Silent Epidemic of Unwanted Staring at Women | Sanjay Rajoura Latest
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- Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024
- In this enlightening discussion, speakers @SanjayRajouraurbantucchha and Prayas delve into a largely unreported issue prevalent in Indian society - the pervasive problem of men staring at women.
With an engaging and respectful approach, they shed light on this silent epidemic that's been normalized over the years, making millions of women uncomfortable daily. With firsthand experiences, expert analysis, and a closer look at the social constructs contributing to this problem, Sanjay and Prayas aim to bring this issue to the forefront and spark a much-needed conversation.
The two speakers also share potential solutions and the changes needed in societal attitudes to address this problem. From educating the masses to law enforcement measures, they discuss the vast array of actions required to promote respect and equality.
Join us in this thought-provoking discussion, and let's contribute to making our society safer and more comfortable for everyone. Your participation can make a difference!
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Thank goodness! I am from Haryana, and for the first time I am watching two men who come from the core misogynist patriarchal society talking on one of the most confronting situation for us women and how we through various modes especially bollywood normalise staring, stalking, and other henious crimes like rapes. And yes it starts from HOME. Crimes against women have been minimalised like it is a theft issue. Badaun, Nirbhaya, Hyderabad, Unnao, Kathua, Hathras and how can we forget Bilkis Bano. Manipur has been added to the list. I strongly feel this video needs to be amplified so I will be sharing it on other social media platforms. Well done The Fourth Dimension, Sanjay and Prayas.
Thank you for your encouragement. Men need to talk about this a lot more. We will try our best to get such key issues on our show. Thank you for your support.
Staring at someone for a prolonged period of time is considered a form of harassment and can be punishable under the Indian Penal Code (IPC):
The great thing is two sensible humans from misoginyst states are discussing about women safety and behaviour of men in general. I think there is a long history of social reforms in eastern, western and southern parts of India that helped to change the mindset of people about women. Education also played a big role in shaping the conscience of the society. When people like you are there, hope for better days are there. Thanks for taking up the issue.
Thanks for your words of encouragement
So relevant discussion that too by 2 men 👍 even in Eastern India staring is much less than North
Culture is the key. In misogynistic places toxic masculinity is embraced but feminism is looked down upon. As long as men can’t appreciate the feminine qualities within themselves, like being witty, playing with words and logic, mental and emotional maturity and support, ability to make intelligent decisions with farsightedness, ability to communicate, ability to sell, ability of preservation of family and saving for future, ability to connect to children in the family, ability to plan critically and organise, ability to work long hours, resilience. All of these and more are characters are often seen as weekness but in reality they are crucial. A man by the time develops and accepts all these abilities as important is either old or aging. Once a boy learn that father respects mom for her qualities, he will respect women too. Once a boy learns that women in my family has the same place and valued equally for what they do, they will never be able to do anything like rape. We have a crooked view about women of society and this is why development as a country is slow or stagnant.
Very well said, thank you
ohhh...this is so on point..great🙌..i wish everyone reads this comment
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Another major issue is the colloquial slangs which abuse women. Women are seen as harbours of respect of a family and the men she is associated with. Men have constructed this social idea that by exploiting the commodity which belongs to other men ('their' women) they can take revenge and settle conflict! Men have created created to abuse women from as many angles as mathematically possible. Men need to talk about the disgust they have birthed by using their brains. Men need to know that by being humans they can use their brains to create safety, warmth and love, things which they so desperately search for all their life. Things which they themselves have deprived themselves of. They take this anger out on women, the filth is the ideas which they perpetuate, consciously or unconsciously.
Men should leave women alone. Just let them be.
I have been hearing Sanjay Rajoura from 5 years and what is says in his discussions including this one is the hard truth about Indian Men and their mentality towards women. There are many steerotypes practices specially in Punjab, Haryana, UP & Delhi where women are being always suppressed and dominated as if she has no brain of hers or she don't know what is right and what is wrong. Sanjay's discussions are always based on facts and one of his discussion in which he mentioned about Karan Johar and Ekta Kapoor are the torch bearers of all types of patriarchal society is 100% true
As a 19 year old this was the advice i got. Now ik how to behave and what not to do which i did. Glad ik about sanjay jii before bcz if not after that food politics vdo maybe i havent have watched this as i believe in veganism and environmental issues more than my own self interest of taste. But overall thanks for this aur society ko ye TAMACHA chiye aur jor se chiye plz keep doing it
Thanks Anish for your feedback. Wish you all the best and stay tuned 🙏
Thanks for this conversation, Sanjay Ji. Much needed. I feel your anger and respect yours and Prayas's honesty. I have also been a part of this, high time men talk about the wrongs they do and they become humans.
Thanks. Indeed men do need to become sensible humans.
Amazing discussion finally men are talking about these topics....
Thank you 🙏
You speak for a lot of us Prayas! So proud of you bro! Looking forward to the journey you have set on…will keenly follow ❤
Thanks a ton
import topic.. I do not live in India.. since when I was 12 been living in US but yes this applies to Indians here as well. Biggest problem is that people who says or think they do not do this so nothing is wrong.. I think Silence by folks who see this as a witness and then on top of it DO not say anything are the worse people in the world.
Thanks for taking time to share your thoughts.
wht i thnk is that Indian men/ or men from South east Asia r one f the most sexually frustrated ppl. They actually think men r frm mars n their counterparts r frm venus. There can be those who have not never befriended a girl in their life, so what could one expect. Not stare! i think that z overexpection. Society need to be educated in general.
Great conversation 👍
Need more views and applause 👏
Thanks a ton
The male gaze, as a term, was coined by feminist film theorist Laura Mulvey in 1975. The idea of the “male gaze” is that through media and culture women are objectified and seen primarily for their physical appearance.
I grew up in Punjab and later moved to Gurgaon after marriage. The nightmare of travelling in public transport has never left me. My husband & I went on to have 2 daughters and decided to move to Pune which was safer for girls & it was but eventually left the country cuz it was all relative . Now I personally feel so much safer for myself & our girls. What a sad testimony that as women we’re most at risk in our own neighbourhoods, in our own country. So much for our ‘sanskar’ & sabhyata’ 🥵
Immensely sorry that due to those lusty men you had to change course of your life. We hope one day men will stop being the source of relentless fear for women. "relative' safety is not acceptable, hopefully an a 'percieved' absolute safety is brought about by men, some day soon. Thank you for taking time out for sharing your experience with us. Take care.
Sanjay staring ka proof log mange ye baat chhodo...Delhi police pahelwano se video aur photo maang Rahi he proof ke taur pe..aur log pahelwano ke khilaf bol bhi rahe he openly..sach me ye sab dekh ke hi darr lagata he..kis samaj me ji rahe he hum..
Well said sir
Truly staring is such an uncomfortable form of harassment, it leaves such deep scars especially on young girls who have to still face this regularly. I still remember one such incident from the age of 13 in a shared auto with a drunk man staring at me like I am some piece of meat. It was just feeling of sheer fear, absolute fear that either I am going to get raped in that auto or get killed. I am now 30 and still I just cannot erase it from my mind. That incident has made me afraid of all the men who drink alcohol, no matter how much I try to make sense and think logically about this that alcohol doesn't make someone evil or rapist, but this one incident from my childhood has changed me for life.
One more point I want to add, this staring thing is I think common in every part of India, especially small towns where men gather in groups in some corner and think they have the right to harass women. I personally have faced it a lot in small towns and when I used to live in Maharashtra. Even when men sit in public places with such arrogance and attitude that it makes many women uncomfortable. That shows this mentality in men that they own the streets. It somehow gives them authority. And that's why girls have to wear scarfs to cover their faces while walking or driving on roads.
Extremely sorry about your personal experiences in your younger days. That sounds horrific. You are absolutely right about men making women/girls uncomfortable and scared for life. We need to talk a lot about these demeaning habits of men in our drawing rooms so that men acknowledge and change. Hopefully.
Thanku sanjay
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Waiting & waiting Thts all I can say now !! Looking forward for the reality
Thanks for your support and taking time to leave us a comment Aman bhai
Impeccable content
Gracias.
Ya women are either put on pedestal or totally looked down upon...they are not considered equal and just let be!
True and this needs to change before we even start thinking women will be safe in this world
Love you both
Thank you 😊
the most unfortunate, shameless cringeworthy action is by family/relatives who not only perpetuate this crime but also hide/cover up etc.
Absolutely. And family is supposed to protect kids.
Sanjay , you have changed my life . I am 25 years old guy . I feel very lucky bcoz at this young age I find your videos in cringy RUclips era😅.
Thanks buddy, life is full of discoveries ...keep going and relish the memories.
Just to highlight this is not just a problem in India but is western countries too. So this is across the world.
Bhai Sanjay ,
Acoustic पर ज़रा सोचिए , Mike अचछे वाले लगाओ ।।।
Will we have another season of "Yeh bhi theek hai"? Season 1 was amazing.❤
More to come soon
I work in Dubai, in my office, No one can dare to stare at a female co-worker. Our general manager has strict rule, Either you marry if have an relationship or you can't approach any girl. Literally 😊
Sadly, every place/ religion has its own issues that impact women adversely.
We have to tell our children about the bad touch and good touch. Most of the domestic violence cases happen in the family by those relatives.
100% agree
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Isn't Sanjay the same guy who was accused of rape by a girl.. Hypocrisy ki bhi seema hoti hai 😢😅
Yes
Interesting ❤
Glad you think so!
@@TheFourthDimensionChannel It's always interesting for me to listen to Sanjay. It was the first time i disagreed with him on an issue (veg, nonveg). Khair... waiting for the next episode ✌
Every Friday one episode, and we have lots of them queued up
Great discussion, but you also missed lot, it’s not simple men’s at fault, infact it’s the outcome what our subcontinent’s make up as society. We mentally brought up in Patriarchy, honour culture, feudalism(caste, religion driven tendencies). Financially we going towards capitalism. And sadly women not only victims but also part of this outcome, because they also carry same metal make up. That’s why in each movies/song you mention, women in end start feeling attraction of said “badsalook” hero. Which is actual peak of mental bankruptcy.
I want everyone here to share this video to your families and people you know 🙏
Thank you
sikhana shuru karo to jwab milta hain" aise hi chalta aa raha hain,". " dunia aisee hi chalti hain"
Thank you 🙏
I am male. All stare me.. Male n female both.. Very uncomfortable
I have heard a man say, "toh uske saath gayi kyu thi?" To a 14 year old child who got molested by a man who told her he'll teach her to drive a scooter
There are so many similar examples and the great Indian culture has no solution, elders don’t care and we want to become world guru
May be he have said that not be with stranger even after he was saying it consequently not by doing victim shaming parents consequently bole honge naki blaming
@@neetmotivation59 accha.... Thanks
As a woman....i go through this horrific experience everyday...this bone shivering staring...but in teenage i have been chased by some goons while going to coaching centre...i cried everyday for that one month questioning why the fuck is this happening to me..and gradually i realise why this happening and what is happening... and i gradually started to groom my little brother to never stare or cat calling...i started to maintain a relationship where i started to discuss these things with him...about misogyny..about fear women feel in their day to day life because of men...i can say that atleast in front of me..he respects women around him and i also have observed that he now has a friend circle where men are actually priorities women's comfort with them ....also around them....we need to talk not to ban..i think that BBC documentary could have been starting point of discussions in not much but at least in some houses..i started the discussion with my brother and mother in that documentary...
Thanks for sharing your perspective
Whenever i get stared at, I stare back hard and lock eye contact. He gets uncomfortable and shifty. I carry a pepper spray and a keychain with a small knife every time i step out of home. I live in Bangalore. Imagine our lives in small villages and towns.
Sorry that you have to take such steps to reclaim space which should be amicably shared. I wish men did not make girls uncomfortable like this.
staring is ours right. all ages , any place.
True
I see if someone does staring at people like James Bond does, it is fine. If the boy and the girl are equally attractive in society, staring is kind of locking eye gaze. If someone is very low on an attractive scale, they might run the risk of being called a "staring creep".
Very true
Not allowing relatives to play with kids is going too far, Sanjay Ji. Just because of few pedophiles, it's unfair to paint everyone with same brush. Not everyone who plays fondly with kids are potential molester or rapists. Line should be drawn with strangers, unreliable relatives and decent folks.
Playing should be fine but no touching. Also how do you qualify good relatives from bad ones?
A child doesn't have the power or developed idea of consent. It is difficult for a child to deny being touched, thus a protection is required which the guardian can put in place. Teach children to say no, to tell the guardian when they feel uncomfortable and tell the children that they are the owners of their body. It is not painting everyone with the same colour, it is prevention.
@@TheFourthDimensionChannelSimply sir Don't leave your Child with Those relatives who are new to you.
Leave with them whom you know about Year's of Year's.
Me na choti thi or wo nhi hotey h chowk k ladke wo gare the aila re ladki mast mast tu aila re or mere dimag me tab aya tha ki jo ye gate h song aise ya jo likhte h unke ghar ke ladkiya bahar nhi jati kya? Kya wo log ye kabhi face nhi karte? Shilpa shetty to obviously nhi karti hogi q ki wo thodi tution jati hogi paidal. Or ye sawal kabhi nhi puche gaye to lagta tha shayad ye normal hoga or mujhe ye accept karna chaiye ki meri galti h me raste se jari.
Sorry for your such horrendous experiences. As you already know, it was not your fault at all. Kisi bhi raste per yeh Nahin hona chahiye. Period. Likhne wale, perform Karne Wale, humate Ghar wale, iske jimmewar Hain. We all need to talk about it in our living rooms.
Harsh reality of our society. And it is evident that the bollywood has helped grow vulgarity and misogyny.
Very true and unfortunate
Welcome
For me some religious Rules are working out here, 1-Lower yout Gaze,when u see a women. 2- Do not lift up ur eyes,if accidentally u see a stranger female.
A gaze is essential for communication, but a shameless stare is the wrong thing.
start ho gaya , pata hi nahin chala
topic hi aisa senti choose kiya hian bachhe , huh, kya troll karoon?? par ye jatao ki classification ki kya jaroorat thi?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
Thank you 🙏
Staring or Ogling or Checking out women is somehow considered ok . I know of people who are very blatant about it and see nothing wrong in it and say “ Arre hum to sirf beauty appreciate kar rahe hain, kisi to touch thodi kar rahe gain “.
Very true
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Thank you
I have an explanation for the north vs south question but i might be able to only email it to you.
Sure please if you can do that will be amazing
Sir,
with respect to equality, it would be very enlightening if you talk about the rise of false cases of rape and harassment too in the past few years. I believe Sanjay sir himself has faced such allegations some time ago. So, it would be very helpful to know how he moved on from that, as such an accusation can scar someone's life forever.
Indeed that's a tough situation. Needs separate discussion so as not to belittle what women face as a norm in our society.
@@TheFourthDimensionChannel my sincere respect for what you are doing. and i believe you will have that separate discussion someday, and not very late so as not to belittle the term equality. what we do not discuss today, becomes the norm tomorrow.
thank you for your kind reply.
Hi Sanjay! Have you moved to Europe?
No
Even men are stared at if they put up a pink watch or use a pink iPhone ,forget the women every one asks me pink phone kyu chala re ho I m perfectly straight bhai and masculine not misogynist ab mere ko kawaii chize pasand hai kaun samjhaye chutiyo ko
Now imagine that happening almost every single moment of your life when you are out in the public even if you are not wearing anything that attracts attention, just because you are a girl.
Let me know if you have been objectified for that, felt threatened and unsafe
Sanjay is really frustrated by all this cruelty.
thanks
Most you said makes sense, but you cant make INdia scotland overnight. So no point comparing.West z west n east is east (thought east is inching towards west all the time ;))
I think, everything hinges on Education.
There is a differnce in that TOUCH and that TOUCH. I mean grand parents express their love by toucihng n kissing, especially if its a male child, but more often these touch are harmless, however, in a few occasions, the can be predatory!!! Now here comes the problem.
And i wont shy away from quoting that west has not faces that problem. There have been n are peodophiles in western world too, but they made it a rule to maintain physcial distance from kids and then we wonder and complain that in west parents do nt share the same bed with their new born or younger kids. They do not carry their children in their lap but always in trolley or wagon!
Anyhow, i think i m digressing. I think, solution z in education, but i totally agree, at the moment the situation is too bad. Whom wud u teach when we have bollywood to corrupt the masses. Listen to regional songs, bihari, punjabi n haryanavi songs. Your ears ll start to bleed Sanjay n my Rohtaki bhai; sorry i fogot your name).
A bad touch is a bad touch in any culture. Period. West has criminals who are predatory and get caught and sentenced too. The crimes do happen. There are special nationwide register to enlist such culprits and once convicted, they are kept away from children. Still crimes happen. Imagine India , no strict laws, no social protections, even families don't protect their own children .... Not just education, strict laws and corruption free implementation is a must.... A dream.
We as humans especially in this capitalist system, want to consume everything we see.. be it a woman or an animal or a child.
Thanks
Women are being objectified because women always served as a selling point for men. In developed countries the same objectification doesn’t lead to rape because men/boys knows that’s just a selling tactic and would knows sexual harassment isn’t acceptable in the society. Men are objectified as well and many finds it extremely difficult to keep up to get girl friends. There are lots of pressure on men to become an interesting, charmer and learn how to satisfy a woman. But in India the same objectification of women means it gives society license to abuse women if they wear a certain type of clothing. Because in India we don’t have an equal society. Male objectification doesn’t exist because our society sees it as peculiar male taste. So you can’t blame capitalism alone.
However, Capitalism is creating another disease for us, wanting to have what we don’t need. “The want” is what selling products, or in this world why do we need so many clothes or packaged food or phone? Newer models every where. Why can’t we invest that money into research and come up with free electricity and resolve world hunger problems? Why can’t we tackle climate and population? Why can’t we focus on ending wars and reduce defence budget? Because all our waking hours goes towards producing, selling and consuming unnecessary things. Because capitalism is creating a highly unequal society in which poor is gradually exploited to it’s doom and kept busy by fighting each other. Democratic Governments world wide are losing meaning because they are unable to stop this blatent exploitation that has made us all so dependent and vulnerable. We all need to stop getting side tracked by distractions ourselves. Create demand for things that matter. Demand things that you need. Pollution free air, clean water, no child going hungry, employment into developmental sectors, good law and order, reform justice system and lot more. Maybe if we speak up and demand the right thing some selfish politician or capitalist will invest seeing a market, seeing votes.
@@Msnovy First of all, it is naive to assume that rapes don't happen in Western countries.
Second, I only emphasized capitalism I didn't mean to say its the only reason.
I am talking about commodification of each and everything we see.. be it a human or an object. Going by the capitalist logic, if its a commodity it is meant to be consumed and thats what we do.
Indian context,
Sexual repression+capitalist or consumerist behaviour+ false sense of pride in Indian culture (whatever that means) etc. contribute to this travesty..
Growing market for Bhabhi videos or incestual p*rn is a proof of sexual repression and degeneration of morals.
@@globalcitizen0 you’re reading what you want to. I never said rapes doesn’t happen or women are never disrespected in western countries but the daily dose of misogyny is what I was referring to. Like starting or casual sexual harassment. Rape is invasive and criminal. I’m talking about women feeling comfortable and safe enough in public spaces.
I don’t think I disagreed with your views but said capitalism isn’t the only reason. Because if that was the case rapes would be happening on every 2 steps in capitalist countries. Just because there are porns, it doesn’t mean people in these countries are having sex in public places all the time. Moral degeneration is a problem worldwide and I agree with you on capitalism driving it.
You more or less wrote the same thing. Please stop yourself from making judgemental remarks like “Naive” on social media, we’re all just expressing our opinions.
@@Msnovy sorry if my reply came across as a judgemental one.. I didn't mean it in that way.. I agree with your points in general.. but I guess casual harassment or misogyny is a problem worldwide. Like Harvey Weinstein etc are examples of such cases.. maybe the counter argument is that in west cases are reported more on average then in India but it only shows that in West women are empowered comparatively more than in India when it comes to seeking justice but that's more reactionary in a sense.. It doesn't mean that the situation is any better.. Maybe I'm wrong.. don't know buddy
meri husband toh bahut jyada ghoorta,woh sahin me devour kar jayenge akhon se hi,ogling bhi krte hain khoob😂😂
😀 ogling 😀
simps do that.
All men do that at some point.
@@TheFourthDimensionChannel Alpha will approach and then leave if it doesn't work. They don't stare and waste their time for one women.
by your accent and some mostly urdu words that you guys used ......i first thought you guys are from pakistan lol.
Sir aapne ladke k liye to bol diya ki ladki ka no means no ladki ka bana do vo kitna uncomfortable feel karwati hai bus train me kal hi sham ko ek ladki mere bagal me aake baith gayi meri mummy bhi thi vahi per us ladki ne nearly underwear jitne kapde pehne the neecche meri mummy humko waha se leke chali gayi usne meri mummy ko old fashion aunty keh diya hum bhed gaye usse bahut kuch fatkaar lagayi agar ye disrespect hai to hone do i dont care ki ye kya tha bs mummy ko usenhi kehna tha kuch yahi ladkiya jab ladke no kehte hai inhe to judgmental ho jati hai samne vale ki soch choti bol ke is per video banao agar aap hypocrite nhi hai to
In my views, girls or boys or other genders can wear what they want. Period. The wearer of the clothes does not force the watcher to look at them. The discomfort in this case is self inflicted. Men stare at girls actively and make them uncomfortable, thats a huge problem. Ladke 'No' kehte hain?? shayad aap 'No' ka context nahi samjhe yehan.
@@TheFourthDimensionChannel no means no hota hai ab context kuch bhi ho saale farzi feminist pata chal gaya ki tum log yaha baith k kya kya krne Wale ho simping anti hindu propoganda aur kuch nhi ladke ka no bola to context me agaye hypocrites 😂😂😂
@@TheFourthDimensionChannelacc to your logic any one can stare wherever they want any gender u should not judge any one eyes 👀👀👀