Thanks so much for watching! Let us know where you fall on the sibling spectrum (& how you think it's affected your life, if at all) Don't miss our other videos in our Sibling Struggles series! 👉The Forgotten Middle Child: ruclips.net/video/oNN0_gQ6SEI/видео.html 👉Only Child Syndrome: ruclips.net/video/fi6h06kP6dE/видео.html 👉The Parentified Eldest Daughter: ruclips.net/video/h8vQmK6F4as/видео.html
wild that on the same day Sam Altman's younger sister reveals he sexually abused her when they were kids, this video comes out with the idea that the worst thing about being a youngest sibling is getting compared to your older siblings.
That desire to be the peacekeeper as the youngest is so real. I was my family's unofficial therapist since my teen years, and when I finally moved away it was like everything fell apart between them. I started dreading calls from my family because I knew it was going be them venting about some fight they had with each other. Even now I kind of hate visiting.
LITERALLY SAME!!!! my parents starting using me as their emotional dumping ground ever since I was little, like elementary, and I became so used to being their therapist, I literally went to school for psychology to become one🤣 but then when I was in my early 20s I actually got completely burnt out by their emotional baggage and had to set some really firm boundaries because i realized it had been negatively eating away at me for years. They still try to use me to vent even now, and while sometimes it's okay if it goes too far I have to put my foot down and tell them I sympathize but that I can't talk about it with them anymore🤣 it's roughhhhhhhh
I think it’s a common misconception the youngest child is the most coddled and catered towards. Some can be but that was not my experience. I felt like I was on my own and when in severe crisis was also on my own. My family also makes me feel like I have to be more responsible and carry the load because my older sister is too disoriented to manage. It’s a thankless position to be in.
For me is exactly the same. Through the years it just became easier to not be around the chaos everyone else was creating so i moved out of the country and I'm still expected to sort some things out while not even being there. I feel you
Always hated how Monicas parents treatment of her was treated as a joke. Imagine being in her situation and seeing people treat it as something not serious at all.
It's a bit different when you are the oops baby with siblings that are significantly older than you. It's like being an only child but without the attention. Your siblings move out before you have formed a bond with them and the parents are sick of parenting and leave you to your own devices. You can end up not having much of a relationship with your siblings or your parents. And then they wonder why you don't want to come home for Christmas even though they are more like acquaintances than family.
All my siblings were 10+ older than me. My sister and one brother were more parental than my parents. My parents did not stay together after my arrival, so I felt like it was my fault. It wasn't. My dad was a serial cheater. And alcoholic. The 70's were a hell of a decade! Lol...so I totally relate to feeling like an only child that was not doted on...I felt like a burden sometimes....
Kinda reminds me of my own family. We're all half siblings. I'm the youngest and only ever got to live with one of them, but her dad took her away when I was 2-3 years old. It's still a weird dynamic.
I feel like I relate to you a lot, actually. I am the youngest of 3, with the older being 18 and 12 years of a difference to me. I was definitely the oops baby and the reason for my mother to put a large pause on her career and education. My oldest sibling left when I was born, and the other did the same a few years later. With me being the only one left, I was often told I would be the one to watch over my parents until they grew old and passed on. Almost as if I was expected to live my life for them, and because my siblings made their mistakes, there were high expectations of me being the opposite because they figured I would learn from their mistakes and be the exemplary child. Instead, it only taught me to hide my mistakes and to become a better liar to keep the peace in the family. To this day, my siblings still expect me to be my parents' caregiver in their old age; it's not quite fair, but for now, it is what it is.
@@loneshewolf6065 you just have to say no! Anyone has to be planning to take care of themselves including parents for when the times of being old come! No one has to be born to be someone else care taker! 🤗
Ron Weasley is an example of how this trope manifests in families with limited financial resources. Even into his teens, he was still wearing hand-me-down clothing and had many pre-owned possessions. This led to a lot of built-up resentment and a desire for more out of life. Yet along with Fred and George, Ron was the one who arguably broke the most boundaries in life, and I’m not just talking about school rules. He wasn’t afraid to try things that were unconventional and potentially dangerous, and in the end he became the one that Harry trusted above all others.
Downsides to being the youngest - getting hand me downs, not being taking seriously by parents and older siblings (always seen as a baby), if your older siblings were bad - you get blamed for their mistakes or your parents assume you will make the same mistakes as them and can be even more strict with you because of it, not having a lot of baby pics while your eldest sibling has thousands, not feeling like you’ve achieved anything special or not being celebrated as much because your parents experienced those milestones already with the eldest, pressure from older siblings to achieve milestones when they did or to live life the way they do. The list goes on and on. But I will say I am the youngest in my family and I’m glad I was the youngest. Each role comes with difficulty, but, overall, I would not want to be the eldest or even middle. No matter what I went through, I think my eldest sister had it the worst because she had to deal with my parents by herself until my brother came along 4 years later. As the youngest, I never had to experience life or hardship alone. I was always loved and protected by my siblings. My older sister and brother are the best thing God has ever given me and I would not change a thing.
Ooh I didn't have as many baby pics either. I was told they were stolen and I believed it when I was younger but now I'm like nah who would steal my baby pics?
As the youngest, all the time and energy we given to my older siblings. They get all the attention, all the leeway, and all know better. I'm the most responsible and respectful, but I'm seen as opposite because the older kids "didn't have the opportunity i did" No one taught me anything because they expected me to just "pick it up" from my older siblings and cousins. When i make honest observations, I'm "whining" because I'm the "baby" Being buldozed over by your older siblings because your parents can't be bothered sucks
As the youngest, my accomplishments weren’t usually special because my brother had probably already done them and most of my family still assumes that I’m the least informed about anything because I’m the youngest. Yes, I did (and sometimes still do) engage in attention seeking behavior because I didn’t get a normal amount of attention for stuff like straight A’s because they weren’t considered special. Seriously, my dad thought “wow, your brother could NEVER do that” was the highest praise he could give me. There was also an expectation that I was supposed to mature faster because I would learn from his mistakes
This is so real. I was so excited for my middle school orientation because it was my first time starting at a new school and my mom took me. We sat down and 10 minutes in she told me "I've already done this twice. I don't need to sit here. You'll be fine on your own, right?" and left. It was fun for me as a kid because I always prided myself on being independent, but as I got older, I look back and regret how many of my milestones my parents missed/didn't view as special because they had already done them before with my older siblings. The only time I could get their attention was when I did something that my siblings had never done before.
Same, and even more because my sister was the overachiever when it came to school. Getting a 'good' grade wasn't special if your sibling got the best in her class. Many teachers even told me I should be able to do it because my sister was
@@mayas883omg. My brother always had a 95% average or higher. I made honor roll every semester (80%+) but my family would legitimately treat me like I was mentally challenged. My brother went on to get his masters in electrical engineering and they still act like I have a brain injury because I can’t build a robot with scrap metal
When I graduated elementary school, my brother got arrested. Like the literal night of the party. This means my whole family but me was there with him, and I had my father-daughter dance with the PE teacher. I remember dancing the choreography that I practiced for weeks, and not being able to smile. I also remember being the only child crying while others were playing, and it wasn't even for myself but because I was worried about my brother. I've always been the last thought, even in my own mind.
I wish you would have dispelled some of the youngest child myths that people believe without proof- the biggest being how youngest children supposedly get so much extra time and attention from their parents- research published in February 2008 by Brigham Young University, not only shows that "first-born children get about 3,000 more hours of quality time with their parents between ages 4 and 13 than the next sibling gets when they pass through the same age range," those older children also get better quality time with their parents during that time. Other studies have pointed out that even if kids received the same amount of time with their parents, a sibling who is 4 years older is going to receive that individual attention when they are 0-4, a period of time that's much more critical in their development than the individual time the youngest child will receive when they are 14-17 years old.
Despite being the oldest child, I always related to Monica. Her successes are always overshadowed by Ross, as their parents usually made him look good, and believed he could never do anything wrong. However, this made her more empathetic, and able to precieve things as they really were. She transcends her need to gain her mother's impossible approval, and finds happiness with Chandler, whom they'd initially disapproved of.
I love Monica. Every time I rewatch the show, I appreciate her and relate to her more and more. I also love her bond with Ross. Even though Ross would often play into the golden child role with his parents, he always loved and supported and encouraged Monica. It’s important that she had that acceptance from him since she didn’t have it from her parents.
As the younger sibling, life has been hard. I was bullied my whole childhood at home, by my sibling, and at school by my peers. Now that me and my sibling are adults, all the bullying is lost and forgotten on their end, and they either think I’m lying or exaggerating about how harsh it was, or they think me trying to explain what their behavior did to me as “not taking responsibility for my faults, it’s always somebody else’s fault”.
That's just gaslighting. It is too common! It is also very familiar to me. Parent on child abuse is taken more seriously now but sibling abuse is never even discussed in society. This video is just another proof of that. Not a word about sibling abuse and it's a much bigger trauma than being a parentified child as older siblings usually are.
Such a missed opportunity... Not even a word about sibling abuse which is the most common type of abuse in the family and usually perpetrated against the youngest sibling.
This is so goddamn true. Everyone talks about how the youngest kid is so lucky and spoiled, but they’re bullied by their older siblings A LOT simply because they’re not “grown” like everyone else. Bonus points if the parents enable it by scolding or punishing the kid when they fight back because “respect your elders.”
@@allydef I always thought that older siblings usually bully younger once because of the strength difference and because the older ones resent younger ones for whatever reason. Never thought about the reason of "not being grown". Does it happen when the age difference is big? Like they shame the younger one for not being independent/capable enough?
My downside was that despite being the youngest, i was considered the scapegoat for all the issues from relentless bullying and torment from my sister to my parents' marriage that it was my fault cause i existed.
Thinking also about the younger child experience of their whole world (or at least family structure/dynamic) changing drastically before their own coming of age. Typically as older siblings move out first (for college, for a job, simply to have their own space, whatever), younger siblings are left behind in the power vacuum, where suddenly all the skills they developed to manage the original family structure will no longer apply. I can’t immediately think of any media that covers this angle in depth, but I do feel like it’s significant.
One thing that a lot of people tend to ignore or just don’t talk about enough. Is the fact that parent doesn’t just have a negative effect on older siblings. It has a negative effect on younger siblings as well. Because we’re the ones who are stuck being cared for by our siblings who are not prepared and don’t want to do it. when we need our parents. I’m not saying that older siblings should never help out. I’m just saying that being cared for by someone is not that much older than you who did not want to have to look after you sucks for all siblings.
The way i have been treated by both my older siblings is straight up abuse. Like, i was the physical and emotional punching bag to my older siblings for DECADES and both my parents were too relaxed and emotionally imature to understand what was happening and intervene. So i dont know if i seriously just got the sh*t end of the proverbial younger sibling stick or not but this video is deeply upsetting in the casualy almost gaslighting way you describe younger siblings, its giving - oh its hard, kinda, but really they have it good compared to the others, when in reality i think we spend way too much time wiping the tears and ass of older siblings and writing off younger ones. If youre older and more mature, you should know better, but they just trauma dump and get away with things. Oh and never grow out of that either, ever notice how the oldest sibling can never just let it tf go?
@@shevanz1589 I'm sorry for what happened to you. You are not alone. It's not rare. It's actually quite common. But noone talks about sibling abuse for some reason
It’s worse when you’re not only the youngest in your family, but you’re also autistic. Because then it’s not just family members that treat you like a baby despite your actual age. Really takes a toll on your mental health.
I think this whole idea of the youngest one being "the favorite" simply because they are younger was invented by older siblings because when you are literally the baby of the family (like literally a toddler), you need more time and attention. This seems unfair/tiring to the other children and they react by bullying, hurting or dismissing the youngest one, which may get them in trouble with adults and restart the cycle. We need to understand that being "the coddled one" (when applicable, because as the youngest girl this was NOT my situation at all) is not something the children choose, it's always a parenting issue. Resenting your sibling for this is just as unfair, and can easily become abusive. Not to mention that the younger person can't even understand or explain the situation as deeply because, surprise, they are younger and have less practice dealing with the parents.
The youngest child is also the most let down by their parents. I feel like my parents stopped spending time with my little sister as soon as I was grown enough to take care of her myself. And now they’re so surprised when I’m the only one she talks about her problems to. I feel like it’s part of my fault though, since my school grades were one of the reasons my parents were so tired
We stopped having family game/ movie nights after my brother left for college. There were also family activities that everyone stopped doing before I was old enough to remember/ enjoy them. When I got older and mentioned wanting to do them, I was given a funny look and told that we used to do that activity all of the time. "Don't you remember? We rode on the bike trail frequently... while you sat on the baby seat behind me."...No, Mom, I don't remember sitting on the baby seat behind you. Even better, when they realized that I wasn't even born yet, but acted like I was still there with them because my mom was pregnant with me at the time. (That doesn't count, guys).
@@SfromWisconsin Same thing happened to me! My siblings were independent teenagers who got mad at me whenever I wanted family time, and my parents were always too tired already to give me attention. Now, as an adult, I am the sibling who cares the least about family meetings but everyone wants me there to be the "glue" of the family (the mediator/entertainer).
I think youngest children mature the fastest because they want to emulate their older siblings so that their family will actually show them respect and treat them like a functional human being (this has a lot to do with how people view children in general). They develop a sense of hyper-independence because, especially if they have older parents who don't have the energy to take care of a young child, they will cling to the pride of being "independent." Then the parents don't feel like they need to watch them. Though I am a glass child (I have a disabled older sibling), so my experience with birth order is very different.
I think that's more likely in neglected children, of any birth order. With ones given a lot of, or the right amount of, attention usually the youngest end up maturing more slowly. Out of interest, if your disabled sibling didn't achieve the usual milestones, did you feel less pressure to live up to that reputation or meet the same goald? Or did your parents shift their expectations and pile them on you?
@@NotAnotherKuromi I started doing chores younger than my siblings did because it wouldn’t be fair if they had to do them and I didn’t. Especially since one of my sisters is close in age to me (two years apart), I was usually physically capable of doing what she did and was expected to. It’s definitely different for every family, but as I said having a disabled older sibling kind of shifts everything in terms of attention/responsibility. And since I’m the youngest of four, my milestones still were lackluster because my family had already gone through them at least two times already. I internally had a lot of pressure because my family has a lot of other issues and I was “the normal one” (as far as they were concerned). But that kind of just meant that I was expected to hit the milestones. And when you’re expected to do something, you don’t exactly get much praise for it.
I'm the oldest in my family, but because I have Autism, my younger sister often feels like she has to explain things to me, and sometimes, I kind of resent it, because it feels like she's telling me what to do. My therapist said that's called "parentifying," and that it sounds like she's scolding me. But my mom says that my sister is just helping me, because she cares about me. I told her that I'm perfectly capable of doing things independently, and Mom said that she knows that. But, for the most part, my sister and I usually get along pretty well.
You are a new character coming on season 5 of an already existing TV show. Everyone is bigger, stronger, smarter, wiser, and more experienced than you. You have to struggle and claw your way to find a niche in the family because other people got there first. It fucking sucks.
My parents just seemed very over it by the time I came around. I’m only a year younger than my brother but there are all kinds of things he got to do like learning to drive and having first communion that I never got to do. They were too lazy to do it all over again the next year when it was my turn
I hate being the youngest of four in my family while also being the most responsible and called upon. It's annoying having 3 lazy older siblings that mooch of their elderly parents.
As the oldest who, at literally four years old, was roped into helping to raise nine other kids - the youngest have my sympathies. Parents will check out and just assign their older children the duty of parenting the younger. It’s twisted, and it speaks to the laziness of some parents, who are willing to take advantage of, and in doing so compromise the childhood of, their eldest.
I don't get why you say the youngest have your sympathies, when your comment is about the mistreatment of oldest kids? Unless you're pointing out that oldest children mistreat their younger siblings out of resentment when they're forced to babysit them.
@alisayung5039 They have my sympathies because I was the among the legions of oldest children who was forced to provide childcare with no training or preparation. I know what kind of care an unprepared child is capable of providing because I was that kid. What do you not understand? Edit: I have to say. The fact I can’t even tag them in response is a red flag that they did not just misinterpret my comment - but are in fact a troll and / or a bot.
I realized this when my middle sister said "Did Mom say that to you? That's harsh, she would never be that mean to me", and she was always considered the "problematic" one! This happened because mom wanted me to clean the backyard, so she sold our dog and said I k*lled it because I was a terrible caretaker and needed to do better. Apparently, when she had me my mother found out that bullying and emotional manipulation was easier than actually parenting me. 🙄
As a youngest sibling I sometimes think my parents what they done with the older siblings they won’t want to do with me because they already did it with them So I just kept to myself and saw from experience with my older siblings on what to do and not do. There’s a part of that youngest sibling status where you feel like your parents won’t bother with activities with you since they already did those with the older siblings
Same. I was so excited when it was my turn to do first communion. My brother got to go to special classes, he got a suit, everyone gave him presents and took his picture. When it was my turn my parents were like. Uh no we already did that
I love that although Dwayne claims to hate his entire family, he has a clear soft spot for Olive. After discovering that his dream is impossible, he allows her to hug him to make him feel better, and tries to stop her competing in the pageant, knowing that she's vastly out of her depth, and not beauty queen material.
There are a lot more downsides to being the youngest one, especially as you grow older. As the baby of my family myself, I got a lot of stuff my siblings always claim they didn’t. That’s all fine and good when you’re a kid, but when you desire to actually be taken seriously, they still treat like you don’t know what you’re doing. They often view you as naive still. And (at least for my parents) you can tell that they like the fact that they are older than you and can boss you around. People are always telling you what to wear, how to act, how to talk, where to go, as if you’re incapable of deciding these things yourself. They’ll often say it’s because they care about you and they’ve been where you are, but it’s more out of desire to control you so they can go on a power trip.
Youngest of two, and my whole life my older brother always caused issues in our family and stressed out my parents and I felt that I had to live at higher expectations to make up for what my brother did or didn’t do. On the good side, I felt like I was closer with certain family members like my grandma as I was the youngest of her 4 grandchildren. Now in my 20s, my family definitely still babies me and acts like I don’t understand anything. It’s definitely a double edged sword, as is every sibling position.
Another problem with being the youngest is that you are mainly compared to your older siblings. Very few media outlets, like movies and shows, fail to notice that and tend to treat the younger sibling as bratty, childish, chaotic, and, at times, selfish. Encanto, Bob's Burgers (They Slug Horses Don't They), Little Women, and Abbott Elementary are a few examples showing that the younger siblings are just complex is they suffer in dysfunctional family dynamics. Mirabel is constantly compared to her older siblings and to an extent older cousins for not having a gift. When she expresses disdain or any emotion, she is perceived as being unreasonable and problematic. Luisa and Isabel are always praised to the sky and Mirabel even makes that statement more clear when she is confiding to her mother about not being good like her older siblings. Louise in the recent of Bob's Burgers, was called a brat for acting the way she does and it only fueled her rage more towards Tina, when her parents called her an angel. So, when she does act that way we see the reason why she does. In most shows the younger sibling would just act that way because they're evil or to make the older sibling look good. Finally, Amy in Little Woman. In the 2019 version, Amy is more portrayed as an actual sibling and not just something that was a thorn in Jo's life. We see her talk about how she has to marry rich cause her older sibling, Meg married for love and is poor, and Jo doesn't like the idea of love. So Amy has to sacrifice what she does as a painter to help her family by finding a rich man to marry. We see her get frustrated that her older sisters are allowed to do what they want, and she is forced to do what she is allowed to do (staying home while Jo and Beth go to a theater and either decide if they want to marry for love or not). Jo is always praised for her genius writing and her freedom of not wanting a man and Meg is praised for her beauty, no one seems to talk about Amy rather they talk about how selfish and a bad sister she is in the novel.
A trait I get as a younger sibling as an adult is as the secondary sibling. Everyone in my family is in strong contact with my older sibling, and they treat reaching out to them as reaching out to us, even though we don’t even live near each other. So I often only get family updates through my older sibling because they don’t think to reach out to me.
Liam Gallagher in shameless is a well written example of the youngest child. He was too young to comprehend a lot of the traumatic events that the older siblings experienced, which results in him having a better connection with Frank and receiving better schooling. He has a lot of siblings to care for him, but in actuality he is very neglected and in the end, it's not even confirmed that he has a place to live because he gets left behind.
Granted I was an accident, so my brothers were too old to have a real sibling relationship with me. But if my brother fucked up, it was held over my head. If I made one move out of line, I was accused of turning into him. I got all of the attention as a youngest “only” child from my parents, but that came with a LOT of pressure. And being the family therapist and peace maker, just like this vid said.
Youngest of 13 and the only girl here. I existed just to be "the girl" and was otherwise completely forgotten. Some of my siblings don't even know how to spell my name right.
The first time I heard this type of reply, it took a while for me to get it. Rooting for you! No matter what family dynamics taught us, you're your own person and I think you're cool as heck!
Believing the youngest is the most coddled seems to be a myth made by older siblings to justify their recentment and abuse towards them. Similar of who men believe women talk too much when in reality theiy are the ones who talk the most in groups.
I’m the youngest daughter and the middle child ( 2 older sisters & 2 younger brothers). My experience is a weird mix of both these stereotypes plus being an older sister. I’m the baby and also parentified depending on the situation. Sometimes I feel completely invisible.
Ah, the mixed family dynamic. I'm 3rd of 4 and eldest of 2 at the same time. It's super weird, but I feel like it gives me the superpower of not being too beholden to one role. Though middle child, eldest daughter, AND simultaneously youngest daughter are arguably not great roles. I'm expected to be responsible AND my dad wouldn't let me drive his car until well after I turned 30. Being the baby and the babysitter gives you whiplash, I must say.
Yeah youngest at least personally.. youngest of 5, all my older sibs seemed to be able to grow up and not me. My 1 year older sister was able to get away and do stuff I wasn’t even at that age.. but now at 27, thankfully I am very close with most of my sibs. While the oldest isn’t so nice. Thinks she’s always the victim and is always criticizing EVERYTHING and EVERYONE and thinks she’s Lways right. You’re not even ALLOWED to have an opinion around her if it doesn’t have Facts. So she’s not the best.. but my other sibs are GREAT.
I was the youngest and pretty much have all ways been treated as an other in the family. I never got support from my siblings, and after i started growing up and stopped being kid cute, my mom stopped caring.
I'm the youngest of four, and what I find about myself is that I tend to go a bit passive around my older siblings. We're all adults - I turned 50 last year - but I somehow expect them to be adultier adults. To always know what they're doing and take care of things. When I've lived away from them, I've always been able to take care of myself and get stuff done, but now that I've moved close again, that passivity keeps cropping up. I'm also kind of the odd one out in my family. I never married or had children, I've moved around the most (overseas twice), and now I'm the one who lives with our elderly mother. I love them all, and they love me, we generally have a very healthy sibling relationship, but boy, when we get together, you can see our birth order in action!
This is so interesting because I’m the youngest but my brother and I have an 11 year age difference between us so it’s almost like growing we were only children because we were raised in different timeframes but we still have the dynamics of oldest and youngest. I admit I did and still do away with a lot more stuff than my brother did at my age but he’s not hearing that from me lol.
I’m 40 plus years old and the same weird kid quirks still reside with me in my families eyes. My older sibling was the “hard worker” and I’m the LAZY/messy one.
Being the youngest of 4 and just seeing how little I've accomplished compared to the other 3. Still being in school when all the others were already graduated and getting their lives together
I could have been interesting to discuss Phoebe & Paige from Charmed as Phoebe was the baby for her whole life until she discovered she had a little sister which did change her personality.
So... I am the baby of my family. However, to add a spicy twist in my brain I was born 12 years after the "last" child which in turn left me as the only child in the house from first grade on.
And she never sees things as they ACTUALLY Were or are or were said. Only as SHE said or heard them. Even if you were there or YOU were the person who said them. Nope she is right not you. Not easy to have a Relationship with someone like that.
Not only that they think your spoiled then your siblings get married or have other achivements and when the h when the to have kids they kinda forget about you and ask when youll have those kind of success at when you going to get married or family when you started out on becoming an adult but it's not all bad you could learn from the older ones mistakes
it always depends on specific family dynamics. i’m the eldest and was grounded and even kicked out of the home for things less extreme than what my youngest sister gets away with. i was grounded once for hanging out with a boy alone (we were best friends and did absolutely nothing romantic) but my sisters have always been allowed to have male friends. the difference in treatment was so extreme my parents almost lost custody specifically for maltreatment of me. the way they treat me and my siblings do differently is insane. i don’t think it’s just because i’m the eldest and the other two are middle and youngest. it’s more complicated than that.
As a young and overly pampered child, the most maddening thing I'm told is "you can't do it, it's okay nobody expects you to do things, let's just elders do it" Adults literally fail us all the time
@@alisayung5039 Is that true statistically? Ive never heard that before. Im just going off of my own experience. Its common for the middle child was the most neglected or forgotten but I could be wrong.
@@Braticaloptimism My intention was not to diminish the struggles of youngest siblings, or rub anyone the wrong way. Its not a competition for who has it the worst lol. I also understand there are downsides to all sibling orders. The vid just had me in my feelings at that moment lol my take is obviously anecdotal and I feel strongly about it but everyone has a different story.
I’m only a year younger than my brother but my parents were very ‘over it’ whenever it was my turn to have a big life event and they would just skip it. My brother got to experience things I never did because my parents were too lazy to do it again the next year when it was my turn. My brother has a first communion but my parents would just roll their eyes when I asked why I couldn’t have one the next year. When i asked my parents to teach me how to drive they decided it was time to teach my brother how to drive instead. They refused to teach me or pay for classes. I had to do it all on my own when I was an adult but for my brother it was just a normal part of growing up.
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wild that on the same day Sam Altman's younger sister reveals he sexually abused her when they were kids, this video comes out with the idea that the worst thing about being a youngest sibling is getting compared to your older siblings.
Do a video about the older sibling trope please.
You know what younger sibling got the most shit on? Izzy Richardson from Little Fires Everywhere
That desire to be the peacekeeper as the youngest is so real. I was my family's unofficial therapist since my teen years, and when I finally moved away it was like everything fell apart between them. I started dreading calls from my family because I knew it was going be them venting about some fight they had with each other. Even now I kind of hate visiting.
LITERALLY SAME!!!! my parents starting using me as their emotional dumping ground ever since I was little, like elementary, and I became so used to being their therapist, I literally went to school for psychology to become one🤣 but then when I was in my early 20s I actually got completely burnt out by their emotional baggage and had to set some really firm boundaries because i realized it had been negatively eating away at me for years. They still try to use me to vent even now, and while sometimes it's okay if it goes too far I have to put my foot down and tell them I sympathize but that I can't talk about it with them anymore🤣 it's roughhhhhhhh
Yeah. It's like I'm the only one who sees what's actually wrong with this family. But again, nobody wanna hear me.
I think it’s a common misconception the youngest child is the most coddled and catered towards. Some can be but that was not my experience. I felt like I was on my own and when in severe crisis was also on my own. My family also makes me feel like I have to be more responsible and carry the load because my older sister is too disoriented to manage. It’s a thankless position to be in.
For me is exactly the same. Through the years it just became easier to not be around the chaos everyone else was creating so i moved out of the country and I'm still expected to sort some things out while not even being there. I feel you
Always hated how Monicas parents treatment of her was treated as a joke. Imagine being in her situation and seeing people treat it as something not serious at all.
It's a bit different when you are the oops baby with siblings that are significantly older than you. It's like being an only child but without the attention. Your siblings move out before you have formed a bond with them and the parents are sick of parenting and leave you to your own devices. You can end up not having much of a relationship with your siblings or your parents. And then they wonder why you don't want to come home for Christmas even though they are more like acquaintances than family.
All my siblings were 10+ older than me. My sister and one brother were more parental than my parents. My parents did not stay together after my arrival, so I felt like it was my fault. It wasn't. My dad was a serial cheater. And alcoholic. The 70's were a hell of a decade! Lol...so I totally relate to feeling like an only child that was not doted on...I felt like a burden sometimes....
@@KattMurr I'm sorry, that's hard. Nobody should feel like a burden.
Kinda reminds me of my own family. We're all half siblings. I'm the youngest and only ever got to live with one of them, but her dad took her away when I was 2-3 years old. It's still a weird dynamic.
I feel like I relate to you a lot, actually. I am the youngest of 3, with the older being 18 and 12 years of a difference to me. I was definitely the oops baby and the reason for my mother to put a large pause on her career and education. My oldest sibling left when I was born, and the other did the same a few years later. With me being the only one left, I was often told I would be the one to watch over my parents until they grew old and passed on. Almost as if I was expected to live my life for them, and because my siblings made their mistakes, there were high expectations of me being the opposite because they figured I would learn from their mistakes and be the exemplary child. Instead, it only taught me to hide my mistakes and to become a better liar to keep the peace in the family. To this day, my siblings still expect me to be my parents' caregiver in their old age; it's not quite fair, but for now, it is what it is.
@@loneshewolf6065 you just have to say no! Anyone has to be planning to take care of themselves including parents for when the times of being old come! No one has to be born to be someone else care taker! 🤗
Ron Weasley is an example of how this trope manifests in families with limited financial resources. Even into his teens, he was still wearing hand-me-down clothing and had many pre-owned possessions. This led to a lot of built-up resentment and a desire for more out of life. Yet along with Fred and George, Ron was the one who arguably broke the most boundaries in life, and I’m not just talking about school rules. He wasn’t afraid to try things that were unconventional and potentially dangerous, and in the end he became the one that Harry trusted above all others.
Absolutely. He is my favourite character. Everytime he and Harry fight it kills me
He is who I thought of too.
Also the feeling of lacking identity because none of your things were earned or given based on who you are, nothing feels like something of your own
@@Kitty-hf6vq so true!
Downsides to being the youngest - getting hand me downs, not being taking seriously by parents and older siblings (always seen as a baby), if your older siblings were bad - you get blamed for their mistakes or your parents assume you will make the same mistakes as them and can be even more strict with you because of it, not having a lot of baby pics while your eldest sibling has thousands, not feeling like you’ve achieved anything special or not being celebrated as much because your parents experienced those milestones already with the eldest, pressure from older siblings to achieve milestones when they did or to live life the way they do. The list goes on and on. But I will say I am the youngest in my family and I’m glad I was the youngest. Each role comes with difficulty, but, overall, I would not want to be the eldest or even middle. No matter what I went through, I think my eldest sister had it the worst because she had to deal with my parents by herself until my brother came along 4 years later. As the youngest, I never had to experience life or hardship alone. I was always loved and protected by my siblings. My older sister and brother are the best thing God has ever given me and I would not change a thing.
Ooh I didn't have as many baby pics either. I was told they were stolen and I believed it when I was younger but now I'm like nah who would steal my baby pics?
As the youngest, all the time and energy we given to my older siblings. They get all the attention, all the leeway, and all know better. I'm the most responsible and respectful, but I'm seen as opposite because the older kids "didn't have the opportunity i did"
No one taught me anything because they expected me to just "pick it up" from my older siblings and cousins. When i make honest observations, I'm "whining" because I'm the "baby"
Being buldozed over by your older siblings because your parents can't be bothered sucks
As the youngest, my accomplishments weren’t usually special because my brother had probably already done them and most of my family still assumes that I’m the least informed about anything because I’m the youngest. Yes, I did (and sometimes still do) engage in attention seeking behavior because I didn’t get a normal amount of attention for stuff like straight A’s because they weren’t considered special. Seriously, my dad thought “wow, your brother could NEVER do that” was the highest praise he could give me. There was also an expectation that I was supposed to mature faster because I would learn from his mistakes
This is so real. I was so excited for my middle school orientation because it was my first time starting at a new school and my mom took me. We sat down and 10 minutes in she told me "I've already done this twice. I don't need to sit here. You'll be fine on your own, right?" and left. It was fun for me as a kid because I always prided myself on being independent, but as I got older, I look back and regret how many of my milestones my parents missed/didn't view as special because they had already done them before with my older siblings. The only time I could get their attention was when I did something that my siblings had never done before.
Omg same! My parents didn't bat an eye when I told them I got into university OR when I graduated. They were just like "oh cool, we knew you would"
Same, and even more because my sister was the overachiever when it came to school. Getting a 'good' grade wasn't special if your sibling got the best in her class. Many teachers even told me I should be able to do it because my sister was
@@mayas883omg. My brother always had a 95% average or higher. I made honor roll every semester (80%+) but my family would legitimately treat me like I was mentally challenged. My brother went on to get his masters in electrical engineering and they still act like I have a brain injury because I can’t build a robot with scrap metal
When I graduated elementary school, my brother got arrested. Like the literal night of the party. This means my whole family but me was there with him, and I had my father-daughter dance with the PE teacher. I remember dancing the choreography that I practiced for weeks, and not being able to smile. I also remember being the only child crying while others were playing, and it wasn't even for myself but because I was worried about my brother. I've always been the last thought, even in my own mind.
I wish you would have dispelled some of the youngest child myths that people believe without proof- the biggest being how youngest children supposedly get so much extra time and attention from their parents- research published in February 2008 by Brigham Young University, not only shows that "first-born children get about 3,000 more hours of quality time with their parents between ages 4 and 13 than the next sibling gets when they pass through the same age range," those older children also get better quality time with their parents during that time. Other studies have pointed out that even if kids received the same amount of time with their parents, a sibling who is 4 years older is going to receive that individual attention when they are 0-4, a period of time that's much more critical in their development than the individual time the youngest child will receive when they are 14-17 years old.
Despite being the oldest child, I always related to Monica. Her successes are always overshadowed by Ross, as their parents usually made him look good, and believed he could never do anything wrong. However, this made her more empathetic, and able to precieve things as they really were. She transcends her need to gain her mother's impossible approval, and finds happiness with Chandler, whom they'd initially disapproved of.
I love Monica. Every time I rewatch the show, I appreciate her and relate to her more and more. I also love her bond with Ross. Even though Ross would often play into the golden child role with his parents, he always loved and supported and encouraged Monica. It’s important that she had that acceptance from him since she didn’t have it from her parents.
@@signalfire15why does Monica sit on ross’ lap when they’re hanging out and why do they kiss each other so much
@@dollinterrupted because they are siblings…
As the younger sibling, life has been hard. I was bullied my whole childhood at home, by my sibling, and at school by my peers. Now that me and my sibling are adults, all the bullying is lost and forgotten on their end, and they either think I’m lying or exaggerating about how harsh it was, or they think me trying to explain what their behavior did to me as “not taking responsibility for my faults, it’s always somebody else’s fault”.
That's just gaslighting. It is too common! It is also very familiar to me.
Parent on child abuse is taken more seriously now but sibling abuse is never even discussed in society. This video is just another proof of that. Not a word about sibling abuse and it's a much bigger trauma than being a parentified child as older siblings usually are.
Such a missed opportunity... Not even a word about sibling abuse which is the most common type of abuse in the family and usually perpetrated against the youngest sibling.
So true. Bullying the youngest is such a common thing among siblings, it can definitely go too far
This is so goddamn true. Everyone talks about how the youngest kid is so lucky and spoiled, but they’re bullied by their older siblings A LOT simply because they’re not “grown” like everyone else. Bonus points if the parents enable it by scolding or punishing the kid when they fight back because “respect your elders.”
@@efghd2624 too true
@@allydef I always thought that older siblings usually bully younger once because of the strength difference and because the older ones resent younger ones for whatever reason. Never thought about the reason of "not being grown". Does it happen when the age difference is big? Like they shame the younger one for not being independent/capable enough?
@@allydef that is so aweful to say "respect your elders" in such situation
My downside was that despite being the youngest, i was considered the scapegoat for all the issues from relentless bullying and torment from my sister to my parents' marriage that it was my fault cause i existed.
Thinking also about the younger child experience of their whole world (or at least family structure/dynamic) changing drastically before their own coming of age. Typically as older siblings move out first (for college, for a job, simply to have their own space, whatever), younger siblings are left behind in the power vacuum, where suddenly all the skills they developed to manage the original family structure will no longer apply. I can’t immediately think of any media that covers this angle in depth, but I do feel like it’s significant.
That and the feeling of abandonment from watching everyone older leave or die
One thing that a lot of people tend to ignore or just don’t talk about enough. Is the fact that parent doesn’t just have a negative effect on older siblings. It has a negative effect on younger siblings as well. Because we’re the ones who are stuck being cared for by our siblings who are not prepared and don’t want to do it. when we need our parents. I’m not saying that older siblings should never help out. I’m just saying that being cared for by someone is not that much older than you who did not want to have to look after you sucks for all siblings.
@@palesgensler3099 that situation can easily turn into abuse because of resentment that older siblings can often feel towards younger ones
I am the baby of my family. It can be frustrating when your not taken seriously and looked down on.
The way i have been treated by both my older siblings is straight up abuse. Like, i was the physical and emotional punching bag to my older siblings for DECADES and both my parents were too relaxed and emotionally imature to understand what was happening and intervene.
So i dont know if i seriously just got the sh*t end of the proverbial younger sibling stick or not but this video is deeply upsetting in the casualy almost gaslighting way you describe younger siblings, its giving - oh its hard, kinda, but really they have it good compared to the others, when in reality i think we spend way too much time wiping the tears and ass of older siblings and writing off younger ones. If youre older and more mature, you should know better, but they just trauma dump and get away with things. Oh and never grow out of that either, ever notice how the oldest sibling can never just let it tf go?
@@shevanz1589 I'm sorry for what happened to you. You are not alone. It's not rare. It's actually quite common. But noone talks about sibling abuse for some reason
As a middle child I agree 100%. This video sucks. Sorry your family has been so rotten to you.
It’s worse when you’re not only the youngest in your family, but you’re also autistic. Because then it’s not just family members that treat you like a baby despite your actual age. Really takes a toll on your mental health.
I think this whole idea of the youngest one being "the favorite" simply because they are younger was invented by older siblings because when you are literally the baby of the family (like literally a toddler), you need more time and attention. This seems unfair/tiring to the other children and they react by bullying, hurting or dismissing the youngest one, which may get them in trouble with adults and restart the cycle. We need to understand that being "the coddled one" (when applicable, because as the youngest girl this was NOT my situation at all) is not something the children choose, it's always a parenting issue. Resenting your sibling for this is just as unfair, and can easily become abusive. Not to mention that the younger person can't even understand or explain the situation as deeply because, surprise, they are younger and have less practice dealing with the parents.
💯! So true!
The youngest child is also the most let down by their parents. I feel like my parents stopped spending time with my little sister as soon as I was grown enough to take care of her myself. And now they’re so surprised when I’m the only one she talks about her problems to. I feel like it’s part of my fault though, since my school grades were one of the reasons my parents were so tired
We stopped having family game/ movie nights after my brother left for college. There were also family activities that everyone stopped doing before I was old enough to remember/ enjoy them. When I got older and mentioned wanting to do them, I was given a funny look and told that we used to do that activity all of the time. "Don't you remember? We rode on the bike trail frequently... while you sat on the baby seat behind me."...No, Mom, I don't remember sitting on the baby seat behind you.
Even better, when they realized that I wasn't even born yet, but acted like I was still there with them because my mom was pregnant with me at the time. (That doesn't count, guys).
@@SfromWisconsin Same thing happened to me! My siblings were independent teenagers who got mad at me whenever I wanted family time, and my parents were always too tired already to give me attention. Now, as an adult, I am the sibling who cares the least about family meetings but everyone wants me there to be the "glue" of the family (the mediator/entertainer).
I think youngest children mature the fastest because they want to emulate their older siblings so that their family will actually show them respect and treat them like a functional human being (this has a lot to do with how people view children in general). They develop a sense of hyper-independence because, especially if they have older parents who don't have the energy to take care of a young child, they will cling to the pride of being "independent." Then the parents don't feel like they need to watch them. Though I am a glass child (I have a disabled older sibling), so my experience with birth order is very different.
I think that's more likely in neglected children, of any birth order. With ones given a lot of, or the right amount of, attention usually the youngest end up maturing more slowly.
Out of interest, if your disabled sibling didn't achieve the usual milestones, did you feel less pressure to live up to that reputation or meet the same goald? Or did your parents shift their expectations and pile them on you?
@@NotAnotherKuromi I started doing chores younger than my siblings did because it wouldn’t be fair if they had to do them and I didn’t. Especially since one of my sisters is close in age to me (two years apart), I was usually physically capable of doing what she did and was expected to. It’s definitely different for every family, but as I said having a disabled older sibling kind of shifts everything in terms of attention/responsibility. And since I’m the youngest of four, my milestones still were lackluster because my family had already gone through them at least two times already. I internally had a lot of pressure because my family has a lot of other issues and I was “the normal one” (as far as they were concerned). But that kind of just meant that I was expected to hit the milestones. And when you’re expected to do something, you don’t exactly get much praise for it.
I'm the oldest in my family, but because I have Autism, my younger sister often feels like she has to explain things to me, and sometimes, I kind of resent it, because it feels like she's telling me what to do. My therapist said that's called "parentifying," and that it sounds like she's scolding me. But my mom says that my sister is just helping me, because she cares about me. I told her that I'm perfectly capable of doing things independently, and Mom said that she knows that. But, for the most part, my sister and I usually get along pretty well.
So happy someone is talking about younglings. There’s a lot of misinformation out there about us.
as the youngest this hits home and i sometimes consider myself in my family the glue that holds them together
You are a new character coming on season 5 of an already existing TV show.
Everyone is bigger, stronger, smarter, wiser, and more experienced than you.
You have to struggle and claw your way to find a niche in the family because other people got there first. It fucking sucks.
My parents just seemed very over it by the time I came around. I’m only a year younger than my brother but there are all kinds of things he got to do like learning to drive and having first communion that I never got to do. They were too lazy to do it all over again the next year when it was my turn
I hate being the youngest of four in my family while also being the most responsible and called upon. It's annoying having 3 lazy older siblings that mooch of their elderly parents.
As the oldest who, at literally four years old, was roped into helping to raise nine other kids - the youngest have my sympathies.
Parents will check out and just assign their older children the duty of parenting the younger. It’s twisted, and it speaks to the laziness of some parents, who are willing to take advantage of, and in doing so compromise the childhood of, their eldest.
And the safety of the youngest
Being forced to be a parent figure at FOUR years old is insane. I’m so sorry ❤
I don't get why you say the youngest have your sympathies, when your comment is about the mistreatment of oldest kids? Unless you're pointing out that oldest children mistreat their younger siblings out of resentment when they're forced to babysit them.
@@alisayung5039 If you are talking to me, that's what I meant
@alisayung5039
They have my sympathies because I was the among the legions of oldest children who was forced to provide childcare with no training or preparation. I know what kind of care an unprepared child is capable of providing because I was that kid. What do you not understand?
Edit: I have to say. The fact I can’t even tag them in response is a red flag that they did not just misinterpret my comment - but are in fact a troll and / or a bot.
I’ve found that me and my older siblings experienced very different childhoods
I realized this when my middle sister said "Did Mom say that to you? That's harsh, she would never be that mean to me", and she was always considered the "problematic" one! This happened because mom wanted me to clean the backyard, so she sold our dog and said I k*lled it because I was a terrible caretaker and needed to do better. Apparently, when she had me my mother found out that bullying and emotional manipulation was easier than actually parenting me. 🙄
As a youngest sibling I sometimes think my parents what they done with the older siblings they won’t want to do with me because they already did it with them
So I just kept to myself and saw from experience with my older siblings on what to do and not do.
There’s a part of that youngest sibling status where you feel like your parents won’t bother with activities with you since they already did those with the older siblings
Same. I was so excited when it was my turn to do first communion. My brother got to go to special classes, he got a suit, everyone gave him presents and took his picture. When it was my turn my parents were like. Uh no we already did that
@ damn!
I love that although Dwayne claims to hate his entire family, he has a clear soft spot for Olive. After discovering that his dream is impossible, he allows her to hug him to make him feel better, and tries to stop her competing in the pageant, knowing that she's vastly out of her depth, and not beauty queen material.
There are a lot more downsides to being the youngest one, especially as you grow older. As the baby of my family myself, I got a lot of stuff my siblings always claim they didn’t. That’s all fine and good when you’re a kid, but when you desire to actually be taken seriously, they still treat like you don’t know what you’re doing. They often view you as naive still. And (at least for my parents) you can tell that they like the fact that they are older than you and can boss you around. People are always telling you what to wear, how to act, how to talk, where to go, as if you’re incapable of deciding these things yourself. They’ll often say it’s because they care about you and they’ve been where you are, but it’s more out of desire to control you so they can go on a power trip.
Yes I’m 34 and my brother is 35 and he still treats me like I’m 15 years old it’s actually kind of appalling.
Youngest of two, and my whole life my older brother always caused issues in our family and stressed out my parents and I felt that I had to live at higher expectations to make up for what my brother did or didn’t do. On the good side, I felt like I was closer with certain family members like my grandma as I was the youngest of her 4 grandchildren. Now in my 20s, my family definitely still babies me and acts like I don’t understand anything. It’s definitely a double edged sword, as is every sibling position.
Another problem with being the youngest is that you are mainly compared to your older siblings. Very few media outlets, like movies and shows, fail to notice that and tend to treat the younger sibling as bratty, childish, chaotic, and, at times, selfish. Encanto, Bob's Burgers (They Slug Horses Don't They), Little Women, and Abbott Elementary are a few examples showing that the younger siblings are just complex is they suffer in dysfunctional family dynamics.
Mirabel is constantly compared to her older siblings and to an extent older cousins for not having a gift. When she expresses disdain or any emotion, she is perceived as being unreasonable and problematic. Luisa and Isabel are always praised to the sky and Mirabel even makes that statement more clear when she is confiding to her mother about not being good like her older siblings.
Louise in the recent of Bob's Burgers, was called a brat for acting the way she does and it only fueled her rage more towards Tina, when her parents called her an angel. So, when she does act that way we see the reason why she does. In most shows the younger sibling would just act that way because they're evil or to make the older sibling look good.
Finally, Amy in Little Woman. In the 2019 version, Amy is more portrayed as an actual sibling and not just something that was a thorn in Jo's life. We see her talk about how she has to marry rich cause her older sibling, Meg married for love and is poor, and Jo doesn't like the idea of love. So Amy has to sacrifice what she does as a painter to help her family by finding a rich man to marry. We see her get frustrated that her older sisters are allowed to do what they want, and she is forced to do what she is allowed to do (staying home while Jo and Beth go to a theater and either decide if they want to marry for love or not). Jo is always praised for her genius writing and her freedom of not wanting a man and Meg is praised for her beauty, no one seems to talk about Amy rather they talk about how selfish and a bad sister she is in the novel.
A trait I get as a younger sibling as an adult is as the secondary sibling. Everyone in my family is in strong contact with my older sibling, and they treat reaching out to them as reaching out to us, even though we don’t even live near each other. So I often only get family updates through my older sibling because they don’t think to reach out to me.
Baby here... and I'm what the French call les incompétent
Did we forget Kevin?
Younger siblings are always considered dramatic. I'm 36 and just figuring out maybe I'm not dramatic and my problems are real.
Liam Gallagher in shameless is a well written example of the youngest child. He was too young to comprehend a lot of the traumatic events that the older siblings experienced, which results in him having a better connection with Frank and receiving better schooling. He has a lot of siblings to care for him, but in actuality he is very neglected and in the end, it's not even confirmed that he has a place to live because he gets left behind.
Granted I was an accident, so my brothers were too old to have a real sibling relationship with me. But if my brother fucked up, it was held over my head. If I made one move out of line, I was accused of turning into him. I got all of the attention as a youngest “only” child from my parents, but that came with a LOT of pressure. And being the family therapist and peace maker, just like this vid said.
Youngest of 13 and the only girl here. I existed just to be "the girl" and was otherwise completely forgotten. Some of my siblings don't even know how to spell my name right.
I never liked the Gellar parents, especially Judy, for their mistreatment of Monica.
It was pure misogyny here. The son is the favorite.
As the youngest on my mom’s side, I’m a the family crash out. I will not keep the peace.
As the oldest on my dad’s side, I’m a bit more reserved. 🙃
The first time I heard this type of reply, it took a while for me to get it. Rooting for you! No matter what family dynamics taught us, you're your own person and I think you're cool as heck!
Believing the youngest is the most coddled seems to be a myth made by older siblings to justify their recentment and abuse towards them.
Similar of who men believe women talk too much when in reality theiy are the ones who talk the most in groups.
I can't recall ever getting away with anything and I also seem to lack many qualities that I should have as the youngest.
I’m the youngest daughter and the middle child ( 2 older sisters & 2 younger brothers). My experience is a weird mix of both these stereotypes plus being an older sister. I’m the baby and also parentified depending on the situation. Sometimes I feel completely invisible.
I'm both the youngest (of 3, mother's side) and the eldest (of 6, father's side). I know the struggles. Been there, done that.
No matter what family dynamics taught us, you're your own person! Hope you have a good new year!
@ thank you
Ah, the mixed family dynamic. I'm 3rd of 4 and eldest of 2 at the same time. It's super weird, but I feel like it gives me the superpower of not being too beholden to one role.
Though middle child, eldest daughter, AND simultaneously youngest daughter are arguably not great roles. I'm expected to be responsible AND my dad wouldn't let me drive his car until well after I turned 30. Being the baby and the babysitter gives you whiplash, I must say.
Yeah youngest at least personally.. youngest of 5, all my older sibs seemed to be able to grow up and not me. My 1 year older sister was able to get away and do stuff I wasn’t even at that age.. but now at 27, thankfully I am very close with most of my sibs. While the oldest isn’t so nice. Thinks she’s always the victim and is always criticizing EVERYTHING and EVERYONE and thinks she’s Lways right. You’re not even ALLOWED to have an opinion around her if it doesn’t have Facts. So she’s not the best.. but my other sibs are GREAT.
I was the youngest and pretty much have all ways been treated as an other in the family. I never got support from my siblings, and after i started growing up and stopped being kid cute, my mom stopped caring.
I'm the youngest of four, and what I find about myself is that I tend to go a bit passive around my older siblings. We're all adults - I turned 50 last year - but I somehow expect them to be adultier adults. To always know what they're doing and take care of things. When I've lived away from them, I've always been able to take care of myself and get stuff done, but now that I've moved close again, that passivity keeps cropping up. I'm also kind of the odd one out in my family. I never married or had children, I've moved around the most (overseas twice), and now I'm the one who lives with our elderly mother. I love them all, and they love me, we generally have a very healthy sibling relationship, but boy, when we get together, you can see our birth order in action!
Robert Barone: "Its like I was the 'practice child.' (Pretending to be his parents) "Now we know not to drop Ray""
This is so interesting because I’m the youngest but my brother and I have an 11 year age difference between us so it’s almost like growing we were only children because we were raised in different timeframes but we still have the dynamics of oldest and youngest. I admit I did and still do away with a lot more stuff than my brother did at my age but he’s not hearing that from me lol.
Next is the Grandchild and how older people fill the gap of parenthood.
As an only child, I tend to resonate most with youngest-children.
I would love to see a video unpacking why was Judy so critical towards Monica in Friends
The real reason: misogyny.
The “favoritism” has a terrible side, because you’ll always be more controlled, and never be taking seriously because you are “the baby”.
I’m 40 plus years old and the same weird kid quirks still reside with me in my families eyes. My older sibling was the “hard worker” and I’m the LAZY/messy one.
Being the youngest of 4 and just seeing how little I've accomplished compared to the other 3. Still being in school when all the others were already graduated and getting their lives together
Can we get an only child video or more only child videos?
I could have been interesting to discuss Phoebe & Paige from Charmed as Phoebe was the baby for her whole life until she discovered she had a little sister which did change her personality.
So... I am the baby of my family. However, to add a spicy twist in my brain I was born 12 years after the "last" child which in turn left me as the only child in the house from first grade on.
Home alone is like this lol
I know y'all won't cover it cause of Masterson, but this happened in The Ranch!!
And she never sees things as they ACTUALLY Were or are or were said. Only as SHE said or heard them. Even if you were there or YOU were the person who said them. Nope she is right not you. Not easy to have a Relationship with someone like that.
Not only that they think your spoiled then your siblings get married or have other achivements and when the h when the to have kids they kinda forget about you and ask when youll have those kind of success at when you going to get married or family when you started out on becoming an adult but it's not all bad you could learn from the older ones mistakes
Anyone remember Pink Diamond from Steven Universe? She and Steven share similair dynamics as the baby of their respective groups.
I’m not the youngest child. I’m the youngest girl in my family. Some can relate to some these.
I requested this video.....thxs! I'm the youngest sibling.
Why no the take discussion on only children?
There is one already.
Yup,I like being the second
Thank you
Omg am I Monica and didn’t even know it?
it always depends on specific family dynamics. i’m the eldest and was grounded and even kicked out of the home for things less extreme than what my youngest sister gets away with. i was grounded once for hanging out with a boy alone (we were best friends and did absolutely nothing romantic) but my sisters have always been allowed to have male friends. the difference in treatment was so extreme my parents almost lost custody specifically for maltreatment of me. the way they treat me and my siblings do differently is insane. i don’t think it’s just because i’m the eldest and the other two are middle and youngest. it’s more complicated than that.
I kind of disagree about Monica, she always felt like the elder sister to baby Ross. She has to have it under control while he gets to be whiny.
As a young and overly pampered child, the most maddening thing I'm told is "you can't do it, it's okay nobody expects you to do things, let's just elders do it"
Adults literally fail us all the time
Now do “Oldest Daughter, Youngest Sibling”, because almost none of this rang true for me.
I dont care what anyone says, being an eldest daughter is a fkn curse and id take being the loved doted on youngest in a heartbeat.
The youngest is the most likely to be abused and neglected, hth
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@@alisayung5039 Is that true statistically? Ive never heard that before. Im just going off of my own experience. Its common for the middle child was the most neglected or forgotten but I could be wrong.
@@Braticaloptimism My intention was not to diminish the struggles of youngest siblings, or rub anyone the wrong way. Its not a competition for who has it the worst lol. I also understand there are downsides to all sibling orders. The vid just had me in my feelings at that moment lol my take is obviously anecdotal and I feel strongly about it but everyone has a different story.
I’m only a year younger than my brother but my parents were very ‘over it’ whenever it was my turn to have a big life event and they would just skip it. My brother got to experience things I never did because my parents were too lazy to do it again the next year when it was my turn. My brother has a first communion but my parents would just roll their eyes when I asked why I couldn’t have one the next year. When i asked my parents to teach me how to drive they decided it was time to teach my brother how to drive instead. They refused to teach me or pay for classes. I had to do it all on my own when I was an adult but for my brother it was just a normal part of growing up.