old had just passed from a primary immunodeficiency that we could only try to fix but it was guesses at best and after 10mths of hoping we had to let him go.
It's so sad that this is one of my favorite songs... And i feel that the beat sounds happy cause depression most of the times doesn't show in ones personality...you look good, you smile, you seem happy, but on the inside...that battle is taking place.
Korn has been the soundtrack of life I’ve never related to anyone more than JD
I feel the same, his lyrics are my therapy, for real.
@@christineghere2461 100% I wouldn’t be here right now if it wasn’t for him
It's distinctive of xennial childhood, born between 2 worlds analog/digital not knowing where the future is going but it's moving fast not yet strong enough to fight and without the knowing the future to allow us to be cunning all we had was the unknown and had to resort to pure emotion and no words to describe it to survive
Thank you for this. I don't have any other words atm. Speechless and in tears.❤
I appreciate the detailed explanation of the songs. Most reference the talent as a musician that I also appreciate, but in this case of your technique, its so informative and helpful that I can apply in areas of my life. Thank you.
Love korn
Now that you've listened to this, you should check out their MTV Unplugged version. It's absolutely stellar. That whole SHOW was absolutely stellar. "Throw Me Away" and "Make Me Bad" from the unplugged show are absolutely amazing as well.
OMG I love the unplugged versions just as much as the originals!!!
My go to breakdown song, listen several times turned to emphatic rocking out and better mood
Keep them coming Taylor i love these.
Been listening to this song before bed for 2 years after my divorce it helps me dream of a day I won’t have to be on earth and ill be free from pain of life and coming undone to me means to unravel my own existence and able to just not be anymore absolutely free from the chains of life
Jon was abused and came out with much of lyrics/singing
Brian (my favorite guitarist) became a Christian.
Thoughtless is Korn's best song.
That's why you're a therapist cuz that was really cool the way you figure that out man I never would have thought of that I guess that's why I'm not a therapist but anyways great job ma'am.
I think you're absolutely right.
Really great analysis I'm very impressed
I’ve always loved this song
I still love the singer's mic from this era of Korn. It was designed by HR Giger. Very stylized bio-mechanical design.
ya might want to give their song "right now" a look. full of self loathing / thoughts of self harm in that one (at least in the video depiction). the video version is edited lyrically but the animations get the the message across despite that. its been highly relatable for me at times, that deep look at yourself in the mirror and not liking what you see and wanting to destroy that version of yourself. In a weird way I think that song helped me to come to grips with myself and stop drinking, I was never addicted to it but foolishly used it to cope and numb the pain. I grew to hate that guy and stopped completely after being drunk daily for almost 3 years straight. I still have half a bottle of whiskey on my shelf now, its just for looks cause I haven't touched it in many, many years. I might have a drink 1-3 times a year on special occasions but thats it, dont even seek a buzz cause I know how much I hate drunk me.... that guy is a loser. One of my good friends will eventually drink himself into an early grave, none of us can seem to get him to stop. Its sad but you cant help someone thats unwilling to help themself.
I am an adult survivor of long-term CSA. In my adult life, I have struggled with severe anxiety, CPTSD, depression, and suicidality. Five years ago, I met my current therapist, the first therapist to stay with me through the years, to learn who I really am, to take the time and care about my mental health. I've sobbed in so many sessions, talking about what happened to me, about how it made me feel, about the black thoughts that come so often. I've told him things I never told another living soul.
It was like opening and infected wound, and watching the pus flow out. It was, is, painful and difficult. The only thing that would be more painful and difficult is going on like I was. Five years later, with twice monthly CBT sessions, I'm in an entirely different world now. My anxiety, depression, and CPTSD haven't disappeared, but they're *so* much more manageable. I feel like I've broken free of the chains I put on myself.
I'm here to tell all of the other survivors who come to watch this video that reaching out for help doesn't mean you're weak. Showing vulnerability takes unimaginable courage and strength, especially after you've been hurt so deeply. And healing *is* possible. It's a tough road, what we've been through. It's never going to be easy for us. But it can be *better*.
I like your spin on this. And ill take that moving forward.
The old way I viewed this song was being so stressed. So pressurized. That you feel the strings in your brain starting to unravel. And it feels like your losing your mind. Cause you see solutions.
But now. Yea I agree. You need you "come undone" to destress, depressureize, so you can reknit yourself back together.
One of my favorite songs 💯🤘🏼⚡️❤️
i enjoy seeing your love of music and how you get into each song both lyrically but also the music. falling away from me, make me bad, here to stay, alone i break, narcissistic cannibal, lets go, get up, never never, rotting in vain, black is the soul, a different world, take me, cold, you'll never find me, the darkness is revealing, idiosyncrasy, finally free, can you hear me, h@rder, this loss, let the dark do the rest, start the healing, worst is on the way. also what it is by jonathon davis from his solo album
I am a suicide survivor. Korn has put some of my thoughts and feelings in perspective. Jonathan Davis writing style hits home really hard.
Sometimes people come undone threw anger.
"The pain of the song is covered up by the strength of the beat"
I absolutely love this lady, she has already helped me in ways she'll never know....and hasn't even charged me!!! 😂❤
Greatest mic stand in the business.
I'm thinking that maybe the words stand for the pain u or someone feels but the beat stands for the fight and the dance can make u feel good again... It's the moves u need to make when u don't feel like going on...when ur coming undone!
Thank you for lifting my spirit today. Your outta sync clapping made me laugh out loud for the first time in weeks.
I loved it, hugs from Brazil, please if possible do it with the song counting by korn
My favorite Korn song
The unplugged version is really good
this song is therapeutic to me
I never really thought of the meaning of the song like this. Damn!
Thank you very much for your insights and help.
Your analogy of this song is so amazing and I can now look at this song in a whole new light 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏Great job young lady!
Great video and classic great song from Korn, getting beneath your skin. Getting past your Persona, getting past the Ego-conscious and seeing who you are. depending on who you are its a long arugous road that I am still on personally, We are born whole and once we become conscious and learn of archetypes/idenities and types of people to be and not be like as children we begin to become fragmented and going into adulthood and for the rest of our lives we need to put those fragments back together like its a puzzle. That is life and yet the beauty of it. Listening to your dreams is a great area to start as well as acknowledging the thoughts you repress in the back of your mind and processing everything.
46 and 2 is just ahead of me
Slipknot - Danger keep away is so deep and unlike their usual style
Look up Kornplay. It's a mashup of these vocals over the piano to Coldplay's the Scientist. It makes the words of this song much clearer in their intent.
Idk if you already did it, but you should react to "Alone I break", I really like your analysis of both lyrics and video
Love your wise words at the end of the video!
I'd like to see your reaction to Alone I Break, Clown and Thoughtless. They are some of favorites
The duality of this song is to me the up beat mask that we wear while having the most insecure thoughts of depression, failure and every one voice telling us shit.
Please do Everything falls apart by Korn
I really think Taylor needs to react to Alice in Chains Nutshell. Less than 100 lyrics in the whole song, but so impactful.
As an empath, I spent half of my life half asleep with a target on my back...
I know EXACTLY what he's talking about.
Sorry if im late but Korn did an official mashup with this song and a hip hop song. "Lean Wit It" by Dem Franchise Boys. It might take away from the message of the original, but it is straight fire! 🔥 🤘
We will, we will, rock you!
Heck yeah do more korn! The best band ever