Honestly my mother ran our lives when I was a kid based on her "funny feelings." We couldn't do anything ever because she always had a funny feeling something horrible was going to happen. She thought she was psychic. But the only bad thing that ever happened was that we never went anywhere or did anything. Thanks for this video. All your stuff is super helpful.
Ya I was absolutely feeling it this morning, trying to get my recipes and house ready for thx giving, it wasn't the stress from that, but the fact that I didn't feel I cared for it anymore 😞 but I ignored it and now exited again. Thx sweetheart for your words!!
I’ve said this once and I’ll say it again. These videos have changed my life. I’ve battled for over 30 years with OCD. There’s never been a therapy which has affected me in such a positive way as this.
I have Complex PTSD, this happens to me several times a day. It’s so uncomfortable, but it does go away. It’s just the most awful feeling. Thank you for posting ❤
Thank you so much for continuing to bring us content! I have been able to overcome so many "what ifs" in life from the topical videos you've released! a thousand thanks yous! I am still going through a lot, but now, with a better understanding and even more tools to use. I had seen a therapist for 3 years before I moved and she was very helpful but you have touched on topics I didn't know how to explain. Thank you again and again!
When I feel like this I try to remember to check in with myself - am I hungry, thirsty, tired, in pain, etc? Sometimes fixing things like this can help a lot.
I occasionally struggle w harm ocd. And was going through a bad bout of it until I found your videos. Some of the practices to retrain the mind is scary. Like, holding a knife and telling myself “I may or may not snap and hurt someone” bc I was scared that maybe I’d trick my brain into thinking it’s okay to snap and hurt someone (which is my biggest fear). But, I’ve learned that’s my ocd trying to bully me into keep doing the rituals and compulsions. It’s telling me I can’t trust myself and I’ll trick myself into ruing my life. Then, when you actually go through these ERP exercises you realize you are in complete control. Which ocd HATES for you to figure out. Really love the videos keep up the great work!
Sir i have breathing ocd from seven months. I can't able to stop it. And recently i got different types of ocds. This year we have competative exam. I can't able to prepare well due to ocd.. so , please answer to the problem sir???
I'm 54 now and I can think back to feeling this unknown sense of dread in the pit of my stomach as early as my teens. The feeling would be there and then I would start searching for a problem, something that I must've done wrong. I used to think of myself and describe this to my friends as "if I don't have something to worry about, I will try and find something to worry about!" I had no idea for more than 30 years that this was, and still is, OCD. Thank you for making these amazing and completely relatable videos.
This video speaks to me. This is exactly what I have been going through and people continue to say trust your gut, but the problem with OCD is I don't know what my gut feeling is.
IMO what distinguishes a genuine gut feeling (intution) from the false one you're describing is that the former lacks any anxiety, and is more like a friend who taps you on the shoulder and says "Hey, watch out/don't do this buddy."
Nate, you are great 😊 always encourage us and gave us light!! I’m a severe ocd and anxiety disorder sufferer for 15 yrs and I gained a lot from your videos bPlease can you produce videos on topics of “how to feel safe” “why wanting to control impacted us” “childhood trauma”? Thanks Nate n love you ❤❤
Such a perfectly timed video. I get this from time to time and it takes me to a horrible place where I often become debilitated. I woke up this morning feeling panic and opened RUclips to this video. Thank you so much ❤
My problem is this revolves around all the physical stuff. I’m off and lightheaded a lot lately and so I feel constant dread about that feeling. I’m tapering off a medication and I can tell myself that that’s is why I’m offf but my mind doesn’t seem to want to accept that. 🥺
you are incredible. your talent of identifying as a professional when you have moments that are the same as others who may or may not have disorders is a very mature act.
I cannot believe the perfect timing that I saw this! Thank you so much for making this I called out yesterday due to anxiety and OCD overwhelm and I have to go back to work today and I managed to get up and shower but here I am on the couch feeling overwhelmed and I watched this video and it spoke to everything I've been experiencing lately and pondering like being board and letting these emotions thrive and trying to figure out why I feel them and I just can't thank you enough but actually makes me emotional because this is exactly what I needed thank you Nathan!
Is there a video for being in OCD lies since childhood till early adulthood? and how that effects decision making in life, attachments, career chosing?
I’ve got health anxiety and this feeling of dread is sooo overwhelming. Getting hypnotherapy which has given me little changes where I realised there was nothing wrong with me but then that feeling of knowing I’m ok really freaked me out!! Been living with this anxiety for a year and a half so to suddenly realise there was nothing bad going on threw my brain off completely my anxiety didn’t know what to do with itself. Still trying to cope with that now. I can feel my anxiety is doing whatever it can to stick around and is clinging on to any thought that makes me slightly worried, enhances it and makes it a problem
I rarely comment anything on youtube, but even though there are some others who explain OCD/Depression and treatment, I never was able to relate and understand as I do with your videos. My OCD is based a lot on exactly the content of this specific video, but with all your other videos (and the OCD course I also bought) the puzzle gets "solved" more and more. Mainly with realising that a lot of puzzles and potential threats in our mind are ok if they don't get solved. :) Thanks a lot. I still need a lot of practise, but you helped me mre than anything/anyone else. Making me able to help myself focus on dealing with almost any situation in a positive way, instead of an impossible/unnecessary/negative way. And yes that threatening feeling may have reduced a bit, which I appreciate, but mostly it is about the awareness of not needing to believe the false alarms and just let that feeling be. Even if it may feel like a real threat. It's a bit of a malfunction of the brain. But doesn't have to matter much. Still have a long way to go. But thanks again!
Yes absolutely! Just don't believe those false alarms, acknowledge the feelings without letting them control you. Allow them to be, and over time, as you practice this approach, those intrusive thoughts will lose their grip on your peace of mind.
This is going to be kinda' long, so sorry about thag in advance. I've been watching a lot of your videos because I've been trying to figure out why im having these thoughts so much lately. I used to have the occasional "what if i drove off the bridge" thought, but I could easily go "huh that was odd", move on and try not to worry about it so much. But lately I've been under a lot of stress and all of the sudden I'm having thoughts about self-harm (and other just random thoughts like; kissing a person of the same gender (while I'm straight), punching someone I love (and don't want to punch), jumping off of something high up). A lot of the time these thoughts aren't even worded, they're just "pictures" or "video" of doing these things. It's happening pretty much every day. I know I'm not depressed, because I watched some videos on that and the symptoms don't really match what's going on. I don't have many symptoms of anxiety and don't feel like that's it. I thought it was ocd, but then realized that I don't really have fear connected to these thoughts, and don't feel compulsions to do anything in response to them, so it's not that. I generally still, even now can see the thought and let it go, even though it's an uncomfortable thought, because all these videos I've watched have said to just accept the thoughts and let them flow. Which does help, but it's still happening almost every day. Sometimes multiple times in a day, in an hour or afternoon. It also seems to happen way more when I'm in an especially stressful situation, those times being especially self-harm thoughts. (The random ones just kinda happen randomly throughout the week.) It's not really scary because I know I won't do anything like that. I wonder if there's really not any problem at all and I'm just overreacting by trying to figure out why this is happening. Sometimes the actions in these thoughts feel like a better alternative to dealing with the actual current stresses in my life. The situation I'm in feels so impossible. Like there is no solution. It keeps building up to these emotional pinnacles between people and situations and I used to think that I'd make things better, but after so many times these big build-ups end in more pain. At least I have an idea of what is going to happen if I fall down the stairs. But again, I would never do that on purpose so why am I thinking it? Sorry for the long wall of text, but does anyone know if just regular stress can cause this, or if it will go way once the stress is gone? One of my concerns is that I'll get into a bad pattern of thinking and will still have to deal with these thoughts after the stress is gone.
Can you talk about OverExplaining? My family (and myself), always overexplain things to "fix" my behavior to be more "safe". From serious things like what I should do for my career, various unwanted lectures on how things work, but even how to peel an avocado properly to not waste any. They feel compulsed to do so, I think it's a way to "protect" me from harm?
You are saving lives, thank you - one question: If I always keep compulsion, am I responsible for it? I thought compulsion might help me and I was on autopilot. I should have not given in to compulsions for so many years, but I worked really hard to get better...struggling a lot. Is it my fault that I suffered so much? 🙏🏼
Yeah, occasionally I get "That feeling". It makes me feel like I need to find a solution to it. When really if I just be, it's usually some type of fear that only sticks around for a few seconds.
When I sence something similar, I notice that is a time to be still, walk quietly, put plans on hold because doing nothing when on alert helps me be wise when trouble comes.
"control your actions, not the outcome" - Liu Kang, just wanna quote this too. We shouldn't worry about the future but enjoy and worry for the present situation at hand. We're humans with no powers, not dr. strange
Hi, I’m 18 and struggling more than ever right now. I react to random things that don’t “feel right” like touching something that has a lump on it or counting in my head but it feels wrong and it creates a habit which I can’t seem to get “right”. I’ve started a lot of these habits and then walked away but it still doesn’t feel right. If I try and do all the habits again it’ll take ages and be stressful but I’m worried if I don’t do them they will be there forever. Please can someone help?
It sounds as though you would really benefit from engaging with a therapist who has expertise in OCD. For several years I held off of seeking OCD therapy, specifically ERP, and have just tried to do everything on my own, reading, watching videos etc. Having the guidance and support of someone who really knows what your going through is life changing. Best wishes.
hey nate! wondering if this is the place to ask, but can you do a video (if you havent already) on coping with loneliness while struggling with depression and ocd? thanks
I had that happen the other night. Like I forgot something really important or there was something really wrong. I got a novel out I had been reading and it took 3 hours for it to go away. I reminded myself I was safe and that nothing was wrong. It's very weird though.
Sir i had a treatment resistant ocd antidepression medicine don't work me last 2years there is any treatment is available to get back ocd normal please suggest me sir
Just had this happen to me! I have been recovering from s/OCD and and have been doing ERP for 3 months. I get to the point where I almost feel back to my 'old' self and then have this "dread" feeling. It's cause me do have 2-3 set backs where then I question if I am depressed or not. Thank you for this video! It helps put the feeling into prospective.
I have that very feeling right now. And until this video my brain has been trying to solve the nonexistent problem. But now I’m going to turn it into a party and celebrate its “ presence.”
Have you ever felt like something was wrong even when it's not?
Yes, lots of times :(
At least once a month, but daily I get the same feelings, at less extent.
Honestly my mother ran our lives when I was a kid based on her "funny feelings." We couldn't do anything ever because she always had a funny feeling something horrible was going to happen. She thought she was psychic. But the only bad thing that ever happened was that we never went anywhere or did anything. Thanks for this video. All your stuff is super helpful.
I relate
Similar experience here as well.
Ya I was absolutely feeling it this morning, trying to get my recipes and house ready for thx giving, it wasn't the stress from that, but the fact that I didn't feel I cared for it anymore 😞 but I ignored it and now exited again. Thx sweetheart for your words!!
I have to say this man made sense of it all I’m putting his advice to practice as I’m making this comment
I’ve said this once and I’ll say it again. These videos have changed my life. I’ve battled for over 30 years with OCD. There’s never been a therapy which has affected me in such a positive way as this.
R u on any meds? Best luck with? Worst experience with?
What helped you? What have you changed?
I have Complex PTSD, this happens to me several times a day. It’s so uncomfortable, but it does go away. It’s just the most awful feeling. Thank you for posting ❤
Thank you so much for continuing to bring us content! I have been able to overcome so many "what ifs" in life from the topical videos you've released! a thousand thanks yous! I am still going through a lot, but now, with a better understanding and even more tools to use. I had seen a therapist for 3 years before I moved and she was very helpful but you have touched on topics I didn't know how to explain. Thank you again and again!
When I feel like this I try to remember to check in with myself - am I hungry, thirsty, tired, in pain, etc? Sometimes fixing things like this can help a lot.
I occasionally struggle w harm ocd. And was going through a bad bout of it until I found your videos. Some of the practices to retrain the mind is scary. Like, holding a knife and telling myself “I may or may not snap and hurt someone” bc I was scared that maybe I’d trick my brain into thinking it’s okay to snap and hurt someone (which is my biggest fear). But, I’ve learned that’s my ocd trying to bully me into keep doing the rituals and compulsions. It’s telling me I can’t trust myself and I’ll trick myself into ruing my life. Then, when you actually go through these ERP exercises you realize you are in complete control. Which ocd HATES for you to figure out. Really love the videos keep up the great work!
whats the one excesise's that helps you the most
"That feeling" happens to me ALL.THE.TIME. It almost feels like dread, a rash, an itch!
Daylight savings is a killer. It totally buzz killed my vibe. I find that I’m bored and I don’t know what to do.
Will you be doing a live q&a any time soon?
Excellent video! Feel that often.
Sir i have breathing ocd from seven months. I can't able to stop it. And recently i got different types of ocds. This year we have competative exam. I can't able to prepare well due to ocd.. so , please answer to the problem sir???
I'm 54 now and I can think back to feeling this unknown sense of dread in the pit of my stomach as early as my teens. The feeling would be there and then I would start searching for a problem, something that I must've done wrong. I used to think of myself and describe this to my friends as "if I don't have something to worry about, I will try and find something to worry about!" I had no idea for more than 30 years that this was, and still is, OCD. Thank you for making these amazing and completely relatable videos.
Same as you. I'm 55😔
This video speaks to me. This is exactly what I have been going through and people continue to say trust your gut, but the problem with OCD is I don't know what my gut feeling is.
May god keep you healthy!
You are a present to humanity.
IMO what distinguishes a genuine gut feeling (intution) from the false one you're describing is that the former lacks any anxiety, and is more like a friend who taps you on the shoulder and says "Hey, watch out/don't do this buddy."
Trust my gut? It tells me bad things are gonna happen every moment of every single day. No thanks.
Nate, you are great 😊 always encourage us and gave us light!! I’m a severe ocd and anxiety disorder sufferer for 15 yrs and I gained a lot from your videos bPlease can you produce videos on topics of “how to feel safe” “why wanting to control impacted us” “childhood trauma”? Thanks Nate n love you ❤❤
Perfect timing for the video. Thank you so much for the work you do!
My rule, trust my gut when I’m not scared. Don’t trust it when I am scared, it’s always wrong.
Such a perfectly timed video. I get this from time to time and it takes me to a horrible place where I often become debilitated. I woke up this morning feeling panic and opened RUclips to this video. Thank you so much ❤
My problem is this revolves around all the physical stuff. I’m off and lightheaded a lot lately and so I feel constant dread about that feeling. I’m tapering off a medication and I can tell myself that that’s is why I’m offf but my mind doesn’t seem to want to accept that. 🥺
you are incredible. your talent of identifying as a professional when you have moments that are the same as others who may or may not have disorders is a very mature act.
I cannot believe the perfect timing that I saw this! Thank you so much for making this I called out yesterday due to anxiety and OCD overwhelm and I have to go back to work today and I managed to get up and shower but here I am on the couch feeling overwhelmed and I watched this video and it spoke to everything I've been experiencing lately and pondering like being board and letting these emotions thrive and trying to figure out why I feel them and I just can't thank you enough but actually makes me emotional because this is exactly what I needed thank you Nathan!
A video on hemophobia plz
Thank you so much for this video …
This was very helpful…
Is there a video for being in OCD lies since childhood till early adulthood? and how that effects decision making in life, attachments, career chosing?
I’ve got health anxiety and this feeling of dread is sooo overwhelming. Getting hypnotherapy which has given me little changes where I realised there was nothing wrong with me but then that feeling of knowing I’m ok really freaked me out!!
Been living with this anxiety for a year and a half so to suddenly realise there was nothing bad going on threw my brain off completely my anxiety didn’t know what to do with itself. Still trying to cope with that now. I can feel my anxiety is doing whatever it can to stick around and is clinging on to any thought that makes me slightly worried, enhances it and makes it a problem
I rarely comment anything on youtube, but even though there are some others who explain OCD/Depression and treatment, I never was able to relate and understand as I do with your videos. My OCD is based a lot on exactly the content of this specific video, but with all your other videos (and the OCD course I also bought) the puzzle gets "solved" more and more. Mainly with realising that a lot of puzzles and potential threats in our mind are ok if they don't get solved. :)
Thanks a lot. I still need a lot of practise, but you helped me mre than anything/anyone else. Making me able to help myself focus on dealing with almost any situation in a positive way, instead of an impossible/unnecessary/negative way. And yes that threatening feeling may have reduced a bit, which I appreciate, but mostly it is about the awareness of not needing to believe the false alarms and just let that feeling be. Even if it may feel like a real threat. It's a bit of a malfunction of the brain. But doesn't have to matter much.
Still have a long way to go. But thanks again!
Yes absolutely!
Just don't believe those false alarms, acknowledge the feelings without letting them control you. Allow them to be, and over time, as you practice this approach, those intrusive thoughts will lose their grip on your peace of mind.
Hey, someone here that has increased negative thoughts/OCD 1 week before their period??
He's done a video on this, it's due to your hormones
I love this man ❤
3:06 Rinse and repeat
At times I had felt that feeling for about 6 weeks at a time more or less
Thank you! ❤
Thank you ❤
Thank you❤😊
This is going to be kinda' long, so sorry about thag in advance.
I've been watching a lot of your videos because I've been trying to figure out why im having these thoughts so much lately. I used to have the occasional "what if i drove off the bridge" thought, but I could easily go "huh that was odd", move on and try not to worry about it so much.
But lately I've been under a lot of stress and all of the sudden I'm having thoughts about self-harm (and other just random thoughts like; kissing a person of the same gender (while I'm straight), punching someone I love (and don't want to punch), jumping off of something high up). A lot of the time these thoughts aren't even worded, they're just "pictures" or "video" of doing these things.
It's happening pretty much every day. I know I'm not depressed, because I watched some videos on that and the symptoms don't really match what's going on. I don't have many symptoms of anxiety and don't feel like that's it. I thought it was ocd, but then realized that I don't really have fear connected to these thoughts, and don't feel compulsions to do anything in response to them, so it's not that. I generally still, even now can see the thought and let it go, even though it's an uncomfortable thought, because all these videos I've watched have said to just accept the thoughts and let them flow. Which does help, but it's still happening almost every day. Sometimes multiple times in a day, in an hour or afternoon. It also seems to happen way more when I'm in an especially stressful situation, those times being especially self-harm thoughts. (The random ones just kinda happen randomly throughout the week.)
It's not really scary because I know I won't do anything like that. I wonder if there's really not any problem at all and I'm just overreacting by trying to figure out why this is happening.
Sometimes the actions in these thoughts feel like a better alternative to dealing with the actual current stresses in my life. The situation I'm in feels so impossible. Like there is no solution. It keeps building up to these emotional pinnacles between people and situations and I used to think that I'd make things better, but after so many times these big build-ups end in more pain.
At least I have an idea of what is going to happen if I fall down the stairs. But again, I would never do that on purpose so why am I thinking it?
Sorry for the long wall of text, but does anyone know if just regular stress can cause this, or if it will go way once the stress is gone?
One of my concerns is that I'll get into a bad pattern of thinking and will still have to deal with these thoughts after the stress is gone.
Can you talk about OverExplaining? My family (and myself), always overexplain things to "fix" my behavior to be more "safe". From serious things like what I should do for my career, various unwanted lectures on how things work, but even how to peel an avocado properly to not waste any. They feel compulsed to do so, I think it's a way to "protect" me from harm?
You are saving lives, thank you - one question: If I always keep compulsion, am I responsible for it? I thought compulsion might help me and I was on autopilot. I should have not given in to compulsions for so many years, but I worked really hard to get better...struggling a lot. Is it my fault that I suffered so much? 🙏🏼
Yeah, occasionally I get "That feeling". It makes me feel like I need to find a solution to it. When really if I just be, it's usually some type of fear that only sticks around for a few seconds.
When I sence something similar, I notice that is a time to be still, walk quietly, put plans on hold because doing nothing when on alert helps me be wise when trouble comes.
"control your actions, not the outcome" - Liu Kang, just wanna quote this too. We shouldn't worry about the future but enjoy and worry for the present situation at hand. We're humans with no powers, not dr. strange
Hi, I’m 18 and struggling more than ever right now. I react to random things that don’t “feel right” like touching something that has a lump on it or counting in my head but it feels wrong and it creates a habit which I can’t seem to get “right”. I’ve started a lot of these habits and then walked away but it still doesn’t feel right. If I try and do all the habits again it’ll take ages and be stressful but I’m worried if I don’t do them they will be there forever. Please can someone help?
It sounds as though you would really benefit from engaging with a therapist who has expertise in OCD. For several years I held off of seeking OCD therapy, specifically ERP, and have just tried to do everything on my own, reading, watching videos etc. Having the guidance and support of someone who really knows what your going through is life changing. Best wishes.
Hey, 18 is a good time to start dealing with this. Look into mindfulness, ERP, and supplement regimes like NAC + Glycine + Inositol.
Hello, could you please talk about climate change anxiety?
hey nate! wondering if this is the place to ask, but can you do a video (if you havent already) on coping with loneliness while struggling with depression and ocd? thanks
I had that happen the other night. Like I forgot something really important or there was something really wrong. I got a novel out I had been reading and it took 3 hours for it to go away.
I reminded myself I was safe and that nothing was wrong. It's very weird though.
How to exercise despite of chronic somatic effects on the body? Should I force yourself?
Sir i had a treatment resistant ocd antidepression medicine don't work me last 2years there is any treatment is available to get back ocd normal please suggest me sir
Just had this happen to me! I have been recovering from s/OCD and and have been doing ERP for 3 months. I get to the point where I almost feel back to my 'old' self and then have this "dread" feeling. It's cause me do have 2-3 set backs where then I question if I am depressed or not. Thank you for this video! It helps put the feeling into prospective.
3 months ! Dang, good luck!
I have that very feeling right now. And until this video my brain has been trying to solve the nonexistent problem. But now I’m going to turn it into a party and celebrate its “ presence.”
me today and i hate it. its making up thoughts so i can justify the feeling.
Man, you are such a blessing!
Thank You Nathan
Every day
Thanks man
Thank you❤😊
So helpful!