HOW THE INFJ FINALLY GETS "UN-STUCK"

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    INFJ Life Coach Lesson: Today, we're talking about how the INFJ finally gets unstuck. I hear this so often from INFJs: I know what to do. I have everything in place. I have my vision. I have my goal of what I want to achieve, and I'm still not doing anything. And I don't know what's wrong with me. I feel completely stuck. So this isn't something that only happens to INFJs, but because we're INFJs, there's a very particular way to get unstuck. It's a strategy. I've used it many times. I've perfected it in a lot of ways. Of course, there's always something to do to improve it, but it works really, really well.
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  • @Wenzes
    @Wenzes  3 года назад +53

    Have you been in a situation where you knew what to do and you still didn't do it?

    • @professorcoco4838
      @professorcoco4838 3 года назад +6

      always duhhhhh

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  3 года назад +8

      Then I hope the video was helpful 😊

    • @robin-vt1qj
      @robin-vt1qj 3 года назад +1

      Yes we're humans

    • @kymelatejasi
      @kymelatejasi 3 года назад +4

      I am going through that right now. I was attributing it to just being tired all the time, but maybe I am tired all the time because of the mindset.

    • @lgkfamily
      @lgkfamily 2 года назад +2

      @@Wenzes I've watched several of your videos now, and this one is perhaps the most important for me for where I am now. I retired, and I have an identity crisis. Who am I? I no longer have a vision. I'm stuck.

  • @mikedexter3679
    @mikedexter3679 2 года назад +95

    I have seen many channels where they only talk about how actually infjs are. But you have moved a step ahead and tell us 'ok this is how we are and this is how we can use our strength and overcome our weakness'. You are a true gem. Thank you

    • @YAMISOOLD2009
      @YAMISOOLD2009 Год назад +4

      I agree Mike. She is helping us to grow not just to identify.

    • @Tified967
      @Tified967 Год назад

      Respectfully, the advice given by Wenzes, although exceptional is that of an ISFPs cognition as opposed to the INFJ. With respect to the likes of Clay Arnall, Frank James etc, respectfully, they are not cognitive INFJs either. Ni-Ti is the INFJs primary seat of the ego in a Jungian sense which is simply logical analysis acting at the behest of an experiential abstract Ni agenda. What Wenzes is elucidating here is much more akin to the ISFPs Fi-Ni convergence. Due to the proliferation of dubious online tests predicated on behaviour, as opposed to cognition and the behavioural stereotypes that constitute much of MBTI, unfortunately the vast majority of people are mistyped in the Jungian sense. I highly recommend checking out Cognitive Personality Theory for an Ni-Ti exposition (the creator is an INFJ) of all of the cognitive types. Many, many people do not believe that they can be a 'sensor' owing to the erroneous stereotypes associated with such types who have an 'S' in their type code when the reality is that we all sense and intuit, it's just contingent upon the codec to which its assigned 😊

  • @memesNmusic
    @memesNmusic 3 года назад +21

    I'm a simple INFJ: I see Wenzes, I click like.
    Now let's watch the video.

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  3 года назад +3

      😀❤️

  • @lowryfoster253
    @lowryfoster253 2 года назад +16

    I used to be afraid of failure because I had to be perfect. I had to break all my goals into bite-sized chunks where it didn't seem so overwhelming. Then, I could handle just taking the next right step...

  • @prathampokhrel8944
    @prathampokhrel8944 3 года назад +89

    I feel like INFJs need loyalty more than other types. If INFJs see that the world or their friends are disloyal, they will tap into their dark side and be aggressive, blunt, manipulative and harsh. Am I correct?

    • @yukon9315
      @yukon9315 Год назад +10

      This is a year later response, but i agree with you about the loyalty and turning dark in some fashion when feeling betrayed.

    • @fullnerd7975
      @fullnerd7975 Год назад +3

      Only recently discovered INFJness, and I tell you, every time I'd be backed in to a corner, this was me. Now I'm aware of the mechanics of it, I'm finding it so much easier to control.

    • @peacenik4168
      @peacenik4168 Год назад +4

      Also 1 yr later...for me, the shock & betrayal from their disloyalty put me into a very dark tailspin, like being 'blindsided' -I don't think I fell into harsh or blunt action -more opting immediately out to preserve & protect. Didn't like where my thoughts were going.

    • @jahayrac8636
      @jahayrac8636 Год назад +4

      I'm not sure why this comment is here as it has nothing to do with what was expressed in the video. Maybe the OP is a follower (or was more) and was hoping to get attention? Nevertheless...
      To the OP and others that have been hurt by INFJ's 'disloyalty', I was honestly surprised by this comment because I find myself (INFJ-A) to be loyal to a fault. There could be two reason why an INFJ is suddenly not in your life. The most benign reason is that they simply needed some time away to process the last interaction that you've had and are simply to stuck in their own heads and haven't come back to you and reality.
      The worst case scenario, and what I gather from your responses, is that it sounds as though what ya'll have experienced is the INFJ's "Door Slam". It is usually what we do as a last resort to save our selves from further hurt. When we feel that the person we've given all our time, heart and compassion to doesn't seem to value us, continually hurt us, or when we realize that we're being manipulated and hurt in some way, we cut them out of our lives.
      As an INFJ who is also an Highly Sensitive Person, I feel things deeply. Because of this I remember most actions, emotions or the littlest things in a person's life and behavior as I try to get to know. It also helps me feel closer to them when I feel I can be just the kind of friend, support, lover, etc, that they (anyone really) deserve. However, there is a point when an INFJ will realize that that person has left several clues that they are not appreciative of that and leave the INFJ feeling used, devalued, broken and feeling like they're loosing themselves, their intergrity, their morals and their core values. When this happens, the INFJ can forsee, from previous clues in the patterns of behavior, that the end result would not be beneficial for either party and will then decide that they no longer want to be a part of it. They will cut you out and you're (highly) unlikely to ever get back whatever you've had unless you litterally become a different person. And even then, I imagine they would keep you at a safe distance.
      If this is the case, I'm sorry that you have felt this 'door slam' in your own lives. I have done a door slam to few a people in my life because I needed to in order to save my self, my mind and my heart from the hurt that my loyalty allowed them to think they were free to inflict upon me. 'Because we're family," "because we've known each other since we were kids," "Because..." The length of time an INFJ spends with you does not give anyone free liscence to hurt someone whenever they see fit or have a moment of weakness. If the INFJ is simply choosing to distance themselves but keep you around, they may be choosing a safe distance because they do care and are loyal, they just don't want to be hurt by you anymore.
      Having said that, knowing nothing of your circumstances I can only assume and hope that some of this sheds light on what had transpired.
      I sincerely hope that you're able to reflect on what had occured with objectivity, find some clarity, learn from it and move on.
      If it helps any, I found this video that may help you understand an INFJ's thinking process.
      ruclips.net/video/CKxAo9atdt0/видео.html
      Edited: Also this video on what happens when an INFJ is pushed to their limits.
      ruclips.net/video/YiG3rLpM46o/видео.html
      Good luck to you all. ^-^

    • @jessmason2112
      @jessmason2112 Год назад +2

      Absolutely. The mirror of shadows or hall of reflection might be a bit much for some to bare.

  • @PenelopePitstop0078
    @PenelopePitstop0078 Месяц назад

    I get in these neurological loops that I’m aware of but seemed unmotivated to shake it off. I was feeling very bored with life. I vacationed in Guatemala for 2 weeks and was very active. Pulling suitcases up steep hills, walking everywhere there always seemed uphill, lol. And one walks a lot through the villages, & I rode a quad twice, all day & zip lined, swam in Lake Atitlan, climbed a volcano, etc. Upon my return home, my body felt strong, my muscles more defined and I could just run up stairs.
    What happened is I got out of my comfort zone, put myself in a place where I had to use my mind too, to dust off my mediocre Español, figure out all the things I didn’t know and immerse myself into the beauty of the country and people. I like when my body feels strong, makes me feel confident. So I’ve kept my activity level up, like I’m on vacation still; started a rope & rock climbing course, lifting weights again and currently thinking about what else I wanna do! Stepping out of my comfort zone is so key to living my particular epic INFJ life. TY Wenzes❣️

  • @mzequisite
    @mzequisite 3 года назад +31

    This is exactly how I function... Sometimes I feel like a failure when I fall off because others can power through. I feel emotional and weak. Thank you for these tools. I will give myself grace,, dust myself off, and try again...

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  3 года назад +1

      👏👏👏

    • @KrystoBeats
      @KrystoBeats 3 года назад +3

      U ain't no failure 💯💯..I know how that feels doe just remind yourself in those tough moments "As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he" practice instantly replacing the bad thought with how you want to be(really vision it)and you'll start becoming that. It'll feel weird at first but it helps 🥇🥇

  • @aled9998
    @aled9998 Год назад +15

    Brilliant Wenzes. You are such an inspired communicator. You are not just describing the INFJ mindet, you are providing us with concrete steps to take action in life to create what we want to experience in life. Blessings rom Wales .🙏

  • @udurawanabanda
    @udurawanabanda 3 года назад +1

    "3 steps forward 1 step back",
    sometimes its 3 steps forward and 4 steps back,
    but just draw the energy and keep at it, couldn't have explained it better.

  • @mr.goodwrench8273
    @mr.goodwrench8273 3 года назад +16

    Have I been in a situation where I knew what to do and I still didn't do it ? Yes. I had gone to a mechanic conference a few years ago. There was a competition being held for top school bus inspector/mechanic for North Carolina Public Schools. I felt ready, and should have competed. I had just as much chance to win as anyone else. Yet, I held myself back & didn't compete because I thought that if I didn't win, I would have made a fool of myself. Well, never again. When I have an opportunity to compete again, I'm in, with the will to win.

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  3 года назад +1

      Woohoo 👍👍👍

    • @91GT347
      @91GT347 2 года назад

      Can totally relate to that. NC here too.

    • @peacenik4168
      @peacenik4168 Год назад

      Agree 1yr later- can't even tell you how many times I knew exactly what to do to try to help myself but either let the opportunity slip thru my hands or never even signed up. So many yrs later, my losses added up -had to step away from comparisons on social media...too much pressure but I am still in the running somehow & not giving up this time.

  • @shoestring9964
    @shoestring9964 2 года назад +8

    Vision, excitement.
    ( Forget the norm, rat race )
    Start going for small success stories. ( Look at what you have achieved )
    12:30
    You focusing on what isn't working is perpetuating you to create a new normal that is focused on that negativity ( 95% ). Autopilot. Focus on the positive. ( 5% )
    Do more things that give you that feeling. You cannot get there unless you start appreciating what you have already accomplished. There's always a way how you wouldn't have the motivation to be where you are right now. There are people who would love to be there. Then you have to get to a point where you start being proud of yourself. You have to start loving the process. You have to be aware of "I'm so grateful and I'm so proud of me and what I've already done".
    When you start doing this, you are creating from a place that is already positive. From a place of vision, you change your mindset. And with that, you start to attach positive emotions to the process.
    You're not stuck. You're already at this great place.
    And if you believe that you're not in a great place, then trust me. This is a mindset thing because there is a way to look at whatever you've accomplished as a positive thing. So many people wish they could be where you are.
    We have to get to that place, and continuously tell ourselves what we're proud of and what we take on. And it doesn't matter how much it is. It's about taking on little things that get our minds switched.
    There are things we have to feel in order to get into that new lifestyle in order to feel like that fish in water. And not as that fish in a small bowl, looking at the sea or lake, it's on us to make that happen. And we only get there if we look at our life and understand "I'm not stuck, I have already accomplished so much." And if you're not able to write down what you've accomplished, proud of, it's one more reason to look into it, because there's always a way how you could have been in the worst position. Definitely. And when you would look at that position you were in today and you would say, oh, I wish I was that that is what we have to get to.
    We have to turn our current standpoint into something that we're proud of, accomplished, and is ready to grow into the next level, you got what it takes. You just got to be proud of it. And you have to continuously teach this into ur mind. So it becomes your new normal. *Create that autopilot system.* Adding a little bit new in. Not to the point where u collapse. I'm just taking on a little bit more and I'm getting excited about it. I create a new mindset. And as an INFJ, I know I'm really good at this.

    • @sheilagavin6536
      @sheilagavin6536 Год назад

      Yes, very well stated. ❤Thank you! Respect!

  • @anjithaa4521
    @anjithaa4521 3 года назад +15

    I was so depressed today..Now your words give me hope again. ☺ Thank you

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  3 года назад +3

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @lindateuling7862
    @lindateuling7862 3 года назад +25

    The motif of the "journey" of life has helped me a lot when I feel stuck. I've also learned enough about my own emotional response to know that even if it doesn't seem to be there at the moment, eventually, I can release the stuckness, and continue on. Taking FE & SE focused activities related to the project can be a big help.

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  3 года назад +2

      😀👍👍

    • @annesmeets9304
      @annesmeets9304 2 года назад +1

      What do FE and SE mean? I'm new to this channel and still learning the abbreviations :)

    • @hanaaennahdi5831
      @hanaaennahdi5831 2 года назад +2

      @@annesmeets9304 FE is extroverted feeling and SE is extroverted sensing, these are congnitive functions, I hope this helps you 😊

  • @flowerpower4944
    @flowerpower4944 3 года назад +3

    Exactly I say to myself each day 😂 Look how far I have come already, it's positive,💗💗👍👍👍👍💗

  • @bunnyoncloud
    @bunnyoncloud Год назад +3

    regarding rescuing myself from feeling like nothing is working out, i always say : god is closing those doors to eliminate them and to make me find my right path easily :) so i keep moving with confidence. i never say the word failure. i also never give up on my passion, i always search for smarter ways to make a living out of it. so yes INFJS :) you're smart, kind and people love you.. you have it all to live your dream life.. just heal and master your genius mind

  • @BullockAndCompany
    @BullockAndCompany Год назад +6

    I have been binging your videos for the past few weeks. Idk if I am officially an INFJ but I identify with almost EVERYTHING you’ve talked about in these wonderful videos.

  • @voodoo1373
    @voodoo1373 3 года назад +10

    you have absolutely changed my life! thank you

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  3 года назад +2

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @TwoBlackRings
    @TwoBlackRings Год назад +6

    This is huge! You have hit key points in this video. In summary: Have gratitude for oneself by reviewing what you have already accomplished and then continue walking the path.

  • @randomfornow
    @randomfornow 2 года назад +7

    ok so this is why I watch so many movies. I resonate so strongly with it that its like I already made one, way more than the tiny steps I really have to take.
    This video just saved my me from my mind constipations, thank you!
    Edit: I"m sorry, you are too good at this, I don't know how you articulate such abstract mind processes so well😃

  • @jasmin1773
    @jasmin1773 2 месяца назад

    Purpose gives me structure! I do meditations where I visualize how I overcome procrastination and how it will feel and then I actually do it😅.

  • @YAMISOOLD2009
    @YAMISOOLD2009 Год назад +1

    I recently joined your channel and have been leaving some comments but I love digging back into your catalog of videos and seeing how you keep refining your message. I think with the fish analogy that you are trying to tell us to stop looking at other people's "normals" and see our own normal for what it is and decide if we like it or want to change it. If we want to change it then we need to see what we have accomplished already and be grateful for it and build on that even if slowly until that becomes the new normal for us. Much like a fish swimming from a small stream into a bigger pond is not even aware of the change because it is grateful and happy doing what it is doing. Well even if I don't have it quite right I feel inspired every time I watch one of your videos. Because you are an INFJ you know how to communicate the sense of possibility to us without overwhelming us. Thank you for that!

  • @11coyote29
    @11coyote29 2 года назад +1

    I appreciate myself for pushing myself to become a general manager, I appreciate my sheer will to drive 15 hours a week +50 hours a week !
    I appreciate myself for taking all the Opportunities for they help me get to where I’m going !
    An I appreciate you!💜
    Thank you 😊

  • @CeeAI
    @CeeAI Год назад

    I dont know about y'all but I think, as an INFJ, we need to boost up our Fi function in order to be successful. You see, we can be cold and unbothered by what people may say about us. But when we see something that we wanted to see in ourselves in others, that we are incapable of doing so, we can be so critical of ourselves. Thus, wenzes is right. Know yourself more and accept all your strength and weaknesses and grow from there as a starting point. Know your vision, know your process, know your system. Know that we have an exponential learning curve. Make that as a motivation, a light that you ought to follow and believe as you struggle to know yourself more.
    To all INFJs out there, fighting!

  • @gypsylee73
    @gypsylee73 11 месяцев назад

    I've done everything - pushed myself to the physical & mental limit - and my family get worse! I'm on my own and my health isn't great.. I've got money.. I still can't find any help!
    It's becoming so obvious to me the problem is I'm single. I've had to pay men stupid amounts of money to remove rubbish for me because my upper body is very weak.
    It's not because I can't get a man, trust me, it's because I won't. I was a serial monogamist who couldn't stand being single but at 40 I decided no more.
    I'm in Melbourne, Australia and things are going downhill fast. We are a very sexist (Western) country - more than the US and UK. The fastest growing homeless are single older women.
    I'm open to relationships with men but only if I want them not need them. It shouldn't come down to this anyway. We need a tribal/partnership culture not a dominator one.

  • @stevekoehn1675
    @stevekoehn1675 10 месяцев назад

    A plethora of true and wise things.

  • @CophersCandles
    @CophersCandles 8 месяцев назад

    This is all very new to me, but I see myself as an INFJ my brother brought me to listen to videos on the infj. She is full of knowledge about the infj.I really like the videos that she makes.

  • @kan0762
    @kan0762 2 года назад

    There's always a way where I could have been in a worse position. So I have to see what I can be grateful for..

  • @hzm8922
    @hzm8922 3 года назад +3

    I want to think i was stuck for long, but i actually did alot of good things for myself during that time. Recent months ive realy worked hard towards some long term goals besides my work and i started off by crashing down since it got to intense for me... usually happens if i REALY want something and i end up burning myself out, but i was able to take a step back and actually see the situation for what it was and take a step at a time thanks to your videos, and now with this video you just clarified it even more lol.
    Thank u so much for everything

  • @TemperanceLibraRising
    @TemperanceLibraRising Год назад

    basically come from a place of being grateful Being grateful always opens us open to reveiving

  • @MimiBigCat
    @MimiBigCat Год назад

    Very true, as an INFJ, I think we judge ourselves unfavorably and unfaily more than anything else, and that's very self sabotaging, self inflicting and defeating, we'll learn to accept ourselves radicall one way or the other, and that's our vision and goal in this life! God bless ❤❤❤

  • @vincehere2112
    @vincehere2112 Год назад

    I will try to call tomorrow. Writing it down is the first step and i’m proud of myself for having no shame in saying it. Thank you so much for the video and all the inspiring comments.

  • @AnthonyStatera
    @AnthonyStatera Год назад

    Damn my life summed up within the first 25 seconds.

  • @danadane1517
    @danadane1517 Год назад

    Thanks Coach! Stormy Little Rain Cloud INFJ over and out 🤙

  • @holoceph3916
    @holoceph3916 Год назад +1

    Thank you for this. Been in an INFJ negative spiral of stuck-ness for months and this was very helpful. Already feel better to regain positive focus.

  • @lizz3736
    @lizz3736 Год назад +1

    You are by far the best thing I have ever found on the internet.

  • @Daviddaze
    @Daviddaze 2 месяца назад

    So much being said and so much space between words being clipped, fortunately there's a transcript to read at my iwn pace.

  • @aquariusstar7248
    @aquariusstar7248 3 года назад

    I didnt think i needed this video. And i wldnt hv thought i needed it years ago. But after talking to a friend who thinks im courageous and outgoing, i realize my past successes have come from being in some kind of partnership or social circle of outgoing people. You dont want to be a slug so you get motivated to keep up with others.
    But now, im not in a relationship and i dropped those groups--they didnt fit me well. So now i have to work so hard to motivate myself daily when there are no friends to share yr latest updates or other ppl to motivate you through there achievements.
    The only thing that keeps me pushing along is that i hv a coach specific to the industry im getting into. I told my friend to get a coach to help her to get "out there". I didnt think i need a coach but i realize now that bf i partnered up and met others who were making moves, i looked to ppl who didnt support my desires and efforts and so i didnt accomplish as much as i wld hv liked. Im glad fo understand this is an INFJ energy pattern. It makes sense now.

  • @zzeronerzz
    @zzeronerzz 3 года назад +4

    Switching my mindset. I agree.

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  3 года назад +3

      👍👍👍

    • @zzeronerzz
      @zzeronerzz 2 года назад +1

      I'm doing better so far. Wanted to leave that update.

  • @cheriereynolds1806
    @cheriereynolds1806 3 года назад +1

    Have a look at what is the root cause.... Sometimes in life we have to make the hard choice to keep our integrity intact.....

  • @dhuy-ti9os
    @dhuy-ti9os Год назад

    exacto!! I require a mental attenuation of my place in my work (life)

  • @brandisolovely
    @brandisolovely 2 года назад +1

    Wow I needed this because lately I’ve been focused only on the negative anxieties in my head. I’m going to take the time to focus on the wisdom I gained from this video to reflect on for the rest of my day

  • @atalmeowlaurent1847
    @atalmeowlaurent1847 Год назад +1

    Definitely hearing this video daily, it took me soooo many years to be proud of myself, I felt that everyone was doing the same things I do every single day, but then I stopped, analyzed, and wonder why am I sooo different from others and what you say about keep with the flow it's sooo true for me, once I lost it, that's it, even excersicing is difficult when I lost my flow.
    Thank you so much for the video and all the knowledge you are sharing ❤️❤️

  • @nadiabatool2457
    @nadiabatool2457 Год назад

    This vedio is soo motivating “ a stuck INFJ”

  • @ritaora3426
    @ritaora3426 3 года назад +4

    I really don't know what to say you really are a message for me💜I'm a high school student I'm going in to my senior year recently I have been stressed and overwhelmed about the things I should fix before getting in it 💜u literally gave me all the answers I need thanks alot💜

  • @jessmason2112
    @jessmason2112 Год назад

    Another solid. 🎯👊

  • @ksorangeeee840
    @ksorangeeee840 3 года назад

    THIS HELP ME SO MUCH, THANK YOU VERY MUCH

  • @ocho8172
    @ocho8172 Год назад

    Outstanding. Been there before- Wasn't mindful enough: Stepped into detours. Understand mindfulness much better now- Returning to source: Steps must be careful. Cannot afford distractions. Thank you Wenzes!

  • @melodiouscloud3378
    @melodiouscloud3378 3 года назад

    Wow... Just wow... Thank you so much for this, honestly. 🥰

  • @claytonia1586
    @claytonia1586 2 года назад

    I really needed this today. Thank you.

  • @kristiancrisolo3903
    @kristiancrisolo3903 Год назад

    Thanks for this.

  • @DarinaYa
    @DarinaYa 2 года назад +1

    SO happy I found your channel!!! Love your messages! Thank you for sharing 💗

  • @staceysneed9928
    @staceysneed9928 2 года назад

    Great information, thank you

  •  3 года назад

    Thank you for this video, you give strength for keep my journey.

  • @sonnenschein553
    @sonnenschein553 3 месяца назад

    This is great advice. Thanks.

  • @brandistarks301
    @brandistarks301 2 года назад

    Just found your channel and have binged several. What a god send, thank you 🙏

  • @laailahaillallah_h
    @laailahaillallah_h 3 года назад

    Thank you Wenzes!!! I'm an old subbie and your videos so resonate 🔥🔥🔥

  • @roxxidott8497
    @roxxidott8497 3 года назад

    Your amazing! I just discovered your channel! You gave me the key to my next 3 steps forward! THANKYOU....

  • @peacenik4168
    @peacenik4168 Год назад

    I am so glad to have found your channel, thank you for creating amazing content that truly hits the mark and addresses very complex problems for INFJ's! This means everything to me that you are devoted to sharing your wisdom. We needed the ability to access a 'plan' of attack. I have been stuck for so long in negative overtones -foolishly listened to ppl who don't know the real me. All I can do is keep trying to 'show up in my own life' and project kindness but not end up a 'doormat!'

  • @jameyedwardsartwork
    @jameyedwardsartwork Год назад

    This is super helpful!! Thank you so much!!💜💜💜

  • @PriscilaOnly
    @PriscilaOnly Год назад

    Thank you so much for that. This video just changed my whole life 💜.

  • @nicohuner2627
    @nicohuner2627 2 года назад

    Wenzes you were REALLY saving me in the last weaks

  • @steenasunny11
    @steenasunny11 Год назад

    This is exactly what my current situation is like and Thankyou so much ❣

  • @queen___esther6973
    @queen___esther6973 2 года назад

    Thank you so much❤️🙏

  • @AngieMck
    @AngieMck 2 года назад

    Thank you. Once again you’re on the mark! I have to tell myself everyday that there is JOY in the journey! Otherwise, what’s the point, right?! Onward and upward!!🤗💕

  • @carolinadeoliveira1341
    @carolinadeoliveira1341 2 года назад +1

    This was very helpful!! Thank you so much!

  • @DashaAntonova548
    @DashaAntonova548 3 года назад

    thank you so much for your videos and thank god your channel exists. you help me a ton.

  • @patricknolin2936
    @patricknolin2936 Год назад

    Thank you so much for meeting me where I'm at at this moment!! You help me in my current obstacles. Keep talking, I'll be listening!! God Bless and prayers!.🙏

  • @LydiaRevicka-pw8hr
    @LydiaRevicka-pw8hr 6 месяцев назад

    Absolutely love all your comments content. Thank you.

  • @irodirod4679
    @irodirod4679 Год назад

    Brilliant! Absolutely genius way of communicating this point. Thanks

  • @angelgruberphoto5169
    @angelgruberphoto5169 2 года назад

    Thank you so much for this knowledge! Somehow I knew it but I think I didn’t make it conscious! But yes, when I found myself saying “I love my life”, “I feel great by doing this” and when I see the positives changes I’ve done so far and feel grateful, that’s when I know I am in right path! And I want more! Hehe! But also I have to remember that not all days are going to be great, and that’s ok! That’s life! But if I know and make conscious all the accomplishments I’ve reached so far, I also know that that bad day is just that: a bad day! And it allows me to move forward and don’t get stuck!

  • @flowerpower4944
    @flowerpower4944 3 года назад +1

    Yea I just subscribed 👍👍👍👍❤️

  • @cinemalife7770
    @cinemalife7770 3 года назад +3

    Great and you are an INFJ master !

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  3 года назад +1

      ☺️

  • @matthue9419
    @matthue9419 Год назад

    thank you. idk if giving a video a like is enough gratitude, this helps so much..

  • @emjng
    @emjng 4 месяца назад

    this helped me a lot: thank you

  • @Dinadino994
    @Dinadino994 Год назад

    My ethos is be who you are , people in my company can let their hair down & relax ( this was even my career as a therapist )
    So why if the infj loves others for who they are but they then judge the infj when they are themselves ?

  • @sandrazawada5316
    @sandrazawada5316 Месяц назад

    You really speak to me!

  • @LuanZeqiri1
    @LuanZeqiri1 3 года назад

    Just found your channel it seems really good content 😉

  • @prateek12100
    @prateek12100 3 года назад +4

    Thanks Wenzes, you are the best…. Always on time to keep us going….have been following the same route and you always keep us flowing……

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  3 года назад +1

      😊👍❤️

  • @annapaulinyi1828
    @annapaulinyi1828 Год назад

    Danke!

  • @Tified967
    @Tified967 Год назад

    Se is not weak in the INFJ, in a Jungian sense, as the oppositional function it is inextricably linked to Ni on an axis and indeed fluid types can rotate on their axis. Indeed, the oppositional function can actually be the dominant strength of many cognitive types (CPT). I'm a cognitive ENFJ, professionally typed and indeed my Ti is my strongest function and most aspirational function which will be evident in my writing. What you're referring to here is the Se authority of an ISFP cognitive type; contrary to popular belief Se authorities can struggle to focus in on external reality especially when their Se-Te divergent pairing isn't well developed. I do not mean the above in a derogatory manner but more simply as an aid to help people ascertain their true type if they return to Jung's original work away from the MBTI behavioural stereotypes. Indeed you do offer amazing advice albeit to ISFPs and ESFPs to some degree. 'Living in a vision' is totally reminiscent of the ISFPs Fi-Ni holistic, intuitive feeling nature 😊. The INFJ does not actually perceive their vision as an intrinsic part of who they are; their visions are of a different quality: of an abstract logical nature that can be utilised via Fe-Se to the betterment of society; they are detached as opposed to attached. Oh and flow states are very indicative of an Se authority flow state although this can also be experienced by Si convergent users as well. It's also worth mentioning that you, to the betterment of people, you give a lot of concrete examples whereas INFJs can come off as overtly abstract and at times too perfuse to understand because of this (at least to unconscious Ni-Ti users). I actually think however you give some exceptional generic advice to all of us on the whole irrespective of cognitive type 😊. I actually really appreciate your Fi-Ni advice, "what we can create is what we already have," very wise words indeed.

  • @kentethliles916
    @kentethliles916 2 года назад

    I like that all the thumbnails look like those cat memes that freak out

  • @TroyPosey
    @TroyPosey 3 года назад +5

    Congrats on the 20K subs Wenzes!!! 🙂 I'm proud to have been an early sub (3-5K). You have helped me so much since I subbed and started watching your videos. I'm glad to see that you are reaching farther and helping even more INFJ's and other people like us. 👍🏼
    I have definitely been in lots of situations where I knew what to do, and still didn't do it out of either fear, resentment, anger, or vindictiveness. I try not to be that way anymore. I try to just keep moving forward and being a good person, and keep being me, and stop worrying about things I can't change, or other people being idiots and allowing them to make me mad.

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  3 года назад +2

      Glad you are on such a great path 👍 and thanks for your support 😊

  • @iamduffus7822
    @iamduffus7822 3 года назад

    two big things that have been getting me threw some issues is thinking about how little time it will take to do whatever it is and baby steps. lost 40 pounds (could be lack of eating too) im exercising and I'm attempting to making something of myself. the two minute rule is a lifesaver if there is basic mess around

  • @shrfu31
    @shrfu31 3 года назад

    Amazing information like always. Do you have a dedicated microphone/audio setup? Like a boom mic offscreen since I don't see a lavaliere? Some parts of the video came across super echoey and then it was normal again and then the pattern repeated. Thank you for the wise words. Love your channel.

  • @JohnDoe-np3zk
    @JohnDoe-np3zk 3 года назад +1

    I have a 4+ year old about 5 lb tilapia that goes by the name Whitey. He lets me touch him when changing the water if I move in slowly and just graze against him. He is a grouch and has chased fish over the tank top and onto the ground one of which was Spot who survived that the first time. It's odd to find a fish on the ground still alive but it does happen. Anyway I thought Spot would be top fish in a tank with smaller fish but alas he jumped out again this time with poor result.

  • @Sigma_focus
    @Sigma_focus 3 года назад +2

    Was just talking about this yesterday... and it got me in a loop thinking how is it that I know but I don't?! This clarifies it. Thank you very much!

  • @gloriaarthur3087
    @gloriaarthur3087 2 года назад

    Too deep 👌

  • @schroederwatch
    @schroederwatch 3 года назад +1

    Great video! Thank you Wenzes😊 Does it work for INFP's too?

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  3 года назад +3

      Yes 😉

  • @acriscaceres
    @acriscaceres 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for all your help 🙏🏽🙏🏽 you’re amazing

  • @SamsonPavlov
    @SamsonPavlov 3 года назад +2

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  3 года назад +2

      ❤️😊

  • @cassandradevine6899
    @cassandradevine6899 9 месяцев назад

  • @user-qu2hg1mb5z
    @user-qu2hg1mb5z Год назад

    Extroverted sensing is the last function what does that mean in a nutshell?

  • @cynthiamarston2208
    @cynthiamarston2208 2 года назад

    So…..if there is no witness to your life ( habits etc) you could certainly become a sloth a little more easily ( well people do that with no shame WITH a witness but im talking about sort of normal people). These are great ideas and perspectives…..way better than a nagging partner in life. I will say initially there is a push. Its kinda huge and infj is certainly able to do this. Being a type is not permission to let a weak area get weaker….i. Sure shes said this somewhere. I literally had to stop after 8 months of youtube art lessons and student work on a daily basis maybe missing 4 days after the first month. A bad heat wave. Endless it seemed! Im finally back at it. I set a date once i knew no more heat would interfere and commit to that date. The painting is the hard one for me. The drawing came back to the level i was at before automatically. I guess i can say i know how to draw! Means i will be painting. Ill admit i enjoyed the long break and the desire to just be a sloth is strong. Just get started like everyone else who gets things done. On a regular basis …..man if dont get hooked on it and do it automatically you are depressed. I KNOW! I have had hard to fix chrinic depression most my life and a pill keeps it low grade and does the opposite of motivate too but if there is no push when your there and always there you will have been defeated. Ugh. Dont like defeat! Who does? A lot of people are just depressed is all and its ok to say it. It was my cross to bear. Sometimes i wish i had something else….there are many many many things worse…..well sometimes its pretty horrible!! But anyway. Infj can to push!!! We all can

  • @Masterexecutive8
    @Masterexecutive8 3 года назад +2

    I swear I can't with the thumbnails 😅I'm trying so hard. I'm going to try this method though and see if it works for me.

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  3 года назад +1

      👍👍😊

  • @mridulaism
    @mridulaism 2 месяца назад

    👌🏾👌🏾❤️

  • @cameron-kami-kaze-gilmore
    @cameron-kami-kaze-gilmore 3 года назад

    id love coaching from you but theres no way i could pay that amount...

  • @Sofia_333S
    @Sofia_333S 3 года назад +4

    How do I find what I want to do next (as a career/job etc.)?

    • @t.c9537
      @t.c9537 3 года назад +5

      If you're an INFJ it's not so much what you're doing but how you're doing it...what I mean is that you need surten things to not feel anxious and depressed.
      1: Creativity...something that allows you to solve problems big or small...not doing the same thing over and over again
      2: Freedom...you can't work 9 to 5...we need to be able to work sometimes in the middle of the night because that's when the world is quiet and we can tap into our Intuition.
      3: You need to feel that what you're doing in some way benefits others
      4: Independency...you can't live life depending on others...you need to feel that you're in control of your own life
      5: Don't seek happiness seek peace of mind
      Hope that helps...because I can't tell you what to do it all depends on what you're good at...and don't say that you're not good at anything because you are...you just have to figure out what your strenght is ♥️

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  3 года назад +2

      I have a couple of videos on career

    • @Sofia_333S
      @Sofia_333S 3 года назад +2

      @@t.c9537 I resonated with every point you made!
      I'm an artist and I was a photographer for manyyy years and then I didn't wanted it eanymore. Now for the past years I've been trying things but I didn't find something that satisfies me.

    • @t.c9537
      @t.c9537 3 года назад +1

      @@Sofia_333S Maybe you got "bored" of it because it became too easy for you...our brain really needs things to figure out...if not we start overthinking pointless things and that causes depression

    • @t.c9537
      @t.c9537 3 года назад +1

      @@Sofia_333S Oooh come to think of...one thing that INFJs shouldn't do is to think "career"...because that word means "this is what you're going to do for the rest of you working life"...and that can really make an INFJ panic...why...because that means that you have to make the right decisions now so you don't regret it later and your INFJ-brain is going to try to foresee everything that might happen in the future...and after doing so you're already bored with that career and don't want it anymore...so what you should do is to think: What can I do now and as long as I find it interesting"
      Leave a door open so you can change your mind later...and don't have to predict the future

  • @manishankar1517
    @manishankar1517 3 года назад

    Nice Video as usual. Just a constructive feedback, please make video's short and come to the point without too much talking. It get a bit annoying sometimes. Thanks.

  • @plainsman
    @plainsman 3 года назад

    Any personality "type" arrived at via the Myers-Briggs test is completely meaningless. The test was developed in the 1940s based on the totally untested theories of Carl Jung and is now thoroughly disregarded by the psychology community. Even Jung warned that his personality "types" were just rough tendencies he'd observed, rather than strict classifications. Several analyses have shown the test is totally ineffective at predicting people's success in various jobs, and that about half of the people who take it twice get different results each time.
    Jung's principles were adapted into a test by Katherine Briggs and her daughter Isabel Briggs Myers, a pair of Americans who had no formal training in psychology. To learn the techniques of test-making and statistical analysis, Briggs worked with Edward Hay, an HR manager for a Philadelphia bank. This isn't a test designed to accurately categorize people, but rather a test designed to make them feel happy after taking it. This is just one of the reasons it's persisted for so many years in the corporate world after being disregarded long ago by psychologists.

    • @cathyharris8050
      @cathyharris8050 Год назад

      Then switch your channel and go away. Who are you and why do we care?

  • @philomenaward1833
    @philomenaward1833 Год назад

    So much info and relevant BUT so diatracting with all the hand waving in front of your face SO distacting and all the contradictions no pauses uninterrupted flow of speech stream of words please listen to playback or something as a broadcaster its really important to pause a little between thoughts .