There's a book called "Stolen Focus" it talks about social media and how it has negatively impacted our cognitive abilities! It completely changed my life, haven't completely cut out social media but slowly doing it! Great video Lucy!
I deactivated my ig on 12 may 2022 after watching your video. Was strong enough to not even think abt reactivating it. But on 7 June I just decided to come back “and see what’s happening in the world’’ nothing new same old stuff. People posting pictures, stories for likes comments and validation there’s nothing new to them. And I am not even using it. I don’t text ppl there I just watch cat memes and that’s it. I have other modes of communication with my genuine friends. And that’s all i want. I’m thinking of deleting it forever now :)
it’s not really worth it tbh , me too i deactivated Facebook since 2016 and now i only have messenger to stay in touch with my friends and for study reasons , i deactivated instagram since 2019 , and like you did i sometimes comeback and tell myself ‘ i left this app for a reason why did i comeback ? ‘ , social media is full of fake images about people’s lifes .. everyone wants to prove that his life is the best and they rarely take photos for souvenirs but to impress other people because they’re insecure in their own skin .. , no social media at all is not good because we aren’t cave men lol , but one app like viber or messenger or twitter where u use it for keeping in touch with what’s happening in this world is alright , did you delete ig for good ?
@@Yaniis Relatable. I’ve been delaying it for so long, and I give myself this excuse “oh but I don’t even use it that much” which is somewhat true and somewhat no. I use it a lot on explore page passing time watching memes which is bad too since im not using it in my free time 🤦🏻♀️, then some days i get back into those toxic habits of stalking ppl, thinking abt how their life is better than me. Ugh
Giiiirl im also at 15 months without IG and it feeeeeeels soooo good!!!!!!! Now I have sooo many hobbies I could cry, and to not talk about all the time we have to just lay down under a tree, best time spent ever :*
@@LucyAlllan That's great! Me too! 99 percent of the times I just open youtube to watch videos like yours! They have really changed the way I perceive my life!😄
If you go back to it, you realise it hasn't changed, and then you know why you left. So trust me, never go back and never look back. Its insanity. The only thing I would say to protect your brand is maybe to have a website just in case anything ever happens to youtube. Much love.
@@sleeptide3350 stop using social media for 2 weeks and then go back to it. Notice is it changed or not? Then stop using social media for 2 more weeks then go back again. Notice is it changed or not? Then you will understand what do I mean.
Yes, and you think you will have missed so much but you haven't missed anything! I took a month off of Instagram and when I came back to it I thought I would have so many messages and people asking where I had gone - I had one DM and it was my friend sending me a meme!
I love seeing stuff like this! I went through and deleted my social media accounts (snapchat, tiktok, instagram, etc.) last month. By this time now the accounts have permanently deleted. As a 16 year old I took notice of the impacts social media has on people nowadays and how distracted everyone becomes. I just turned 17 and don’t regret what I did. I like the feeling of not being as distracted and seeing videos like this is a breath of fresh air.
Congratulations! I have deleted Instagram for a couple months around 2022 new year, I just downloaded it back lol and I know that it's a mistake because I feel more peaceful without it and now I really think to delete it again forever. 😘
I use Instagram just 15 or 30 minutes per day. I am 18, and I didn't need to delete my accounts. But RUclips... I spend a lot of time in YT. However, I see content like this, ir podcast, or music... I think that I couldn't delete my Instagram account, but i am happy that I am not addictive.
@@adaalonso Yeah you don't have to delete it permanently if you can control your usage and don't feel toxic about it. I'm happy for you that you aren't addicted to social media ❤️
This is what I've been feeling since 4 months ago where I deleted social media. As you said on this video, I feel happier than ever before. I am satisfied with small things like having enough food, going out with friends and even studying. We all don't live for getting likes or new followers or comments. We should live in our own life, not somebody else's life.
Personally, I haven't got any social media besides RUclips and apps to call friends on. It does suck seeing people around me getting distracted so easily, and focusing on other people's lives other than their own. Loved this video Lucy!
youtube is the 3rd worst social media app u can have for me ive been slowly going on less and less pretty much everyday but the reason its so addictive is because you can clearly see so many things that might intrrersted you and its such easy dopamine that is so hard to resist
I haven't had social media for more than 7 years, I deleted them because they lowered my self-esteem a lot. By removing them, you realize that you don't miss them, and my day has gotten so much longer without them, plus I feel more confident about myself! It is definitely the best decision I have ever made, now I have quality relationships with people and that makes me very happy! Nice video!
Wow Lucy this is just incredible I’m so proud of you!! In a world filled with instant gratification and comparison it’s nice to see inspiring videos like this. I definitely want to take a chapter out of your book and take a break from social media 💛
i actually found the courage to delete my social media accounts just a week ago and found myself rewatching your six months without social media vid. so glad to be here to watch your one year reflection. love this!
I've also stopped using social media for over a year, and it definitely helps making life and experiences more fuller, like actually learning about how your friends spent their day through their own words rather than through a few snapshots. I do have to admit though I might have overwhelmed myself with the amount of new hobbies I started I can barely keep up hehehe.
Not trying to sound old haha, but I'm 28 and I remember what life was like before social media. It was amazing and it's pretty sad how it's now "novel" to spend time away from internet like it's some challenge. Unfortunately though it's too inconvenient for most people nowadays not to use their phones. I have Instagram and RUclips, but I've always preferred in person communication and found social media was only useful if I was using it for business purposes.
The more time I spent without Instagram or Snapchat, the more I realised I didn’t miss them at all. I found more reasons to keep them deleted than reasons to re download. Instead of using the excuse of “oh it’s to text people” I asked for people’s numbers instead. This also got me out of a lot of unwanted conversations with people I didn’t like ;D
I'm not taking off a year entirely without social media, but I found so much peace and clarity on my mind without using them. I am now choosing my mental happiness and living a private/lowkey life. And this is new for me, because last year seems like every moment needs to be documented and I feel like I share too much about me and it leaves me no room for myself. I love your content. Sending love all the way from Philippines!🤍🙃
I agree with everything you said. Unfortunately, now I am fighting with my addiction to instagram. I’ve come to realize that that is the only social media that got me in a toxic cycle of endless scrolling and fomo. Also, and it’s ugly to admit, one of the main reasons why that is its because I have the unhealthy habit of constantly lurking on my crushes/exes who are not checking on me like that
I completely understand, and knoe the feeling.. just know u can change and shift your perspective/life/ & habits by surrendering to your old self. and realizing your new self is beautiful. ur worthy & ur capable of new things and experiences. A big percentage of these addictions we face is mentally which creeps into the emotion & etc... once u pin point the problem(s), the excitement & motivation is within finding the solution(s).... you got this my friend.🤞🏽👍🏽
It's been nearly two years for me and though cutting social media wasn't the only thing that needed to go out of my life, it was a step in the right direction. We become stronger individuals when we aren't influenced heavily by those online, being able to feel comfortable in our own skin and having the energy to go and have interests and experiences without having to tell the whole world.
Yeah, and for the past few years, being a "youtuber", I feel like i need to share everything and I can feel that I am doing things sometimes just for the content, and I feel bad for my friends, and so I am now quitting my socials and also taking a break from youtube. It was my best decision so far, living lowkey and private🤍
I went two months without and it was genuinely one of my happier times, i felt really at peace. i had time to be at work and do things with full attention, and when i was at home i had time to make art or watch a movie. my connections did get closer but you do need a good group of friends that are willing to stick around. but at some point i also felt lonely when i did come back realising i had missed out on some things my friends share. especially because i live alone this was a major factor to come back, it's been hard at times but i don't know if keeping yourself of the gram is also the solution. i feel it's balance. getting yourself to a point where you odn't have a need to check your phone all the time.
I quit all social media while at university - the only hard thing about this decision was the fact that EVERYONE was constantly asking me why on earth I did that, social media is often the heart of university social culture. I've never felt so happy and free and clear of thought. Recently I got Instagram again, as I've started a RUclips channel of my own and thought it would be good for promotion. I hate the way its impacting me already however, and am wondering if it's really worth it. I love your thoughts on this, it echoes my experience so well.A really beautiful video and message :)
You capture and word everything beautifully!! I stopped using social media a few months ago, and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made. In contrast to you, I feel like I've lost contact with a lot of people I considered "friends," but I'm happier and more content with the two friends I do have:)
For me though, even I am not communicating with my friends online, i am now appreciating their efforts to see and talk to me in person. That is next level contact for me. Anyways, keep going.
Not to be "that" guy, but I just had to react. If someone is on a diet and only eats cake on sunday's, it could be a really big accomplisment for that person. They maybe ate a cxake everyday before a diet. I hope you understand and that I let you think a little more out of the box. :)
i deleted tik tok in march 2022. since then my life is much more lighter, i guess. I see people getting distracted during the conversation. Don’t see anything good about it…Sometimes it’s bothering me. But then i’m remembering myself being as much obsessed as them. I love trees, sunrises and ideas which comes to my had because of great mental health. I had a deal with strong depression for a while (in a past), but now i’m the happiest person in the world. All at all, my life became beautifully ~right~ and warm. Now i can read books and watch films without checking my phone. I don’t care about spam-messages. Love urself and be more confident about life without social media!
I have definitely noticed similar benefits to taking time offline, although social media is also how I make money- being a photographer and content creator its unfortunately essential that being said it also provides me with such an immense amount of freedom, not working a 9-5, freedom to travel, express myself, build a community- I've met such amazing friends through it. I think, for me at least, its about curating how I'm using it, selectively following people, time limits- only using it a few days a week etc. If permanently deleting it works for some that's brilliant but there are absolutely ways to find the same benefits whilst still being on it :)
i deactivated my ig 3 weeks ago after 2 years with a time limit of first 50 minutes, then 30 minutes. even though i hadn't spend a lot of time on social media the last years, the difference is so real. life feels a lot slower now and i enjoy it. i watched all your videos on your quitting on social media and they help me stand behind my decision.
I deleted social media two years ago and everything you talk about in your video is exactly what I experienced! I love myself so much more and it’s crazy how little I compare myself to others compared to when I had social media! Like you say, life is so much more simple and you end up focusing on what truly matters rather than getting lost in a negative vicious circle! Anyways, thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience on the matter, it’s good to show the world that social media is not a « must have »
Hell yeah. It is not a must have, plus I appreciate my friends more now making an effort to actually see me and talk to me in person. Plus, there is so much peace in my head right now.
I got ADHD too and I don’t think it’s a „trend“ I think it‘s getting more noticed, because the understanding about it grows and Social Media is really heavily affecting people with ADHD and their ability too concentrate and but also keep them with addicting structures in which the hyperfocus plays a big negative role… I do really like your videos, but on this term I have too disagree. Because I habe struggled so many years without noticing what was causing the harm until I found out it was ADHD.
Your body is not a show off.....what a line! One random use somewhere in the world is proud of you. I am sure many are. Consider me a part of your league. A charmed circle of select few.
I’m a high school teacher and I’ve watched social media addiction play out in real time. The saddest part of it is your generation doesn’t see how much of your precious time you are wasting and how contagious misinformation and ideologies are on your identities and mental health. It’s so easy to hypnotize you into believing anything and to do idiotic things like vandalism and assaulting teachers. Glad you walked away from it
I’m 18 and deleted my Instagram accounts last year aside from a smaller one which I use rarely. I have so much peach of mind not seeing tons of people living “better” lives, and have found myself again. I do what I enjoy without thinking what others will think. I still have Facebook for my neighborhood but never use it for posting. I never got snap and am glad about that. I work at an ice cream shop and all the other girls there spend the whole shift snapping each other and worry so much about their image and it’s sad. I pray one day they will learn to love themselves as they are and not based on how others see or perceive them.
I love that you made a follow-up video lucy it was wonderful(: I deactivated my instagram coming up to almost 2 years pretty soon! it is truly one of the best decisions i’ve ever made for myself and my mental health. i love your content lucy and the podcast!(:
25th May 2021 I delete my social media, the best choice I've ever done! I feel close to all the feeling you have described! Nice to know that somebody in the world think in the same way. Thanks for sharing!
@@user-nz8nb2vi4n I froze social media initially thinking about doing it for a limited time, then seeing the benefits, I've been without them for over a year. Accounts exist and it would be enough to log in with a password, but I have reached the point where I have no instinct that makes me want to open social media.
During your experience, how did you deal with others who were still absorbed in their phones? Did you ever grow frustrated? How did you navigate interactions where you wanted to live in the moment, but that wasn't necessarily the case for the other person?
Thank you for following up on your videos! I'm only using instagram and I still can feel how it takes away my attention from better things from time to time... maybe it's time to ask for the phone numbers of all the people I care about :)
Is it just me who doesn't have the compulsion to check any social media even though every social media is installed on my phone I see my friends being glued to the screen and even when I try to talk to them they would pull out their and check the ig feed I occasionally open social media to check what's happening get bored and close the app within 5 mins
Saying “the whole world cries wolf when tiktokers diagnose themselves with the current trend” seems quite dramatic. There are a select few who probably want attention and will go about this by posting tiktoks about mental health, but I think it’s important to remember that social media has allowed people to form communities, without that many people would feel alone with their mental health struggles. Social media has helped and is still helping to break down stigmas surrounding mental health. I like the video, I just felt that you seemed quite bias when making comments about ADHD and social media.
I completely agree that social media has helped break down stigmas on mental health and I loveeee that part❤️ However it has also created A LOT of false information on it which makes young vulnerable people believe they have different disorders due to the misinformation and can actually end up misdiagnosing people. I think this is a very dangerous part because there is a difference between breaking stigmas and hurting those by putting them into the wrong boxes.
Honest question: is RUclips not considered a social media site? For example, wouldn't posting this video be considered using social media? Not judging, just confused because I would love to spend more time offline. Had thought that I was in the past but then I realized that RUclips likely counts as social media. I went pretty much up until 18 with no social media but then remembered that I had a RUclips before I ever created a Facebook or Twitter or Instagram. Great video! So relaxing.
RUclips is social media. So it is fairly hypocritical of her to mislead her thousands of followers that she’s taking a break while she’s simultaneously using this medium. It counts as the same thing, and has the same effects on the brain. Quit everything all together. Not just ig and fb.
@@jameseldridge3445 I agree that it counts as social media. However, I think even if one quits one or two social media sites, especially if it is the social media sites that they are on the most, then that is pretty helpful and productive. But yeah, it's interesting how many people don't count RUclips as social media.
i’m 2 months in without instagram and just WOW! my life is so beautiful all the time, but especially when i commit to being present and LIVING these experiences! thank you for sharing your journey!
You inspired me last year with your detox video and I started the same challenge for myself. I am so thankful for this step! Feel so much better now ❤️
🤣..i quit Facebook and Twitter in 2015 it was stupid at first i thought it was funny and silly i would connect with people i haven't seen or talked to in years but then it got boring stupid and political and annoying i never posted anything and it just wasn't my thing it wasn't my style so i just got rid of it i only use youtube when im bored to watch videos and people who im friends with still know my phone number and how to reach me i follow political stuff on the news but ill never do any social media ever again (not including "dating apps"...lol
J’ai 15 ans et cela fait 6 mois que je suis presque plus sur les réseaux sociaux ( 1h par semaine grand maximum ) et ça m’a beaucoup changé , au lieu de perdre mon temps sur TikTok ou de parler avec des gens alors que notre comportement en virtuel n’est pas le même que dans la vraie vie . Je lis , j’apprends beaucoup de choses , je me passionne pour tous et n’importe quoi . J’ai perdu quelques copains , mais j’ai gardé 4-5 très bon amis car le contact est le même en vrai . Je rentre au lycée et j’imagine donc me faire d’autres amis . Je conseille à tout le monde de le faire sans se renfermé de trop . Les réseaux sociaux sont une perte de temps et source de problèmes .
It is so cool what you have done, may I wonder , how can you afford your travelings ?,are you some kind of freelance ? if you could make a video it , it would be an interesting topic.
I work all year long whilst studying 😌 I’ve done bar jobs, restaurants, clothing stores gyms etc. I also take travelling jobs like Au Pair and Summer Camps to help me travel more too🫡
I always wanted to use social media less but I still was on it for soo many hours per day. Last week my phone broke and I still haven't got a new one yet & now I feel how much I love spending time on things I really do love & not being distracted for a while:)
i quit snapchat in november and instagram in april and i honestly never see myself going back. its just so much more relaxing and its so nice to not constantly be updated with things i really dont care about.
Bonjour Lucie (and everyone here) ! I follow you since a while now and I have to say that the kind of content you post, is the content I WANT to see more on youtube and everywhere in general. Your video is so simple and yet so effective. Just bravo. I never had tiktok but today I just wanted so too what it was. I left after 10 minutes because omg it was ... Full of terrible videos and even the good content were lost in an ocean of wastes... I just have youtube and Instagram for professional reasons so I am not having any problem with that. Life is just so much more enjoyable when you live it and YES now my friends don't tell me anymore "oh yes I saw that on your story !". So relieving ! Thank you for this video !
God Bless you Lucy, thats so awesome! Yes many times we are so focused on how we see ourselves everyday that we forget to take the time and appreciate God for everything that He has done and are doing for us. Yes it is important to take care of our bodies as they are the temple of the Lord, however, we shouldn't stress over losing weight or feeling uncomfortable in the skin that God put us in. Stay encouraged, each and everyone of you are beautiful, talented and unique individuals that God has made so don't spend your life diminishing or regreting the life that God has given you. Live a God given happy, peaceful, healthy mentally, spiritually, and physically joy filled life. God bless yall and don't give up on God's calling for your lives😊🙏💜💙 Many Blessings, grace and peace in Jesus name Amen
Now I am one of those who deleted nearly all of their social media, yet I believe that it's not social media that ruins our lives but it's our relationship with it, the quality of our lives depends on our relationship with things, with money, with people... You can still use social media and still have a quality life you just need to be the man in charge.
I love your videos about Social Media! Thank you! I have deleted Instagram in December and I don't feel the need to download it again. I love how it makes me see that beauty is everywhere in real life and I love the realness and heart connection about that 💕🌷🦋
Genuine question, is moderation a good alternative? I use instagram as a way to stay up to date with people in my larger social network and try to limit my use using app timers so I'm aware of how often I use it and more intentional with my time. I also don't find it controls my attention when I'm around other people, only when I'm alone.
I'm on the same page as you. I also don't post enough to feel like someone will ever know what I was wearing three days ago lol. I personally think moderation, or the WAY you use social media, is what really matters. But that's just a theory, maybe we should try taking a gap and see for ourselves :)
@@thunderstorms6886 yes :) a quick little cost-benefit analysis showed me that setting timers helped me limit the costs but still keep the benefits hehe. not sure I'll take a gap at least not for as long as a year! I'm a big fan of moderation in general
I wish I could do this but I have an autoimmune illness that keeps me at home most days so social media is my only form of contact :( I definitely try to use it less though because it’s really not good for my mental health
I used to be like this with clothes and outfits too. Like I felt like I couldn’t wear the same outfit SO SAD!!!!! Off social for 20 months and counting!
Hello！Lucy Allan, I am so motivated by your video, can I post your video on Chinese social media(without any profit purposes). I want Chinese people can get more from your video.
Ive always been sort of disconnected with the online world. Id miss that TikTok trend, or what happened to Queen Elizabeth because I wasnt online. Id stop connecting with my friends, and I still dont really connect with my friends because they are also stuck in the distracted loop. Im thinking about completely giving up my online presence, because nobody is going to miss me. The internet will continue to be the same, even when Im gone. At least I want to finish my website before I go, find an apartment and have a car, and be offline way more than I am now. Cheers from California. Edit: Everyone in the comments I wanna be your bestie all of mine are glued to their devices *sob*
I am from Pakistan, and people here have only one escape from problems and that is Facebook, just imagine every person of a country escaping their problems by using Facebook, how it must be affecting their mental health. We don't even have proper mental asylums. It's pure mess here. Thankfully I found the courage and left Facebook.
I just deleted my insta after watching this video and i'm not using fb anymore idk why but i feel so great after deleting instagram. Yk when i'm on insta i just think that ohh i have to click good pic like aesthetic i'm so concern about pic i have to look good i have to take a good pic to put on my story but now i feel so great i don't have to think about any of this things.
It's nice see your 6 month video off social media and now with one year because your video style had change hahaha your first video helped me to analyse my addiction to social media and I'm trying to be off it. I didn't went extreme and delete it but I uninstalled the app and just use it in the computer when I want search something specific... Doing this I started to use it more as a tool rather than a passive user that just scroll all day hahaha
Hi there I'd like to know something, what do u do for work without social media? And are u completely permanently delete social or just like temporary and hibernate it? Please answer thank you
It's been 24months of deactivating my Instagram and 10months of deleting my WhatsApp ..!!! I deleted because I wanted to focus on an entrance exam, but now m addicted to stay out of this chaos! I feel happier & at peace ❤ Lots of love Lucy Keep creating ❤
This is literally where I am at. I’ve been thinking about it on and off in the past few years. What’s been stopping me is what you mentioned the fear of loosing connection with my friends especially as I live abroad and also the fact that I kind of had some desire of learning how to make money online. But I feel a lot better off social media and away from my phone in general.
Couldn't agree more. The fear of losing my friends is scary but losing my self is not acceptable. Now that I choose my mental clarity and peace and my own happiness. Plus, I appreciate my "real" friends as they try to talk and see me in person.
There's a book called "Stolen Focus" it talks about social media and how it has negatively impacted our cognitive abilities! It completely changed my life, haven't completely cut out social media but slowly doing it! Great video Lucy!
Just finished this book and I want to tell everyone about it, such a great read.
Thank you for the book recommendation, absolutely can't wait to read it💃💃
Thanks for sharing Christina!
Checking it out 🙏
@@chloe3874 could u share the author's name please?
I deactivated my ig on 12 may 2022 after watching your video. Was strong enough to not even think abt reactivating it. But on 7 June I just decided to come back “and see what’s happening in the world’’ nothing new same old stuff. People posting pictures, stories for likes comments and validation there’s nothing new to them. And I am not even using it. I don’t text ppl there I just watch cat memes and that’s it. I have other modes of communication with my genuine friends. And that’s all i want. I’m thinking of deleting it forever now :)
it’s not really worth it tbh , me too i deactivated Facebook since 2016 and now i only have messenger to stay in touch with my friends and for study reasons , i deactivated instagram since 2019 , and like you did i sometimes comeback and tell myself ‘ i left this app for a reason why did i comeback ? ‘ , social media is full of fake images about people’s lifes .. everyone wants to prove that his life is the best and they rarely take photos for souvenirs but to impress other people because they’re insecure in their own skin .. , no social media at all is not good because we aren’t cave men lol , but one app like viber or messenger or twitter where u use it for keeping in touch with what’s happening in this world is alright , did you delete ig for good ?
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@@Yaniis Relatable. I’ve been delaying it for so long, and I give myself this excuse “oh but I don’t even use it that much” which is somewhat true and somewhat no. I use it a lot on explore page passing time watching memes which is bad too since im not using it in my free time 🤦🏻♀️, then some days i get back into those toxic habits of stalking ppl, thinking abt how their life is better than me. Ugh
I kinda wish I could do this, but my jobs are alle about social media, so I always have it. I just need to learn to part the privat and the job part.
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Giiiirl im also at 15 months without IG and it feeeeeeels soooo good!!!!!!! Now I have sooo many hobbies I could cry, and to not talk about all the time we have to just lay down under a tree, best time spent ever :*
I am sorry I maybe lost, but isn't youtube technically social media? We can talk to people, see their replies and like or dislike videos and posts.
I think it totally depends, I see it as more of a viewing platform than a social media :)
@@LucyAlllan That's great! Me too! 99 percent of the times I just open youtube to watch videos like yours! They have really changed the way I perceive my life!😄
Wow that’s amazing. I definitely want to do it too
It's calming and you can find the real meaning of your life
If you go back to it, you realise it hasn't changed, and then you know why you left. So trust me, never go back and never look back. Its insanity. The only thing I would say to protect your brand is maybe to have a website just in case anything ever happens to youtube. Much love.
You said it. It isn't changing a bit, it won't change and when you go back to it, you can't believe in what kind of a maze you where in. True hell.
@@BBartistic wdym pls explain it
@@sleeptide3350 stop using social media for 2 weeks and then go back to it. Notice is it changed or not? Then stop using social media for 2 more weeks then go back again. Notice is it changed or not? Then you will understand what do I mean.
Great point. It really never changes and you feel like you made a the right decision
Yes, and you think you will have missed so much but you haven't missed anything! I took a month off of Instagram and when I came back to it I thought I would have so many messages and people asking where I had gone - I had one DM and it was my friend sending me a meme!
I love seeing stuff like this! I went through and deleted my social media accounts (snapchat, tiktok, instagram, etc.) last month. By this time now the accounts have permanently deleted. As a 16 year old I took notice of the impacts social media has on people nowadays and how distracted everyone becomes. I just turned 17 and don’t regret what I did. I like the feeling of not being as distracted and seeing videos like this is a breath of fresh air.
Congratulations! I have deleted Instagram for a couple months around 2022 new year, I just downloaded it back lol and I know that it's a mistake because I feel more peaceful without it and now I really think to delete it again forever. 😘
I use Instagram just 15 or 30 minutes per day. I am 18, and I didn't need to delete my accounts. But RUclips... I spend a lot of time in YT. However, I see content like this, ir podcast, or music... I think that I couldn't delete my Instagram account, but i am happy that I am not addictive.
@@adaalonso Yeah you don't have to delete it permanently if you can control your usage and don't feel toxic about it. I'm happy for you that you aren't addicted to social media ❤️
You don't have to delete them, you can just put them on hold. That's also exercising your will power
Im 16 and i deleted most of my socialmedia
This is what I've been feeling since 4 months ago where I deleted social media. As you said on this video, I feel happier than ever before. I am satisfied with small things like having enough food, going out with friends and even studying. We all don't live for getting likes or new followers or comments. We should live in our own life, not somebody else's life.
and i can also enjoy every second from my activities.
Facts
What do I delete, do I delete yt? Or does that not count ofc Snapchat tiktok and instagram I’ll delete but how about message?
Personally, I haven't got any social media besides RUclips and apps to call friends on. It does suck seeing people around me getting distracted so easily, and focusing on other people's lives other than their own. Loved this video Lucy!
youtube is the 3rd worst social media app u can have for me ive been slowly going on less and less pretty much everyday but the reason its so addictive is because you can clearly see so many things that might intrrersted you and its such easy dopamine that is so hard to resist
I haven't had social media for more than 7 years, I deleted them because they lowered my self-esteem a lot. By removing them, you realize that you don't miss them, and my day has gotten so much longer without them, plus I feel more confident about myself! It is definitely the best decision I have ever made, now I have quality relationships with people and that makes me very happy! Nice video!
Is RUclips and discord considered social media
@@mechanicman3305 I would honestly say yes since they are media (or one medium and another medium) meant for you to socialize
@@danielleml thx lol
@@mechanicman3305 at least on RUclips you learn things
You can watch documentaries, tutorials to improve
@@TYGVlogger that's what I'm saying lol😅
Wow Lucy this is just incredible I’m so proud of you!! In a world filled with instant gratification and comparison it’s nice to see inspiring videos like this. I definitely want to take a chapter out of your book and take a break from social media 💛
i actually found the courage to delete my social media accounts just a week ago and found myself rewatching your six months without social media vid. so glad to be here to watch your one year reflection. love this!
Wow, that's good, that's very good! I hope to get up the courage soon, too, and be free 🙌
I hope it's going well!
I've also stopped using social media for over a year, and it definitely helps making life and experiences more fuller, like actually learning about how your friends spent their day through their own words rather than through a few snapshots. I do have to admit though I might have overwhelmed myself with the amount of new hobbies I started I can barely keep up hehehe.
hahaha same thing here!!
Not trying to sound old haha, but I'm 28 and I remember what life was like before social media. It was amazing and it's pretty sad how it's now "novel" to spend time away from internet like it's some challenge. Unfortunately though it's too inconvenient for most people nowadays not to use their phones. I have Instagram and RUclips, but I've always preferred in person communication and found social media was only useful if I was using it for business purposes.
Just like you !!!
@@saramarkowicz in person communication is the best 😄
LOL you were born when the internet was a thing. You aren't old.
The more time I spent without Instagram or Snapchat, the more I realised I didn’t miss them at all. I found more reasons to keep them deleted than reasons to re download. Instead of using the excuse of “oh it’s to text people” I asked for people’s numbers instead. This also got me out of a lot of unwanted conversations with people I didn’t like ;D
So true .
You have a valid point
I never used social media in my life. I m 20 years old. my peers and friends force me to use social media but listened to them. I only use RUclips
I'm not taking off a year entirely without social media, but I found so much peace and clarity on my mind without using them. I am now choosing my mental happiness and living a private/lowkey life. And this is new for me, because last year seems like every moment needs to be documented and I feel like I share too much about me and it leaves me no room for myself. I love your content. Sending love all the way from Philippines!🤍🙃
I agree with everything you said. Unfortunately, now I am fighting with my addiction to instagram. I’ve come to realize that that is the only social media that got me in a toxic cycle of endless scrolling and fomo. Also, and it’s ugly to admit, one of the main reasons why that is its because I have the unhealthy habit of constantly lurking on my crushes/exes who are not checking on me like that
I completely understand, and knoe the feeling.. just know u can change and shift your perspective/life/ & habits by surrendering to your old self. and realizing your new self is beautiful. ur worthy & ur capable of new things and experiences. A big percentage of these addictions we face is mentally which creeps into the emotion & etc... once u pin point the problem(s), the excitement & motivation is within finding the solution(s).... you got this my friend.🤞🏽👍🏽
It's been nearly two years for me and though cutting social media wasn't the only thing that needed to go out of my life, it was a step in the right direction. We become stronger individuals when we aren't influenced heavily by those online, being able to feel comfortable in our own skin and having the energy to go and have interests and experiences without having to tell the whole world.
Yeah, and for the past few years, being a "youtuber", I feel like i need to share everything and I can feel that I am doing things sometimes just for the content, and I feel bad for my friends, and so I am now quitting my socials and also taking a break from youtube. It was my best decision so far, living lowkey and private🤍
I went two months without and it was genuinely one of my happier times, i felt really at peace. i had time to be at work and do things with full attention, and when i was at home i had time to make art or watch a movie. my connections did get closer but you do need a good group of friends that are willing to stick around. but at some point i also felt lonely when i did come back realising i had missed out on some things my friends share. especially because i live alone this was a major factor to come back, it's been hard at times but i don't know if keeping yourself of the gram is also the solution. i feel it's balance. getting yourself to a point where you odn't have a need to check your phone all the time.
Balance is everything though. But so glad you tried it.
I quit all social media while at university - the only hard thing about this decision was the fact that EVERYONE was constantly asking me why on earth I did that, social media is often the heart of university social culture. I've never felt so happy and free and clear of thought. Recently I got Instagram again, as I've started a RUclips channel of my own and thought it would be good for promotion. I hate the way its impacting me already however, and am wondering if it's really worth it. I love your thoughts on this, it echoes my experience so well.A really beautiful video and message :)
A year?! Congrats!! I’ve been without it for a month and a half myself.
You can do it!
@@LucyAlllan thanks so much Lucy. :)
Wow that’s incredible 🥳🥳
@@khalilahd. thanks Khalilah :)
Add a little bit of meditation in your life as well.
You capture and word everything beautifully!!
I stopped using social media a few months ago, and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made. In contrast to you, I feel like I've lost contact with a lot of people I considered "friends," but I'm happier and more content with the two friends I do have:)
For me though, even I am not communicating with my friends online, i am now appreciating their efforts to see and talk to me in person. That is next level contact for me. Anyways, keep going.
“I’m on a diet, I only eat cake on Sunday’s”
Not to be "that" guy, but I just had to react. If someone is on a diet and only eats cake on sunday's, it could be a really big accomplisment for that person. They maybe ate a cxake everyday before a diet. I hope you understand and that I let you think a little more out of the box. :)
i deleted tik tok in march 2022.
since then my life is much more lighter, i guess. I see people getting distracted during the conversation. Don’t see anything good about it…Sometimes it’s bothering me. But then i’m remembering myself being as much obsessed as them.
I love trees, sunrises and ideas which comes to my had because of great mental health. I had a deal with strong depression for a while (in a past), but now i’m the happiest person in the world.
All at all, my life became beautifully ~right~ and warm. Now i can read books and watch films without checking my phone. I don’t care about spam-messages.
Love urself and be more confident about life without social media!
I have definitely noticed similar benefits to taking time offline, although social media is also how I make money- being a photographer and content creator its unfortunately essential that being said it also provides me with such an immense amount of freedom, not working a 9-5, freedom to travel, express myself, build a community- I've met such amazing friends through it. I think, for me at least, its about curating how I'm using it, selectively following people, time limits- only using it a few days a week etc. If permanently deleting it works for some that's brilliant but there are absolutely ways to find the same benefits whilst still being on it :)
i deactivated my ig 3 weeks ago after 2 years with a time limit of first 50 minutes, then 30 minutes. even though i hadn't spend a lot of time on social media the last years, the difference is so real. life feels a lot slower now and i enjoy it. i watched all your videos on your quitting on social media and they help me stand behind my decision.
I’ve stayed off social media for a week and I’ve got to say I’m not coming back no chance
I deleted social media two years ago and everything you talk about in your video is exactly what I experienced! I love myself so much more and it’s crazy how little I compare myself to others compared to when I had social media! Like you say, life is so much more simple and you end up focusing on what truly matters rather than getting lost in a negative vicious circle!
Anyways, thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience on the matter, it’s good to show the world that social media is not a « must have »
Hell yeah. It is not a must have, plus I appreciate my friends more now making an effort to actually see me and talk to me in person. Plus, there is so much peace in my head right now.
I got ADHD too and I don’t think it’s a „trend“ I think it‘s getting more noticed, because the understanding about it grows and Social Media is really heavily affecting people with ADHD and their ability too concentrate and but also keep them with addicting structures in which the hyperfocus plays a big negative role… I do really like your videos, but on this term I have too disagree. Because I habe struggled so many years without noticing what was causing the harm until I found out it was ADHD.
Your body is not a show off.....what a line! One random use somewhere in the world is proud of you. I am sure many are. Consider me a part of your league. A charmed circle of select few.
love this
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I’m a high school teacher and I’ve watched social media addiction play out in real time. The saddest part of it is your generation doesn’t see how much of your precious time you are wasting and how contagious misinformation and ideologies are on your identities and mental health. It’s so easy to hypnotize you into believing anything and to do idiotic things like vandalism and assaulting teachers. Glad you walked away from it
I’m 18 and deleted my Instagram accounts last year aside from a smaller one which I use rarely. I have so much peach of mind not seeing tons of people living “better” lives, and have found myself again. I do what I enjoy without thinking what others will think. I still have Facebook for my neighborhood but never use it for posting. I never got snap and am glad about that. I work at an ice cream shop and all the other girls there spend the whole shift snapping each other and worry so much about their image and it’s sad. I pray one day they will learn to love themselves as they are and not based on how others see or perceive them.
I feel you
I love that you made a follow-up video lucy it was wonderful(: I deactivated my instagram coming up to almost 2 years pretty soon! it is truly one of the best decisions i’ve ever made for myself and my mental health. i love your content lucy and the podcast!(:
Same. So important to do 💛
@@khalilahd. so happy to know that there are likeminded individuals out there!🥰🌺🌱✨
Same!! Hitting 2 years in September!
Lowkey living
What is her podcast ?
25th May 2021 I delete my social media, the best choice I've ever done! I feel close to all the feeling you have described! Nice to know that somebody in the world think in the same way.
Thanks for sharing!
Did you permanently or temporarily deleted them?
@@user-nz8nb2vi4n I froze social media initially thinking about doing it for a limited time, then seeing the benefits, I've been without them for over a year. Accounts exist and it would be enough to log in with a password, but I have reached the point where I have no instinct that makes me want to open social media.
@@stayhigh94 thanks for sharing :)
i havent used social media for 6 months. the best decision
i'm not using social media for two years but unfortunately i didn't see any benefit. :(
During your experience, how did you deal with others who were still absorbed in their phones? Did you ever grow frustrated? How did you navigate interactions where you wanted to live in the moment, but that wasn't necessarily the case for the other person?
Often have this struggle with my partner. Sometimes I feel like he lives with his nose in his phone 😑
@@ashtree_growing uuh debe ser re feo
Little Kids and Toddlers: "Pfft! Casuals!"
Does “social media” include RUclips?
This video has stunning visuals. Along with your voiceover, I enjoyed it so much! It was therapeutic.
Thank you so much, that means a lot😌
4 yrs no social media. 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
isnt YT also a social media
8 months since i deleted all socials, feelin a lot better
OMG the part about shopping. so true!!! social media encourages us to overshare, overspend, and overstimulates us!!!
do u use it?
Thank you for following up on your videos! I'm only using instagram and I still can feel how it takes away my attention from better things from time to time... maybe it's time to ask for the phone numbers of all the people I care about :)
Is it just me who doesn't have the compulsion to check any social media even though every social media is installed on my phone
I see my friends being glued to the screen and even when I try to talk to them they would pull out their and check the ig feed
I occasionally open social media to check what's happening get bored and close the app within 5 mins
I absolutely love this. thank you so much
Ahhh thank u🥺😁
The nature Looks beautiful! Were is this?
It’s Chulilla and Montanejos in the Valencia region of Spain😌
Do you see yourself going back on there? Well done btw
Probably never, honestly 😌
Saying “the whole world cries wolf when tiktokers diagnose themselves with the current trend” seems quite dramatic. There are a select few who probably want attention and will go about this by posting tiktoks about mental health, but I think it’s important to remember that social media has allowed people to form communities, without that many people would feel alone with their mental health struggles. Social media has helped and is still helping to break down stigmas surrounding mental health.
I like the video, I just felt that you seemed quite bias when making comments about ADHD and social media.
I completely agree that social media has helped break down stigmas on mental health and I loveeee that part❤️
However it has also created A LOT of false information on it which makes young vulnerable people believe they have different disorders due to the misinformation and can actually end up misdiagnosing people. I think this is a very dangerous part because there is a difference between breaking stigmas and hurting those by putting them into the wrong boxes.
Honest question: is RUclips not considered a social media site? For example, wouldn't posting this video be considered using social media? Not judging, just confused because I would love to spend more time offline. Had thought that I was in the past but then I realized that RUclips likely counts as social media. I went pretty much up until 18 with no social media but then remembered that I had a RUclips before I ever created a Facebook or Twitter or Instagram. Great video! So relaxing.
RUclips is social media. So it is fairly hypocritical of her to mislead her thousands of followers that she’s taking a break while she’s simultaneously using this medium. It counts as the same thing, and has the same effects on the brain. Quit everything all together. Not just ig and fb.
@@jameseldridge3445 I agree that it counts as social media. However, I think even if one quits one or two social media sites, especially if it is the social media sites that they are on the most, then that is pretty helpful and productive. But yeah, it's interesting how many people don't count RUclips as social media.
Comments on YT is a waste of time but not when u are watchin educational videos
3 years and counting ✌️
i’m 2 months in without instagram and just WOW! my life is so beautiful all the time, but especially when i commit to being present and LIVING these experiences! thank you for sharing your journey!
You inspired me last year with your detox video and I started the same challenge for myself. I am so thankful for this step! Feel so much better now ❤️
Me liking the video after being on the phone all day long 😂
As a photographer it's hard to delete Instagram but gonna delete Snapchat
Every summer that I go on vacation I leave social media for a couple of months and I find it very refreshing. I might try a year off.
🤣..i quit Facebook and Twitter in 2015 it was stupid at first i thought it was funny and silly i would connect with people i haven't seen or talked to in years but then it got boring stupid and political and annoying i never posted anything and it just wasn't my thing it wasn't my style so i just got rid of it i only use youtube when im bored to watch videos and people who im friends with still know my phone number and how to reach me i follow political stuff on the news but ill never do any social media ever again (not including "dating apps"...lol
J’ai 15 ans et cela fait 6 mois que je suis presque plus sur les réseaux sociaux ( 1h par semaine grand maximum ) et ça m’a beaucoup changé , au lieu de perdre mon temps sur TikTok ou de parler avec des gens alors que notre comportement en virtuel n’est pas le même que dans la vraie vie . Je lis , j’apprends beaucoup de choses , je me passionne pour tous et n’importe quoi . J’ai perdu quelques copains , mais j’ai gardé 4-5 très bon amis car le contact est le même en vrai . Je rentre au lycée et j’imagine donc me faire d’autres amis . Je conseille à tout le monde de le faire sans se renfermé de trop . Les réseaux sociaux sont une perte de temps et source de problèmes .
It is so cool what you have done, may I wonder , how can you afford your travelings ?,are you some kind of freelance ? if you could make a video it , it would be an interesting topic.
I work all year long whilst studying 😌 I’ve done bar jobs, restaurants, clothing stores gyms etc. I also take travelling jobs like Au Pair and Summer Camps to help me travel more too🫡
I always wanted to use social media less but I still was on it for soo many hours per day. Last week my phone broke and I still haven't got a new one yet & now I feel how much I love spending time on things I really do love & not being distracted for a while:)
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i quit snapchat in november and instagram in april and i honestly never see myself going back. its just so much more relaxing and its so nice to not constantly be updated with things i really dont care about.
Bonjour Lucie (and everyone here) ! I follow you since a while now and I have to say that the kind of content you post, is the content I WANT to see more on youtube and everywhere in general. Your video is so simple and yet so effective. Just bravo. I never had tiktok but today I just wanted so too what it was. I left after 10 minutes because omg it was ... Full of terrible videos and even the good content were lost in an ocean of wastes... I just have youtube and Instagram for professional reasons so I am not having any problem with that. Life is just so much more enjoyable when you live it and YES now my friends don't tell me anymore "oh yes I saw that on your story !". So relieving ! Thank you for this video !
God Bless you Lucy, thats so awesome! Yes many times we are so focused on how we see ourselves everyday that we forget to take the time and appreciate God for everything that He has done and are doing for us. Yes it is important to take care of our bodies as they are the temple of the Lord, however, we shouldn't stress over losing weight or feeling uncomfortable in the skin that God put us in. Stay encouraged, each and everyone of you are beautiful, talented and unique individuals that God has made so don't spend your life diminishing or regreting the life that God has given you. Live a God given happy, peaceful, healthy mentally, spiritually, and physically joy filled life. God bless yall and don't give up on God's calling for your lives😊🙏💜💙 Many Blessings, grace and peace in Jesus name Amen
Now I am one of those who deleted nearly all of their social media, yet I believe that it's not social media that ruins our lives but it's our relationship with it, the quality of our lives depends on our relationship with things, with money, with people... You can still use social media and still have a quality life you just need to be the man in charge.
I love your videos about Social Media! Thank you! I have deleted Instagram in December and I don't feel the need to download it again.
I love how it makes me see that beauty is everywhere in real life and I love the realness and heart connection about that 💕🌷🦋
Genuine question, is moderation a good alternative? I use instagram as a way to stay up to date with people in my larger social network and try to limit my use using app timers so I'm aware of how often I use it and more intentional with my time. I also don't find it controls my attention when I'm around other people, only when I'm alone.
I'm on the same page as you. I also don't post enough to feel like someone will ever know what I was wearing three days ago lol. I personally think moderation, or the WAY you use social media, is what really matters. But that's just a theory, maybe we should try taking a gap and see for ourselves :)
@@thunderstorms6886 yes :) a quick little cost-benefit analysis showed me that setting timers helped me limit the costs but still keep the benefits hehe. not sure I'll take a gap at least not for as long as a year! I'm a big fan of moderation in general
@@anac155 Same, it's my guiding principle 😂
I'll start today. Will be deleting Facebook, Twitter, Instagram. Wish me luck.
Her: talks about how leaving social medias change her life
Me: Where the fuck is this insane climbing place :o :o
Omg it’s called “Chulilla” in Spain near Valencia and it’s the coolest place ever. Cant recommend enough 😌 amazing options for climbing there
@@LucyAlllan thanks !! the place with the water seems awesome to chill too. I may go there sometime.
I wish I could do this but I have an autoimmune illness that keeps me at home most days so social media is my only form of contact :( I definitely try to use it less though because it’s really not good for my mental health
I know it's hard but maybe you could try to read some books? If you find the book that you like it'll keep you away from social media ❤
@@plengthun3928 I try to read but reading is hard when you’re in pain most of the time
@@jamorfati thank you
@@tiachante I'm sorry for that, wish you all the best! 😊
@@tiachante i relate to this! the overstimulation of social media can distract you from the pain. you are not alone
absolutely
I love your content. So beautiful
Thank you so much🥺🥺
I used to be like this with clothes and outfits too. Like I felt like I couldn’t wear the same outfit SO SAD!!!!! Off social for 20 months and counting!
I never met someone at my age that doesn't use social media. One day i will😞
May 29th 2003 is my birthday lol 🤣🤣🤣 ~ King Omari
Hello！Lucy Allan, I am so motivated by your video, can I post your video on Chinese social media(without any profit purposes). I want Chinese people can get more from your video.
Great Video !!!!
che pero, y como te comunicas con la gente? osea
Con Whatsapp!
Ive always been sort of disconnected with the online world. Id miss that TikTok trend, or what happened to Queen Elizabeth because I wasnt online. Id stop connecting with my friends, and I still dont really connect with my friends because they are also stuck in the distracted loop. Im thinking about completely giving up my online presence, because nobody is going to miss me. The internet will continue to be the same, even when Im gone.
At least I want to finish my website before I go, find an apartment and have a car, and be offline way more than I am now. Cheers from California.
Edit: Everyone in the comments I wanna be your bestie all of mine are glued to their devices *sob*
I am from Pakistan, and people here have only one escape from problems and that is Facebook, just imagine every person of a country escaping their problems by using Facebook, how it must be affecting their mental health. We don't even have proper mental asylums. It's pure mess here. Thankfully I found the courage and left Facebook.
I just deleted my insta after watching this video and i'm not using fb anymore idk why but i feel so great after deleting instagram. Yk when i'm on insta i just think that ohh i have to click good pic like aesthetic i'm so concern about pic i have to look good i have to take a good pic to put on my story but now i feel so great i don't have to think about any of this things.
Anybody know the name of the background piano music?
Only 300k views is a shame... this is seriously good for people to hear.
Whatever you said in the video resonates perfectly with me. Thank you. You are amazing.
It's nice see your 6 month video off social media and now with one year because your video style had change hahaha your first video helped me to analyse my addiction to social media and I'm trying to be off it. I didn't went extreme and delete it but I uninstalled the app and just use it in the computer when I want search something specific... Doing this I started to use it more as a tool rather than a passive user that just scroll all day hahaha
Could you please tell me what's the piano song in the background of the video
You don’t know how much this video meant to me. It spoke directly to me! I appreciate you! Great content and good for you!!
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Hi there I'd like to know something, what do u do for work without social media? And are u completely permanently delete social or just like temporary and hibernate it? Please answer thank you
wish i could delete social media but need it to market my art career 😭
It's been 24months of deactivating my Instagram and 10months of deleting my WhatsApp ..!!! I deleted because I wanted to focus on an entrance exam, but now m addicted to stay out of this chaos! I feel happier & at peace ❤
Lots of love Lucy
Keep creating ❤
This video really spoke to me. The visuals are so beautifully surreal! Oh and where did you find the music from? It's so whimsical 🌊🌊🌼🌠🌌
Scientists and philosophers, back to the 1700s, they didn't have any social media at all, yet they were lived their lives
Deactivated my instagram account. Not been on it for a month. Debating with myself wether to reactivate it or permanently delete it.
Lovely video!! I was wondering what the background song is called? Its so beautiful
Yes ❤
This is literally where I am at. I’ve been thinking about it on and off in the past few years. What’s been stopping me is what you mentioned the fear of loosing connection with my friends especially as I live abroad and also the fact that I kind of had some desire of learning how to make money online. But I feel a lot better off social media and away from my phone in general.
Couldn't agree more. The fear of losing my friends is scary but losing my self is not acceptable. Now that I choose my mental clarity and peace and my own happiness. Plus, I appreciate my "real" friends as they try to talk and see me in person.
RUclips is also another social media platform
I’ve have to ask;
Would you like to take more time offline?