How can you be jealous from a baby boy that still needs his parent's financial support due to his multiple business failures and the constant need to be bailed out?
Isn't it funny how "Family comes first" only applies when it benefits the villains/losers/jerks and not the victims!! Side note, Family or not, I would not beg or manipulative someone to be with me (or attend my event) if they didn't on their own realize how important it was to begin with.
OP still felt that she needed her parents’ approval after finding out the truth. I would’ve just revealed that i know the truth about the eurotrip and not to expect the family to attend the wedding. No expectations = no disappointments.
Like this op had no self respect. If you have to try so hard to get them (or anyone) to show up for you. Let them go tell them To F off holy shit. Even after all of this what is the point? you know full well they do not want to be there.
"i wanted to help both my children and didn't want to choose between the two of them" so obviously the most fair thing is to book a flight right on OP's wedding day, totally not choosing between them.
Sucks how OP was treated, but I’m glad she took a stand. Fred is never going to amount to anything as long as mommy and daddy keep bailing him out. Honestly, OP should have uninvited all of them and gone NC for good if they were going to pull this.
No way the vacation scheduling wasn't intentional. OP should've uninvited them on the spot. And what is the mom talking about? OP IS prioritizing family - her own family, that she's building with her fiancé.
@@LSY369 A very reasonable argument in court could be made that a parent with such reckless spending habits who constantly puts himself in the hole isn't a responsible enough parent for split custody.
OP’s parents essentially got blackmailed to attend the wedding. They didn’t do this after some epiphany. They did it to protect their golden child once again.
@@yesidek it’s all for show, most likely, or it’s some form of token act that is calculated to be the most appeasing as possible without much effort. Either way, these acts are easily reversible. If the story is true, the parents are probably saying “Please ride the storm out for now. Once we got rid of OP’s problem things will be like before once again.”
bruh.... i would had just not care.. and wait for them to come back from eurotrip and just ignore them for the rest of my life. why force someone to be at such a special moment. they probably did not even enjoy being there forcefully.. all stress out over the other child.
I feel bad for Alice. She really married a spoiled man child! Ops parents were horrible for spoiling Fred in a way he couldn’t care for himself without their help. Smh
How old is Fred so parents need to go with him??? Why couldn't they understand organizing a wedding takes tons of time and then they just want OP to reschedule it in the first place??? OP's parents are literally biased
I love how people always use the whole “family comes first” against the person they SHOULD be prioritizing. Isn’t the OP family? Shouldn’t she be given that same courtesy?
I wouldn't be that person who would force anyone to come to my wedding. If you miss it,then you miss it. Our relationship would obviously change after you miss it,but so be it.
Ask your parents for all the cancelation fees and just lie overstating them as well. They will obviously refuse and then you will be less of an AH (in their eyes of course NTA is obvious)
Wow, the fact that your parents prioritized your brother’s failed ventures over your wedding is insane. Good on you for standing your ground and not letting them walk all over you, especially with the huge ultimatum at the end!
This is an odd story. I partly feel for the brother, if there is a chance or opportunity to save his business , couldn't he be man enough to speak with his sister? Why would the parents lie to OP about the real reason for going Europe, the mind boggles that they would rather lie than tell the truth. If my sibling approached me and was completely honest about the real reason for the Europe trip, I would be upset but a little understanding. Such an odd story
I don't know how it could be more obvious that the brother scheduled the vacation to intentionally take the parents away from the wedding. OP should tell the parents "They scheduled the vacation after we announced the date for our wedding. The fact that you're trying to get me to reschedule knowing this shows me exactly who and what you are. So come, or don't. It no longer makes any difference to me."
Op shouldn't have said anything just ask an uncle or grandfather or even the future FIL if they can walk her down the aisle. "my parents scheduled a vacation even after knowing about the wedding and I can't let a man like that give me away at my wedding."
I like how they make it the wedding just like some normal casual event that can be easily changed like its like a really big and important day and they just made it seem like its not important and i like hiw the brother said he was to more successful one even tho hes has no money
You gave your family 4 months' notice of when your wedding date is. Your family has 364 days a year to choose, 52 weeks in a year to choose. And they chose your wedding day after knowing about it for 4 months. OP your NTA.
Family should come first. Since OP scheduled her wedding first, then Fred is an AH for planning a trip during it .Don't change the date. If parents don't come, let them try to explain to everyone that Fred's vacation was more important than daughters wedding.
"Family comes first!" I think you misspelled Fred, mom and dad. Go on, I know you love him more than me, have a nice vacation. We'll let EVERYBODY know Fred comes first...
The parents didn't come to the wedding out of some new found respect for the daughter. They came because she blackmailed themwith the threat of going public with the family drama. They came to the wedding to protect their image and the image of the son.
Op… as sad as this is… your parents chose… go no contact and put the ball in their court. Or count your losses and put yourself first, let them play happy family with their golden child. Op do you… double down… The parents are either enabling him, or they’re keeping the peace…
As soon as a vacation was mentioned and they told me i was being unreasonable, i would have called back just to say, "i called to tell you to stop thinking it over because the obvious solution here is that you don't attend. Have a wonderful vacation."
what blows my mind is people thinking these stories are real. "AITAH for not changing my wedding date" blah blah blah no sane person would live this type of life.
Fred: “you’re jealous I’m more successful” Me: dawg you serious? You have had countless failed business ventures, money problems and always make your parents bail you out while your sister doesn’t have any of those problems you sure your brain works buddy
I'm curious as to what the brother's business was and why he couldn't just go to Europe by himself it would have been a cheaper trip with just 1 person
So much headache for what should have cut ties the moment they said move your wedding? And why tf would you need your parents with you in securing an investor in europe? The price for the tickets alone will bankrupt you not to mention if the meeting goes bonkers.
Listening to these stories, I realise how intolerable I am to BS! You tell me you’re going on a holiday instead of coming to my wedding? Okay, don’t come! Then don’t talk to be again. Simple! I’m not chasing you and I’m not going to try and convince you to come.
When they asked to change the date my first response will be Um do you have money to change the date and payout the whole entire catering and photographer? Oh you don't? Then i guess my original date is set. And for dear old dad... Dad I understand you want to please your son, but i hope you don't get to angry when there somebody else giving away your only daughter.... Maybe Fred let you give away his daughter, and thata maybe
Yeah her brother sucks. Maybe even a con man. But if your wedding was such a small intimate gathering, would it really have been that tough to reschedule?
Man Im noticing that these golden child stories are all too similar How op gets treated is lowkey hatred and Op gets treated bad/ignored Even if they are obviously the victim, somehow they always get the blame Parents or golden child makes outrageous demand without thinking about op Op refuses the demand Parents/golden child calls op unreasonable/petty/jealous/vindictive The family comes first rant Op stands firm Family twists the story and relatives get involved Op asks aita on the most obvious nta question Op goes nc and gets harrassed (some stories)
AI story.. fake af. 1. way too many details, names, ages, unnecessary info. 2. mom is always sahm. 3. always golden child. 4. not in this, but usually - successful business or large inheritance where character can live comfortably. 5. always 1 vs world theme 6. always good aunt 7. "new chapter of our lives" 8. not really in this one, but, updates always are next day. week later. and then 1-2 years later. 9. Asks AITA on obviously NTA story. 10. Always relatives take bad persons side and bombards op phone/FB. 11. This blew up overnight.
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How can you be jealous from a baby boy that still needs his parent's financial support due to his multiple business failures and the constant need to be bailed out?
right? haha I was thinking "jealous of what, my boy?, Of been a loser??"
@@edimorguello2969 He could've said about parents attention but SUCCESS... lol no
That's what I was thinking.
She like that because she want mum and dad love
Exactly! It's ridiculous to claim jealousy when he's constantly relying on his parents to clean up his financial messes.
In all of these stories, someone, somewhere, is always telling someone they are being unreasonable.
Op was being unreasonable
If they don't want to come don't force them just ditch them
@@dumbidea1007yeah I would ditch them too I don't need the drama
It's called projecting. The ones calling the others "unreasonable" are always the ones making the outrageous demands.
There’s a series of phrases AI uses in all of these stories
“Selfish”
“Heartless”
“Unreasonable”
“Vindictive”
“Petty”
All emotional blackmail buzz words at this point…
Isn't it funny how "Family comes first" only applies when it benefits the villains/losers/jerks and not the victims!! Side note, Family or not, I would not beg or manipulative someone to be with me (or attend my event) if they didn't on their own realize how important it was to begin with.
OP still felt that she needed her parents’ approval after finding out the truth. I would’ve just revealed that i know the truth about the eurotrip and not to expect the family to attend the wedding. No expectations = no disappointments.
True. Like I wouldn't even care at that point. Have fun in europe. Actually, they would have been uninvited. Just because.
Totally agree! Lower expectations definitely lead to fewer disappointments. OP deserved better support from the start.
Like this op had no self respect. If you have to try so hard to get them (or anyone) to show up for you. Let them go tell them To F off holy shit. Even after all of this what is the point? you know full well they do not want to be there.
@@Knives7777I still respect her for the effort but ya ur right
"i wanted to help both my children and didn't want to choose between the two of them" so obviously the most fair thing is to book a flight right on OP's wedding day, totally not choosing between them.
"you're just jealous because I'm successful" doesn't work if your business can't survive without mommy and daddy's cash
Thank you.. I nearly choked when I heard that.
Haha, nailed it! Success isn't about living off handouts from mommy and daddy.
Sucks how OP was treated, but I’m glad she took a stand. Fred is never going to amount to anything as long as mommy and daddy keep bailing him out. Honestly, OP should have uninvited all of them and gone NC for good if they were going to pull this.
No way the vacation scheduling wasn't intentional. OP should've uninvited them on the spot.
And what is the mom talking about? OP IS prioritizing family - her own family, that she's building with her fiancé.
Fred's wife needs to divorce him and take full custody of the children....
Divorce him yes but why take his kids away he is the father is he not so why are you people so stupid.....
@@LSY369 A very reasonable argument in court could be made that a parent with such reckless spending habits who constantly puts himself in the hole isn't a responsible enough parent for split custody.
@@att6484 I am not saying give him full rights to children but not to take his children them away.....
@@LSY369 I think it would be harsh personally. But there would be grounds for at the very least primary custody.
@@att6484 yes he atleast have presence in their life's
If you have to blacknail your parents to come to your wedding, is it really worth having them there. I mean, just let it go. Go NC and call it a day.
I love how their honeymoon is a trip to Europe 😂 cherry on top and wish we could see Fred’s reaction to finding that out
A wedding is a lot harder to shift around than a vacation
'Family comes first' so op isn't family? The merging of 2 families isnt family?
Parents didn’t choose OP’s wedding over her brother. Parents chose OP’s wedding over OP publicly exposing Fred’s business failure.
Exactly. The parents have never had OP's back. Never cared about what was important to her.
"how much this date mean to me" Yeeeaaaah, that's nothing, just her Goddamn wedding ! Nothing huge, you know ! /S
OP’s parents essentially got blackmailed to attend the wedding. They didn’t do this after some epiphany. They did it to protect their golden child once again.
if this was true they wouldn't have stopped financially supporting him though
@@yesidek it’s all for show, most likely, or it’s some form of token act that is calculated to be the most appeasing as possible without much effort. Either way, these acts are easily reversible. If the story is true, the parents are probably saying “Please ride the storm out for now. Once we got rid of OP’s problem things will be like before once again.”
bruh.... i would had just not care.. and wait for them to come back from eurotrip and just ignore them for the rest of my life. why force someone to be at such a special moment. they probably did not even enjoy being there forcefully.. all stress out over the other child.
I feel bad for Alice. She really married a spoiled man child! Ops parents were horrible for spoiling Fred in a way he couldn’t care for himself without their help. Smh
4:07 “family should come first…” Meanwhile they are ignoring OP who is also family
I love how the mom says family comes first when she really means your brother comes first. Because I would consider the daughter family, too.
How old is Fred so parents need to go with him??? Why couldn't they understand organizing a wedding takes tons of time and then they just want OP to reschedule it in the first place??? OP's parents are literally biased
I love how people always use the whole “family comes first” against the person they SHOULD be prioritizing. Isn’t the OP family? Shouldn’t she be given that same courtesy?
I wouldn't be that person who would force anyone to come to my wedding.
If you miss it,then you miss it.
Our relationship would obviously change after you miss it,but so be it.
Unfair treatment of children in the home has always existed.
Doesn't mean it should be overlooked. Keep an eye out, and you'll see which parents are gonna suffer alone in their later years.
Why is she begging them to come to her wedding?
Because deep down, she’s still a weak doormat.
Ask your parents for all the cancelation fees and just lie overstating them as well. They will obviously refuse and then you will be less of an AH (in their eyes of course NTA is obvious)
Mad respect for his sister-in-law! Glad she stands up for him and against her husband.
Wow, the fact that your parents prioritized your brother’s failed ventures over your wedding is insane. Good on you for standing your ground and not letting them walk all over you, especially with the huge ultimatum at the end!
This is an odd story. I partly feel for the brother, if there is a chance or opportunity to save his business , couldn't he be man enough to speak with his sister? Why would the parents lie to OP about the real reason for going Europe, the mind boggles that they would rather lie than tell the truth. If my sibling approached me and was completely honest about the real reason for the Europe trip, I would be upset but a little understanding. Such an odd story
"The successful one?" LOL The one who always needs mommy and daddy to bailhim out?😂😂😂 OooOhKaAy!
I don't think she has to explain why her wedding is so important to her like are her parents that dumb?
I don't know how it could be more obvious that the brother scheduled the vacation to intentionally take the parents away from the wedding. OP should tell the parents "They scheduled the vacation after we announced the date for our wedding. The fact that you're trying to get me to reschedule knowing this shows me exactly who and what you are. So come, or don't. It no longer makes any difference to me."
Op shouldn't have said anything just ask an uncle or grandfather or even the future FIL if they can walk her down the aisle. "my parents scheduled a vacation even after knowing about the wedding and I can't let a man like that give me away at my wedding."
First time I heard a bridezilla that has a positive and a good outcome
I mean…idk how you hear “hey my brother booked a trip on the day of my wedding and is demanding i change the day of my wedding” and somehow blame Op…
Why do the parents have to go with the brother to the business trip???
"they released how much this wedding meant to me" it's...her own wedding? what💀
All about wedding and nothing about marriage. Poor Aaron.
Did Fred really needed his hand held all the way to Europe? He couldn’t have just went alone? 😪
The first thing I thought was... How much for the trip!? Why couldn't they use that money for his business!?
I bet the parents were going to put up collateral and that's why they needed to be there
Fred’s obviously a sociopath.
Basically they still chose Fred. They don't want Fred to be in trouble by going public.
Maaaan with that first one, I'd have said "How am I jealous of your failing business???"
I like how they make it the wedding just like some normal casual event that can be easily changed like its like a really big and important day and they just made it seem like its not important and i like hiw the brother said he was to more successful one even tho hes has no money
Them saying there going to Europe for their honeymoon made me laugh because of Fred needing to go.😂
You gave your family 4 months' notice of when your wedding date is. Your family has 364 days a year to choose, 52 weeks in a year to choose. And they chose your wedding day after knowing about it for 4 months. OP your NTA.
Ahh yes bro was "successful" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀🤣🤣🤣
holy shit op destroyed the brothers life.
Deposits are serious. Unreasonable is asking someone to pay extra for for your vacation plans that were last minute.
Talk to the vendors about their most expensive service, make a budget and forward it to the parents,IF you want for me to move my wedding, PAY TF UP
You can always make a vacation. A wedding is (ideally) only once.
11:43 big words to say you’re the successful one in when all of your business schemes have failed and your life is falling apart around you but okay
Family should come first. Since OP scheduled her wedding first, then Fred is an AH for planning a trip during it .Don't change the date. If parents don't come, let them try to explain to everyone that Fred's vacation was more important than daughters wedding.
this feels like a "do it for Dan" story...dont know if this is real or not
Family comes first. Except for you. You are expected to accommodate everyone else. That isn't hypocritical at all, so just do it.
"Family comes first!" I think you misspelled Fred, mom and dad. Go on, I know you love him more than me, have a nice vacation. We'll let EVERYBODY know Fred comes first...
Another golden child story, telltales mmmh?
AI Story generator has no more ideas
@@eduardalex6531or these ones trend more than the other stories and they go to the golden child subreddits
@@eduardalex6531 I live for them Ngl doe because it’s very realistic imop
@@SRKStar me too my brother, me too
I would have just uninvited and cut ties. Also sue them? With what money?
people telling op she is not flexable with the date of a long planed wedding is ridocoules
"family should come first" so what Op isn't considered "family" and her needs or wants aren't acceptable?
The parents didn't come to the wedding out of some new found respect for the daughter.
They came because she blackmailed themwith the threat of going public with the family drama.
They came to the wedding to protect their image and the image of the son.
they knew what they were doing and they thought op would cater to them.
How is op unreasonable? They're doing this to themselves
Every time I hear the name Fred I swear I hear “HEY ITS FRED!”
The investors were a better excuse than just a vacation.
Op… as sad as this is… your parents chose… go no contact and put the ball in their court. Or count your losses and put yourself first, let them play happy family with their golden child.
Op do you… double down…
The parents are either enabling him, or they’re keeping the peace…
As soon as a vacation was mentioned and they told me i was being unreasonable, i would have called back just to say, "i called to tell you to stop thinking it over because the obvious solution here is that you don't attend. Have a wonderful vacation."
MYYY LEEEG -Fred
Why couldn't he go without his parents?like what did they need to be there for? Heck. His wife and kids didn't need to be there either.
Sounds like the parents favoritism caused Fred to be unable to grow up.
what blows my mind is people thinking these stories are real. "AITAH for not changing my wedding date" blah blah blah no sane person would live this type of life.
This is unbelievable
How can you be jealous of a broke person?? Lmaooo
She could have just done the wedding without them instead she blackmailed them clearly the OP is in the wrong
Fred: “you’re jealous I’m more successful”
Me: dawg you serious? You have had countless failed business ventures, money problems and always make your parents bail you out while your sister doesn’t have any of those problems you sure your brain works buddy
This lady needs to realize her family is just not into her.
That brother’s a narcissist
Lol i saw this post on reddit when i woke up
No you should not change the date, your parents are being manipulative
How do you start and fail a business that many times, bankrupt your family and still thinking that you’re going to be the successful one.
Fred needs to grow up and stop being jealous of OP.
I'm curious as to what the brother's business was and why he couldn't just go to Europe by himself it would have been a cheaper trip with just 1 person
Alice should have divorced before the business went under
How exactly was the OP being unreasonable when the parents decided to go on a trip with their son when they knew when the wedding was?
You picked and planned a wedding 4 MONTHS OUT???? How exactly? You must live in a small rural community that's the only explanation.
Another golden child story? At this point I just skipped them.
So much headache for what should have cut ties the moment they said move your wedding? And why tf would you need your parents with you in securing an investor in europe? The price for the tickets alone will bankrupt you not to mention if the meeting goes bonkers.
A soft sport for… *FRED*
Listening to these stories, I realise how intolerable I am to BS! You tell me you’re going on a holiday instead of coming to my wedding? Okay, don’t come! Then don’t talk to be again. Simple! I’m not chasing you and I’m not going to try and convince you to come.
Do you know?
How freaking selfish this sounds??
I think this is the first Reddit story where I feel op went too far. Wow
These stories are so badly written. They had a family meeting then Fred didn't seem to know about it?
When they asked to change the date my first response will be
Um do you have money to change the date and payout the whole entire catering and photographer?
Oh you don't?
Then i guess my original date is set.
And for dear old dad...
Dad I understand you want to please your son, but i hope you don't get to angry when there somebody else giving away your only daughter.... Maybe Fred let you give away his daughter, and thata maybe
Do it for Dan
Yeah her brother sucks. Maybe even a con man. But if your wedding was such a small intimate gathering, would it really have been that tough to reschedule?
This dude is bad at Parkour.
Man Im noticing that these golden child stories are all too similar
How op gets treated is lowkey hatred and Op gets treated bad/ignored
Even if they are obviously the victim, somehow they always get the blame
Parents or golden child makes outrageous demand without thinking about op
Op refuses the demand
Parents/golden child calls op unreasonable/petty/jealous/vindictive
The family comes first rant
Op stands firm
Family twists the story and relatives get involved
Op asks aita on the most obvious nta question
Op goes nc and gets harrassed (some stories)
AI story.. fake af.
1. way too many details, names, ages, unnecessary info.
2. mom is always sahm.
3. always golden child.
4. not in this, but usually - successful business or large inheritance where character can live comfortably.
5. always 1 vs world theme
6. always good aunt
7. "new chapter of our lives"
8. not really in this one, but, updates always are next day. week later. and then 1-2 years later.
9. Asks AITA on obviously NTA story.
10. Always relatives take bad persons side and bombards op phone/FB.
11. This blew up overnight.
You don't know, there are millions of people out there and even if its fake nobody cares because this would be for entertainment
It feels like do it for Dan
Can't just thr brother go alone in the eurotrip?
Why are so many of these "AITA". Can't tell if this is r/amithenangel bait or if the AI got fed a bunch of those stories.