It took up 80% of my head real estate…from planning ahead to having hair of the dog at 9 am, you are ONE HUNDRED % correct that you have to give it a whole year, I’ve finally realized that 30 days, is not enough for me, reading self help books, sobriety podcasts, etc is all part of it, I started my “30” dry days , Friday September 13,2024, and then I was going to do two months, then it turned into 100 days sober, it’s over that now and I’m now going for 150 dry days🙌🏼who knows? I’m tossing around the idea that I could do a year now
Congratulations. That is wonderful. The ppl who continue to stay sober take it one day at a time. But they also celebrate and acknowledge their accomplishments. And it is an accomplishment to still be sober. Kudos to you. Def keep counting the days, months years and keep going forward and enjoy your new found life of sobriety. God Bless.. and keep going. Every day sober is another win in my books.
I really like the idea of quitting for an entire year. I've abstained for several months at a time but never a year. Tomorrow it's 3 months for me and I'm committed to do the year. Get through all the holidays, anniversaries, birthdays etc. without a drink is a real accomplishment. And you might just realize a few things about yourself and others along the way.
Been sober 4 and half years. i have severed all these connections to Alcohol because it is 95 percent emotionally and only way to have some friends and do wjhat you want to.
Everything you said in this video is spot on. I pray that others will hear this and take back control of their lives. God Bless. And prayers for everyone still in the heat of the battle. You can do this. Never stop trying. !
Especially in the "heat of the battle", because "battling" is the worst thing to do! Sobriety is achieved through "SURRENDER", then being willing to live differently. Alcohol is NOT the root problem, so why battle a symptom?
@@markg.4246 Uhm, it most definitely IS a Battle. You can have your own opinion but many can call it "battle" . Its just semantics. It most definitely is a struggle at the very heart of it. And Overcoming alcohol is indeed a feat, A Win, and you continue winning throughout your life as long as you stay strong and sober and clear minded. Never surrender to your cravings for alcohol. And good judgement and a good life will follow. !
@@Bonnie55317-w I'm NOT offering an "opinion", rather 30 plus years of actual "experience", and it is NOT "semantics". Further, "strength" is not a requirement for sobriety. To the point, rigorous honesty, surrender, acceptance, and willingness, are the very foundation to get and remain sober. The mindset you describe, is why so many people fail. I know what I'm saying, because that was me. The moment I totally surrendered to the realization that I was the problem, and NOT alcohol, was the moment the "battle was OVER. I have not battled a single day since then, because I live in the solution, NOT the problem. Who wants to wake up everyday, and be in a tug of war with a "symptom", that will do absolutely nothing to benefit anyone? "Not Me".
"ONE way" number 1...I had to be READY! 99% "ready" didn't cut it! "ONE way" number 2...I had to be ready to listen to those with sobriety. No "IF's, ANDS, or BUT's"! (No arguing, no excuses, no bullshit.) "ONE way" number 3...I had to start showing up for life differently! For my parents, brothers, sisters, friends, employers, and society in general. All of that was NOT accomplished in a day, week, month, year, or decade...so let's not put a time frame on anything to do with recovery. What I TOTALLY agree with, is considering how much effort I put into recovery, compared to the effort I put into drinking. I will NEVER come close to matching those two efforts. The thought, time, and energy I put into using will ALWAYS WIN, but it doesn't matter now, because I am ready to live sober today! As I like to say, "Sobriety is not only possible, but probable...IF! Thanks for carrying the message Veronica, and all the best to you! Mark
You know your stuff and you obviously have been there.Got sober in 1984,picked up a drink in 93,been drinking off and on ever since.In those 9 plus years,I went to an AA meeting nearly everyday.That"s what it took and for ME,that"s what worked.I think I got bored and lost my gratitude for sobriety.I"m 65 now,retired and ok(I was a workaholic too).I don"t have the tolerance for meetings anymore.I know at least 4 people with 40 plus years sober,most don"t do meetings anymore.1 claims to be a social drinker,the others just don"t drink.I"ll be checking out your vids.
Getting sober is 10% not drinking alcohol and 90% emotional sobriety. Emotional sobriety is when we like ourselves and can manage our emotions. That is the work we need to do.
@@VeronicaValliSoberful -Thanks for your input,I know your right.I"m a long way from what your talking about.I didn"t drink today and thats a miracle for me.I have to think,"one day at a time",because that"s what I know.I very much appreciate your vids and I"ll be checking them out.Your sobriety course may be in my future.Today I want sobriety bad.Hope I can keep this mentality.
If you are a logical person you can easily identify that drinking Alcohol is not at all a logical activity. You need to be logical and the early months is difficult. The power of the drug is temporary and once it wear's off the cycle begins again. You see how the drug works. You get up tight, You drink, You get relieved for a short time, You wear off, You are offended by this, so you drink and the cyclecontinues
It took up 80% of my head real estate…from planning ahead to having hair of the dog at 9 am, you are ONE HUNDRED % correct that you have to give it a whole year, I’ve finally realized that 30 days, is not enough for me, reading self help books, sobriety podcasts, etc is all part of it, I started my “30” dry days , Friday September 13,2024, and then I was going to do two months, then it turned into 100 days sober, it’s over that now and I’m now going for 150 dry days🙌🏼who knows? I’m tossing around the idea that I could do a year now
Congratulations. That is wonderful. The ppl who continue to stay sober take it one day at a time. But they also celebrate and acknowledge their accomplishments. And it is an accomplishment to still be sober. Kudos to you. Def keep counting the days, months years and keep going forward and enjoy your new found life of sobriety. God Bless.. and keep going. Every day sober is another win in my books.
I just cannot express how amazing this channel is and how much it has helped me. Thank you so much
I really like the idea of quitting for an entire year. I've abstained for several months at a time but never a year. Tomorrow it's 3 months for me and I'm committed to do the year. Get through all the holidays, anniversaries, birthdays etc. without a drink is a real accomplishment. And you might just realize a few things about yourself and others along the way.
Been sober 4 and half years. i have severed all these connections to Alcohol because it is 95 percent emotionally and only way to have some friends and do wjhat you want to.
had lots of breaks in 2024 and its time to take a looooong break now, thanks
Everything you said in this video is spot on. I pray that others will hear this and take back control of their lives. God Bless. And prayers for everyone still in the heat of the battle. You can do this. Never stop trying. !
Especially in the "heat of the battle", because "battling" is the worst thing to do! Sobriety is achieved through "SURRENDER", then being willing to live differently. Alcohol is NOT the root problem, so why battle a symptom?
@@markg.4246 Uhm, it most definitely IS a Battle. You can have your own opinion but many can call it "battle" . Its just semantics. It most definitely is a struggle at the very heart of it. And Overcoming alcohol is indeed a feat, A Win, and you continue winning throughout your life as long as you stay strong and sober and clear minded. Never surrender to your cravings for alcohol. And good judgement and a good life will follow. !
@@Bonnie55317-w I'm NOT offering an "opinion", rather 30 plus years of actual "experience", and it is NOT "semantics". Further, "strength" is not a requirement for sobriety.
To the point, rigorous honesty, surrender, acceptance, and willingness, are the very foundation to get and remain sober.
The mindset you describe, is why so many people fail. I know what I'm saying, because that was me. The moment I totally surrendered to the realization that I was the problem, and NOT alcohol, was the moment the "battle was OVER. I have not battled a single day since then, because I live in the solution, NOT the problem.
Who wants to wake up everyday, and be in a tug of war with a "symptom", that will do absolutely nothing to benefit anyone? "Not Me".
"ONE way" number 1...I had to be READY! 99% "ready" didn't cut it! "ONE way" number 2...I had to be ready to listen to those with sobriety. No "IF's, ANDS, or BUT's"! (No arguing, no excuses, no bullshit.) "ONE way" number 3...I had to start showing up for life differently! For my parents, brothers, sisters, friends, employers, and society in general.
All of that was NOT accomplished in a day, week, month, year, or decade...so let's not put a time frame on anything to do with recovery. What I TOTALLY agree with, is considering how much effort I put into recovery, compared to the effort I put into drinking.
I will NEVER come close to matching those two efforts. The thought, time, and energy I put into using will ALWAYS WIN, but it doesn't matter now, because I am ready to live sober today! As I like to say, "Sobriety is not only possible, but probable...IF!
Thanks for carrying the message Veronica, and all the best to you! Mark
Thank you
Agreed.
Thank you for this timely video! It was exactly what I needed to hear ❤
You know your stuff and you obviously have been there.Got sober in 1984,picked up a drink in 93,been drinking off and on ever since.In those 9 plus years,I went to an AA meeting nearly everyday.That"s what it took and for ME,that"s what worked.I think I got bored and lost my gratitude for sobriety.I"m 65 now,retired and ok(I was a workaholic too).I don"t have the tolerance for meetings anymore.I know at least 4 people with 40 plus years sober,most don"t do meetings anymore.1 claims to be a social drinker,the others just don"t drink.I"ll be checking out your vids.
Getting sober is 10% not drinking alcohol and 90% emotional sobriety. Emotional sobriety is when we like ourselves and can manage our emotions. That is the work we need to do.
@@VeronicaValliSoberful -Thanks for your input,I know your right.I"m a long way from what your talking about.I didn"t drink today and thats a miracle for me.I have to think,"one day at a time",because that"s what I know.I very much appreciate your vids and I"ll be checking them out.Your sobriety course may be in my future.Today I want sobriety bad.Hope I can keep this mentality.
Excellent video. Easy on the eye too. Just saying 😬
Do you or have you ever done AA?
Yes, it's ow I got sober, that's all there was 25 yeras ago.
@ what about now? X
It's the same with drugs
If you are a logical person you can easily identify that drinking Alcohol is not at all a logical activity. You need to be logical and the early months is difficult. The power of the drug is temporary and once it wear's off the cycle begins again. You see how the drug works. You get up tight, You drink, You get relieved for a short time, You wear off, You are offended by this, so you drink and the cyclecontinues