Hey all. Today I'm talking about how at the age of 25 I still hadn't been through a break-up and how I believe going through one could have helped my relationship with my ex. P.S. Thank you so much for the lovely comments on my last video (especially for being super understanding and not having a go at me for generalising a bit too much). I really appreciate you guys! I will respond to the comments on that video in a separate video. In the meantime, feel free to analyse what I'm talking about in this video, and comment it down below 👇 See you in the comments!
My ex wife who i adored and wanted the world for. She broke up with me last year and jumped straight into another relationship. Immediately, we haven’t even processed the break up and she was out on a date with the new person. It broke my heart honestly. Made me feel worthless and like our relationship didn’t matter at all. Anyways, we no longer talk. And I accept that it’s over for good. There’s no fixing anything, I just want to move on with my life and never look back. I hope you find closure in whatever you regret doing. It does you no good holding on to what you did, or ruminating how you could have played out. You’ll find your new person again and I hope it’s someone like your ex or similar. Even though that is so tough and probably improbable. Just know that it’s ok to let go. That’s what I would tell my ex if we were still talking today.
Some years ago my longest and best friend broke up with his girlfriend of 5 years. Very shortly after he went ahead and had a one-nighter with some girl, he wasn't happy with it and in the same night drove back to the mentioned now ex-girlfriend and had a night with her too. I LITERALLY felt sick to my stomach for days realizing his shitty behaviour and thinking about past hints. Even though he technically didn't do anything wrong since they weren't together anymore, and even though this had absolutely nothing to do with me and he was always a good friend to me, It was still narcissistic and shitty thing to do so much so that I cut him out I couldn't be his friend anymore. He also said something about keeping her around until he becomes like 30 when he can't have one-nighters anymore so then he will take her back. So yeah, I hope you find some relief in my story because even I who had nothing to do with the whole situation found it so disgusting and selfish that I had to say fuck off and goodbye to him. He's also an 22yo Andrew Tate enthusiast so that tells a lot. A guy who I considered my best friend turned out be be a compulsive liar and a manipulator.
@@3O2MuStAnG yeah. Found out that it was a guy from her past. She never even mentioned about this guy to me. No relationship, no backstory. Nothing. I only found out that he existed when she started dating him and things just didn’t add up until I went snooping around.. It is what it is.
Break ups are just nasty. I'm in a similar boat as you, I'm 27 and I've only been in one relationship, I was 24 at that time. The break up was awful and completely destroyed my self-esteem, though I don't know if experiencing a prior breakup would have helped, breakups are just nasty nasty situations that aren't comfortable for anyone.
Similarly I went through my first breakup at 27, now 28 and it still hurts but learning to deal with it slowly. It’s 100% changed me both during and after the relationship but I wish I had gone through this sooner. I hope the best for you!
This thought of leaving a person because you think you are going to find a better deal is almost never a good idea. I had done it in the past, and I regret it deeply. Especially because people evolve and get better, more wise with time and experience, making them even more interesting. Like you, I feel regret and pain, and it is not good. At least I can say I learned my lesson, as I think you have learned yours. I also learned about myself a thing i didn't knew : i'm a deeply loyal person that will never want to leave my romantic partner, like ever, and i cant play with that loyalty otherwise it will hurt me profoundly and i might not forgive myself for that. In the end, no one is perfect and you will probably end up leaving one imperfect person to another imperfect one in the hopes to " get a better deal ", and worst of all hurting a good person and breaking your deep and strong loyalty and love ( if you are that kind of person ). I guess modern times didn't teach us enough about this profound need for loyalty of never, ever giving up on a decent person ( observation : the person must be decent, i'm not talking about cheaters, people who don't work, etc... ). When you persist and never give up on work or in the gym, i will eventually get massive results and success, or at least keep things working good and better than people who quit, and i figure it is the same in love, you need to be loyal and persist on your lover, never giving up on them no matter you are passing. I honestly felt empowered when i had that idea, i felt a deeply strong energy in me that i can give to another human being so i can keep us together and working, it looked something bigger than myself, and not more being that weak person looking for reasons to quit, thinking the other is not so good, and not even aware of the preciousness of the relationship you form by being with a decent person, the great companionship related to that, and how hard i would miss it if i break it. Lessons learned. I wish I could apply for it with my ex and make us work, but she does not want that and I accepted that fact ( after all, i was the one who left, the quitter ). For my next relationship, I promised myself I will find a decent woman (my ex was a decent woman, i left by mistake, as i said) and will never, ever quit her, no matter what life throws at me. Sorry for any typo, english is not my native language, im using google to help me write it!
@@EmilyW-2000 that is a very beautiful thing. Cherish the relationship and don't give up no matter what comes your guys' way. If you've got love and respect, everything else can be worked on.
Had this the first time at 30 after a 9-10 years relationship. I understand why old people sometimes die fast when theyre life long partner dies. It took me 5-6 years to reach a point where i thought "okay. Maybe i am ready for something new" but i still have problems to think about starting something new because i never want to loose something like that again.
@@KarolinaWrites I'm sorry but i respectfully disagree, finding a life partner is not difficult. You go on dates and have flings with men who are essentially the same person and treat you like garbage. When you hit 30 you start asking "where were all the good men in my 20s?". Those good men were there, you friendzoned them or igored them completely while you targeted the top 1% of men. Again, i say this with respect but it's reality.
@@KarolinaWrites when I'm at 25 I experienced so many break up 😂 I don't take it seriously in relationships, that's why I never got traumatic, you need to keep looking for the right person who deserve your love, you'll feel it when you find it, you'll feel comfortable and can be yourself with that person, that's the one. Don't be traumatic just because one person break your heart, go find someone else when you break up and you'll forget your ex soon, so many good person out there, you just need to looking for the right one
@@omw2myw661 thank you for that! I think that's why a person needs to go through break-up early on in their life to know that it's ok to break up and that it's not the end of the world. It's definitely a tough one because we were together for 5 and a half years, and we had all these future plans. We essentially grew up together, so that makes it really hard. Like someone you love and care for so much dying but they're still out there living their life without you.
@@KarolinaWrites I feel you, yes that's different relationship when you have something like that, you already thought that is the person, and you give all your feeling and love into it, but you're wrong, that's why it's hard, I had in relationships 8 years with a person, planned about the future, everything, and she left when she got a better job than me, she definitely forgot that I'm the one who helped her get that job, she even told me "you will leave me when you be a success man" I said no, but it's her who did this 😂
@@KarolinaWrites Easy for me to forgot her, just find someone else, it will distract my mind to think about her, and focus to yours new one. It's really help
Contradicting advice, you are very generalising. You should not get into relationships fast (break up very often in your life). You should be sure before you really get into the relationship that this is definitely a person you want to be with. You can only really get to know 3-5 Persons in your life. For some maybe even just 1 or 2. Don't dump someone only because you think you have to get through breakups. People break up way to often nowadays instead of really trying to communicate and fix things.
@@Pluttarch you can't be sure if you've not been in other relationships before. Or maybe you can. I don't know, it's hard to tell. Some people know it's the right person straight away without going through break-ups. Everybody is different, I guess.
Jesus what a fucking rude thing to say. This woman makes a video about her feelings and you decide to come on here and say "damn you look so much older than you are". Just go be a jerk somewhere else.
Hey all. Today I'm talking about how at the age of 25 I still hadn't been through a break-up and how I believe going through one could have helped my relationship with my ex.
P.S. Thank you so much for the lovely comments on my last video (especially for being super understanding and not having a go at me for generalising a bit too much). I really appreciate you guys!
I will respond to the comments on that video in a separate video.
In the meantime, feel free to analyse what I'm talking about in this video, and comment it down below 👇 See you in the comments!
My ex wife who i adored and wanted the world for. She broke up with me last year and jumped straight into another relationship. Immediately, we haven’t even processed the break up and she was out on a date with the new person.
It broke my heart honestly. Made me feel worthless and like our relationship didn’t matter at all.
Anyways, we no longer talk. And I accept that it’s over for good. There’s no fixing anything, I just want to move on with my life and never look back.
I hope you find closure in whatever you regret doing. It does you no good holding on to what you did, or ruminating how you could have played out. You’ll find your new person again and I hope it’s someone like your ex or similar. Even though that is so tough and probably improbable.
Just know that it’s ok to let go. That’s what I would tell my ex if we were still talking today.
Some years ago my longest and best friend broke up with his girlfriend of 5 years. Very shortly after he went ahead and had a one-nighter with some girl, he wasn't happy with it and in the same night drove back to the mentioned now ex-girlfriend and had a night with her too. I LITERALLY felt sick to my stomach for days realizing his shitty behaviour and thinking about past hints.
Even though he technically didn't do anything wrong since they weren't together anymore, and even though this had absolutely nothing to do with me and he was always a good friend to me, It was still narcissistic and shitty thing to do so much so that I cut him out I couldn't be his friend anymore.
He also said something about keeping her around until he becomes like 30 when he can't have one-nighters anymore so then he will take her back. So yeah, I hope you find some relief in my story because even I who had nothing to do with the whole situation found it so disgusting and selfish that I had to say fuck off and goodbye to him. He's also an 22yo Andrew Tate enthusiast so that tells a lot. A guy who I considered my best friend turned out be be a compulsive liar and a manipulator.
The reason she seemingly hopped into the other man's arms "instantly" is she was cheating on you with that guy possibly for ages.
@@3O2MuStAnG yeah. Found out that it was a guy from her past. She never even mentioned about this guy to me. No relationship, no backstory. Nothing.
I only found out that he existed when she started dating him and things just didn’t add up until I went snooping around..
It is what it is.
@@3O2MuStAnGyeah most of the time they have a person their interested in before they break up... it's happened to me twice
Break ups are just nasty. I'm in a similar boat as you, I'm 27 and I've only been in one relationship, I was 24 at that time. The break up was awful and completely destroyed my self-esteem, though I don't know if experiencing a prior breakup would have helped, breakups are just nasty nasty situations that aren't comfortable for anyone.
@@samsquanch1996 break-ups are not great, but they teach you a lot. Hope you're ok.
Similarly I went through my first breakup at 27, now 28 and it still hurts but learning to deal with it slowly. It’s 100% changed me both during and after the relationship but I wish I had gone through this sooner. I hope the best for you!
@@ttomproductionzit's not easy but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I guess 💪 thank you and you too!
This thought of leaving a person because you think you are going to find a better deal is almost never a good idea. I had done it in the past, and I regret it deeply. Especially because people evolve and get better, more wise with time and experience, making them even more interesting. Like you, I feel regret and pain, and it is not good. At least I can say I learned my lesson, as I think you have learned yours. I also learned about myself a thing i didn't knew : i'm a deeply loyal person that will never want to leave my romantic partner, like ever, and i cant play with that loyalty otherwise it will hurt me profoundly and i might not forgive myself for that. In the end, no one is perfect and you will probably end up leaving one imperfect person to another imperfect one in the hopes to " get a better deal ", and worst of all hurting a good person and breaking your deep and strong loyalty and love ( if you are that kind of person ). I guess modern times didn't teach us enough about this profound need for loyalty of never, ever giving up on a decent person ( observation : the person must be decent, i'm not talking about cheaters, people who don't work, etc... ). When you persist and never give up on work or in the gym, i will eventually get massive results and success, or at least keep things working good and better than people who quit, and i figure it is the same in love, you need to be loyal and persist on your lover, never giving up on them no matter you are passing. I honestly felt empowered when i had that idea, i felt a deeply strong energy in me that i can give to another human being so i can keep us together and working, it looked something bigger than myself, and not more being that weak person looking for reasons to quit, thinking the other is not so good, and not even aware of the preciousness of the relationship you form by being with a decent person, the great companionship related to that, and how hard i would miss it if i break it. Lessons learned. I wish I could apply for it with my ex and make us work, but she does not want that and I accepted that fact ( after all, i was the one who left, the quitter ). For my next relationship, I promised myself I will find a decent woman (my ex was a decent woman, i left by mistake, as i said) and will never, ever quit her, no matter what life throws at me. Sorry for any typo, english is not my native language, im using google to help me write it!
@@tordek7639 great advice! Sometimes mistakes are necessary because there is a lesson that otherwise wouldn't be learned.
The one girl I ever loved, broke up with me just because of my obvious issues 😢😢😢😢. Still haven’t found a girl wholl love me for ME❤
I'm 24 and I never experienced a break-up because my hubsand was my first love and crush.
@@EmilyW-2000 that is a very beautiful thing. Cherish the relationship and don't give up no matter what comes your guys' way. If you've got love and respect, everything else can be worked on.
Had this the first time at 30 after a 9-10 years relationship.
I understand why old people sometimes die fast when theyre life long partner dies.
It took me 5-6 years to reach a point where i thought "okay. Maybe i am ready for something new" but i still have problems to think about starting something new because i never want to loose something like that again.
@@Vollmilch-Joghurt it's very painful, and we only appreciate it when it's gone- that is the saddest part of it all.
You'll rebound fine, women have it much easier when it comes to dating and finding partners.
@@aarons6935 women do have it easier to find a one-night stand, but to find a loving partner is a tough thing for us as well.
@@KarolinaWrites I'm sorry but i respectfully disagree, finding a life partner is not difficult. You go on dates and have flings with men who are essentially the same person and treat you like garbage.
When you hit 30 you start asking "where were all the good men in my 20s?". Those good men were there, you friendzoned them or igored them completely while you targeted the top 1% of men. Again, i say this with respect but it's reality.
You will look back at this one day and be glad it happened. Trust me ❤
Wait. 25?!
I'm 41 and never experienced a break up!
@@kabouterwesley83 that's alright. Everybody is different.
I'm the first here ❤
@@omw2myw661 yay, welcome! Feel free to leave some feedback 🙌
@@KarolinaWrites when I'm at 25 I experienced so many break up 😂 I don't take it seriously in relationships, that's why I never got traumatic, you need to keep looking for the right person who deserve your love, you'll feel it when you find it, you'll feel comfortable and can be yourself with that person, that's the one. Don't be traumatic just because one person break your heart, go find someone else when you break up and you'll forget your ex soon, so many good person out there, you just need to looking for the right one
@@omw2myw661 thank you for that! I think that's why a person needs to go through break-up early on in their life to know that it's ok to break up and that it's not the end of the world. It's definitely a tough one because we were together for 5 and a half years, and we had all these future plans. We essentially grew up together, so that makes it really hard. Like someone you love and care for so much dying but they're still out there living their life without you.
@@KarolinaWrites I feel you, yes that's different relationship when you have something like that, you already thought that is the person, and you give all your feeling and love into it, but you're wrong, that's why it's hard, I had in relationships 8 years with a person, planned about the future, everything, and she left when she got a better job than me, she definitely forgot that I'm the one who helped her get that job, she even told me "you will leave me when you be a success man" I said no, but it's her who did this 😂
@@KarolinaWrites Easy for me to forgot her, just find someone else, it will distract my mind to think about her, and focus to yours new one. It's really help
Contradicting advice, you are very generalising. You should not get into relationships fast (break up very often in your life). You should be sure before you really get into the relationship that this is definitely a person you want to be with. You can only really get to know 3-5 Persons in your life. For some maybe even just 1 or 2. Don't dump someone only because you think you have to get through breakups. People break up way to often nowadays instead of really trying to communicate and fix things.
@@Pluttarch you can't be sure if you've not been in other relationships before. Or maybe you can. I don't know, it's hard to tell. Some people know it's the right person straight away without going through break-ups. Everybody is different, I guess.
26? Damn, girl, no offence but I thought you're at least 38.
Jesus what a fucking rude thing to say. This woman makes a video about her feelings and you decide to come on here and say "damn you look so much older than you are".
Just go be a jerk somewhere else.