Taylor Swift's Troubling Advice On Forgiveness
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- In an interview with CBS in 2019, Taylor Swift offered some thoughts on forgiveness. She reveals that you don't have to forgive and forget to move on in life. If a relationship has been toxic, you just move on; forgiveness is not required.
We discuss how this is a dangerous stance to take. Unforgiveness may help you move on in the short run, but it only breeds resentment in the long run.
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I’m with her on this one. If people in your life hurt you over and over again and then paint you as the bad guy for not forgiving, it’s fine to move on without forgiving in that way. Keep in mind this interview isn’t about an ex or a friend, this is about people that repeatedly used her. Lots of abusers (not calling the people in this situation abusers, I’m speaking generally) weaponizing forgiveness and teach that forgiveness makes you whole again, but sometimes its freeing for people to acknowledge they are angry with someone and no longer want them in their life. And I can’t even count how often I’ve seen a partner hurt their partner or spouse and then say “if you really believed in jesus or were a good person you’d forgive me and we could go back to normal.” Forgiveness is earned ✌️
It depends on what your definition of forgiveness is. Some think of forgiveness as ‘slap paint on a transgression, pretend it never happened and go back to normal.’ That’s not forgiveness, that’s weakness and stupidity. Forgiveness is diagnosing exactly what transgression occurred in the given situation, and if the opposite party is at fault, choosing not to hold them in your debt for an indeterminate period of time. Resulting peace is desired but not always possible - forgiveness doesn’t always mean reconciliation. You can forgive someone and (in extreme situations) never allow them into your life again - that's wisdom.
At the end of the day, choosing to hold someone in your debt in the deep recesses of the heart will only produce bitterness and resentment, and life is too short for that 😊
I love that you are grounding your content on the bibel 🎉❤forgive because god has forgiven us ❤
This interview was in 2019 and she probably has the same view. Taylor Swift is from the world system and not from the Kingdom. The conversation is always different.
This is true. My only thought would be that Kingdom principles still apply in the world. Whether or not someone is a Christian, the consequences of unforgiveness will still manifest in equal volumes. There will be Christians who refuse to forgive and are eaten up with resentment, and there will be non-Christians who forgive and enjoy the peaceable fruits that come with it.
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I commented on your short, but might as well be here.
Indifference is forgiveness.
Imagine it being a courtcase. You've got folders on folders on piles of paperwork. Forgiveness is just handing all your court papers to God. He is the judge.
So the indifference is forgiveness.
I think you're right about the aspect of ego. Assuming yourself as better than your perpetrator.
But (hang with me) it feels like you also carry some of that.
You said that being indifferent to someone means they're as valuable to you as a burning pile of trash. This is true.
But it's also true that they're as valuable as a mountain of gold. It doesn't mean a negative value.
And yes, true indifference is hard to achieve. People tend to hold on to resentment, which is not indifference. But it's possible, and it's even a form of forgiveness.
You don't fight cuz you're indifferent. You stop fighting as a result of indifference.
Right, I can see where this can become skewed. Perhaps it's best if I articulate definitions of Forgiveness and Indifference to ensure that we're on the same page.
Forgiveness is diagnosing exactly what transgression occurred in the given situation, and if the opposite party is at fault, choosing not to hold them in your debt for an indeterminate period of time. You 'release' them from your debt. Most situations require face-to-face diagnosis and acknowledgment of the transgression that took place, a consensus on which party is at fault, followed by an apology if you're at fault or forgiveness if they're at fault. This doesn't necessarily mean reconciliation, but that's another conversation.
Indifference is (in psychological terms) the absence of concern for the human condition (particularly that of an individual or group). To become indifferent is to 'not care anymore,' but not in a good way. Most of the time, it involves the implementation of a superiority complex to justify the lack of concern, which if left unchecked, will result in nothing but trouble.
My argument in this video (which perhaps wasn't displayed as clearly as I hoped, so that's on me) is that taking the path of forgiveness is almost always better than taking the path of indifference. Forgiveness is certainly far more difficult in the short term, but when done correctly, is far more beneficial in the long term.
I hope the definitions clear up a few things. I appreciate you reaching out and contributing to the conversation! You're sincere in your approach and I appreciate that :)
Forgiveness is Biblical. God requires it. He’s not negotiating that. And you’ll be judged for that. I get it, I do. And I love her, and am sure she’ll figure it out. She is wrong for now, but she’ll get there.
this is a great video about forgiveness. I liked and subbed but the main reason i clicked is if we believers should reach out to those who did wrong or treated wrong or both... i have prayed sincerely to our Lord but shall I do more than pray ?
Good question. Some situations can be resolved by choosing to forgive the perpetrator in your own heart through prayer, and that's all that's needed (especially if the perpetrator is no longer alive). However, I'd say most situations require face-to-face diagnosis and acknowledgment of the transgression that took place and a consensus on which party is at fault. This is an important form of Biblical judgement that we must do. Work out what exactly went wrong. If you're the one at fault, apologise. If they're the one at fault, forgive and set boundaries if you need to. The ultimate aim of forgiveness is reconciliation but sometimes that's not possible, and that's ok. Apostle Paul in Romans says: "If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all." The 'if possible' implies that there are situations where it's not possible. It's not easy to forgive, but it's always worth it when done correctly :)
I’m sorry and you are? PhD in psychology?
that opened my heart a little bit, thanks :)
I’m so glad to hear that - forgiveness isn’t easy but it’s by far the best way forward :)
How can she afford to forgive and forget? She's gotta make songs about it peeps. It's literally her bread and butter.
This cracked me up 🤣 forgiveness for her means her career is over lol
You are super over analyzing a natural reaction to questions from a reporter. In doing so, you are using an innocent response based on a person (also created and loved by God) to make a personal point that is yours. Why do you throw darts at Taylor make a point that is yours. I think that her body language says that it is uncomfortable to move on from someone who hurt you but the reality is that you must. She’s learned it. I appreciate your message and agenda but don’t assume to know what someone’s motives are by the words they are NOT saying. Shame on you! If you are going to use real people in your messages, make sure you know them, like what’s really in their heart. Also …. gosh why don’t we Christians get this…. how do you know what to pray for her about if you don’t even know her.
I find this comment interesting. How come you felt the need to state that Taylor Swift is created and loved by God? Obviously she is, but what is your intention in stating that?
I disagree that I'm using an innocent response to make a personal point, I'm simply watching the video and sharing my observations. And I'm not throwing darts at Taylor Swift as a person, I'm analyzing what she is saying and I disagree with her - this doesn't mean I have a problem with her personally.
"If you are going to use real people in your messages, make sure you know them, like what’s really in their heart." This is ridiculous. There's nothing wrong with observing people who you don't know personally and forming a judgement of their motives and thought processes, if you're being honest about it. Sometimes you get it right, sometimes you get it wrong, and if you get it wrong, you make the correction. I mean, look at what you're saying right now - "you are using an innocent response based on a person to make a personal point that is yours." In saying this, you've made a judgement of me and my motives and you don't know me from a bar of soap.
And boy, if we only pray for people that we know personally, we're underutilizing the power of prayer - we should be praying for everyone!
God bless.
Talk about leading people to hellfire.
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That's how you become a bitter old cat lady.
And she's fine with being an old cat lady..she always embraced that imagery proudly...she owns 3 pretty cute cats...but i don't think she'll ever end up bitter considering how successful her life and career is.. atleast for the foreseeable future.
@@Azarath_Metrion_Zinthos Cats aren't the companions humans actually need! They're like windturbines and solar panels. They subsidize electricity, but they aren't the primary sources we have to have for things to function. She's young. She has a lot of time left to figure things out. The problem is there are too many people around her who will be willing to exploit her for money.
@@dr.emilschaffhausen4683 Any animal, including a cat, can be the best companion on earth . Only humans can be so arrogant they actually think people can’t live without them.