Sincere and determined people need truthful information and a good plan to escape the cycle and hole you are in. Incredible marriages ARE possible. They are achieved by: 1. Learning about the mind and mastering it so your changes are permanent and you are always growing. 2. Learning how to behave, and not behave in marriage friendly ways 3. Making unconditional love and ever-expanding happiness your primary and constant missions. Go to themarriagefoundation.org and get the course if you need it. Now is not the time to experiment. It is the time for positive action.
I’ve been ignored so much and put on the back burner behind my kids, talked to with disdain, criticized and left to cry with zero empathy, that I don’t have it in me anymore to try to turn this around. I can see how this works but after years of being ghosted and not given proper love and affection (as opposed to sex simply for the sake of it), I can’t bring myself to be the ‘stronger one’. I said today that I want a divorce and he said good. So that’s how much he cares.
In other words you are both like little kids not getting your way and blaming each other. You can do what you want of course but I suggest that you get the course for women and don't give up.
My husband breaks my trust and security. Then he wants to go back to things like it never happened. Meanwhile I feel like I'm going to pop holding in all the junk he has poured out on me. When I try to set my boundaries and conditions he treats me and my pain and hurt and emotion as an inconvenience. We have 3 children and I am currently pregnant with our 4th. I'm sure he will blame my pregnancy hormones on all the crying I have been doing...but its not that. It's just that he makes me feel like such a burden and so alone...when he created all these negative feelings within me in the first place. I'm stuck. I'm hurt. I'm becoming depressed and scared of the thoughts that come into my mind.
Dee... there is so much I can comment on what you have said but in the end I am going to strongly suggest you look at and take the course for women so you can rise above all this and create a good marriage. Blaming him who is blaming you is not getting anyone anywhere good. themarriagefoundation.org/system/ Let me know what you think through this comment section.
My husband just told me sex doesn't mean anything.. that doesn't. Make me anything less than a whole to him....now I don't even care to have sex with him if its nothing.
Your husband is telling you plainly that you are not being a good wife, and just using the sex thing as a way of getting to you. Ignore that he he wants to punish you and take a good hard look at how you treat him. Are you an ideal wife?
Sincere and determined people need truthful information and a good plan to escape the cycle and hole you are in. Incredible marriages ARE possible. They are achieved by:
1. Learning about the mind and mastering it so your changes are permanent and you are always growing.
2. Learning how to behave, and not behave in marriage friendly ways
3. Making unconditional love and ever-expanding happiness your primary and constant missions.
Go to themarriagefoundation.org and get the course if you need it. Now is not the time to experiment. It is the time for positive action.
I’ve been ignored so much and put on the back burner behind my kids, talked to with disdain, criticized and left to cry with zero empathy, that I don’t have it in me anymore to try to turn this around. I can see how this works but after years of being ghosted and not given proper love and affection (as opposed to sex simply for the sake of it), I can’t bring myself to be the ‘stronger one’. I said today that I want a divorce and he said good. So that’s how much he cares.
In other words you are both like little kids not getting your way and blaming each other. You can do what you want of course but I suggest that you get the course for women and don't give up.
Oh how I needed to hear this!!! Thank you!!!!!!!! When the student is ready, the Teacher will appear 😀
My husband breaks my trust and security. Then he wants to go back to things like it never happened. Meanwhile I feel like I'm going to pop holding in all the junk he has poured out on me. When I try to set my boundaries and conditions he treats me and my pain and hurt and emotion as an inconvenience. We have 3 children and I am currently pregnant with our 4th. I'm sure he will blame my pregnancy hormones on all the crying I have been doing...but its not that. It's just that he makes me feel like such a burden and so alone...when he created all these negative feelings within me in the first place. I'm stuck. I'm hurt. I'm becoming depressed and scared of the thoughts that come into my mind.
Dee... there is so much I can comment on what you have said but in the end I am going to strongly suggest you look at and take the course for women so you can rise above all this and create a good marriage. Blaming him who is blaming you is not getting anyone anywhere good. themarriagefoundation.org/system/ Let me know what you think through this comment section.
Your voice is soothing. Makes it easier to feel encouraged. Thanks for the advice in this video.
Its hard when I'm a Christian and I'm just supposed to forgive and forget every time.
Christ taught a lot more than "forgive and forget" and I think you can look closer at your love for your husband and see if it is actually there.
Same here
@@TheMarriageFoundation Im sorry, but what?
“All things, therefore, that you want men to do to you, you also must do to them”
Yes I needed it to hear this
You are welcome🙏
My husband just told me sex doesn't mean anything.. that doesn't. Make me anything less than a whole to him....now I don't even care to have sex with him if its nothing.
Your husband is telling you plainly that you are not being a good wife, and just using the sex thing as a way of getting to you. Ignore that he he wants to punish you and take a good hard look at how you treat him. Are you an ideal wife?
Thank you for this video. It's encouraging.