I actually fw her channel. She’s not an echo chamber for women but at the same time isn’t pandering to men. She’s actually….authentic. Hope y’all do a live eventually, I think y’all would have some good convos
I love to hear this conversation being had with two intellectual non-aggressive people. Most videos I've seen created more division rather than bringing us together.
This is one of the best channels on RUclips. It also is one of the best at having conversations on the dynamics between Black men and Black women. I love how balanced the conversations are on this channel. I love how you approach these conversations with a level of understanding that I rarely see with others. This channel has the best conversations when it comes to the relationships between Black men and Black women.
That was one of the most progressional conversations I’ve ever heard. This the kind of maturity and understanding that’s necessary to make us better together.
I can only give grace if she's giving effort. There's no grace given to a chick who feels that being aggressive and masculine is the way to be, period.
@@TynishaTalks That's fair...? That's not even accurate. Can only give 'Grace' if she's giving effort... Meaning you can only give Grace if she's deserving! That's the exact "OPPOSITE" of what Grace is in the first place! We awoke to a new day by the 'Grace' of God. We are blessed by the 'Grace' of God, not by our own deeds, that no one can boast! It's the aggressive & masculine chicks that don't know better or are too emotionally damaged to be better that NEED YOUR 'GRACE' THE MOST! Grace is giving that which is UNdeserved! TRUE GRACE is beyond a lot of us sometimes (myself included!!! LOL) I'm no saint, trust! Having said that... If one (a Man or Woman) only wants to work w/another that comes in "Good Faith" then I 1000% agree & THATS fair. Jus chapped mah ass the misuse of the word 'Grace' lol Tynisha, I'll be waiting to see the 2nd part of this convo #carryonfolks
@@isaiahisaiah2288 God is usually more forgiving than humans 🥴 I do agree with giving grace to those who may not be where they want to be but are trying though.
@@isaiahisaiah2288 What grace requires is faith... maybe even good faith. This is a very rare and pure currency. Nobody is doling it out easily. And that is sad.
Grand joint opener for needed discussions! It's relieving to hear such grace & poise throughout this particular segment of conversation. My relationships with women has always been of this sort. Respect and honor for one another was nearly stripped away from us for over 2 decades. But our deeper love to love has consistently proved the devil wrong. It's how we're made. The world's design have become our enemy. Time for us to seal up the torn breach between us. Malcolm X and Frances Cress Welsing ignited conversation, and Shahrazad Ali and Kevin Samuels reclaimed it for these ending times. If the Most High "God" is for us, who can be against us? Rise & Shine!!!!!
I appreciate the fact of what's being displayed by this beautiful woman is listening to hear and understand. Salute to the two of you I'm eager for more.
As a Baby Boomer, my generation grew up in two parent households. Our mothers were loving (not trying to be our friend) feminine, classy ladies like Diahann Carroll, Cicely Tyson, Lola Falana, Lena Horne for example. Our fathers were strong, disciplinary men that raised us to be responsible leaders of the house and in the workplace. The parents of my generation would correct you for saying "Yea" instead of "Yes." We addressed adults as "Yes Sir/No Ma'am." Our neighbors didn't need permission from our parents to chastise us for doing something wrong. Then they would call our parents and tell them they did it. Unfortunately, single family households have created a multitude of problems in the Black community including topics such as this that I'm not sure we will ever recover from.
This was an absolutely amazing conversation!!! These are the things that we need to speak on and understand !! I also appreciate the respect given between both persons in this exchange.🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽thank you for sharing this 💕💕💕
She seems well balanced and I can tell she's highly educated. I would enjoy seeing a live with followers from both channels. I think the conversation would be interesting.
Man, amazing convo as always! I'm a big fan of Tynisha talks. I think an underlying theme of what you were talking about, was that black men are not allowed to exist on a spectrum. The world only pays attention to us when we act out. If we embody all of the stereotypes in our community, we are oftentimes seen as more masculine, because the image of black masculinity is street, aggressive, hood, etc. White men oftentimes can exist on a spectrum, because of how history and the media has portrayed them. Their masculinuty isn't pigeon held into a certain archytpe. That's why when you here black men say 'I'm going overseas' or 'black women only like thugs', it oftentimes is less about the woman, and more about our frustration as black men, not being seen as multi-faceted. Black men are yearning for the freedom and validation to just be ourselves without having to live up to the one-sided false image of black masculinity that's often portrayed on us. Great work guys!
Yeah. She tried to sneak that in there that black men are on the same level as black women internationally. That is not true. Black men go to other countries and are able to complete with other men. Black women go to other countries and get a ticket back home real fast.
Bro you were preaching. I feel the same way in my friend group I try to articulate to them how to communicate our grievances correctly. Don’t stop fighting the good fight bro ✊🏿
Bro this was great these are the type of conversations black men and women should have. Not this other nonsense online very honest and respectful interview bro keep up the good work
At least from a Black American standpoint of culture we have a proud and rich heritage, but not all of us are aware of that to project it internationally outside of entertainment and athletics. I would say Black folks are highly desired internationally, but for someone genuinely wanting to build a family with us is a whole other conversation. (Date/Sex vs Marriage/Fetish) Great conversation in this clip. I will agree that's there's options that depends on your individual economics and lifestyle. We know social media, dating apps, and Fomo are the biggest culprits affecting black men and women relationships today. The generational and social traumas that we both face is always in the background. We in this together. It's hard for sure. 💯
We have learned to accept the back handed compliments when we get them. Like I see you got your “lil” car, house, career, following or business. As if it was easy to get and it’s small accomplishments. Instead of you look good it’s you think you the ish, or you effing all the heaux like mens DM are overflowing with offers. In general our women don’t initiate or reciprocate so why would they think our women flood our DM. You have to be exceptional at something or put on a spotlight where women in mass can see you to get that level of attention.
"I'm supposed to own it. But your allowed to absolve yourselves." This like a moment in the sermon where everybody start getting filled with the Holly Ghost! Literally the center of all issues between the genders right now imo...
I appreciate Brother Allen's dedication to providing edutainment. Sister @TynishaTalks makes some great points, and her intelligence is refreshing. I will add a little context that's often missed. Black men have accepted criticism for centuries and remained quiet publicly. The last 3 to 5 years have been the first time that the locker room and barbershop talk has made its way to the public. More times than not, I have witnessed our discussions evolve into inspiration to improve individually. Are there some guys who are extreme ? Absolutely! However, in my experience, there are many black men who are willing to become better people. Typically, our discussions are more about holding each other accountable (meaning other men), working to better our communities, working to create safe spaces for our women, working to be better at our craft or profession, working to grow spiritually and mentally, improve physically and emotionally, and become better Stewart's financially. Similar to our women, there is nuance and layers to who we are as people. Unfortunately, the black man has been branded as everything problematic. Ultimately, we live in a country (the U.S.A.) that is hyper individualistic. What's amazing is that other groups have found a way to keep their group first culture. It is we (the black collectively) who has lost our way. Hopefully, we can get back to loving each other before its too late. Before large numbers of us become so numb emotionally that the damage is beyond repair.
From observation, I think a big issue is that men tend to give grace in a nonverbal manner. Grace for a man is accepting someone into their space flaws and all. The only condition is that you are not disruptive to the peace he has created. A woman giving a man grace tends to have a lot more conditions and be very volatile.
Great guest 👍🏾👍🏾 Loved the analogy of Nigeria vs US and the relationship dynamics because it crystallized it for your guest. Even better she was genuinely receptive and understanding. So there’s hope but it’s still a long road ahead.
This was really good and refreshing to see. Good job but I will keep reminding men if you are lucky enough to find a woman like this immediately find this personality trait wherever you can. If it exists in Ling Ling or Maria so be it, you deserve to be stress free from someone who claims to love you. Abuse is not your birth right.
This was excellent! There were so many bars. You might want to chop this up more to make 10-15 Shorts. Well researched and communicated in a way that “she” can digest. Keep it up!
Another progressive video. I like having videos I can share that can give hope to men and be more of an example of good faith for women. We don’t get good faith much as often as we need. We just receive (like she said) cognitive dissonance and disingenuousness banter.
Man so much stuff to unpack. 400yrs of trans Atlantic & 1300yrs of trans-Saharan. Man have been getting emasculated way before women started. While some groups have inherited generational wealth, we have inherited generational trauma, being underminded socially, financially etc. With most struggling to survive let alone thrive. Still using outdated European anthropology to identify ourselves(black) which is equal to still referring to Native Americans as "indians". In a Society where learning about yourself is to much work, there is no self-healing when we don't know ourselves, clinging to a culture thay has been swissed cheesed the male, female dynamics; the core of any civilization demonstrates that a total rehaul is needed.
Another revelation. "Women care about people, men tend to care about things," this explains a lot, actually. As a woman, i find it offensive that when some men talk about women, they sound like they're thinking of us as things or property, not human beings. But, if that's the way you have to see things in order to care about something, it explains why those specific men are looking at women like inanimate objects. It's still not something I'd like, but I'd understand and take LESS offense to it.
You must've never heard women speak about men and themselves. Women tend to objectify themselves everyday. Especially the ones who openly equate value of a man they want to attract to a dollar amount.
@Akeem I won't say that's untrue, but we may disagree on the root cause. I think that's learned behavior. You learn kind of early that generally for most men, will only want you for sex. Either by observance or experience. Now I'm not saying that men only want sex that's a different statement. I'm saying that for an individual woman, most of the men you come across won't want you for more than sexual purposes. When you get jaded you think that all men want is sex period and some women get to the point where they feel if I'm gonna get used for sexual purposes were both gonna get something out of it and it'll be on my terms. Which is where you get women who objectify themselves. Those women either don't have faith in their ability to vet men or they have just low faith in men overall.
A lot of these generational curses are practically new in a historical sense. It’s going to take a while for the tide to turn but I think leaving social media would be a good start. A lot of these narratives have been spread through all types of media for years and that’s adding onto the life experiences
This is one of the most frustrating things as a black man he explained it so well to her saying the fact that black women standards have risen to Superman only But give us the bare minimum that we want. Black women are celebrated for their average preparation (meaning beauty, mindset, ect) it by other women and expect us to appreciate bare medium.
Through the years I've seen how other cultures stick together pool their wealth women and men respect each other when you go at one you have to deal with them all unity. As soon as one of us have more than the other it's a problem.
2:09 _Why are we not given that grace?_ Because good men aren't given that grace. AND good men haven't been given that grace for at least 30 years. And if it's a man that had been on his purpose, he definitely has no grace for a woman that will give grace to "ain't shit" men but hold him to a much higher standard. 14:54 _I still feel like I have a commitment to my people..._ If this young lady isn't married then I would say this: What is everyone told on airplanes about oxygen masks? First, secure your own mask THEN help the other person. The best first step for this young lady to fix the community is to secure herself a thriving black marriage. THEN she can see about trying to save the rest of the black community. 19:46 _Why am I the one that is being blamed for it?_ Unfortunately, she is suffering from the lack of action on the part of good women didn't do their job of checking the sisterhood when it started to stray into bad territory. Instead the good women were silent: "...Then they came for me-and there was no one left to speak for me."
Answer to question @19:51: you can see what ur aunts, friends, and other acquaintances have not worked, why not try something else…that’s where men, in general, are. Why not do something else! The blame is more signifying a lack of perspective as opposed to doing the trendy or similar things that past people have done.
Awesome talk.. I almost wish I was there... No. I do.. only cause I feel I can see what each of your points are. And could bounce back off of both of you... But. It was awesome to hear that you agree with everything he said their at the end... It really does make me feel better. As a person but more so as a man... Not just black men and women. Can say these things... White men feel the same way.... We tried hard to change for women.. Now.. they are pissed off that we did.
@wntt @weneedtotalk BROTHER ALLEN DOES IT AGAIN...right at the 16 minute mark as Bro. Allen broke it down you could see the realization coming on like a light bulb as he said “you are beautiful at any size” in his example her face said it all and that smile of hers became harder and harder to hold until it was non existent it really seems that women have really not heard these things before...JUST WOW!!!! Pray I get some money....So I can bless this channel this creator to continue this crucial work for BLACK PEOPLE
The thing that gets me about these “ talks” at this point is that because all of the information and the ability to understand is out there people have no excuses to continue to operate in destructive ways while still playing the victim and blame game. American black men: focus on your physical health, mental health and financial wealth building. You have plenty of options, more than you know, if you are willing to leave the borders and go beyond the common American ideology. American back women: You have thousands of hours of content that lets you know exactly what to do to acquire the man and lifestyle you desire. If you don’t want to take accountability for your choices and understand that when it comes to quality men you have to compete then that action in and of itself has consequences.
Thanks for having me!!! Can't wait to see the other parts!
You always represent yourself well, maybe there is hope for black women/men. Keep doing the work.
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Thanks y’all! My heart is warm 🫶🏽 thank you for your feedback/support ❤️
Thank you TynishaTalks and WeNeedtoTalk subscriber to both. Love you both. Keep this great conversation going. 👍🏾❤️💪🏿
You were an amazing guest! Subscribed!!
“when black men, start feeling themselves, you get an haitian revolution” - let that sink in
I actually fw her channel. She’s not an echo chamber for women but at the same time isn’t pandering to men. She’s actually….authentic. Hope y’all do a live eventually, I think y’all would have some good convos
Thank you! I really appreciate this feedback ♥
I love to hear this conversation being had with two intellectual non-aggressive people. Most videos I've seen created more division rather than bringing us together.
Unfortunately, the demand favors divisive content.
This is one of the best channels on RUclips. It also is one of the best at having conversations on the dynamics between Black men and Black women. I love how balanced the conversations are on this channel. I love how you approach these conversations with a level of understanding that I rarely see with others. This channel has the best conversations when it comes to the relationships between Black men and Black women.
Thank you so much brother 🙏🏿
Agreed.
Yo international foreign exchange the way bruh explained it is perfect. Spot on. Bravo my fellow african.
That was one of the most progressional conversations I’ve ever heard. This the kind of maturity and understanding that’s necessary to make us better together.
With all due humility, all the content on this channel is in this spirit.
that was very good. no eye rolling, no interruptions, she listened to understand not respond.. good job!!
Had an amazing host who made it easy! ❤
I can only give grace if she's giving effort. There's no grace given to a chick who feels that being aggressive and masculine is the way to be, period.
That’s fair.
Facts 💯
@@TynishaTalks That's fair...? That's not even accurate. Can only give 'Grace' if she's giving effort... Meaning you can only give Grace if she's deserving! That's the exact "OPPOSITE" of what Grace is in the first place! We awoke to a new day by the 'Grace' of God. We are blessed by the 'Grace' of God, not by our own deeds, that no one can boast! It's the aggressive & masculine chicks that don't know better or are too emotionally damaged to be better that NEED YOUR 'GRACE' THE MOST! Grace is giving that which is UNdeserved! TRUE GRACE is beyond a lot of us sometimes (myself included!!! LOL) I'm no saint, trust! Having said that... If one (a Man or Woman) only wants to work w/another that comes in "Good Faith" then I 1000% agree & THATS fair. Jus chapped mah ass the misuse of the word 'Grace' lol Tynisha, I'll be waiting to see the 2nd part of this convo #carryonfolks
@@isaiahisaiah2288 God is usually more forgiving than humans 🥴
I do agree with giving grace to those who may not be where they want to be but are trying though.
@@isaiahisaiah2288 What grace requires is faith... maybe even good faith. This is a very rare and pure currency. Nobody is doling it out easily. And that is sad.
🔥🔥🔥”WHEN BLACK MEN FEEL THEMSELVES YOU GET REVOLUTION...WHEN BLACK WOMEN FEEL THEMSELVES YOU GET BERKIN BAGS🔥🔥🔥
the close up reaction shots to the truth of the BM are PURE GOLD!
Bro this girl is everything. Not just the beauty but how she talks. I just saw her recent interview and came back to this to hear more.
Grand joint opener for needed discussions! It's relieving to hear such grace & poise throughout this particular segment of conversation. My relationships with women has always been of this sort. Respect and honor for one another was nearly stripped away from us for over 2 decades. But our deeper love to love has consistently proved the devil wrong. It's how we're made. The world's design have become our enemy. Time for us to seal up the torn breach between us. Malcolm X and Frances Cress Welsing ignited conversation, and Shahrazad Ali and Kevin Samuels reclaimed it for these ending times. If the Most High "God" is for us, who can be against us? Rise & Shine!!!!!
I appreciate the fact of what's being displayed by this beautiful woman is listening to hear and understand. Salute to the two of you I'm eager for more.
❤
This guy is extremely insightful... And this conversation is as well.
I love the female guest. She is obviously brilliant and provides a great female perspective for men to hear.
As a Baby Boomer, my generation grew up in two parent households. Our mothers were loving (not trying to be our friend) feminine, classy ladies like Diahann Carroll, Cicely Tyson, Lola Falana, Lena Horne for example. Our fathers were strong, disciplinary men that raised us to be responsible leaders of the house and in the workplace.
The parents of my generation would correct you for saying "Yea" instead of "Yes." We addressed adults as "Yes Sir/No Ma'am."
Our neighbors didn't need permission from our parents to chastise us for doing something wrong. Then they would call our parents and tell them they did it.
Unfortunately, single family households have created a multitude of problems in the Black community including topics such as this that I'm not sure we will ever recover from.
Yeah thanks for watching the world burn around you doing nothing
I agree but many of the female boomers, all we hear from them is Horry stories of their marriages of their parents & passed down to the millennials
This was an absolutely amazing conversation!!! These are the things that we need to speak on and understand !! I also appreciate the respect given between both persons in this exchange.🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽thank you for sharing this 💕💕💕
You might also enjoy some of our other content 🙏🏿
Brother you are NECESSARY !
No words..no words.
YOU ARE NECESSARY.
The black man is well desired across the planet we just didn't know that
Yes everywhere... except here.
Brother i salute you 💯these are the conversations we need as a people..well done!!
She seems well balanced and I can tell she's highly educated. I would enjoy seeing a live with followers from both channels. I think the conversation would be interesting.
Rarely do I have the notifications on for a premier... But for this conversation I'm ready
It's gonna be a good one!!!
Oooweee. I can’t wait 🔥
This is one of the few channels that I make it a point to regularly like and comment on. Salute!
Man, amazing convo as always! I'm a big fan of Tynisha talks. I think an underlying theme of what you were talking about, was that black men are not allowed to exist on a spectrum. The world only pays attention to us when we act out. If we embody all of the stereotypes in our community, we are oftentimes seen as more masculine, because the image of black masculinity is street, aggressive, hood, etc. White men oftentimes can exist on a spectrum, because of how history and the media has portrayed them. Their masculinuty isn't pigeon held into a certain archytpe. That's why when you here black men say 'I'm going overseas' or 'black women only like thugs', it oftentimes is less about the woman, and more about our frustration as black men, not being seen as multi-faceted. Black men are yearning for the freedom and validation to just be ourselves without having to live up to the one-sided false image of black masculinity that's often portrayed on us. Great work guys!
Facts, great comment
Wow, I need to sit with this for a moment.
He knows how to speak and explain alot of what we as men feel on a regular.
This was 1 of the BEST CONVERSATIONS I'VE EVER HEARD!!!!! HANDS DOWN!!!
This was one of the best balanced discussions I've seen
This was a respectful and progressive conversation on both sides. Thank you
This is a really good conversation. Especially starting around the 15 minute mark. It really gets deep and relatable
What a beautifully wholesome & insightful conversation.
Great open dialog from a place of understanding each other
9:20-9:45 is interesting because so many American black woman (specifically) have no clue how desirable American BM are in other countries!
Yeah. She tried to sneak that in there that black men are on the same level as black women internationally. That is not true. Black men go to other countries and are able to complete with other men.
Black women go to other countries and get a ticket back home real fast.
Bro you were preaching. I feel the same way in my friend group I try to articulate to them how to communicate our grievances correctly. Don’t stop fighting the good fight bro ✊🏿
I get chest pains every time I watch these clips/shows. Thanks for trying to put the word out. Passport on Deck.
Bro this was great these are the type of conversations black men and women should have. Not this other nonsense online very honest and respectful interview bro keep up the good work
One of the top 10 convos so far. Great work
At least from a Black American standpoint of culture we have a proud and rich heritage, but not all of us are aware of that to project it internationally outside of entertainment and athletics.
I would say Black folks are highly desired internationally, but for someone genuinely wanting to build a family with us is a whole other conversation. (Date/Sex vs Marriage/Fetish)
Great conversation in this clip.
I will agree that's there's options that depends on your individual economics and lifestyle.
We know social media, dating apps, and Fomo are the biggest culprits affecting black men and women relationships today.
The generational and social traumas that we both face is always in the background.
We in this together. It's hard for sure. 💯
We have learned to accept the back handed compliments when we get them. Like I see you got your “lil” car, house, career, following or business. As if it was easy to get and it’s small accomplishments. Instead of you look good it’s you think you the ish, or you effing all the heaux like mens DM are overflowing with offers. In general our women don’t initiate or reciprocate so why would they think our women flood our DM. You have to be exceptional at something or put on a spotlight where women in mass can see you to get that level of attention.
Wow, thank you for saying this. It’s definitely something I’ll be aware of when myself and my counterparts speak.
Great conversation, and great guest as well 💯 percent!
This was one of the best conversations yet
Every once in a while the algorithm pushes you a gem. This was it.
lol We've got a few others on this channel too.
😄 love the look on these ladies faces when you talk, I feel the same way
"I'm supposed to own it. But your allowed to absolve yourselves."
This like a moment in the sermon where everybody start getting filled with the Holly Ghost!
Literally the center of all issues between the genders right now imo...
Straight fire! 🔥🔥
You threw the oop ✊🏿
Excellent conversation!!
Insightful.
Good job answering those questions brother
I appreciate Brother Allen's dedication to providing edutainment. Sister @TynishaTalks makes some great points, and her intelligence is refreshing. I will add a little context that's often missed. Black men have accepted criticism for centuries and remained quiet publicly. The last 3 to 5 years have been the first time that the locker room and barbershop talk has made its way to the public. More times than not, I have witnessed our discussions evolve into inspiration to improve individually. Are there some guys who are extreme ? Absolutely! However, in my experience, there are many black men who are willing to become better people. Typically, our discussions are more about holding each other accountable (meaning other men), working to better our communities, working to create safe spaces for our women, working to be better at our craft or profession, working to grow spiritually and mentally, improve physically and emotionally, and become better Stewart's financially. Similar to our women, there is nuance and layers to who we are as people. Unfortunately, the black man has been branded as everything problematic. Ultimately, we live in a country (the U.S.A.) that is hyper individualistic. What's amazing is that other groups have found a way to keep their group first culture. It is we (the black collectively) who has lost our way. Hopefully, we can get back to loving each other before its too late. Before large numbers of us become so numb emotionally that the damage is beyond repair.
From observation, I think a big issue is that men tend to give grace in a nonverbal manner. Grace for a man is accepting someone into their space flaws and all. The only condition is that you are not disruptive to the peace he has created. A woman giving a man grace tends to have a lot more conditions and be very volatile.
I just need to say that based on this video, I see a very beautiful black woman in mind and body.
The manosphere been around since the early 2000’s brother . Much Respect
I should’ve clarified, I meant mainstream.
@@wnttalk understood brother appreciate the great content need more brothers that’s sensible that’s willing to build amongst our own
Awesome conversation. I’ll have to follow and catch some of the content!
well spoken my brother and good questioning from the sister, she honestly didnt know
This beauty is a great listener and communicator...
Thank you ❤
Best guest so far
Wonderful guest and great conversation
This sister is smart and and beautiful and feminine and most importantly she listens .
Well it’s 2023 we all need a reprogramming
Absolutely!
I loved this interview. ☝🏾
Great conversation. Ty is a real one.
Thank you, Trev ❤❤❤❤
That was powerful!
Black woman, this young man is giving you some good gems. Please use them if you want results.
Great guest 👍🏾👍🏾
Loved the analogy of Nigeria vs US and the relationship dynamics because it crystallized it for your guest. Even better she was genuinely receptive and understanding. So there’s hope but it’s still a long road ahead.
This conversation made my day.
This was really good and refreshing to see. Good job but I will keep reminding men if you are lucky enough to find a woman like this immediately find this personality trait wherever you can. If it exists in Ling Ling or Maria so be it, you deserve to be stress free from someone who claims to love you. Abuse is not your birth right.
Great conversation 💯🍾🥂😎
This was excellent! There were so many bars. You might want to chop this up more to make 10-15 Shorts. Well researched and communicated in a way that “she” can digest. Keep it up!
Preciate it brother! What we’re your favorite time stamps?
Great conversation. I follow her so i knew it was going to be good.
Thank you for your support! ❤
Can you put these on Spotify, podcast ect please. Great conversation
Some of our content is already on Spotify. Link on the about page
Another progressive video. I like having videos I can share that can give hope to men and be more of an example of good faith for women. We don’t get good faith much as often as we need. We just receive (like she said) cognitive dissonance and disingenuousness banter.
Well said!
Good convo with Allen and TynishaTalks but also the chat pulled up on this one 🤣 This would have been a good livestream with call-ins
She’s very beautiful. Has such a bright smile.
Obi hit em with the Marvin Gaye! I see ya bruh! ✊🏾
Man so much stuff to unpack. 400yrs of trans Atlantic & 1300yrs of trans-Saharan. Man have been getting emasculated way before women started. While some groups have inherited generational wealth, we have inherited generational trauma, being underminded socially, financially etc. With most struggling to survive let alone thrive. Still using outdated European anthropology to identify ourselves(black) which is equal to still referring to Native Americans as "indians". In a Society where learning about yourself is to much work, there is no self-healing when we don't know ourselves, clinging to a culture thay has been swissed cheesed the male, female dynamics; the core of any civilization demonstrates that a total rehaul is needed.
I like this one she makes a lot of sense
Another revelation. "Women care about people, men tend to care about things," this explains a lot, actually. As a woman, i find it offensive that when some men talk about women, they sound like they're thinking of us as things or property, not human beings. But, if that's the way you have to see things in order to care about something, it explains why those specific men are looking at women like inanimate objects. It's still not something I'd like, but I'd understand and take LESS offense to it.
You must've never heard women speak about men and themselves. Women tend to objectify themselves everyday. Especially the ones who openly equate value of a man they want to attract to a dollar amount.
@Akeem I won't say that's untrue, but we may disagree on the root cause. I think that's learned behavior. You learn kind of early that generally for most men, will only want you for sex. Either by observance or experience. Now I'm not saying that men only want sex that's a different statement. I'm saying that for an individual woman, most of the men you come across won't want you for more than sexual purposes. When you get jaded you think that all men want is sex period and some women get to the point where they feel if I'm gonna get used for sexual purposes were both gonna get something out of it and it'll be on my terms. Which is where you get women who objectify themselves. Those women either don't have faith in their ability to vet men or they have just low faith in men overall.
Bring this Sista Back
Awesome conversation !!! This unicorn gets it.
A lot of these generational curses are practically new in a historical sense. It’s going to take a while for the tide to turn but I think leaving social media would be a good start. A lot of these narratives have been spread through all types of media for years and that’s adding onto the life experiences
Good topic, and I love the question interviewer asked
Best video yet!
This is one of the most frustrating things as a black man he explained it so well to her saying the fact that black women standards have risen to Superman only But give us the bare minimum that we want. Black women are celebrated for their average preparation (meaning beauty, mindset, ect) it by other women and expect us to appreciate bare medium.
Through the years I've seen how other cultures stick together pool their wealth women and men respect each other when you go at one you have to deal with them all unity. As soon as one of us have more than the other it's a problem.
I follow her channel. She’s reasonable and sensible.
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2:09 _Why are we not given that grace?_
Because good men aren't given that grace. AND good men haven't been given that grace for at least 30 years. And if it's a man that had been on his purpose, he definitely has no grace for a woman that will give grace to "ain't shit" men but hold him to a much higher standard.
14:54 _I still feel like I have a commitment to my people..._
If this young lady isn't married then I would say this: What is everyone told on airplanes about oxygen masks? First, secure your own mask THEN help the other person. The best first step for this young lady to fix the community is to secure herself a thriving black marriage. THEN she can see about trying to save the rest of the black community.
19:46 _Why am I the one that is being blamed for it?_
Unfortunately, she is suffering from the lack of action on the part of good women didn't do their job of checking the sisterhood when it started to stray into bad territory. Instead the good women were silent: "...Then they came for me-and there was no one left to speak for me."
That’s real 🥺💯
Answer to question @19:51: you can see what ur aunts, friends, and other acquaintances have not worked, why not try something else…that’s where men, in general, are. Why not do something else! The blame is more signifying a lack of perspective as opposed to doing the trendy or similar things that past people have done.
Another great episode!
Awesome talk.. I almost wish I was there... No. I do.. only cause I feel I can see what each of your points are. And could bounce back off of both of you... But. It was awesome to hear that you agree with everything he said their at the end... It really does make me feel better. As a person but more so as a man...
Not just black men and women. Can say these things... White men feel the same way.... We tried hard to change for women.. Now.. they are pissed off that we did.
The black man is the most desired man on the planet.
I here to tell you the truth right now, thats a lie.
I had to stop watching and go pray 🙏🏾. Allen was preaching today. Might be his best work.
Good conversation
A male will always say a women will always need their validation. wanting to maintain their “ dominance”. and ego . IMO
@wntt @weneedtotalk BROTHER ALLEN DOES IT AGAIN...right at the 16 minute mark as Bro. Allen broke it down you could see the realization coming on like a light bulb as he said “you are beautiful at any size” in his example her face said it all and that smile of hers became harder and harder to hold until it was non existent it really seems that women have really not heard these things before...JUST WOW!!!! Pray I get some money....So I can bless this channel this creator to continue this crucial work for BLACK PEOPLE
Thank you so much my brother✊🏿
Nooo. He said that wrong..
Women tend to care more about ppl..
Men tend to care about WOMEN.
That is what a man's existence is for...
Awesome dialogue
On international competition it's just the money mostly
Ain't no moving forward my Naija brother its #SYSBM #PASSPORTBROS #PASSPORTGANG 4 LIFE 🛬🛫🛩✈✈✈✈✈✈✈✈✈✈✈✈✈✈✈✈✈
The thing that gets me about these “ talks” at this point is that because all of the information and the ability to understand is out there people have no excuses to continue to operate in destructive ways while still playing the victim and blame game.
American black men: focus on your physical health, mental health and financial wealth building. You have plenty of options, more than you know, if you are willing to leave the borders and go beyond the common American ideology.
American back women: You have thousands of hours of content that lets you know exactly what to do to acquire the man and lifestyle you desire. If you don’t want to take accountability for your choices and understand that when it comes to quality men you have to compete then that action in and of itself has consequences.
Keep it coming