FAREWELL DIARIES NYC ep 4: dinners, late night chats, trying to process

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  • Опубликовано: 8 ноя 2024

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  • @alicesmileys
    @alicesmileys 2 года назад +201

    Your little late night chat at the end was so interesting to me...When I look at lit up apartment windows at night or in the afternoon (especially in the winter time) it feels kind of grounding to me because I think of all the different people and lives they're experiencing and everything that comes with it like love and pain and whatnot. It makes me feel good because I value my life overall a little different and problems suddenly do not feel as big anymore... if you know what I mean

    • @wearilive
      @wearilive  2 года назад +15

      Ahhhh yes love this take ❤️ I feel that

    • @victtayl
      @victtayl 2 года назад +2

      Absolutely get this too. Having lived in London for 16 years and recently moved somewhere quieter, this is a perspective and feeling I really miss!!

    • @victtayl
      @victtayl 2 года назад +5

      Also why Rear Window is such a great movie!

  • @mutantbambi
    @mutantbambi 2 года назад +110

    Jenny, remember the video you made transforming into a “new Jenny”….I feel like the new Jenny is here!! you’ve blossomed so much these last few months. I think that trip to LA restored something in you. And that haircut !!! I’m so happy for you.

  • @responsibleregalia
    @responsibleregalia 2 года назад +33

    Oh my gosh Jenny, I have chills right now. Whenever I drive through the city at night my favorite part is looking into the apartments, and thinking about how inside each one there is a nice cozy life going on. I've never heard anyone else talk about that before.

  • @jadelmiina
    @jadelmiina 2 года назад +10

    there's a word for what you're describing in the end - sonder. "the realisation that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own."

  • @Hotcleats36
    @Hotcleats36 2 года назад +20

    I have that exact feeling of mourning different lives unlived.. sometimes just when walking down the street and passing by strangers

  • @beattle
    @beattle 2 года назад +18

    Something that helps me complete tasks like dishes in the morning, or cleaning my space is pairing tasks together! If I am making tea/coffee in the morning since I am going to the kitchen I bring all of my room dishes to the sink, since I am waiting for the kettle I can pass time by washing those dishes. Even something as simple as brushing my teeth which SAD made hard, I paired it with going to the bathroom for the first and last time of the day because I am already in the bathroom so why not?

  • @baileysadler5212
    @baileysadler5212 2 года назад +30

    When you move across the country it’s almost like you grieve your old life, who you planned to be, the space and energy took up, pieces of your identity. It’s somewhat like a breakup, going forward into the unknown. Will be rewarding in the end. I moved across the country and I look back on my quick decision to move and the weeks leading up to me packing my bags and hitting the road and what a special emotional time that was. I think it’s good you are rushing the move otherwise you’d possibly change your mind. I remember thinking to myself that if I didn’t move I’d always think what if, and that if I moved and didn’t work out I could just go back and that’s not failing, that it’s brave to try something new

  • @samm4478
    @samm4478 2 года назад +16

    your sentiments about all the lives you’ll never live are so relatable. Reminds me of the fig tree poem by Sylvia Plath.

  • @TS-dt9ty
    @TS-dt9ty 2 года назад +15

    You should read the Midnight Library !! When you were talking about all of the other lives people are living in the windows of apartments it really resonates with this books overarching theme.. at the end of the day your life is the best for you. A great read.

  • @lara_xy
    @lara_xy 2 года назад +2

    I live by myself, & with our current lockdown situation + winter, I do not see a lot of people at the moment. So whenever I see lights and people in their homes in the evening, it gives me immense comfort! Even if I don't know them, but these are people making dinner or watching tv, with their Christmas tree lighting up in the corner, just living a different human life. Especially at night I always look if someone else still has their lights on and is awake at the same time as me. It really comforts me!

  • @emiliakarkoulia9592
    @emiliakarkoulia9592 2 года назад +15

    Oh my God.. The part with the apartment lights and the millions of lives hit to the point.. That's exactly how I feel about it and it was so conforting hearing someone else thinks the same.... Thanks for sharing!

  • @mollymcconnell-wood6001
    @mollymcconnell-wood6001 2 года назад +8

    I feel so similar to the way you were describing looking at the lights in people's apartments. I live on the Sunshine Coast in Australia. There's no apartments where I live, but there's this one hill that when you stop at the top of you can see the whole town. And at night you see all the twinkling lights of people's houses, and it makes me feel weirdly sad that I'm not going to know any of these people, and also strange that were living the exact same day, but we're experiencing it completely differently. I've never spoken to someone about this, so it was nice to hear you talk about it 🌻

  • @alexgallegos9361
    @alexgallegos9361 2 года назад +14

    I lived in New York for a little over 5 years and during my last month there, I felt the exact same way you are feeling right now. Your last few videos have been making me nostalgic over that period. I think you're formed by the city and the people you meet there in your 20s in ways I don't think any other city could, but maybe that was my personal experience. I really doubted if I was making the wrong decision because I recognized the amazing community I had built during my last month there. It's always hard to say goodbye to a place you dreamed of living in for so long, but now you can always visit that wonderful city whenever you want. :)

  • @damarisk.8592
    @damarisk.8592 2 года назад +12

    You noticing the little things was heart-wrenching (in a good way). 🤍 Beautiful soul, Jenny.

  • @carmensmithaguirre3049
    @carmensmithaguirre3049 2 года назад +4

    I love these deep thoughts you articulate. Feels like I'm listening to a friend... it's cool

  • @lunar8580
    @lunar8580 2 года назад +2

    So good that you have your time in New York documented. You can return to this time and remember it fondly whenever you want. ☺

  • @thelorenclaire
    @thelorenclaire 2 года назад +2

    Jenny, I just moved from a place I lived for 6 years and I felt the way you felt. Especially when you you were talking about your routines with people. It’s so comforting knowing others feel the same and it’s ok to feel sad. I was happy you shared that. I can’t wait to watch you blossom in LA.

  • @mutantbambi
    @mutantbambi 2 года назад +8

    Gah this made me cry so much!! Lady bird is such a good movie when you’re in your feels. Especially since it’s a moving about change and growth 💔❤️ right there with you Jenny. Sending u all my love

  • @Katherout
    @Katherout 2 года назад +20

    i feel you on wanting to capture these thoughts/feelings live!! urgently needed to hear those parting thoughts in this one 💓 excited for your next chapter!!! i know moving was restorative for me.

  • @annnajx
    @annnajx 2 года назад +2

    really felt what u were saying about looking into apartments - i think it all ties into a feeling of sonder and realizing all us humans are living individually complex, unique lives right next to each other. wishing the best for u with ur move jenny

  • @ClaireC0238
    @ClaireC0238 2 года назад +8

    I was just thinking this morning how everyone lives the same 24 hours in the day but each one is entirely unique, and I was wondering what someone else's 24 hours looks like compared to mine... so you posting this video today and me watching it felt kinda serendipitous and what you shared in your late night chat totally resonated with me

  • @cheetrejo8011
    @cheetrejo8011 2 года назад +1

    You are so blessed to have a lot of friends that care for you, I wish I have friends like you I’m 32 and never had any friends i feel like when I was a teenager and had acne and nobody want it to talk to me even at my work not a single soul talk to me and believe me I always take the first step but I guess I’m not likeable

  • @annishaborah299
    @annishaborah299 2 года назад +2

    Having just moved really far away from a city I lived in for four years, I really felt this

  • @rachaelmertes508
    @rachaelmertes508 2 года назад +2

    I have been following your channel for YEARS and it's crazy to see you go into this new chapter of your life!! beyond excited and happy for you

  • @Avi-hl5gr
    @Avi-hl5gr 2 года назад

    you captured so many amazing feelings at the end that I think about constantly -- the multiplicity of life, especially city life, perceiving all these thousands of lifetimes happening simultaneously alongside yours but you'll never really know, and when you prepare to leave a place for a new one, you start seeing and feeling things so much more intensely and you realize the fleeting nature of life. dang. this got me so much.

  • @MeghanStark
    @MeghanStark 2 года назад +2

    Man, those micro bangs really suit you!

  • @MicaelaHoo
    @MicaelaHoo 2 года назад +2

    Loved your thoughts in the end. I love early morning or evening walks around neighborhoods when street lamps are on and people are waking up or retiring to their homes and turn on their lights and you'll smell meals being cooked and around this time of the year, when it's cold outside, you'll sometimes see smoke coming out of chimneys. I like to inconspicuously peek inside as I walk by and try to catch glimpses of what's inside. I try to imagine who lives there. Are they single, a couple, a family? Are they newly married, newly divorced, newly pregnant? Or are they sadly widowed, eating a meal for one at a table for two?
    Life has different seasons and what serves you during one season may not serve you in another. And that's okay. Because if we're not growing, we're not evolving, and if we're not evolving, we're not living. I remember I heard in a podcast somewhere (or maybe it was the radio?) that after Julie Andrews had to get surgery on her vocal cords, she was disheartened she couldn't sing the way she used to. But now, she's written several books. And her daughter said, "Mom, you still have a voice. But you use it through writing instead of through singing." And that has stuck with me ever since.
    New York served you for 6.5 years of your life, but it no longer has the same meaning to you it did in the beginning. It's time to move on to a new chapter, new adventure, and start this new season. All my love to you, Jenny.

  • @clauauaudia
    @clauauaudia 2 года назад

    catching up on your videos here and the thing you said about seeing into other people's windows... it really encapsulated all my feelings lol it's really nostalgic for me too and specially overwhelming when you are moving, but I love to see people moving and changing and thriving because I feel less alone 💗

  • @MayaXoxitl
    @MayaXoxitl 2 года назад

    I know exactly what you mean about that feeling of mourning all the different paths that could have been and lives that people live and wondering about them a lot. I do this often. And you brining up those small moments made me cry too, I miss being next door to my best friend and seeing each other all the time but now when we do see each other It’s that much more special ❤️

  • @lpprince777
    @lpprince777 2 года назад +4

    I wish I could cry for a friend just like you did…❤️

  • @alessiamuraro
    @alessiamuraro 2 года назад

    Jenny jenny jenny it's like we're all moving in with you. I don't know how, but I feel the tangle of emotions you are probably feeling. that melancholy, that cursed lump in your throat. that feeling which is created when you travel at night, the lights on, the people in their homes. so beautiful but so sad at the same time. good luck for the beginning of this new chapter. we’re here, we’re with you!

  • @MayWonder
    @MayWonder 2 года назад +8

    What you talked about the different lives...and not knowing who they are wanting to know...the curiosity. I feel it. Great Vlog Jenny. I feel your feelings.

  • @cool_pilled
    @cool_pilled 2 года назад

    Omg I don’t know what you did with your makeup in the first clip pre-dinner but you look ABSOLUTELY GOWJUS LUV *chefs kiss*

  • @tiachantelou119
    @tiachantelou119 2 года назад

    You are such a sweet and beautiful soul. This world is teeny tiny and you will keep your true friends regardless of distance. Looking forward to your new adventures and thank you for letting us in on your journey. Xxx

  • @adoringb
    @adoringb 2 года назад +2

    You got me crying Jenny!😩 but I’m still so happy you’re coming over here 🥺🥰

  • @felixcat9320
    @felixcat9320 2 года назад

    You could absolutely do an updated hair and skin care routine video!! I’m sure many would love to see that :)

  • @Britbabe53
    @Britbabe53 2 года назад +2

    It's not about letting go, more like transitioning to another track ahead. It's a small world after all... hey, cool name for a tune!

  • @finessepr1ncess
    @finessepr1ncess 2 года назад

    with the whole looking into windows and seeing different lives thing i definitely feel you. instead of appreciating what i'm doing i always feel really sad (?) passing by and wondering if i did abcd things different i could be here or there etc. makes me feel like i'm missing out in a way even though i do enjoy the life i live for the most part.

  • @vanessaescobar5716
    @vanessaescobar5716 2 года назад

    Jenny , thank you for always keeping things real.
    You’re an amazing person 🥰. Thank you for always opening your heart to all of us :)

  • @augustek5382
    @augustek5382 2 года назад +2

    You can always come back to New York City!

  • @maddyknowsall
    @maddyknowsall 2 года назад

    Jenny, you just articulated something i feel so deeply but have never been able to put words too. I am a writer and always looking to put words to these little things that make us feel so much and when I cant it makes me wanna pull my hair out. Thank you for wanting to live all those little lives and think you for saying that. I wanna live those lives too. Mourning with you friend.

  • @terapihadas
    @terapihadas 2 года назад

    Omg Jenny I experience the same thing with windows!! I never heard of someone that felt the same!
    You will be very very happy when you are in LA and if not you can always come back!!

  • @emilyblaine884
    @emilyblaine884 2 года назад +2

    Happy moving day! Deep breaths :)

  • @juliagarzarella2113
    @juliagarzarella2113 2 года назад

    Also like, ughhh- the fringe. Didn,t think you could become more of a stone cold fox.. but you did 🤩😌🤯

  • @imogenthomas7159
    @imogenthomas7159 2 года назад

    Still obsessed with the baby bangs

  • @oliviagarcia9754
    @oliviagarcia9754 2 года назад

    Thank you for always sharing your heart with us. I always find your words resonate with me perfectly :) ❤️

  • @TwoOnlyChildrenxoxox
    @TwoOnlyChildrenxoxox 2 года назад

    It’s Wednesday! You did it! Go, baby, go!

  • @valerievienne
    @valerievienne 2 года назад +2

  • @MsNNNNMMMM
    @MsNNNNMMMM 2 года назад +2

    Sending you lots of love, Jenny ❤

  • @evaburger2349
    @evaburger2349 2 года назад +2

    First! Ily bby! Foréver loving your adventure, NIY, LA, wherever :)

  • @jessrb7492
    @jessrb7492 2 года назад

    god wow - i just recently did an overeseas move alone after being in a city for 6.5 years also, and just the way your describing everything feels so relevant and spot on, i feel like we are going through it together HAHA its nice, ur brave and good luck x

  • @CocoaHerBeansness
    @CocoaHerBeansness 2 года назад

    As someone with ADD , that ‘I don’t understand time, am I stupid?’ Feeling is super familiar!
    On the plus side I’m mindful and ✨in the moment✨ by default because I don’t believe there’s such a thing as past or future 😂

  • @chechuivanov1706
    @chechuivanov1706 2 года назад

    I love the kínd of 80’s edition 😍

  • @kylieknutsen
    @kylieknutsen 2 года назад

    where is the grey shirt from? obsessed and i want it in every color

  • @coppercountrymary
    @coppercountrymary 2 года назад

    Just look at this girl go!

  • @lara_xy
    @lara_xy 2 года назад

    I'm not an influencer, so obviously I don't just film, but this still makes me realize that I've lived in this amazing city for over 4 years, had so many experiences, and I barely have any footage/pictures of it. I have so many landscape pictures, but almost none with my friends and this makes me feel really stressed

    • @Princesaoxo
      @Princesaoxo 2 года назад

      It’s never too late to start! ❤️ You don’t necessarily have to be an influencer to capture moments of your life to share with others / keep to yourself to look back on.

  • @candiceg430
    @candiceg430 2 года назад

    This vlog hit fucking differently. You talked about paths… I’m going to sound crazy: in my head, I have two parallel lives. One is what my life would’ve been like if I stayed with an ex-bf (the one I pushed away), and the other is what my life would’ve been like had I stayed in NY (I’m from SoCal, went to college in NY for 6 yrs). I like to think that not everybody can have such a clear picture of the possibilities in life. Those parallel lives used to make me feel sad, but, now, I’m merging one of them. I’m finally moving back to NY. I’m 36. It took me 12 years ( moved back to SoCal in 2009) to realize: the ny parallel life felt better than my real one.

  • @juliagarzarella2113
    @juliagarzarella2113 2 года назад

    All the different lives you didn’t,t get to live.. it’s like the Midnight Library

  • @Billiewy
    @Billiewy 2 года назад

    Love you Jenny !!

  • @marcellaesposito5847
    @marcellaesposito5847 2 года назад +2

    i cried a bit

  • @kbunk87
    @kbunk87 2 года назад +2

    rt if u cried

  • @freeworldradio6
    @freeworldradio6 2 года назад +2

    i turn off my ad blocker for you

  • @juligreentea
    @juligreentea 2 года назад

    does anyone know where those hair clips are from? feel like they'd be perf for my bangs that are growing out

  • @sarahdailey4052
    @sarahdailey4052 2 года назад +2

    what lip gloss are you using?

  • @azaharalozanodorado9511
    @azaharalozanodorado9511 2 года назад

    que bonito Jenny. Un besito y mucho animo

  • @victorlui5955
    @victorlui5955 2 года назад

    Hi Jenny. 🖤

  • @NTHodges
    @NTHodges 2 года назад

    LOVE 💘

  • @lunanuna1041
    @lunanuna1041 2 года назад

    Your voice is different. Are you fighting a cold?

  • @gummiworm33
    @gummiworm33 2 года назад

    I LOVE YOU

  • @vournalist
    @vournalist 2 года назад +2

    When you live right by Winson but can’t eat there cause you’re vegan 🌝

  • @sidneybell9768
    @sidneybell9768 2 года назад

    where are you moving to??

  • @erstellen7888
    @erstellen7888 2 года назад

    whats the first song?

  • @abdullahtk33
    @abdullahtk33 2 года назад

    i miss the wide angle shots, the square bothers me for some reason

  • @depfbeats
    @depfbeats 2 года назад

    🙂

  • @pizzaking8888
    @pizzaking8888 2 года назад

    ❤️❤️

  • @humming8
    @humming8 2 года назад

    💜💜

  • @elenigrace
    @elenigrace 2 года назад

    beautiful

  • @elmaali5577
    @elmaali5577 2 года назад

    💞

  • @anushreeganapathiraj3551
    @anushreeganapathiraj3551 2 года назад

    🥺🥺🥺

  • @lulusnyder4312
    @lulusnyder4312 2 года назад

    😍