How to RESPOND Rather Than REACT to People and Situations
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- Опубликовано: 2 авг 2024
- In this video we look at responding, rather than reacting, to challenging people and situations, and how to deal with intense emotions like fear and anger in a way that allows for greater calm and clarity.
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When you're around people that like to test your peace, it's very difficult. What I truly need right now is to step back from all of the people I know, for a long time.
I believe this is a message from the universe, Spencer. You are surrounded by so many tests that are hoping to break your peace. If you practice in these environments and never allow your peace to be shaken, you will go so far in life. This period of your life where it isn't easy, is the universe training you for what lies ahead.
Although, If you are in a toxic situation, I do hope you find safe ground to step away. Sending light, love and positivity.
@@shyamlalani6380 such kind and encouraging words. I recieve the positive energy you're sending to me. It can be very difficult to handle sometimes, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. I do pray I stay strong enough to overcome this challenge.
I am sending you positive high vibranting energy also, brother...
I agree, I always try to be present and when someone I view as a friend knows a subject is a sore one, I say it's in the past and that person doesn't have any effect on me anymore. This person will not accept my answer and continually bring it up to get an emotional reaction from me. No matter how many times I have shrugged it of. I dont want to be confrontational. So it's difficult, I try not to take it personally, but after a while it's disheartening. So I'm not sure if I have something to learn from being around this person
I know no one asked, but to put my two cents in; I think that you're right in that you might not learn anything from being around this person. The lesson might be setting clear boundaries and knowing when to pull away from someone who isn't adding to your life. Hope all's well.
I stepped back from the world about a year ago. I intended to step back in but its much more peaceful here.
I sat quietly on a polished rock by the riverbank, listening to the murmurs of the gently flowing stream. It was a lovely morning & my gaze was transfixed on one spot in the crystal clear river. Suddenly I heard a faint voice from within whispered: "It's never the same water every time, is it?". It was a powerful A-ha moment for me. I realized that the name, the word, River has become an image that blocks us to see the reality: the water that flows is never the same. From that day on, I let my mind be like that of the flowing water... always new. But I do feel for those whose minds are like stagnant waters; most people just don't get it - what flows is Life. What stagnates is already dead. Hugs & love, Nada. Keep on flowing, brother.
Lea Rose that is so beautiful and true for me too. thank you
@@kiranshetty837 cosmic✨hugs 🧘
Thank you @Leia Rose
I will always remember this. Thank you for this revelation. " Its never the same water everytime, is it?" what flows is life. what is stagnate is dead
"Be water, my friend" - Bruce Lee.
I am working on this, it has been challenging to be in this world and be autistic, I still would never give it up
Non dual spirituality, which is implied in AI:s videos, too, is the way to true liberation for you, ridding the "false self" that suffers and struggles. You are well on the way, keep being true. :)
Please remember autistic People are needed and very Special People.....as much as any ONE else.....Your needed and loved friend.....its true.....
@@darinjames3313 Yes, many of them are brilliant, and even if they are not, unique are worthy. The aut:s I've met are amazing
Working on ourselves is truly the best way to understand others and to be understood. Working through the anger and frustration of not being heard or understood is difficult, because it's painful to not be understood. As another person on the spectrum, I know this feeling of being chronically misunderstood can build over time. It's important to give ourselves space to work through these feelings. Learning to control my breathing has been one of the most helpful tools I've come across, as simple and cliche as it sounds. If I don't have a calm body, there is no clarity of mind. Without clarity of mind, I'm almost guaranteed to communicate my thoughts, feelings, and desires ineffectively.
@@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026 YES!
The biggest goal is to decipher who and what is even worthy of a response, no less a reaction. Anything that seeks a response or a reaction from you is an attempt at taking your power and attempting to control the narrative. Stay in your own movie and keep everything on your terms.
Well said.. Thank you for that additional pearl of wisdom! Bless and be blessed!
Wow that's an awesome point. I will keep that in mind
Everyone and everything is worthy and deserving of a response. And you will give a response no matter what. Doing nothing is still doing something. Not responding is your response to the situation.
these words really clicked for me. Commenting in hopes that a notification will bring me back to read this again soon
@Ford Ford ah yes, thank you! I need to keep this mindset alive. I shall watch the video again too. Cheers!
Taking sides is the problem. My “family” took sides and I stepped away. I no longer have a family. I have myself. People surrounding me and taking sides, most often against me, is not a family. I did not respond I walked away. I’m staying away because that is the action that keeps me true to myself.
similar experience , you rock!
You are not alone. You are the strong one. The one who has the gift of awareness. I can tell. The same thing happened to me. I am the one who walked away from my family. All took sides against each other and I was tired of the bickering and hate. I actually believed the narrative they'd set for me...for a while anyway. Then I became AWAKE. I really learned to love myself truly. Now I'm trying to show my family the love that I really have for them in my heart and I cant even believe it!!!!! Its working! I thought they hated me for the choices I've made along the way. But they still truly love you even though they may not show it. I hope for you that you all find pathways back to each others hearts.
Same here. Waiting to step away. You are the good person. Supporting unethical people is not good. You did the right thing. Your family or you aren't enemies against each other. But, the situations created some hostility. Only foolish person will support wrong people stay with people who hate that person. I am such a fool since I don't have a place to go. But, I have a suggestion. Don't blame your family or anyone else about anything. Any talking about others creates sadness in you. Be away from emotions that force you to blame others. Your energy depletes. Instead recognize the bad with kindness but be away from them by wishing them well. Once you stop mentioning people in your conversations you will see how liberated you feel. You will become free and can go ahead with your life goals. Your goals are important and worthy of conversations. Not negative people. Always remember that. Negative people are an illusion. Your goals aren't an illusion.
@@5668i6 it takes a great heart to forgive others. You are great. I don't feel I can go back to a place where I am not welcome or listed. I prefer to be with positive people.
I thought I was being mean and selfish choosing me now instead of the family thanks I am not alone.
Yes, I think this is also known as emotional intelligence, being able to step back, recognize fear in oneself, and not react foolishly.
Anyone who would lose you as a friend is the one at loss. It’s crazy how positivity and spiritually and love gets certain people against you
The wrong people, yes.
And what avoids us is maybe better than anything else.
Toxic people can smell enlighten ones, and first try to ruin them, but if they are strong in spirit and mind... Toxic people will reveal themselves to the enlighten ones and that's the blessing.
Because we change for the better and many others aren't on that same timing, so their inner hater comes out as they want to remember your lower experiences and try to see you as that and not the growth.
Some people are empathetic and have enough self esteem to recognize and appreciate the positive growth
I have come across many master manipulators in my time and i find this is their favorite weapon because if some one can not control their emotions they are easy to manipulate.
🌱🌱 I need to listen to this over and over and let the words marinate.
I love it when people use marinate in that context! I use it all the time. "I'm gonna let that marinate a minute"
That is awesome and it brings me so much joy to use it as well as I finish marinating from meditation.
@lovleelucee I agree 100% 🙏
Same..love to listen to this to ease my mind. I make mp3's from messages like this..☮
Me too
His voice is soothing and he makes sense. Reason, logic, and certainly compassion is getting hard to find today. I will give this yet another listen.
I'm not really sure why RUclips recommended me this, but I'm glad they did. I really like your calm attitude, you sort of remind me of my old art teacher, he was always my favorite.
When I feel myself becoming enraged, I walk away until I can speak calmly and freely. I'm a working progress.
As am I. As a highly anxious person I often react, yet I wish to learn to how to respond instead. As long as I have the will I hope to achieve this
This is something that I have realized is the next step in my growth. I need to speak out - but at the same time it is important to speak out with kindness.
My husband raped two of my children just like the church people did and are stil doing. That hurt will never go away I get sick inside every time I have to look at him. But I have to stay married to him and forgive him as my children hate me for doing that. But God said I wpuld be hated by my own children will turn against me. This is so hard. I cry for God to just take me off this year I can not take this hate anymore.
@@toniorta5371 I am soooo sorry for what happened to your children and to you. I don't think that God would want you to stay in this situation. I hope that you and your children can find a way to find peace.
@@toniorta5371 my mother would have murdered that man with her own two hands if that ever happened to us. Just saying...
@@toniorta5371 I am so sorry that you are going through this. I don’t personally know you or how long you were married for, but I hope god heals you and sends you positivity for the future to try and get away. As a rape victim myself all I can say is: if I had to live with that guilt AND still be surrounded by my attacker daily ....I would cut my family out my life bc that just shows that they truly dont care about my safety and my trauma. You have to understand that your children have experienced a very traumatic thing from someone who they were supposed to trust and having a mother who supports that is of course going to stir up anger for them. You have to do whats best for your family and pretending that this marriage will continue is not the way to go. God forgives and does not judge! You do not have to stay married to this evil man in order to stay a child of god! He will accept you and love you for all your courage and strength ! Please for the sake of your children I am asking you to rethink your forgiveness of this man because not everyone deserves to be forgiven. Especially those who harm innocent children who they are supposed to be protecting. I am praying for you and your family ❤️
@@toniorta5371 Toni, you cannot use our Lord as justification for your inaction and cowardice. you're still here because there is a debt that is owed. you owe your children a *mother.* your children will have to cope for the rest of their lives, they might never forgive you, and they might even hate themselves for that until they die. you are disappointing them every day that you aren't standing up for them. there is something you haven't done yet, deep down you know it, and God knows it. so get off your knees, the story does not end here.
We need more people like this guy in the world, nice video, realy helped
We need you. We can all do our part by embodying the principles and virtues we wish to see in the world. Bless and Be Blessed!
@@AwakenInsight you to, thanks for the reply
We don't need more people like this. We need to BE more like these people
@@ThatMoonShroom we need to be like ourselves and not like somebody else!
@@verfassungspatriot I never said to be anyone else. I said if we want change we must do so in ourselves instead of expecting the rest of the world to fix things while you hope instead of take action
Observe without indulging. Find a solution. Ease people’s minds by being understanding and loving 📝
Thank you 🙏 I've been working so hard on this. It's not easy to NOT get triggered, but it's harder to pull myself together after being triggered.😔 I need to get a grip on my emotions no matter how ugly or cruel the words are that are being slung at me🙏
May all beings be blessed~
May all beings be healed~
I've found this hard too, when you're desperate to defend yourself in an 'argument' when another has attacked your character/intentions and such like. Very hard to remain cool and calm and defend your corner at the same time.
Keep going...it will pass.
I'm sorry you were verbally attacked by someone with whom you called friend. My guess is you taught them something far deeper than you may ever know. Also love hearing the Blue Jays in the background. 💗
"what is in my power to resolve" also, quite frankly is it worth the time.
Turn off the Tell-Lie Vision, disengage.
Say daily to yourself and the world,
"I'm sorry
Please forgive me
I thank you
I love you."
Do it 21 days and see your life change.
I haven't watched network or cable television in years. I recently clicked on a livestream of a news channel and it was so...depressing. Didn't even see the content I was looking for, just commercials advertising shows that pass for entertainment that were just gross. I couldn't believe I just joylessly watched stuff like that for years. I genuinely almost forgot how bad that content was. That being said, I've still been far too plugged into "the news" via various internet-based sources. At least I have far more choice in those and don't have to subject myself to constant background advertising. RUclips has essentially replaced television for me.
@@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026 I stay here and use an AD Block.
@timberwolf powler why? do you think that apologizing to your self and the world and asking for forgiveness for 21 days specifically is a way to achieve some kind of shift in your consciousness? what are you apologizing and asking forgiveness for? what is the significance of 21 days? what changes in your self have you encountered after this practice?
@@prismwashere Because it works.
The goddess of deceit in Greek is Medea
Great advice for life! It's also the best advice for dealing with toxic people who love to feed off other's extreme emotions, good or bad. Usually narcissists. Best to observe their behaviour, resist giving strong emotional reactions and give a considered response instead, just as you say. Assists with keeping these vampires at bay. Although the compassion and empathy needs to be reigned in for these types as they prey on empathetic people.
I couldn’t agree more. Showing compassion for and engaging a narcissist actually feeds their need for supply.
I closed my eyes and pretend you're beside me giving advice. This is the channel I need.
I have not yet reached that deep level of compassion where I can realize a mean abusive person is suffering. I feel that mean people target kind people because they take kindness as weakness. That is wrong. Getting angry is fine. Being cruel deliberately is not. I will however take your suggestion and try but I feel that will make me more of a target for malicious people to be abusive.
One of my coworkers likes to be cruel with animals and sees the ugliness in everything. One day I heard him say I'm cruel because people has been cruel with me. I think he does it because he feels he's not alone in his pain. Of course I don't like it and don't justify it, but inside he is also suffering.
Kindness can also be seen as a threat by traumatised people as it is a common manipulation tactic used in abuse and to control people. Also there are many people who are are afraid of vulnerability, kindness means to be vulnerable, it opens you to the possibility of being hurt. Hope that made sense.
Hurt people hurt people. People have probably hurt you in life because they themselves were hurt by others. It's best to learn to forgive them, they are shattered people that do not act as a whole person would. They are not in control of what they do, they are controlled by what others have done to them in the past. Do not however fall into the trap that forgiveness means you have to allow them to re-traumatize you.
Yes, sometimes there is the need to respond, but mostly not.
It takes courage to expose oneself publicly as you do through this channel. Being male and openly communicating love is rare and on social media you open yourself up to people who may use the opportunity to use you as an emotional punching bag. Thank you for sharing your experience and teaching from it. Your wisdom is appreciated and has assisted me on more than one occasion, including this video.
So many people do not want this solution. People love staying in the problem because hatred and blame and rallying together to defeat a foe, are all so intoxicating. Hate and blame also do not require personal accountability. Please avoid group think and of course, don’t watch the “news”. The more one side can get you to hate the other side, the more control they have over your thought life. I strive to embrace what I LOVE, rather than fighting what I hate.
Very well said. I cannot agree more. Thank you for this much needed additional perspective. Wishing you well, always and in all ways!
Agreed well said my friend
I wish i could like this comment more than once. Hit the nail right on the head!
Yet you and another person agreeing in this solution are taking part in a group think that is in all ways except the name isnt news, a person talking about what he thinks to another person
@@plus__ on a micro level yes, to avoid mainstream MACRO level, polarized, bi-nary, mainstream divisiveness. That’s like comparing a grain of sand to all the sand on a beach 1000 miles long. Don’t worry, I don’t think we will ever hear the news media encouraging us to seek any positive, love based solutions requiring personal accountability and seeking to find a common ground through compassion.😂
Why did it take me so long to find this channel. You’re such a being of light I really appreciate this content
Think of what you want to achieve with your response, dont respond blindly, respond kindly.
True words. Zeldris would know
This is
exactly what I need to help me process overwhelming emotions with the current tumultuous world affairs.
I find all of this true in my experience. We are all from one Source and if you open your heart and allow that emotion to fill you it enables a much better outcome. Sometimes however it is time to lovingly just let people continue on their own journey. Thanks again for what you do.
My only regret and bothered me for years until I realized that everything had to happen exactly as it did I wouldn't be me. I've never feared death and never hesitated to defend myself and others and the one time I didn't was because my friend was the bully and that person was never the same and hung himself a few years later and a week later that ex friend broke into a girls house the day of her funeral and her family put him in a wheelchair for the rest of his life. I blamed myself for not reacting when I should have. I believe one person actions could have prevented a school shooting from happening. The bullies that stopped talked to me later and told me it changed their life's for the better and apologized. I know the Buddha would protect others with right intention.
Namaste Nada, Your messages are a user friendly spirituality and authentic. I see you brother, keep flowing beautifully: love n light blessings
This message is incredibly important to purposely conserving our energy; it describes the ability to willfully manage our energy without resistance but with intention to direct our energy where it serves others and ourselves. Thank you for your service and love.💕
So much wisdom in this. Thank you. ❤️
We can all have peace and love when we take the time to go to our inner selves. Love and compassion towards others begin in self
I'm so grateful for this 🙏🏽 ii allow my emotions to control my thoughts and actions rather than allowing myself time to sit and feel the emotions first. It's a very difficult bad habit to stop but I'm working on it and I will get in control of my emotions
You sound already self-aware & willing. I would only add that you might consider not trying to get in control of your emotions but to be aware of them as they arise, pause, and not reactively act on them.Lastly realize most of us do not do this perfectly. Thank you for even caring about this!🙏
@@GratefulZen thank you and I have been practicing to be more aware rather than to try to control them and I must say that helps a whole lot more. It takes pressure off of me feeling like a bad person when I can't just go from mad to happy, instead I just realize that I'm upset and ask myself why and then it kind of just dissolved. Thanks!
@@goddessk4610 Sure! As Yusuf/ Cat Stevens said “I’m on the road to find out.”☮️
@Awakened What is the implication of this? Found this article: blogs.scientificamerican.com/observations/the-hippies-were-right-its-all-about-vibrations-man/
good luck!
This was exactly my message sent to me yesterday. Now this shows up. Im so thankful. Thank you for your help.
Yeah same here, I was just thinking about how I will not react to anything just assess the situation and this video shows up on my feed today.
💜💜💜
The best reaction is no reaction! Be alone! Create your own path! Everyone has that capability I think.
I understand where you're coming from with the idea of not engaging with this hostile person, but you should feel proud of yourself for putting in the extra effort. To actually take the time and energy to ask them to explain themselves so you can better understand them and fix the situation. That you we're indeed patient and compassionate in the moment instead of just reacting.
Most people would have either ignored them or retaliated, but you went the extra mile because you wanted to understand them and let them know that you heared what they were saying (even if you don't agree with them) in their agitated state. You can 110% say you walked away "Hands Clean" of the situation because you did everything you could to solve it. Which is a lot more then most people do now a days and just contributes to your level of kindness & compassion you have for others. Be proud & at peace :) xoxo
Oh, lots of value for sure...a few months ago, I happened to watch and listen to a video of a teacher talking to her kids telling them the right opposite conversation that you have here...hers is about re-acting instead of sitting a moment with ourselves and reflect, consider etc...Your video has definitely a lot of value, especially in a time like this one. If there were more people like you in this world heaven would be already here. Thank you dear
I realize the purpose of this moment in my life now. I'm very happy i found this video. Thank you
Yay! I'm very happy for you!
When we have inner peace, we will have outer peace. No matter the circumstances. Our outer stress is a reflection of our inner stress. This realization happened for me recently, so I thought I would share it. If you are chasing a person, career or lifestyle, inner peace is actually what you really desire. And that is achievable outside of attaining anything in the physical. ☺️
Thank you for this. I struggle with feeling guilty when setting boundaries. I often allow others to harm me because I don't want to hurt anyone else by saying no. Thanks for touching on this.
Thanks a lot for this Awakening. I´m going through hard times as others most probably do as well. I have to learn to love and understand myself. I always lived for others and let them broke me. I lost purpose for living. They were my purpose. As they went aways- they took my purpose with me. I have tried to get things alright between us, but it was never a long-term solution. The more it hurt. Now I´m taking my time to find myself and understand myself. It´s crazy how easy we neglect ourselves. I hope we all will get things alright and lead a happier life. We will do this together
Soothing and calming wisdom.
I love your energy and calming voice.
you all are beautiful 😍
Yup I totally understand and have had the same issues.
At the end of the day you don’t have control over anything except yourself and your actions. Observation without emotion is key. I see it with myself. Emotions good or bad cloud ones perception of reality.
The Mother of Sri Aurobindo ashram advised,”step back a little “
I'm so thankful...I prayed and this was my response. Thank you for taking the time to do this and share it with the rest of us.
Thank you for the personalized gift of Insight brother Nada. A moment without internal conflict awakens in us a deeper response to a peace that needs not to be understood but just accepted.
Less is more, silence speaks louder than passionate dialogues making some winners and others wrong. Winning an agruement loses the peace.
How is it that I have gone 39 years without getting advice this constructive from anyone...
The underlying realization behind this talk. A great insight shared. Thank you Nada. Much love & blessings to all🙏
I'm so glad I found your channel man. It's so down to earth, helpful and soothing.
I needed this man. You're truly a breath of fresh air. Thank you.
I really needed to hear this!!!! You are like an angel sent to me on this day.... thank you :)
I found this to be very helpful and useful in my life. This type of wisdom is so beautiful. Thank you for taking the time out of your life to present this to us. I found so many details that you described helpful in my current situation with my family. I am so grateful for people like you.
I was about to go cold turkey on RUclips because more and more recommended content was designed to trigger, via an 'us and them' narrative, but then the algorithm recommended one of your videos and I'm glad it did.
This is one of the best RUclips channels I've watched if not the best, and I'm steadily going through all of your older content to help me continue my spiritual journey. Thank you.
I wish I saw this before the same happened to me with a couple of friends of over 10 years. I spoke with respect and they were insulting and name calling. One just looked at my words and never responded and the other continued to attack me until I had to block her phone number. This video did help me have more compassion for them rather than feeling raw about what happened. It simply happened and all I can do is learn from it.
This video arrived at the perfect moment 🙌🏻
Thank you I needed this I’ve been reacting my whole life.
just found you channel and I couldn't be happier right now...I've really needed help during this journey...and your whole tone and words helps me tremendously...I actually cried through half the video....I have never heard anyone put it quite the way you do. Calm is the 🔑
Your words have come at a very needed time. I so needed to absorb these words into actual practice as I too have some friendships that are at the edge of the abyss and don’t need to be. Thank you!
There are some who refuse any option other than to destroy themselves. This is a necessary process for some, and it's similarly necessary to prevent them from doing damage to others in the process.
There are no ideal options, but there is an ideal approach. By living harmoniously ourselves, we can demonstrate the value of harmony to others.
When guy say “expand our awareness” I think you need to demonstrate what that means to the average “angry person”
jt: it probably won't happen by just hearing an explanation. It starts by hearing, having it resonate although mysterious. Wanting to know more, longing towards it. Searching and listening, reading more. Changing deep-seated habits and unaware patterns and teachings is mostly not done quickly. I fsomeone wants to know, they listen to more videos, read books, talk to others. And will gradually get more and more, as it chisel their soul and spirit with fate.
@@Medietos Preach! For sure. Definitely provide these types of examples when you utilize these terms as your audience may not have your direct context. Much love!
A voice of profound reason, in, seemingly, turbulent times. What a world we would live in, if, all were receptive to such musings. Swords into plowshares. 🙏🏻
I’ve always been good at having a set tone & always speaking kindly to everyone. Recently I’ve been so off on my tone & I’ve been getting so overwhelmed so easily by the smallest things. Being mean, saying things without thinking. It’s caused so many problems in my relationship too. & I know it’s not even what I mean or it’s not how I really feel. It’s me being so overwhelmed my words don’t come out the way they should. This is what I needed. Thank you for sharing your wisdom
I needed to hear this. Amazing message!! Thank you.
I really needed this today, as will so many others. Thank you
I love and appreciate the mention of social media and compassion for oneself. I needed to hear this today, I was harboring hostility since the closure of my kid's schools and my office. I now view this time in life as a blessing. I've learned to pivot the energy I once used for other aspects in my busy everyday life, to my self care. I'm slowing down to hear my own voice.
This message was a blessing for me to hear today. At just the exact right time. Much love to you and thank you for your healing words.
This video came to me at just the right time :) Thank you so much for making!
Brilliant! I'm glad I found this channel. Definitely subscribing. Thank you!
The way you just explained it is just so calm, nice, compassionate, caring and other positive values towards others. The title of this video is totally agreed respond rather than reactions or something similar in a way. I forgotten your video name in full but that is part of human nature such as mistakes, forgetful and confused. Instead of judging, comparing, complain and/or blame we should be open, acceptance, learning and improving.
Your words touched the very core of me in such an authentic, loving way. Thank You for being you. Xx
Ohh, my things were face to face confrontation and I felt physically threatened in one case, in the other my energy started being very effected. I was not capable of not reacting. I aimed that reaction at communicating my needs and limits, that I would not accept that treatment basically. But my energy was a swirling tornado of fire for days to come. I know this is about my past so I'm trying to understand and transcend. When someone threatens me physically or energetically through, I definitely cannot stay calm. I would like to understand the source of that and transform or strengthen. For now, I just accept that I am not perfect and I also have limits of my own which make me reactive as well. And feel compassion in my heart for the person even though I do not accept their behavior.
I appreciate and acknowledge your truth and vulnerability in saying this. I have been working on controlling this in myself for awhile now. Maybe this can help you understand anger the way it has truly opened my eyes. "Show me someone who is angry, and I will show you someone who has been traumatized/terrorized." I used to wake up very angry every morning, and I now understand that it was my trauma body/brain working through it. I don't know if this helps you at all, it just really hit home for me. I hope you are able to find your understanding. :)
@@Irishjay-gu5pb ❤️
It is difficult to understand what is happening in the world and the energies of fear and anger are not the only way to be...love and faith in the goodness of the universe in the mystery that is always available to us. Fear blocking the blessings and love for all of us in this time of upheaval and craziness. Diversity and compassion for all people is the way to be. Stay present and listen and learn from the experience and bless the situation in hopes that we will find the best way to be kind and caring. We are all together and we're all under alot of pressure. Love heals! Perpetual and everlasting peace in my heart is how I cope. Not losing the vibration of loving kindness. Stay present. I totally agree with your points in your comments on how to treat awkward and angry people who get in your life. Careful not to add to the problem but to be thoughtful and understanding and realize the situation is in fear and needs patience and understanding that takes a gentle touch with hope for respect for our differences. Relax and allow the energies to change. We can't fix other people, only by living with love, truth and integrity to your life path.
Great videos you make. I found the channel today and i'm loving it. Keep up the good work.
I love all the calm you take to speak... i wish to get that level of speaking with others in the future.
It is incredible to me that RUclips has “recommended” your channel to me precisely when I am at a place where your words really resonate with me. Thank you.
Received this exact message from Spirit on Tuesday. Thank you.
Thank you for this video. Aug and sept have been TERRIBLE lots of massive arguments with lots of members of both families and attack from institutions that has caused us to be forced to emigrate.
Well it looks like this has been exactly what I needed as well. Very observant and considerate of you to acknowledge the wavering neutrality of people's mindsets these days especially in this time, it's easy to give in to reaction and emotion. I'm guilty of this, and often end up beating on myself for it because I'm not very good at loving myself, which is something else I'm trying to work on. But this definitely applies to me, as the past couple of days have seen some moments of this reaction coming out when my brother , who's 20 and I'm 22, and I are talking. The for instance was where we were just talking about sometimes my stomach is a bit weak, and I tend to easily throw up after smoking after eating, or sometimes just in general if I haven't drank water and my throat is acidic, and when I tried to describe how I get acid reflux in the morning, he thought I was saying I vomit every day in the morning, to which my insecurities replied with "Is that what you think?!" Beforr trying to continue and say how no, I mean I feel acidic like I was trying to explain. He kinda got shut down by me and I created more of what I didnt want hostility between us. Misunderstanding is my bane. I could instantly tell by his lack of response that he was disengaging from the conversation now, but I wanted to know why and what I had done and how we could work around moments like these, so I apologized if I came off the wrong way, and how I wanted to open up what he was trying to close off, which isnt always the best decision, I chose to leave it alone more now than ever but this conversation seemed like there were underliers to our actions. Mine for sure,we had just finished hanging and playing music with our sister, and I adore music, but being around it live is hard sometimes when I'm not playing cause I'm not as good as anyone else in my family and as s kid I never was old enough or capable enough fo play alongside the rest of my family. Feeling like s black sheep, it traumatized me in a way, and being around live music makes me uncomfortable sometimes, usually only small little jams type thing. But I ended up relating to my brother how I was feeling insecure and I apologize for reacting that way. He explained he just thought I said one thing when I meant another, when I said "it happens in the morning" he thought I meant vomiting instead of what I was about to elaborate on, how I feel hot throat/gut. He explained it's difficult and aggravating for him when I react and shut him down and so forth, because our dad does that or used to do that frequently. I explained how he should also consider me, I forget what I said, something about how his words came off. I genuinely feel like he could be more considerate if me, especially when I make mistakes. Like you said in this video, people are all too quick to demonize and accuse and take the narrative too far in their own minds. Sometimes I feel like he let's his first opinions and thoughts dictate his responses rather than considering others thoughts and feelings simultaneously. He does this, just not as much as I hope for because I try to be as considerate and understanding as possible with him. But I've been stressing a lot over him too, since these past couple of days and us encountering this moment I'm ranting on about where I was reactive. Im always judging myself in comparison to him, and that puts me on edge a lot. He reads, meditates, and practices his mastery if music because thats what he loves to. I see a lot of good qualities and wish that I had the same discipline even after doing karate for 10 years. I probably do too, but this entire pandemic time and the shitty life events that have happened to me during it have just kneecapped my self worth by exacerbating my neuroticism. Anyway, my brother and I ended up continuing the conversation after it almost got shut down, and he was able to understand my insecurity after I finished crying when I was talking about the trauma from being a lonely kid, which was just one facet of why I was feeling insecure that day
The other has just been that I'm in my own head all the time, and often thinking of him and comparing myself because a part of me knows he wants me to improve, but I see it somedays as a projection and a judgement on his part, somedays it may be but most days it's not. Maybe it's all just me I really dont know. It's hard to hold someone accountable and not make them feel like they're being judged. But we worked through it after I settled my mind and stopped reacting. But 2 days ago I had some friends over and my bro was there, and it was just me and him and the 1 friend at the time before others got there, a friend I'd known since childhood. We were talking about how long we'd known each other for just reminiscing, and in talking about hot girls back in junior high and how one if the popular cute girls who didnt hate me for being a nerd cared when my rabbit died. Then we got talking about that day which I hadn't thought of in a while, and my brother said how he remembers holding her in his arms as she convulsed becaus she was about to die from old age. And he said how I walked in the room and whatnot, but I remember being in the room the whole time. I think I maybe was called from another room at first, it's so long ago I barely remember, but I definitely spent 99%of the event in the room. I wasnt trying to be impulsive, but I guess I was a bit in hindsight. I interrupted to say "No, I was there the whole time." when he glanced over at me while narrating the story, and unfortunately I shut him up again, cause he just went "oh" and stopped talking. I was in no way trying to devalue his story, or deny what he was saying, I just remember being in the room the whole time it happened and actually having her convulse in my arms too at one point, so I just was trying to speak out and just be heard to clarify the story, but I think also in moments like that when we talk about our memories, strangely enough it's like he's remembering things that I remember in the exact same way, almost like he's seeing my memory. Anyway, sometimes it gets heated cause we both try and negate the other's story because one of us thinks we're the one who's right. But I think when I spoke my response, there was an undertone in what I said that came off like I was mad about how he was telling it or something, which I wasn't conciously, but I think I may have been subconsciously frustrated in that moment because when he said I wasn't in the room and they called for me for some reason that made me feel like my side was invalidated and that I needed to say my part, and maybe that's where I came off negatively. Sorry im definitely over explaining all of this but it's also kinda da therapeutic for me right now to release this to anyone else which can read and relate. Anyway, the conversation just kind subsided after I said "I remember you holding her though" and some other comment I made to try and reinforce him to not feel discouraged and to convey how I'm not trying to deny what he said, but it was over, I'd already made him feel lesser. More of what I didnt want. I'm usually pretty good for it, speaking reflectively, but this week I've just been slipping up and I feel really bad about it even though it's not the biggest deal, but I feel the impulse to text my brother and send him this video and apologize for whatever instance, mainly the one about my rabbit with my friend over, since that one was unresolved unlike the first one we got to talk out. But it may be too much for what has already passed a couple days ago, and he prefers actions rather than words when trying to change.
Anyways, just wanted to vent that and say thank you for this amazing video. Regardless, I want to show this to my brother cause I feel like it'll help both of us, cause I feel like he could use the part where you talk about consideration and understanding. not that he doesn't do those already, but just that I feel like in important moments of converation, or when hes about to make a catagorization or judgment or statement, to just consider what the other person is going through in that moment, and why they are saying or doing or being what they are.
I have been suffering with PTSD all my life from a violent upbringing. My blood pressure goes down when hearing your voice . My breathing becomes easier and I start to relax . The fear goes away For a few minutes which is heaven for me. I’m 64 years old and very thankful for your messages and the soft empathy, Thank You. 🙏🏼
I appreciate your content. Thank you!
Wow. Great words Sir. You have a wonderful way of explaining the guidance/wisdom. And YES, Humanity has almost forgotten that 'it's OK to agree to disagree' and still have respect and some level of integrity. Well Namaste and Ciao4Now, J
So happy I found your channel. I am such a confused being and this gives me clarity on what we ourselves tend to do when while disconnecting from the desires of the society, our old beliefs and our old habits. The "I" in us rather needs the higher self to bring the much needed change which will serve our life's purpose but also Gods.
This gave me a new insight into some issues I have been noticing in others, as I figured out how to do this years ago, but was unaware that others likely hadn't gone through the experiences and applied the same thought processes I have to attain this awareness.
I'm an intensely emotional person and me reacting on my emotions have made my life sooo much more difficult. It's insane. I'm really working on this but it's so hard. The hardest thing in the world for me. Sometimes it brings me to a point to just want to give up this life, this stupid body and fucked up brain
You will find peace and love in God, and you will start to love your life... But change can only come with truth, and you are on the right path.
This is my second video and both share a real-time personal story, with settings and details. I am in happy awe. You are the first and only spiritual person here (and a man!) to realize how the heart of upsets is neither politics nor religion nor race nor anything but personal relationships and their incidents. All other apparent divisions are but masks covering the core wounding of early life trauma. I do not expect to find psychological analyses here and it isn't necessary, for there is wisdom. Again, thank you.
"the heart of upsets is neither politics nor religion nor race nor anything but personal relationships and their incidents." I was about to acknowledge the truth of this when I noticed it was my own post! :-)
Perfectly articulated. I truly admire your ability to stay calm and put that triggered feeling aside to be kind and open minded and hearted. That was such a beautiful contrary action to choose.
Sadly, I had to disconnect from a close friend because she allowed her emotions around current events to change her from a compassionate person to a hateful, bullying and judgmental person and while I know her intentions were good, all she did was add fuel to a raging fire and perpetuated more of what she claimed to be against. I send her love and well wishes because I know she has suffered trauma and loss that has caused her to behave the way she does out of fear and understandable anger but I had to set a boundary and remove myself from the friendship for my own mental health. I felt great anxiety about it and this message was so helpful and comforting.
And you nailed it by addressing the media manipulation that only foments so much conflict and anger. It’s so big of you to take that time to put your feelings aside and think for yourself, and it’s not easy to do, which is, I think, largely why we find ourselves here. This is just such beautiful insight.
This video appeared in my recommended when I needed it the most. Words cannot express how grateful I am for your work ❤️
Thanks I needed this after the debate last night.
Responding is called making the most appropriate choices. Reacting is trying to control the situation with anxiety, hostility and resentment.
thank you.
its been a long time since i felt this much at peace. this has been a great lesson and a absolute eyeopening moment in time. i hope everyone can be at peace with them selves as well as each other. taking time to think about what you need, to feel at peace is time well spent. it clears your mind.
Priceless insight. Thank you so much for the clarity you've provided. All my past regrets are the result of not being present and taking a moment to breathe before responding to the situation at hand. This video is a much needed reminder to do so 🙏
I am so glad I found your page 🔆 thank you for your messages
thankyou so much for the wisdom. it was a big help. love and blessings..
Thank you. It's not society at large causing my disconnect, but my husband and family life. Your words have helped me to center and realize I haven't been helping anything by reacting. I appreciate that man.
This was so incredibly insightful and helpful.🦋 Thank you so much, Nada.:) Every word spoke directly to my heart and soul. I really appreciate you and all your wonderfully-worded wisdom.💗
Reacting is part of responding.
Reacting is a human emotion.
Rather than hide the emotions we might perceive as negative, we need to feel free to express those emotions.
We should not suppress how we feel.
Let your feelings be known.
Greater calm and clarity can come from allowing yourself to express fear and anger.
It's when you suppress these emotions, that they secretly build up inside and in this way, they do more damage.
Sometimes it just doesn’t help to lash out is something I’m learning.. tired of losing my cool over the small things.
I really appreciate this.
your aura makes me so happy. i can feel your energy through my phone screen. thank you for all that you do.
I keep silent when I do not have a constructive thing to say. Then I go back into myself where there is calm and keep off interacting with those people because I do not want to do or say something I will regret later. Afterwards, I may get a way to respond to the situation or people. I agree with the stepping back principle. Thank you for sharing