I don’t think words can express how much I relate to your viewpoints on relationships. I don’t know what is wrong with some of the young men our generation, but it’s rare to find a guy who is mature and I refuse to settle for someone who lacks maturity.When you said “I was born a whole person”....I felt that in my soul. Yes ma’am.
It's not the young men of your generation..I think the companies that used to manufacture good men were all shut down. I was married for 11 years and we divorced like 5 years ago. I have been single for 5years and I haven't found a worthy guy to even chat with, leave alone going out with.
A woman like her is blessed. She will find what's right for her and keep it. That's my hopes for her. And anyone like her who's tryna love theyself, be true to this life, on point, and not playing any games.
I love that more and more people are talking about how they've been single for a long time. I feel like we think that there is something wrong with people who aren't in relationships (which is _so_ wrong), so seeing more and more people talk about being single is so uplifting and positive!
This is a great video. I dated a man for a year who told me, he didn't like me wearing makeup, couldn't dye my hair, wanted me to homeschool kids and give up my dream of working in marketing at a music label. Girl I moved to Texas and got some space and realized how much I had lost myself. Then broke up with him. Thanks for this video. ❤️
Girl my last "relationship" was at 15 in highscool and I don't count it cause it wasn't serious. I've never been in a relationship and I'm happy. I'm not willing to settle. I'm only going for someone who makes me happier than I already am. I also don't believe in having someone else to complete you. I'm 22 btw
I've never related so hard in my life. This is exactly what I say to my friends when they're going through their boy troubles. I feel like I'll be single for a minute. Being 23 with this mindset makes you bored and unimpressed with EVERYBODY. I love building my self worth and people love it but want to contain it, and that ain't happening loool.
For you to be so young and have your head on straight like this is impressive. The entire video I’m like “yesssss yesss girl y’all to em”. Never lower your standards trust me you are not asking for too much
So I’m about your age and I’ve been married for a couple years. My husband grew up with his mom and grandmother and he is definitely not intimidated by a strong woman. He’s constantly pushing me to be better and I do the same for him. You just have to hold out for someone better!!
LISTEN ! Learned this at 40 damn years old... I'm glad to hear from an attractive younger woman also seeing the same nonsense. Makes me feel 10000% better about my decision to avoid people not worth my time! 🙌🏿
Say that!!!! 🙌🏾Its never too late. Things are different then they were when we were younger. So many more resources and opportunities. My daughter up and accepted a job in Europe in her twenties. Single. Life is too short to not be happy. Sorry, but I felt your reply! 😊
True point about thee audacity. This dude told me last night that women need to be women again and that it's up to him to allow women to be women and not be so tough. All because he said "have a good night" and I said "I will, you too" ! He felt challenged by that? BLOCKEDT
At 23 I was living the HELL out of my life! I was learning who I was in life. Building that person in me that would be good for a husband/boyfriend etc. at 34 I have now married my love and I felt like my 20’s prepared me for that. I wouldn’t trade my 20’s for the world. live your life girl you will find the one when the time is right!❤️
You bring me so much hope!! I have been single all my 20s dating sometimes but i always stayed single pretty much. Im 30 now and ready to settle down. Just need to find the right person lol
MusicFiend2013 Trust the process. When I didn’t I could tell. When it wasn’t right. Dating is healthy and fun. (Sometimes) Lol ❤️❤️ Last but not least PRAY! ☺️
Found my husband seriously at 14 been friends for 15 years and together for 11 years married for 7years on 4/30, he was just different, a good head on his shoulders had real goals and has accomplished most of them working on our business now, he said he prayed for someone like me and I was actually doing the same and I believe God but us together real. Ull find him.
Girl, I’m 24 and you’re so relatable. Where I live, most guys that I have spoken to, only talk about sex and that’s extremely annoying and it’s definitely a turn off. Like if all you can talk about is that, then clearly you’re nowhere on my level and need to leave pronto🚪🚶🏽♂️👈🏼 I chose to marry myself in the end cause I ain’t got time for that noise 💆🏽♀️💍❤️
Yes, ma’am! I’m glad to hear you saying this. Being single isn’t a death sentence. Too many women settle for men who treat them like crap and it’s because they don’t know their worth and have forgotten they’re a prize. Also, I agree with the fact that a lot of these dudes act like girls and will lay up and let a woman take care of them. You don’t have to be in a relationship for show. So many people are and they’re miserable. The right one will come along and you’ll know and you’ll be happy. Keep your standards, it’ll pay off. It did for me.
All I can do is applaud you for this video.👏👏👏👏 Your way of thinking is miles ahead of folks older than you. You're saying things in your 20s that I'm saying now in my 30s. If I knew then what I know now... Knowing your worth and holding firm to your standards and not settling is so admirable. You're an inspiration, Ms. Jaelen🥰
I felt this! I’m 22 & in college and I swear these men act like they want me to sweep them off their feet 😂😂😂. Like I’m applying for a position hoping to be picked. A joke 🤦🏽♀️. I don’t know who raised them or what females have bent over backwards for them but no sir not me ! I’ll be single for however long.
I’m going on 31 and still single, my mom keeps trying to convince me that I’m too picky and that I don’t have the right mindset but everything you said reflects how I think. Maybe it’s generational, but I would prefer staying single if the other option is to be with someone who’s not up to my standards just so that I’m not alone.
Wow you have a very mature mindset for such a young person. So So very good for you. Yes wait honey!!! Bad relationship experiences because you want to rush into a relationship leave you in a state where you have to heal or you'll drag your baggage into the next relationship. One has to reflect on a bad relationship and grow from it and wait, heal and get over the person before moving on. It's so good to get to know yourself and what you want from a man.
Be careful bc not all "fine" guys are good guys. Some of them know they're "fine" and that will be the problem. Glad u have other requirements beside just fine😂😂
You’re doing great, by being single now. I was with 1 person and married in my 20s. I learned a lot, but I wish I would have dated more. I’d say date often, nothing wrong with a man taking you on a date. But you are not obligated to commit to them. Date different kinds of men: age, race, ethnicity, professions, etc. You’re right, you are the prize. Keep that attitude. Continue to build and improve upon yourself. A man should never be the center of a woman’s universe. She should the be center of her own world. You are already on the right track and wise beyond your years. Keep those standards high and remain in your feminine (you are to receive).
GIRL THIS WAS ME! I'm 27 from NY. My husband and I meet when I was 22. In the club for my birthday. I was tipsy having a great time, he was djing. I'm married now and happy! I didn't settle! He meet me where I stood, we complement each other! Your King is coming, just wait.
OMG! You’re such a Scorpio 🦂 I really commend the high self-esteem, high standards and confidence you have for yourself! Scorpio gang gang over here too!!! Keep that bar high sis and continue to make these guys work to reach that bar! In the end, it will separate the boys from the MEN! Periodtt!😏
Girl! That line about your toxic trait being fatally attracted to men and they can’t get their act together 🤦🏽♀️ 🗣😭 same!! Going through a breakup right now! Your freshly conditioned curls are so gorgeous 😍 your hair in general is GORGEOUS 🤩
A confident man is so attractive, but there's a fine line between confident and arrogant. Arrogance is the biggest turnoff. When you said there's a time to have fun and a time to be serious, I nearly shouted out "PREACH Sister!"
I’m 21 and bi and I’ve never been in a relationship. I just don’t come across many who meet my standards, deeply interests/inspires me, & that like me too. Lol emphasis on that last part. I’m constantly confused by how people be in relationships back to back or date the first person that flirts with them. Then I realized that the average person has low standards and is settling!! I always thought something was wrong with me so it’s refreshing that you’re talking about this :)!
Every man I've dated said they want a strong and independent woman until they meet one that's actually strong and independent. I've had guys wanting me to "dim my light" for them. Like sir, who are you? You better get on this level or get tf out. Girl you gotta date people who are older. I'm 26 and some these men are so immature. They want a mother, not a woman. I refuse to settle at this point.
Can we please get more videos like this lol! I’ve never related and laughed so much to a video like this 😂! I feel like we are literally the same person. I’m 24 and currently going through this same phase as well. Love your page girl ❤️ definitely want to here about more topics about relationships and self love, life, and friendships for sure!
me and my bf started dating senior yr in high school and i have a lot of self esteem issues but what im not finna do is forget what im worth. and i remember my mum telling me that when i start dating to be BOLD even if i feel like i shouldnt bc like u said men want u to conform. i remember setting my boundaries right away and being myself with him from the get go. best decision i ever made cuz u let them do something once they gon do it for the rest of the relationship. he was willing to meet me halfway and tbh if we ever break up (which i highly doubt we will tbh) i dont think i'll go back to men LMFAO thank goodness im into girls too cuz lord...
They forget WHO the prize is...it's ME, young man. Not you! *smh* LMVO!!! I laughed so hard about this!!! I'm single, and fact is, I can't settle. Every person I've been with I've dumped. And they all try to come back saying they made a mistake *smh*. Can't go backwards. Having a type? I'm 5'2 and love 6ft+ too❤ The audacity of men? LOL!!! I HAVE used that combo conditioner, and the curls pop later!!!
Dont ever settle! I didn't meet and marry my now husband until I was 26. Most guys now-a-days are just boys not men! You know your worth and never forget it. I had dated guys and it was like "meh", and I thought that was all the guys that were left in the world. I met my husband and he is literally my other half, like my best friend, and we just fit together. If i would settle for these boys out here i wouldnt be with the MAN im with now. God will send the right man your way. These boys out here want girls not women. Your future man will love you, for just who you are not who he wants you to be!
Im in the process of leaving my relationship and God really used you to remind me of who I am. Sometimes in relationships, as women we lose who we are and leave peices of our worth and you are just reminding me and plenty other women of who God made us to be. Im so appreciative of you for making this video!
My Scorpio moon was living for all of this! Everything you said was straight facts! And a lot of men expect women to have and give a lot of things that they don't have or give themselves. But, I am the same with everything you said!
Omg. Deep conditioning have been saving my hair !!! I can’t do without it!! I’m growing back my hair and looking for a few new DC’s thanks for sharing.
I’m 38 and honestly The same thing they love us for is the same thing that hate us for. It doesn’t matter that age it’s about the mentality. Age just shows how long you’ve been around. My ex has said “that’s why you don’t have a man, I said where’s an example of one”? His face was all types of screwed. They like to test your temperature a lot and set and keep those boundaries. It’s worth it, trust.
I really think it isn't ladylike, but that's how I was raised. My mom has 8 sisters, her mom had 4. They all taught us to value ourselves, demonstrate we have manners and carry ourselves with the respect we expect. Whatever you're comfortable doing at home you will do in public. Of course one should feel free in their own home to do as they wish but I will judge a guy by his manners, so I am not surprised that men judge women that way.
Yessss! Don’t ever compromise I’m much older than you and got married young, I settled for much less than I deserved. You are a beautiful girl and I’m not saying stay single bc there are some good men out there and you deserve one; but I am old skl and I believe that a man should pursue you, there are a lot of younger and older women today that accept anything just to say they have someone and far to many women chase after men and I think that’s a turn off (my opinion) He will find you bc your spirit will call him, and he has to be confident in himself to handle a young, beautiful successful woman. ❤️❤️❤️ your channel
You and I are so alike in this thinking! Ohhhh and you hit every point to the nail📌 the face mask at the end made me crack up and I don’t know why😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
I had to pause this video quarter way through. I just have to say you are the most enlightened 23 year old I have ever encountered..and I am 23...and you seem genuine and truthful in what you say..geez..glad I clicked this video to have some wisdom imparted lol
You are most definitely the prize. A lot of men are used to woman chasing and fighting over them and I think some are spoiled. So when you met a guy he may do the bare minimum and expect for you to go above and beyond........... I would like to have the conversation about societal pressures that are placed upon women such as being married with kids before a certain age. Or even owning a home by a certain age or getting a degree
I'm gonna be real people will probably roast me but I didn't date till 22, pretty much swerved and dived until I met my currently boyfriend at work. He came into my life and he had me shooketh, I actually worked on making a relationship and no we together almost 2 years. I learned a lot and he learned a lot and we both just happy af, and I feel insanely lucky for this. So best thing for everyone I learned, don't look and be patient trust someone will come like a random ass hurricane about to hit Florida lol!
My mom and grandma called me ghetto for drinking my wine out the bottle.. IN THE HOUSE. Like ik I’m bout to drink this whole bottle so what do I need a cup for?
I think men maturing slower is a Western myth, because my husband had to be mature to make up for his sister’s mistakes! So it was quite the opposite. He was never coddled and his mother made him be responsible, not to mention that he’s extremely self-directed and conscious of who he is a Black man. I think some men are just spoiled no matter what age. They take advantage of the fact that it’s more women than men and play into the myriad of myths about gender relations which are honestly habits we have developed from other people’s culture. To have someone “over” an “other” is not the ancient ways of African culture which is summarized as the concept of Ma’at (look that up if you have a chance, it encompasses all the things you mentioned and it’s a Black worldview!) So you are on the right track, once you find someone who is self aware, all the other things will follow, I promise!
I love your strong will, driven personality, and refusal to settle. Yes you are the prize. I agree with almost everything you mentioned, and I'm especially impressed with your insight at such a young age. The only thing I differ on and have taught my 25 year old son is your issue with manners. I do believe good manners are important and that certain things aren't ladylike. But I was raised that way. I've taught my son that people come from different cultures, values and upbringing, you don't need a partner who is the same in all aspects, you just need someone who respects what's important to you and is willing to determine what works best for your combined household. Compromise and acceptance of some differences is a necessity in any successful relationship. Inflexibility/ rigidity will lead to conflict and frustration in any relationship
"Bullcaca" that sent me ! Especially, because I'm French and we use the word "caca" too ! 😂😂 And why do I feel like watching my own self talking about why I'm still single ?! 😩
This man told me “My only REQUIREMENT of you is that you take me out on dates too” GURLLLL 😂😂😂 I LOST my shit cause how dare you. I’m a very supportive person, I know my worth, I have THREE degrees, I’m thoughtful, I’m a good listener, and I’m independent. So for somebody to tell me that theres a requirement in order for me to be worthy of them? NAH he was straight dubbed after that
Thank you for this video, as a mother of three grown daughters. Now I understand what they are thinking. My 23 year old daughter has a 6 year old son and she feels the same way. I am from the old school and I am so having fun listening to you. My daughters talk to me but I see them as my babies so sometimes I don’t listen to their foolishness.
I like the way you think Jalyn! When that man comes into your space it’s gonna be amazing because you are going into it with the best mindset ever. Continue doing you.
Baby them insecurities show when he realize you ain’t with the bullshit. It’s about being independent and being yourself and sorry girl I’m loving this! We need to just have a convo likeee omgggg
Where did you come from??? It is so refreshing for someone your age to be that smart. You are speaking my language. You should help other young women your age because they settle for the young men bull crap. I love your attitude, stay real, beautiful and stay strong.
Girrrlllll listen.... it's the same in your older 20s. I feel the exact same way. They just older.... I'm so proud that you have such wisdom in this area. Many young women settle for men who they know good and well are not on that level. I did it when I was young too. It's so important to know yourself and what you're worth! You go girl! (Martin Voice)
I love this video so much. you’re such a genuine funny person with an amazing vibe. you shared so many concepts in this video that really shows how great of a person you are. you’re confident, smart, beautiful, and are aware of your self worth which is absolutely perfect. i love your channel with a burning passion and you as a person. please don’t ever stop making videos
Why are you me omgggggg! I am 23 and my last like situationship was in high school too. I’ve witnessed horrible relationships around me and I refuse to settle for someone who just not it. Everything you were saying was my exact mindset rn and it’s crazy 😭 love you sis!
Also 23, also extremely content being single exactly for EVERY SINGLE POINT you made. I agree, I don't know if it's our age, or just the guys in our generation, because it truly feels like traditional roles are reversed and I hear it from all my friends too! I'm happy to be like this until a worthy person comes along.
Okay but can I just say that these words were so true... you said it the best I’ve heard in a longgg time💯 It’s nice to see someone with a similar mindset and having a logical reasoning for being this way💯 btw I love your realness ❤️
Hi, I went through a stage a few years back where I had met guys that were not man enough for me and they were all about themselves. So, I opened my dating pool (race and age group) and I have been meeting people of quality. However, follow through, integrity, quality and open minded are characteristics or traits that are hard to get in a man. So, be patient and keep searching. Also, go to business networking events when we are not on lockdown and travel far as it's easier to make connections in foreign grants than home. NB: Ignore ladies who will be saying that your criteria for a man are too high. They settled, so they don't want you to do well or have not got exposure to what can be possible.
Glad you're living your life. Idk why being single at 23 is even a question. I'm 35 and wish I knew this at 23. This is the time women should be getting to know themselves and enjoying life unrestrained by a man or manbabby. You are very wise. Love your content 🥰😘
Great great did I say great video!!! EVERY woman should hear this message of wisdom!!! You ARE mature beyond your age!! I'm 57 y/o, I wish I had your wisdom at 23y/o!!💁🏽🙌🏾👊🏾👏🏿👌🏾👍😀
On a spiritual level we have those who complete us. Now not together they aren't perfect. But you'll feel this since of togetherness that equals completeness.
Comment deep condition and chill topics you would like to see me cover. I want to make this a series on my channel!
NaturalReign popular opinions , girl chit chats , story times !!
could you please have a video of all your bloopers too. thanks much love!!
also could you do a video on how you take care of your piercings. much love babess! :)
Your future goals/ plans for the future
body image! idk if u have struggled but i know i have and would love to hear some advice on how to get over disliking ur body
"my fatal flaw is that I'm attracted to men " 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Well cats out the bag 🤷🏽♀️😂
A related to that on a seriously spiritual level😭
“the caliber of men is just.. bullcaca”😭
You heard it here first 😂
I don’t think words can express how much I relate to your viewpoints on relationships. I don’t know what is wrong with some of the young men our generation, but it’s rare to find
a guy who is mature and I refuse to settle for someone who lacks maturity.When you said “I was born a whole person”....I felt that in my soul. Yes ma’am.
It's not the young men of your generation..I think the companies that used to manufacture good men were all shut down. I was married for 11 years and we divorced like 5 years ago. I have been single for 5years and I haven't found a worthy guy to even chat with, leave alone going out with.
Catt Cattleya I agree with that too!
Sis I’m 42 and the older men are wooorrrrsssstttttt.
“Half treating me right ain’t treating me right at all.” SAY THAAAATT✨❗️
I yelled ," HELLOOOOO" when she said that lol I really felt that
Relationships are two wholes, not two halfs.
“I’m the prize.” PERIOD SIS!
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She should do a vid on how she found her worth or how to love your self /be confident I want to be like her A strong woman
yesssss sistaaaaa we need ittttt ASAP!!
A woman like her is blessed. She will find what's right for her and keep it. That's my hopes for her. And anyone like her who's tryna love theyself, be true to this life, on point, and not playing any games.
I love that more and more people are talking about how they've been single for a long time. I feel like we think that there is something wrong with people who aren't in relationships (which is _so_ wrong), so seeing more and more people talk about being single is so uplifting and positive!
"That's not lady like" .......😐😐so me🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
This is a great video. I dated a man for a year who told me, he didn't like me wearing makeup, couldn't dye my hair, wanted me to homeschool kids and give up my dream of working in marketing at a music label. Girl I moved to Texas and got some space and realized how much I had lost myself. Then broke up with him.
Thanks for this video. ❤️
Brittany Turner that was a man(lil boy) who has the definition of being submissive all wrong. Glad you were able to see that he was not for you.
Whewwww sis he sounded like he had the potential to be abusive. I’m happy for you for walking away ❤️❤️
Girl, I'm glad you walked away. He was too much. Trying to control the way you present yourself..what in the hell
Good for you, Honey!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Im late, but I love when a young woman sees her worth and decides to move on. Awesome!
Girl my last "relationship" was at 15 in highscool and I don't count it cause it wasn't serious. I've never been in a relationship and I'm happy. I'm not willing to settle. I'm only going for someone who makes me happier than I already am. I also don't believe in having someone else to complete you.
I'm 22 btw
I've never related so hard in my life. This is exactly what I say to my friends when they're going through their boy troubles. I feel like I'll be single for a minute. Being 23 with this mindset makes you bored and unimpressed with EVERYBODY. I love building my self worth and people love it but want to contain it, and that ain't happening loool.
For you to be so young and have your head on straight like this is impressive. The entire video I’m like “yesssss yesss girl y’all to em”. Never lower your standards trust me you are not asking for too much
So I’m about your age and I’ve been married for a couple years. My husband grew up with his mom and grandmother and he is definitely not intimidated by a strong woman. He’s constantly pushing me to be better and I do the same for him. You just have to hold out for someone better!!
That's so beautiful 😭
LISTEN ! Learned this at 40 damn years old... I'm glad to hear from an attractive younger woman also seeing the same nonsense. Makes me feel 10000% better about my decision to avoid people not worth my time! 🙌🏿
Say that!!!! 🙌🏾Its never too late. Things are different then they were when we were younger. So many more resources and opportunities. My daughter up and accepted a job in Europe in her twenties. Single. Life is too short to not be happy. Sorry, but I felt your reply! 😊
True point about thee audacity. This dude told me last night that women need to be women again and that it's up to him to allow women to be women and not be so tough. All because he said "have a good night" and I said "I will, you too" ! He felt challenged by that? BLOCKEDT
Wow he sounds psycho...he ever heard of manners ?
@@tb291 Girl, it's narcissism..that's the problem!
@@liv24k you dodged a bullet
@@tb291 real talk, I ain't neva blocked so fast 😂
Wow, he has so much insecurity lol
At 23 I was living the HELL out of my life! I was learning who I was in life. Building that person in me that would be good for a husband/boyfriend etc. at 34 I have now married my love and I felt like my 20’s prepared me for that.
I wouldn’t trade my 20’s for the world. live your life girl you will find the one when the time is right!❤️
You bring me so much hope!! I have been single all my 20s dating sometimes but i always stayed single pretty much. Im 30 now and ready to settle down. Just need to find the right person lol
MusicFiend2013 Trust the process. When I didn’t I could tell. When it wasn’t right. Dating is healthy and fun. (Sometimes) Lol ❤️❤️
Last but not least PRAY! ☺️
@@Forevermally Yes pray!!! Thank you so much!!
Found my husband seriously at 14 been friends for 15 years and together for 11 years married for 7years on 4/30, he was just different, a good head on his shoulders had real goals and has accomplished most of them working on our business now, he said he prayed for someone like me and I was actually doing the same and I believe God but us together real. Ull find him.
She doesn’t need him.
“I was drinking wine from the bottle. I sure was” BIG MOOD 😂😂😂
Girl, I’m 24 and you’re so relatable. Where I live, most guys that I have spoken to, only talk about sex and that’s extremely annoying and it’s definitely a turn off. Like if all you can talk about is that, then clearly you’re nowhere on my level and need to leave pronto🚪🚶🏽♂️👈🏼 I chose to marry myself in the end cause I ain’t got time for that noise 💆🏽♀️💍❤️
Same I couldn’t have been better myself I’m just so hot and beautiful and clever intelligent and that attracts me to me
"Men and their audacity" lmao yep I feel you girl! 🤣😭
Yes, ma’am! I’m glad to hear you saying this. Being single isn’t a death sentence. Too many women settle for men who treat them like crap and it’s because they don’t know their worth and have forgotten they’re a prize. Also, I agree with the fact that a lot of these dudes act like girls and will lay up and let a woman take care of them. You don’t have to be in a relationship for show. So many people are and they’re miserable. The right one will come along and you’ll know and you’ll be happy. Keep your standards, it’ll pay off. It did for me.
All I can do is applaud you for this video.👏👏👏👏
Your way of thinking is miles ahead of folks older than you. You're saying things in your 20s that I'm saying now in my 30s. If I knew then what I know now...
Knowing your worth and holding firm to your standards and not settling is so admirable. You're an inspiration, Ms. Jaelen🥰
Thank you love!! I’m glad I decided to post this video because I am seeing so many people who can relate! 🤗❤️❤️
“I’ll be fine with you or without you or by myself “ period I don’t let know one dictate my happiness there are plenty of people out there
I wish every young girl would watch this and BELIEVE it. Ugh, so much pain would be avoided. I love it!!!!
I felt this! I’m 22 & in college and I swear these men act like they want me to sweep them off their feet 😂😂😂. Like I’m applying for a position hoping to be picked. A joke 🤦🏽♀️. I don’t know who raised them or what females have bent over backwards for them but no sir not me ! I’ll be single for however long.
I’m going on 31 and still single, my mom keeps trying to convince me that I’m too picky and that I don’t have the right mindset but everything you said reflects how I think. Maybe it’s generational, but I would prefer staying single if the other option is to be with someone who’s not up to my standards just so that I’m not alone.
NEVER lower ur standards
Wow you have a very mature mindset for such a young person. So So very good for you. Yes wait honey!!! Bad relationship experiences because you want to rush into a relationship leave you in a state where you have to heal or you'll drag your baggage into the next relationship. One has to reflect on a bad relationship and grow from it and wait, heal and get over the person before moving on. It's so good to get to know yourself and what you want from a man.
Be careful bc not all "fine" guys are good guys. Some of them know they're "fine" and that will be the problem. Glad u have other requirements beside just fine😂😂
Exactly! But I have found through my own experience that even the "boogah bears" think that they are fine too, which is interesting. 😂
"Did you do a Google search?" I'm asking the same question 🤣🤣
You’re doing great, by being single now. I was with 1 person and married in my 20s. I learned a lot, but I wish I would have dated more. I’d say date often, nothing wrong with a man taking you on a date. But you are not obligated to commit to them. Date different kinds of men: age, race, ethnicity, professions, etc. You’re right, you are the prize. Keep that attitude. Continue to build and improve upon yourself. A man should never be the center of a woman’s universe. She should the be center of her own world. You are already on the right track and wise beyond your years. Keep those standards high and remain in your feminine (you are to receive).
THIS!!! 🙌🏾
I needed a distraction from this online class. Amen sis 💕
Lol I’m here for you!!
“What did I do to make him say dat and think they we was gone continue the conversation?” LMAOOOOO I’m hollering!!!
GIRL THIS WAS ME!
I'm 27 from NY. My husband and I meet when I was 22. In the club for my birthday. I was tipsy having a great time, he was djing.
I'm married now and happy! I didn't settle! He meet me where I stood, we complement each other! Your King is coming, just wait.
She doesn’t have to wait and don’t need him good men don’t exist
OMG! You’re such a Scorpio 🦂
I really commend the high self-esteem, high standards and confidence you have for yourself!
Scorpio gang gang over here too!!! Keep that bar high sis and continue to make these guys work to reach that bar! In the end, it will separate the boys from the MEN!
Periodtt!😏
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Zodiac signs doesn’t define who u r
Im relating so much and I'm only like 2mins in 😭😭😭😭♥️
See I knew I couldn’t be the only one 👀
Hell yah 😂
Girl! That line about your toxic trait being fatally attracted to men and they can’t get their act together 🤦🏽♀️ 🗣😭 same!! Going through a breakup right now! Your freshly conditioned curls are so gorgeous 😍 your hair in general is GORGEOUS 🤩
You’re wise beyond your years! Continue to thrive and stay true to yourself. You are the prize!
A confident man is so attractive, but there's a fine line between confident and arrogant. Arrogance is the biggest turnoff.
When you said there's a time to have fun and a time to be serious, I nearly shouted out "PREACH Sister!"
Sexism plays such a big role in some relationships it’s kinda sad.
Not only is the old school way but the lord’s way. A man that finds a wife , he finds a good thing. Be that good thing. 😏
Thhaaankkk yoouu
I’m 21 and bi and I’ve never been in a relationship. I just don’t come across many who meet my standards, deeply interests/inspires me, & that like me too. Lol emphasis on that last part. I’m constantly confused by how people be in relationships back to back or date the first person that flirts with them. Then I realized that the average person has low standards and is settling!! I always thought something was wrong with me so it’s refreshing that you’re talking about this :)!
THIS, this right here. People really are so sad with themselves that they can't be alone for a lot of their life.
I have neverrrrrr seen someone with the same mindset when it comes to this subject until this video.
Keep praying he's cooking up. Pray and believe and keep that mindset of not settling down.
When she said " I would like to be in a relationship but only if it's real and I won't force any thing " I felt that
"I was drinking wine from the bottle.. I sure was!"😂😂😂
“He’s trying to see if I will Knuck and I WILL Buck” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😃😃
GIRL, I love your mindset so much that I clicked on that bell! These boys of our generation really need to tighten tf up
Every man I've dated said they want a strong and independent woman until they meet one that's actually strong and independent. I've had guys wanting me to "dim my light" for them. Like sir, who are you? You better get on this level or get tf out. Girl you gotta date people who are older. I'm 26 and some these men are so immature. They want a mother, not a woman. I refuse to settle at this point.
Can we please get more videos like this lol! I’ve never related and laughed so much to a video like this 😂! I feel like we are literally the same person. I’m 24 and currently going through this same phase as well. Love your page girl ❤️ definitely want to here about more topics about relationships and self love, life, and friendships for sure!
" half treating me right aint treating me rigth at all" Peeerrriioooddttt sis omg i love your mindset.
The mentality you have now WILL get you the man that’s right for you. You attract what you project and you are projecting perfection. That is all.
me and my bf started dating senior yr in high school and i have a lot of self esteem issues but what im not finna do is forget what im worth. and i remember my mum telling me that when i start dating to be BOLD even if i feel like i shouldnt bc like u said men want u to conform. i remember setting my boundaries right away and being myself with him from the get go. best decision i ever made cuz u let them do something once they gon do it for the rest of the relationship. he was willing to meet me halfway and tbh if we ever break up (which i highly doubt we will tbh) i dont think i'll go back to men LMFAO thank goodness im into girls too cuz lord...
I got so much from this vid I’m a teen who loves watching her videos but I really loved this video because I want to be a strong woman like her
They forget WHO the prize is...it's ME, young man. Not you! *smh*
LMVO!!! I laughed so hard about this!!!
I'm single, and fact is, I can't settle. Every person I've been with I've dumped. And they all try to come back saying they made a mistake *smh*. Can't go backwards.
Having a type? I'm 5'2 and love 6ft+ too❤
The audacity of men? LOL!!!
I HAVE used that combo conditioner, and the curls pop later!!!
Dont ever settle! I didn't meet and marry my now husband until I was 26. Most guys now-a-days are just boys not men! You know your worth and never forget it. I had dated guys and it was like "meh", and I thought that was all the guys that were left in the world. I met my husband and he is literally my other half, like my best friend, and we just fit together. If i would settle for these boys out here i wouldnt be with the MAN im with now. God will send the right man your way. These boys out here want girls not women. Your future man will love you, for just who you are not who he wants you to be!
Im in the process of leaving my relationship and God really used you to remind me of who I am. Sometimes in relationships, as women we lose who we are and leave peices of our worth and you are just reminding me and plenty other women of who God made us to be. Im so appreciative of you for making this video!
My Scorpio moon was living for all of this! Everything you said was straight facts! And a lot of men expect women to have and give a lot of things that they don't have or give themselves. But, I am the same with everything you said!
Everything you’re saying is so damn accurate I’ve been single forever for those same reasons smhh these guys our age need to get their shit together
Jalen!!! Listen sis...same page, same book. Someone had to say it and I'm so glad I'm not looking around wondering if I'm crazy
Omg. Deep conditioning have been saving my hair !!! I can’t do without it!! I’m growing back my hair and looking for a few new DC’s thanks for sharing.
I’m 38 and honestly The same thing they love us for is the same thing that hate us for. It doesn’t matter that age it’s about the mentality. Age just shows how long you’ve been around. My ex has said “that’s why you don’t have a man, I said where’s an example of one”? His face was all types of screwed. They like to test your temperature a lot and set and keep those boundaries. It’s worth it, trust.
You better speak on it!!!!😏😏😏I love how you break it DOWN about the characteristics of some men...speaking absolute truth.👍👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Girl you are so wise and mature! I’m proud of you, beautiful 😍💗 keep being YOU!
How is drinking wine out the bottle when your at home not lady like . It’s WAYYYY worse things for a woman to be doing
Tina Snow i was gonna say that is the most lady like thing I know
Yes!
I really think it isn't ladylike, but that's how I was raised. My mom has 8 sisters, her mom had 4. They all taught us to value ourselves, demonstrate we have manners and carry ourselves with the respect we expect. Whatever you're comfortable doing at home you will do in public. Of course one should feel free in their own home to do as they wish but I will judge a guy by his manners, so I am not surprised that men judge women that way.
Yessss! Don’t ever compromise I’m much older than you and got married young, I settled for much less than I deserved. You are a beautiful girl and I’m not saying stay single bc there are some good men out there and you deserve one; but I am old skl and I believe that a man should pursue you, there are a lot of younger and older women today that accept anything just to say they have someone and far to many women chase after men and I think that’s a turn off (my opinion) He will find you bc your spirit will call him, and he has to be confident in himself to handle a young, beautiful successful woman. ❤️❤️❤️ your channel
This is everything!! I’m here for all this energy NEVER SETTLE 🗣
You and I are so alike in this thinking! Ohhhh and you hit every point to the nail📌 the face mask at the end made me crack up and I don’t know why😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
I had to pause this video quarter way through. I just have to say you are the most enlightened 23 year old I have ever encountered..and I am 23...and you seem genuine and truthful in what you say..geez..glad I clicked this video to have some wisdom imparted lol
You are most definitely the prize. A lot of men are used to woman chasing and fighting over them and I think some are spoiled. So when you met a guy he may do the bare minimum and expect for you to go above and beyond........... I would like to have the conversation about societal pressures that are placed upon women such as being married with kids before a certain age. Or even owning a home by a certain age or getting a degree
I'm gonna be real people will probably roast me but I didn't date till 22, pretty much swerved and dived until I met my currently boyfriend at work. He came into my life and he had me shooketh, I actually worked on making a relationship and no we together almost 2 years. I learned a lot and he learned a lot and we both just happy af, and I feel insanely lucky for this. So best thing for everyone I learned, don't look and be patient trust someone will come like a random ass hurricane about to hit Florida lol!
My mom and grandma called me ghetto for drinking my wine out the bottle.. IN THE HOUSE. Like ik I’m bout to drink this whole bottle so what do I need a cup for?
I think men maturing slower is a Western myth, because my husband had to be mature to make up for his sister’s mistakes! So it was quite the opposite. He was never coddled and his mother made him be responsible, not to mention that he’s extremely self-directed and conscious of who he is a Black man. I think some men are just spoiled no matter what age. They take advantage of the fact that it’s more women than men and play into the myriad of myths about gender relations which are honestly habits we have developed from other people’s culture. To have someone “over” an “other” is not the ancient ways of African culture which is summarized as the concept of Ma’at (look that up if you have a chance, it encompasses all the things you mentioned and it’s a Black worldview!) So you are on the right track, once you find someone who is self aware, all the other things will follow, I promise!
I love your strong will, driven personality, and refusal to settle. Yes you are the prize. I agree with almost everything you mentioned, and I'm especially impressed with your insight at such a young age. The only thing I differ on and have taught my 25 year old son is your issue with manners. I do believe good manners are important and that certain things aren't ladylike. But I was raised that way. I've taught my son that people come from different cultures, values and upbringing, you don't need a partner who is the same in all aspects, you just need someone who respects what's important to you and is willing to determine what works best for your combined household. Compromise and acceptance of some differences is a necessity in any successful relationship. Inflexibility/ rigidity will lead to conflict and frustration in any relationship
“I’m the man in the relationship and I’m the woman” that part
"Bullcaca" that sent me ! Especially, because I'm French and we use the word "caca" too ! 😂😂
And why do I feel like watching my own self talking about why I'm still single ?! 😩
" half treating me right ain't trying me right at all". Amen!
I just started watching your videos today and I think this one...this is when I fell in love with you
Never ever settle. I wish I would have known this when I was 23. I’m 5 ft even and my husband is 6’2.
This man told me “My only REQUIREMENT of you is that you take me out on dates too” GURLLLL 😂😂😂 I LOST my shit cause how dare you. I’m a very supportive person, I know my worth, I have THREE degrees, I’m thoughtful, I’m a good listener, and I’m independent. So for somebody to tell me that theres a requirement in order for me to be worthy of them? NAH he was straight dubbed after that
Thank you for this video, as a mother of three grown daughters. Now I understand what they are thinking. My 23 year old daughter has a 6 year old son and she feels the same way. I am from the old school and I am so having fun listening to you. My daughters talk to me but I see them as my babies so sometimes I don’t listen to their foolishness.
I like the way you think Jalyn! When that man comes into your space it’s gonna be amazing because you are going into it with the best mindset ever. Continue doing you.
Baby them insecurities show when he realize you ain’t with the bullshit. It’s about being independent and being yourself and sorry girl I’m loving this! We need to just have a convo likeee omgggg
Where did you come from??? It is so refreshing for someone your age to be that smart. You are speaking my language. You should help other young women your age because they settle for the young men bull crap. I love your attitude, stay real, beautiful and stay strong.
Girrrlllll listen.... it's the same in your older 20s. I feel the exact same way. They just older....
I'm so proud that you have such wisdom in this area. Many young women settle for men who they know good and well are not on that level. I did it when I was young too. It's so important to know yourself and what you're worth! You go girl! (Martin Voice)
I love this video so much. you’re such a genuine funny person with an amazing vibe. you shared so many concepts in this video that really shows how great of a person you are. you’re confident, smart, beautiful, and are aware of your self worth which is absolutely perfect. i love your channel with a burning passion and you as a person. please don’t ever stop making videos
❤🤗😘❤ Love how you are Opening up to us.
I love how y’all peep the effort I’m putting in to open up because this is not easy for me 😅
Mannnnnnnn I needed to hear this!!!
Spitting straight actual factuals!!
Why are you me omgggggg! I am 23 and my last like situationship was in high school too. I’ve witnessed horrible relationships around me and I refuse to settle for someone who just not it. Everything you were saying was my exact mindset rn and it’s crazy 😭 love you sis!
you aint do nothing but speak facts and drop gems in this video. a true Queen !
Yes to this confidence at 23👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 go lil sis
Exactly why I'm single period and some men are intimidated by a strong woman but there is a man out there for us sis
I need to get my self straight! Wake up call!! 🤦🏽♀️😍🥰♥️ I love you, btw we the same age! I needed new motivation! Oh my gosh I’m finna go cry 😭😭
Also 23, also extremely content being single exactly for EVERY SINGLE POINT you made. I agree, I don't know if it's our age, or just the guys in our generation, because it truly feels like traditional roles are reversed and I hear it from all my friends too! I'm happy to be like this until a worthy person comes along.
Okay but can I just say that these words were so true... you said it the best I’ve heard in a longgg time💯 It’s nice to see someone with a similar mindset and having a logical reasoning for being this way💯 btw I love your realness ❤️
Hi,
I went through a stage a few years back where I had met guys that were not man enough for me and they were all about themselves. So, I opened my dating pool (race and age group) and I have been meeting people of quality. However, follow through, integrity, quality and open minded are characteristics or traits that are hard to get in a man. So, be patient and keep searching. Also, go to business networking events when we are not on lockdown and travel far as it's easier to make connections in foreign grants than home.
NB: Ignore ladies who will be saying that your criteria for a man are too high. They settled, so they don't want you to do well or have not got exposure to what can be possible.
Glad you're living your life. Idk why being single at 23 is even a question. I'm 35 and wish I knew this at 23. This is the time women should be getting to know themselves and enjoying life unrestrained by a man or manbabby. You are very wise. Love your content 🥰😘
Great great did I say great video!!! EVERY woman should hear this message of wisdom!!! You ARE mature beyond your age!! I'm 57 y/o, I wish I had your wisdom at 23y/o!!💁🏽🙌🏾👊🏾👏🏿👌🏾👍😀
Some men say they like a strong woman until they meet one!So relatable!
On a spiritual level we have those who complete us. Now not together they aren't perfect. But you'll feel this since of togetherness that equals completeness.