How to Feel Confident and Beautiful in an Ugly World
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- Опубликовано: 25 июн 2024
- The world can be a crazy and cruel place. Especially now that everyone is online and it's SO easy to make a negative (even "well intentioned") comment about someone else from the safety of your home ... Let's chat about how to overcome that and just be your beautiful authentic self regardless! Haters gonna hate!! But you are perfect, always. xoxo
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We need to be kind to each other, you never know what someone is going through and what a difference a kindness can make in someone's life.
I needed this . I’m depressed and don’t have any family or friends . This really helped. Thank you ❤
Sending you so much❤❤❤
I don't have friends or family either. Your not alone girly. Sending you love💗💗
@@Faridapowsthank you
@@Andrea_k86thank you so much . I feel alone so much . I appreciate you more than you know . Thank you💜
@@thegroomingbabe1325 Of course girl! Your beautiful & much stronger than you can imagine. We got this!💪🏻💗💗
It is very apparent that your God given talent is being a teacher. Even with videos like this, I learn something from you and I am 56. Your amazing Marlena.
Only miserable people put others down. They need to criticize you to feel better about themselves. We’re all beautiful and need to lift each other up and help each other grow and thrive. There’s room for everyone to succeed!! Love you Marlena!! ❤
I'm almost 40 years old, & I gained my confidence over the years. I still have insecurities over some things, but I know that no one is perfect, no matter who they are & what they look like.
I agree 100% with you, you are such a warrior! I am so freaking proud of you! Being in an abusive relationship (of any kind) is one of the most difficult things to heal from, as a fellow survivor I applaud your strength and inner fire! You are an absolutely beautiful, amazing and wonderful human inside and out. You have such a sweet and genuine heart, sending you all my support and lots of love, I will always be on your side🫶.
You’re so right. Your internal confidence & self talk is so important. My self confidence journey really started the day I cut out all the toxic people in my life.
That's what I love about Marlena, she just like my bestie for years, having girls talk, chat about makeup and stuff
I am 53 and one of the best things about getting older is just not giving a flying doughnut what other people think, wrinkles? Yes and I earned every one of them, grey hair? Yes and I love it, all of these are badges of honour, they make me who I am. Your weight, just be healthy, you skin, it keeps your insides on the inside, and it's doing a great job, your nose? if it"s functional then don't mess with it, it's the gift your ancestors gave you and it is beautiful. Utimately, you are the only you in existance, why would you want to lose your unique beauty just because other people are transfering theur insecurities to you. Be you, you are already awesome and magnificent.
Switched to RUclips right on time! You are amazing ❤ My daughter was overweight when she was a little girl. My entire goal was for her to feel good about herself and not develop any eating disorders or complex. I made sure to ensure to only use positive language and make sure well meaning family didn’t impose their negative issues and comments on her. She is now a very healthy young woman who is so proud of herself.
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Thank you for making this. I needed to hear it. Before my husband, I was too in an abusive relationship. People don't realize how much mental abuse can affect us. I used to be so much more confident before him and he made it a point to bring me to my lowest. The healing is still going. The universe gave me a very patient husband who is also my therapist, lol I am now wearing more of the things I like. I was a bit sad that I only lost 17 pounds in a year. But it was in a healthy way. I am moving to the right path and I hope we continue to heal in this 2024. Lots of love to you! I hope you are having an amazing day.
I've lost 22 pounds in a year and half because of your old weight loss videos and I feel so confident irrespective of what anyone else thinks. Thank you for the inspiration, Marlena. I look in the mirror 🪞 everyday and say what I love about myself
My confidence didn't 'arrive' until I fully embraced the fact that I'm a lot more than just my appearance. I'm 54 now, and it took me way too long to finally start feeling good about myself, and now that I'm this mature, I often think about just how difficult it is to be a woman. It seems that most of society objectifies women as only possessing value for their physical beauty and desirability. (How often do you hear about young men being sex trafficked vs women?) We women are hard on ourselves, and society is hard on us too. We just need to learn how to appreciate ourselves and one another for who we are and ALL we have to give the world.
Thank you for sharing. I feel you.❤ I grew up in the 60s when Twiggy, the model, was our influence. I've grown up with body dysphoria and have struggled with it until I started studying biology, anatomy and physiology and learned what our bodies do to keep us in operation every second of our lives. I learned to thank my body daily and overlook my faults. Our bodies are amazing! Blessings ❤❤
I can relate to so many things you say! My son's father treated me like garbage he would pick apart my body all the time. He was ruthless. I'm so happy I finally had enough and left him. I'm happier now than I have ever been and he is still miserable ! I wasted some of the best years of my life with him. I will never allow anyone in my life to treat me the way he did. Life is way too short to be miserable. 😊
This video is a gem, so many women struggle with a weight issue and there is so much pressure on us to loose weight, but we are so much more then that , so thank you for this ❤
You’re beautiful inside and out, it just shines through. I only, at 52, *finally* learned to love myself and feel beautiful in my own, flawed skin. Much love, thanks for your honesty and down to earth approachability; I love learning everything you have to teach. ❤
There is a phrase, you cant heal in an environment that broke you, getting away from critical, condescending "family and friends" that sabotage you, will make a huge difference.
I almost couldn't watch this video after the "she has such a pretty face" intro. I heard this every day from my mom and grandmother. My sister was "the pretty one," and I was "the smart one." It frickin' haunted us -- my sister who routinely tested in the genius range on standardized tests, never really did anything with her towering intellect. She's had a bunch of surgeries, though, to maintain herself -- which is IMO ridiculous. I got the advanced degree, and I was 40 and newly married before I believed anyone could look at me and find me even a little physically attractive. Those words in childhood words really have power, and adults need to be WAYYY more careful with their mouths. In my late 50s now, and finally free -- and I'm still heavier than I would like, but it does not affect me like it used to. Now, it's about health. Thanks so much for your honesty -- you will never know how many hearts you touched today.
It took me until I was 40 to stop caring what others thought about me. It truly is freeing! I also stopped saying negative things to others. Treat others as I want to be treated.
There was a lady in my neighborhood who said that I wear too much makeup. Yes, it did offend me at the time, but I learned to say fuck the haters. That woman was just jealous anyways because she walks around looking like a bum, wearing pajama clothes all day & messy hair. People are so ridiculous & jealous of other beautiful woman. Such disgusting behavior!🤦🏻♀️
@Tia, haha yes girl! There's so many crazy jealous nasty people out there. I hope you never experience that. Your beautiful my friend.🤗💗
The sense of entitlement people must have to declare loudly that another person doesn't PLEASE THEIR EYES. Women are not THINGS made to be commented on by the general public. Women are human beings.
Marlena I’m 31 and I’ve been following you since I was 17. You were my first inspiration and I always admired and looked up to you and still do. You were my mentor at a young age. Because of you I got into makeup. Makeup was my escape and comfort. Thank you! ❤
The very best advice that you can give is to NOT listen to other people! I’m more confident at 64 despite having to use a walker to walk, due to a muscle disorder, than I have ever been. Weight was never my issue, but I always felt that I wasn’t good enough. My ex husband didn’t help matters, but now I love myself, I am worthy and I have a wonderful second husband who I have been with for the last 20 years who loves me unconditionally. You have to learn to love yourself before you can attract the right kind of partner. Great advice Marlena, and a beautiful makeup look as well!
Self-validation and seeing yourself as worth more than how you look is life changing.
It’s shocking bcz you are literally stunning, SMART, & have such an ethereal voice. (And when I see you collabing with other makeup ppl, I just think to myself that you’re prettier). And thank GAWD you don’t look like every other influencer or celebrity in the world. Everyone has Sameface & a rail thin body that’s painful to look at. I’m so glad you’re an individual and not a carbon copy.
It’s such a good thing for you and for us to see. It gives me hope for myself.
Thanks for sharing! I feel that it’s so important for humanity that we share these experiences. Cause we all have them! And for me, the worst thing about it is feeling so alone with these emotions. But I’m not alone! And neither are you!
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Thank you for talking about this…. I also found my confidence, found MYSELF 2 years ago at 42. You are spot on. Hugs to you Marlena 💜✌🏻
Powerful! Make sure the voices in your head love you instead…. My favorite song has that line and that has stood out to me since the 80’s.
It’s difficult to stop caring about what others think of you when it was my father who said that I was not beautiful when I was growing up.
I’m nearly 50 years and it’s still stuck in my mind and affecting me.
argh yeah gotta love those backhanded compliments. people just don't think sometimes
And I was bullied for being too skinny and having acne.. I was lonely and quite depressed inside.. Now I am 59 and look 10 times better than girls who did a damage to me for the rest of life..I was a model and traveled the world being a flight attendant..They, not so much.. Make up was my refuge and still is..I totally understand how you felt..
Love it! I think that confidence with age. And it feels like 40 is the magic number. I’m in my 40s and that’s when I don’t give a shit what people think of me. As long as I’m happy that’s all it matters ❤. Love you Marlena!
I have been a follower for years. I remember all those stories that you talked about except the thigh surgery one. Man that totally sucks that was done for other people and not yourself. You have been through so much. Only Heavenly Father knows why. But yes confidence is not going to happen overnight but being consistent will. Great tips. Tips that I need to take into heart. Thanks so much for opening up about your life and being a great example to us all. 🥰♥️🌺
Kindness and Grace. That's what we need to deal with people. Treat them with KIndness (boundaries are kindness!), and give them Grace when they seem to offend.
Marlena, I have watched you from the beginning and I always loved your excitement, passion and beauty (inside and out). I am sorry you had to deal with all that BS. These experiences, I feel, usually teach us something and if strong enough emotionally, we can come out better despite the unkind or downright cruel and unjustified intentions. Stay strong and be true to yourself. Best always for you and your family.
I have followed you for years and years. I have ALWAYS thought you were stunning! no matter what y our size was! You are Gorgeous inside and out!
Thank you so much for this video. I needed to hear this so bad. I've gained a lot of weight over the last few years due to health issues and so many people have come to me saying omg what happened to you because I was primarily thin my entire life. It is so debilitating and crashes everything you feel internally. Thank you for this. I needed to hear that I am so worth it and still a great person.
Fantastic video. I think your honesty and self-awareness will help a lot of your viewers. I've had many similar life experiences, and it is only now that I'm 55-year-old that I am starting to feel comfortable with myself. I agree with all the advice you have given, and I thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story xxx
Well said. The subtitles gave me this, "Don't carry what other people think," and that's the message I'm taking. I can hear what they say, but not carry it with me.
Greetings from Australia ❤
I love these makeup GRWM coffee chats! You are a wonderful and beautiful woman Marlena!! Thank you for using your platform and experience to help others! ❤
The only way to build true self-confidence is to do things that are hard.
Thank you for this !!! I would really wish you would bring back the OOTD...used to love them from you and so so inspiring especially with all the pieces from Marste which i have and love so so much. Thank you xxxx
I love our coffee talk!❤❤ Personally, UGH! Why do I find it so difficult to put myself first, and putting the needs of others as a higher priority? Such simple advice - emphasize what I love and make myself a priority...I pledge to myself to practice this daily and do my absolute best to take care of myself 💗
I'm 64 years old and I feel so much more confident when I do my makeup. I never got into makeup until I was 57. I mean I wore mascara eyeliner but nothing like now. My eyes, my smile and my hair! Thanks for all your wisdom
I love your vulnerability in these last few videos I’ve watched. You are an absolute gem and strong woman to share the things you’ve shared. I heard somewhere that disregarding negative opinions people have about you is one thing, but we need to also disregard the positive opinions about you as well. They are just opinions and to be swayed either way gives the power to the opinion holder. It is so important that we truly love and value ourselves, regardless of anyone’s opinion of us. Wayne Dyer(I think 🤷🏼♀️) said something to the effect of “your opinion of me is none of my business” Love you ❤😊
Bear ever video about makeup - even though it was about so many other things than just makeup!! I’ll think about this every day when I put my makeup on. Thank you!!!!!
Thank you for sharing your journey on being confident. I deeply appreciate the tips and the experience you share. Sometimes the worst judge that we have is ourselves. Keep up with the videos, we love ❤ them!
👏👏👏 Every woman, especially under 40, needs to hear this. Thank you for adding that you still have your moments, like we all do. The pressure to always be confident can be it's own thing. You are 💯 and gorgeous
Great video… as someone who has struggled with my weight my whole life I feel you girl… it took a long time for me to love me. Great advice!!
Same - I grew up hearing all that, including from my own mother and family.
Thanks for sharing Marlena. So sorry you went through that and so happy you learnt and are in a better place now. No sympathy just empathy here ❤
Same, due to medical conditions, I’m the largest I’ve ever been. But as I enter my 40’s, I realize I’m caring less of what society deems as ‘beautiful.’ ❤
Thank you Marlena. You speak from wisdom and experience. You are so beautiful inside and out.
Good to see you❤ I heard that quote over and over again!!! I can’t even can’t! I lost 136 lbs with WLS gastric bypass 14 years ago. I worked so hard thru exercising and being careful. Then I had 2 hope replacements on the same hip and until just a couple a weeks ago it dislocated for the 5 th time. So, I can’t exercise at all! I thought about a pool but doctor told me the muscles are torn inside and getting in and out is too risky! I gained so much weight! Nothing fits. I can’t drive my daughter anywhere, I feel like I’m ruining her summer. When I could exercise sometimes I wouldn’t but I know it would make me feel so much better! I have been a sub with you since before MG was finalized you going through so much medical troubles and moving and same like me with the fertility treatments we have so much in common! Thank you for this talk today. 🙏
Thank you for sharing, Marlena. I love your take on all of this. I'm an older woman who has been through many of the experiences you've shared. I appreciate that you are sharing your wisdom.
Thanks for the encouragement. I’ve followed you for years and it’s been a joy to see you grow personally and professionally. Admire your determination.
Hello from Scotland Marlena. Firstly, thank you for this tutorial, as always professionally executed, and of course, looking absolutely gorgeous!!
Secondly, regarding self confidence and the toxicity of people, could not agree with you more. We must be our own person, it's a journey but we get there in the end!!
Cheers 🏴
Thanks for doing this. You are helping so many people.
I appreciate you being here for us !
Marlena thank you for all you share. You are so incredibly inspiring. I am so proud of the way you share these beautiful and important messages with all of us. You always leave me feeling even better about myself. What an important message that our confidence doesn't come from our looks or our bodies or what others think of us.
I think you are born with confidence. And then people point out things about you (nose, weight whatever) and you become ashamed of yourself and think about how your face looks and so on.
Oh Marlena I needed this so much. I have been feeling so insecure and sad these days. Any tips for feeling better is appreciated. Huge ❤ to you.
I love this series. Thank you so much. My boyfriend is about to move away from me and I've been struggling a lot with feeling like half a person without him. Your videos make me remember that I am whole and I can do it (hopefully ❤) thank you for making these from the bottom of my heart
Thank you for being so open. Love what you are saying. Thank you.
I absolutely love this.. I still struggle sometimes.But since I got in my 40’s I have became the most confident. I’m like you a little thick in my hips and legs.
Thank you! My husband finally agrees with me on having my lips done and possibly sculpting my jaw are. He said exactly what you just said “If it’s going to make you happy do it!” He said he only wants for me to be happy. I am happy but really want these two things done. So, I’m going to do it! I don’t listen to other people so I don’t know if anyone is talking about me. And, if they’re talking about me it’s none of my business. ❤
I feel your pain! I too have always been over weight! And my first husband was an abusive sheating alcoholic! I love your advice!! Im still working on it myself! ❤❤
This video is amazing. Thank you. I have been on a confidence and self love journey for a while and this video just reiterated everything I have been working on. ❤️❤️
This is such a wonderful video, thank you so much Marlena! God bless you
Thank you for sharing. I too have suffered with weight all my life and heard the name calling. When I first started watching you, I was attracted to your confidence and you are so pretty. Most of the cosmetic content creators are not naturally beautiful without the makeup, but you are stunning even without makeup.
Loved this video, I really needed to hear this. I've always struggled with confidence too. You are so beautiful inside and out! Thank you, Marlena!!
Does it feel bonkers to everyone else that society till places so much importance on physical appearance? Look how far we've come in so many other areas and yet we still cant ditch that BS! Thank you so much for this video Marlena, you are a beautiful woman inside and out 💖 (p.s. I like my boobs too, totally not TMI)
Thank you, Marlena! I have always loved your videos and I have always thought of you as a beautiful person inside and out. You are are a really good teacher.
Love you, ❤❤❤
Thanks Marlena! I needed this!! ❤
Thank you for your inspirational and motivational words. You are such a kind person. This was like talking and listening to a friend!
Thank you Marlena. What a beautiful person you are to share your experiences and thoughts to help others.
Love the make up too.
Marlena, thanks for your video! I know it will help so many people. You’re as beautiful outside as you are on the inside!❤
Thank you Marlena for always bringing quality content. You’re love.
Thank you for this! You’re truly beautiful inside and out! ❤
Hi Marlena 😊👋
You are one my favorite makeup artists that I love to watch and recommend all the time whenever a friend of mine wants to create a beautiful makeup look.
You're beautiful❣️🥰😘
I am 51 years old and recently have lost a lot of weight, due to illness, and an illness that no one seems to understand. It is incredibly isolating and has changed every aspect of my life. However, I do not look unwell. What has stunned me, is the excitement that others have displayed in how I look, and the rush to congratulate me on how fabulous I am... I can honestly tell you that while sure it's nice to be complimented, none of these people were interested in the fact that I am unwell. How did it get to this, that how we look is so important, and that we rush to congratulate people, as though they are now better than they were before? Isn't kindness better? Isn't it better just to be a good and accepting person? I love beauty as much as the next person, but not more than decency, or kindness. Personally, I have become a bit resentful of the comments from others, so please everyone, love the skin you are in, because we are fabulous, just the way we are x
Thank you Marlena for your honesty. I know these subjects make you emotional and vulnerable and you still give us your honesty. I’m 58 and want a tummy tuck but I’m scared it might hurt too much. 😅
You are fabulous! Thank you for sharing, it means a lot! God bless!
Marlena, thank you!! I needed this my dear more than you know.
What a great video! I am forwarding this to my 17 year old daughter, who is gorgeous, but doesn’t see and worries about what others think
Thank you for sharing especially when you have love ones that have been there just like you. I cry seeing your video you going thru the same situation my son that’s 19 years old , but have weight problems since he was small, people are so mean. Thank you for your words, is exactly what I tell him
Thank you for always being so positive. I look forward to your videos!
I really needed to hear this today. Thank you so very much. ❤❤❤
I love this!! Thank you for sharing your story & I fully agree ❤ You are beautiful, especially because your tender heart shines thru 🥰🙏 Have a blessed day 🤗
Thank you for this video
I have felt ugly and less than for as long as I can remember …
One of my earliest memory of that is being in Girl Scouts in early elementary school and we had a field trip to a photo studio
We had our pictures taken and learned about developing film.
First meeting after that, I walked into the room, and saw a group of Girl Scouts and the leader standing with their back to me laughing at something
I walked up and asked what’s so funny?
They tried to hide it, but they were laughing at my picture! 🤦🏼♀️
As the years have passed, I have struggled to accept who I am and continue to do so
It’s nice and comforting to hear that I am not alone …
Love you as always!! Your video is so inspiring. 😊🩷🩷
I find the negative people say things because they are not happy with themselves. I totally agree with you about self confidence. It may be tough to build but it is so worth it. Jealousy is another reason people try and put you down. Thank you for your inspirational content.
Wow and thank you for this video and sharing your thoughts and you stories! You are a beautiful person inside and out
I used to get the same thing!😢 Now at the age of 60 and almost died due to a surgery I don’t care what people think! You’re beautiful!
NEEDED THIS!!!! so so so much. Thank you ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Great video! Thanks for encouraging us! Wonderful tips to help us in our journey!❤️
I just ❤you Marlena! This video was great! “I love my girls!!” And a beautiful attitude always makes you feel good! 🥰
I wish I was in your real life circle. You are so relatable and seem like such a positive fun person to be around. I was always known as “the good eater” in my family.
You’re so Beautiful, Marlena!! This is So kind of You.
Marlena, you are fabulous in every way possible. Your perspective is healthy, realistic and I am onboard!
I really needed to hear this. Thank you! ❤❤❤❤