Japan's Rise of Isolation [ENG CC]
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5:12 The hardships
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5:00 That's so sad but unbelievably ironic. He began having mental health issues, decided to take time off to better himself but was seen as a weird outcast by doing so; Thus perpetuating the cycle of isolation. The populace treat him as an outcast, yet THEY THEMSELVES are feeling just as bad as he is on the inside! People know they could easily end up like him, but due to the culture, they just ignore. THAT'S why depression is so prevalent in Japan. No one truly gets involved in other's lives and are just seen as cogs in a machine to better the whole. Human beings don't work that way, and it's killing you! Focusing on the human condition should be Japan's top priority for the next few decades.
This happened to me in America. I took a week off personal leave at one job and it was the biggest deal and I was basically pushed out of the job from there
Work first mentality can break anyone with enough time. Little to no time to have a hobby. Meet and make friends. Start a relationship. Whatever else it's not good.
It's sad when losing your life on the job or passing out is seen as a great honor and then the very same people blame the new gen for not going out to start families
Don't you mean wok first mentality?
It will sprout weeds and thorns, and you will eat the plants of the field. You will painfully toil and sweat to produce food to eat, until your body-taken from the ground-returns to the ground. For you are from dust, and to dust you will return.
It’s a vicious cycle when work takes over everything in your life. You have no time for yourself. It’s funny how they praise those who really commit to their work, while being criticized for not starting families, which in itself is a double-edged sword.
This is false. The drop in relationships and fertility rates is directly caused by women's post-secondary education, nothing else. This has been proven.
I am life first mentality
The main girl seemed happy and cheerful. She's also very pretty and does her make-up well. I'm surprised, but also not surprised. You can't tell what problems people have just by looking at them, and people can get very good at hiding things to the public. I know from personal experience.
The issue is directly correlated with post secondary education for women. When women have post secondary education, the rates of relationships and fertility drop drastically, and this is not just a correlation, but causation.
Tldr/nutshell
Nana is describing autistic burnout, and it is crippling. This is why public education about neurodivergence (autism, ADHD, OCD, BPD, etc.) is so important; if we know what kind of brain we're working with, we can make adjustments to prevent burnout and other problems that come from trying to mask our neurodivergence and continue living as if we were neurotypical.
Shoutout to all people willing to interview!! It takes a lot of courage especially since talking so openly about mental health is stigmatized in Japan. I really hope they find peace & are able to find work & friendship that is fulfilling and not feel like a burden. Remember, no one is perfect. You are always worth it, no matter what society says.
This is what happens when people are terrified about losing face towards a culture that puts harmony above everything else, aka no complaining about work conditions. In Japans case, their multi-hundred Samurai history of Bushido, aka, no whining about anything, EVER, carries on to this day. Plus living in a city can put a mental toll on you getting tired of seeing people everyday.
Maybe, but we don't have that kind of culture in the US and loneliness is wildly on the rise here too.
Exactly, they learn since a young age that they can’t bother others so they end up being quiet about their problems. But I don’t understand, why don’t they just go to therapy without telling it to people? A lot of people don’t have any mental illness but they’re just sad or stressed and talking to a doctor will help. No need to tell it to everyone. But they could seek help and feel better, without telling everyone and therefore feeling guilty. It’s also important that they stop thinking that people with some difficulties are aliens because we all struggle in life…
@@flashgordon6510 America and Japan have very similar toxic work cultures. I think that is playing a major part in increasing loneliness.
@@AnnaHans88 becuase a majority of the population is in the Tokyo metropolitan area, people see the same people over and over and unless they don’t benefit from them financially or emotionally, they couldn’t care less about others because it can get tiresome. In Asian culture, they avoid problems like the plague.
As a foreigner living in Japan, I am personally experiencing this at my work. Since I am the only foreigner in my work, it's hard to make friends even though I can speak decent Japanese (up to JLPT N3). Since it's my first time working with Japanese people, I was always careful of what I say, to who I say, when to say so I didn't speak much. I guess I read the air too much. At first it was fine but now about a year of working like this, it's starting to affect me mentally.
"Don't speak unless spoken too" is a motto my co workers and I, feel like we have with each other. I know most Japanese arn't used to foreigners so of course they probably think the same about me. Everyday I come in, maybe 2 or 3 might say good morning, and won't say anything else to me until I leave, (お疲れ様です。) I often don't even eat lunch in the same room with them, I just go to an empty room but I feel like I'm being an nuisance to them.
Perhaps it's just my personally problem but when I worked in my home country it was nothing like this. My advice would be, if you're gonna work in Japan as a foreigner, get used to isolation.
I don't have experience living in Japan so I can only speak generally. We are still beings and isolation is exhausting.
However, since your Japanese is good have you ever tried making small talk during lunch break? Could you maybe use your status as a foreigner as a conversation starter by asking then about Japan and local area? Maybe you could ask for good restaurants in the area or the local sports team or whatever.
I don't know your experience for certain so I'm mostly just spitballing here.
Hello Alex! If you are experiencing isolation in Japan, try to make foreign friends, going to language exchanges, activities, etc. Or try to explore outside during the weekends. There´s also a NGO called TELL Japan that can help you if you have some mental issues. I lived and worked in Japan, so I know that it´s hard out there. Try to think about all the positive things that you have there and focus on the reason why you are in Japan.
I think the feeling of isolation has become more and more prevalent in our world and seems to be getting worse with the latest trends. Instead of thinking, "I don't want to burden someone else with my problems" you should instead think, "I want to continue to improve myself with the help of others who also want to do the same thing as me". We need to reach out to others and stop neglecting ourselves.
These people are just spoiled rotten, they just need to work hard more often
@@IamtheMan1111 While I understand and agree that this tends to be an issue for more fortunate countries in the west and some parts of Asia, I would still challenge your solution here. It's not always about working hard enough, its more about how you think and view things that matter. If you have a mindset of a leader, then you are a leader. You could have the work ethic of a leader while still viewing things from a follower's perspective, which will keep you as a follower and never a leader.
@@mahakhatib27 well, what I am thinking is they got foods, they got nice house and they work at the desk in air conditioner, so what's more they want? Meanwhile other people outside there are starving can't buy money for food
@@IamtheMan1111 Can't argue with that. Some people are ungrateful for what they have. However, peace of mind and the mindset to grow into something they can be proud of, is something they want most.
@@mahakhatib27 they can be proud by working hard, not to sleep on the house like lazy
In The US, drs prescribe anti depressants to everyone. The side effects can sometimes make depression amplified. People will just have to learn that living and existing is hard af. It's chaos at all times, this is the world's normal state. No one will save you, hold your hand and walk you through life. In the end, we all live and die alone.
The Vietnamese girl saying 過労死 did not have any subtitles, some people may be confused about that.
過労死 (karoushi) = death from overwork
People in the comments, please don't oversimplify psychological disorders, a disorder has never been healed just by rationalising it
How you summarize it
The societal pressures and the constant grind, it can really cause one to feel isolated, and really does takes a toll on mental health. It’s like for many of us around the world, we’re all navigating the same existential maze.
I love how Nobita-san always takes his videos seriously and brings us well produced interviews! Awesome job!
Thank you, Nobita san. The Japanese culture of conformity and fear of “standing out” is still causing great distress to people who have had their self-confidence crushed by the heartless education system. The pressure to succeed academically and socially at a young age causes sensitive children much harm, and leads them into self isolation and feeling threatened by modern Japanese work culture and social “duty”. While not becoming Hikikomori, they are trapped between that state and “normality”.
Me too !
I’m getting fired as an ALT after 5 years in Osaka by BOE .
It’s a combination of misunderstanding, racism, older man working with young Japanese teachers, and lack of proper communication between as a foreigner and Japanese teachers. I want my concerns to be heard.
Geez what happened? I thought they won’t fire ALTs unless you’ve done something criminal
@@archibaldl4039 Nothing criminal. Its combination of all I mentioned above. As for criminals, in fact a teacher accused me of stealing her shoes with no evidence whatsoever, she is a part time teacher I’ve never met . Her reasoning is that I leave earlier so it must be me. But I didn’t report it because I just wanted to keep things in perspective and harmony
I would say, this isn't just in Japan. Bigger corporations outside Japan are also seeing how far they can push things, even breaking the law if they think they can pressure the victim into a position where they can't call out their company for their actions (which I know is already difficult in Japan, because you haven't any whistleblowing safety laws, and you have quite extreme defamation laws that seem to trigger before anything else).
Companies inside Japan are also getting a bit too confident that they are 'safe' when employing people outside the country (see Selen Tatsuki/Dokibird and Nijisanji for a recent high profile case), not realising that actually, many of their contractual malpractices are not protected by international law.
Mental health stigmas are not generally as harsh as they are in Japan in the rest of the world, but even outside it, they're strong enough that not enough people are looking for help. They're also not really explored in children at all, even though things like full time working parents/guardians and just general lack of mental health support is extremely common.
What Nana said about wanting to be treated the same as before resonates with me in particular, because I do try to function as I have in the past, only to find it doesn't really work anymore. I've never really had that many friends though, so I guess I've not had too much of a social loss. It's still sad to see though. I'm glad Nana has someone there that she can count on though, it's not easy to find someone like that, even outside Japan.
I relate so much to Nana explaining her uncertainty of having children due to her mental instability...that realisation only came to me because I myself was raised by a mother with undiagnosed mental disorders, resulting in long-lasting damage on my mental state. It makes me wonder if she had experienced something similar.
Big chunk of that overtime is useless work that brings no profit to the company.
I used to do job in a Japanese company in my country where everybody used to work 12-13 hours a day.
I did job there for 9 months and then move onto some other company. Their working environment is just pathetic.
@@JamesBond-hm3bwthe things is that most employers don't understand that the reason they are not productive is because the brain and body need rest.
Sure a bit of extra effort here and there is helpful but when it is done 10,000 of hours extra work per month it makes productivity so much worse because you have 3 types of workers.
Those who too stress because they are tired.
Those who hate life because they are tired.
Those who get mad at other workers because they themselves are tired.
Some Japanese companies use automated emergency contact systems for their employees in case of natural disasters like earthquakes or typhoons. The first question the contact system asks is generally "Are you and your family safe?" But then the second question is "Can you come to the office?" Never mind if your house/apt/belongings could be damaged. Never mind if your electricity/gas may be out. Never mind if school is canceled for your children. They want butts in office seats.
Thank you nobita for your hard work ❤ its so sad and depressing...i wish all japanese people to find peace soon someday. 😢
I'm currently living and working here in Japan I can say my mental health affects how life's here, people just work and work they don't have time for happiness or simple vacation you don't even see children playing outside, that's why it's very important for people to have a happy environment, in the philippines we don't have money there but we're happy so it's rare to my people to have a mental illness there
There is mental health struggles in pinas what are you talking about
The quality of the videos from this creator have increased over the years 😊 I like how this video includes the perspective from so many people!
When your mentality breaks you are gone.
Masatoshi's story left me speechless. i hope he found better people to surround himself with.
I love these videos from you, showing that japan isn't just a happy positive country where nothing's wrong.
I really needed to see this now..
Dealing with major life changing things in my family life and I don't know when things will actually get better.
I guess it's different from what is being discussed here, but it just reminds me that I'm not alone and we are all humans that are susceptible to what life throws at us..
I don’t see it as a weakness when these people isolate themselves. I see it as courageous. They identified they are in situations where others are more likely to misread them & react negatively. They countered this by reducing the opportunities for societal consensus to crush or harm their spirits/ sense of well being.
Nana looks like Yui Aragaki. And both of them are so beautiful.
Wow she even knows what an HSP is. She’s looked for info about mental health for sure, I’m happy that she did that
For all those that feel isolated they can reach out to me. I’m 50 something and can offer some wisdom and commiserating. I can go weeks without going out in public, but i encourage myself to keep reaching out.
..if i will giving a chance, i want to have a work where i can do it alone - but not necessarily a person in a close room but a rather doesn't do a lot of teamwork..
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..for me isolation is not a choice or fear but a preference - i still want to work with other because i will learn from them..
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..on my rest day, i prefer to be alone and isolate just to do all things i want - it's more relaxing and peaceful having your own world then face the reality after..
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..thank you for this vid, yeah this kinda same topic or common problem but still i learn from this..
Their is nothing wrong with working independently, in fact, I think it can be another form of working that fits well to who you are.
However, human interaction can you give you much needed warmth that you can't get on your own.
No one is completely independent, and we are going to need each other to become better.
I somewhat understand what they’re talking about. It’s uncomfortable to speak about for fear of persecution and ridicule yet they desire a connection to other people. It’s just they prefer keeping to themselves over feeling like they’re bothering people. It’s complex.
Thanks for the video TJR.
Really good video, thanks for making this issue more visible in Japan.
He's a stooge
Different generation used to live in one house wpitth alot of children with neighbors you knew. Todays world is not natural people dont even know there neighbours...
Helpful video, thank you
0:29 She is happy she found her independence. She talks fast, she is probably pretty smart, which of course helps her with finding her way to do her own thing. Japanese work culture is very corporative, hierarchical and honestly pretty bad, as we see by how common are the cases of *karoshi* . But also the Japanese people in general is very concerned with being perceived as normal, or well-adjusted, so I'm happy when I see a Japanese person that is brave and managed to survive outside of the meat grinder.
I think the people should stop telling others and the children to not be a burden to others, however to try to interact with others and be open and improve friendships and relationships (this is my personal opinion).
You know small kids in Japan are in day care. They have to socialize before they are ready. They have a long day out as well. This continues in preschool, kindergarten, elementary and high school. The school year is long. And some grades they have to show on weekends for clubs or sports or music. I think people are just burnt out fitting in, strict rules. Is a child ever bored? Being bored can be helpful.
Much respect to Nana for still working with the stuff she likes. She found a good solution for herself.
Overtime should only be necessary when it is necessary. If I had a company in Japan i would have kick them out after 8 hours, and say go home, and get some rest.
Or set 1h for the workers to go to the gym, or just take a walk. It will bring better results for the company at the end of the day.
I don't judge people for having an health issue. They should be treated well, and be respected as everyone else. It's not their fault if their heads are wired wrong, they are still people.
That's what lots of managers do but the pressure from themselves make them stay for nothing. After 10 years here, I feel like the pressure doesn't come from anywhere other than themselves.
As a westerner who sees all of these documentaries on Japan and what the people go through with its issues. The death by overworking, stress, anxiety and depression including the long hard work hours. The workplace culture should be changed and more counseling services should be given so Japanese citizens can work and not worry about stress so much which can drain energy and sap the life out of people.
I would be a Western Hikikimori.
*keep being strong and awesome people of Japan!!!*
How can I know if I really have a mental disorder? Sometimes I think I do, because of things that happened in my family, that makes me feel like I want to completely give up on being successful in life, but I try hard not to believe it because I don't really want to have a mental disorder and still have a little motivation to keep pushing through to survive.
Thank you for your work Nobita san
Because everybody is busy to socialize with others. By the time they get their off days, they're too tired to mingle with others, so they'll spend it sleeping. 😢
It was very nice to see she had a reliable best friend. Looking really hard for one of those.
Hope you find one nearby :)
i have to ask would the poem about the 8 fold fence has anything to do with current trend in isolation of japaniese especially in the cities? or trend had accelerated ?
Another great video as always. As I am a School Psychologist and have worked in many different schools and states, there's so much that can be said and so little time to do so. Overall, mental wellness has been in decline thanks to the lack of supports/seriousness our governments take in not ensuring the well being of it's citizens. Still many societies see it as being a weakness and a precursor to criminal behavior, but this is simply untrue. Some just have a limited understanding, lack of exposure or can't separate ones personality from the illness, but I digress. I will just leave with this, if you are not well, feeling well, ok or whatever... Just please seek help. If you can not find that support in your immediate friends and family circle, then don't be ashamed looking for services that can be free or low cost. There's so much complexity around mental wellness and how you access your environment, please don't think you're above any other human in the past, present or future... Get help, it's normal to not be ok, educate yourself, become a better you for tomorrow. To those who are silent in the back, you matter. You got people who love and care for you❤.
I live on isolation as well and it sucks. My heart goes out to the sufferers in Japan and Asia the Golden land 🫂🤗❤
I wish for Japanese people to be able freely express themselves in a deep and honest level with wide open arms and acceptance with love and kindness!
Japanese people really need to build on love and understanding love more.
The overtime stories are sad every time. I want Japan to have a better economy but many companies need to realize it cannot be built on the back of what is near slave labor!
I wish the best to Japanese people! Greeting from Brazil.
Isolation is not loneliness but loneliness is it's loneliness.
So connected. So alone.
Keep it up.
This is not trolling or a bot comment, I seriously would like to help out society. I even created a document with instructions on things that can be done to improve that simple people can do.
I wonder whether getting married in Japan is very expensive
The goverment should reinforce the law harshly to middle and small business, in order for the society to follow the regulation, i think they should add additional subject at school about human psychology to be able learn how to regulate their own mental state, so that when they enter the workplace, they have the knowledge needed to examine their own mental health. Changing the society norms can be done in two ways : through individual choices (if they are given prior knowledge about it) and from the goverment ( interferring the norms)
I think these disorders, around the world, are symptoms of flaws in society. We're heading to an increasingly hard time. The same grind doesn't yield the same results and people are burning out, and it manifests itself differently. People still have their basic needs and instincts underneath the mask they have to put on themselves in everyday life and the constant noise of everyday life takes it's toll on people. That's just how I feel because I experience the same things these people do yet I don't have any diagnoses or fall into many that could describe many of the ones associated with these diagnoses. That's just the way I see it.
Ps. Ie. Deniance of humanity and classed as a disorder. 10:40 is poignant because in the west with our big eye on mental illness is good to take in account becau we justify our action, our way of like, the habitus because of a disorder we have instead of asking: Why are we like this. A bit of soul searching could be our benefit and get us out of ruts instead of relying on external forces like medication or relying on validation. Because if your true self can be out there it lifts the weight off your heart.
I also feel kind of bad for this lovely young lady because I think becoming a mother for her kind soul could be the best thing for her mental health. She clearly has love and care to share that she lacks the avenue for and ha inf a child would be perfect. It unlocks you, in a way. Because she's extra vigilant about if she does it right, that's already a good sign. I think probably quite a few in her peer group are silently thinking along the same lines. And there is a big unspoken barrier from allowing people to flourish and have families again. ♥️
Is there really a rise in mental health problems or is it just that we are now beginning to notice them all around us?
It's both and depression is the most common one these days. The society demands more and more of us sadly.
Both.
The generation from the video had parents who already had issues, so it’s worse for them.
As the number of single people increases, the number of people who focus inward all the time increases as well.
I would say that social media adds more problems to the issue. And the fact that there's an overlap between older people and the younger crowd.
It's the same thing here in my country. One person demands so much. But other people aren't allowed to have their own life.
And in Japanese culture, expectations are even more important. Except when you're at home by yourself.
私も発達障害（自閉症スペクトラム障害）でうつ病です。普通に生きるのがしんどいです。普通って何だろう？と考えます。
Japan and Japanese themselves never had this social isolation until the 1990s. That’s when Japan entered its End of Showā Period after Meiji Emperor Showā passed away at 87 in 1992. That was the decline of Japanese people and Japanese society.
I would social media and Internet in Japan is responsible for the rise of loneliness and death working culture. People are stressed, depressed, exhausted, loveless, suicidal, and empty Nobita-San.
This is why Japanese mental health is important and the Japanese government and society needs to designate more mental health services and de stigmatize mental illness and mental health by having open uncomfortable conversations about it and learn to deal with expressing their feelings more. ❤️☺️
To be honest. Its not just in Japan. I have a few friends in the usa since graduating college...then after the COVID shutdown. They just close themselves off and isolate themselves. Me included, I don't know why...
Well peole do suck more then they ever had. We can't want to cancel each other over the dumbest of things. So many peole are quick to lable each other with ist/ism words. "the more I learn about people, the more I like my dog".
Does it make up a significant portion of the society, how is it when compared to other cultures?
I’d say that it’s common.
Other counties deal with similar problems in different ways.
Japanese tend to isolate themselves and then put attention inward. viscous cycle begins that is hard to break down.
Some cultures have it to where they will see someone in need of help and still decide not to help them and then go back and say that they never asked for anything. Almost as a way to blame them for not helping themselves and avoiding responsibility altogether.
I am not surprised that only the large companies in Japan follow regulations(3:14)(4:00). The government probably does not have the resources to verify if the medium and small companies are complying with the law. Because of the culture, it would be unreasonable to assume that the employees will report their company to the government.
I love this girl
I'd like to know how she got a boyfriend, as she mentions her ex at 2:05
Inflation in Japan is higher compared with other countrys,and over working as slave of work is very frustrating, meanwhile lonely and depresión,could end into mental sickness,isolation is antisocial and meanwhile it could turn into suicidal feelings,as a person from América that have own problems with society i see that problems in Japan and korea are similar,like economy,over work and loneliness,that capitalism have traped at that people into a sycle of desolation.
a very sad.. But for those 2 girls at the last section of this video, don't feel so not confident in seeing the probability in getting married, you are both beautiful, i'm sure a lot of guys want to marry you.. Maybe not those kind of so called top alpha men, but definitely a lot of average and above average guys would be interested in you...
Guys being attracted to them is not what theyre worried about 🤦♀️
Tbh since covid which I think has been 4 years...
I only been out the house like 3 times the first year 3 years.
I'm like a hikkomori. My mind broke...I still need help to try to get out. But I mentally lost it. But I dunno how to fix this...😔
The amount of work they demand from you is higher than the salary you receive. In addition you are required to stay late if needed, dance to the tune of the higher-ups, withstand abuse and humiliation and be happy that you were chosen to work at the place; because you can be easily replaced. Work ethics are the leading cause of low birth rates, but every demographics expert ignore this, because Japan doesn't have an alternative to their system. Man either thinks of his family, or thinks of his company and how to not lose his job. And for women it's even worse. They have to adapt in a male dominated system, where they can only be an employee, not a woman.
Sure wish I knew Japanese. Who is this for?
I believe AI will solve many problems related with mental disorder since AI is already very efficient managing daily tasks, so japanese will feel relieved from many worries
Read Ikigai 📘🗿
If a society is sick, then, are those seen as unsuited/less desirable/incompatible for that society truly sick? Perhaps they are the most sane and we should be more concerned about the "well adjusted."
Perhaps human beings were never meant to live in the manner that is being forced onto them.
Disorders, disorders, and disorders...
Who among us is perfectly stable?
Those who are perfectly adjusted to a sick society are the sickest in the end.
I'll ask is a chance to help out, no one else is doing anything so I want to HELP PEOPLE.
Is there any way to contact you sir? I really am excited to share some amazing discoveries I made on how to fix society before its too late.
I just hope I am given a chance to be heard out, so as to not waste my time.
Why does that girl look like the husbando meme. XD
I dont understand something. If so many Japanese people are going through the same thing, how come it's still so hard for them to come together and become friends? They already have so much to talk about suffering the same societal pressures and loneliness. A drink and some food around the table and these folks should be making friends in no time.
*later edit*
I would really like to thank all of you who have shared your voices in this conversation in the comments. Thank you for sharing your insight, knowledge and examples and for importantly, coming together to at least talk about things. Please let me make this clear, I know emotional damage such as this topic cannot be easily solved. My hope is that the Japanese people could find some small courage to find others to at least start a similar conversation. Many of you have told me about how deeply these effects go within the human psyche and I'm grateful to learn from you all. I just want these people to have the same chance to learn and to be heard like you've all taught me. If you have something to say, please go right ahead and teach me. No one's wrong, but please be respectful.
They need to get out first. Literally.
Then they would lose their identity of being isolated. It’s tied into their ego.
The cruel irony of loneliness. It’s like those who understand it can end up feeling lonely too. Think of it like this where you’re trying to be warm in very cold weather, only to find that others are also shivering nearby. They want to be warm with you, but unable to.
As an autistic person who has chronic illness, trauma, and anxiety disorder, I have to say it is not that easy for anyone at all. You don't want to bother anyone or feel like a burden, you're afraid of rejection or being ghosted, you don't feel good enough, you don't get vague social cues and just wish people would just say what they mean.
Honne-tatemae. not a completely ironclad social law, but still heavily ingrained in the culture. You have your "in-group" and "out-group" of people where you act a different way and share different level of your inner self between the 2 groups.
That sounds like typical social behavior for humanity in general, but combined with social hierarchies and a sort of normal mindset of conflict avoidance- do ANYTHING to avoid direct conflict and arguments or causing others trouble, including sharing your own personal issues, it's VERY stifling. And if you stick out, the outward nail gets the hammer.
So obviously, people will find ways to cope instead such as drinking and bullying (even in the workplace), which creates more issues.
They DO drink, but they drink after work with their coworkers and boss around (can't exactly be open) or go to host/hostess bars to try and replicate the feeling of having friends/opposite sex interaction.
It's not just one thing and it's just very complicated as foreigners looking in. I think South Korea has a similar issue. We as foreigners cannot fully understand by looking in as this type of culture seems to take place mostly in highly homogeneous societies, where we can't really ever JOIN the "in-group".
I keep wondering why some companies hate their workers. Why would you make them suffer? Seriously, what’s the point? You’re just a bad person
Where is Nobita from Japan??
Its good to talk about mental health but I feel like its gone too far in the west.
Half my co-workers talk about nothing else and its almost like a competition for them, They're constantly trying to diagnose themselves with more disorders and they take an inordinate amount of time for work for minor discomforts.
Japan is possibly way to hardcore in the opposite direction.
Nana's pretty.
I've been dealing with isolation since my teenage years so i can totally understand how these people feel. Nana-san is lucky to have such a reliable friend. I'm also glad to see Meru-san after such a long time.Hope she's doing well. Thank you for discussing this topic Nobita-san👍
なんでこのような担っているんですか。。。そのようなものが昔にありませんとおもいますね、多分おれがまちがいましたかなあ。。。
You're probably wrong indeed.
Hi Mr. nobita! I have a plan I created to help fix and fully reverse loneliness and isolation. Would you be willing to hear me out?
Can you make a video on people's reactions to Akira Toriyama passing? Here in Brazil Dragon ball is very popular and I see many people talking about it.
Please respond if you are interested.
加登さん 登さん～～～
Nobita-san, my greatest respect and admiration to you! Please use all your talent and professionalism to take an interview with Reiko Kobayakawa, a JAV actress
Bro, you are killing me lol
@@venetiancopper6032 that interview might have a huge number of views
i think its because no one likes being told what to do
They should legalize marijuana there
Which would risk doing to Japan what the Opioid epidemic did to the US.
That would just make things worse. More girls and young women would be exploited in the adult industry if they're intoxicated.
No. No, for many reasons. It turns recreational users into raging addicts who seek out stronger stuff. The number of fatal car crashes sharply increases. Crime increases. That's just the tip of the iceberg. Hedonism isn't the answer.
@@MiguelDLewisLOLOLOLOL. You know the hemp industry was thriving until the Americans invaded and imposed their order on Japan, right? Smoking it was not widespread anyway.
@@DanteS-119 Relevance?
If Japan gave me a 5 year visa, I could come pick up all those lonely people, and they won't be lonely ever
women live life on easy mode and still manage to fail at it, LOL
Eh, who knows. Some folks say that women have it harder while others say that men do. There are videos that show women winning at life while men aren't and there are videos showing vise vera depending on the propaganda.